Keep your goals to yourself | Derek Sivers

Translator: Matej Divjak Reviewer: Špela Reher

Prosim, naj vsak pomisli

Everyone, please think of your biggest personal goal.

na svoj največji osebni cilj.

For real -- you can take a second. You've got to feel this to learn it.

Res. Lahko si vzamete trenutek. To morate občutiti, da se boste lahko naučili.

Take a few seconds and think of your personal biggest goal, okay?

Vzemite si nekaj sekund in pomislite na svoj največji osebni cilj, prav?

Predstavljajte si, da se ravno zdaj odločite,

Imagine deciding right now that you're going to do it.

da ga boste dosegli.

Imagine telling someone that you meet today what you're going to do.

Predstavljajte si, da nekomu, ki ga danes srečate, poveste, kaj boste naredili.

Imagine their congratulations,

Predstavljajte si njihove čestitke

and their high image of you.

in kako zrastete v njihovih očeh.

Doesn't it feel good to say it out loud?

A ni dober občutek, ko to poveste na glas?

Don't you feel one step closer already,

Se ne počutite, kot da ste že za korak bližje,

like it's already becoming part of your identity?

kot da že postaja del vaše identitete?

Well, bad news: you should have kept your mouth shut,

No, slaba novica: morali bi držati jezik za zobmi,

because that good feeling

ker vam bo ta dober občutek

now will make you less likely to do it.

zdaj zmanjšal verjetnost, da boste to naredili.

The repeated psychology tests have proven

Večkrat ponovljeni psihološki testi so dokazali,

that telling someone your goal makes it less likely to happen.

da s tem, ko nekomu poveste svoje cilj,

zmanjšate možnost, da ga dosežete.

Any time you have a goal,

Kadarkoli imate cilj,

there are some steps that need to be done,

obstajajo koraki, ki jih morate narediti, nekaj dela, ki ga morate opraviti,

some work that needs to be done in order to achieve it.

da bi ga dosegli.

Ideally you would not be satisfied until you'd actually done the work.

Idealno bi bilo, da ne bi bili zadovoljni, dokler niste dejansko opravili dela.

But when you tell someone your goal and they acknowledge it,

Vendar, ko nekomu poveste svoj cilj in ga oni sprejmejo,

psychologists have found that it's called a "social reality."

psihologi so odkrili, da se temu reče socialna resničnost,

The mind is kind of tricked into feeling that it's already done.

je um na nek način ukanjen v občutek, da je že dosežen.

And then because you've felt that satisfaction,

In potem, ker ste občutili zadovoljstvo,

you're less motivated to do the actual hard work necessary.

ste manj motivirani, da bi

opravili dejansko trdo delo, ki je potrebno.

(Laughter)

So this goes against conventional wisdom

To torej nasprotuje običajni modrosti,

that we should tell our friends our goals, right?

da moramo svoje cilje povedati prijateljem, kajne? --

So they hold us to it.

da nas držijo za besedo, ja.

So, let's look at the proof.

Poglejmo torej dokaz.

1926: Kurt Lewin, founder of social psychology,

1926 je Kurt Lewin, utemeljitelj socialne psihologije,

temu rekel "nadomestek".

called this "substitution."

1933: Wera Mahler found when it was acknowledged by others,

1933 je Vera Mahler ugotovila,

da ko drugi nekaj potrdijo, se to v mislih zdi resnično.

it felt real in the mind.

1982, Peter Gollwitzer wrote a whole book about this,

1982 je Peter Gollwitzer napisal celo knjigo o tem,

and in 2009,

2009 pa je

he did some new tests that were published.

naredil nekaj novih poskusov, ki so bili objavljeni.

It goes like this:

Takole gre:

163 people across four separate tests.

163 ljudi v štirih ločenih poskusih --

Everyone wrote down their personal goal.

vsak je zapisal svoj osebni cilj.

Then half of them announced their commitment to this goal to the room,

Polovica jih je svojo zavezo cilju razglasila ostalim,

and half didn't.

polovica pa ne.

Then everyone was given 45 minutes of work

Potem so vsakemu dali 45 minut dela,

that would directly lead them towards their goal,

ki bi jih vodil naravnost proti njihovemu cilju,

but they were told that they could stop at any time.

vendar so jim rekli, da lahko kadarkoli odnehajo.

Now, those who kept their mouths shut

Tako so tisti, ki so držali jezik za zobmi,

worked the entire 45 minutes on average,

v povprečju delali vseh 45 minut

and when asked afterward,

in ko so jih kasneje vprašali,

said that they felt that they had a long way to go still

so rekli, da so imeli občutek, da imajo še dolgo pot do svojega cilja.

to achieve their goal.

But those who had announced it

Tisti pa, ki so cilj razglasili,

quit after only 33 minutes, on average,

so v povprečju po samo 33-ih minutah odnehali

and when asked afterward,

in ko so jih kasneje vprašali,

said that they felt much closer to achieving their goal.

so rekli, da so imeli občutek, da so veliko bližje svojemu cilju.

So if this is true, what can we do?

Torej, če je to res,

kaj lahko naredimo?

Well, you could resist the temptation to announce your goal.

No, lahko se uprete skušnjavi,

da razglasite svoj cilj.

You can delay the gratification that the social acknowledgment brings,

Lahko odložite zadovoljitev,

ki ga prinaša socialna potrditev.

and you can understand that your mind mistakes the talking for the doing.

In lahko razumete, da vaš um

zamenjuje govorjenje za dejanja.

But if you do need to talk about something,

Če pa vseeno morate govoriti o nečem,

you can state it in a way that gives you no satisfaction,

lahko to poveste na način,

ki ne daje zadovoljstva,

such as, "I really want to run this marathon,

na primer, "Resnično si želim teči ta maraton,

so I need to train five times a week

tako da moram trenirati petkrat na teden

and kick my ass if I don't, okay?"

in se pretepsti, če ne bom, prav?"

So audience, next time you're tempted to tell someone your goal,

Torej, občinstvo, naslednjič, ko vas bo zamikalo, da nekomu poveste svoj cilj,

what will you say?

kaj boste rekli?

(Silence)

Exactly! Well done.

Točno tako. Odlično.

(Laughter)

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