Keep your goals to yourself | Derek Sivers

Translator: Schubert Malbas Reviewer: Polimar Balatbat

Inaanyayahan ko ang lahat na isipin

Everyone, please think of your biggest personal goal.

ang pinakamalaking ninanais natin sa buhay.

For real -- you can take a second. You've got to feel this to learn it.

'Yong totoo ha. Kahit saglit lang. 'Yong tagos sa puso para maintindihan ito.

Take a few seconds and think of your personal biggest goal, okay?

Isipin natin ng mabuti ang bagay na 'yon, okay?

Isiping nagpapasya ka ngayon mismo

Imagine deciding right now that you're going to do it.

na gagawin mo ito.

Imagine telling someone that you meet today what you're going to do.

Isiping sinasabi mo sa taong nakilala mo lang ngayon ang bagay na ito.

Imagine their congratulations,

Ngayon, isipin mo na pinupuri ka niya

and their high image of you.

at ang mataas na tingin niya sa 'yo.

Doesn't it feel good to say it out loud?

Masarap sa pakiramdam, hindi ba?

Don't you feel one step closer already,

Malapit mo nang matupad ang mga layunin mo, tama?,

like it's already becoming part of your identity?

na para bang inaangkin mo na iyon?

Well, bad news: you should have kept your mouth shut,

Masamang balita: hindi mo na dapat binukas ang bibig mo,

because that good feeling

at dahil sa magandang pakiramdam mo,

now will make you less likely to do it.

mas malamang na hindi mo na magagawa ang bagay na iyon.

The repeated psychology tests have proven

Ayon sa mga pananaliksik sa sikolohiya,

that telling someone your goal makes it less likely to happen.

mas malabong mangyari ang mga bagay na nais mo

kapag ikinuwento mo sa ibang tao.

Any time you have a goal,

Sa bawat mithiin mo,

there are some steps that need to be done,

may ilang mga hakbang na kailangang gawin, ilang trabaho na kailangang gawin

some work that needs to be done in order to achieve it.

upang makamit ito.

Ideally you would not be satisfied until you'd actually done the work.

Kailanman, hindi ka dapat nasisiyahan hangga't hindi pa ito natatapos.

But when you tell someone your goal and they acknowledge it,

Ngunit kapag sinabi mo sa ibang tao ang mga nais mo, at sumang-ayon sila sa 'yo,

psychologists have found that it's called a "social reality."

ito ang tinatawag ng mga sikologo na "social reality".

The mind is kind of tricked into feeling that it's already done.

Nalilinlang ang utak natin na nakamit na natin ang bagay na 'yon.

And then because you've felt that satisfaction,

Dahil d'yan, gumaganda ang pakiramdam natin,

you're less motivated to do the actual hard work necessary.

nababawasan ang pagkagusto natin

na pagtrabahuan ito lalo na kung mahirap.

(Laughter)

So this goes against conventional wisdom

Taliwas ito sa nakaugalian natin

that we should tell our friends our goals, right?

na dapat kinukwento natin sa ating mga kaibigan, tama 'di ba? --

So they hold us to it.

na para bang nakatali tayo doon, tama.

So, let's look at the proof.

Tingnan natin ang ilang ebidensiya.

1926: Kurt Lewin, founder of social psychology,

1926, Kurt Lewin, ang nagtatag ng panlipunang sikolohiya,

tinawag niya itong "substitution."

called this "substitution."

1933: Wera Mahler found when it was acknowledged by others,

1933, sabi ni Vera Mahler,

aakalain ng utak natin na tunay ang isang bagay kung sumasang-ayon ang ibang tao.

it felt real in the mind.

1982, Peter Gollwitzer wrote a whole book about this,

1982, nakapagsulat ng libro si Peter Gollwitzer tungkol dito,

and in 2009,

at noong 2009,

he did some new tests that were published.

nailathala ang mga bagong pananaliksik niya.

It goes like this:

Ganito 'yon:

163 people across four separate tests.

may 163 katao sa apat na hiwalay na grupo --

Everyone wrote down their personal goal.

lahat ay nagsulat ng kanilang personal na layunin.

Then half of them announced their commitment to this goal to the room,

Ang kalahati sa kanila,inanunsyo sa lahat ang kanilang sinulat,

and half didn't.

samantalang tahimik lang ang natirang kalahati.

Then everyone was given 45 minutes of work

Binigyan silang lahat ng 45 minuto upang trabahuin

that would directly lead them towards their goal,

at matupad ang sinulat nila sa papel,

but they were told that they could stop at any time.

at malaya silang tumigil sa trabaho ng anumang oras.

Now, those who kept their mouths shut

'Yong mga taong hindi inanunsyo ang kanilang sinulat

worked the entire 45 minutes on average,

nagtrabaho sila ng humigit-kumulang 45 minuto,

and when asked afterward,

at nang tinanong,

said that they felt that they had a long way to go still

pakiramdam nila, malayo pa bago nila makamit ang kanilang layunin.

to achieve their goal.

But those who had announced it

'Yung mga nagsalita naman

quit after only 33 minutes, on average,

tumigil sila matapos lang ang 33 minuto,

and when asked afterward,

at nang tinanong,

said that they felt much closer to achieving their goal.

pakiramdam nila, malapit na nilang matupad ang layunin.

So if this is true, what can we do?

Kaya, kung totoo nga ito,

ano ang pwede nating gawin?

Well, you could resist the temptation to announce your goal.

Well, maaari nating labanan ang tukso

na ikuwento ang mga nais natin.

You can delay the gratification that the social acknowledgment brings,

Maaari nating ipagpaliban muna ang kasiyahang

dulot ng pagsang-ayon ng iba.

and you can understand that your mind mistakes the talking for the doing.

Unawain nating nagkakamali din ang utak

sa pag-aakalang tapos na ang trabaho.

But if you do need to talk about something,

Kung gusto talaga natin ikuwento ang isang bagay,

you can state it in a way that gives you no satisfaction,

maaring sa pamamaraan

na walang halong yabang,

such as, "I really want to run this marathon,

gaya ng, "gusto ko talagang sumali sa marathon,

so I need to train five times a week

kaya kailangan kong mag-ensayo ng limang beses sa isang linggo,

and kick my ass if I don't, okay?"

at kung hindi ko gagawin 'yon, sipain mo ako, ha?"

So audience, next time you're tempted to tell someone your goal,

Kaya sa susunod na naisip mong ikuwento ang iyong mga nais sa buhay,

what will you say?

ano ang sasabihin mo?

(Silence)

Exactly! Well done.

Mismo. Mahusay.

(Laughter)

(Applause)

(Palakpakan)