Keep your goals to yourself | Derek Sivers

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Translator: Schubert Malbas Reviewer: Polimar Balatbat
Inaanyayahan ko ang lahat na isipin
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Everyone, please think of your biggest personal goal.
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ang pinakamalaking ninanais natin sa buhay.
00:20
For real -- you can take a second. You've got to feel this to learn it.
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'Yong totoo ha. Kahit saglit lang. 'Yong tagos sa puso para maintindihan ito.
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Take a few seconds and think of your personal biggest goal, okay?
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Isipin natin ng mabuti ang bagay na 'yon, okay?
Isiping nagpapasya ka ngayon mismo
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Imagine deciding right now that you're going to do it.
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na gagawin mo ito.
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Imagine telling someone that you meet today what you're going to do.
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Isiping sinasabi mo sa taong nakilala mo lang ngayon ang bagay na ito.
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Imagine their congratulations,
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Ngayon, isipin mo na pinupuri ka niya
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and their high image of you.
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at ang mataas na tingin niya sa 'yo.
00:37
Doesn't it feel good to say it out loud?
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Masarap sa pakiramdam, hindi ba?
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Don't you feel one step closer already,
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Malapit mo nang matupad ang mga layunin mo, tama?,
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like it's already becoming part of your identity?
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na para bang inaangkin mo na iyon?
00:44
Well, bad news: you should have kept your mouth shut,
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Masamang balita: hindi mo na dapat binukas ang bibig mo,
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because that good feeling
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at dahil sa magandang pakiramdam mo,
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now will make you less likely to do it.
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mas malamang na hindi mo na magagawa ang bagay na iyon.
00:52
The repeated psychology tests have proven
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Ayon sa mga pananaliksik sa sikolohiya,
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that telling someone your goal makes it less likely to happen.
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mas malabong mangyari ang mga bagay na nais mo
kapag ikinuwento mo sa ibang tao.
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Any time you have a goal,
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Sa bawat mithiin mo,
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there are some steps that need to be done,
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may ilang mga hakbang na kailangang gawin, ilang trabaho na kailangang gawin
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some work that needs to be done in order to achieve it.
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upang makamit ito.
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Ideally you would not be satisfied until you'd actually done the work.
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Kailanman, hindi ka dapat nasisiyahan hangga't hindi pa ito natatapos.
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But when you tell someone your goal and they acknowledge it,
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Ngunit kapag sinabi mo sa ibang tao ang mga nais mo, at sumang-ayon sila sa 'yo,
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psychologists have found that it's called a "social reality."
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ito ang tinatawag ng mga sikologo na "social reality".
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The mind is kind of tricked into feeling that it's already done.
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Nalilinlang ang utak natin na nakamit na natin ang bagay na 'yon.
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And then because you've felt that satisfaction,
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Dahil d'yan, gumaganda ang pakiramdam natin,
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you're less motivated to do the actual hard work necessary.
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nababawasan ang pagkagusto natin
na pagtrabahuan ito lalo na kung mahirap.
01:22
(Laughter)
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01:24
So this goes against conventional wisdom
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Taliwas ito sa nakaugalian natin
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that we should tell our friends our goals, right?
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na dapat kinukwento natin sa ating mga kaibigan, tama 'di ba? --
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So they hold us to it.
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na para bang nakatali tayo doon, tama.
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So, let's look at the proof.
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Tingnan natin ang ilang ebidensiya.
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1926: Kurt Lewin, founder of social psychology,
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1926, Kurt Lewin, ang nagtatag ng panlipunang sikolohiya,
tinawag niya itong "substitution."
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called this "substitution."
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01:37
1933: Wera Mahler found when it was acknowledged by others,
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1933, sabi ni Vera Mahler,
aakalain ng utak natin na tunay ang isang bagay kung sumasang-ayon ang ibang tao.
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it felt real in the mind.
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01:42
1982, Peter Gollwitzer wrote a whole book about this,
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1982, nakapagsulat ng libro si Peter Gollwitzer tungkol dito,
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and in 2009,
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at noong 2009,
01:46
he did some new tests that were published.
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nailathala ang mga bagong pananaliksik niya.
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It goes like this:
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Ganito 'yon:
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163 people across four separate tests.
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may 163 katao sa apat na hiwalay na grupo --
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Everyone wrote down their personal goal.
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lahat ay nagsulat ng kanilang personal na layunin.
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Then half of them announced their commitment to this goal to the room,
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Ang kalahati sa kanila,inanunsyo sa lahat ang kanilang sinulat,
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and half didn't.
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samantalang tahimik lang ang natirang kalahati.
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Then everyone was given 45 minutes of work
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Binigyan silang lahat ng 45 minuto upang trabahuin
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that would directly lead them towards their goal,
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at matupad ang sinulat nila sa papel,
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but they were told that they could stop at any time.
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at malaya silang tumigil sa trabaho ng anumang oras.
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Now, those who kept their mouths shut
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'Yong mga taong hindi inanunsyo ang kanilang sinulat
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worked the entire 45 minutes on average,
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nagtrabaho sila ng humigit-kumulang 45 minuto,
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and when asked afterward,
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at nang tinanong,
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said that they felt that they had a long way to go still
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pakiramdam nila, malayo pa bago nila makamit ang kanilang layunin.
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to achieve their goal.
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02:19
But those who had announced it
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'Yung mga nagsalita naman
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quit after only 33 minutes, on average,
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tumigil sila matapos lang ang 33 minuto,
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and when asked afterward,
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at nang tinanong,
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said that they felt much closer to achieving their goal.
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pakiramdam nila, malapit na nilang matupad ang layunin.
02:28
So if this is true, what can we do?
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Kaya, kung totoo nga ito,
ano ang pwede nating gawin?
02:31
Well, you could resist the temptation to announce your goal.
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Well, maaari nating labanan ang tukso
na ikuwento ang mga nais natin.
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You can delay the gratification that the social acknowledgment brings,
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Maaari nating ipagpaliban muna ang kasiyahang
dulot ng pagsang-ayon ng iba.
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and you can understand that your mind mistakes the talking for the doing.
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Unawain nating nagkakamali din ang utak
sa pag-aakalang tapos na ang trabaho.
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But if you do need to talk about something,
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Kung gusto talaga natin ikuwento ang isang bagay,
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you can state it in a way that gives you no satisfaction,
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maaring sa pamamaraan
na walang halong yabang,
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such as, "I really want to run this marathon,
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gaya ng, "gusto ko talagang sumali sa marathon,
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so I need to train five times a week
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kaya kailangan kong mag-ensayo ng limang beses sa isang linggo,
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and kick my ass if I don't, okay?"
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at kung hindi ko gagawin 'yon, sipain mo ako, ha?"
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So audience, next time you're tempted to tell someone your goal,
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Kaya sa susunod na naisip mong ikuwento ang iyong mga nais sa buhay,
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what will you say?
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ano ang sasabihin mo?
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(Silence)
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03:03
Exactly! Well done.
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Mismo. Mahusay.
03:04
(Laughter)
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03:06
(Applause)
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