Keep your goals to yourself | Derek Sivers

Reviewer: Shamsiah Ismail

Hadirin, sila fikirkan matlamat peribadi terbesar anda.

Betul ni -- ambil masa sekejap. Anda perlu merasainya untuk faham.

Ambil beberapa saat dan fikirkan matlamat peribadi anda, ok?

Bayangkan membuat keputusan sekarang untuk mencapainya.

Everyone, please think of your biggest personal goal.

Bayangkan beritahu seseorang hari ini tentang apa yang bakal dibuat.

For real -- you can take a second. You've got to feel this to learn it.

Bayangkan ucapan tahniah mereka, dan tingginya tanggapan mereka terhadap anda.

Take a few seconds and think of your personal biggest goal, okay?

Seronok bukan dapat menyatakannya dengan lantang?

Imagine deciding right now that you're going to do it.

Tidakkah anda rasa sudah selangkah lebih dekat,

Imagine telling someone that you meet today what you're going to do.

seolah-olah ia mula menjadi sebahagian diri anda?

Malangnya, anda patut merahsiakannya,

Imagine their congratulations,

and their high image of you.

kerana keseronokan itu akan

Doesn't it feel good to say it out loud?

membuat anda kurang cenderung melakukannya.

Don't you feel one step closer already,

Ujian psikologi berulang kali membuktikan

like it's already becoming part of your identity?

memberitahu seseorang matlamat anda mengurangkan kemungkinannya tercapai.

Well, bad news: you should have kept your mouth shut,

Setiap kali anda mempunyai matlamat, ada langkah yang perlu dilakukan

because that good feeling

now will make you less likely to do it.

usaha yang perlu dikerahkan untuk mencapainya.

The repeated psychology tests have proven

Idealnya, anda tidak akan berpuas hati sehingga benar-benar melakukannya.

that telling someone your goal makes it less likely to happen.

Tetapi apabila anda memberitahu matlamat anda dan mereka mengiktirafnya,

Any time you have a goal,

ahli psikologi mendapati ia dipanggil “realiti sosial.”

there are some steps that need to be done,

some work that needs to be done in order to achieve it.

Minda seperti diperdaya untuk merasa matlamat sudah tercapai.

Ideally you would not be satisfied until you'd actually done the work.

Dek merasa kepuasan itu,

But when you tell someone your goal and they acknowledge it,

keghairahan anda untuk berusaha kuat telah berkurangan.

psychologists have found that it's called a "social reality."

(Ketawa)

Jadi ini bercanggah dengan kefahaman yang

The mind is kind of tricked into feeling that it's already done.

kita harus beritahu rakan-rakan matlamat kita, bukan?

And then because you've felt that satisfaction,

Supaya mereka memastikan kita menunaikannya.

you're less motivated to do the actual hard work necessary.

Mari kita lihat buktinya.

Pada 1926: Kurt Lewin, pengasas psikologi sosial

(Laughter)

So this goes against conventional wisdom

menamakannya "penggantian."

Pada 1933: Wera Mahler mendapati apabila diiktiraf orang lain

that we should tell our friends our goals, right?

So they hold us to it.

ia terasa nyata dalam minda.

1982, Peter Gollwitzer menulis sebuah buku tentang

So, let's look at the proof.

1926: Kurt Lewin, founder of social psychology,

ini dan pada 2009,

keputusan kajian baharu telah diterbitkan.

called this "substitution."

1933: Wera Mahler found when it was acknowledged by others,

Begini kajiannya:

163 orang dalam empat ujian berasingan.

it felt real in the mind.

1982, Peter Gollwitzer wrote a whole book about this,

Semua orang menulis matlamat peribadi mereka.

and in 2009,

Separuh mengumumkan komitmen terhadap matlamat masing-masing kepada hadirin,

he did some new tests that were published.

dan separuh lagi tidak.

It goes like this:

163 people across four separate tests.

Kemudian peserta diberi kerja 45 minit

yang akan terus membawa mereka ke arah matlamat,

Everyone wrote down their personal goal.

tetapi mereka dimaklumkan boleh berhenti bila-bila.

Then half of them announced their commitment to this goal to the room,

Mereka yang berdiam diri

bekerja sepanjang 45 minit secara purata,

and half didn't.

Then everyone was given 45 minutes of work

dan tika ditanya selepas itu,

that would directly lead them towards their goal,

mereka berkata masih jauh perjalanan untuk mencapai matlamat.

but they were told that they could stop at any time.

Tetapi mereka yang mengumumkan

Now, those who kept their mouths shut

berhenti selepas hanya 33 minit,

worked the entire 45 minutes on average,

dan apabila ditanya selepas itu,

and when asked afterward,

mereka berkata berasa lebih hampir mencapai matlamat.

said that they felt that they had a long way to go still

Jika kajian ini benar, apa tindakan kita?

to achieve their goal.

But those who had announced it

Anda boleh menahan godaan untuk mengumumkan matlamat.

quit after only 33 minutes, on average,

and when asked afterward,

Tangguhkan kepuasan yang datang daripada pengiktirafan sosial,

said that they felt much closer to achieving their goal.

So if this is true, what can we do?

dan fahami bahawa minda anda tersilap menganggap bercakap sebagai bertindak.

Well, you could resist the temptation to announce your goal.

Tetapi jika anda perlu bercakap tentang sesuatu,

katakan dengan cara yang tidak memberi kepuasan,

You can delay the gratification that the social acknowledgment brings,

seperti, “Saya mahu lari maraton ini,

and you can understand that your mind mistakes the talking for the doing.

saya kena berlatih 5 kali seminggu

dan tegur jika saya tak buat, ok?”

But if you do need to talk about something,

Jadi hadirin, lain kali tika anda tergoda memberitahu seseorang matlamat anda,

you can state it in a way that gives you no satisfaction,

apa yang akan anda katakan? (Diam)

such as, "I really want to run this marathon,

Tepat sekali! Tahniah.

(Ketawa)

so I need to train five times a week

(Tepukan)

and kick my ass if I don't, okay?"

So audience, next time you're tempted to tell someone your goal,

what will you say?

(Silence)

Exactly! Well done.

(Laughter)

(Applause)