3 things I learned while my plane crashed | Ric Elias

翻译人员: Coco Shen 校对人员: Geoff Chen

想像一个大爆炸

Imagine a big explosion as you climb through 3,000 ft.

当你在三千多呎的高空

想像机舱内布满黑烟

Imagine a plane full of smoke.

Imagine an engine going clack, clack, clack.

想像引擎发出喀啦，喀啦，

喀啦，喀啦，喀啦的声响

It sounds scary.

这声响很可怕

Well, I had a unique seat that day.

那天我的位置很特别，我坐在1D

I was sitting in 1D.

我是唯一可以和空服员说话的人

I was the only one who could talk to the flight attendants.

于是我看着他们

So I looked at them right away,

他们说“没问题，我们应该只是撞上鸟了。”

and they said, "No problem. We probably hit some birds."

机长已经把机头转向

The pilot had already turned the plane around,

我们离目的地很近

and we weren't that far.

You could see Manhattan.

已经可以看到曼哈顿了

两分钟以后

Two minutes later,

three things happened at the same time.

三件事情同时发生

机长把飞机对齐哈德逊河

The pilot lines up the plane with the Hudson River.

一般的航道可不是这样

That's usually not the route.

（笑声）

(Laughter)

He turns off the engines.

他关上引擎

Now, imagine being in a plane with no sound.

想像一台没有声音的飞机

And then he says three words.

然后他说了几个字

我听过最不带情绪的几个字

The most unemotional three words I've ever heard.

他说“即将迫降，小心冲击”

He says, "Brace for impact."

I didn't have to talk to the flight attendant anymore.

我不用再问空服员什么了

（笑声）

(Laughter)

I could see in her eyes, it was terror.

我可以从她的眼神看到恐惧

人生结束了

Life was over.

Now I want to share with you three things I learned about myself that day.

现在我想和你分享那天我所学到的三件事

I learned that it all changes in an instant.

瞬间内一切改变了

We have this bucket list,

我们的人生目标清单

we have these things we want to do in life,

那些我们想做的事

所有那些我想连络却没有连络的​​人

and I thought about all the people I wanted to reach out to that I didn't,

那些我应该修补的围墙，人际关系

all the fences I wanted to mend,

all the experiences I wanted to have and I never did.

所有我想要经历却没有经历的事

之后我回想那些事

As I thought about that later on,

I came up with a saying,

我想到一个说法

which is, "I collect bad wines."

那就是“我收藏的酒都很差”

Because if the wine is ready and the person is there, I'm opening it.

因为如果酒已成熟，对象也有，我早就把酒打开了

I no longer want to postpone anything in life.

我不想再把任何事延后

And that urgency, that purpose, has really changed my life.

这种急迫的目的性

改变了我的生命

The second thing I learned that day --

我所学到的第二件事是

and this is as we clear the George Washington Bridge,

正当我们通过乔治华盛顿大桥

which was by not a lot --

那也没过多久

(Laughter)

我想，哇

I thought about, wow, I really feel one real regret.

我只有一件真正后悔的事

I've lived a good life.

虽然我犯了些错

In my own humanity and mistakes,

但我的生命其实不错

I've tried to get better at everything I tried.

我试着把每件事做得更好

但因为人性

But in my humanity, I also allow my ego to get in.

我难免有些自我中心

我后悔竟然花了许多时间

And I regretted the time I wasted on things that did not matter

和生命中重要的人

with people that matter.

讨论那些不重要的事

我想到我和妻子，和朋友

And I thought about my relationship with my wife,

with my friends, with people.

和人们的关系

之后，我回想这件事

And after, as I reflected on that,

我决定除掉我人生中的负面情绪

I decided to eliminate negative energy from my life.

It's not perfect, but it's a lot better.

还没完全做到，但好多了

过去两年我从未和妻子吵架

I've not had a fight with my wife in two years.

感觉很好

It feels great.

我不再尝试争论对错

I no longer try to be right;

我选择快乐

I choose to be happy.

我所学到的第三件事

The third thing I learned --

and this is as your mental clock starts going, "15, 14, 13."

当你脑中的时钟开始倒数

“15，14，13”

看到旁边的水位开始上升

You can see the water coming.

I'm saying, "Please blow up."

心想“拜托爆炸吧”

I don't want this thing to break in 20 pieces

我不想这个东西碎成20片

like you've seen in those documentaries.

像纪录片里那样

And as we're coming down,

当我们逐渐下沉

I had a sense of, wow, dying is not scary.

我突然感觉到，哇

死并不可怕

It's almost like we've been preparing for it our whole lives.

就像是我们一直在为此做准备

But it was very sad.

但很令人悲伤

I didn't want to go; I love my life.

我不想就这样离开，我热爱我的生命

And that sadness really framed in one thought,

这个悲伤

的主要来源是

which is, I only wish for one thing.

我只期待一件事

我希望我能够看我的孩子长大

I only wish I could see my kids grow up.

About a month later, I was at a performance by my daughter --

一个月以后，我参加女儿的表演 －

她一年级，没什么艺术天份⋯⋯

first-grader, not much artistic talent --

(Laughter)

⋯⋯就算如此

Yet!

（笑声）

(Laughter)

我泪流满面

And I'm bawling, I'm crying, like a little kid.

像个孩子

让我的世界重新有了意义

And it made all the sense in the world to me.

I realized at that point, by connecting those two dots,

当时我意识到

把这两个事件连上

that the only thing that matters in my life

其实我生命中唯一重要的事

is being a great dad.

就是成为一个好父亲

比任何事情都重要

Above all, above all,

the only goal I have in life is to be a good dad.

我人生中唯一的目标

就是做个好父亲

I was given the gift of a miracle,

那天我经历了一个神迹

我活下来了

of not dying that day.

I was given another gift,

同时我得到另一个启示

which was to be able to see into the future

像是看见自己的未来

再回来

and come back

and live differently.

改变自己的人生

我鼓励今天要坐飞机的各位

I challenge you guys that are flying today,

想像若是一样的事发生在你身上 －

imagine the same thing happens on your plane --

and please don't --

最好不要 －

but imagine, and how would you change?

但想像，你会如何改变？

What would you get done

有什么是你想做却没做的

that you're waiting to get done because you think you'll be here forever?

因为你觉得你会有其它机会做它？

How would you change your relationships

你会如何​​改变你的人际关系

and the negative energy in them?

不再如此负面？

And more than anything, are you being the best parent you can?

最重要的是，你是否尽力成为一个好的父母？

谢谢各位。

Thank you.

(Applause)

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