3 things I learned while my plane crashed | Ric Elias

Reviewer: Nazarbek Nazarov

Imagine a big explosion as you climb through 3,000 ft.

Ulkan portlashni tasavvur qiling, 3,000 fut balandlikka chiqqaningizda.

Imagine a plane full of smoke.

Tassavur qiling – tutunga to'lgan samolyot.

Imagine an engine going clack, clack, clack.

Tasavur qiling dvigatel qarsillayapti - qars, qars, qars, qars.

It sounds scary.

Qo'rqinchli eshitiladi.

Well, I had a unique seat that day.

Men o'sha kuni alohida o'rindiqda edim.

I was sitting in 1D.

Men 1D da o'tirgan edim.

I was the only one who could talk to the flight attendants.

Styuardessalar bilan faqat men suhbatlasha olardim xolos.

So I looked at them right away,

Shu bois ularga darhol qaradim,

and they said, "No problem. We probably hit some birds."

ular "Muammo yo'q. Qushlarga urilib ketdik, shekilli" dedi.

The pilot had already turned the plane around,

Uchuvchi allaqachon samolyotni ortga burgan,

and we weren't that far.

biz uncha uzoqda emasdik.

You could see Manhattan.

Manhetten ko'rinib turardi.

Two minutes later,

Ikki daqiqa o'tgach,

three things happened at the same time.

bir lahzada uchta hodisa ro'y berdi.

The pilot lines up the plane with the Hudson River.

Uchuvchi samolyotni Hadson daryosi ustiga olib keladi.

That's usually not the route.

Odatda bu yo'ldan uchilmasdi.

(Laughter)

(Kulgu)

He turns off the engines.

U dvigatellarni o'chiradi.

Now, imagine being in a plane with no sound.

Tovushsiz samolyotda bo'lishni tasavvur qilavering.

And then he says three words.

So'ng u uchta so'z aytadi –

The most unemotional three words I've ever heard.

Men eshitgan so'zlar ichida eng ta'sirsiz so'zlar:

He says, "Brace for impact."

"Kamarlarni mahkam bog'lang".

I didn't have to talk to the flight attendant anymore.

Men styuardessaga boshqa gapirishim shart bo'lmadi.

(Laughter)

(Kulgu)

I could see in her eyes, it was terror.

Men uni ko'zlaridan ko'ra oldimki, bu dahshat edi.

Life was over.

Hayot tugagandi.

Now I want to share with you three things I learned about myself that day.

Siz bilan o'sha kuni o'zim haqimda bilib olgan uchta narsani baham ko'rmoqchiman.

I learned that it all changes in an instant.

Bildimki, hammasi bir lahzada o'zgarar ekan.

We have this bucket list,

Bizning bir uyum ro'yxatimiz bor,

we have these things we want to do in life,

hayotimizda qilishimiz kerak bo'lgan ishlar bor,

and I thought about all the people I wanted to reach out to that I didn't,

barcha uchrashmoqchi bo'lgan, lekin uchrasha olmagan insonlarni o'yladim,

all the fences I wanted to mend,

tuzatmoqchi bo'lgan barcha ishlarim haqda,

all the experiences I wanted to have and I never did.

barcha men his qilishni xohlagan, va ulgurmagan narsalarni o'yladim.

As I thought about that later on,

Shu haqida keyinroq o'ylar ekanman,

I came up with a saying,

bir fikr hayolimga keldi,

which is, "I collect bad wines."

"Endi men vinoning yomonini keyinga olib qo'yaman".

Because if the wine is ready and the person is there, I'm opening it.

Ya'ni, yaxshi vino bo'lsa hozir bo'lsa, men uni kechiktirmay ochaman.

I no longer want to postpone anything in life.

Men endi hayotimda hech narsani keyinga surmayman.

And that urgency, that purpose, has really changed my life.

Va mana shu zarurat, mana shu maqsad butun hayotimni o'zgartirdi.

The second thing I learned that day --

O'sha kuni o'rgangan ikkinchi narsam –

and this is as we clear the George Washington Bridge,

biz Jorj Vashington ko'prigini chetlab o'tar ekanmiz,

which was by not a lot --

tegib ketishimizga sal qolgan edi.

(Laughter)

(Kulgu)

I thought about, wow, I really feel one real regret.

Men o'ylab qoldim, eh, men bir narsaga juda ham afsusdaman.

I've lived a good life.

Men yaxshi hayot kechirdim.

In my own humanity and mistakes,

Barcha insonlarga xos xatolar qildim.

I've tried to get better at everything I tried.

Harakat qilgan hamma narsada yaxshiroq bo'lishga urindim.

But in my humanity, I also allow my ego to get in.

Lekin insonlarga xos holda, ba'zan xudbinlik ham qildim.

And I regretted the time I wasted on things that did not matter

Va men isrof qilgan vaqtimga achindim: ahamiyatsiz bo'lgan narsalarga

with people that matter.

muhim insonlardan kechib.

And I thought about my relationship with my wife,

Va men rafiqam haqida o'yladim, do'stlarim,

with my friends, with people.

odamlar bilan munosabatlarim

And after, as I reflected on that,

haqida o'ylagach, men hayotimdagi

I decided to eliminate negative energy from my life.

salbiy energiyani yo'q qilishga qaror qildim.

It's not perfect, but it's a lot better.

Bu mukammal bo'lmasa ham, ancha yaxshi.

I've not had a fight with my wife in two years.

Ikki yildan beri rafiqam bilan janjallashmadim.

It feels great.

Zo'r bo'larkan.

I no longer try to be right;

Men endi haq ekanligimni isbotlashga emas,

I choose to be happy.

baxtli bo'lishga intilaman.

The third thing I learned --

Men o'rgangan uchinchi narsa –

and this is as your mental clock starts going, "15, 14, 13."

va bu xuddi sizning miyangizdagi soatga o'xshaydi - yura boshlaydi: “15, 14, 13.”

You can see the water coming.

Suv yaqin kelayotganimizni

I'm saying, "Please blow up."

ko'rishingiz mumkin edi.

I don't want this thing to break in 20 pieces

Men buni 20 bo'lakka aylanishini xohlamayman,

like you've seen in those documentaries.

bu o'sha hujjatli filmlardagidek kabi edi.

And as we're coming down,

Va biz pasayganimiz sari,

I had a sense of, wow, dying is not scary.

menda shunday his tug'ilardi - o'lish qo'rqinchli emas ekan.

It's almost like we've been preparing for it our whole lives.

Biz xuddi butun hayotimiz davomida shunga tayyorlangandek.

But it was very sad.

Lekin juda qayg'uli edi.

I didn't want to go; I love my life.

Ketishni xohlamasdim, hayotimni sevardim.

And that sadness really framed in one thought,

Va bu qayg'u bir fikrda jamlandi,

which is, I only wish for one thing.

ya'ni men faqat bir narsani - farzandlarimning

I only wish I could see my kids grow up.

ulg'ayishlarini ko'rishni istayman.

About a month later, I was at a performance by my daughter --

Taxminan bir oydan so'ng men qizim qatnashgan tomoshada edim –

first-grader, not much artistic talent --

birinchi sinf o'quvchisi, yuksak artistik mahorat egasi

(Laughter)

emas... (Kulgu)

Yet!

… hozircha!

(Laughter)

(Kulgu)

And I'm bawling, I'm crying, like a little kid.

Va men ho'ngrab yig'layapman, xuddi yosh boladek.

And it made all the sense in the world to me.

Shu payt men uchun eng ahamiyatlisi shu edi.

I realized at that point, by connecting those two dots,

O'sha paytda ana shu ikki nuqtani birlashitirish orqali angladimki,

that the only thing that matters in my life

menga hayotimda eng ahamiyatli bo'lgan narsa bu

is being a great dad.

yaxshi ota bo'lish ekan.

Above all, above all,

Hammasidan ham, hammasidan ham muhimi

the only goal I have in life is to be a good dad.

hayotimdagi yagona maqsad - yaxshi ota bo'lish.

I was given the gift of a miracle,

Menga mo'jiza tuhfa qilindi,

of not dying that day.

o'sha kuni o'lmay qoldim.

I was given another gift,

Menga yana bir tuhfa berildi,

which was to be able to see into the future

bu kelajakni ko'rish

and come back

va yana qaytib kelish,

and live differently.

o'zgacha hayot kechirish.

I challenge you guys that are flying today,

Bugun uchayotgan yigitlar, sizga taklifim, tasavvur qiling,

imagine the same thing happens on your plane --

xuddi shu holat sizning samolyotingizda ro'y bersa –

and please don't --

ilohim, bunday bo'lmasin,

but imagine, and how would you change?

lekin tasavvur qiling, qanday o'zgargan bo'lardingiz?

What would you get done

Nima qilgan bo'lardingiz,

that you're waiting to get done because you think you'll be here forever?

doim shu yerda qolaman deb o'ylab kechga surib yurgan qaysi ishingizni?

How would you change your relationships

Munosabatlaringizni va ularning salbiy

and the negative energy in them?

ta'sirini qanday o'zgartirardingiz?

And more than anything, are you being the best parent you can?

Va eng muhimi, qo'lingizdan kelgancha yaxshi ota bo'lyapsizmi?

Thank you.

Rahmat.

(Applause)

(Olqishlar)