Your Body Language May Shape Who You Are | Amy Cuddy | TED

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So I want to start by offering you a free no-tech life hack,
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and all it requires of you is this:
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that you change your posture for two minutes.
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But before I give it away, I want to ask you to right now
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do a little audit of your body and what you're doing with your body.
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So how many of you are sort of making yourselves smaller?
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Maybe you're hunching, crossing your legs, maybe wrapping your ankles.
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Sometimes we hold onto our arms like this.
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Sometimes we spread out. (Laughter)
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I see you.
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So I want you to pay attention to what you're doing right now.
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We're going to come back to that in a few minutes,
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and I'm hoping that if you learn to tweak this a little bit,
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it could significantly change the way your life unfolds.
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So, we're really fascinated with body language,
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and we're particularly interested in other people's body language.
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You know, we're interested in, like, you know — (Laughter) —
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an awkward interaction, or a smile,
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or a contemptuous glance, or maybe a very awkward wink,
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or maybe even something like a handshake.
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Narrator: Here they are arriving at Number 10.
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This lucky policeman gets to shake hands with the President of the United States.
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Here comes the Prime Minister -- No. (Laughter) (Applause)
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(Laughter) (Applause)
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Amy Cuddy: So a handshake, or the lack of a handshake,
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can have us talking for weeks and weeks and weeks.
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Even the BBC and The New York Times.
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So obviously when we think about nonverbal behavior,
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or body language -- but we call it nonverbals as social scientists --
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it's language, so we think about communication.
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When we think about communication, we think about interactions.
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So what is your body language communicating to me?
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What's mine communicating to you?
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And there's a lot of reason to believe that this is a valid way to look at this.
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So social scientists have spent a lot of time
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looking at the effects of our body language,
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or other people's body language, on judgments.
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And we make sweeping judgments and inferences from body language.
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And those judgments can predict really meaningful life outcomes
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like who we hire or promote, who we ask out on a date.
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For example, Nalini Ambady, a researcher at Tufts University,
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shows that when people watch 30-second soundless clips
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of real physician-patient interactions,
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their judgments of the physician's niceness
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predict whether or not that physician will be sued.
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So it doesn't have to do so much
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with whether or not that physician was incompetent,
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but do we like that person and how they interacted?
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Even more dramatic, Alex Todorov at Princeton
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has shown us that judgments of political candidates' faces
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in just one second predict 70 percent
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of U.S. Senate and gubernatorial race outcomes,
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and even, let's go digital,
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emoticons used well in online negotiations
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can lead you to claim more value from that negotiation.
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If you use them poorly, bad idea. Right?
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So when we think of nonverbals, we think of how we judge others,
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how they judge us and what the outcomes are.
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We tend to forget, though, the other audience
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that's influenced by our nonverbals, and that's ourselves.
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We are also influenced by our nonverbals,
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our thoughts and our feelings and our physiology.
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So what nonverbals am I talking about?
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I'm a social psychologist. I study prejudice,
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and I teach at a competitive business school,
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so it was inevitable that I would become interested in power dynamics.
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I became especially interested in nonverbal expressions
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of power and dominance.
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And what are nonverbal expressions of power and dominance?
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Well, this is what they are.
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So in the animal kingdom, they are about expanding.
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So you make yourself big, you stretch out,
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you take up space, you're basically opening up.
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It's about opening up.
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And this is true across the animal kingdom.
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It's not just limited to primates.
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And humans do the same thing. (Laughter)
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So they do this both when they have power sort of chronically,
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and also when they're feeling powerful in the moment.
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And this one is especially interesting because it really shows us
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how universal and old these expressions of power are.
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This expression, which is known as pride,
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Jessica Tracy has studied.
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She shows that people who are born with sight
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and people who are congenitally blind do this
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when they win at a physical competition.
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So when they cross the finish line and they've won,
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it doesn't matter if they've never seen anyone do it.
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They do this.
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So the arms up in the V, the chin is slightly lifted.
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What do we do when we feel powerless?
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We do exactly the opposite.
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We close up. We wrap ourselves up.
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We make ourselves small.
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We don't want to bump into the person next to us.
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So again, both animals and humans do the same thing.
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And this is what happens when you put together high and low power.
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So what we tend to do when it comes to power
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is that we complement the other's nonverbals.
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So if someone is being really powerful with us,
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we tend to make ourselves smaller. We don't mirror them.
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We do the opposite of them.
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So I'm watching this behavior in the classroom,
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and what do I notice?
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I notice that MBA students really exhibit the full range of power nonverbals.
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So you have people who are like caricatures of alphas,
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really coming into the room, they get right into the middle of the room
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before class even starts, like they really want to occupy space.
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When they sit down, they're sort of spread out.
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They raise their hands like this.
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You have other people who are virtually collapsing
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when they come in. As soon they come in, you see it.
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You see it on their faces and their bodies,
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and they sit in their chair and they make themselves tiny,
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and they go like this when they raise their hand.
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I notice a couple of things about this.
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One, you're not going to be surprised.
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It seems to be related to gender.
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So women are much more likely to do this kind of thing than men.
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Women feel chronically less powerful than men,
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so this is not surprising.
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But the other thing I noticed
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is that it also seemed to be related to the extent
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to which the students were participating, and how well they were participating.
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And this is really important in the MBA classroom,
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because participation counts for half the grade.
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So business schools have been struggling with this gender grade gap.
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You get these equally qualified women and men coming in
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and then you get these differences in grades,
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and it seems to be partly attributable to participation.
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So I started to wonder, you know, okay,
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so you have these people coming in like this, and they're participating.
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Is it possible that we could get people to fake it
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and would it lead them to participate more?
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So my main collaborator Dana Carney, who's at Berkeley,
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and I really wanted to know, can you fake it till you make it?
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Like, can you do this just for a little while
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and actually experience a behavioral outcome
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that makes you seem more powerful?
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So we know that our nonverbals govern how other people
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think and feel about us. There's a lot of evidence.
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But our question really was,
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do our nonverbals govern how we think and feel about ourselves?
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There's some evidence that they do.
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So, for example, we smile when we feel happy,
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but also, when we're forced to smile
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by holding a pen in our teeth like this, it makes us feel happy.
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So it goes both ways.
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When it comes to power, it also goes both ways.
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So when you feel powerful,
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you're more likely to do this,
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but it's also possible that when you pretend to be powerful,
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you are more likely to actually feel powerful.
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So the second question really was, you know,
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so we know that our minds change our bodies,
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but is it also true that our bodies change our minds?
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And when I say minds, in the case of the powerful,
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what am I talking about?
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So I'm talking about thoughts and feelings
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and the sort of physiological things that make up our thoughts and feelings,
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and in my case, that's hormones. I look at hormones.
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So what do the minds of the powerful versus the powerless look like?
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So powerful people tend to be, not surprisingly,
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more assertive and more confident, more optimistic.
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They actually feel they're going to win even at games of chance.
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They also tend to be able to think more abstractly.
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So there are a lot of differences. They take more risks.
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There are a lot of differences between powerful and powerless people.
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Physiologically, there also are differences
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on two key hormones: testosterone, which is the dominance hormone,
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and cortisol, which is the stress hormone.
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So what we find is that high-power alpha males in primate hierarchies
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have high testosterone and low cortisol,
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and powerful and effective leaders
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also have high testosterone and low cortisol.
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So what does that mean? When you think about power,
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people tended to think only about testosterone,
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because that was about dominance.
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But really, power is also about how you react to stress.
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So do you want the high-power leader that's dominant,
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high on testosterone, but really stress reactive?
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Probably not, right?
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You want the person who's powerful and assertive and dominant,
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but not very stress reactive, the person who's laid back.
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So we know that in primate hierarchies,
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if an alpha needs to take over,
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if an individual needs to take over an alpha role sort of suddenly,
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within a few days, that individual's testosterone has gone up
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significantly and his cortisol has dropped significantly.
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So we have this evidence, both that the body can shape
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the mind, at least at the facial level,
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and also that role changes can shape the mind.
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So what happens, okay, you take a role change,
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what happens if you do that at a really minimal level,
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like this tiny manipulation, this tiny intervention?
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"For two minutes," you say, "I want you to stand like this,
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and it's going to make you feel more powerful."
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So this is what we did.
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We decided to bring people into the lab and run a little experiment,
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and these people adopted, for two minutes,
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either high-power poses or low-power poses,
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and I'm just going to show you five of the poses,
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although they took on only two.
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So here's one.
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A couple more.
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This one has been dubbed the "Wonder Woman" by the media.
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Here are a couple more.
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So you can be standing or you can be sitting.
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And here are the low-power poses.
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So you're folding up, you're making yourself small.
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This one is very low-power.
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When you're touching your neck, you're really protecting yourself.
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So this is what happens.
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They come in, they spit into a vial,
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for two minutes, we say, "You need to do this or this."
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They don't look at pictures of the poses.
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We don't want to prime them with a concept of power.
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We want them to be feeling power.
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So two minutes they do this.
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We then ask them, "How powerful do you feel?" on a series of items,
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and then we give them an opportunity to gamble,
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and then we take another saliva sample.
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That's it. That's the whole experiment.
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So this is what we find.
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Risk tolerance, which is the gambling,
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we find that when you are in the high-power pose condition,
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86 percent of you will gamble.
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When you're in the low-power pose condition,
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only 60 percent, and that's a whopping significant difference.
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Here's what we find on testosterone.
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From their baseline when they come in,
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high-power people experience about a 20-percent increase,
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and low-power people experience about a 10-percent decrease.
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So again, two minutes, and you get these changes.
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Here's what you get on cortisol.
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High-power people experience about a 25-percent decrease,
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and the low-power people experience about a 15-percent increase.
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So two minutes lead to these hormonal changes
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that configure your brain
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to basically be either assertive, confident and comfortable,
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or really stress-reactive, and feeling sort of shut down.
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And we've all had the feeling, right?
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So it seems that our nonverbals do govern how we think and feel about ourselves,
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so it's not just others, but it's also ourselves.
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Also, our bodies change our minds.
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But the next question, of course,
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is, can power posing for a few minutes
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really change your life in meaningful ways?
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This is in the lab, it's this little task, it's just a couple of minutes.
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Where can you actually apply this?
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Which we cared about, of course.
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And so we think where you want to use this is evaluative situations,
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like social threat situations.
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Where are you being evaluated, either by your friends?
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For teenagers, it's at the lunchroom table.
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For some people it's speaking at a school board meeting.
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It might be giving a pitch or giving a talk like this
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or doing a job interview.
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We decided that the one that most people could relate to
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because most people had been through, was the job interview.
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So we published these findings,
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and the media are all over it,
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and they say, Okay, so this is what you do
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when you go in for the job interview, right?
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(Laughter)
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You know, so we were of course horrified, and said,
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Oh my God, no, that's not what we meant at all.
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For numerous reasons, no, don't do that.
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Again, this is not about you talking to other people.
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It's you talking to yourself.
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What do you do before you go into a job interview? You do this.
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You're sitting down. You're looking at your iPhone --
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or your Android, not trying to leave anyone out.
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You're looking at your notes,
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you're hunching up, making yourself small,
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when really what you should be doing maybe is this,
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like, in the bathroom, right? Do that. Find two minutes.
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So that's what we want to test. Okay?
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So we bring people into a lab,
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and they do either high- or low-power poses again,
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they go through a very stressful job interview.
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It's five minutes long. They are being recorded.
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They're being judged also,
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and the judges are trained to give no nonverbal feedback,
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so they look like this.
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Imagine this is the person interviewing you.
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So for five minutes, nothing, and this is worse than being heckled.
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People hate this.
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It's what Marianne LaFrance calls "standing in social quicksand."
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So this really spikes your cortisol.
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So this is the job interview we put them through,
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because we really wanted to see what happened.
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We then have these coders look at these tapes, four of them.
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They're blind to the hypothesis. They're blind to the conditions.
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They have no idea who's been posing in what pose,
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and they end up looking at these sets of tapes,
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and they say, "We want to hire these people,"
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all the high-power posers.
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"We don't want to hire these people.
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We also evaluate these people much more positively overall."
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But what's driving it?
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It's not about the content of the speech.
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It's about the presence that they're bringing to the speech.
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Because we rate them on all these variables
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related to competence, like, how well-structured is the speech?
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How good is it? What are their qualifications?
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No effect on those things. This is what's affected.
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These kinds of things.
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People are bringing their true selves, basically.
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They're bringing themselves.
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They bring their ideas, but as themselves,
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with no, you know, residue over them.
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So this is what's driving the effect, or mediating the effect.
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So when I tell people about this,
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that our bodies change our minds and our minds can change our behavior,
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and our behavior can change our outcomes, they say to me,
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"It feels fake." Right?
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So I said, fake it till you make it.
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It's not me.
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I don't want to get there and then still feel like a fraud.
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I don't want to feel like an impostor.
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I don't want to get there only to feel like I'm not supposed to be here.
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And that really resonated with me,
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because I want to tell you a little story about being an impostor
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and feeling like I'm not supposed to be here.
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When I was 19, I was in a really bad car accident.
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I was thrown out of a car, rolled several times.
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I was thrown from the car.
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And I woke up in a head injury rehab ward,
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and I had been withdrawn from college,
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and I learned that my IQ had dropped by two standard deviations,
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which was very traumatic.
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I knew my IQ because I had identified with being smart,
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and I had been called gifted as a child.
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So I'm taken out of college, I keep trying to go back.
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They say, "You're not going to finish college.
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Just, you know, there are other things for you to do,
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but that's not going to work out for you."
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So I really struggled with this, and I have to say,
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having your identity taken from you, your core identity,
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and for me it was being smart,
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having that taken from you,
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there's nothing that leaves you feeling more powerless than that.
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So I felt entirely powerless.
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I worked and worked, and I got lucky,
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and worked, and got lucky, and worked.
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Eventually I graduated from college.
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It took me four years longer than my peers,
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and I convinced someone, my angel advisor, Susan Fiske,
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to take me on, and so I ended up at Princeton,
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and I was like, I am not supposed to be here.
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I am an impostor.
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And the night before my first-year talk,
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and the first-year talk at Princeton is a 20-minute talk to 20 people.
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That's it.
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I was so afraid of being found out the next day
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that I called her and said, "I'm quitting."
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She was like, "You are not quitting,
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because I took a gamble on you, and you're staying.
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You're going to stay, and this is what you're going to do.
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You are going to fake it.
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You're going to do every talk that you ever get asked to do.
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You're just going to do it and do it and do it,
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even if you're terrified and just paralyzed
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and having an out-of-body experience,
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until you have this moment where you say, 'Oh my gosh, I'm doing it.
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Like, I have become this. I am actually doing this.'"
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So that's what I did.
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Five years in grad school,
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a few years, you know, I'm at Northwestern,
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I moved to Harvard, I'm at Harvard,
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I'm not really thinking about it anymore, but for a long time I had been thinking,
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"Not supposed to be here."
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So at the end of my first year at Harvard,
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a student who had not talked in class the entire semester,
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who I had said, "Look, you've gotta participate or else you're going to fail,"
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came into my office. I really didn't know her at all.
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She came in totally defeated, and she said,
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"I'm not supposed to be here."
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And that was the moment for me.
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Because two things happened.
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One was that I realized,
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oh my gosh, I don't feel like that anymore.
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I don't feel that anymore, but she does, and I get that feeling.
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And the second was, she is supposed to be here!
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Like, she can fake it, she can become it.
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So I was like, "Yes, you are! You are supposed to be here!
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And tomorrow you're going to fake it,
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you're going to make yourself powerful, and, you know --
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(Applause)
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And you're going to go into the classroom,
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and you are going to give the best comment ever."
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You know? And she gave the best comment ever,
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and people turned around and were like,
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oh my God, I didn't even notice her sitting there. (Laughter)
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She comes back to me months later,
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and I realized that she had not just faked it till she made it,
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she had actually faked it till she became it.
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So she had changed.
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And so I want to say to you, don't fake it till you make it.
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Fake it till you become it.
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Do it enough until you actually become it and internalize.
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The last thing I'm going to leave you with is this.
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Tiny tweaks can lead to big changes.
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So, this is two minutes.
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Two minutes, two minutes, two minutes.
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Before you go into the next stressful evaluative situation,
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for two minutes, try doing this, in the elevator,
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in a bathroom stall, at your desk behind closed doors.
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That's what you want to do.
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Configure your brain to cope the best in that situation.
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Get your testosterone up. Get your cortisol down.
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Don't leave that situation feeling like, oh, I didn't show them who I am.
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Leave that situation feeling like,
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I really feel like I got to say who I am and show who I am.
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So I want to ask you first, you know, both to try power posing,
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and also I want to ask you to share the science, because this is simple.
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I don't have ego involved in this. (Laughter)
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Give it away. Share it with people,
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because the people who can use it the most
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are the ones with no resources and no technology
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and no status and no power.
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Give it to them because they can do it in private.
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They need their bodies, privacy and two minutes,
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and it can significantly change the outcomes of their life.
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Thank you.
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(Applause)
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