Want to be happy? Be grateful | David Steindl-Rast

Prevodilac: Tamara Djordjevic Lektor: Ivana Korom

There is something you know about me,

Postoji nešto

što već znate o meni, nešto vrlo lično.

something very personal,

Postoji nešto što znam

and there is something I know about every one of you

o svakom od vas ponaosob

and that's very central to your concerns.

i to je nešto što je u središtu vašeg života.

There is something that we know

Postoji nešto što znamo

about everyone we meet anywhere in the world, on the street,

o svakome koga sretnemo bilo gde na svetu,

na ulici,

that is the very mainspring of whatever they do

što je glavni pokretač

svega što rade,

and whatever they put up with.

kroz šta god da prolaze.

And that is that all of us want to be happy.

To je da svi mi

želimo da budemo srećni.

In this, we are all together.

U tome smo svi mi zajedno.

How we imagine our happiness, that differs from one another,

Kako mi zamišljamo našu sreću,

to se razlikuje od osobe do osobe,

but it's already a lot that we have all in common,

ali to je dosta onoga što svi imamo zajedničko,

that we want to be happy.

da želimo da budemo srećni.

Now my topic is gratefulness.

Moja tema je zahvalnost.

What is the connection between happiness and gratefulness?

Kako su povezane

sreća i zahvalnost?

Many people would say, well, that's very easy.

Mnogi ljudi bi rekli, pa da, to je lako.

When you are happy, you are grateful.

Kada ste srećni, vi ste zahvalni.

But think again.

Ali razmislite opet.

Is it really the happy people that are grateful?

Da li su zaista srećni ljudi zahvalni?

Svi znamo dosta ljudi

We all know quite a number of people

who have everything that it would take to be happy,

koji imaju sve što je potrebno da budi srećni,

and they are not happy,

a oni nisu srećni,

because they want something else or they want more of the same.

jer oni žele nesto drugo,

ili žele više od tog istog.

And we all know people who have lots of misfortune,

Isto tako svi mi znamo ljude

koji se bore sa nedaćama,

misfortune that we ourselves would not want to have,

nevoljama kroz koje mi sami ne bismo voleli da prolazimo,

and they are deeply happy.

i oni su iskreno srećni.

They radiate happiness. You are surprised.

Oni zrače srećom. Vi ste iznenađeni.

Why? Because they are grateful.

Zašto? Jer su zahvalni.

So it is not happiness that makes us grateful.

Nije sreća ta koja nas čini zahvalnim,

It's gratefulness that makes us happy.

već zahvalnost je ta koja nas čini srećnim.

If you think it's happiness that makes you grateful,

Ako mislite da vas sreća čini zahvalnim,

think again.

razmislite opet.

It's gratefulness that makes you happy.

Zahvalnost vas čini srećnim.

Now, we can ask,

Sada, možemo da se zapitamo,

what do we really mean by gratefulness?

šta zapravo mislimo da je zahvalnost?

And how does it work?

Kako funkcioniše?

I appeal to your own experience.

Obraćam se vašem iskustvu.

We all know from experience how it goes.

Svi znamo iz iskustva kako to ide.

We experience something that's valuable to us.

Mi doživimo nešto

što je nama vredno.

Something is given to us that's valuable to us.

Nešto nam je dodeljeno, što ima ličnu vrednost.

And it's really given.

Zaista vam je dodeljeno.

These two things have to come together.

Ove dve stvari moraju da se spoje.

It has to be something valuable, and it's a real gift.

Mora da bude nešto što je vredno,

i što je istinski dar.

You haven't bought it. You haven't earned it.

Niste ga kupili. Niste ga zaradili.

You haven't traded it in. You haven't worked for it.

Niste ga razmenili. Niste radili za njega,

It's just given to you.

već vam je poklonjeno.

And when these two things come together,

Kada se te dve stvari spoje,

something that's really valuable to me and I realize it's freely given,

nešto što je zaista meni vredno,

i kad shvatim da je to dar,

then gratefulness spontaneously rises in my heart,

onda se zahvalnost spontano

uspinje u mom srcu,

happiness spontaneously rises in my heart.

sreća spontano raste u mom srcu.

That's how gratefulness happens.

Tako se zahvalnost dešava.

Now the key to all this

Ključna stvar u svemu tome je da

is that we cannot only experience this once in a while.

mi ne možemo da ovo iskusimo povremeno.

We cannot only have grateful experiences.

Ne možemo da imamo samo iskustva zahvalnosti.

We can be people who live gratefully.

Mi možemo da budemo ljudi koji žive kroz neprekidan izraz zahvalnosti.

Grateful living, that is the thing.

Živeti sa zahvalnošću, to je to.

And how can we live gratefully?

Kako možemo da živimo kroz neprekidan izraz zahvalnosti?

By experiencing, by becoming aware

Kroz iskustvo, kroz stvaranje svesti

that every moment is a given moment, as we say.

da je svaki trenutak poklonjeni trenutak, kako mi to kažemo.

It's a gift. You haven't earned it.

To je poklon. Niste ga zaradili.

You haven't brought it about in any way.

Niste ga prouzrokovali ni na koji način.

You have no way of assuring

Nemate način da znate da ćete doživeti

that there will be another moment given to you,

još jedan poklonjeni trenutak.

and yet, that's the most valuable thing that can ever be given to us,

Pritom, to je najdragocenija stvar

koja nam može biti data,

this moment, with all the opportunity that it contains.

ovaj trenutak, sa svim mogućnostima koje on sadrži.

If we didn't have this present moment,

Ukoliko ne bismo imali ovaj trenutak,

we wouldn't have any opportunity to do anything

ne bismo imali nijednu priliku da uradimo

or experience anything,

ili doživimo bilo šta,

and this moment is a gift.

i ovaj trenutak je poklon.

It's a given moment, as we say.

To je poklonjeni trenutak, kako mi kažemo.

Now, we say the gift within this gift is really the opportunity.

Sada, mi kažemo da je dar unutar ovog dara

u stvari jedna prilika.

What you are really grateful for is the opportunity,

Ta prilika je ono za šta ste u stvari zahvalni,

not the thing that is given to you,

ne za stvar koja vam je data,

because if that thing were somewhere else

je ako bi ta stvar bila negde drugde

and you didn't have the opportunity to enjoy it,

a vi nemate priliku da uživate u njoj,

to do something with it,

da nešto uradite sa njom,

you wouldn't be grateful for it.

vi ne biste bili zahvalni za taj dar.

Opportunity is the gift within every gift,

Prilika je dar unutar svakog dara.

and we have this saying, opportunity knocks only once.

Mi imamo ovu izreku:

"Prilika kuca na vrata samo jedanput".

Well, think again.

Razmislite opet.

Every moment is a new gift, over and over again,

Svaki trenutak je novi dar, iznova.

and if you miss the opportunity of this moment,

Ako propustite jednu priliku u ovom trenutku,

another moment is given to us, and another moment.

drugi trenutak nam je poklonjen, i još jedan trenutak.

We can avail ourselves of this opportunity,

Mi možemo iskoristiti ovu priliku za sebe,

or we can miss it,

ili je možemo propustiti.

and if we avail ourselves of the opportunity,

Ako iskoristimo tu priliku za sebe,

it is the key to happiness.

to je glavni faktor sreće.

Behold the master key to our happiness

Vidite da je glavni ključ naše sreće

in our own hands.

u našim rukama.

Moment by moment, we can be grateful for this gift.

Trenutak po trenutak,

mi možemo da budemo zahvalni za taj dar.

Does that mean

Da li to znači

that we can be grateful for everything?

da možemo da budemo zahvalni za sve?

Certainly not.

Svakako ne.

We cannot be grateful for violence, for war,

Ne možemo da budemo zahvalni za nasilje, rat,

for oppression, for exploitation.

za ugnjetavanje, za eksploataciju.

On the personal level, we cannot be grateful

Na ličnom nivou, ne možemo biti zahvalni

for the loss of a friend, for unfaithfulness,

za smrt prijatelja, za neverstvo,

for bereavement.

za težak gubitak.

But I didn't say we can be grateful for everything.

Ali ja nisam rekao da možemo da budemo zahvalni za sve.

I said we can be grateful in every given moment

Ja sam rekao da mi možemo biti biti zahvalni za svaki poklonjeni trenutak,

za priliku,

for the opportunity,

and even when we are confronted with something that is terribly difficult,

i čak i kada se suočavamo

sa nečim što je jako teško,

we can rise to this occasion

mi možemo da se uzdignemo iznad situacije

and respond to the opportunity that is given to us.

i odazovemo se prilici koja nam je data.

It isn't as bad as it might seem.

Nije tako teško kako nam se čini.

Actually, when you look at it and experience it,

Kad se suočite sa tom prilikom, i iskusite je,

you find that most of the time,

vi ćete videti da u većini slučajeva, ono što nam je dato

what is given to us is the opportunity to enjoy,

je prilika u kojoj treba uživati,

i mi je propustimo zato što

and we only miss it because we are rushing through life

jurimo kroz život,

and we are not stopping to see the opportunity.

i ne zastanemo da primetimo prilike.

But once in a while,

Ali ponekad,

something very difficult is given to us,

neka teškoća nam je data.

and when this difficult thing occurs to us,

Kada se susretnemo sa teškoćom,

it's a challenge to rise to that opportunity,

nije lako da se izdignemo iznad situacije,

and we can rise to it by learning something

i možemo da se izdignemo tako što ćemo da naučimo nešto,

a to je ponekad bolno.

which is sometimes painful.

Learning patience, for instance.

Lekcija iz strpljenja, na primer.

We have been told that the road to peace

Rečeno nam je da put ka unutrašnjem miru

is not a sprint, but is more like a marathon.

nije trka,

već više kao maraton.

That takes patience. That's difficult.

Za to je potrebno strpljenje. To je naporno.

It may be to stand up for your opinion, to stand up for your conviction.

To može biti da stanete iza svog mišljenja.

da stanete iza svojih ubeđenja.

That's an opportunity that is given to us.

To je prilika koja vam je data.

To learn, to suffer, to stand up,

Da naučimo, da patimo, da ustanemo,

all these opportunities are given to us,

sve te prilike su nam date,

but they are opportunities,

ali to su prilike,

and those who avail themselves of those opportunities

i oni koji iskoriste

te prilike za sebe

are the ones that we admire.

su oni kojima se divimo.

They make something out of life.

Oni postignu nešto u životu.

And those who fail get another opportunity.

A oni koji ne uspeju, dobiju novu priliku.

Mi uvek dobijemo novu priliku.

We always get another opportunity.

That's the wonderful richness of life.

To je divno bogatstvo života.

So how can we find a method that will harness this?

Kako da nađemo metodu

kojom bi se ovo kanalisalo?

How can each one of us find a method for living gratefully,

Kako da svako od nas pronađe metod

za život sa zahvalnošću,

not just once in a while being grateful,

ne samo da ponekad budemo zahvalni

but moment by moment to be grateful.

već svakog trenutka?

How can we do it? It's a very simple method.

Kako možemo to da uradimo?

To je veoma jednostavan način.

It's so simple that it's actually what we were told as children

Vrlo je jednostavan. U stvari saopšten nam je

dok smo bili deca, kad smo učili da prelazimo ulicu.

when we learned to cross the street.

Stop.

Stanite. Pogledajte levo i desno. Krenite.

Look.

Go.

That's all.

To je sve.

Koliko često zastanemo?

But how often do we stop?

We rush through life. We don't stop.

Žurimo kroz život. Ne stajemo.

We miss the opportunity because we don't stop.

Mi propuštamo prilike jer ne zastajemo.

We have to stop.

Moramo da stanemo. Moramo da se primirimo.

We have to get quiet.

And we have to build stop signs into our lives.

Moramo da izgradimo zaustavni znak

u našim životima.

When I was in Africa some years ago and then came back,

Posetio sam Afriku pre nekoliko godina.

Kad sam se na vratio,

I noticed water.

primetio sam tekuću vodu.

In Africa where I was, I didn't have drinkable water.

Mesto gde sam bio u Africi, nije imalo pijaću vodu.

Every time I turned on the faucet, I was overwhelmed.

Svaki put kad bih odvrnuo slavinu,

ja sam bio preneražen.

Every time I clicked on the light, I was so grateful.

Svaki put kada sam uključio svetlo,

bio sam jako zahvalan. To me je učinilo srećnim.

It made me so happy.

But after a while, this wears off.

Ali posle izvesnog vremena, to je isčezlo.

So I put little stickers on the light switch

Onda sam stavio nalepnice na prekidač za svetlo,

and on the water faucet,

i na slavinu,

and every time I turned it on, water.

i svaki put kad je odvrnem, voda.

So leave it up to your own imagination.

Ostalo ostavljam vašoj mašti.

You can find whatever works best for you,

Možete da nađete šta vam najviše odgovara,

but you need stop signs in your life.

ali vam trebaju zaustavni znaci u vašem životu.

And when you stop,

I kad stanete,

then the next thing is to look.

sledeća stvar je da gledate.

You look. You open your eyes.

Gledajte. Otvorite vaše oči.

You open your ears. You open your nose.

Otvorite vaše uši. Otvorite vaš nos.

You open all your senses

Otvorite sva vaša čula

for this wonderful richness that is given to us.

za ovo predivno bogatstvo koje nam je poklonjeno.

Tome nema kraja,

There is no end to it, and that is what life is all about,

i to je svrha života,

to enjoy, to enjoy what is given to us.

da uživamo u onome što nam je dato.

And then we can also open our hearts,

Onda možemo da otvorimo naša srca,

our hearts for the opportunities,

naša srca za prilike,

for the opportunities also to help others,

za prilike da takođe pomognemo drugima,

to make others happy,

da učinimo druge srećnim, jer nas ništa ne čini srećnijim

because nothing makes us more happy than when all of us are happy.

nego kada smo svi mi srećni.

And when we open our hearts to the opportunities,

Kada otvorimo srca prilikama,

the opportunities invite us to do something,

prilike nas pozivaju da uradimo nešto.

and that is the third.

To je treće.

Stop, look, and then go, and really do something.

Zastanite, razgledajte, i onda krenite, i zaista uradite nešto.

And what we can do

Ono što možemo da uradimo

is whatever life offers to you in that present moment.

je to šta god vam život nudi u tom sadašnjem trenutku.

Mostly it's the opportunity to enjoy,

Uglavnom je to prilika da se uživa,

but sometimes it's something more difficult.

ali nekada je to nešto teže.

But whatever it is, if we take this opportunity,

Ali šta god da je, ako prihvatimo tu priliku,

we go with it, we are creative, those are the creative people.

kreativniji smo.

To su kreativni ljudi.

And that little stop, look, go,

Zastanite, razgledajte, krenite

is such a potent seed

je tako moćno seme

that it can revolutionize our world.

da može da preokrene svet.

Because we are at the present moment

Mi smo u sadašnjem trenutku

in the middle of a change of consciousness,

u sred promene toka svesti,

and you will be surprised if you --

i bićete iznenađeni -

ja sam uvek iznenađen kad čujem koliko puta

I am always surprised when I hear how many times

this word "gratefulness" and "gratitude" comes up.

reč "zahvalnost" iskrsne.

Everywhere you find it,

Naći ćete je svugde,

a grateful airline, a restaurant gratefulness,

zahvalna avio kompanija, restoran zahvalnosti,

a café gratefulness, a wine that is gratefulness.

kafić zahvalnosti, zahvalno vino.

Yes, I have even come across a toilet paper

Naišao sam na toalet papir

whose brand is called "Thank You."

marke "Hvala". (Smeh)

(Laughter)

There is a wave of gratefulness

Postoji talas zahvalnosti zato što

because people are becoming aware how important this is

ljudi postaju svesni koliko je to bitno

and how this can change our world.

i kako zahvalnost može da promeni naš svet.

It can change our world in immensely important ways,

Može da promeni naš svet

na neizmerno bitne načine,

because if you're grateful, you're not fearful,

jer ako ste zahvalni, onda niste bojažljivi,

and if you're not fearful, you're not violent.

i ako niste bojažljivi, vi niste nasilni.

If you're grateful, you act out of a sense of enough

Ako ste zahvalni, ponašate se iz osećaja da imate dovoljno svega

and not of a sense of scarcity,

a ne iz osećaja da vam sve nedostaje,

and you are willing to share.

i onda ste spremni da delite.

If you are grateful,

Ako ste zahvalni, vi uživate

you are enjoying the differences between people,

u razlikama među ljudima,

onda se obraćate sa poštovanjem prema svima.

and you are respectful to everybody,

and that changes this power pyramid under which we live.

To menja ovu piramidu moći

ispod koje živimo.

Zahvalnost ne nadokađuje nedostatak jednakosti,

And it doesn't make for equality, but it makes for equal respect,

ali doprinosi jednakom poštovanju.

and that is the important thing.

To je jako važna stvar.

The future of the world will be a network,

Budućnost sveta će biti jedna mreža,

not a pyramid turned upside down.

a ne piramida izokrenuta naopačke.

The revolution of which I am speaking is a nonviolent revolution,

Revolucija o kojoj govorim

je nenasilna revolucija,

koja je toliko revolucionarna

and it's so revolutionary that it even revolutionizes

da preokreće

the very concept of a revolution,

sam koncept revolucije,

because the normal revolution

zato što je regularna revolucija

is one where the power pyramid is turned upside down

gde je moćna piramida izokrenuta naopačke

and those who were on the bottom are now on the top

i oni koji su na dnu sada su na vrhu,

and are doing exactly the same thing that the ones before.

i čine istu stvar

koju su radili prethodnici.

What we need is a networking of smaller groups,

Ono što nama treba je mreža manjih grupa ljudi,

smaller and smaller groups who know one another,

manje grupe ljudi koji se međusobno poznaju,

koji međusobno komuniciraju,

who interact with one another, and that is a grateful world.

i to je svet ispunjen zahvalnošću.

A grateful world is a world of joyful people.

Svet ispunjen zahvalnošću je svet radosnih ljudi.

Grateful people are joyful people,

Ljudi koji su zahvalni su radosni ljudi,

and joyful people --

što je više

the more and more joyful people there are,

radosnih ljudi,

the more and more we'll have a joyful world.

svet će biti radosniji.

We have a network for grateful living, and it has mushroomed.

Imamo mrežu za zahvalan život

koja niče kao pečurke.

We couldn't understand why it mushroomed.

Nismo mogli da razumemo zašto se tako razvila.

We have an opportunity for people to light a candle

Dali smo priliku ljudima da zapale sveću

when they are grateful for something.

kada su zahvalni za nešto.

And there have been 15 million candles lit in one decade.

15 miliona sveća je zapaljeno

tokom jedne decenije.

People are becoming aware that a grateful world is a happy world,

Ljudi postaju svesni

da je zahvalan svet jedan srećan svet.

and we all have the opportunity by the simple stop, look, go,

Mi svi imamo priliku

da jednostavno zastanemo, razgledamo, i krenemo

to transform the world, to make it a happy place.

i promenimo svet,

da ga učinimo jednim mestom sreće.

And that is what I hope for us,

To je ono čemu se nadam za sve nas.

and if this has contributed a little to making you want to do the same,

Ako je ovaj govor doprineo barem malo

da želite da učinite isto,

stop, look, go.

zastanite, razgledajte, i krenite.

Thank you.

Hvala vam.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)