Want to be happy? Be grateful | David Steindl-Rast

Translator: Muamer Seljubac Reviewer: Ema Bilbija Zulic

There is something you know about me,

Poštoji nešto

što vi znate o meni, nešto jako lično,

something very personal,

i postoji nešto što ja znam o

and there is something I know about every one of you

svakome od vas

and that's very central to your concerns.

i to zauzima glavno mjesto u vašim brigama.

There is something that we know

Postoji nešto što znamo

about everyone we meet anywhere in the world, on the street,

o svakome koga sretnemo bilo gdje na svijetu,

na ulici,

that is the very mainspring of whatever they do

a što je glavna pokretačka snaga

bilo čega što oni rade

and whatever they put up with.

i bilo čega kroz šta prolaze,

And that is that all of us want to be happy.

a to je da svi mi

želimo biti sretni.

In this, we are all together.

U ovome smo svi zajedno.

How we imagine our happiness, that differs from one another,

Kako zamišljamo našu sreću,

to je nešto što se razlikuje od osobe do osobe

but it's already a lot that we have all in common,

ali je već mnogo to što svi mi imamo zajedničko

that we want to be happy.

to da želimo biti sretni.

Now my topic is gratefulness.

Sad, moja tema je zahvalnost.

What is the connection between happiness and gratefulness?

U čemu je veza između

sreće i zahvalnosti?

Many people would say, well, that's very easy.

Mnogi ljudi će reći: "Pa, to je veoma lako.

When you are happy, you are grateful.

Kad si sretan, zahvalan si."

But think again.

Ali razmislite malo bolje.

Is it really the happy people that are grateful?

Jesu li zaista sretni ljudi ti koji su zahvalni?

Svi mi znamo popriličan broj ljudi

We all know quite a number of people

who have everything that it would take to be happy,

koji imaju sve što im je potrebno da budu sretni,

and they are not happy,

ali oni nisu sretni

because they want something else or they want more of the same.

jer žele nešto drugo

ili više toga što već imaju.

And we all know people who have lots of misfortune,

I svi mi znamo ljudi

koji su prošli kroz mnogo nevolja,

misfortune that we ourselves would not want to have,

nevolja koje mi sami ne bismo htjeli da imamo,

and they are deeply happy.

i oni su veoma sretni.

They radiate happiness. You are surprised.

Oni zrače srećom. Iznenadite se.

Why? Because they are grateful.

Zašto? Zato jer su zahvalni.

So it is not happiness that makes us grateful.

Dakle, nije sreća ono što nas čini zahvalnim.

It's gratefulness that makes us happy.

Zahvalnost je ono što nas čini sretnim.

If you think it's happiness that makes you grateful,

Ako mislite da je sreća to što vas čini zahvalnim,

think again.

razmislite ponovo.

It's gratefulness that makes you happy.

Zahvalnost je ono što vas čini sretnim.

Now, we can ask,

Sada, možemo se zapitati,

what do we really mean by gratefulness?

šta je tačno ono na što mislimo kad govorimo o zahvalnosti?

And how does it work?

I kako ona funkcioniše?

I appeal to your own experience.

Pozivam se na vaše vlastito iskustvo.

We all know from experience how it goes.

Svi mi iz iskustva znamo kako to ide.

We experience something that's valuable to us.

Iskusimo nešto

što je za nas vrijedno.

Something is given to us that's valuable to us.

Dato nam je nešto što je za nas vrijedno.

And it's really given.

I to je zaista dato.

These two things have to come together.

Ove dvije stvari se moraju sjediniti.

It has to be something valuable, and it's a real gift.

To mora da bude nešto vrijedno

i to je pravi poklon.

You haven't bought it. You haven't earned it.

Niste to kupiti. Niste to zaradili.

You haven't traded it in. You haven't worked for it.

Niste dali ništa u zamjenu. Niste radili za to.

It's just given to you.

Jednostavno vam je dato.

And when these two things come together,

I kad ove dvije stvari dođu zajedno,

something that's really valuable to me and I realize it's freely given,

nešto što je meni veoma vrijedno,

i shvatim da je to dato slobodno,

then gratefulness spontaneously rises in my heart,

onda zahvalnost spontano

raste u mom srcu,

happiness spontaneously rises in my heart.

sreća spontano raste u mom srcu.

That's how gratefulness happens.

Tako se zahvalnost događa.

Now the key to all this

Ključ za sve ovo je u tome da

is that we cannot only experience this once in a while.

mi ovo ne možemo iskusiti samo ponekad.

We cannot only have grateful experiences.

Mi ne možemo imati samo zahvalna iskustva.

We can be people who live gratefully.

Možemo biti ljudi koji žive zahvalno.

Grateful living, that is the thing.

Živjeti zahvalno, u tome je stvar.

And how can we live gratefully?

A kako možemo živjeti zahvalno?

By experiencing, by becoming aware

Iskustvom, shvatanjem da

that every moment is a given moment, as we say.

je svaki momenat darovan momenat, kako mi to kažemo.

It's a gift. You haven't earned it.

To je dar. Vi to niste zaradili.

You haven't brought it about in any way.

Niste tome doprinijeli ni na koji način.

You have no way of assuring

Ne postoji način da budete sigurni da će vam

that there will be another moment given to you,

biti dat još jedan momenat

and yet, that's the most valuable thing that can ever be given to us,

ali ipak to je najvrjednija stvar

koja nam može biti data,

this moment, with all the opportunity that it contains.

ovaj momenat, sa svim prilikama koje nam on pruža.

If we didn't have this present moment,

Ako ne bismo imali ovaj sadašnji momenat,

we wouldn't have any opportunity to do anything

ne bismo imali ni priliku da išta uradimo

or experience anything,

ili da išta iskusimo

and this moment is a gift.

i ovaj momenat je dar.

It's a given moment, as we say.

To je darovan momenat, kako mi to kažemo.

Now, we say the gift within this gift is really the opportunity.

Sad, mi kažemo da je dar unutar ovoga dara

zapravo prilika.

What you are really grateful for is the opportunity,

Ono na čemu ste zaista zahvalni je prilika,

not the thing that is given to you,

ne na onome što vam je dato,

because if that thing were somewhere else

jer da je ta stvar bila negdje drugo

and you didn't have the opportunity to enjoy it,

i da niste bili u prilici da u njoj uživate

to do something with it,

ili da uradite nešto s njom,

you wouldn't be grateful for it.

ne biste na njoj bili zahvalni.

Opportunity is the gift within every gift,

Prilika je dar u svakome daru,

and we have this saying, opportunity knocks only once.

i mi imamo ovu izreku,

prilika se pruža samo jednom.

Well, think again.

Pa, razmislite još jednom.

Every moment is a new gift, over and over again,

Svaki momenat je novi dar, iznova i iznova

and if you miss the opportunity of this moment,

i ako propustite priliku u ovom momentu,

another moment is given to us, and another moment.

drugi momenat nam je dat, i onda još jedan.

We can avail ourselves of this opportunity,

Možemo se okoristiti ovom prilikom

or we can miss it,

ili je možemo propustiti

and if we avail ourselves of the opportunity,

i ako se okoristimo prilikom,

it is the key to happiness.

to je ključ ka sreći.

Behold the master key to our happiness

Pogledajte ovaj univerzalni ključ ka našoj sreći

in our own hands.

u našim vlastitim rukama.

Moment by moment, we can be grateful for this gift.

Trenutak po trenutak,

možemo biti zahvalni za ovaj dar.

Does that mean

Znači li to

that we can be grateful for everything?

da možemo biti zahvalni na svemu?

Certainly not.

Naravno da ne.

We cannot be grateful for violence, for war,

Ne možemo biti zahvalni na nasilju, na ratu,

for oppression, for exploitation.

na ugnjetavanju, na iskorištavanju.

On the personal level, we cannot be grateful

Na ličnom nivou, mi ne možemo biti zahvalni

for the loss of a friend, for unfaithfulness,

na gubitku prijatelja, na nevjeri,

for bereavement.

na žalosti.

But I didn't say we can be grateful for everything.

Ali ja nisam ni rekao da možemo biti zahvalni na svemu.

I said we can be grateful in every given moment

Rekao sam da možemo biti zahvalni na svakom datom momentu

na prilici,

for the opportunity,

and even when we are confronted with something that is terribly difficult,

i čak i kad smo suočeni

sa nečim što je izuzetno teško,

we can rise to this occasion

možemo se uzdići do nivoa ove prilike

and respond to the opportunity that is given to us.

i odgovoriti na priliku koja nam je pružena.

It isn't as bad as it might seem.

Nije toliko loše koliko se može činiti.

Actually, when you look at it and experience it,

Zapravo, kad pogledate na to i iskusite to,

you find that most of the time,

shvatite da većinu vremena, ono što nam je dato

what is given to us is the opportunity to enjoy,

je prilika da uživamo,

i propuštamo je jedino

and we only miss it because we are rushing through life

jer žurimo kroz život

and we are not stopping to see the opportunity.

i ne zastajemo kako bismo vidjeli tu priliku.

But once in a while,

Ali svako malo,

something very difficult is given to us,

nešto veoma teško nam je dato

and when this difficult thing occurs to us,

i kad nam ova teška stvar dođe,

it's a challenge to rise to that opportunity,

izazov je podići se na nivo te prilike

and we can rise to it by learning something

a mi se možemo uzdići na taj nivo učeći nešto

što je ponekad bolno.

which is sometimes painful.

Learning patience, for instance.

Učeći strpljenje, naprimjer.

We have been told that the road to peace

Rekli su nam da put do mira

is not a sprint, but is more like a marathon.

nije sprint

već više liče na maraton.

That takes patience. That's difficult.

To zahtijeva strpljenje. To je teško.

It may be to stand up for your opinion, to stand up for your conviction.

Možda taj izazov bude da ustanete radi vaših stavova,

da ustanete radi vaših uvjerenja.

That's an opportunity that is given to us.

To je prilika koja nam se pruža.

To learn, to suffer, to stand up,

Da učimo, da patimo, da dižemo svoj glas,

all these opportunities are given to us,

sve ove prilike su nam date,

but they are opportunities,

ali sve su one prilike

and those who avail themselves of those opportunities

i oni koje se okoriste

ovim prilikama

are the ones that we admire.

su oni koje mi cijenimo.

They make something out of life.

Oni uspiju napraviti nešto od svog života.

And those who fail get another opportunity.

A oni koji to ne uspiju dobiju drugu priliku.

Uvijek dobijamo drugu priliku.

We always get another opportunity.

That's the wonderful richness of life.

To je čudesno bogatstvo života.

So how can we find a method that will harness this?

Dakle, kako možemo pronaći metodu

koja će ovo i upotrijebiti?

How can each one of us find a method for living gratefully,

Kako svako od nas ovdje može pronaći metodu

za zahvalan život,

not just once in a while being grateful,

ne samo da budemo zahvalni s vremena na vrijeme

but moment by moment to be grateful.

već za budemo zahvalni iz trenutka u trenutak.

How can we do it? It's a very simple method.

Kako to možemo uraditi?

Metoda je veoma jednostavna.

It's so simple that it's actually what we were told as children

Toliko je jednostavna da je to zapravo ono što su nam govorili

dok smo kao djeca učili kako da pređemo ulicu.

when we learned to cross the street.

Stop.

Stani. Pogledaj. Kreni.

Look.

Go.

That's all.

To je sve.

Ali koliko često mi stajemo?

But how often do we stop?

We rush through life. We don't stop.

Mi žurimo kroz život. Mi ne stajemo.

We miss the opportunity because we don't stop.

Propuštamo priliku jer ne stajemo.

We have to stop.

Moramo stati. Moramo se ušutjeti.

We have to get quiet.

And we have to build stop signs into our lives.

I moramo napraviti znakove za stajanje

u našim životima.

When I was in Africa some years ago and then came back,

Kad sam bio u Africi prije nekoliko godina

i kad sam se vratio nazad,

I noticed water.

primijetio sam vodu.

In Africa where I was, I didn't have drinkable water.

Tamo gdje sam boravio u Africi, nisam imao pitku vodu.

Every time I turned on the faucet, I was overwhelmed.

Svaki put kad bih odvrnio slavinu,

bio bih uzbuđen.

Every time I clicked on the light, I was so grateful.

Svaki put kad bih upalio svjetlo,

bio bih tako zahvalan. To me činilo veoma sretnim.

It made me so happy.

But after a while, this wears off.

Ali nakon nekog vremena, taj osjećaj se istroši.

So I put little stickers on the light switch

Zbog toga sam stavio male podsjetnike na prekidač za svjetlo

and on the water faucet,

i na slavinu

and every time I turned it on, water.

i svaki put kad sam ga upalio, voda.

So leave it up to your own imagination.

Dakle, ostavite to svojoj vlastitoj mašti.

You can find whatever works best for you,

Možete odabrati bilo šta što je za vas najbolje,

but you need stop signs in your life.

ali morate postaviti ove znakove za stajanje u vašem životu.

And when you stop,

I kad stanete,

then the next thing is to look.

onda je sljedeća stvar da pogledate.

You look. You open your eyes.

Gledate. Otvarate vaše oči.

You open your ears. You open your nose.

Otvarate vaše uši. Otvarate vaš nos.

You open all your senses

Otvarate sva vaša osjetila

for this wonderful richness that is given to us.

za ovo predivno bogatstvo koje nam je dato.

Tome nema kraja

There is no end to it, and that is what life is all about,

i to je ono u čemu je bit ovoga života,

to enjoy, to enjoy what is given to us.

uživati, uživati u onome što nam je dato.

And then we can also open our hearts,

I onda također možemo otvoriti naša srca,

our hearts for the opportunities,

naša srca za prilike,

for the opportunities also to help others,

za prilike da također pomognemo drugima,

to make others happy,

da druge učinimo sretnim, jer ništa nas ne čini više sretnim

because nothing makes us more happy than when all of us are happy.

nego kad smo svi sretni.

And when we open our hearts to the opportunities,

I kada otvorimo svoja srca prilikama,

the opportunities invite us to do something,

prilike nas pozivaju da učinimo nešto

and that is the third.

i to je treće.

Stop, look, and then go, and really do something.

Zastani, pogledaj i onda kreni, i zaista uradi nešto.

And what we can do

I ono što možemo uraditi je

is whatever life offers to you in that present moment.

bilo šta što vam život nudi u tom trenutku.

Mostly it's the opportunity to enjoy,

Uglavnom, to je prilika da uživamo,

but sometimes it's something more difficult.

ali je to ponekad i nešto teže.

But whatever it is, if we take this opportunity,

Ali bilo šta da to bilo, ako iskoristimo ovu priliku

we go with it, we are creative, those are the creative people.

i idemo uz nju, kreativni smo,

to su kreativni ljudi,

And that little stop, look, go,

i to malo stani, pogledaj i kreni

is such a potent seed

je tako snažno sjeme

that it can revolutionize our world.

da može revolucionisati naš svijet.

Because we are at the present moment

Jer mi trebamo, mi smo u ovom trenutku

in the middle of a change of consciousness,

usred promjene naše svijesti

and you will be surprised if you --

i bit ćete iznenađeni ako --

ja sam uvijek iznenađen kada čujem koliko puta

I am always surprised when I hear how many times

this word "gratefulness" and "gratitude" comes up.

se riječ "zahvalnost" pojavljuje.

Everywhere you find it,

Nalazite je svugdje,

a grateful airline, a restaurant gratefulness,

zahvalna aviokompanija, restoranska zahvalnost,

a café gratefulness, a wine that is gratefulness.

zahvalnost u kafeu, vino koje je zahvalnost.

Yes, I have even come across a toilet paper

Da, čak sam naišao i na toalet papir

whose brand is called "Thank You."

čiji brend se zove Hvala Vam. (Smijeh)

(Laughter)

There is a wave of gratefulness

Postoji čitav val zahvalnosti jer

because people are becoming aware how important this is

ljudi postaju svjesni koliko je ovo bitno

and how this can change our world.

i koliko ovo može promijeniti naš svijet.

It can change our world in immensely important ways,

To može promijeniti naš svijet

na neizmjerno važne načine

because if you're grateful, you're not fearful,

jer ako ste zahvalni, onda ne strahujete,

and if you're not fearful, you're not violent.

a ako ne strahujete, onda niste nasilni.

If you're grateful, you act out of a sense of enough

Ako ste zahvalni, onda djelujete iz osjećaja sitosti

and not of a sense of scarcity,

a ne iz osjećaja oskudice

and you are willing to share.

i spremni ste da to dijelite.

If you are grateful,

Ako ste zahvalni, vi uživate

you are enjoying the differences between people,

u razlikama među ljudima

i puni ste poštovanja prema svakome

and you are respectful to everybody,

and that changes this power pyramid under which we live.

i to mijenja tu piramidu moći

pod kojom mi živimo.

Ovo ne doprinosti jednakosti

And it doesn't make for equality, but it makes for equal respect,

ali doprinosi jednakom poštovanju,

and that is the important thing.

a to je važna stvar.

The future of the world will be a network,

Budućnost svijeta će biti mreža,

not a pyramid turned upside down.

ne piramida, ne piramida okrenuta naopako.

The revolution of which I am speaking is a nonviolent revolution,

Revolucija o kojoj ja govorim

je nenasilna revolucija,

i toliko je revolucionarna

and it's so revolutionary that it even revolutionizes

da čak revolucionizira

the very concept of a revolution,

i sam koncept revolucije

because the normal revolution

jer uobičajena revolucija je ona

is one where the power pyramid is turned upside down

gdje je piramida moći okrenuta naopako

and those who were on the bottom are now on the top

i oni koji su na bili na dnu su sada na vrhu

and are doing exactly the same thing that the ones before.

i rade upravo ono što su

radili i oni prije njih.

What we need is a networking of smaller groups,

Ono što je nama potrebno je umrežavanje manjih grupa,

smaller and smaller groups who know one another,

sve manjih i manjih grupa koje će se međusobno poznavati,

koje će međusobno djelovati

who interact with one another, and that is a grateful world.

i to je zahvalan svijet.

A grateful world is a world of joyful people.

Zahvalan svijet je svijet sretnih ljudi.

Grateful people are joyful people,

Zahvalni ljudi su sretni ljudi

and joyful people --

i sretni ljudi,

the more and more joyful people there are,

što jei više i više sretnih ljudi

the more and more we'll have a joyful world.

imat cemo sretniji svijet.

We have a network for grateful living, and it has mushroomed.

Imamo mrežu za zahvalno življenje

i proširila se poput gljiva.

We couldn't understand why it mushroomed.

Mi ne možemo shvatiti zbog čega se tako proširila.

We have an opportunity for people to light a candle

Imamo priliku da ljudi zapale svijeću

when they are grateful for something.

kada su zahvalni radi nečega.

And there have been 15 million candles lit in one decade.

I do sada je 15 miliona svijeća zapaljeno

u jednom desetljeću.

People are becoming aware that a grateful world is a happy world,

Ljudi postaju svjesni

da je zahvalan svijet sretan svijet

and we all have the opportunity by the simple stop, look, go,

i da svi imamo priliku

da jednostavnim stani, pogledaj i kreni

to transform the world, to make it a happy place.

transformiramo svijet

i napravimo od njega sretno mjesto.

And that is what I hope for us,

I to je ono čemu se nadam za nas

and if this has contributed a little to making you want to do the same,

i ako je ovo imalo doprinijelo

da i vi želite učiniti isto,

stop, look, go.

zastanite, pogledajte i krenite.

Thank you.

Hvala vam.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)