Want to be happy? Be grateful | David Steindl-Rast

Prevoditelj: Mladen Barešić Recezent: Ivan Stamenković

There is something you know about me,

Postoji nešto

što znate o meni, nešto vrlo osobno,

something very personal,

a postoji i nešto što ja znam

and there is something I know about every one of you

o svakome od vas,

and that's very central to your concerns.

nešto što je u samom središtu vaših interesa.

There is something that we know

Postoji nešto što znamo

about everyone we meet anywhere in the world, on the street,

o svakome koga sretnemo bilo gdje na svijetu,

na ulici,

that is the very mainspring of whatever they do

nešto što je glavni pokretač

svega što oni rade

and whatever they put up with.

i svega što podnose,

And that is that all of us want to be happy.

a to je da svi mi

želimo biti sretni.

In this, we are all together.

To nam je svima zajedničko.

How we imagine our happiness, that differs from one another,

Ono kako zamišljamo svoju sreću

razlikuje se od pojedinca do pojedinca,

but it's already a lot that we have all in common,

no već je puno i to što nam je zajedničko:

that we want to be happy.

Mi želimo biti sretni.

Now my topic is gratefulness.

Moja tema je zahvalnost.

What is the connection between happiness and gratefulness?

Kakva je veza između

sreće i zahvalnosti?

Many people would say, well, that's very easy.

Mnogi bi rekli da je to vrlo jednostavno.

When you are happy, you are grateful.

Kad ste sretni, onda ste i zahvalni.

But think again.

No, promislimo malo.

Is it really the happy people that are grateful?

Jesu li sretni ljudi uistinu ti koji su zahvalni?

Svi poznajemo mnogo ljudi

We all know quite a number of people

who have everything that it would take to be happy,

koji imaju sve što im treba da bi bili sretni,

and they are not happy,

no oni nisu sretni,

because they want something else or they want more of the same.

jer žele nešto drugo,

ili žele više od onoga što imaju.

And we all know people who have lots of misfortune,

Svi poznajemo ljude

koje su brojne nedaće pogodile,

misfortune that we ourselves would not want to have,

nedaće kakve mi sami ne bismo željeli imati,

and they are deeply happy.

a oni su istinski sretni.

They radiate happiness. You are surprised.

Oni zrače srećom. Iznenađeni ste.

Why? Because they are grateful.

Zašto? Zato što su zahvalni.

So it is not happiness that makes us grateful.

Dakle, sreća nas ne čini zahvalnima.

It's gratefulness that makes us happy.

Zahvalnost je ta koja nas usrećuje.

If you think it's happiness that makes you grateful,

Ako mislite da je sreća ono što vas čini zahvalnima,

think again.

razmislite ponovo.

It's gratefulness that makes you happy.

Zahvalnost je ono što vas usrećuje.

Now, we can ask,

Možemo se upitati

what do we really mean by gratefulness?

što točno podrazumijevamo pod zahvalnošću?

And how does it work?

I kako ona djeluje?

I appeal to your own experience.

Obraćam se vašem vlastitom iskustvu.

We all know from experience how it goes.

Svi iz iskustva znamo kako to funkcionira.

We experience something that's valuable to us.

Doživimo nešto

što nam je vrijedno.

Something is given to us that's valuable to us.

Darovano nam je nešto što nam je vrijedno.

And it's really given.

I to se doista podrazumijeva.

These two things have to come together.

Ovo dvoje mora postojati.

It has to be something valuable, and it's a real gift.

To mora biti nešto vrijedno,

i to je pravi dar.

You haven't bought it. You haven't earned it.

Niste to kupili. Niste to zaradili.

You haven't traded it in. You haven't worked for it.

Niste to razmijenili. Niste za to radili.

It's just given to you.

To vam je naprosto dano.

And when these two things come together,

Kad su ta dva uvjeta ispunjena,

something that's really valuable to me and I realize it's freely given,

nešto što mi je zaista vrijedno,

i ja shvaćam da je to besplatan dar,

then gratefulness spontaneously rises in my heart,

tada zahvalnost spontano

izranja u mom srcu,

happiness spontaneously rises in my heart.

radost se spontano budi u mom srcu.

That's how gratefulness happens.

Tako se rađa zahvalnost.

Now the key to all this

Ključ svega ovoga je da

is that we cannot only experience this once in a while.

to ne možemo samo povremeno iskusiti.

We cannot only have grateful experiences.

Ne možemo samo imati iskustva zahvalnosti.

We can be people who live gratefully.

Možemo biti ljudi koji žive zahvalno.

Grateful living, that is the thing.

Zahvalno življenje, to je prava stvar.

And how can we live gratefully?

A kako možemo živjeti zahvalno?

By experiencing, by becoming aware

Stjecanjem iskustava, osvještavanjem

that every moment is a given moment, as we say.

da je svaki trenutak dar, kako to znamo reći.

It's a gift. You haven't earned it.

To je dar. Niste ga zaslužili.

You haven't brought it about in any way.

Ni na koji ga način niste uzrokovali.

You have no way of assuring

Ne postoji način da si osiguramo

that there will be another moment given to you,

još takvih darovanih trenutaka,

and yet, that's the most valuable thing that can ever be given to us,

pa, ipak, to je najvrednije

što će nam ikada biti dano,

this moment, with all the opportunity that it contains.

ovaj trenutak, sa svim mogućnostima koje uključuje.

If we didn't have this present moment,

Kad ne bi bilo ovog sadašnjeg trenutka,

we wouldn't have any opportunity to do anything

ne bismo imali prilike učiniti ništa

or experience anything,

niti išta iskusiti,

and this moment is a gift.

tako da je sadašnji trenutak dar.

It's a given moment, as we say.

Kažemo da je to darovan trenutak.

Now, we say the gift within this gift is really the opportunity.

Kažemo da je dar unutar ovoga dara

prava prilika.

What you are really grateful for is the opportunity,

Ono za što smo uistinu zahvalni jest prilika,

not the thing that is given to you,

ne sama stvar koja vam je dana,

because if that thing were somewhere else

jer, da je ta stvar negdje drugdje

and you didn't have the opportunity to enjoy it,

i da nemate priliku uživati u njoj,

to do something with it,

napraviti nešto s njom,

you wouldn't be grateful for it.

ne biste bili zahvalni na njoj.

Opportunity is the gift within every gift,

Prilika je dar unutar svakog dara,

and we have this saying, opportunity knocks only once.

i postoji izreka

da prilika samo jednom kuca na vrata.

Well, think again.

No, u krivu smo.

Every moment is a new gift, over and over again,

Svaki trenutak je novi dar, opet i opet,

and if you miss the opportunity of this moment,

i ako propustite priliku ovoga trenutka,

another moment is given to us, and another moment.

darovan vam je novi trenutak, i zatim slijedeći novi.

We can avail ourselves of this opportunity,

Možemo iskoristiti tu priliku,

or we can miss it,

ili je možemo propustiti,

and if we avail ourselves of the opportunity,

a ako iskoristimo tu priliku,

it is the key to happiness.

to je ključ radosti.

Behold the master key to our happiness

Pogledate glavni ključ naše sreće

in our own hands.

u našim rukama.

Moment by moment, we can be grateful for this gift.

Trenutak za trenutkom,

možemo biti zahvalni na tom daru.

Does that mean

Znači li to

that we can be grateful for everything?

da možemo biti zahvalni za sve?

Certainly not.

Sigurno da ne možemo.

We cannot be grateful for violence, for war,

Ne možemo biti zahvalni za nasilje, rat,

for oppression, for exploitation.

za ugnjetavanje, izrabljivanje.

On the personal level, we cannot be grateful

Na osobnoj razini, ne možemo biti zahvalni

for the loss of a friend, for unfaithfulness,

za gubitak prijatelja, za nevjernost,

for bereavement.

za težak gubitak.

But I didn't say we can be grateful for everything.

No, nisam rekao da možemo biti zahvalni za sve.

I said we can be grateful in every given moment

Rekao sam da možemo biti zahvalni u svakom danom trenutku

za priliku,

for the opportunity,

and even when we are confronted with something that is terribly difficult,

i čak kada smo suočeni

s nekom iznimno velikom poteškoćom,

we can rise to this occasion

možemo pokazati da smo dorasli situaciji

and respond to the opportunity that is given to us.

i odgovoriti na priliku koja nam se nudi.

It isn't as bad as it might seem.

Nije tako loše kako se možda čini.

Actually, when you look at it and experience it,

Zapravo, kada to malo bolje razmotrite i iskusite,

you find that most of the time,

shvatite da vam je većinu vremena darovana

what is given to us is the opportunity to enjoy,

prilika da uživate,

a mi je propuštamo jedino zato što

and we only miss it because we are rushing through life

žurimo kroz život

and we are not stopping to see the opportunity.

i ne stajemo da uočimo priliku.

But once in a while,

No, svako malo

something very difficult is given to us,

dano nam je nešto vrlo teško,

and when this difficult thing occurs to us,

i kada nam se dogodi ta poteškoća,

it's a challenge to rise to that opportunity,

to je izazov da se suočimo s tom prilikom,

and we can rise to it by learning something

i možemo se suočiti s njom tako da nešto naučimo

što katkad može biti bolno.

which is sometimes painful.

Learning patience, for instance.

Primjerice, učiti se strpljivosti.

We have been told that the road to peace

Rečeno nam je da put do mira

is not a sprint, but is more like a marathon.

nije sprint,

već više nalikuje na maraton.

That takes patience. That's difficult.

Za to treba strpljenja. To je teško.

It may be to stand up for your opinion, to stand up for your conviction.

To može biti i potreba da se zauzmete za svoj stav,

za vaše uvjerenje.

That's an opportunity that is given to us.

To je prilika koja nam je dana.

To learn, to suffer, to stand up,

Da učimo, patimo, da se zauzmemo za sebe,

all these opportunities are given to us,

sve ove prilike su nam dane,

but they are opportunities,

no one su prilike,

and those who avail themselves of those opportunities

a oni koji iskoriste

te prilike

are the ones that we admire.

su osobe kojima se divimo.

They make something out of life.

Oni rade nešto od svojih života.

And those who fail get another opportunity.

A oni koji ih ne iskoriste, dobiju drugu priliku.

Uvijek dobijemo drugu priliku.

We always get another opportunity.

That's the wonderful richness of life.

To je predivno bogatstvo života.

So how can we find a method that will harness this?

Kako onda možemo pronaći metodu

kojom ćemo ovo moći iskoristiti?

How can each one of us find a method for living gratefully,

Kako svatko od nas može pronaći metodu

za zahvalno življenje,

not just once in a while being grateful,

ne da smo zahvalni samo tu i tamo,

but moment by moment to be grateful.

već da smo zahvalni u svakom trenutku.

How can we do it? It's a very simple method.

Kako to možemo postići?

To je vrlo jednostavna meoda.

It's so simple that it's actually what we were told as children

Toliko je jednostavna, da je to zapravo ono što su nam govorili

kada smo kao djeca učili prelaziti cestu.

when we learned to cross the street.

Stop.

Stani. Pogledaj. Kreni.

Look.

Go.

That's all.

To je sve.

No, koliko često stajemo?

But how often do we stop?

We rush through life. We don't stop.

Žurimo kroz život. Ne stajemo.

We miss the opportunity because we don't stop.

Propuštamo priliku jer ne stajemo.

We have to stop.

Moramo stati. Moramo se umiriti.

We have to get quiet.

And we have to build stop signs into our lives.

I moramo uvesti stop znakove

u naše živote.

When I was in Africa some years ago and then came back,

Kada sam prije nekoliko godina bio u Africi

i potom se vratio,

I noticed water.

primijetio sam vodu.

In Africa where I was, I didn't have drinkable water.

U Africi gdje sam bio nisam imao pitke vode.

Every time I turned on the faucet, I was overwhelmed.

Svaki put kada bih okrenuo slavinu,

preplavili bi me osjećaji.

Every time I clicked on the light, I was so grateful.

Svaki put kada bih upalio svjetlo,

bio sam toliko zahvalan. To me je činilo jako sretnim.

It made me so happy.

But after a while, this wears off.

No, to nakon nekog vremena prođe.

So I put little stickers on the light switch

Tako da sam stavio male naljepnice na prekidač

and on the water faucet,

i na slavinu,

and every time I turned it on, water.

i svaki put kada bih je okrenuo - voda.

So leave it up to your own imagination.

Ostavljam vam na to maštu.

You can find whatever works best for you,

Možete pronaći što vama najbolje odgovara

but you need stop signs in your life.

ali potrebni su vam stop znakovi u vašem životu.

And when you stop,

I kada stanete,

then the next thing is to look.

slijedeća stvar jest da promatrate.

You look. You open your eyes.

Gledate. Otvarate oči.

You open your ears. You open your nose.

Otvarate uši. Otvarate nos.

You open all your senses

Otvarate sva vaša osjetila

for this wonderful richness that is given to us.

za to predivno bogatstvo koje nam je dano.

Tome nema kraja.

There is no end to it, and that is what life is all about,

i u tome je smisao života,

to enjoy, to enjoy what is given to us.

uživati u onome što nam je dano.

And then we can also open our hearts,

Tada možemo i otvoriti svoja srca,

our hearts for the opportunities,

za prilike,

for the opportunities also to help others,

također za prilike da pomognemo drugima,

to make others happy,

da druge usrećimo, jer nas ništa ne usrećuje više

because nothing makes us more happy than when all of us are happy.

od toga da smo svi sretni.

And when we open our hearts to the opportunities,

Kada otvorimo svoja srca prilikama,

the opportunities invite us to do something,

one nas pozivaju da nešto učinimo,

and that is the third.

i to je treća instanca.

Stop, look, and then go, and really do something.

Stani, pogledaj, a potom kreni i zaista učini nešto.

And what we can do

Ono što možemo učiniti jest

is whatever life offers to you in that present moment.

štogod nam život nudi u tom trenutku.

Mostly it's the opportunity to enjoy,

Najčešće je to prilika da uživamo,

but sometimes it's something more difficult.

no ponekad je to nešto teže.

But whatever it is, if we take this opportunity,

No, štogod da jest, ako iskoristimo tu priliku,

we go with it, we are creative, those are the creative people.

idemo s njom, kreativni smo,

to su kreativni ljudi,

And that little stop, look, go,

taj maleni savjet stani, pogledaj, kreni,

is such a potent seed

je toliko snažan

that it can revolutionize our world.

da može revolucionirati naš svijet.

Because we are at the present moment

Budući da to trebamo, mi smo u sadašnjem trenutku

in the middle of a change of consciousness,

usred promjene svijesti,

and you will be surprised if you --

i bit ćete iznenađeni ako --

ja sam uvijek iznenađen kada čujem koliko puta

I am always surprised when I hear how many times

this word "gratefulness" and "gratitude" comes up.

se spomene riječ "zahvalnost".

Everywhere you find it,

Nalazimo je posvuda,

a grateful airline, a restaurant gratefulness,

zahvalna avio kompanija, restoranska zahvalnost,

a café gratefulness, a wine that is gratefulness.

kafić zahvalnosti, vino koje je zahvalnost.

Yes, I have even come across a toilet paper

Čak sam naišao na toaletni papir

whose brand is called "Thank You."

čiji je naziv brenda Hvala. (Smijeh)

(Laughter)

There is a wave of gratefulness

Postoji val zahvalnosti jer

because people are becoming aware how important this is

ljudi postaju svjesni koliko je to važno

and how this can change our world.

i koliko to može promijeniti naš svijet.

It can change our world in immensely important ways,

To može promijenti naš svijet,

na neizmjerno bitne načine,

because if you're grateful, you're not fearful,

jer ako ste zahvalni, niste ustrašeni,

and if you're not fearful, you're not violent.

a ako niste ustrašeni, niste nasilni.

If you're grateful, you act out of a sense of enough

Ako ste zahvalni, djelujete na temelju dostatnosti,

and not of a sense of scarcity,

a ne na temelju nedostatka,

and you are willing to share.

i voljni ste dijeliti s drugima.

If you are grateful,

Ako ste zahvalni, uživate u

you are enjoying the differences between people,

razlikama među ljudima,

i imate poštovanja prema svakome,

and you are respectful to everybody,

and that changes this power pyramid under which we live.

to mijenja piramidu moći

pod kojom živimo.

To ne doprinosi jednakosti,

And it doesn't make for equality, but it makes for equal respect,

ali doprinosi jednakom poštovanju,

and that is the important thing.

i to je bitna stvar.

The future of the world will be a network,

Budućnost našeg svijeta je mreža,

not a pyramid turned upside down.

a ne obrnuto okrenuta piramida.

The revolution of which I am speaking is a nonviolent revolution,

Revolucija o kojoj pričam

je nenasilna revolucija,

i tako je revolucionarna

and it's so revolutionary that it even revolutionizes

da čak revolucionarizira

the very concept of a revolution,

samu ideju revolucije,

because the normal revolution

budući da normalna revolucija

is one where the power pyramid is turned upside down

uključuje okretanje piramide moći,

and those who were on the bottom are now on the top

i oni koji su bili na dnu sada su na vrhu

and are doing exactly the same thing that the ones before.

i rade upravo istu stvar

koju su radili njihovi prethodnici.

What we need is a networking of smaller groups,

Potrebno nam je umreženje manjih skupina,

smaller and smaller groups who know one another,

manjih i manjih skupina koje se međusobno znaju,

koje međusobno djeluju,

who interact with one another, and that is a grateful world.

a to je zahvalan svijet.

A grateful world is a world of joyful people.

Zahvalan svijet je svijet radosnih ljudi.

Grateful people are joyful people,

Zahvalni ljudi su radosni ljudi,

and joyful people --

a radosni ljudi,

the more and more joyful people there are,

što je više radosnih ljudi,

the more and more we'll have a joyful world.

to ćemo imati radosniji svijet.

We have a network for grateful living, and it has mushroomed.

Imamo mrežu za zahvalno življenje,

i ona se brzo razvila.

We couldn't understand why it mushroomed.

Ne možemo razumijeti zašto se razvila.

We have an opportunity for people to light a candle

Ljudi imaju priliku upali svijeću

when they are grateful for something.

kada su zahvalni za nešto.

And there have been 15 million candles lit in one decade.

A u jednom desetljeću je bilo upaljeno

15 milijuna svijeća.

People are becoming aware that a grateful world is a happy world,

Ljudi postaju svijesni

da je zahvalan svijet radostan svijet,

and we all have the opportunity by the simple stop, look, go,

i svi imamo priliku

jednostavnim stani, pogledaj, kreni,

to transform the world, to make it a happy place.

promijeniti svijet,

učiniti ga radosnim mjestom.

And that is what I hope for us,

Tome se nadam,

and if this has contributed a little to making you want to do the same,

i ako je ovo imalo pridonijelo

tome da i vi poželite učiniti isto,

stop, look, go.

stanite, pogledajte, krenite.

Thank you.

Hvala vam.

(Applause)

(Pljesak)