English Listening Practice - AVOID Perfection

Vježbanje slušanja na engleskom - izbjegavajte savršenstvo

Hello there.

Pozdrav.

Welcome to the English Like a Native Podcast.

Dobrodošli u podcast English Like a Native.

This is the British English Podcast that's designed to help

Ovo je British English Podcast koji je osmišljen kako bi

you to improve your English.

vam pomogao da poboljšate svoj engleski.

It's jolly nice of you to join me.

Baš lijepo od tebe što si mi se pridružio.

My name's Anna, by the way, and today I'm going to be talking about perfectionism.

Inače, ja sam Anna i danas ću govoriti o perfekcionizmu.

Do you realise it's taken me all day to sit down in front of this

Shvaćaš li da mi je trebao cijeli dan da sjednem ispred ovog

microphone and record this, hopefully this final take of this introduction.

mikrofona i snimim ovo, nadamo se ovo posljednje od uvoda.

I've spent ages thinking about and planning this podcast.

Dugo sam razmišljao o ovom podcastu i planirao ga.

Ages here is a time phrase, a slang time phrase, that means a long time.

Doba je ovdje vremenska fraza, žargonska vremenska fraza, koja znači dugo vremena.

If something takes ages, it means it takes a long time.

Ako nešto traje godinama, to znači da traje dugo.

So it's taken me ages to think about this overall podcast and how

Trebalo mi je dosta vremena da razmislim o ovom cjelokupnom podcastu i kako

I will introduce the topic, how I will start the podcast, 'cause often

ću predstaviti temu, kako ću pokrenuti podcast, jer često

getting started is the hardest part.

je početak najteži dio.

And then I've recorded the intro many times and deleted

A onda sam snimio uvod mnogo puta i izbrisao

that work to start again.

to djelo da bih počeo iznova.

Why?

Zašto?

Because I am a perfectionist.

Jer ja sam perfekcionist.

Now, do we have any perfectionists in the audience listening today?

Sad, imamo li perfekcionista u publici koja danas sluša?

You might think, what's the problem with being a perfectionist?

Možda mislite, koji je problem biti perfekcionist?

Why do you sound upset about being a perfectionist?

Zašto zvučiš uzrujano što si perfekcionist?

Well, being a perfectionist comes with one huge downside, and the the downside

Pa, biti perfekcionist ima jednu ogromnu lošu stranu, a loša strana

is that you never get anything done.

je ta što nikad ništa ne postignete.

Or if you do achieve something, it's usually hugely delayed.

Ili ako nešto i postignete, to obično jako kasni.

Or if you achieve something and then later discover a mistake or

Ili ako nešto postignete, a kasnije otkrijete grešku ili

a flaw in what you produced...

nedostatak u onome što ste proizveli...

oh, the world ends.

oh, kraj svijeta.

At least that's how it seems to a perfectionist.

Barem se tako perfekcionisti čini.

So perfectionism is basically wanting everything to be perfect, to be flawless.

Dakle, perfekcionizam je u osnovi želja da sve bude savršeno, da bude besprijekorno.

So if you are a perfectionist, you don't want to create anything or do anything

Dakle, ako ste perfekcionist, ne želite stvarati ništa ili raditi ništa

that isn't perfect, but perfection is actually really hard to achieve.

što nije savršeno, ali savršenstvo je zapravo jako teško postići.

First of all, how do you define perfection?

Prije svega, kako definirate savršenstvo?

Something that's perfect for me might not be perfect for you.

Nešto što je savršeno za mene možda nije savršeno za tebe.

For example, what's your perfect Sunday?

Na primjer, koja je vaša savršena nedjelja?

What's the perfect day for you?

Koji je savršen dan za tebe?

It might be spending time with your friends after having a long lie-in,

To može biti druženje s prijateljima nakon dugog ležanja,

lounging around the house, drinking a black coffee and eating a croissant,

izležavanja po kući, ispijanja crne kave i jedenja kroasana,

and then going to spend time with your friends, exploring the city.

a zatim odlaska na druženje s prijateljima, istražujući grad.

That might be your perfect day.

To bi mogao biti vaš savršen dan.

To me, that wouldn't be my perfect day.

Za mene to ne bi bio moj savršen dan.

I like a little lie-in, but I don't like to lounge around too long.

Volim malo ležati, ali ne volim se predugo izležavati.

I feel like I'm wasting the day and I don't like to drink my coffee black.

Osjećam se kao da gubim dan i ne volim piti crnu kavu.

If I drink coffee, I like it with a generous splash of coconut milk.

Ako pijem kavu, volim je s obilnom kapljicom kokosovog mlijeka.

And I do enjoy a croissant but I'd rather have a pain au chocolat

I uživam u kroasanu, ali radije bih pojeo čokoladni pain

if I'm going to have a pastry.

ako ću jesti pecivo.

And I certainly feel guilty if that's all I have.

I sigurno se osjećam krivim ako je to sve što imam.

I like to at least offset the guilt of all that fat and sugar with a little

Volim barem nadoknaditi krivnju zbog svih tih masnoća i šećera s malo

bit of fruit or something like that.

voća ili nečim sličnim.

And then I enjoy spending time with my family.

I onda uživam provoditi vrijeme sa svojom obitelji.

And when I've got young children, wandering around a city is not...

A kad imam malu djecu, lutanje gradom nije...

it's not ideal.

nije idealno.

So I like to get out into the countryside and breathe in the fresh

Stoga volim izaći na selo i udahnuti svježi

air and spend time with nature.

zrak i provoditi vrijeme s prirodom.

That for me would be more of a...

To bi za mene bila više...

a perfect Sunday.

savršena nedjelja.

And what's your idea of a perfect meal?

A koja je vaša ideja o savršenom obroku?

I'm sure it would be very different to my idea of a perfect meal

Siguran sam da bi se to jako razlikovalo od moje ideje o savršenom obroku

and different to lots of other people's idea of a perfect meal.

i od mnogih ideja drugih ljudi o savršenom obroku.

So what I'm saying here is perfection is objective.

Ono što ovdje govorim je da je savršenstvo objektivno.

Everyone sees perfection in a different way.

Svatko vidi savršenstvo na drugačiji način.

So perfectionism can be a major obstacle to productivity.

Stoga perfekcionizam može biti velika prepreka produktivnosti.

This is the problem.

Ovo je problem.

It leads us to procrastinate, and it causes indecision.

To nas navodi na odugovlačenje i uzrokuje neodlučnost.

Now, that was a big word I just used.

To je bila velika riječ koju sam upravo upotrijebio.

Procrastination.

Odugovlačenje.

Procrastination.

Odugovlačenje.

We procrastinate.

Odugovlačimo.

What does this word mean?

Što ova riječ znači?

So to procrastinate.

Pa odugovlačiti.

If you procrastinate, it means that you put off doing something that

Ako odugovlačite, to znači da odgađate obavljanje nečega što

you need to do, like cleaning the house or writing a podcast episode

morate učiniti, poput čišćenja kuće ili pisanja epizode podcasta

and getting on and recording it.

i snimanja.

To put off, that's an interesting phrasal verb, to put off

Odgoditi, to je zanimljiv frazalni glagol, odgoditi

something or to put something off.

nešto ili odgoditi nešto.

So it's a separable phrasal verb.

Dakle, to je frazni glagol koji se može odvojiti.

It means to delay something.

To znači nešto odgoditi.

Okay.

U redu.

There are other meanings to put off, but in this instance it means to delay.

Postoje i druga značenja odgoditi, ali u ovom slučaju to znači odgoditi.

So if I'm going to put off doing the housework, I'm going

Dakle, ako ću odgoditi obavljanje kućanskih poslova, idem

to delay doing the housework.

odgoditi obavljanje kućanskih poslova.

If I put off writing and recording my podcast, I'm delaying writing

Ako odgađam pisanje i snimanje svog podcasta, odgađam pisanje

and recording my podcast.

i snimanje svog podcasta.

So procrastination is when you put off doing something you need to do.

Dakle, odgađanje je kada odgađate učiniti nešto što trebate učiniti.

You might do other things instead that are just not related to the

Umjesto toga možete raditi druge stvari koje jednostavno nisu povezane sa zadatkom

task or they're just not important.

ili jednostavno nisu važne.

You just keep yourself busy saying, I'll do that thing

Samo se zaokupi govoreći, Obavit ću ono

that I need to do in a minute.

što moram za minutu.

I'll do it as soon as I finish this task.

Učinit ću to čim završim ovaj zadatak.

But really what we're doing is avoiding the important thing that we need to do.

Ali zapravo ono što radimo je izbjegavanje važne stvari koju trebamo učiniti.

Now, I am terrible for procrastinating and I procrastinate

Sada, užasan sam što odgađam, a odgađam

because I am a perfectionist.

jer sam perfekcionist.

I think I started as a perfectionist from being very, very young.

Mislim da sam kao perfekcionist počeo kao vrlo, vrlo mlad.

I remember being in primary school and they always ask the question,

Sjećam se da sam u osnovnoj školi uvijek postavljao pitanje,

when you're a young child, "what do you want to be when you grow up?"

kad si malo dijete, "što želiš biti kad odrasteš?"

"Well, I want to be a writer."

"Pa, ja želim biti pisac."

I used to say at some point in primary school, "I want to be a writer."

Nekad sam u osnovnoj školi govorio: "Želim biti pisac."

And so I would sit down with my paper and my pen and I would spend hours

I tako bih sjeo sa svojim papirom i olovkom i provodio sate

just writing little stories or working on the novel that I'd planned out.

samo pišući male priče ili radeći na romanu koji sam isplanirao.

And I remember at one point giving up and someone saying, why didn't

I sjećam se da sam u jednom trenutku odustao i netko je rekao, zašto nisi

you finish writing this story?

dovršio ovu priču?

And my answer was, "Because I don't think anyone would want to read it.

A moj je odgovor bio: "Zato što mislim da to nitko ne bi htio čitati.

It's not very good.

Nije baš dobro.

My ideas are not good enough.

Moje ideje nisu dovoljno dobre.

Who will want to read my ideas?"

Tko će htjeti čitati moje ideje?"

So I was such a perfectionist from a young age that I put myself off doing

Bio sam toliki perfekcionist od malih nogu da sam odustao od toga da radim

what I felt passionate about because I didn't think I would ever be good enough.

ono što mi je bilo strastveno jer nisam mislio da ću ikada biti dovoljno dobar.

So that stopped me from doing what I wanted to do, and it was the

Tako da me to spriječilo da radim ono što sam htjela, a isto je bilo i

same with drawing or painting.

s crtanjem ili slikanjem.

I would buy a canvas, and a canvas is, you know, like that thicker material.

Kupio bih platno, a platno je, znate, kao onaj deblji materijal.

It's not paper ... a canvas is...

To nije papir ... platno je ...

I don't know what a canvas is made of actually, but it's a much thicker, like

Ne znam od čega je zapravo napravljeno platno, ali to je puno deblji, poput

card material that's usually in a frame, a wooden frame, or stretched across a wooden

kartonskog materijala koji je obično u okviru, drvenom okviru, ili rastegnut preko drvenog

frame and you hang a canvas on the wall.

okvira a ti objesi platno na zid.

So I, I've bought lots of art canvases for my studio.

Pa sam kupio puno umjetničkih platna za svoj studio.

And I've bought a couple in the past to do some artwork on, I studied art at

I kupio sam par u prošlosti da napravim neka umjetnička djela, studirao sam umjetnost na

college for a time, and I never started.

koledžu neko vrijeme, ali nikad nisam počeo.

They just sat there blank.

Samo su sjedili prazni.

I'd stare at them and think, well, I can't start until I know exactly

Zurio bih u njih i pomislio, pa, ne mogu početi dok ne znam točno

what I'm going to do, and it probably won't be good enough, and

što ću učiniti, a to vjerojatno neće biti dovoljno dobro, a

that will be a waste of the canvas.

to će biti gubitak platna.

And so what happened was I never produced any artwork on

I tako se dogodilo da nikada nisam izradio nikakvo umjetničko djelo na

those canvases, what a shame.

tim platnima, kakva šteta.

But this happens time and time again, and even now, to be honest, even now, I suffer

Ali to se događa iznova i iznova, a čak i sada, da budem iskren, čak i sada patim

with something called imposter syndrome, which is something that many people

od nečega što se zove imposter sindrom, od čega mnogi ljudi

either silently or publicly suffer from.

šutke ili javno pate.

Imposter syndrome is when you do not believe in the worth of your

Sindrom prevaranta je kada ne vjerujete u vrijednost svog

knowledge or in the worth of your work.

znanja ili u vrijednost svog rada.

So it's not that you don't believe in it, but you feel like maybe someone's

Dakle, nije da ne vjeruješ u to, ali osjećaš da će

gonna find you out, like you don't belong there, like you're an imposter.

te možda netko otkriti, kao da tu ne pripadaš, kao da si varalica.

And when I started on YouTube, I nearly didn't start on YouTube by the way.

A kad sam počeo na YouTubeu, uzgred, gotovo da nisam počeo na YouTubeu.

It took someone who knew me very well, giving me a lot of encouragement

Trebao mi je netko tko me jako dobro poznavao, dajući mi puno poticaja

for me to start work on YouTube.

da počnem raditi na YouTubeu.

But when I first started on YouTube, I felt like a fraud.

Ali kad sam tek počeo koristiti YouTube, osjećao sam se kao prevarant.

I felt like I wasn't made for YouTube, that my presentation style wasn't

Osjećao sam se kao da nisam stvoren za YouTube, da moj stil prezentacije nije

good enough, that no one would want to listen to anything I had to say, that

dovoljno dobar, da nitko ne želi slušati ništa što imam za reći, da

my editing wasn't good enough, that my storytelling wasn't good enough.

moje uređivanje nije dovoljno dobro, da moje pripovijedanje nije dovoljno dobro.

And I, yeah, I just overall felt like, what's the point?

I ja, da, sveukupno sam se osjećao kao, koja je svrha?

Why should I do this?

Zašto bih to trebao učiniti?

I'm just going to embarrass myself and you know, several YouTube channels later,

Samo ću se osramotiti i znate, nekoliko YouTube kanala kasnije,

all very successful YouTube channels...

svi vrlo uspješni YouTube kanali...

I still have moments where I feel like, am I doing the right thing?

Još uvijek imam trenutaka u kojima se osjećam, radim li pravu stvar?

Should I even be here?

Trebam li uopće biti ovdje?

There are many groups that I belong to, groups of English teachers, groups

Postoje mnoge grupe kojima pripadam, grupe profesora engleskog, grupe

of content creators, all sorts of different content creators who are

kreatora sadržaja, razne vrste kreatora sadržaja koji su

all very successful and people that I look up to and think, "wow, you're

svi vrlo uspješni i ljudi na koje se ugledam i mislim, "vau, ti si

amazing" and I always put myself down within those groups and think to

nevjerojatan" i ja uvijek se spuštam u te grupe i mislim si

myself, "Am I good enough to be here?"

: "Jesam li dovoljno dobar da budem ovdje?"

"Do I deserve to be amongst these people who are amazing?"

"Zaslužujem li biti među ovim nevjerojatnim ljudima?"

So that all stems from perfectionism.

Dakle, sve to proizlazi iz perfekcionizma.

I'm a perfectionist, therefore I always doubt everything I do, and

Ja sam perfekcionist, stoga uvijek sumnjam u sve što radim, a

this can lead to imposter syndrome.

to može dovesti do sindroma varalice.

Does anyone relate?

Ima li itko veze?

Does anyone else feel that they themselves suffer with imposter syndrome or have

Osjeća li još netko da i sam pati od sindroma varalice ili da je

been, at times, a perfectionist to a point where it's delayed you producing

, s vremena na vrijeme, bio perfekcionist do te mjere da vas je odgađalo u izradi

work or getting something done?

posla ili obavljanju nečega?

And I guess you can relate this to speaking a language as well.

I pretpostavljam da to možete povezati i s govorom jezika.

So obviously you are here to learn English.

Dakle, očito ste ovdje da naučite engleski.

You're English learners, you probably also know other languages as well, and

Učite engleski, vjerojatno znate i druge jezike i

you must have felt at times nervous to hold a conversation with a native

sigurno ste ponekad bili nervozni razgovarati s izvornim

speaker or another student also learning the same language because you feel like

govornikom ili drugim učenikom koji također uči isti jezik jer se osjećate kao da

you are not going to be good enough because you want to be good, but you

nećete biti dobri dovoljno jer želiš biti dobar, ali se

don't feel like you're good enough.

ne osjećaš kao da si dovoljno dobar.

That is being a perfectionist.

To znači biti perfekcionist.

Being scared to make mistakes, wanting to be perfect, and that making you stop or

Bojite se pogriješiti, želite biti savršeni i to vas tjera da stanete ili

that restricting your ability to just get on and have a conversation in English.

to ograničava vašu sposobnost da jednostavno započnete razgovor na engleskom.

Now, I will come on to a couple of things to think about and how to

Sada ću se osvrnuti na nekoliko stvari o kojima treba razmisliti i kako se

deal with being a perfectionist.

nositi s time da budete perfekcionist.

But before we get there, I thought I would take this opportunity to

Ali prije nego što stignemo tamo, mislio sam iskoristiti ovu priliku da

introduce a couple of nice phrases that are linked to perfectionism.

predstavim nekoliko lijepih fraza koje su povezane s perfekcionizmom.

So the first phrase is one that always brings a smile to my face, and it's

Dakle, prva rečenica je ona koja mi uvijek izmami osmijeh na lice, a to je

to have all your ducks in a row.

imati sve svoje patke u nizu.

To have all your ducks in a row.

Imati sve svoje patke u nizu.

So here I'm talking about the animal "quack quack" the duck.

Dakle, ovdje govorim o životinji "kvak kvak" patki.

And if you have all your ducks in a row, it means that you are well

A ako imate sve svoje patke u nizu, to znači da ste dobro

organized and you have everything worked out, everything in order.

organizirani i da imate sve razrađeno, sve u redu.

So for example, if you are moving house, there are lots of things to organise.

Na primjer, ako se selite, morate organizirati mnogo stvari.

You need to organise the furniture removal van and the people

Morate organizirati kombi za odvoz namještaja i ljude

that will help you to move your furniture from one place to another.

koji će vam pomoći premjestiti namještaj s jednog mjesta na drugo.

You might need to organise storage if you don't have a

Možda ćete morati organizirati skladište ako nemate

house to move onto straight away.

kuću u koju biste se odmah preselili.

You need to organise all the legalities around signing forms and documents

Morate organizirati sve pravne poslove oko potpisivanja obrazaca i dokumenata

and liaising with the estate agents to organise handing over your property and

i povezivanja s agentima za nekretnine kako biste organizirali primopredaju svoje imovine i

getting your hands on the next property.

preuzeli sljedeću nekretninu.

So lots of things to organise.

Toliko stvari za organizirati.

You will need to have all your ducks in a row.

Morat ćete imati sve svoje patke u nizu.

I often find that I have some of my ducks in a row, but not all my ducks in a row.

Često otkrijem da imam neke svoje patke u nizu, ali ne sve svoje patke u nizu.

Um, yeah, I am not a very organised person, even though on the surface I might

Hm, da, nisam baš organizirana osoba, iako se na površini čini

seem to be an organised person, I just don't have enough time to complete...

da sam organizirana osoba, jednostavno nemam dovoljno vremena da završim...

the organisation of things, there's always so much going on in life.

organizaciju stvari, uvijek se toliko toga događa u životu.

I think I'm just in that very busy time in life, when you have young children

Mislim da sam upravo u onom vrlo zaposlenom razdoblju u životu, kada imate malu djecu

and you are at a certain level in your work, where you are maxed out.

i kada ste na određenoj razini u svom poslu, gdje ste maksimalni.

To be maxed out means you've reached the maximum pressure.

Biti maksimalan znači da ste dosegli maksimalni pritisak.

I carry a heavy workload, so I'm maxed out with work and I'm maxed out in

Nosim veliki posao, tako da sam iscrpljen poslom i iscrpljen sam u

my personal life with all the admin of having young kids and the lack of

svom privatnom životu sa svom administracijom zbog male djece i nedostatka

sleep and everything they need from me.

sna i svega što im treba od mene.

So trying to get all my ducks in a row is an endless task, it's very

Stoga je pokušaj da sve svoje patke pospremim u red beskonačan zadatak, vrlo ga je

hard to achieve, but I will strive to get all my ducks in a row.

teško postići, ali nastojat ću da sve svoje patke pospremim u red.

Now the next phrase is to be a stickler for detail.

Sada je sljedeća fraza biti privržen detaljima.

A stickler, I don't hear the word stickler being used in any other

Priljepak, ne čujem da se riječ priljepak koristi na bilo koji drugi

way other than as part of this phrase to be a stickler for detail.

način osim kao dio ove fraze da bude privržen detaljima.

This is an idiom which describes someone who pays close attention

Ovo je idiom koji opisuje nekoga tko posvećuje veliku pozornost

to detail, and they're very particular about how things are done.

detaljima i koji su vrlo precizni u tome kako se stvari rade.

So for example, if...

Tako na primjer, ako...

If I'm cleaning your house (and I always clean your house), and then one day I

Ako čistim tvoju kuću (a uvijek ti čistim kuću), a onda jednog dana

don't arrange the cushions on your sofa in a way that you like, maybe I put

ne posložim jastuke na tvom kauču na način koji ti se sviđa, možda ja stavim

the cushions to one side of the sofa and you like the cushions to be evenly

jastuke na jednu stranu sofe i želite da jastuci budu ravnomjerno

distributed across the back of the sofa.

raspoređeni po naslonu sofe.

Then you might say, "Excuse me, Anna.

Tada biste mogli reći: "Oprosti, Anna.

Sorry.

Before you go, can you please rearrange the cushions?

Oprosti.

Prije nego što odeš, možeš li, molim te, presložiti jastuke?

Evenly distribute them across the back of the sofa, because

Ravnomjerno ih rasporedi po naslonu sofe, jer

that's exactly how I like it done, and you must do it that way".

ja to upravo tako volim, a i ti to moraš učiniti ".

I could then describe you as being a stickler for detail.

Tada bih te mogao opisati kao željnu detalja.

You are being very, very picky.

Vrlo ste, vrlo izbirljivi.

You've paid really close attention to detail and you have a very particular

Obratili ste veliku pozornost na detalje i imate vrlo poseban

way that you like things to be done.

način na koji volite da se stvari rade.

I don't think it's a good thing to be a stickler for detail, although

Ne mislim da je dobro biti privržen detaljima, iako

in some cases it's fantastic to be a stickler for detail.

je u nekim slučajevima fantastično biti privržen detaljima.

In the teaching world, it's good for a teacher to be a stickler for detail.

U svijetu podučavanja, dobro je da učitelj bude privržen detaljima.

And if you are a proofreader or someone who works in accountancy, then you really

A ako ste lektor ili netko tko radi u računovodstvu, onda stvarno

do need to be a stickler for detail.

morate biti privrženi detaljima.

One missing number could really mess up someone's accounts.

Jedan broj koji nedostaje stvarno bi mogao pomrsiti nečije račune.

So are you a stickler for detail?

Jeste li ljubitelj detalja?

Now the next phrase is quite similar, and again, it means to be

Sada je sljedeća fraza prilično slična, i opet znači biti

focused on small details, but this is much more insignificant detail.

usredotočen na male detalje, ali ovo je mnogo beznačajniji detalj.

So if someone focuses on small, insignificant details, things

Dakle, ako se netko usredotoči na male, beznačajne detalje, stvari

that don't matter than they are nitpicking, they are a nitpicker.

koje nisu bitne, nego ih zajebava, on je zajebancija.

I have been a nitpicker and I continue to be a nitpicker sometimes when I'm doing my

Bio sam gnjidar i nastavljam biti gnjidar ponekad kad radim

pronunciation assessments because people pay me good money to listen very closely

procjenu izgovora jer me ljudi dobro plaćaju da pažljivo slušam

to their pronunciation and to pick out all the aspects of their pronunciation

njihov izgovor i da odaberem sve aspekte njihovog izgovora

in regards to how close it is to an RP accent, received pronunciation.

s obzirom na to koliko je blizak je na RP naglasak, primljeni izgovor.

And they want to know exactly what they need to change to sound like

I žele točno znati što trebaju promijeniti da bi zvučali poput

me, to have a a modern RP accent.

mene, da bi imali moderan RP naglasak.

And so, when I'm doing those assessments, I have to be a nitpicker.

I tako, kada radim te procjene, moram biti pridvorac.

I have to point out in some cases that this sound slightly slips and I will

Moram naglasiti da u nekim slučajevima ovaj zvuk malo izmakne i reći ću

say, "you know, I may be nitpicking here.

, "znate, možda zajebavam ovdje.

It's not that important.

Nije toliko važno.

But if you want to be as close to perfect as possible, then you will

Ali ako želite biti što bliže savršenom, tada će vam

need to address this particular sound and change it ever so slightly".

trebati pozabaviti se ovim zvukom i malo ga promijeniti".

So to nitpick is to be overly critical or to focus on the very small details,

Dakle, zadirkivanje znači biti pretjerano kritičan ili se fokusirati na vrlo male detalje,

often unimportant, insignificant details.

često nevažne, beznačajne detalje.

So generally nitpicking is not a good thing.

Dakle, općenito zajedljivost nije dobra stvar.

Moving on to a very positive phrase, and it's the phrase, aim for the stars and

Prelazimo na vrlo pozitivnu frazu, a to je fraza, ciljaj prema zvijezdama i

you might just land on the moon, aim for the stars, and you might land on the moon.

možda ćeš jednostavno sletjeti na Mjesec, ciljaj prema zvijezdama i možda ćeš sletjeti na Mjesec.

I like this phrase because it suggests that if you have really high expectations

Sviđa mi se ova fraza jer sugerira da ako imate stvarno velika očekivanja

or aim for something, even further than you think you can achieve, you

ili ciljate na nešto, čak i dalje od onoga što mislite da možete postići,

might still land somewhere really good.

ipak biste mogli završiti negdje stvarno dobro.

Am I explaining this very well?

Objašnjavam li ovo jako dobro?

I'm not sure.

Nisam siguran.

If you want to do well in work and get a promotion, and there

Ako se želite dobro snaći u poslu i napredovati, a

are two job roles available.

na raspolaganju su vam dvije radne uloge.

One of them is just one level up from where you are.

Jedan od njih je samo jednu razinu više od vas.

It's not a huge promotion, but it's something that you think you'll be

Nije to velika promocija, ali je nešto u čemu mislite da ćete biti

good at and is achievable for you.

dobri i što vam je ostvarivo.

And another job that's available is three levels above where you,

A još jedan posao koji je dostupan je tri razine iznad onoga gdje

you'd love to do it, but it's three levels above where you are.

biste vi voljeli raditi, ali je tri razine iznad onoga gdje se nalazite.

It's very unlikely you're going to get it.

Malo je vjerojatno da ćete ga dobiti.

This phrase, aim for the stars and you might just land on the moon.

Ovaj izraz cilja prema zvijezdama i možda sletite na Mjesec.

This phrase would suggest that you should aim for something higher, aim

Ova fraza bi sugerirala da biste trebali težiti nečemu višem, težiti

for something that's not as achievable, and by doing that you give yourself a

nečemu što nije toliko ostvarivo, a time sebi dajete priliku

chance of getting that higher thing and you will probably get something good,

da dobijete tu višu stvar i vjerojatno ćete dobiti nešto dobro,

even though it might not be as good as the stars that you're aiming for.

iako možda nije tako dobro kao zvijezde na koje ciljaš.

So by applying for the role that's three levels above where you are, you'll

Dakle, ako se prijavite za ulogu koja je tri razine iznad vaše, vjerojatno ćete

probably still get the promotion just one level above you, even if you don't get

ipak dobiti unapređenje samo jednu razinu iznad vas, čak i ako ne dobijete

the one three levels above you, but you might get the one three levels above you.

onu tri razine iznad vas, ali biste mogli dobiti jednu tri razine iznad tebe.

It reminds me of the phrase, you've got to be in it to win it.

Podsjeća me na frazu, morate biti u tome da biste ga osvojili.

If you don't try, you'll never, but that's a slightly different phrase, and

Ako ne pokušaš, nećeš nikada, ali to je malo drugačija fraza, i

it's certainly not about perfectionism.

sigurno se ne radi o perfekcionizmu.

So this is about reaching further than you believe you can get to.

Dakle, ovdje se radi o dosezanju dalje od onoga što mislite da možete stići.

So setting your sights a little higher, or that's a nice phrase, to set your

Dakle, postavite svoje nišane malo više, ili to je lijepa fraza, postaviti svoje

sights high or to set your sights a little higher than you normally would.

nišane visoko ili postaviti svoje nišane malo više nego što biste inače.

If you set your sight on something then this means, uh, what you are aiming at,

Ako ste se namjerili na nešto onda to znači, uh, na što ciljate, u

what you are looking at, what you are going for, to set your sights on something

što gledate, čemu idete, namjeriti se na nešto

a little higher than you normally would.

malo više nego što biste inače.

Hopefully all of you do, set your sights on something quite high and achieve good

Nadamo se da ste svi vi, da ste postavili svoje ciljeve na nešto prilično visoko i postigli dobre

things, especially with your English.

stvari, posebno sa svojim engleskim.

Don't be afraid to get involved in conversations.

Nemojte se bojati uključiti se u razgovore.

Don't strive for perfection with your English.

Ne težite savršenstvu sa svojim engleskim.

Just communicate.

Samo komunicirajte.

Just practice, practice, practice, practice, practice, practice,

Samo vježbajte, vježbajte, vježbajte, vježbajte, vježbajte, vježbajte,

because practice makes progress.

jer vježba napreduje.

Now the phrase normally is practice makes perfect, but we know that

Uobičajena je fraza da praksa čini savršenstvo, ali znamo da

perfect and striving for perfect is flawed, problematic at best.

je savršeno i težnja za savršenim manjkavo, u najboljem slučaju problematično.

There is a saying or a proverb that goes, the perfect is the enemy of the good.

Postoji izreka ili poslovica koja kaže da je savršeno neprijatelj dobrog.

So simplified, perfect is the enemy of good.

Tako pojednostavljeno, savršeno je neprijatelj dobrog.

You'll never achieve good if you aim for perfect because of all the reasons

Nikada nećete postići dobro ako težite savršenom zbog svih razloga koje

I've brought up; procrastination, indecision, actually not getting something

sam iznio; odugovlačenje, neodlučnost, zapravo nedovršavanje nečega

done because you are scared to even start, because you want to be perfect.

jer se bojite i započeti, jer želite biti savršeni.

So don't let perfection, or your pursuit of perfection impede your

Stoga ne dopustite da savršenstvo ili vaša težnja za savršenstvom spriječi vašu

ability just to achieve something good.

sposobnost samo da postignete nešto dobro.

This is something I should remind myself of when creating YouTube videos.

To je nešto na što bih se trebao podsjetiti kada stvaram YouTube videozapise.

Sometimes I'll spend a long, a long time creating a YouTube idea, script,

Ponekad ću provesti dugo, dugo vremena stvarajući YouTube ideju, scenarij,

filming it, and then sorting out the edit and then decide not to post it

snimati ga, a zatim srediti editiranje i onda odlučiti da to ne objavim

because I don't think it's perfect.

jer mislim da nije savršeno.

And in fact, when I look back at my YouTube videos of the past, the

I zapravo, kada se osvrnem na svoje YouTube videozapise iz prošlosti, oni

ones that have done the best are the ones that I nearly didn't post

koji su bili najbolji su oni koje zamalo nisam objavio

because I thought they were awful.

jer sam mislio da su grozni.

And obviously the viewers disagreed with me, they enjoyed

I očito se gledatelji nisu slagali sa mnom, uživali su

it and those videos did well.

i ti su spotovi dobro prošli.

And on the flip side, on the flip side means opposite to that.

A s druge strane, s druge strane znači suprotno od toga.

On the flip side are videos that I thought were fantastic, that I'm

S druge strane su videozapisi za koje sam mislio da su fantastični, na koje sam

really proud of, that I thought, everyone's going to love this video.

stvarno ponosan, za koje sam mislio da će se svima svidjeti ovaj video.

I've put my heart and my soul into this.

Uložio sam svoje srce i dušu u ovo.

It's perfect or near enough to perfect, and, and they've just flopped.

Savršen je ili dovoljno blizu savršenog, a oni su upravo propali.

They've, you know, performed very badly.

Oni su, znate, bili vrlo loši.

So I have to remind myself not to allow my pursuit of perfection to impede

Stoga se moram podsjetiti da ne dopustim da moja potraga za savršenstvom spriječi

my ability to achieve something good.

moju sposobnost da postignem nešto dobro.

There's a really great quote from Henry Kissinger who says, A diamond

Postoji stvarno sjajan citat Henryja Kissingera koji kaže: Dijamant

is a chunk of coal that did well under pressure, and I love that.

je komad ugljena koji je dobro prošao pod pritiskom, i to mi se sviđa.

I love that.

Volim to.

A diamond is a chunk of coal that did well under pressure.

Dijamant je komad ugljena koji se dobro pokazao pod pritiskom.

I like it so much because it highlights the idea that often it's the process of

Toliko mi se sviđa jer ističe ideju da često proces prevladavanja

overcoming obstacles, of fighting and dealing with pressure and difficulties

prepreka, borbe i suočavanja s pritiskom i poteškoćama

that creates something valuable.

stvara nešto vrijedno.

So some of the best people who are good at what they do have had to go

Dakle, neki od najboljih ljudi koji su dobri u onome što rade morali su proći

through hardship and difficulties and failure in order to arrive

kroz teškoće i poteškoće i neuspjeh kako bi došli

at the place where they are.

do mjesta gdje jesu.

A place that some perceive as being perfect.

Mjesto koje neki doživljavaju kao savršeno.

For example, you rarely get an athlete who started off

Na primjer, rijetko ćete naći sportaša koji je na početku

being fantastic in their sport.

bio fantastičan u svom sportu.

You know, they often had to work really hard to get where they end up, in

Znate, često su morali jako naporno raditi da bi stigli tamo gdje su završili, na

a place of success and achievement.

mjestu uspjeha i postignuća.

Even those people who are polyglots with multiple languages under their belt.

Čak i oni ljudi koji su poligloti i govore više jezika.

They're able to speak fluently in all of those languages and you look

Oni mogu tečno govoriti na svim tim jezicima, a vi

at them and think, "wow, they must just have a knack for language".

ih pogledate i pomislite, "vau, oni jednostavno imaju smisla za jezik".

But actually they've probably gone through a lot to get to where they are.

Ali zapravo su vjerojatno prošli kroz mnogo toga da bi došli tu gdje jesu.

They've had to work very hard under pressure, perhaps overcome

Morali su jako naporno raditi pod pritiskom, možda svladati

obstacles, overcome confidence issues, give up a lot of time and

prepreke, prevladati probleme s samopouzdanjem, odreći se puno vremena i

energy in order to achieve this level of fluency in multiple languages.

energije kako bi postigli ovu razinu tečnog govorenja više jezika.

So just keep that quote in mind.

Zato samo imajte na umu taj citat.

A diamond is a chunk of coal that did well under pressure.

Dijamant je komad ugljena koji se dobro pokazao pod pritiskom.

Okay.

U redu.

I did promise at the beginning of this that I would offer some

Obećao sam na početku ovoga da ću dati nekoliko

words of advice for any other fellow perfectionists out there.

savjeta za sve druge kolege perfekcioniste.

So I've got three pieces of advice or three tips we could say if

Dakle, imam tri savjeta ili tri savjeta koja bismo mogli reći ako

you are yourself a perfectionist.

ste i sami perfekcionist.

So the first hip is to set realistic goals.

Dakle, prvi hip je postaviti realne ciljeve.

We often, we perfectionists, we often set unrealistic goals for ourselves and

Mi često, mi perfekcionisti, često sebi postavljamo nerealne ciljeve, a

when we do that, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment and frustration.

kada to činimo, pripremamo se za razočarenje i frustraciju.

So by setting realistic goals and expectations that can help to reduce our

Dakle, postavljanjem realnih ciljeva i očekivanja koji mogu pomoći u smanjenju našeg

stress and increase our productivity.

stresa i povećanju naše produktivnosti.

A very good example of this for me was my upload schedule.

Vrlo dobar primjer za to za mene bio je moj raspored učitavanja.

So I started this podcast thinking I'm going to produce at least

Pa sam pokrenuo ovaj podcast misleći da ću proizvesti barem

one podcast episode a week, and I was doing one long form piece

jednu epizodu podcasta tjedno, a radio sam jedan dugačak

of content on my YouTube channel.

sadržaj na svom YouTube kanalu.

So a 10-minute video a week, a 25-minute podcast episode a week.

Dakle, 10-minutni video tjedno, 25-minutna epizoda podcasta tjedno.

And then I wanted to do a short video every day.

A onda sam htio svaki dan snimiti kratki video.

So that's seven shorts a week.

Dakle, to je sedam kratkih filmova tjedno.

And I was also trying to make these podcasts into videos.

Također sam pokušavao te podcastove pretvoriti u videozapise.

An extra long video every week made from the podcast audio alongside my normal

Izuzetno dugačak videozapis svaki tjedan napravljen od zvuka podcasta uz moje normalne

contributions to my course students and my live streams that I do for them.

doprinose mojim studentima i mojim prijenosima uživo koje radim za njih.

And all the, the stuff that goes on in the backend, running the courses,

I sve, stvari koje se odvijaju u pozadini, vođenje tečajeva,

doing the admin, all that kind of stuff.

administriranje, sve te stvari.

I'd set such unrealistic goals for myself, that was too heavy a schedule,

Postavio bih si tako nerealne ciljeve, to je bio pretežak raspored,

considering I only work four days a week because of my, my childcare

s obzirom na to da radim samo četiri dana u tjednu zbog svojih

limitations and it's just too much.

ograničenja u brizi o djeci i to je jednostavno previše.

It's just too much.

Jednostavno je previše.

They were unrealistic goals, and guess what?

Bili su to nerealni ciljevi, i pogodite što?

Very quickly I suffered from burnout.

Vrlo brzo sam patio od burnouta.

I was overwhelmed.

Bio sam izvan sebe.

I felt stressed.

Osjećao sam se pod stresom.

I felt like I started creating things in a rush, which really bothered me

Osjećala sam se kao da sam počela stvarati stvari u žurbi, što mi je jako smetalo

because I'm a perfectionist, and so it just all fell apart and I was very

jer sam perfekcionist, pa je sve propalo i bila sam jako

frustrated and disappointed and exhausted.

frustrirana, razočarana i iscrpljena.

Tip number one, set yourself realistic goals.

Savjet broj jedan, postavite si realne ciljeve.

It just reduces a lot of the pressure.

To samo smanjuje veliki pritisak.

Tip number two for you perfectionists, is to practice self-compassion.

Savjet broj dva za vas perfekcioniste je da vježbate samoosjećanje.

Be kind to yourself.

Budite dobri prema sebi.

Perfectionists tend to be too hard on themselves.

Perfekcionisti su skloni biti prestrogi prema sebi.

To be hard on yourself means that you criticise yourself harshly and unfairly,

Biti strog prema sebi znači da se oštro i nepravedno kritizirate,

especially when you make mistakes.

posebno kada pogriješite.

So if you are the kind of person who really beats yourself up when

Dakle, ako ste tip osobe koja se stvarno ljuti kada

you make a mistake or you feel like you haven't done a good enough job,

pogriješi ili se osjećate kao da niste dovoljno dobro obavili posao,

then you definitely need to learn to just give yourself an easier time.

onda svakako morate naučiti jednostavno sebi dati vremena.

Let yourself off.

Pustite se.

Forgive yourself.

Oprosti si.

Be compassionate about the difficulties you had to deal with.

Budite suosjećajni s poteškoćama s kojima ste se morali nositi.

Why did you fail?

Zašto niste uspjeli?

Did you set unrealistic goals?

Jeste li postavili nerealne ciljeve?

You know, understand why you feel that way and try to just,

Znaš, shvati zašto se tako osjećaš i pokušaj jednostavno,

yeah, be easier on yourself.

da, biti lakši prema sebi.

Be kinder to yourself and also factor in a little bit of self-care.

Budite ljubazniji prema sebi i uključite i malo brige o sebi.

This is something we tend to overlook.

To je nešto što smo skloni previdjeti.

If we're perfectionists and we are workaholics, especially, we tend

Ako smo perfekcionisti i ako smo posebno radoholičari, obično

not to practise enough self-care.

ne prakticiramo dovoljno brigu o sebi.

So things like taking some time out just to relax or do something

Dakle, stvari poput odlaska na odmor samo da se opustite ili radite nešto

that helps you to wind down.

što vam pomaže da se opustite.

Prioritising sleep and fitness and general good health.

Dajte prednost snu i kondiciji te općem dobrom zdravlju.

Okay, so that's tip number two, practise self-compassion and self-care.

U redu, to je savjet broj dva, vježbajte suosjećanje i brigu o sebi.

Number three is learn to let go.

Broj tri je naučiti otpustiti.

In the famous words of, is it Anna?

Poznatim riječima, je li to Anna?

No Elsa from Frozen?

Nema Else iz Frozena?

Let it go.

Pusti to.

Just let it go.

Samo pusti to.

We often struggle to let things go.

Često se borimo da stvari otpustimo.

And we struggle to move on when we do make mistakes or when we feel like something's

I borimo se da nastavimo dalje kada pogriješimo ili kada osjećamo da je nešto

imperfect, we focus on it and, and just again, beat ourselves up about it.

nesavršeno, usredotočimo se na to i, opet, opterećujemo sami sebe zbog toga.

We make it more important than it actually is.

Činimo ga važnijim nego što zapravo jest.

So forget about that.

Pa zaboravi na to.

Let yourself off.

Pustite se.

To let someone off is to allow them to, um, how do you explain this?

Pustiti nekoga znači dopustiti mu da, hm, kako to objašnjavaš?

To let someone off, is someone, um, escapes without punishment.

Pustiti nekoga, znači da netko, hm, pobjegne bez kazne.

So if I tell you you can't eat my biscuits and I catch you with your

Dakle, ako ti kažem da ne možeš jesti moje kekse i uhvatim te s rukom

hand in the biscuit tin, and I don't want to tell you off because

u kalupu za kekse, i ne želim te odbiti jer

I'm too tired and you're looking at me with those big puppy dog eyes.

sam preumoran, a ti me gledaš s tim velikim oči šteneta.

Then I say, "oh fine.

Onda kažem, "o, dobro.

I'll let you off, have one.

Pustit ću te, uzmi jedan.

I'll let you off this time, but don't eat my cookies again.

Pustit ću te ovaj put, ali nemoj više jesti moje kolačiće.

Don't eat my biscuits.

Nemoj jesti moje kekse.

They're my biscuits.

To su moji keksi.

But I'll let you off this time".

Ali Ovaj put ću te pustiti."

So you have to learn to let things go.

Dakle, morate naučiti pustiti stvari.

Don't hold on to the past.

Ne držite se prošlosti.

Don't hold on to bad things or seemingly bad things that have happened in the past.

Nemojte se držati loših stvari ili naizgled loših stvari koje su se dogodile u prošlosti.

Just let it go.

Samo pusti to.

Go easy on yourself and just focus on moving forward and what comes next.

Budite blagi prema sebi i samo se usredotočite na kretanje naprijed i ono što slijedi.

Remember that making mistakes is actually a good thing.

Zapamtite da je činiti pogreške zapravo dobra stvar.

In fact, you know, perfection is often all in the journey.

Zapravo, znate, savršenstvo je često samo u putovanju.

If you do ever reach perfection, then you have to go a long

Ako ikada postignete savršenstvo, onda morate prijeći dug

way in order to get there.

put da biste tamo stigli.

You have to endure lots of obstacles and lots of pressure, lots of failure

Morate izdržati puno prepreka i puno pritiska, puno neuspjeha

in order to reach desired perfection.

kako biste dosegli željeno savršenstvo.

Okay, I think I have discussed, gone on, rambled about perfection for long enough.

U redu, mislim da sam dovoljno dugo raspravljao, nastavio, brbljao o savršenstvu.

So I do hope you found today helpful.

Stoga se nadam da vam je današnji dan bio od pomoći.

Don't be a stickler for the details unless you're an accountant.

Ne držite se detalja osim ako niste računovođa.

Remember, a diamond is a chunk of coal that did well under pressure.

Zapamtite, dijamant je komad ugljena koji je dobro prošao pod pritiskom.

Thank you for listening.

Hvala na slušanju.

Take care and goodbye.

Čuvajte se i doviđenja.

Would you like to download the podcast transcript?

Želite li preuzeti transkript podcasta?

Would you like to join lots of speaking classes every week and practise your

Biste li se htjeli pridružiti brojnim tečajevima govora svaki tjedan i vježbati svoj

English speaking without fear of being judged for not being perfect?

govor engleskog bez straha da će vas osuditi da niste savršeni?

Then consider joining my club.

Onda razmislite o pridruživanju mom klubu.

Link is in the description.

Link je u opisu.