English Listening Practice - AVOID Perfection

英语听力练习 - 避免完美

Hello there.

你好呀。

Welcome to the English Like a Native Podcast.

欢迎来到像母语一样的英语播客。

This is the British English Podcast that's designed to help

这是旨在帮助

you to improve your English.

您提高英语水平的英式英语播客。

It's jolly nice of you to join me.

很高兴你能加入我。

My name's Anna, by the way, and today I'm going to be talking about perfectionism.

顺便说一句，我叫安娜，今天我要谈谈完美主义。

Do you realise it's taken me all day to sit down in front of this

你知道吗，我花了一整天的时间坐在

microphone and record this, hopefully this final take of this introduction.

麦克风前录制这段视频，希望这是本次介绍的最后一次录制。

I've spent ages thinking about and planning this podcast.

我花了很长时间思考和计划这个播客。

Ages here is a time phrase, a slang time phrase, that means a long time.

ages在这里是一个时间短语，俚语时间短语，意思是很长一段时间。

If something takes ages, it means it takes a long time.

如果某件事需要很长时间，那就意味着它需要很长时间。

So it's taken me ages to think about this overall podcast and how

所以我花了很长时间来思考整个播客，以及

I will introduce the topic, how I will start the podcast, 'cause often

我将如何介绍这个话题，我将如何开始播客，因为通常

getting started is the hardest part.

开始是最困难的部分。

And then I've recorded the intro many times and deleted

然后我多次录制了介绍并删除了

that work to start again.

该工作以重新开始。

Why?

为什么？

Because I am a perfectionist.

因为我是一个完美主义者。

Now, do we have any perfectionists in the audience listening today?

现在，我们今天的听众中有没有完美主义者？

You might think, what's the problem with being a perfectionist?

你可能会想，做一个完美主义者有什么问题呢？

Why do you sound upset about being a perfectionist?

为什么你听起来对成为一个完美主义者感到不安？

Well, being a perfectionist comes with one huge downside, and the the downside

好吧，作为一个完美主义者会带来一个巨大的缺点，而缺点

is that you never get anything done.

就是您永远无法完成任何事情。

Or if you do achieve something, it's usually hugely delayed.

或者，即使您确实有所成就，通常也会被大大延迟。

Or if you achieve something and then later discover a mistake or

或者，如果您取得了一些成就，但后来发现您制作的作品中存在错误或

a flaw in what you produced...

缺陷……

oh, the world ends.

哦，世界末日。

At least that's how it seems to a perfectionist.

至少在完美主义者看来是这样。

So perfectionism is basically wanting everything to be perfect, to be flawless.

所以完美主义基本上是希望一切都完美无瑕。

So if you are a perfectionist, you don't want to create anything or do anything

所以如果你是一个完美主义者，你不想创造任何东西或做任何

that isn't perfect, but perfection is actually really hard to achieve.

不完美的事情，但完美实际上很难实现。

First of all, how do you define perfection?

首先，你如何定义完美？

Something that's perfect for me might not be perfect for you.

对我来说完美的东西可能对你来说并不完美。

For example, what's your perfect Sunday?

例如，你的完美星期天是怎样的？

What's the perfect day for you?

对你来说完美的一天是怎样的？

It might be spending time with your friends after having a long lie-in,

可能是在长时间躺下后与朋友共度时光，

lounging around the house, drinking a black coffee and eating a croissant,

在屋子里闲逛，喝一杯黑咖啡，吃一个羊角面包，

and then going to spend time with your friends, exploring the city.

然后再与朋友共度时光，探索这座城市。

That might be your perfect day.

那可能是你完美的一天。

To me, that wouldn't be my perfect day.

对我来说，那不会是我完美的一天。

I like a little lie-in, but I don't like to lounge around too long.

我喜欢小睡，但我不喜欢闲逛太久。

I feel like I'm wasting the day and I don't like to drink my coffee black.

我觉得我在浪费一天的时间，而且我不喜欢喝黑咖啡。

If I drink coffee, I like it with a generous splash of coconut milk.

如果我喝咖啡，我喜欢加入大量的椰奶。

And I do enjoy a croissant but I'd rather have a pain au chocolat

我确实喜欢羊角面包，但

if I'm going to have a pastry.

如果我要吃糕点，我宁愿吃巧克力面包。

And I certainly feel guilty if that's all I have.

如果我只有这些，我当然会感到内疚。

I like to at least offset the guilt of all that fat and sugar with a little

我喜欢至少用一点

bit of fruit or something like that.

水果或类似的东西来抵消所有脂肪和糖的罪恶感。

And then I enjoy spending time with my family.

然后我喜欢和家人在一起。

And when I've got young children, wandering around a city is not...

当我有年幼的孩子时，在城市里闲逛并不是……

it's not ideal.

这并不理想。

So I like to get out into the countryside and breathe in the fresh

所以我喜欢到乡下去呼吸新鲜

air and spend time with nature.

空气，与大自然共度时光。

That for me would be more of a...

那对我来说更像是一个……

a perfect Sunday.

完美的星期天。

And what's your idea of a perfect meal?

您认为完美的一餐是怎样的？

I'm sure it would be very different to my idea of a perfect meal

我敢肯定，这与我对完美一餐的想法大不相同

and different to lots of other people's idea of a perfect meal.

，也与许多其他人对完美一餐的想法大不相同。

So what I'm saying here is perfection is objective.

所以我在这里说的是完美是客观的。

Everyone sees perfection in a different way.

每个人都以不同的方式看待完美。

So perfectionism can be a major obstacle to productivity.

因此，完美主义可能是生产力的主要障碍。

This is the problem.

这就是问题。

It leads us to procrastinate, and it causes indecision.

它导致我们拖延，导致优柔寡断。

Now, that was a big word I just used.

现在，这是我刚刚使用的一个大词。

Procrastination.

拖延。

Procrastination.

拖延。

We procrastinate.

我们拖延。

What does this word mean?

这个单词什么意思？

So to procrastinate.

所以要拖延。

If you procrastinate, it means that you put off doing something that

如果你拖延，这意味着你推迟做一些

you need to do, like cleaning the house or writing a podcast episode

你需要做的事情，比如打扫房子或写一集播客

and getting on and recording it.

然后开始录制。

To put off, that's an interesting phrasal verb, to put off

推迟，这是一个有趣的短语动词，推迟

something or to put something off.

某事或推迟某事。

So it's a separable phrasal verb.

所以它是一个可分离的短语动词。

It means to delay something.

意思是拖延某事。

Okay.

好的。

There are other meanings to put off, but in this instance it means to delay.

推迟还有其他含义，但在这种情况下，它的意思是延迟。

So if I'm going to put off doing the housework, I'm going

所以如果我要推迟做家务，我会

to delay doing the housework.

拖延做家务。

If I put off writing and recording my podcast, I'm delaying writing

如果我推迟编写和录制我的播客，我就是在推迟编写

and recording my podcast.

和录制我的播客。

So procrastination is when you put off doing something you need to do.

所以拖延就是当你推迟做你需要做的事情时。

You might do other things instead that are just not related to the

您可能会做其他与任务无关

task or they're just not important.

或不重要的事情。

You just keep yourself busy saying, I'll do that thing

你只是让自己忙着说，我会

that I need to do in a minute.

在一分钟内做我需要做的事情。

I'll do it as soon as I finish this task.

我一完成这个任务就去做。

But really what we're doing is avoiding the important thing that we need to do.

但实际上我们正在做的是避免我们需要做的重要事情。

Now, I am terrible for procrastinating and I procrastinate

现在，我拖延很糟糕，我拖延是

because I am a perfectionist.

因为我是一个完美主义者。

I think I started as a perfectionist from being very, very young.

我想我从非常非常年轻的时候就开始成为一个完美主义者。

I remember being in primary school and they always ask the question,

我记得在小学的时候，他们总是问这个问题，

when you're a young child, "what do you want to be when you grow up?"

当你还是个孩子的时候，“你长大后想做什么？”

"Well, I want to be a writer."

“嗯，我想当作家。”

I used to say at some point in primary school, "I want to be a writer."

我曾经在小学的某个时候说过，“我想成为一名作家”。

And so I would sit down with my paper and my pen and I would spend hours

所以我会拿着我的纸和笔坐下来，花几个小时

just writing little stories or working on the novel that I'd planned out.

写一些小故事或写我计划好的小说。

And I remember at one point giving up and someone saying, why didn't

我记得有一次我放弃了，有人说，

you finish writing this story?

你为什么不写完这个故事？

And my answer was, "Because I don't think anyone would want to read it.

我的回答是，“因为我认为没有人会想读它。

It's not very good.

它不是很好。

My ideas are not good enough.

我的想法不够好。

Who will want to read my ideas?"

谁会想读我的想法？”

So I was such a perfectionist from a young age that I put myself off doing

所以我从小就是一个完美主义者，我推迟做

what I felt passionate about because I didn't think I would ever be good enough.

我觉得有激情的事情，因为我认为我永远不够好。

So that stopped me from doing what I wanted to do, and it was the

所以这阻止了我做我想做的事，

same with drawing or painting.

绘画或绘画也是如此。

I would buy a canvas, and a canvas is, you know, like that thicker material.

我会买一块帆布，你知道，帆布就像那种较厚的材料。

It's not paper ... a canvas is...

它不是纸……画布是……

I don't know what a canvas is made of actually, but it's a much thicker, like

我不知道画布实际上是用什么做的，但它更厚，像

card material that's usually in a frame, a wooden frame, or stretched across a wooden

卡片材料，通常放在框架、木框或横跨

frame and you hang a canvas on the wall.

木框然后你在墙上挂了一幅画布。

So I, I've bought lots of art canvases for my studio.

所以我，我为我的工作室买了很多艺术画布。

And I've bought a couple in the past to do some artwork on, I studied art at

我过去买了一对用来做一些艺术品，我在

college for a time, and I never started.

大学学过一段时间的艺术，但我从未开始。

They just sat there blank.

他们只是呆呆地坐在那里。

I'd stare at them and think, well, I can't start until I know exactly

我会盯着他们想，好吧，在我确切地知道我要做什么之前我不能开始

what I'm going to do, and it probably won't be good enough, and

，而且它可能不够好，

that will be a waste of the canvas.

那将是对画布的浪费。

And so what happened was I never produced any artwork on

所以发生的事情是我从未在

those canvases, what a shame.

这些画布上制作任何艺术品，真是太可惜了。

But this happens time and time again, and even now, to be honest, even now, I suffer

但这种情况一次又一次地发生，即使是现在，老实说，即使是现在，我也患有

with something called imposter syndrome, which is something that many people

一种叫做冒名顶替综合症的疾病，很多人都

either silently or publicly suffer from.

在默默地或公开地患有这种疾病。

Imposter syndrome is when you do not believe in the worth of your

冒名顶替综合症是指您不相信自己知识的价值

knowledge or in the worth of your work.

或工作的价值。

So it's not that you don't believe in it, but you feel like maybe someone's

所以不是你不相信它，而是你觉得也许有人会

gonna find you out, like you don't belong there, like you're an imposter.

发现你，就像你不属于那里，就像你是冒名顶替者一样。

And when I started on YouTube, I nearly didn't start on YouTube by the way.

当我开始使用 YouTube 时，顺便说一句，我几乎没有开始使用 YouTube。

It took someone who knew me very well, giving me a lot of encouragement

需要一个非常了解我的人，给了我很大的鼓励，

for me to start work on YouTube.

让我开始在 YouTube 上工作。

But when I first started on YouTube, I felt like a fraud.

但是当我第一次开始使用 YouTube 时，我觉得自己像个骗子。

I felt like I wasn't made for YouTube, that my presentation style wasn't

我觉得我不是为 YouTube 而生，我的演讲风格不够

good enough, that no one would want to listen to anything I had to say, that

好，没有人愿意听我说的任何话，

my editing wasn't good enough, that my storytelling wasn't good enough.

我的剪辑不够好，我的讲故事不够好够好了。

And I, yeah, I just overall felt like, what's the point?

而我，是的，我只是总的来说，这有什么意义呢？

Why should I do this?

我为什么要这样做？

I'm just going to embarrass myself and you know, several YouTube channels later,

我只是想让自己难堪，你知道，后来的几个 YouTube 频道，

all very successful YouTube channels...

都是非常成功的 YouTube 频道……

I still have moments where I feel like, am I doing the right thing?

我仍然有一些时刻觉得，我做的是对的吗？

Should I even be here?

我应该在这里吗？

There are many groups that I belong to, groups of English teachers, groups

我属于许多团体，英语教师团体，

of content creators, all sorts of different content creators who are

内容创作者团体，各种

all very successful and people that I look up to and think, "wow, you're

非常成功的不同内容创作者，以及我仰望并认为“哇，你

amazing" and I always put myself down within those groups and think to

太棒了”的人，我总是把自己放在那些群体中，然后对

myself, "Am I good enough to be here?"

自己说，“我足够好到这里吗？”

"Do I deserve to be amongst these people who are amazing?"

“我配得上这些了不起的人吗？”

So that all stems from perfectionism.

所以这一切都源于完美主义。

I'm a perfectionist, therefore I always doubt everything I do, and

我是一个完美主义者，所以我总是怀疑我所做的一切，

this can lead to imposter syndrome.

这会导致冒名顶替综合症。

Does anyone relate?

有人有关系吗？

Does anyone else feel that they themselves suffer with imposter syndrome or have

有没有其他人觉得他们自己患有冒名顶替综合症，或者

been, at times, a perfectionist to a point where it's delayed you producing

有时是一个完美主义者，以至于耽误了你的工作

work or getting something done?

或完成某件事？

And I guess you can relate this to speaking a language as well.

我猜你也可以将这与说一门语言联系起来。

So obviously you are here to learn English.

很明显你是来这里学习英语的。

You're English learners, you probably also know other languages as well, and

你是英语学习者，你可能也懂其他语言，

you must have felt at times nervous to hold a conversation with a native

与 母语为英语的人或其他学习相同语言的学生

speaker or another student also learning the same language because you feel like

进行对话时你一定会感到紧张， 因为你觉得

you are not going to be good enough because you want to be good, but you

自己不会做得很好够了，因为你想成为好人，但你

don't feel like you're good enough.

觉得自己不够好。

That is being a perfectionist.

那就是完美主义者。

Being scared to make mistakes, wanting to be perfect, and that making you stop or

害怕犯错误，想要完美，这让你停下来或

that restricting your ability to just get on and have a conversation in English.

限制你继续用英语交谈的能力。

Now, I will come on to a couple of things to think about and how to

现在，我将谈谈一些需要考虑的事情以及如何应对

deal with being a perfectionist.

成为一个完美主义者。

But before we get there, I thought I would take this opportunity to

但在我们到达那里之前，我想我会借此机会

introduce a couple of nice phrases that are linked to perfectionism.

介绍一些与完美主义相关的好词。

So the first phrase is one that always brings a smile to my face, and it's

所以第一个短语总是让我的脸上露出笑容，那就是

to have all your ducks in a row.

让你的鸭子排成一排。

To have all your ducks in a row.

让你所有的鸭子排成一排。

So here I'm talking about the animal "quack quack" the duck.

所以在这里我要说的是“嘎嘎嘎嘎”的动物鸭子。

And if you have all your ducks in a row, it means that you are well

如果你把所有的鸭子都排成一排，那就意味着你

organized and you have everything worked out, everything in order.

组织得很好，一切都安排好了，一切都井井有条。

So for example, if you are moving house, there are lots of things to organise.

因此，例如，如果您要搬家，则需要安排很多事情。

You need to organise the furniture removal van and the people

您需要组织家具搬运车和

that will help you to move your furniture from one place to another.

帮助您将家具从一处移到另一处的人员。

You might need to organise storage if you don't have a

如果您没有可以

house to move onto straight away.

立即搬入的房子，您可能需要整理储物空间。

You need to organise all the legalities around signing forms and documents

您需要组织所有围绕签署表格和文件的合法性

and liaising with the estate agents to organise handing over your property and

，并与房地产经纪人联络以组织移交您的财产并

getting your hands on the next property.

获得下一个财产。

So lots of things to organise.

有很多事情要组织。

You will need to have all your ducks in a row.

你需要把所有的鸭子排成一排。

I often find that I have some of my ducks in a row, but not all my ducks in a row.

我经常发现我的一些鸭子排成一排，但不是所有的鸭子排成一排。

Um, yeah, I am not a very organised person, even though on the surface I might

嗯，是的，我不是一个很有条理的人，尽管表面上我可能

seem to be an organised person, I just don't have enough time to complete...

看起来是一个有条理的人，我只是没有足够的时间来完成...

the organisation of things, there's always so much going on in life.

事情的组织，总是有很多事情要做在生活中。

I think I'm just in that very busy time in life, when you have young children

我想我正处于生活中非常忙碌的时期，当你有年幼的孩子

and you are at a certain level in your work, where you are maxed out.

并且你的工作处于某个水平时，你已经达到极限。

To be maxed out means you've reached the maximum pressure.

被最大化意味着你已经达到了最大压力。

I carry a heavy workload, so I'm maxed out with work and I'm maxed out in

我承担着繁重的工作量，所以我的工作已经达到极限，我的个人生活也已经达到极限，

my personal life with all the admin of having young kids and the lack of

因为要照顾年幼的孩子，睡眠不足

sleep and everything they need from me.

以及他们需要我提供的一切。

So trying to get all my ducks in a row is an endless task, it's very

所以努力让我所有的鸭子排成一排是一项永无止境的任务，很难

hard to achieve, but I will strive to get all my ducks in a row.

实现，但我会努力让我所有的鸭子排成一排。

Now the next phrase is to be a stickler for detail.

现在下一个短语是对细节的坚持。

A stickler, I don't hear the word stickler being used in any other

stickler，我没有听到 stickler 这个词

way other than as part of this phrase to be a stickler for detail.

除了作为这个短语的一部分被用作细节的一部分之外，没有以任何其他方式使用。

This is an idiom which describes someone who pays close attention

这是一个成语，形容做事非常注重

to detail, and they're very particular about how things are done.

细节，做事非常讲究。

So for example, if...

因此，例如，如果...

If I'm cleaning your house (and I always clean your house), and then one day I

如果我正在打扫你的房子（我总是打扫你的房子），然后有一天我

don't arrange the cushions on your sofa in a way that you like, maybe I put

没有按照你喜欢的方式在你的沙发上摆放垫子，也许我把

the cushions to one side of the sofa and you like the cushions to be evenly

垫子 放在 到沙发的一侧，您希望靠垫均匀

distributed across the back of the sofa.

分布在沙发的靠背上。

Then you might say, "Excuse me, Anna.

然后你可能会说，“对不起，安娜。

Sorry.

Before you go, can you please rearrange the cushions?

对不起。

在你走之前，你能重新整理一下靠垫吗？

Evenly distribute them across the back of the sofa, because

将它们均匀地分布在沙发靠背上，因为

that's exactly how I like it done, and you must do it that way".

这正是我喜欢的方式，你必须这样做”。

I could then describe you as being a stickler for detail.

然后我可以形容你是一个注重细节的人。

You are being very, very picky.

你非常非常挑剔。

You've paid really close attention to detail and you have a very particular

你非常关注细节，而且你

way that you like things to be done.

喜欢以一种非常特别的方式完成事情。

I don't think it's a good thing to be a stickler for detail, although

我不认为坚持细节是一件好事，尽管

in some cases it's fantastic to be a stickler for detail.

在某些情况下坚持细节是很棒的。

In the teaching world, it's good for a teacher to be a stickler for detail.

在教学界，老师坚持细节是件好事。

And if you are a proofreader or someone who works in accountancy, then you really

而且，如果您是校对员或从事会计工作的人，那么您确实

do need to be a stickler for detail.

需要坚持细节。

One missing number could really mess up someone's accounts.

一个丢失的号码真的会搞乱某人的账户。

So are you a stickler for detail?

那么你是一个注重细节的人吗？

Now the next phrase is quite similar, and again, it means to be

现在下一个短语非常相似，同样，它的意思是

focused on small details, but this is much more insignificant detail.

关注小细节，但这是微不足道的细节。

So if someone focuses on small, insignificant details, things

因此，如果有人专注于小的、无关紧要的细节、

that don't matter than they are nitpicking, they are a nitpicker.

无关紧要的事情而不是吹毛求疵，那么他们就是吹毛求疵的人。

I have been a nitpicker and I continue to be a nitpicker sometimes when I'm doing my

我一直是一个吹毛求疵的人，有时在我做

pronunciation assessments because people pay me good money to listen very closely

发音评估时我仍然是一个吹毛求疵的人，因为人们付给我很多钱让我非常仔细地听

to their pronunciation and to pick out all the aspects of their pronunciation

他们的发音，并 根据发音的接近程度来

in regards to how close it is to an RP accent, received pronunciation.

挑选他们发音的所有方面 是给RP口音，收到的发音。

And they want to know exactly what they need to change to sound like

他们想确切地知道他们需要改变什么才能听起来像

me, to have a a modern RP accent.

我，拥有现代 RP 口音。

And so, when I'm doing those assessments, I have to be a nitpicker.

因此，当我进行这些评估时，我必须挑剔。

I have to point out in some cases that this sound slightly slips and I will

我必须指出，在某些情况下，这种声音会略有失误，我会

say, "you know, I may be nitpicking here.

说，“你知道，我可能在这里吹毛求疵。

It's not that important.

这并不重要。

But if you want to be as close to perfect as possible, then you will

但如果你想尽可能接近完美，那么你将

need to address this particular sound and change it ever so slightly".

需要解决这个特殊的声音并稍微改变它”。

So to nitpick is to be overly critical or to focus on the very small details,

所以nitpick就是过分挑剔或者关注非常小的细节，

often unimportant, insignificant details.

往往是不重要的、微不足道的细节。

So generally nitpicking is not a good thing.

所以一般来说吹毛求疵不是什么好事。

Moving on to a very positive phrase, and it's the phrase, aim for the stars and

转到一个非常积极的短语，那就是短语，瞄准星星，

you might just land on the moon, aim for the stars, and you might land on the moon.

你可能会登陆月球，瞄准星星，你可能会登陆月球。

I like this phrase because it suggests that if you have really high expectations

我喜欢这句话，因为它表明如果你对某事抱有很高的期望

or aim for something, even further than you think you can achieve, you

或目标，甚至比你认为自己能实现的更远，你

might still land somewhere really good.

仍然可能会到达一个非常好的地方。

Am I explaining this very well?

我解释得很好吗？

I'm not sure.

我不知道。

If you want to do well in work and get a promotion, and there

如果你想在工作中表现出色并获得晋升，有

are two job roles available.

两个工作角色可供选择。

One of them is just one level up from where you are.

其中之一仅比您所在的位置高一级。

It's not a huge promotion, but it's something that you think you'll be

这不是一个巨大的提升，但它是您认为自己会

good at and is achievable for you.

擅长并且可以实现的事情。

And another job that's available is three levels above where you,

另一份可用的工作比你所在的位置高出三个级别，

you'd love to do it, but it's three levels above where you are.

你喜欢做它，但它比你所在的位置高出三个级别。

It's very unlikely you're going to get it.

你不太可能得到它。

This phrase, aim for the stars and you might just land on the moon.

这句话，瞄准星星，你可能会登上月球。

This phrase would suggest that you should aim for something higher, aim

这句话暗示你应该瞄准更高的东西，瞄准

for something that's not as achievable, and by doing that you give yourself a

一些不太可能实现的东西，通过这样做，你给自己一个

chance of getting that higher thing and you will probably get something good,

获得更高目标的机会，你可能会得到一些好的东西，

even though it might not be as good as the stars that you're aiming for.

即使它可能没有那么好作为你瞄准的星星。

So by applying for the role that's three levels above where you are, you'll

因此，通过申请比你所在级别高三级的职位，你可能

probably still get the promotion just one level above you, even if you don't get

仍会获得比你高一级的晋升，即使你没有获得比

the one three levels above you, but you might get the one three levels above you.

你高一级的三级，但你可能会获得一级三级在你上面。

It reminds me of the phrase, you've got to be in it to win it.

这让我想起了这句话，你必须参与其中才能赢得胜利。

If you don't try, you'll never, but that's a slightly different phrase, and

如果你不尝试，你永远不会，但这是一个稍微不同的短语，

it's certainly not about perfectionism.

它当然不是关于完美主义。

So this is about reaching further than you believe you can get to.

所以这是关于比你认为你能到达的更远。

So setting your sights a little higher, or that's a nice phrase, to set your

所以把你的眼光放高一点，或者这是一个很好的短语，把你的

sights high or to set your sights a little higher than you normally would.

眼光放高一点，或者把你的眼光放得比平时高一点。

If you set your sight on something then this means, uh, what you are aiming at,

如果你把目光投向某个东西，那么这意味着，呃，你的目标是什么，

what you are looking at, what you are going for, to set your sights on something

你正在看什么，你要做什么，把你的目光投向

a little higher than you normally would.

比你平时更高一点的东西。

Hopefully all of you do, set your sights on something quite high and achieve good

希望你们所有人都这样做，将目光投向很高的目标并取得好

things, especially with your English.

成绩，尤其是在英语方面。

Don't be afraid to get involved in conversations.

不要害怕参与对话。

Don't strive for perfection with your English.

不要追求完美的英语。

Just communicate.

只是沟通。

Just practice, practice, practice, practice, practice, practice,

只是练习、练习、练习、练习、练习、练习，

because practice makes progress.

因为练习会进步。

Now the phrase normally is practice makes perfect, but we know that

现在这句话通常是熟能生巧，但我们知道

perfect and striving for perfect is flawed, problematic at best.

完美和追求完美是有缺陷的，充其量是有问题的。

There is a saying or a proverb that goes, the perfect is the enemy of the good.

俗话说，完美是优秀的敌人。

So simplified, perfect is the enemy of good.

如此简单，完美是优秀的敌人。

You'll never achieve good if you aim for perfect because of all the reasons

由于

I've brought up; procrastination, indecision, actually not getting something

我提出的所有原因，如果你追求完美，你永远不会取得好成绩；拖延，优柔寡断，实际上没有完成某件事

done because you are scared to even start, because you want to be perfect.

，因为你甚至害怕开始，因为你想要完美。

So don't let perfection, or your pursuit of perfection impede your

所以不要让完美，或者你对完美的追求阻碍了你

ability just to achieve something good.

成就美好事物的能力。

This is something I should remind myself of when creating YouTube videos.

这是我在制作 YouTube 视频时应该提醒自己的事情。

Sometimes I'll spend a long, a long time creating a YouTube idea, script,

有时我会花很长时间来创建一个 YouTube 创意、脚本、

filming it, and then sorting out the edit and then decide not to post it

拍摄它，然后整理编辑，然后决定不发布它，

because I don't think it's perfect.

因为我认为它不完美。

And in fact, when I look back at my YouTube videos of the past, the

事实上，当我回顾我过去的 YouTube 视频时，那些

ones that have done the best are the ones that I nearly didn't post

做得最好的是我几乎没有发布的那些，

because I thought they were awful.

因为我认为它们很糟糕。

And obviously the viewers disagreed with me, they enjoyed

很明显，观众不同意我的看法，他们很喜欢

it and those videos did well.

，而且那些视频做得很好。

And on the flip side, on the flip side means opposite to that.

另一方面，在反面意味着与此相反。

On the flip side are videos that I thought were fantastic, that I'm

另一方面是我认为很棒的视频，我真的

really proud of, that I thought, everyone's going to love this video.

很自豪，我认为每个人都会喜欢这个视频。

I've put my heart and my soul into this.

我已经把我的心和我的灵魂投入其中。

It's perfect or near enough to perfect, and, and they've just flopped.

它是完美的或接近完美的，而且，他们刚刚失败了。

They've, you know, performed very badly.

你知道，他们的表现非常糟糕。

So I have to remind myself not to allow my pursuit of perfection to impede

所以我必须提醒自己，不要让我对完美的追求阻碍

my ability to achieve something good.

我取得成就的能力。

There's a really great quote from Henry Kissinger who says, A diamond

亨利·基辛格 (Henry Kissinger) 有一句名言，他说，钻石

is a chunk of coal that did well under pressure, and I love that.

是一块在压力下表现良好的煤，我喜欢这句话。

I love that.

我喜欢那个。

A diamond is a chunk of coal that did well under pressure.

钻石是一块在压力下表现良好的煤。

I like it so much because it highlights the idea that often it's the process of

我非常喜欢它，因为它强调了这样一个想法，即通常是

overcoming obstacles, of fighting and dealing with pressure and difficulties

克服障碍、战斗和处理压力和困难 的过程

that creates something valuable.

才能创造出有价值的东西。

So some of the best people who are good at what they do have had to go

因此，一些擅长他们所做的事情的最优秀的人必须经历

through hardship and difficulties and failure in order to arrive

艰辛、困难和失败才能到达

at the place where they are.

他们所在的地方。

A place that some perceive as being perfect.

一些人认为完美的地方。

For example, you rarely get an athlete who started off

例如，您很少会遇到一开始就

being fantastic in their sport.

在他们的运动中表现出色的运动员。

You know, they often had to work really hard to get where they end up, in

你知道，他们常常不得不非常努力地工作才能到达最终的位置，即

a place of success and achievement.

成功和成就的地方。

Even those people who are polyglots with multiple languages under their belt.

即使是那些通晓多种语言的人。

They're able to speak fluently in all of those languages and you look

他们能够流利地说所有这些语言，你看着

at them and think, "wow, they must just have a knack for language".

他们会想，“哇，他们一定有语言天赋”。

But actually they've probably gone through a lot to get to where they are.

但实际上他们可能已经经历了很多事情才能到达现在的位置。

They've had to work very hard under pressure, perhaps overcome

他们不得不在压力下非常努力地工作，也许要克服

obstacles, overcome confidence issues, give up a lot of time and

障碍，克服信心问题，放弃大量的时间和

energy in order to achieve this level of fluency in multiple languages.

精力，才能达到这种流利的多语言水平。

So just keep that quote in mind.

所以请记住这句话。

A diamond is a chunk of coal that did well under pressure.

钻石是一块在压力下表现良好的煤。

Okay.

好的。

I did promise at the beginning of this that I would offer some

我在一开始就承诺过，我会

words of advice for any other fellow perfectionists out there.

为其他任何完美主义者提供一些建议。

So I've got three pieces of advice or three tips we could say if

因此，如果 您自己是完美主义者，

you are yourself a perfectionist.

我可以提供三条建议或三个提示

So the first hip is to set realistic goals.

。 因此，首要任务是设定切合实际的目标。

We often, we perfectionists, we often set unrealistic goals for ourselves and

我们经常，我们这些完美主义者，我们经常为自己设定不切实际的目标，

when we do that, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment and frustration.

当我们这样做时，我们会让自己陷入失望和沮丧之中。

So by setting realistic goals and expectations that can help to reduce our

因此，通过设定现实的目标和期望，可以帮助减轻我们的

stress and increase our productivity.

压力并提高我们的生产力。

A very good example of this for me was my upload schedule.

对我来说，一个很好的例子就是我的上传时间表。

So I started this podcast thinking I'm going to produce at least

所以我开始这个播客时想着我每周至少要制作

one podcast episode a week, and I was doing one long form piece

一集播客，而且我在我的 YouTube 频道上制作了一个长篇

of content on my YouTube channel.

内容。

So a 10-minute video a week, a 25-minute podcast episode a week.

所以每周 10 分钟的视频，每周 25 分钟的播客节目。

And then I wanted to do a short video every day.

然后我想每天做一个短片。

So that's seven shorts a week.

所以这是每周七条短裤。

And I was also trying to make these podcasts into videos.

我还试图将这些播客制作成视频。

An extra long video every week made from the podcast audio alongside my normal

每周从播客音频制作一个超长视频，以及我

contributions to my course students and my live streams that I do for them.

对课程学生的正常贡献和我为他们做的直播。

And all the, the stuff that goes on in the backend, running the courses,

以及所有在后端发生的事情，运行课程，

doing the admin, all that kind of stuff.

做管理员，所有这些事情。

I'd set such unrealistic goals for myself, that was too heavy a schedule,

我为自己设定了如此不切实际的目标，那是一个太沉重的时间表，

considering I only work four days a week because of my, my childcare

考虑到我每周只工作四天，因为我，我的儿童保育

limitations and it's just too much.

限制而且太多了。

It's just too much.

太过分了。

They were unrealistic goals, and guess what?

他们是不切实际的目标，你猜怎么着？

Very quickly I suffered from burnout.

很快我就筋疲力尽了。

I was overwhelmed.

我不知所措。

I felt stressed.

我感到压力很大。

I felt like I started creating things in a rush, which really bothered me

我觉得我开始匆忙地创造东西，这真的让我很困扰，

because I'm a perfectionist, and so it just all fell apart and I was very

因为我是一个完美主义者，所以一切都崩溃了，我感到非常

frustrated and disappointed and exhausted.

沮丧、失望和疲惫。

Tip number one, set yourself realistic goals.

秘诀一，为自己设定切合实际的目标。

It just reduces a lot of the pressure.

它只是减轻了很多压力。

Tip number two for you perfectionists, is to practice self-compassion.

给完美主义者的第二个秘诀是练习自我同情。

Be kind to yourself.

善待自己。

Perfectionists tend to be too hard on themselves.

完美主义者往往对自己太苛刻。

To be hard on yourself means that you criticise yourself harshly and unfairly,

对自己苛刻意味着你严厉和不公平地批评自己，

especially when you make mistakes.

尤其是当你犯错的时候。

So if you are the kind of person who really beats yourself up when

所以如果你是那种当

you make a mistake or you feel like you haven't done a good enough job,

你犯错时真的会痛打自己的人，或者你觉得自己做得不够好，

then you definitely need to learn to just give yourself an easier time.

那么你肯定需要学会让自己轻松一些。

Let yourself off.

放开自己。

Forgive yourself.

原谅你自己。

Be compassionate about the difficulties you had to deal with.

对你必须处理的困难要有同情心。

Why did you fail?

你为什么失败了？

Did you set unrealistic goals?

你是否设定了不切实际的目标？

You know, understand why you feel that way and try to just,

你知道，理解你为什么会有这种感觉，然后试着让

yeah, be easier on yourself.

自己轻松一点。

Be kinder to yourself and also factor in a little bit of self-care.

善待自己，并考虑一点自我保健。

This is something we tend to overlook.

这是我们容易忽视的一点。

If we're perfectionists and we are workaholics, especially, we tend

如果我们是完美主义者和工作狂，我们往往

not to practise enough self-care.

不会进行足够的自我保健。

So things like taking some time out just to relax or do something

所以，比如花点时间放松一下，或者做一些

that helps you to wind down.

有助于放松的事情。

Prioritising sleep and fitness and general good health.

优先考虑睡眠和健身以及整体健康。

Okay, so that's tip number two, practise self-compassion and self-care.

好吧，那就是第二个秘诀，练习自我同情和自我照顾。

Number three is learn to let go.

第三是学会放手。

In the famous words of, is it Anna?

用名言来说，是安娜吗？

No Elsa from Frozen?

没有《冰雪奇缘》中的艾尔莎？

Let it go.

放手吧。

Just let it go.

放手吧。

We often struggle to let things go.

我们常常很难放手。

And we struggle to move on when we do make mistakes or when we feel like something's

当我们确实犯了错误，或者当我们觉得某事不完美时，我们会努力继续前进，

imperfect, we focus on it and, and just again, beat ourselves up about it.

我们会专注于它，然后再一次为此自责。

We make it more important than it actually is.

我们让它比实际更重要。

So forget about that.

所以忘了那个吧。

Let yourself off.

放开自己。

To let someone off is to allow them to, um, how do you explain this?

让某人下车就是允许他们，嗯，你怎么解释这个？

To let someone off, is someone, um, escapes without punishment.

让某人离开，就是某人，嗯，不受惩罚地逃脱。

So if I tell you you can't eat my biscuits and I catch you with your

所以，如果我告诉你你不能吃我的饼干，而我抓住你的手

hand in the biscuit tin, and I don't want to tell you off because

伸进饼干罐里，我不想责备你，因为

I'm too tired and you're looking at me with those big puppy dog eyes.

我太累了，而你正用那些大眼睛看着我小狗的眼睛。

Then I say, "oh fine.

然后我说，“哦好吧。

I'll let you off, have one.

我会放过你，吃一个。

I'll let you off this time, but don't eat my cookies again.

这次我会放过你，但不要再吃我的饼干。不要吃

Don't eat my biscuits.

我的饼干。

They're my biscuits.

它们是我的饼干。

But I'll let you off this time".

但是这次就放过你。”

So you have to learn to let things go.

所以你必须学会​​放手。

Don't hold on to the past.

不要执着于过去。

Don't hold on to bad things or seemingly bad things that have happened in the past.

不要执着于过去发生的坏事或看似坏事。

Just let it go.

放手吧。

Go easy on yourself and just focus on moving forward and what comes next.

对自己放轻松，只专注于前进和接下来会发生什么。

Remember that making mistakes is actually a good thing.

请记住，犯错误实际上是一件好事。

In fact, you know, perfection is often all in the journey.

事实上，您知道，完美往往就在旅途中。

If you do ever reach perfection, then you have to go a long

如果你真的达到了完美，那么你必须走很长的

way in order to get there.

路才能到达那里。

You have to endure lots of obstacles and lots of pressure, lots of failure

你必须忍受很多障碍和压力，很多失败

in order to reach desired perfection.

才能达到理想的完美。

Okay, I think I have discussed, gone on, rambled about perfection for long enough.

好吧，我想我已经讨论、继续、漫谈完美了足够长的时间。

So I do hope you found today helpful.

所以我希望今天对您有所帮助。

Don't be a stickler for the details unless you're an accountant.

除非你是一名会计师，否则不要太拘泥于细节。

Remember, a diamond is a chunk of coal that did well under pressure.

请记住，钻石是一块在压力下表现良好的煤炭。

Thank you for listening.

谢谢你的聆听。

Take care and goodbye.

保重，再见。

Would you like to download the podcast transcript?

您想下载播客转录本吗？

Would you like to join lots of speaking classes every week and practise your

您想每周参加很多口语课程并练习您的

English speaking without fear of being judged for not being perfect?

英语口语而不用担心被评判为不完美吗？

Then consider joining my club.

然后考虑加入我的俱乐部。

Link is in the description.

链接在描述中。