5 ways to kill your dreams | Bel Pesce

Translator: Irida Zaimi Reviewer: Helena Bedalli

Dy vitet e fundit jam munduar te kuptoj

I dedicated the past two years to understanding

how people achieve their dreams.

se si njerezit permbushin enderrat e tyre

When we think about the dreams we have,

Kur u referohemi enderrave qe kemi

and the dent we want to leave in the universe,

dhe shenjes qe duam te leme pas ne bote,

e habitshme te shohesh se sa pak perkojne

it is striking to see how big of an overlap there is

between the dreams that we have, and projects that never happen.

enderrat qe kemi dhe ato qe nuk arrijme.

(Laughter)

(te qeshura)

So I'm here to talk to you today

Keshtu, jam sot ketu t'u flas

about five ways how not to follow your dreams.

per 5 forma si te MOS ti ndjekim enderrat.

Nje: te besosh ne suksesin brenda nates.

One: Believe in overnight success.

You know the story, right?

E dini ate historine tipike, apo jo?

The tech guy built a mobile app and sold it very fast for a lot of money.

Gjeniu teknologjik qe krijoi nje app, e me pas e shiti menjehere per shume para.

You know, the story may seem real, but I bet it's incomplete.

Historia mund te tingelloje si e vertete, por vë bast qe eshte version i pjesshëm.

If you go investigate further,

Nese qellon qe 'investigoni' me tutje

the guy has done 30 apps before

ka te ngjare qe ky individ ka krijuar 30 programe te ngjashme me pare

and he has done a master's on the topic, a PhD.

ka mbaruar nje master ne kete fushe, po ashtu dhe doktoraturen.

He has been working on the topic for 20 years.

Ka te ngjare te kete punuar per projektin per 20 vjet.

This is really interesting.

Kjo eshte shume interesante.

I myself have a story in Brazil that people think is an overnight success.

Vete kam nje histori ne Brazil, qe mendohet si sukses i arritur brenda nates.

I come from a humble family,

Une vij nga nje familje me te ardhura modeste,

and two weeks before the deadline to apply for MIT,

dhe dy jave para skadimit te afatit per te aplikuar ne MIT

I started the application process.

fillova procesin e aplikimit.

And, voilà! I got in.

Dhe… u pranova !

People may think it's an overnight success,

Njerezit mendojne qe ishte nje sukses i menjehershem, i brenda nates

but that only worked because for the 17 years prior to that,

por une mendoj qe ndodhi fale punes se bere per 17 vjet para asaj,

I took life and education seriously.

Une e kam marre jeten dhe edukimin gjithmone seriozisht.

Your overnight success story is always a result

Miti i suksesit brenda nates eshte nje rezultat

of everything you've done in your life through that moment.

e cdo gjeje qe kemi bere ne jete deri ne ato momente.

Two: Believe someone else has the answers for you.

Dy: Te besosh qe dikush tjeter i ka gati pergjigjet per ty.

Constantly, people want to help out, right?

Njerezit duan te na ndihmojne, apo jo ?

All sorts of people: your family, your friends, your business partners,

Ata qe na rrethojne: familja, miqte, koleget

te gjithe kane idete e tyre kundrejt udhes qe ne duhet te ndjekim

they all have opinions on which path you should take:

"And let me tell you, go through this pipe."

Varianti "ndiq kete rruge"

But whenever you go inside,

dhe gjate ketij rrugetimi, ka dhe rrugica te vogla qe duhet te pershkosh

there are other ways you have to pick as well.

And you need to make those decisions yourself.

dhe ato vendime duhet ti marresh vete

No one else has the perfect answers for your life.

Askush s'i ka pergjigjet e duhura per jeten tende.

And you need to keep picking those decisions, right?

Dhe te duhet ti marresh disa vendime,apo jo?

The pipes are infinite and you're going to bump your head,

Udhet jane te pafundme dhe diku ka te ngjare do e 'godasesh' koken

and it's a part of the process.

eshte e gjitha pjese e procesit.

Three, and it's very subtle but very important:

Tre: shume delikate por e rendesishme

Decide to settle when growth is guaranteed.

Te ndalosh kur suksesi duket i garantuar

So when your life is going great,

Pra kur jeta po shkon shkelqyeshem

you have put together a great team,

dhe ke formuar nje grup te mire

and you have growing revenue, and everything is set --

kur ke te ardhura ne rritje dhe cdo gje eshte sic duhet

time to settle.

duket se vjen koha per te pushuar.

When I launched my first book,

Kur publikova librin e pare

Punova shume qe ta shperndaja kudo ne Brazil

I worked really, really hard to distribute it everywhere in Brazil.

mbi 3 milion njerez e shkarkuan nga rrjeti

With that, over three million people downloaded it,

over 50,000 people bought physical copies.

mbi 50,000 blene kopjet ne librari

When I wrote a sequel, some impact was guaranteed.

Kur shkrova vazhdimin, dicka prej suksesit ishte i garantuar

Even if I did little, sales would be OK.

dhe sikur te mundohesha me pak, shitjet do ishin mire

But OK is never OK.

por OK nuk eshte kurre OK

When you're growing towards a peak,

Nese po ecen drejt majes

you need to work harder than ever and find yourself another peak.

duhet te punosh me fort per nje maje te re.

Maybe if I did little,

Nese do kisha bere me pak, ndoshta dy-treqind mije vete do e kishin lexuar

a couple hundred thousand people would read it,

and that's great already.

(dhe kjo eshte mire ne vetvete)

But if I work harder than ever,

por nese do te punoja me fort se kurre

I can bring this number up to millions.

mund ta rris kete numer ne milione

That's why I decided, with my new book, to go to every single state of Brazil.

Ndaj librin e promovova ne cdo qytet

And I can already see a higher peak.

dhe e dalloj qe tani majen e re

There's no time to settle down.

Nuk ka kohe te ndalesh, te pushosh.

Fourth tip, and that's really important:

Kater: dhe shume e rendesishme:

Believe the fault is someone else's.

te besosh qe fajin e ka dikush tjeter.

I constantly see people saying,

Gjithmone shoh njerez qe thone

kam patur ide te medha, por nuk kam fonde

"Yes, I had this great idea, but no investor had the vision to invest."

Ose kam krijuar kete produkt fantastik

"Oh, I created this great product,

but the market is so bad, the sales didn't go well."

por tregu eshte kaq keq sa s'pata shitje.

Or, "I can't find good talent; my team is so below expectations."

nuk gjej njerez te afte per grupin tim

If you have dreams,

Nese ke enderra

it's your responsibility to make them happen.

eshte pergjegjesia jote ti permbushesh

Yes, it may be hard to find talent.

Po. Eshte e veshtire te gjesh te talentuar

Yes, the market may be bad.

Po. Tregu mund te jete i dobet.

But if no one invested in your idea,

por nese askush nuk investoi ne idene

if no one bought your product,

apo askush nuk e bleu produktin

for sure, there is something there that is your fault.

ka dicka ne kete mes qe eshte faji yt

(Laughter)

(te qeshura)

Definitely.

Pa diskutim!

You need to get your dreams and make them happen.

Duhet ti kesh enderrat dhe ti realizosh ato.

And no one achieved their goals alone.

dhe askush nuk i arriti objektivat vetem.

But if you didn't make them happen, it's your fault and no one else's.

por nese nuk i realizove, eshte faji yt dhe i askujt tjeter

Be responsible for your dreams.

Behu i pergjegjshem per enderrat e tua!

Ah dhe dicka te fundit te rendesishme

And one last tip, and this one is really important as well:

Believe that the only things that matter are the dreams themselves.

Beso qe e vetmja gje qe vlen eshte enderra vete.

Once I saw an ad, and it was a lot of friends,

Dikur pashe 1 reklame ku disa miq

they were going up a mountain, it was a very high mountain,

po ngjiteshin maje nje mali shume te larte,

and it was a lot of work.

duhej shume mund.

You could see that they were sweating and this was tough.

Arrije te dalloje qe ishin te stermunduar,

And they were going up, and they finally made it to the peak.

dhe ndersa ngjiteshin arriten majen.

Of course, they decided to celebrate, right?

Sigurisht vendosen ta festonin.

I'm going to celebrate, so, "Yes! We made it, we're at the top!"

Duhet ta festoj, patjeter,

Po! Ja dolem - jemi ne maje.

Two seconds later, one looks at the other and says,

2 sek me vone njeri sheh tjetrin dhe i thote,

"OK, let's go down."

Tani, hajde zbresim!

(Laughter)

(te qeshura)

Life is never about the goals themselves.

Jeta nuk eshte per objektivat vetem.

Life is about the journey.

jeta eshte udhetimi.

Yes, you should enjoy the goals themselves,

padyshim ti shijosh objektivat

but people think that you have dreams,

por njerezit mendojne qe nese ke enderra,

and whenever you get to reaching one of those dreams,

dhe kurdo i permbush qofte dhe njeren

it's a magical place where happiness will be all around.

mberrin diku ku lumturia te rrethon.

But achieving a dream is a momentary sensation,

Te realizosh nje enderr eshte nje ndjesi e shkurter

ndersa jeta jote nuk eshte e tille.

and your life is not.

The only way to really achieve all of your dreams

E vetmja menyre ti besh te gjitha

is to fully enjoy every step of your journey.

eshte te shijosh cdo hap te udhes.

That's the best way.

Kjo eshte menyra me e mire.

And your journey is simple -- it's made of steps.

Udhetimi eshte i thjeshte, mbushur me hapa

Disa hapa do te hidhen mire

Some steps will be right on.

Sometimes you will trip.

tek disa do te pengohesh

If it's right on, celebrate, because some people wait a lot to celebrate.

per hapat e mbare, festo sepse shume presin te festojne

And if you tripped, turn that into something to learn.

Dhe nese pengohesh, shihe si mesim

If every step becomes something to learn or something to celebrate,

Nese cdo hap eshte nje mesim apo nje feste

you will for sure enjoy the journey.

me siguri qe do ta shijoni udhetimin.

So, five tips:

Pra 5 keshilla:

Believe in overnight success,

Beso ne suksesin e brenda nates,

believe someone else has the answers for you,

beso qe dikush i ka pergjigjet per ty

believe that when growth is guaranteed, you should settle down,

beso qe duhet te ndalesh kur dicka e arrin

believe the fault is someone else's,

beso qe faji eshte i dikujt tjeter

and believe that only the goals themselves matter.

dhe beso qe vetem objektivat kane rendesi

Believe me, you do that, and you will destroy your dreams.

Besomeni, nese beni keto do ti shkaterroni enderrat tuaja.

(Laughter)

(te qeshura)

(Applause)

(duartrokitje)

Thank you.

(duartrokitje)

Thanks.

(Applause)