5 ways to kill your dreams | Bel Pesce

Translator: Saidaziz A'zamov Reviewer: Nazarbek Nazarov

I dedicated the past two years to understanding

Men oxirgi ikki yilimni insonlar qanday

how people achieve their dreams.

o'z orzulariga erishishini tushunishga urindim.

When we think about the dreams we have,

Biz orzularimiz va fazoda qoldirmoqchi

and the dent we want to leave in the universe,

bo‘lgan izimiz haqida o'ylar ekanmiz,

it is striking to see how big of an overlap there is

orzularimiz va amalga oshmagan ishlar orasida

between the dreams that we have, and projects that never happen.

qanchalik katta tafovut borligini ko‘rib hayratda qolamiz.

(Laughter)

(Kulgu)

So I'm here to talk to you today

Shunday qilib bugun huzuringizda

about five ways how not to follow your dreams.

orzular sari intilmaslikning 5 yo‘li haqida so‘zlamoqchiman.

One: Believe in overnight success.

Birinchisi: Bir kechada muvaffaqiyatga erishishga ishoning.

You know the story, right?

Shunaqa hikoyani bilasiz-ku, a?

The tech guy built a mobile app and sold it very fast for a lot of money.

Texnika dahosi bo‘lgan yigit mobil ilova yasab, darrov katta pulga sotadi.

You know, the story may seem real, but I bet it's incomplete.

Hikoya rostdek tuyular, ammo garov o‘ynaymanki, uni to‘lig‘icha eshitmaganmiz.

If you go investigate further,

Agar izlanishda davom etsak, u bola

the guy has done 30 apps before

avval 30 ta ilovani yasaganini, shu mavzuda

and he has done a master's on the topic, a PhD.

magistraturani, PhD dasturini bitirganini bilib olamiz.

He has been working on the topic for 20 years.

U 20 yillab shu masala ustida ishlagan.

This is really interesting.

Bu chindan ham qiziq.

I myself have a story in Brazil that people think is an overnight success.

O‘zimning Braziliyadagi hikoyamni ham odamlar bir kechadagi muvaffaqiyat deb hisoblaydi.

I come from a humble family,

Men soddaroq oiladanman va oxirgi muddatga

and two weeks before the deadline to apply for MIT,

ikki hafta qolganida Massachussets Texnologiya Institutiga

I started the application process.

hujjat topshirishni boshlaganman.

And, voilà! I got in.

va buni qarabsizki!.. Meni qabul qilishdi.

People may think it's an overnight success,

Odamlar buni bir kechadagi muvaffaqiyat deb o'ylashlari

but that only worked because for the 17 years prior to that,

mumkin, lekin bu ish shungacha bo‘lgan 17 yilimda

hayotim va ta'limga jiddiy qaraganim uchungina amalga oshdi.

I took life and education seriously.

Your overnight success story is always a result

Sizning bir kechadagi muvaffaqiyatingiz har doim

of everything you've done in your life through that moment.

o‘sha lahzagacha hayotda qilgan ishlaringiz natijasidir.

Two: Believe someone else has the answers for you.

Ikkinchisi: So‘roqlaringizga boshqa odamlarda javoblar borligiga ishoning.

Constantly, people want to help out, right?

Hamisha odamlar yordam qilgisi keladi, to‘g‘rimi?

All sorts of people: your family, your friends, your business partners,

Turli odamlar: oilangiz, do‘stlaringiz, biznes hamkorlaringiz,

they all have opinions on which path you should take:

hammaning qaysi yo‘lni tanlashingiz kerakligi haqda o‘z fikri bor:

"And let me tell you, go through this pipe."

"Men seni bunday qilishingni maslahat beraman".

But whenever you go inside,

Lekin unga kirganingizda

there are other ways you have to pick as well.

tanlashingiz kerak bo‘lgan boshqa yo‘laklar chiqadi

And you need to make those decisions yourself.

va o‘sha qarorlarni o‘zingiz qabul qilishingiz zarur.

No one else has the perfect answers for your life.

Sizning hayotingiz uchun hech kimda ideal javoblar yo‘q.

And you need to keep picking those decisions, right?

Va siz qaror qabul qilishda davom etishingiz kerak.

The pipes are infinite and you're going to bump your head,

Quvurlarning oxiri ko‘rinmaydi, siz esa boshingizni urib

and it's a part of the process.

olasiz, bu esa jarayonning bir qismi.

Three, and it's very subtle but very important:

Uchinchisi, eng nozik, ham eng muhimi:

Decide to settle when growth is guaranteed.

O‘sishingiz kafolatlanganda harakatdan to‘xtang.

So when your life is going great,

Demak, hayotingiz zo‘r ketyapti,

you have put together a great team,

birgalikda zo‘r jamoa yig‘gansiz

and you have growing revenue, and everything is set --

daromadingiz oshib bormoqda, hammasi o‘z joyida

time to settle.

harakatdan to‘xtash vaqti keldi.

When I launched my first book,

Birinchi kitobimni chiqarganimda

I worked really, really hard to distribute it everywhere in Brazil.

uni butun Braziliya bo‘ylab tarqatish uchun jon-jahdim bilan

With that, over three million people downloaded it,

ishlaganman. Shunda uni 3 milliondan oshiq odam

over 50,000 people bought physical copies.

yuklab olgan, 50 mingdan ziyod odam qog‘ozli versiyasini

When I wrote a sequel, some impact was guaranteed.

xarid qilgan. Davomini yozganimda ba'zi natijalar kafolatlangan edi.

Even if I did little, sales would be OK.

Kamroq ishlasam ham sotuvlar yaxshi bo‘lardi.

But OK is never OK.

Ammo "yaxshi" degani aslida yetarlimas.

When you're growing towards a peak,

Bir cho‘qqiga qarab ko‘tarilib borarkansiz,

you need to work harder than ever and find yourself another peak.

har qachongidan ko‘proq zahmat chekishingiz va

Maybe if I did little,

boshqa cho‘qqiga chiqishingiz kerak

a couple hundred thousand people would read it,

Balki biroz uringanimda bir-ikki yuz ming odam

and that's great already.

uni o‘qirdi va bu zo‘r natija.

But if I work harder than ever,

Lekin ko‘proq harakat qilsam,

I can bring this number up to millions.

raqamlarni millionlarga chiqarishim mumkin.

That's why I decided, with my new book, to go to every single state of Brazil.

Shu sabab, yangi kitobim bilan Braziliyaning har bir shtatiga

borishga qaror qildim, balandroq cho‘qqini ko‘rganda esa

And I can already see a higher peak.

There's no time to settle down.

harakatdan to‘xtashga vaqt qolmaydi.

Fourth tip, and that's really important:

To‘rtinchi, muhim maslahat:

Believe the fault is someone else's.

Ayb boshqa birovda ekaniga ishoning.

I constantly see people saying,

Hamisha odamlar: "Zo‘r g‘oyam bor edi, hech

"Yes, I had this great idea, but no investor had the vision to invest."

bir investor uni tushuna olmadi", "Mana zo‘r mahsulot yaratdim,

"Oh, I created this great product,

lekin bozorning ahvoli yomon edi,

but the market is so bad, the sales didn't go well."

sotuvlar yaxshi bo‘lib ketmadi" yoki "Yaxshi ishchilar topolmayapman, jamoam

Or, "I can't find good talent; my team is so below expectations."

kutganimdan ancha yomon" deganiga guvoh bo‘laman.

If you have dreams,

Orzularingiz bormi,

it's your responsibility to make them happen.

ularni amalga oshirish sizning zimmangizda.

Yes, it may be hard to find talent.

Ha, iqtidorli ishchi topish qiyin bo‘lishi mumkin.

Yes, the market may be bad.

Ha, bozor yomon bo‘lishi mumkin.

But if no one invested in your idea,

Lekin hech kim g‘oyangizga pul tikmagan yoki

if no one bought your product,

mahsulotingizni hech kim sotib olmagan

for sure, there is something there that is your fault.

bo'lsa, albatta bunda o‘zingizning qandaydir aybingiz bor.

(Laughter)

(Kulishadi)

Definitely.

Albatta.

You need to get your dreams and make them happen.

Orzularingizni shartta olib, ro‘yobga chiqarishingiz zarur.

And no one achieved their goals alone.

Hech kim maqsadlariga bitta o‘zi erishmagan.

But if you didn't make them happen, it's your fault and no one else's.

Biroq ularni ro‘yobga chiqarmasangiz, bu hech kimning emas, aynan sizning aybingizdir.

Be responsible for your dreams.

Orzularingiz uchun o‘zingiz javobgar bo‘ling.

And one last tip, and this one is really important as well:

Yana bir oxirgi maslahat va bunisi ham haqiqatda muhim:

Believe that the only things that matter are the dreams themselves.

Orzularning o‘zigina ahamiyatli ekaniga ishoning.

Once I saw an ad, and it was a lot of friends,

Bir kuni bir reklama ko‘rdim-da, unda bir talay do‘stlar

they were going up a mountain, it was a very high mountain,

tog‘ga chiqishayotgan edi. Tog‘ juda baland bo‘lib, rosa

and it was a lot of work.

g'ayrat to'kishayotgandi.

You could see that they were sweating and this was tough.

Ularning terlayotgani va qiynalayotganini ko‘rish mumkin edi.

And they were going up, and they finally made it to the peak.

Ular tepaga ko'tarilishdi va oxir-oqibat ular cho‘qqiga ham yetishdi.

Of course, they decided to celebrate, right?

Albatta, ular buni nishonlamoqchi edi.

I'm going to celebrate, so, "Yes! We made it, we're at the top!"

Demak, "Ha, biz buni uddaladik, biz tog‘ning eng tepasidamiz!" deyishdi.

Two seconds later, one looks at the other and says,

Ikki soniya o‘tib, biri boshqasiga qaradi va dedi:

"OK, let's go down."

"Mayli, ketdik pastga tushamiz."

(Laughter)

(Kulishadi)

Life is never about the goals themselves.

Yashash degani hech qachon maqsadlarning o‘zi emas.

Life is about the journey.

Hayot misli sarguzashtdir.

Yes, you should enjoy the goals themselves,

Ha, maqsadlarning o‘zidan baxra olish kerak,

but people think that you have dreams,

lekin odamlar o‘ylashadiki, sizning orzularingiz bor va

and whenever you get to reaching one of those dreams,

qachondir o‘sha orzulardan biriga yetishganingizda

it's a magical place where happiness will be all around.

mo‘jizali davr keladi va atrof baxtga to‘la bo‘ladi.

But achieving a dream is a momentary sensation,

Lekin orzuning ushalishi bir lahzalik tuyg‘u,

and your life is not.

hayot esa unday emas.

The only way to really achieve all of your dreams

Barcha orzularga chinakamiga erishishning yagona yo‘li

is to fully enjoy every step of your journey.

bosib o‘tilajak so‘qmoqdagi har bir qadamdan to‘liq zavqlanishdir.

That's the best way.

Bu eng zo‘r yo‘li.

And your journey is simple -- it's made of steps.

Bosib o‘tadiganimiz esa oddiy qadamlardan iborat.

Some steps will be right on.

Ba'zi qadamlar o‘z o‘rniga tashlanadi.

Sometimes you will trip.

Ba'zida og‘ishib ketasiz.

If it's right on, celebrate, because some people wait a lot to celebrate.

Agar to‘g‘ri odimlasangiz, quvoning, chunki ko‘plar quvonish uchun ancha kutadi.

And if you tripped, turn that into something to learn.

Og‘ishib ketadigan bo‘lsangiz, undan saboq chiqarishga urining.

If every step becomes something to learn or something to celebrate,

Agar har bir qadam saboq yoki quvonish uchun sabab bo‘lsa, bosib

you will for sure enjoy the journey.

o‘tadigan yo‘lingizdan albatta zavq olasiz.

So, five tips:

Demak, besh masalahat:

Believe in overnight success,

Bir kechada zafar quchishga ishoning,

believe someone else has the answers for you,

savollaringizga boshqalarda javob borligiga,

believe that when growth is guaranteed, you should settle down,

o‘sish kafolatlanganda harakatdan to‘xtash kerak ekanligiga,

believe the fault is someone else's,

ayb doimo birovda ekanligiga ishoning

and believe that only the goals themselves matter.

va maqsadlarning o‘zigina muhimligiga ishoning.

Believe me, you do that, and you will destroy your dreams.

Ishonavering, shularni qilasizu, orzularingiz vayron bo‘ladi.

(Laughter)

(Kulishadi)

(Applause)

(Olqishlar)

Thank you.

Rahmat.

Thanks.

Rahmat.

(Applause)

(Olqishlar)