5 ways to kill your dreams | Bel Pesce

Translator: Doris Kos Reviewer: Nika Kotnik

Zadnji dve leti sem posvetila razumevanju,

I dedicated the past two years to understanding

how people achieve their dreams.

kako ljudje dosegajo svoje sanje.

When we think about the dreams we have,

Ko pomislimo na sanje, ki jih imamo

and the dent we want to leave in the universe,

in vtis, ki ga želimo pustiti v vesolju,

je presenetljivo videti, kako veliko je prekrivanje

it is striking to see how big of an overlap there is

between the dreams that we have, and projects that never happen.

med sanjami, ki jih imamo in projekti, ki se nikoli ne zgodijo.

(Laughter)

(smeh)

So I'm here to talk to you today

Zato vam bom danes govorila

about five ways how not to follow your dreams.

o petih načinih, kako ne slediti svojim sanjam.

Prvič: Verjemite v uspeh čez noč.

One: Believe in overnight success.

You know the story, right?

Saj poznate zgodbo?

The tech guy built a mobile app and sold it very fast for a lot of money.

Računalničarju uspelo čez noč obogateti z mobilno aplikacijo, ki jo je naredil.

You know, the story may seem real, but I bet it's incomplete.

Zgodba sicer zveni realna, a stavim, da ni popolna.

If you go investigate further,

Če pobrskate malo dlje

the guy has done 30 apps before

ugotovite, da je prej ustvaril že 30 aplikacij

and he has done a master's on the topic, a PhD.

in ima na tem področju magisterij ali doktorat.

He has been working on the topic for 20 years.

Na tem je delal že 20 let.

This is really interesting.

To je resnično zanimivo.

I myself have a story in Brazil that people think is an overnight success.

Tudi sama imam podobno zgodbo iz Brazilije.

I come from a humble family,

Prihajam iz skromne družine

and two weeks before the deadline to apply for MIT,

in 2 tedna pred rokom za prijavo na Tehnološki Inštitut v Massachusettsu

I started the application process.

sem začela s procesom prijave.

And, voilà! I got in.

In, voila!, bila sem sprejeta.

People may think it's an overnight success,

Ljudje verjetno mislijo, da mi je uspelo čez noč,

but that only worked because for the 17 years prior to that,

a mi je uspelo predvsem zato, ker sem 17 let pred tem

I took life and education seriously.

življenje in izobrazbo jemala resno.

Your overnight success story is always a result

Uspeh čez noč je vedno rezultat

of everything you've done in your life through that moment.

vsega, kar ste v življenju počeli.

Two: Believe someone else has the answers for you.

Drugič: Verjemite, da ima nekdo drug odgovore za vas.

Constantly, people want to help out, right?

Ljudje konstantno želijo pomagati, je tako?

All sorts of people: your family, your friends, your business partners,

Vse vrste ljudi: vaša družina, prijatelji, poslovni partnerji,

vsi imajo mnenja, katera pot je za vas najboljša:

they all have opinions on which path you should take:

"And let me tell you, go through this pipe."

"In naj ti povem, pojdi skozi to cev."

But whenever you go inside,

A ne glede na to, kje greste, obstajajo še druge stvari, ki jih morate izbrati.

there are other ways you have to pick as well.

And you need to make those decisions yourself.

In te odločitve morate sprejeti sami.

No one else has the perfect answers for your life.

Nihče drug nima popolnih odgovorov za vaše življenje.

And you need to keep picking those decisions, right?

In izbirati morate te odločitve, kajne?

The pipes are infinite and you're going to bump your head,

Cevi so neskončne in udarili se boste,

and it's a part of the process.

a to je del procesa.

Three, and it's very subtle but very important:

Tretjič, diskretno, a zelo pomembno:

Decide to settle when growth is guaranteed.

Ustalite se takrat, ko je rast zagotovljena.

So when your life is going great,

Ko vam gre v življenjenju enkratno,

you have put together a great team,

imate odlično ekipo,

and you have growing revenue, and everything is set --

rastoče prihodke in je vse določeno --

time to settle.

čas je, da se ustalite.

When I launched my first book,

Ob izidu svoje prve knjige

sem delala res močno, da sem jo razširila po Braziliji.

I worked really, really hard to distribute it everywhere in Brazil.

Upoštevajoč 3 milijone prenosov,

With that, over three million people downloaded it,

over 50,000 people bought physical copies.

več kot 50 tisoč ljudi je kupilo papirnate kopije.

When I wrote a sequel, some impact was guaranteed.

Ko sem napisala nadaljevanje, je bil nek vpliv zagotovljen.

Even if I did little, sales would be OK.

Tudi, če ne bi naredila veliko, prodaja bi bila zadovoljiva.

But OK is never OK.

A zadovoljivo ni nikoli dovolj.

When you're growing towards a peak,

Ko greš proti vrhu,

you need to work harder than ever and find yourself another peak.

se moraš močno potruditi in si najti drug vrh.

Maybe if I did little,

Če bi storila nekaj malega, bi jo prebralo nekaj sto tisoč ljudi

a couple hundred thousand people would read it,

and that's great already.

in že to je odlično.

But if I work harder than ever,

A, če se potrudim bolj kot kadarkoli,

I can bring this number up to millions.

številka lahko naraste na milijone.

That's why I decided, with my new book, to go to every single state of Brazil.

Zato sem se odločila, da grem s svojo novo knjigo v vsako državo Brazilije.

And I can already see a higher peak.

In že lahko vidim višji vrh.

There's no time to settle down.

Ni časa za ustalitev.

Fourth tip, and that's really important:

Četrti nasvet in ta je zelo pomemben:

Believe the fault is someone else's.

Verjemite, da je kriv nekdo drug.

I constantly see people saying,

Neprestano slišim ljudi, ki pravijo:

"Imel sem odlično idejo, a nisem našel investitorja, ki bi verjel vanjo."

"Yes, I had this great idea, but no investor had the vision to invest."

"Ustvaril sem odličen produkt,

"Oh, I created this great product,

but the market is so bad, the sales didn't go well."

a prodaja ni bila uspešna, zaradi situacije na trgu."

Or, "I can't find good talent; my team is so below expectations."

Ali: "Ne morem najti pravih ljudi, moja ekipa pa je pod pričakovanji."

If you have dreams,

Če imate sanje

it's your responsibility to make them happen.

imate tudi odgovornost, da jih uresničite.

Yes, it may be hard to find talent.

Da, mogoče je res težko najti talentirane ljudi.

Yes, the market may be bad.

Da, mogoče je situacija na trgu res slaba.

But if no one invested in your idea,

A, če nihče ni investiral v vašo idejo,

if no one bought your product,

če nihče ni kupil vašega produkta,

for sure, there is something there that is your fault.

zagotovo je nekje nekaj, kar je vaša krivda.

(Laughter)

(smeh)

Definitely.

Definitivno.

You need to get your dreams and make them happen.

Sanje morate uresničiti.

And no one achieved their goals alone.

Nihče ni svojih ciljev uresničil sam.

But if you didn't make them happen, it's your fault and no one else's.

A, če jih niste uresničili vi, je to vaša krivda.

Be responsible for your dreams.

Bodite odgovorni za svoje sanje.

In še zadnji namig in tudi ta je zelo pomemben:

And one last tip, and this one is really important as well:

Believe that the only things that matter are the dreams themselves.

Verjemite, da so pomembne samo vaše sanje.

Once I saw an ad, and it was a lot of friends,

Nekoč sem videla oglas, skupina prijateljev

they were going up a mountain, it was a very high mountain,

je potovala na goro. In bila je zelo visoka gora

and it was a lot of work.

in pot je bila naporna.

You could see that they were sweating and this was tough.

Videlo se je, da so se potili in bilo je težko.

And they were going up, and they finally made it to the peak.

Hodili so in končno jim je uspelo priti na vrh.

Of course, they decided to celebrate, right?

Odločili so se, da bodo proslavili, kajne?

I'm going to celebrate, so, "Yes! We made it, we're at the top!"

Proslavili bom torej:

"Da! Uspelo nam je, na vrhu smo!"

Two seconds later, one looks at the other and says,

Dve sekundi kasneje je eden od njih pogledal drugega in rekel:

"OK, let's go down."

"Ok, pojdimo nazaj dol."

(Laughter)

(smeh)

Life is never about the goals themselves.

Življenje niso nikoli samo cilji.

Life is about the journey.

Življenje je pot do njih.

Yes, you should enjoy the goals themselves,

Res je, uživati morate na cilju,

but people think that you have dreams,

a ljudje mislijo, če imaš sanje

and whenever you get to reaching one of those dreams,

in ko jih poskušaš doseči,

it's a magical place where happiness will be all around.

da je to magični kraj, kjer je sreča vsepovsod.

But achieving a dream is a momentary sensation,

A uresničitev sanj je kratkotrajen občutek,

vaše življenje pa ni.

and your life is not.

The only way to really achieve all of your dreams

Edini način, da zares uresničite vse vaše sanje je,

is to fully enjoy every step of your journey.

da uživate v vsakem koraku na poti do njih.

That's the best way.

To je najboljši način.

And your journey is simple -- it's made of steps.

In pot je preprosta -- sestavljena je iz korakov.

Nekateri koraki bodo pravi.

Some steps will be right on.

Sometimes you will trip.

Ob nekaterih se boste spotaknili.

If it's right on, celebrate, because some people wait a lot to celebrate.

Če si želite, praznujte, nekateri namreč čakajo dolgo, da bi lahko praznovali.

And if you tripped, turn that into something to learn.

In, če ste se spotaknili, naučite se nekaj iz tega.

If every step becomes something to learn or something to celebrate,

Če vsak korak postane lekcija ali razlog za praznovanje,

you will for sure enjoy the journey.

boste zagotovo uživali na poti.

So, five tips:

Torej, 5 namigov:

Believe in overnight success,

Verjemite v uspeh čez noč,

believe someone else has the answers for you,

da ima nekdo odgovore za vas,

believe that when growth is guaranteed, you should settle down,

da je ob zagotovljeni rasti čas za ustalitev,

believe the fault is someone else's,

verjemite, da krivda ni vaša

and believe that only the goals themselves matter.

in da so pomembni samo vaši cilji.

Believe me, you do that, and you will destroy your dreams.

Verjemite mi, če boste to storili, boste uničili svoje sanje.

(Laughter)

(smeh)

(Applause)

(aplavz)

Thank you.

Thanks.

(Applause)