5 ways to kill your dreams | Bel Pesce

Translator: Heli Paudel Reviewer: Deepak Basyal

मैंले गत २ बर्ष, मानिसहरु कसरी आफ्नो सपना

I dedicated the past two years to understanding

how people achieve their dreams.

पुरा गर्छन भन्ने जान्न समर्पण गरें ।

When we think about the dreams we have,

जब हामी हाम्रो सपनाको बारेमा सोच्छौं ,

and the dent we want to leave in the universe,

संसारमा आफ्नो निशानी छोड्न चाहन्छौं ,

त्यतिखेर, हाम्रो सपना र कहिल्यै पुरा नभएको परियोजना को बिचमा

it is striking to see how big of an overlap there is

between the dreams that we have, and projects that never happen.

आश्चर्यलाग्दो समायोजन भेटिन्छ ।

(Laughter)

-----(हाँसो)-----

So I'm here to talk to you today

त्यसैले आज म तपाईंहरुसंग

about five ways how not to follow your dreams.

छलफल गर्दैछु आफ्नो सपनाको पछि नलाग्ने ५ तरिकाको बारेमा ।

१: राता रात सफल हुने कुरामा बिश्वास राख्नुस ।

One: Believe in overnight success.

You know the story, right?

यो कथा त सुन्नुभाको छ नि, है ?

The tech guy built a mobile app and sold it very fast for a lot of money.

एकजना मान्छेले एउटा मोबाइल एप बनायो, र धेरै पैसामा छिट्टै बिक्यो ।

You know, the story may seem real, but I bet it's incomplete.

यो कथा वास्तविक देखिन सक्छ, तर अपूर्ण छ ।

If you go investigate further,

गहिरिएर अध्ययन गर्ने हो भने ,

the guy has done 30 apps before

यो भन्दा पहिले उसले ३० वोटा एप बनाईसकेको थियो ।

and he has done a master's on the topic, a PhD.

र उसले त्यहि बिषयमा मास्टर्स र Ph.D. गरेको छ

He has been working on the topic for 20 years.

अघिल्लो २० बर्ष देखि उ त्यसै बिषयमा काम गर्दै थियो ।

This is really interesting.

यो साँचै रमाइलो प्रसंग छ ।

I myself have a story in Brazil that people think is an overnight success.

मेरो आफ्नै घटना छ ब्राजिलको, जसलाई मानिसहरु एकरातको सफलता भन्ठान्छन् ।

I come from a humble family,

म साधारण परिवारको मान्छे हुँ ,

and two weeks before the deadline to apply for MIT,

MIT मा निवेदनदिने अन्तिम दिनको २ हप्ता अगाडी,

I started the application process.

मैंले निवेदनको तयारी सुरु गरें ।

And, voilà! I got in.

म भर्ना हुन पाएँ ।

People may think it's an overnight success,

मानिसहरु भन्छन्, यो अकस्मात मिलेको सफलता हो,

but that only worked because for the 17 years prior to that,

तर गत १७ बर्षको मिहिनेत र परिश्रमको कारण

I took life and education seriously.

मैंले भर्ना पाएको हुँ ।

Your overnight success story is always a result

तपाईंलाइ अकस्मात मिलेको सफलता -

of everything you've done in your life through that moment.

त्यो समयमा आइपुग्दा सम्ममा जीवनपर्यन्त गरिएको मिहिनेतको नतिजा हो ।

Two: Believe someone else has the answers for you.

दोश्रो: अरुनै कसैले यसको उत्तर दिनेछ ।

Constantly, people want to help out, right?

मानिसहरु सधैं मद्धत खोजिरहन्छन् ।

All sorts of people: your family, your friends, your business partners,

परिवार, साथीहरु, बिजिनेस पार्टनर सबैले

तपाईंलाइ कुन बाटो लाग्नुपर्छ भन्ने सल्लाह दिन्छन्:

they all have opinions on which path you should take:

"And let me tell you, go through this pipe."

यो सल्लाहको पछि लाग्नुभयो भने,

But whenever you go inside,

त्यहाँ तपाईंले निर्णय लिनुपर्ने अन्य मोडहरु देखिन्छन् ।

there are other ways you have to pick as well.

And you need to make those decisions yourself.

र यी निर्णयहरु तपाईं आफैंले लिनुपर्ने हुन्छ ।

No one else has the perfect answers for your life.

तपाईंको जीवनको सहि जवाफ कसैसंग हुदैन ।

And you need to keep picking those decisions, right?

तपाईंले यस्ता निर्णयहरु लिईराख्नु पर्छ ।

The pipes are infinite and you're going to bump your head,

अनगिन्ति बाटोहरु साम्मुने आएर तपाईंले टाउको ठोक्नुहुनेछ ।

and it's a part of the process.

यो त्यहि मार्गको पाटो हो ।

Three, and it's very subtle but very important:

तेस्रो: यो धेरै सुक्ष्म तर अत्ति महत्वपूर्ण सुझाव छ:

Decide to settle when growth is guaranteed.

उन्नतिको सम्भावना प्रस्ट छ भने, आनन्दले बस्नु ।

So when your life is going great,

तपाईंको जीवन राम्रोसंग बित्दै छ भने,

you have put together a great team,

काम गर्ने समूह राम्रो बनाउनु भयो भने

and you have growing revenue, and everything is set --

आम्दानीको बाटो राम्रो भयो भने, सबै ठिक भयो ।

time to settle.

आनन्दले बस्ने बेला आयो ।

When I launched my first book,

मैले पहिलो किताब निकाल्दा,

ब्राजिलभर वितरण गर्नको लागि धेरै मिहेनेत गरें ।

I worked really, really hard to distribute it everywhere in Brazil.

जसको कारण, ३ लाख भन्दा बढीले किताब डाउनलोड गरे भने,

With that, over three million people downloaded it,

over 50,000 people bought physical copies.

५०,००० भन्दा बढीले किताब किने ।

When I wrote a sequel, some impact was guaranteed.

मैंले सोहि किताबको दोस्रो भाग निकाल्दा त्यसको प्रभाब पर्ने छ ।

Even if I did little, sales would be OK.

थोरै मात्रै मिहेनेत गरे पनि, बिक्रि राम्रै हुन्छ ।

But OK is never OK.

तर "राम्रै" कहिले "राम्रो" हुँदैन ।

When you're growing towards a peak,

जब तपाईं चुचुरो चड्दै हुनुहुन्छ भने,

you need to work harder than ever and find yourself another peak.

तपाईंले झन् बढी मिहेनेत गर्नु पर्छ, र अर्को चुचुरो चड्नु पर्छ ।

Maybe if I did little,

होला, मैंले केहि मिहेनेत गरें भने, केहि लाख मानिसले पढ्लान्,

a couple hundred thousand people would read it,

and that's great already.

त्यो आफैंमा राम्रो हो ।

But if I work harder than ever,

तर, मैंले अझ बढी मिहेनेत गरें भने,

I can bring this number up to millions.

मैंले यहि संख्यालाइ लाखौंमा पुर्याउन सक्छु ।

That's why I decided, with my new book, to go to every single state of Brazil.

त्यसैले मैंले, नया किताबको प्रचार गर्न ब्राजिलको हरेक जिल्ला पुगें ।

And I can already see a higher peak.

यसको प्रभाव प्रस्ट देख्न सक्छु ।

There's no time to settle down.

"आनन्दले बस्ने" भन्ने समय हुँदैन ।

Fourth tip, and that's really important:

चौथो र महत्वपूर्ण सुझाव:

Believe the fault is someone else's.

सम्झिनुहोस, गल्तिजति सबै अरुको हो ।

I constantly see people saying,

बारम्बार देखिन्छ, मान्छेहरु भन्छन् -

"म संग यो राम्रो योजना थियो, तर कसैले लगानी गर्ने हिम्मत गरेनन् " ।

"Yes, I had this great idea, but no investor had the vision to invest."

"मैंले यस्तो राम्रो बस्तु बनाएँ,

"Oh, I created this great product,

but the market is so bad, the sales didn't go well."

तर बजार यस्तो खत्तम छ, राम्रो व्यापार नै भएन"।

Or, "I can't find good talent; my team is so below expectations."

"क्षमतावान मान्छे नभेटिनाले हाम्रो समूहले राम्रो काम गर्न सकिरहेको छैन" ।

If you have dreams,

यदि तपाईंसंग सपना छ भने,

it's your responsibility to make them happen.

त्यसलाई पुरा गर्नु पनि तपाईंको जिम्मेवारी हो ।

Yes, it may be hard to find talent.

हो, प्रतिभावान व्यक्ति पाउन गाह्रो होला,

Yes, the market may be bad.

हो, बजार नराम्रो होला,

But if no one invested in your idea,

तपाईंको कल्पनालाइ कसैले लगानी गरेको होइन,

if no one bought your product,

कसैले तपाईंको उत्पादन किनेनन् भने,

for sure, there is something there that is your fault.

पक्कै पनि तपाईंकै केहि कमजोरी छ ।

(Laughter)

-----(हाँसो)-----

Definitely.

निश्चितरुपमा

You need to get your dreams and make them happen.

तपाईंले देखेको सपना, तपाईं स्वयम्ले पुरा गर्नुपर्छ ।

And no one achieved their goals alone.

आजसम्म कसैले एक्लै आफ्नो लक्ष प्राप्त गरेको छैन ।

But if you didn't make them happen, it's your fault and no one else's.

तर त्यो पूर्ण भएन भने, गल्ति केवल तपाईंको हो, अरु कसैको होइन ।

Be responsible for your dreams.

आफ्नो सपनाप्रति जिम्मेवार हुनुहोस ।

र अन्तिम सुझाव छ, यो पनि उत्तिकै महत्वपूर्ण छ:

And one last tip, and this one is really important as well:

Believe that the only things that matter are the dreams themselves.

याद राख्नुस, महत्वपूर्ण वस्तु भनेको स्वयम् सपना नै हो ।

Once I saw an ad, and it was a lot of friends,

एकपटक मैंले एउटा बिज्ञापन देखेको थिएँ

they were going up a mountain, it was a very high mountain,

धेरै साथीहरु मिलेर अग्लो हिमाल चढ्न जाँदै थिए,

and it was a lot of work.

काम निकै कठिन थियो ।

You could see that they were sweating and this was tough.

पसिनाले भिजेर र थाकेर लखन्तरान परेका थिए ।

And they were going up, and they finally made it to the peak.

उनीहरु उक्लिदै गए, र चुचुरोमा पुग्न सफल भए

Of course, they decided to celebrate, right?

उनीहरु खुशीले रमाउन थाले,

I'm going to celebrate, so, "Yes! We made it, we're at the top!"

सफलता मनाउन थाले ।

"हामी चुचुरोमा पुगेरै छाड्यौं" ।

Two seconds later, one looks at the other and says,

केहि बेर पछि एउटाले अर्कोको मुखमा हेरेर भन्यो -

"OK, let's go down."

"ल पुग्यो अब, ओर्लन थालौं" ।

(Laughter)

-----(हाँसो)-----

Life is never about the goals themselves.

लक्ष्य प्राप्ति मात्रै जिन्दगी होइन

Life is about the journey.

जिन्दगी एउटा यात्रा हो ।

Yes, you should enjoy the goals themselves,

हामीले लक्ष्यप्राप्ति गर्दा रमाउनु पर्छ

but people think that you have dreams,

मानिसहरु सोच्नेछन्, तपाइको सपनाहरु छन्,

and whenever you get to reaching one of those dreams,

जहिले पनि लक्ष्यप्राप्तिको नजिक त्यहाँ पुग्नुहुन्छ,

it's a magical place where happiness will be all around.

यो त्यस्तो जादुमय ठाउं हो, जहाँ जताततै खुशी छरिएको हुन्छ ।

But achieving a dream is a momentary sensation,

लक्ष्य प्राप्ति एउटा पलमात्र हो,

तर जीवन त्यति मात्रै होइन ।

and your life is not.

The only way to really achieve all of your dreams

सबै सपना पुरा गर्ने एउटा मात्र तरिका हो -

is to fully enjoy every step of your journey.

यात्राका हरेक पाइलाको मज्जा लिनुहोस् ।

That's the best way.

यो नै उत्तम तरीका हो ।

And your journey is simple -- it's made of steps.

यात्रा सजह छ - प्रत्येक पाइला संगै अगाडी बढ्छ ।

केहि पाइलाहरु सहि हुनेछन्

Some steps will be right on.

Sometimes you will trip.

कहिले कहिँ लड्न सक्छ ।

If it's right on, celebrate, because some people wait a lot to celebrate.

ठिक बाटोमा हुनुहुन्छ भने, खुशी हुनुहोस्, किनकि, कयौं खुशीहुने बहाना खोज्दैछन् ।

And if you tripped, turn that into something to learn.

यदि लड्नुभयो भने, त्यसलाई एउटा शिक्षाको रुपमा लिनुहोस ।

If every step becomes something to learn or something to celebrate,

हरेक पाइला उत्सब वा सिकाईको अवसर बन्छ भने,

you will for sure enjoy the journey.

पक्कै तपाईं जिन्दगीको यात्रामा रमाउनुहुनेछ ।

So, five tips:

यसर्थ ५ तरीका :

Believe in overnight success,

रातारात प्राप्त हुने सफलतामा बिश्वास,

believe someone else has the answers for you,

अरु कोहि संग जवाफ हुनेकुरामा बिश्वास,

believe that when growth is guaranteed, you should settle down,

उन्नतिको सम्भावना प्रस्ट छ भने, आनन्दले बस्नु,

believe the fault is someone else's,

गल्तिजति सबै अरुको,

and believe that only the goals themselves matter.

महत्वपूर्ण वस्तु भनेको स्वयम् सपना नै हो ।

Believe me, you do that, and you will destroy your dreams.

बिश्वास गर्नुहोस, यति गरेर आफ्नो सपना नस्टगर्न सक्नुहुन्छ ।

(Laughter)

-----(हाँसो)-----

(Applause)

---- ताली -----

Thank you.

---- धन्यवाद -----

Thanks.

(Applause)