JD Schramm: Break the silence for suicide survivors

Translator: Liridon Shala Reviewer: Amantia Gjikondi

From all outward appearances,

Nga e gjithe prezenca e jashtme,

John had everything going for him.

John kishte cdo te mire ne favor te tij.

He had just signed the contract

Ai sapo kishte firmosur kontraten

to sell his New York apartment

per te shitur apartamentin e tij ne New York

at a six-figure profit,

me nje profit te gjasht figurave,

and he'd only owned it for five years.

dhe ai e kishte mbajtur ate vetem per pese vite.

The school where he graduated from with his master's

Shkolla ku ai u diplomua se bashku me masterin e tij

had just offered him a teaching appointment,

i kishte ofruar atij vetem nje takim per mesues,

which meant not only a salary,

e cila kishte kuptimin jo vetem te nje rroge,

but benefits for the first time in ages.

por perfitimeve per heren e pare ne jeten e tije.

And yet, despite everything going really well for John,

Dhe akoma, pamvaresisht te gjithave qe shkonin mire per John,

he was struggling,

ai ishte duke hasur veshtiresi,

fighting addiction and a gripping depression.

duke luftuar varesine dhe depresionin e flakte.

On the night of June 11th, 2003,

Ne naten e 11 qershorit te vitit 2003,

he climbed up to the edge

ai u ngjit siper lumit

of the fence on the Manhattan Bridge

ne uren e Manhatten-it

and he leaped to the treacherous waters below.

dhe kerceu ne uje.

Remarkably --

Mrekullisht --

no, miraculously --

jo fatmiresisht --

he lived.

ai shpetoi.

The fall shattered his right arm,

Hrdhja ia demtoi krahun e djathte te tij,

broke every rib that he had,

duke i thyer te gjitha brinjet qe kishte,

punctured his lung,

demtuar mushkerite,

and he drifted in and out of consciousness

dhe ishte here - here pa vetedije

as he drifted down the East River,

perderisa permbytej poshte lumit East,

under the Brooklyn Bridge

nen uren e Brooklyn-it

and out into the pathway of the Staten Island Ferry,

dhe jashte rrugices e cila del nga Staten Island Ferry,

where passengers on the ferry

ku pasagjeret ne anije

heard his cries of pain,

degjuan britmat e tij te dhimbjes,

contacted the boat's captain

kontaktuan kapitenin e anijes

who contacted the Coast Guard

i cili me pas kontaktoi gardat e lumit

who fished him out of the East River

te cilet e nxorren jasht Lumit East

and took him to Bellevue Hospital.

dhe e derguan ate tek spitali Bellevue.

And that's actually where our story begins.

Dhe kjo eshte pika ku tregimi jone fillon.

Because once John committed himself

Sepse kur John-i iu perkushtua vetes

to putting his life back together --

per ta kthyer jeten perseri prapsht --

first physically, then emotionally,

se pari fizikisht , dhe pastaj mentalisht,

and then spiritually --

dhe shpirtrisht --

he found that there were very few resources available

ai zbuloi se ishin shume pak burime te mundshme

to someone who has attempted to end their life

per dike i cili kish provuar ti jepte fund jetes se tij

in the way that he did.

ne menyren te cilen ai beri.

Research shows

Kerkimet shfaqin

that 19 out of 20 people

qe 19 prej 20 njerezve

who attempt suicide

te cilet kane tentuar vetvrasjen

will fail.

do te deshtojne.

But the people who fail

Por njerezit te cilet deshtojne

are 37 times more likely to succeed

jane 37 here me te suksesshem

the second time.

heren e dyte.

This truly is

Kjo e vertete eshte

an at-risk population

dhe tek rreziku i popullsis

with very few resources to support them.

me shum pak burime per ta perkahur ate.

And what happens

Dhe ajo cka ndodh

when people try to assemble themselves back into life,

kur njerezit vendosin ta kthejne veten prap ne jete,

because of our taboos around suicide,

sepse per tabut tona rreth vetvrasjes,

we're not sure what to say,

ne nuk jemi te sigurt se cfare te themi,

and so quite often we say nothing.

dhe keshtu qe shpesh ne nuk themi asgje.

And that furthers the isolation

Dhe me tej izolimet

that people like John found themselves in.

qe njerezit sikurse John gjejne veten e tyre.

I know John's story very well

E di historine e John-it shum mire

because I'm John.

sepse une jam John.

And this is, today,

Dhe kjo eshte e sotmja,

the first time in any sort of public setting

hera e pare perballe publikut

I've ever acknowledged

qe asnjeher nuk e kam menduar

the journey that I have been on.

udhetimi ne te cilin kam qene une.

But after having lost a beloved teacher in 2006

Por pasi ke humbur nje mesues ne 2006

and a good friend last year to suicide,

dhe nje shok te mire vitin e kaluar nga vetvrasja,

and sitting last year at TEDActive,

dhe i ulur vitin e kaluar tek TedActive,

I knew that I needed to step out of my silence

une e dija qe duhet te dilja jashte qetesise time

and past my taboos

dhe te kaloja tabut e mia

to talk about an idea worth spreading --

per te folur rreth nje ideje te cilen i'a vlen ta shprehesh --

and that is that people

dhe kjo eshte qe njerezit

who have made the difficult choice

qe kane bere zgjedhjen e veshtire

to come back to life

per tu rikthyer ne jete

need more resources and need our help.

kane nevoje per me shume burime dhe kane nevoje per ndihmen tuaj.

As the Trevor Project says, it gets better.

Ashtu sikunderse Projekti Trevor thote, behesh me mire.

It gets way better.

Eshte shume me mire.

And I'm choosing to come out

Dhe une kam zgjedhur te dal jasht

of a totally different kind of closet today

te jem totalisht i ndryshuar sot

to encourage you, to urge you,

per t'iu inkurajuar ju, per t'iu kerkuar ju,

that if you are someone

qe nese je dikushi

who has contemplated or attempted suicide,

qe ka provuar ose ka menduar te beje vetvrasje,

or you know somebody who has,

apo njihni dike qe ka menduar ta beje,

talk about it; get help.

fol rreth kesaj; merr ndihme.

It's a conversation worth having

Eshte nje bisede e cila i'a vlen

and an idea worth spreading.

dhe nje ide te cilen duhet ta shperndash.

Thank you.

Faliminderit

(Applause)

(Duartrokitje)