My Daughter, Malala | Ziauddin Yousafzai | TED Talks

Translator: Ardita Gjeçi Reviewer: Helena Bedalli

In many patriarchal societies and tribal societies,

Ne shume shoqeri patriakale dhe tribale

fathers are usually known by their sons,

baballaret njihen zakonisht prej djemve te tyre,

but I'm one of the few fathers

por une jam nje nga te paktet baballare

who is known by his daughter,

i cili njihet prej vajzes se tij,

and I am proud of it.

dhe jam krenar per kete.

(Applause)

(Duartrokitje)

Malala started her campaign for education

Malala e nisi fushaten e saj per edukimin

and stood for her rights in 2007,

dhe u ngrit per te drejtat e saj ne 2007,

and when her efforts were honored in 2011,

dhe kur perpjekjet e saj u nderuan ne 2011,

and she was given the national youth peace prize,

e ju dha çmimi kombetar i paqes per te rinjte

and she became a very famous,

e ajo u be shume e famshme

very popular young girl of her country.

nje vajze e re shume e famshme ne vendin e saj.

Before that, she was my daughter,

Perpara kesaj, ajo ishte vajza ime,

but now I am her father.

por tani une jam babai i saj.

Ladies and gentlemen,

Zonja e Zoterinj

if we glance to human history,

nese verejme historine njerezore,

the story of women

historia e gruas

is the story of injustice,

eshte historia e padrejtesise,

inequality,

e pabarazise,

violence and exploitation.

e dhunes dhe e shfrytezimit.

You see,

Ju vini re,

in patriarchal societies,

ne shoqerite patriarkale

right from the very beginning,

qe fare ne fillim,

when a girl is born,

kur nje vajze lind,

her birth is not celebrated.

lindja e saj nuk festohet.

She is not welcomed,

Ajo nuk eshte e mireseardhur,

neither by father nor by mother.

as nga babai e as nga nena.

The neighborhood comes

Fqinjet vijne

and commiserates with the mother,

dhe meshirojne me nene,

and nobody congratulates the father.

dhe asnje nuk e uron babain.

And a mother is very uncomfortable

Dhe nje nene ndihet jo mire

for having a girl child.

qe ka lindur nje femije vajze.

When she gives birth to the first girl child,

Ku ajo lind femijen e pare vajze,

first daughter, she is sad.

bija e pare, ajo eshte e trishte.

When she gives birth to the second daughter,

Kur ajo lind vajzen e dyte,

she is shocked,

ajo shokohet,

and in the expectation of a son,

dhe ne pritshmerine e nje djali,

when she gives birth to a third daughter,

kur ajo lind vajzen e trete,

she feels guilty like a criminal.

ajo ndihet fajtore si nje kriminel.

Not only the mother suffers,

Jo vetem nena vuan,

but the daughter, the newly born daughter,

por edhe vajza, vajza e sapolindur,

when she grows old,

kur ajo rritet,

she suffers too.

ajo vuan gjithashtu.

At the age of five,

Ne moshen pese vjeçare,

while she should be going to school,

ndersa ajo duhet te shkoje ne shkolle,

she stays at home

ajo rri ne shtepi

and her brothers are admitted in a school.

dhe vellezerit e saj regjistrohen ne nje shkolle.

Until the age of 12, somehow,

Deri ne moshen 12 vjeçare, disi,

she has a good life.

ajo ka nje jete te mire.

She can have fun.

Ajo mund te zbavitet.

She can play with her friends in the streets,

Ajo mund te luaje me miqte neper rruge,

and she can move around in the streets

dhe ajo mund te levize neper rruge

like a butterfly.

si nje flutur.

But when she enters her teens,

Por kur ajo futet ne adoleshence,

when she becomes 13 years old,

kur ajo mbush 13 vjeç,

she is forbidden to go out of her home

asaj i ndalohet te dale nga shtepia e saj

without a male escort.

pa nje shoqerues mashkull.

She is confined under the four walls of her home.

Ajo eshte e kufizuar brenda kater mureve te shtepise se saj.

She is no more a free individual.

Ajo nuk eshte me nje individ i lire.

She becomes the so-called honor

Ajo behet i ashtuquajturi nder

of her father and of her brothers

i babait dhe vellezerve te saj,

and of her family,

dhe i familjes se saj

and if she transgresses

dhe nese ajo kundershton

the code of that so-called honor,

kodin e te ashtuquajturit nder,

she could even be killed.

ajo mundet edhe te vritet.

And it is also interesting that this so-called

Dhe, eshte interesante po ashtu qe i ashtuquajturi

code of honor,

kod i nderit,

it does not only affect the life of a girl,

nuk ndikon vetem jeten e nje vajze,

it also affects the life

por gjithashtu ndikon jeten

of the male members of the family.

e pjestareve meshkuj te familjes.

I know a family of seven sisters and one brother,

Une njoh nje familje me shtate motra dhe nje vella,

and that one brother,

dhe ai nje vella,

he has migrated to the Gulf countries,

ka emigruar ne vendet e Golfit

to earn a living for his seven sisters

per te fituar jetesen per shtate motrat e tij

and parents,

dhe prinderit,

because he thinks that it will be humiliating

sepse ai mendon qe do te ishte poshteruese

if his seven sisters learn a skill

nese shtate motrat e tij do te mesonin nje aftesi

and they go out of the home

dhe do te dilnin prej shtepie

and earn some livelihood.

edhe te fitonin jetesen.

So this brother,

Ndaj ky vella,

he sacrifices the joys of his life

sakrifikon gezimet e jetes se tij

and the happiness of his sisters

dhe lumturine e motrave te tij

at the altar of so-called honor.

per te ngritur ne altar te ashtuquajturin nder.

And there is one more norm

Dhe ka edhe nje norme tjeter

of the patriarchal societies

te shoqerive patriarkale

that is called obedience.

qe quhet bindje.

A good girl is supposed to be

Nje vajze e mire supozohet te jete

very quiet, very humble

shume e urte, shume e perulur

and very submissive.

dhe shume e nenshtruar.

It is the criteria.

Ky eshte kriteri.

The role model good girl should be very quiet.

Vajza e mire model duhet te jete shume e urte.

She is supposed to be silent

Ajo supozohet te jete e heshtur

and she is supposed to accept the decisions

dhe ajo supozohet te pranoje vendimet

of her father and mother

e babait dhe nenes se saj

and the decisions of elders,

dhe vendimet e me te vjeterve,

even if she does not like them.

edhe nese ajo nuk i pelqen ato.

If she is married to a man she doesn't like

Nese ajo martohet me nje burre qe nuk i pelqen

or if she is married to an old man,

apo nese ajo martohet me nje burre te vjeter,

she has to accept,

ajo duhet te pranoje,

because she does not want to be dubbed

sepse ajo nuk do te konsiderohet

as disobedient.

si e pabindur.

If she is married very early,

Nese ajo martohet shume heret,

she has to accept.

ajo duhet te pranoje.

Otherwise, she will be called disobedient.

Ne te kundert, ajo do te quhet e pabindur.

And what happens at the end?

Dhe çfare ndodh ne fund?

In the words of a poetess,

Me fjalet e nje poeteshe

she is wedded, bedded,

ajo martohet, shtrohet,

and then she gives birth to more sons and daughters.

pastaj lind me shume djem e vajza.

And it is the irony of the situation

Dhe ironia e kesaj situate eshte qe

that this mother,

kjo nene,

she teaches the same lesson of obedience

ajo i meson te njejtin mesim bindjeje

to her daughter

vajzes se saj

and the same lesson of honor to her sons.

dhe te njejtin mesim nderi djemve te saj.

And this vicious cycle goes on, goes on.

Dhe ky rreth vicios, vazhdon e vazhdon.

Ladies and gentlemen,

Zonja e Zoterinj,

this plight of millions of women

kjo gjendje e veshtire e miliona grave

could be changed

mund te ndryshohet

if we think differently,

nese ne mendojme ndryshe,

if women and men think differently,

nese grate dhe burrat mendojne ndryshe,

if men and women in the tribal and patriarchal societies

nese burrat dhe grate ne shoqerite tribale dhe patriarkale

in the developing countries,

ne vendet ne zhvillim,

if they can break a few norms

nese do te mund te thyenin disa norma

of family and society,

te familjes e te shoqerise

if they can abolish the discriminatory laws

nese do te mund te shfuqizonin disa ligje diskriminuese

of the systems in their states,

te sistemeve ne shtetet e tyre,

which go against the basic human rights

te cilat shkojne kunder te drejtave bazike njerezore

of the women.

te gruas.

Dear brothers and sisters, when Malala was born,

Te dashur vellezer e motra, kur Malala lindi,

and for the first time,

dhe per here te pare,

believe me,

besomeni,

I don't like newborn children, to be honest,

mua nuk me pelqejne femijet e porsalindur, te jem i sinqerte,

but when I went and I looked into her eyes,

por kur shkova dhe pashe ne syte e saj,

believe me,

besomeni,

I got extremely honored.

une isha jashtezakonisht i nderuar.

And long before she was born,

E shume me perpara se ajo te lindte,

I thought about her name,

kisha menduar per emrin e saj,

and I was fascinated with a heroic

dhe isha i magjepsur me nje legjende

legendary freedom fighter in Afghanistan.

heroike te nje luftetareje lirie ne Afganistan.

Her name was Malalai of Maiwand,

Emri i saj ishte Malalai i Maiwand,

and I named my daughter after her.

dhe une ia vura emrin vajzes time sipas saj.

A few days after Malala was born,

Disa dite pas lindjes se Malalas

my daughter was born,

vajza ime lindi,

my cousin came --

e kusheriri im erdhi--

and it was a coincidence --

dhe qe nje rastesi--

he came to my home

ai erdhi ne shtepine time

and he brought a family tree,

dhe solli nje peme te familjes

a family tree of the Yousafzai family,

nje peme familajre te familjes Yousafzai,

and when I looked at the family tree,

dhe kur e pashe pemen familjare

it traced back to 300 years of our ancestors.

gjurmonte paraardhesit tane deri 300 vjet me pare.

But when I looked, all were men,

Por kur e pashe, te gjithe ishin burra,

and I picked my pen,

dhe mora shkronjesin tim

drew a line from my name,

vizatova nje vije prej emrit tim

and wrote, "Malala."

dhe shkruajta, "Malala".

And when she grow old,

Dhe kur ajo u rrit,

when she was four and a half years old,

kur ajo ishte kater vjeç e gjysem,

I admitted her in my school.

e pranova ate ne shkollen time.

You will be asking, then, why should I mention about

Ju po pyesni se perse duhet t'a permend

the admission of a girl in a school?

pranimin ne shkolle te nje vajze?

Yes, I must mention it.

Po, duhet t'a permend kete gje.

It may be taken for granted in Canada,

Shihet si nje e drejte ne Kanada,

in America, in many developed countries,

ne Amerike, ne shume vende te zhvilluara,

but in poor countries,

por ne vendet e varfera,

in patriarchal societies, in tribal societies,

ne shoqerite patriarkale, ne shoqerite tribale,

it's a big event for the life of girl.

eshte nje ngjarje e madhe per jeten e nje vajze.

Enrollment in a school means

Regjistrimi ne nje shkolle do te thote

recognition of her identity and her name.

njohje e identitetit te saj dhe emrit te saj.

Admission in a school means

Pranimi ne shkolle do te thote

that she has entered the world of dreams

qe ajo ka hyre ne boten e enderrave

and aspirations

dhe te aspirimeve

where she can explore her potentials

ku ajo mund te eksploroje potencialet e saj

for her future life.

per te jeten e saj te ardhme.

I have five sisters,

Une kam pese motra,

and none of them could go to school,

dhe asnje nga ato nuk mundi te shkoje ne shkolle,

and you will be astonished,

dhe ju do te mbeteni te habitur,

two weeks before,

dy jave me pare,

when I was filling out the Canadian visa form,

kur po plotesoja formularin e vizes Kanadeze,

and I was filling out the family part of the form,

dhe po plotesoja pjesen ne formular mbi familjen

I could not recall

nuk mund te kujtoja

the surnames of some of my sisters.

disa nga mbiemrat e motrave te mija.

And the reason was

E arsyeja ishte

that I have never, never seen the names

qe nuk kam pare kurre, kurre emrat

of my sisters written on any document.

e motrave te mija te shkruara ne ndonje dokument.

That was the reason that

Kjo ishte arsyeja perse

I valued my daughter.

e vleresova vajzen time.

What my father could not give to my sisters

Ate çka babai im nuk mund t'ua jepte motrave te mija

and to his daughters,

dhe vajzave te tij,

I thought I must change it.

une mendova se duhej t'a ndryshoja.

I used to appreciate the intelligence

Une e vleresoja inteligjencen

and the brilliance of my daughter.

dhe shkelqimin e vajzes time.

I encouraged her to sit with me

E inkurajoja ate te ulej me mua

when my friends used to come.

kur miqte e mij vinin.

I encouraged her to go with me to different meetings.

E inkuraroja ate te vinte me mua ne takime te ndryshme.

And all these good values,

E te gjitha keto vlera te mira,

I tried to inculcate in her personality.

u mundova t'ia ngulisja ne personalitetin e saj.

And this was not only she, only Malala.

Dhe kjo nuk ishte vetem ajo, vetem Malala.

I imparted all these good values

Une i ndava te gjitha keto vlera te mira

to my school, girl students and boy students as well.

ne shkollen time, studenteve vajza e djem gjithashtu.

I used education for emancipation.

Une e perdora edukimin per emancipim,

I taught my girls,

I mesova vazjat e mija,

I taught my girl students,

I mesova vajzat e mija studnete,

to unlearn the lesson of obedience.

ta ç'mesonin leksionin e bindjes.

I taught my boy students

I mesova studentet e mij djem

to unlearn the lesson of so-called pseudo-honor.

t'a çmesonin leksionin e te ashtu-quajturit pseudo-nder.

Dear brothers and sisters,

Te dashur vellezer e motra,

we were striving for more rights for women,

ne po mundoheshim per me shume te drejta per grate,

and we were struggling to have more,

dhe ne po mundoheshim te kishim me shume,

more and more space for the women in society.

shume e me shume hapesire per grate ne shoqeri.

But we came across a new phenomenon.

Por ne ndeshem nje fenoment te ri.

It was lethal to human rights

Ishte vdekje prurese per te drejtat njerezore

and particularly to women's rights.

dhe veçanerisht per te drejtat e grave.

It was called Talibanization.

Quhej Talibanizim.

It means a complete negation

Do te thote nje mohim i plote

of women's participation

i pjesemarrjes se gruas

in all political, economical and social activities.

ne te gjithe aktivitetet politike, ekonomike dhe sociale.

Hundreds of schools were lost.

Qindra shkolla u mbyllen.

Girls were prohibited from going to school.

Vajzave iu ndalua te shkonin ne shkolle.

Women were forced to wear veils

Grate u detyruan te vishin perçe

and they were stopped from going to the markets.

dhe iu ndalua te dilnin ne tregje.

Musicians were silenced,

Muzika u pushua,

girls were flogged

vajzat u fshikulluan

and singers were killed.

dhe kengentaret u vrane.

Millions were suffering,

Miliona po vuanin,

but few spoke,

por shume pak folen,

and it was the most scary thing

dhe ishte gjeja me e frikshme

when you have all around such people

kur ju keni rrotull njerez te tille

who kill and who flog,

qe vrasin dhe qe fshikullojne

and you speak for your rights.

dhe ju flisni per te drejtat tuaja.

It's really the most scary thing.

Eshte me te vertete gjeja me e frikshme.

At the age of 10,

Ne moshen 10 vjeçare,

Malala stood, and she stood for the right

Malala u ngrit per te drejten

of education.

e edukimit.

She wrote a diary for the BBC blog,

Ajo shkruajti ditarin e saj per blogun e BBC-se,

she volunteered herself

ajo doli vullnetare

for the New York Times documentaries,

per dokumentarin e New York Times

and she spoke from every platform she could.

dhe ajo foli per çdo platforme qe mundt'te.

And her voice was the most powerful voice.

Dhe zeri i saj ishte zeri me i fuqishem.

It spread like a crescendo all around the world.

Perhapej si nje "crescendo" ne te gjithe boten.

And that was the reason the Taliban

E kjo qe arsyeja qe Talebanet

could not tolerate her campaign,

nuk mund t'a toleronin fushaten e saj

and on October 9 2012,

dhe ne 9 Tetor 2012,

she was shot in the head at point blank range.

ajo u qellua ne koke nga nje distance shume e vogel.

It was a doomsday for my family and for me.

Ishte fundi i botes per familjen time dhe per mua.

The world turned into a big black hole.

Bota u shnderrua ne nje vrime te madhe te zeze.

While my daughter was

Nderkohe qe vajza ime

on the verge of life and death,

ishte midis jetes e vdekjes,

I whispered into the ears of my wife,

Une pershperita ne veshin e gruas time,

"Should I be blamed for what happened

" A duhet te fajsohem per çka i ndodhi

to my daughter and your daughter?"

vajzes time dhe vajzes tende?"

And she abruptly told me,

E ajo befas me tha,

"Please don't blame yourself.

"Mos e fajso veten.

You stood for the right cause.

Ti qendrove per nje kauze te drejte.

You put your life at stake

Vendose jeten tende ne rrezik

for the cause of truth,

per kauzen e te vertetes

for the cause of peace,

per kauzen e paqes,

and for the cause of education,

per kauzen e edukimit,

and your daughter in inspired from you

dhe vajza jote e frymezuar nga ti

and she joined you.

t'u bashkua.

You both were on the right path

Ju te dy ishit ne rrugen e duhur

and God will protect her."

dhe Zoti do t'a mbroje ate."

These few words meant a lot to me,

Keto pak fjale kishin domethenie te madhe per mua,

and I didn't ask this question again.

dhe nuk e bere me kurre ate pyetje.

When Malala was in the hospital,

Kur Malala ishte ne spital,

and she was going through the severe pains

dhe po kalonte dhimbje shume te forta

and she had had severe headaches

dhe kishte dhimbje shume te forta koke

because her facial nerve was cut down,

per shkak se nervi i saj facial ishte prere,

I used to see a dark shadow

une shikoja nje hije te zeze

spreading on the face of my wife.

qe perhapej ne fytyren e sime shoqe.

But my daughter never complained.

Por vajza ime nuk u ankua kurre.

She used to tell us,

Ajo na thoshte,

"I'm fine with my crooked smile

"Jam ne rregull me buzeqeshjen time te shtrember

and with my numbness in my face.

dhe me pandjesine time ne fytyre.

I'll be okay. Please don't worry."

Do te behem mire. Ju lutem, mos u shqetesoni."

She was a solace for us,

Ajo ishte nje lehtesim per ne,

and she consoled us.

dhe ajo na ngushellonte.

Dear brothers and sisters,

Te dashur vellezer e motra,

we learned from her how to be resilient

ne mesuam nga ajo si te jemi te qendrueshem,

in the most difficult times,

ne kohet me te veshtira,

and I'm glad to share with you

dhe jam i lumtur t'a ndaj me ju

that despite being an icon

qe pavaresisht te qenurit nje ikone

for the rights of children and women,

per te drejtat e femijeve dhe te grave

she is like any 16-year old girl.

ajo eshte si çdo 16 vjeçare tjeter.

She cries when her homework is incomplete.

Ajo qan kur s'ka mbaruar detyrat te shtepise.

She quarrels with her brothers,

Ajo grindet me vellezerit e saj,

and I am very happy for that.

dhe une jam shume i lumtur per kete.

People ask me,

Njerezit me pyesin,

what special is in my mentorship

çfare veçantie ka ne mentorimin tim

which has made Malala so bold

qe e ka bere Malalan kaq te forte

and so courageous and so vocal and poised?

dhe ka guximtare dhe kaq te zeshme e te gatshme?

I tell them, don't ask me what I did.

U them atyre, mos me pyesni çfare kam bere.

Ask me what I did not do.

Me pyesni çfare nuk kam bere.

I did not clip her wings, and that's all.

Une nuk i preva flatrat e saj, vetem kaq.

Thank you very much.

Faleminderit shume.

(Applause)

(Duartrokitje)

Thank you. Thank you very much. Thank you. (Applause)

Faleminderit. Faleminderit shume. Faleminderit. (Duartrokitje)