Jok Church: A circle of caring

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ืื ื ืœื—ืฅ ืคืขืžื™ื™ื ืขืœ ื”ื›ืชื•ื‘ื™ื•ืช ื‘ืื ื’ืœื™ืช ืœืžื˜ื” ื›ื“ื™ ืœื”ืคืขื™ืœ ืืช ื”ืกืจื˜ื•ืŸ.

ืžืชืจื’ื: Ido Dekkers ืžื‘ืงืจ: Sigal Tifferet
00:15
You know, what I do is write for children,
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ืืชื ื™ื•ื“ืขื™ื, ืžื” ืฉืื ื™ ืขื•ืฉื” ื–ื” ืœื›ืชื•ื‘ ืœื™ืœื“ื™ื,
00:18
and I'm probably America's
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ื•ืื ื™ ื›ื ืจืื” ืกื•ืคืจ ื”ื™ืœื“ื™ื
00:20
most widely read children's author, in fact.
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ื”ื ืงืจื ื‘ื™ื•ืชืจ ื‘ืืžืจื™ืงื”, ืœืžืขืฉื”.
00:22
And I always tell people
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ื•ืื ื™ ืชืžื™ื“ ืื•ืžืจ ืœืื ืฉื™ื
00:24
that I don't want to show up looking like a scientist.
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ืฉืื ื™ ืœื ืจื•ืฆื” ืœื”ื•ืคื™ืข ื ืจืื” ื›ืžื• ืžื“ืขืŸ.
00:27
You can have me as a farmer, or in leathers,
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ืืชื ื™ื›ื•ืœื™ื ืœืงื‘ืœ ืื•ืชื™ ื›ืื™ื›ืจ, ืื• ื‘ื‘ื’ื“ื™ ืขื•ืจ,
00:30
and no one has ever chose farmer.
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ื•ืขื“ ื›ื” ืืฃ ืื—ื“ ืœื ื‘ื—ืจ ื‘ืื™ื›ืจ.
00:34
I'm here today to talk to you
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ืื ื™ ื›ืืŸ ื”ื™ื•ื ืœื“ื‘ืจ ืืชื›ื
00:36
about circles and epiphanies.
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ืขื ืžืขื’ืœื™ื ืฉืœ ื”ืชื’ืœื•ื™ื•ืช.
00:38
And you know, an epiphany
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ื•ืืชื ื™ื•ื“ืขื™ื, ื”ืชื’ืœื•ืช
00:40
is usually something you find that you dropped someplace.
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ื”ื™ื ืœืจื•ื‘ ืžืฉื”ื• ืฉืืชื ืžื•ืฆืื™ื ืฉื”ืคืœืชื.
00:42
You've just got to go around the block
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ืืชื ืจืง ืฆืจื™ื›ื™ื ืœืœื›ืช ืžืกื‘ื™ื‘ ืœื‘ืœื•ืง
00:44
to see it as an epiphany.
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ื›ื“ื™ ืœืจืื•ืช ืื•ืชื” ื›ื”ืชื’ืœื•ืช.
00:46
That's a painting of a circle.
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ื–ื” ืฆื™ื•ืจ ืฉืœ ืขื™ื’ื•ืœ.
00:48
A friend of mine did that -- Richard Bollingbroke.
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ื—ื‘ืจ ืฉืœื™ ืฆื™ื™ืจ ืื•ืชื• - ืจื™ืฆ'ืืจื“ ื‘ื•ืœื™ื ื’ื‘ืจื•ืง.
00:51
It's the kind of complicated circle
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ื–ื” ืžืขื’ืœ ืžื•ืจื›ื‘ ืžื”ืกื•ื’
00:53
that I'm going to tell you about.
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ืฉืื ื™ ืขื•ืžื“ ืœืกืคืจ ืœื›ื ืขืœื™ื•.
00:55
My circle began back in the '60s
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ื”ืžืขื’ืœ ืฉืœื™ ื”ื—ืœ ื‘ืฉื ื•ืช ื”ืฉื™ืฉื™ื
00:58
in high school in Stow, Ohio
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ื‘ืชื™ื›ื•ืŸ ื‘ืกื˜ื•, ืื•ื”ื™ื•
01:00
where I was the class queer.
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ืฉื ื”ื™ื™ืชื™ ื”ื”ื•ืžื• ืฉืœ ื”ื›ื™ืชื”.
01:03
I was the guy beaten up bloody
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ืื ื™ ื”ื™ื™ืชื™ ื–ื” ืฉืงื™ื‘ืœ ืžื›ื•ืช
01:05
every week in the boys' room,
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ื›ืœ ืฉื‘ื•ืข ื‘ืฉืจื•ืชื™ ื”ื‘ื ื™ื,
01:07
until one teacher saved my life.
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ืขื“ ืฉืžื•ืจื” ืื—ืช ื”ืฆื™ืœื” ืืช ื—ื™ื™.
01:10
She saved my life by letting me go to the bathroom
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ื”ื™ื ื”ืฆื™ืœื” ืืช ื—ื™ื™ ืขืœ ื™ื“ื™ ื–ื” ืฉื”ื™ื ื ืชื ื” ืœื™ ืœืœื›ืช ืœืฉืจื•ืชื™ื
01:13
in the teachers' lounge.
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ื‘ื—ื“ืจ ื”ืžื•ืจื™ื.
01:15
She did it in secret.
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ื”ื™ื ืขืฉืชื” ื–ืืช ื‘ื”ื—ื‘ื,
01:17
She did it for three years.
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ื”ื™ื ืขืฉืชื” ื–ืืช ื‘ืžืฉืš 3 ืฉื ื™ื,
01:19
And I had to get out of town.
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ื•ื”ื™ื™ืชื™ ืฆืจื™ืš ืœืฆืืช ืžื”ืขื™ืจ.
01:22
I had a thumb, I had 85 dollars,
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ื”ื™ืชื” ืœื™ ืื’ื•ื“ืœ, ื”ื™ื• ืœื™ 85$,
01:24
and I ended up in San Francisco, California --
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ื•ื”ื’ืขืชื™ ืœืกืืŸ ืคืจื ืกื™ืกืงื•, ืงืœื™ืคื•ืจื ื™ื” --
01:28
met a lover --
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ืคื’ืฉืชื™ ืžืื”ื‘ --
01:31
and back in the '80s, found it necessary
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ื•ืื– ื‘ืฉื ื•ืช ื”80, ืžืฆืืชื™ ืืช ื–ื” ื”ื›ืจื—ื™
01:33
to begin work on AIDS organizations.
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ืœื”ืชื—ื™ืœ ืœืขื‘ื•ื“ ื‘ืื™ืจื’ื•ื ื™ ืื™ื™ื“ืก.
01:38
About three or four years ago,
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ื‘ืขืจืš ืœืคื ื™ ืฉืœื•ืฉ ืื• ืืจื‘ืข ืฉื ื™ื,
01:40
I got a phone call in the middle of the night
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ืงื™ื‘ืœืชื™ ื˜ืœืคื•ืŸ ื‘ืืžืฆืข ื”ืœื™ืœื”
01:42
from that teacher, Mrs. Posten,
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ืžื”ืžื•ืจื” ืฉืœื™ ื’ื‘ืจืช ืคื•ืกื˜ืŸ
01:45
who said, "I need to see you.
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ืฉืืžืจื”, "ืื ื™ ืฆืจื™ื›ื” ืœืจืื•ืช ืื•ืชืš.
01:47
I'm disappointed
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ืื ื™ ืžืื•ื›ื–ื‘ืช
01:49
that we never got to know each other as adults.
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ืฉืžืขื•ืœื ืœื ื™ืฆื ืœื ื• ืœื”ื›ื™ืจ ืื—ื“ ืืช ื”ืฉื ื™ ื›ืžื‘ื•ื’ืจื™ื.
01:52
Could you please come to Ohio,
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ืชื•ื›ืœ ื‘ื‘ืงืฉื” ืœื‘ื•ื ืœืื•ื”ื™ื•,
01:55
and please bring that man
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ื•ื‘ื‘ืงืฉื” ืชื‘ื™ื ืืช ื”ื’ื‘ืจ ื”ื”ื•ื
01:57
that I know you have found by now.
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ืฉืื ื™ ื™ื•ื“ืขืช ืฉื›ื‘ืจ ืžืฆืืช ืขื“ ืขื›ืฉื™ื•.
02:00
And I should mention
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ื•ืื ื™ ืฆืจื™ื›ื” ืœืฆื™ื™ืŸ
02:02
that I have pancreatic cancer,
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ืฉื™ืฉ ืœื™ ืกืจื˜ืŸ ืœื‘ืœื‘,
02:05
and I'd like you to please
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ื•ื”ื™ื™ืชื™ ืจื•ืฆื” ื‘ื‘ืงืฉื”
02:07
be quick about this."
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ืฉืชื”ื™ื” ืžื”ื™ืจ ืขื ื–ื”."
02:10
Well, the next day we were in Cleveland.
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ืื–, ืœืžื—ืจืช ื”ื™ื™ื ื• ื‘ืงืœื™ื‘ืœื ื“.
02:12
We took a look at her, we laughed, we cried,
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ื”ืขืคื ื• ื‘ื” ืžื‘ื˜, ืฆื—ืงื ื•, ื‘ื›ื™ื ื•,
02:15
and we knew that she needed to be in a hospice.
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ื•ื™ื“ืขื ื• ืฉื”ื™ื ืฆืจื™ื›ื” ืœื”ื™ื•ืช ื‘ื”ื•ืกืคื™ืก.
02:19
We found her one, we got her there,
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ืžืฆืื ื• ืœื” ืื—ื“, ื•ื”ื›ื ืกื ื• ืื•ืชื” ืœืฉื,
02:21
and we took care of her
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ื•ื˜ื™ืคืœื ื• ื‘ื”
02:23
and watched over her family,
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ื•ื˜ื™ืคืœื ื• ื‘ืžืฉืคื—ื” ืฉืœื”,
02:25
because it was necessary.
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ืžืคื ื™ ืฉื–ื” ื”ื™ื” ื”ื›ืจื—ื™,
02:27
It's something we knew how to do.
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ื–ื” ืžืฉื”ื• ืฉื™ื“ืขื ื• ืœืขืฉื•ืช.
02:29
And just as the woman who wanted to know me as an adult
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ื•ื‘ื“ื™ื•ืง ื›ืฉื”ืืฉื” ืฉืจืฆืชื” ืœื”ื›ื™ืจ ืื•ืชื™ ื›ืžื‘ื•ื’ืจ
02:33
got to know me,
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ื”ื›ื™ืจื” ืื•ืชื™,
02:35
she turned into a box of ashes
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ื”ื™ื ื”ืคื›ื” ืœืงื•ืคืกื” ืขื ืืคืจ
02:37
and was placed in my hands.
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ื•ื”ื•ืฉืžื” ื‘ื™ื“ื™.
02:40
And what had happened
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ื•ืžื” ืฉืงืจื”
02:42
was the circle had closed,
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ื”ื™ื” ืฉื”ืžืขื’ืœ ื ืกื’ืจ,
02:44
it had become a circle --
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ื–ื” ื”ืคืš ืœืžืขื’ืœ --
02:47
and that epiphany I talked about
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ื•ื”ื”ืชื’ืœื•ืช ื”ื–ื• ืฉื“ื™ื‘ืจืชื™ ืขืœื™ื”
02:49
presented itself.
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ื”ืฆื™ื’ื” ืืช ืขืฆืžื”.
02:51
The epiphany is
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ื”ื”ืชื’ืœื•ืช ื”ื™ืชื”
02:53
that death is a part of life.
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ืฉืžื•ื•ืช ื”ื•ื ื—ืœืง ืžื”ื—ื™ื™ื.
02:55
She saved my life;
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ื”ื™ื ื”ืฆื™ืœื” ืืช ื—ื™ื™,
02:58
I and my partner saved hers.
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ื•ืื ื™ ื•ืฉื•ืชืคื™ ื”ืฆืœื ื• ืืช ืฉืœื”.
03:02
And you know, that part of life needs everything
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ื•ืืชื ื™ื•ื“ืขื™ื, ื”ื—ืœืง ื”ื–ื” ืฉืœ ื”ื—ื™ื™ื ืฆืจื™ืš ืืช ื›ืœ ืžื”
03:04
that the rest of life does.
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ืฉืฉืืจ ื”ื—ื™ื™ื ืขื•ืฉื™ื.
03:06
It needs truth and beauty,
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ื”ื•ื ืฆืจื™ืš ืืžืช ื•ื™ื•ืคื™,
03:08
and I'm so happy it's been mentioned so much here today.
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ื•ืื ื™ ื›ืœ ื›ืš ืฉืžื— ืฉื–ื” ื”ื•ื–ื›ืจ ืคื” ื›ืœ ื›ืš ื”ืจื‘ื” ื”ื™ื•ื.
03:11
It also needs --
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ื–ื” ื’ื ืฆืจื™ืš --
03:14
it needs dignity,
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ื–ื” ืฆืจื™ืš ื›ื‘ื•ื“,
03:16
love and pleasure,
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ืื”ื‘ื” ื•ื”ื ืื”.
03:18
and it's our job to hand those things out.
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ื•ื–ื• ื”ืขื‘ื•ื“ื” ืฉืœื ื• ืœื—ืœืง ืื•ืชื.
03:21
Thank you.
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ืชื•ื“ื” ืจื‘ื”.
03:23
(Applause)
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(ืžื—ื™ืื•ืช ื›ืคื™ื™ื)

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ืืชืจ ื–ื” ื™ืฆื™ื’ ื‘ืคื ื™ื›ื ืกืจื˜ื•ื ื™ YouTube ื”ืžื•ืขื™ืœื™ื ืœืœื™ืžื•ื“ ืื ื’ืœื™ืช. ืชื•ื›ืœื• ืœืจืื•ืช ืฉื™ืขื•ืจื™ ืื ื’ืœื™ืช ื”ืžื•ืขื‘ืจื™ื ืขืœ ื™ื“ื™ ืžื•ืจื™ื ืžื”ืฉื•ืจื” ื”ืจืืฉื•ื ื” ืžืจื—ื‘ื™ ื”ืขื•ืœื. ืœื—ืฅ ืคืขืžื™ื™ื ืขืœ ื”ื›ืชื•ื‘ื™ื•ืช ื‘ืื ื’ืœื™ืช ื”ืžื•ืฆื’ื•ืช ื‘ื›ืœ ื“ืฃ ื•ื™ื“ืื• ื›ื“ื™ ืœื”ืคืขื™ืœ ืืช ื”ืกืจื˜ื•ืŸ ืžืฉื. ื”ื›ืชื•ื‘ื™ื•ืช ื’ื•ืœืœื•ืช ื‘ืกื ื›ืจื•ืŸ ืขื ื”ืคืขืœืช ื”ื•ื•ื™ื“ืื•. ืื ื™ืฉ ืœืš ื”ืขืจื•ืช ืื• ื‘ืงืฉื•ืช, ืื ื ืฆื•ืจ ืื™ืชื ื• ืงืฉืจ ื‘ืืžืฆืขื•ืช ื˜ื•ืคืก ื™ืฆื™ืจืช ืงืฉืจ ื–ื”.

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