The price of shame | Monica Lewinsky | TED

Prevodilac: Milenka Okuka Lektor: Mile Živković

You're looking at a woman who was publicly silent for a decade.

Gledate u ženu koja se deceniju nije javno obraćala.

Obviously, that's changed,

Očigledno, to se promenilo,

but only recently.

ali tek nedavno.

It was several months ago that I gave my very first major public talk,

Pre nekoliko meseci

sam održala svoj prvi značajniji javni govor

at the Forbes "30 Under 30 Summit" --

na samitu Forbsovih 30, mlađih od 30:

1,500 brilliant people, all under the age of 30.

1500 briljantnih ljudi, svi ispod 30 godina.

That meant that in 1998, the oldest among the group were only 14,

Što će reći da su 1998,

najstariji iz grupe, imali tek 14 godina,

and the youngest, just four.

a najmlađi tek četiri.

I joked with them that some might only have heard of me from rap songs.

Šalila sam se s njima da su možda neki od njih čuli za mene

iz rep pesama.

Yes, I'm in rap songs.

Da, ja sam u rep pesmama.

(Laughter)

Almost 40 rap songs.

U skoro 40 rep pesama. (Smeh)

(Laughter)

But the night of my speech, a surprising thing happened.

Ali te noći, kad sam držala govor, nešto zanimljivo se desilo.

At the age of 41, I was hit on by a 27-year-old guy.

U 41. godini, udvarao mi se dvadesetsedmogodišnjak.

(Laughter)

I know, right?

Znam, je l' da?

He was charming, and I was flattered,

Bio je šarmantan i laskalo mi je

and I declined.

i odbila sam ga.

You know what his unsuccessful pickup line was?

Znate kojom me je neuspešnom žvakom odbio?

He could make me feel 22 again.

Zbog njega bih mogla da se osećam kao da su mi ponovo 22 godine.

(Laughter)

(Smeh) (Aplauz)

(Applause)

I realized, later that night,

Shvatila sam kasnije iste noći, da sam verovatno jedina osoba starija od 40

I'm probably the only person over 40 who does not want to be 22 again.

koja ne želi da ima 22 godine ponovo.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

At the age of 22, I fell in love with my boss.

S 22 godine sam se zaljubila u svog šefa,

And at the age of 24,

a sa 24 godine

I learned the devastating consequences.

sam spoznala poražavajuće posledice toga.

Can I see a show of hands of anyone here

Možete li da podignete ruke, bilo ko od vas

who didn't make a mistake or do something they regretted at 22?

ko nije grešio ili uradio nešto s 22 godine zbog čega se kaje?

Yep. That's what I thought.

Da. Tako sam i mislila.

So like me, at 22, a few of you may have also taken wrong turns

Poput mene, s 22 godine, neki od vas su verovatno krenuli pogrešnim putem

and fallen in love with the wrong person,

i zaljubili se u pogrešnu osobu,

maybe even your boss.

možda čak u svog šefa.

Unlike me, though,

Za razliku od mog, pak, vaš šef

your boss probably wasn't the president of the United States of America.

verovatno nije bio predsednik SAD-a.

(Laughter)

Of course, life is full of surprises.

Naravno, život je pun iznenađenja.

Not a day goes by that I'm not reminded of my mistake,

Ne prođe dan, a da me ne podsete na moju grešku

and I regret that mistake deeply.

i ja se iskreno kajem zbog te greške.

In 1998, after having been swept up into an improbable romance,

Godine 1998, nakon što sam upala u vrtlog nemoguće romanse,

I was then swept up into the eye of a political, legal and media maelstrom

potom sam upala u samo srce političkog, pravnog i medijskog vrtloga

like we had never seen before.

kakav nikad ranije nismo videli.

Remember, just a few years earlier,

Ne zaboravite, samo nekoliko godina ranije,

news was consumed from just three places:

vesti ste dobijali na samo tri mesta:

čitajući novine i časopise,

reading a newspaper or magazine,

listening to the radio

slušajući radio

or watching television.

ili gledajući televiziju.

That was it.

To je bilo to.

But that wasn't my fate.

No to meni nije bilo suđeno.

Instead, this scandal was brought to you

Umesto toga, ovaj skandal vam je obezbedila

by the digital revolution.

digitalna revolucija.

That meant we could access all the information we wanted,

To je značilo da smo imali pristup svim informacijama koje smo želeli,

when we wanted it, anytime, anywhere.

kada smo ih želeli, bilo kad, bilo gde,

And when the story broke in January 1998,

i kada je priča obelodanjena u januaru 1998,

obelodanjena je preko interneta.

it broke online.

It was the first time the traditional news was usurped by the internet

Prvi put se desilo da tradicionalne vesti

ustupe mesto internetu zbog velike priče,

for a major news story --

a click that reverberated around the world.

klik koji je odjeknuo svetom.

What that meant for me personally

To je za mene lično značilo

was that overnight, I went from being a completely private figure

da sam preko noći prešla put od potpuno nepoznate osobe

to a publicly humiliated one, worldwide.

do one javno ponižavane širom sveta.

I was patient zero of losing a personal reputation on a global scale

Ja sam bila nulti pacijent u gubljenju ličnog ugleda

na globalnom nivou, skoro momentalno.

almost instantaneously.

This rush to judgment, enabled by technology,

Tehnologija je omogućila da ishitrene osude

led to mobs of virtual stone-throwers.

dovedu do kamenovanja od strane virtuelne rulje.

Granted, it was before social media,

Jasno, bilo je to pre društvenih mreža,

but people could still comment online,

ali ljudi su i dalje mogli da ostavljaju komentare,

e-mail stories,

prosleđuju mejlovima priče i, naravno, okrutne viceve.

and, of course, e-mail cruel jokes.

News sources plastered photos of me all over

Medijski izvori su lepili moje slike svuda

kako bi prodavali novine, oglasne banere na sajtovima

to sell newspapers, banner ads online,

and to keep people tuned to the TV.

i da bi zadržali gledaoce ispred ekrana.

Do you recall a particular image of me, say, wearing a beret?

Da li se naročito sećate neke moje slike,

recimo s beretkom?

Now, I admit I made mistakes --

E sad, priznajem, grešila sam,

especially wearing that beret.

naročito zbog toga što sam nosila tu beretku.

(Laughter)

But the attention and judgment that I received --

Ali pažnja i osude koje sam dobila ja, ne sama priča,

not the story, but that I personally received --

već one koje su bile upućene lično meni, bile su bez premca.

was unprecedented.

I was branded as a tramp,

Žigosali su me kao laku ženu,

tart,

bludnicu, drolju, kurvu, lujku

slut,

whore,

bimbo,

and, of course, "that woman."

i naravno kao "onu ženu".

I was seen by many,

Znali su za mene mnogi,

but actually known by few.

poznavali su me samo retki.

And I get it: it was easy to forget

I razumem, bilo je lako zaboraviti

that that woman was dimensional,

da se radi o kompleksnoj ličnosti,

had a soul

koja ima dušu i nije oduvek bila slomljena.

and was once unbroken.

When this happened to me 17 years ago, there was no name for it.

Kada mi se to desilo, pre 17 godina, nije postojao naziv za to.

Now we call it "cyberbullying" and "online harassment."

Danas to zovemo sajber maltretiranje i uznemiravanje na internetu.

Today, I want to share some of my experience with you,

Danas želim da podelim sa vama neka svoja iskustva,

talk about how that experience has helped shape my cultural observations,

da govorim o tome kako je to iskustvo oblikovalo moja kulturološka zapažanja

and how I hope my past experience can lead to a change

i nadam se da će moje iskustvo dovesti do promene

that results in less suffering for others.

koja će rezultirati manjom patnjom kod drugih.

In 1998, I lost my reputation and my dignity.

Godine 1998. sam izgubila ugled i dostojanstvo.

I lost almost everything.

Izgubila sam gotovo sve,

umalo čak i život.

And I almost lost my life.

Dozvolite da vam opišem situaciju.

Let me paint a picture for you.

It is September of 1998.

Septembar je 1998.

I'm sitting in a windowless office room

Sedim u kancelariji bez prozora,

inside the Office of the Independent Counsel,

unutar Kancelarije za nezavisno savetovanje,

ispod treperavih fluorescentnih svetala.

underneath humming fluorescent lights.

I'm listening to the sound of my voice,

Slušam zvuk svog glasa,

my voice on surreptitiously taped phone calls

svog glasa na krišom snimljenim telefonskim pozivima

that a supposed friend had made the year before.

koje je moj, navodno, prijatelj snimio prethodne godine.

Tu sam jer je zakonski od mene traženo

I'm here because I've been legally required

to personally authenticate all 20 hours of taped conversation.

da lično utvrdim verodostojnost svih 20 sati snimljenog razgovora.

For the past eight months, the mysterious content of these tapes

U prethodnih osam meseci, misteriozni sadržaj tih snimaka

has hung like the sword of Damocles over my head.

visio mi je nad glavom, poput Damoklovog mača.

I mean, who can remember what they said a year ago?

Mislim, ko bi se setio šta je sve rekao pre godinu dana?

Scared and mortified, I listen,

Uplašena na smrt, slušala sam,

listen as I prattle on about the flotsam and jetsam of the day;

slušala sam kako brbljam o svakidašnjim tricama i kučinama,

listen as I confess my love for the president,

slušala sam kako priznajem svoju ljubav prema predsedniku,

and, of course, my heartbreak;

i naravno o svom slomljenom srcu;

listen to my sometimes catty, sometimes churlish, sometimes silly self

slušala sam sebe, čas malicioznu, čas nevaspitanu, čas luckastu,

kako postajem okrutna, zlopamtilo, neotesana;

being cruel, unforgiving, uncouth;

listen, deeply, deeply ashamed, to the worst version of myself,

slušala sam duboko, duboko posramljena,

najgoru verziju sebe,

a self I don't even recognize.

sebe koju čak ni ne prepoznajem.

A few days later, the Starr Report is released to Congress,

Nekoliko dana kasnije, izveštaj Star je objavljen u kongresu,

and all of those tapes and transcripts, those stolen words, form a part of it.

i svi ti snimci i transkripti, te ukradene reči, bili su deo njega.

That people can read the transcripts is horrific enough.

To da ljudi mogu da čitaju transkripte je bilo dovoljno strašno,

ali nekoliko sedmica kasnije,

But a few weeks later,

audio snimci su emitovani na TV-u,

the audiotapes are aired on TV,

and significant portions made available online.

a značajan deo je bio dostupan na internetu.

The public humiliation was excruciating.

Javno poniženje je bolelo.

Life was almost unbearable.

Život skoro da je bio nepodnošljiv.

Ovo se nije često dešavalo te 1998,

This was not something that happened with regularity back then in 1998,

and by "this," I mean the stealing of people's private words, actions,

pod ovim, mislim na krađu privatnih reči, dela,

conversations or photos,

razgovora ili fotografija

and then making them public --

i na njihovo objavljivanje -

public without consent,

objavljivanje bez dozvole,

public without context

objavljivanje mimo konteksta

and public without compassion.

i objavljivanje bez saosećanja.

Fast-forward 12 years, to 2010,

Preskočićemo 12 godina do 2010.

and now social media has been born.

i sada imamo društvene mreže.

The landscape has sadly become much more populated with instances like mine,

Pejzaž je sada, nažalost, ispunjen slučajevima poput mog,

whether or not someone actually made a mistake,

bez obzira na to da li je neko zapravo zgrešio

and now, it's for both public and private people.

i sada su tu i javna i privatna lica.

The consequences for some have become dire, very dire.

Za neke su posledice bile kobne, uistinu kobne.

I was on the phone with my mom in September of 2010,

Razgovarala sam preko telefona sa mamom,

septembra 2010,

and we were talking about the news of a young college freshman

pričali smo o vesti

o mladom brucošu s univerziteta Ratgers

from Rutgers University,

named Tyler Clementi.

koji se zvao Tajler Klementi.

Sweet, sensitive, creative Tyler was secretly webcammed by his roommate

Slatkog, nežnog, kreativnog Tajlera

je tajno snimao njegov cimer

while being intimate with another man.

u momentu intimnosti s drugim muškarcem.

When the online world learned of this incident,

Kada je svet interneta saznao za ovaj incident,

the ridicule and cyberbullying ignited.

ismevanje i sajber maltretiranje je eksplodiralo.

A few days later,

Nekoliko dana kasnije,

Tyler jumped from the George Washington Bridge

Tajler je skočio s mosta Džordža Vašingtona

to his death.

u smrt.

He was 18.

Imao je 18 godina.

My mom was beside herself about what happened to Tyler and his family,

Moja majka je bila izbezumljena zbog Tajlera i njegove porodice,

and she was gutted with pain

bol ju je razdirao

in a way that I just couldn't quite understand.

onako kako nisam mogla u potpunosti da shvatim,

And then eventually, I realized she was reliving 1998,

a onda sam konačno shvatila,

proživljavala je 1998,

proživljavala je vreme kada je sedela pored mog kreveta svake noći,

reliving a time when she sat by my bed every night,

reliving -- (Chokes up)

proživljavala je vreme kada me je terala da se tuširam s otvorenim vratima

sorry -- reliving a time when she made me shower with the bathroom door open,

i proživljavala je vreme kada su se oba moja roditelja plašila

and reliving a time when both of my parents feared

da će me na smrt poniziti,

that I would be humiliated to death,

literally.

bukvalno.

Today, too many parents haven't had the chance

Danas, isuviše roditelja

nije imalo šansu da interveniše i spasi svoje voljene.

to step in and rescue their loved ones.

Isuviše njih je saznalo za dečje patnje i poniženja

Too many have learned of their child's suffering and humiliation

after it was too late.

kada je već bilo kasno.

Tajlerova tragična, brutalna smrt je bila prekretnica za mene.

Tyler's tragic, senseless death was a turning point for me.

It served to recontextualize my experiences,

Poslužila mi je da stavim svoja iskustva u novi kontekst

and I then began to look at the world of humiliation and bullying around me

i onda sam počela da zapažam svet ponižavanja i maltretiranja oko sebe

and see something different.

i da vidim nešto drugo.

In 1998, we had no way of knowing

Te 1998. nismo mogli da znamo

where this brave new technology called the internet would take us.

kuda će nas ova vrla nova tehnologija, zvana internet, odvesti.

Since then, it has connected people in unimaginable ways --

Od tada je povezala ljude na nezamislive načine,

joining lost siblings,

spajajući izgubljenu braću i sestre,

saving lives,

spašavajući živote, pokrećući revolucije,

launching revolutions ...

But the darkness, cyberbullying, and slut-shaming that I experienced

no mrak, sajber maltretiranje i opsceno vređanje, koje sam ja iskusila

had mushroomed.

se namnožilo.

Every day online, people -- especially young people,

Svakoga dana na internetu, ljude, naročito mlade ljude

who are not developmentally equipped to handle this --

koji nemaju dovoljno iskustva da se izbore s tim,

are so abused and humiliated

toliko zlostavljaju i ponižavaju

that they can't imagine living to the next day.

da oni ne mogu ni da zamisle da će doživeti sutra

i neki, tragično, i ne dožive,

And some, tragically, don't.

And there's nothing virtual about that.

i ništa tu nije virtuelno.

Childline, a UK nonprofit that's focused on helping young people on various issues,

ChildLine, Britanska neprofitna organizacija, koja pomaže mladima

released a staggering statistic late last year:

objavila je prošle godine zapanjujuću statistiku:

from 2012 to 2013, there was an 87 percent increase

Od 2012. do 2013.

došlo je do porasta od 87%

in calls and e-mails related to cyberbullying.

u pozivima i mejlovima zbog sajber maltretiranja.

A meta-analysis done out of the Netherlands

Metaanaliza urađena u Holandiji

showed that for the first time,

prvi put je pokazala

cyberbullying was leading to suicidal ideations

da sajber maltretiranje dovodi do začetka ideje o samoubistvu,

more significantly than offline bullying.

znatno češće nego maltretiranje van interneta.

And you know, what shocked me -- although it shouldn't have --

I znate šta me je zapanjilo, iako ne bi trebalo,

was other research last year

jedno drugo prošlogodišnje istraživanje koje je utvrdilo da je poniženje

that determined humiliation was a more intensely felt emotion

emocija jačeg intenziteta

i od sreće, pa čak i od besa.

than either happiness or even anger.

Cruelty to others is nothing new.

Okrutnost prema drugima nije novina,

ali na internetu, tehnološki potpomognuto posramljivanje je naglašenije,

But online, technologically enhanced shaming is amplified,

uncontained

neobuzdano i trajno dostupno.

and permanently accessible.

The echo of embarrassment used to extend only as far as your family, village,

Eho sramote se nekad prostirao samo do vaše porodice, sela,

school or community.

škole ili zajednice,

But now, it's the online community too.

ali danas je tu i internet zajednica.

Millions of people, often anonymously, can stab you with their words,

Milioni ljudi, često anonimno,

mogu da vas povrede svojim rečima, a to je mnogo bolno,

and that's a lot of pain.

And there are no perimeters around how many people can publicly observe you

i ne postoje parametri koliko ljudi

može javno da vas promatra

and put you in a public stockade.

i da vas smesti u javni tor.

There is a very personal price to public humiliation,

Prilično je lična cena

javnog poniženja,

and the growth of the internet has jacked up that price.

a rast interneta ju je uvećao.

Već skoro dve decenije,

For nearly two decades now,

we have slowly been sowing the seeds of shame and public humiliation

mi polako sejemo seme srama i javnog poniženja

in our cultural soil, both on- and offline.

u naše kulturno tlo, kako van interneta, tako i na njemu.

Gossip websites, paparazzi, reality programming, politics,

Tračerski sajtovi, paparaci, rijalitiji, politika,

news outlets and sometimes hackers

sadržaj vesti, a ponekad i hakeri, svi trguju sramotom.

all traffic in shame.

It's led to desensitization and a permissive environment online,

To je dovelo do bezosećajnosti i popustljivosti u internet okruženju

which lends itself to trolling, invasion of privacy and cyberbullying.

koje sebi dopušta trolovanja, narušavanje privatnosti i sajber maltretiranje.

This shift has created what Professor Nicolaus Mills calls

Ovaj preokret je stvorio, ono što profesor Nikolas Mils zove

"a culture of humiliation."

kulturom ponižavanja.

Consider a few prominent examples just from the past six months alone.

Razmotrite nekoliko reprezentativnih uzoraka samo u proteklih šest meseci.

Snapchat, the service which is used mainly by younger generations

Snepčat, servis koji koriste uglavnom mlađe generacije

and claims that its messages only have the life span of a few seconds.

i koji tvrdi da njihove poruke imaju rok trajanja

svega nekoliko sekundi.

You can imagine the range of content that that gets.

Možete da zamislite opseg sadržaja koji tu stiže.

A third-party app which Snapchatters use to preserve the life span of the messages

Spoljna aplikacija koju korisnici Snepčata koriste da sačuvaju poruke

was hacked,

je hakovana

i 100.000 ličnih prepiski, fotografija i snimaka je procurelo

and 100,000 personal conversations, photos and videos were leaked online,

to now have a life span of forever.

i time dobilo neograničen rok trajanja.

Jennifer Lawrence and several other actors had their iCloud accounts hacked,

Hakovani su iCloud nalozi Dženifer Lorens i nekih drugih glumaca,

and private, intimate, nude photos were plastered across the internet

te su privatne, intimne, golišave slike polepljene svuda po internetu

without their permission.

bez njihove dozvole.

One gossip website had over five million hits

Jedna tračerska internet stranica je imala preko pet miliona pregleda

for this one story.

samo za ovu priču.

And what about the Sony Pictures cyberhacking?

Šta je sa hakovanjem Soni pikčersa?

The documents which received the most attention

Dokumenta koja su dobila najviše pažnje

were private e-mails that had maximum public embarrassment value.

bili su privatni mejlovi čija se bruka najviše cenila u javnosti.

But in this culture of humiliation,

Ali u ovoj kulturi posramljivanja,

there is another kind of price tag attached to public shaming.

postoji i druga cena koja ide uz javno posramljivanje.

The price does not measure the cost to the victim,

Cena koja se ne meri time koliko je žrtva platila,

which Tyler and too many others --

koju su Tajler i mnogi drugi,

notably, women, minorities and members of the LGBTQ community --

naročito žene, pripadnici manjina,

i pripadnici LGBTK zajednice platili,

have paid,

but the price measures the profit of those who prey on them.

već cena koja meri profit onima koji su se okoristili njima.

This invasion of others is a raw material,

Ovaj upad u tuđe živote je sirovina

efficiently and ruthlessly mined, packaged and sold at a profit.

efikasno i nemilosrdno iskopana, upakovana i prodata zbog zarade.

A marketplace has emerged where public humiliation is a commodity,

Pojavilo se tržište na kome je javno poniženje roba

and shame is an industry.

a sramota je industrija.

How is the money made?

Kako se novac zarađuje?

Clicks.

Klikovima.

The more shame, the more clicks.

Što više srama, to više klikova.

The more clicks, the more advertising dollars.

Što više klikova, više novca od reklama.

We're in a dangerous cycle.

U opasnom smo krugu.

The more we click on this kind of gossip,

Što više klikćemo na ovakve tračeve,

the more numb we get to the human lives behind it.

sve smo bezosećajniji prema ljudskim životima iza njih,

And the more numb we get, the more we click.

a što smo bezosećajniji, to više klikćemo.

All the while,

Sve vreme, neko zarađuje novac

someone is making money off of the back of someone else's suffering.

na grbači tuđe patnje.

With every click, we make a choice.

Svakim klikom pravimo izbor.

The more we saturate our culture with public shaming,

Što više zasitimo našu kulturu javnim posramljivanjem,

the more accepted it is,

to nam je ono prihvatljivije,

the more we will see behavior like cyberbullying, trolling,

i sve češće ćemo da gledamo ponašanja, poput sajber maltretiranja,

trolovanja, nekih oblika hakovanja

some forms of hacking

i uznemiravanja na internetu.

and online harassment.

Why? Because they all have humiliation at their cores.

Zašto? Jer je u srži svega toga poniženje.

This behavior is a symptom of the culture we've created.

Ovo ponašanje je posledica kulture koju smo stvorili.

Just think about it.

Razmislite malo o tome.

Changing behavior begins with evolving beliefs.

Promena ponašanja nastaje razvojem stavova.

We've seen that to be true with racism, homophobia

Videli smo da je tako u slučaju rasizma, homofobije

and plenty of other biases,

i kod drugih predrasuda, prošlih i sadašnjih.

today and in the past.

As we've changed beliefs about same-sex marriage,

Kako smo menjali stavove o istopolnim brakovima,

more people have been offered equal freedoms.

jednaka sloboda izbora je ponuđena sve većem broju ljudi.

When we began valuing sustainability,

Kada smo počeli da cenimo održivost,

more people began to recycle.

sve više ljudi je počelo da reciklira.

So as far as our culture of humiliation goes,

Što se tiče naše kulture posramljivanja,

what we need is a cultural revolution.

potrebna nam je kulturna revolucija.

Public shaming as a blood sport has to stop,

Javno posramljivanje kao krvavi sport, mora da prestane.

and it's time for an intervention on the internet and in our culture.

Vreme je za posredovanje, na internetu i u našoj kulturi.

The shift begins with something simple,

Preokret počinje nečim jednostavnim, ali nije to lako.

but it's not easy.

We need to return to a long-held value of compassion,

Moramo se vratiti starim vrednostima, saosećanju i empatiji.

compassion and empathy.

Na internetu imamo deficit u saosećanju,

Online, we've got a compassion deficit,

an empathy crisis.

krizu empatije.

Researcher Brené Brown said, and I quote,

Naučnica Brene Braun je rekla, citiram:

"Shame can't survive empathy."

"Sram ne može da preživi empatiju."

Shame cannot survive empathy.

Sram ne može da preživi empatiju.

I've seen some very dark days in my life.

Imala sam prilično mračne periode u mom životu,

It was the compassion and empathy from my family, friends, professionals

a saosećanje i empatija moje porodice, prijatelja, profesionalaca,

and sometimes even strangers

a ponekad čak i stranaca su me spasili.

that saved me.

Even empathy from one person can make a difference.

Čak i empatija jedne osobe može mnogo da znači.

The theory of minority influence,

Teorija uticaja manjine,

proposed by social psychologist Serge Moscovici,

koju je predložio socio-psiholog Serž Moskovici,

says that even in small numbers,

tvrdi da čak i izražena u malom broju,

when there's consistency over time,

ukoliko postoji istrajnost tokom vremena,

change can happen.

promena je moguća.

In the online world, we can foster minority influence

U internet svetu, možemo da gajimo uticaj manjine

by becoming upstanders.

i postanemo pravdoljubivi.

To become an upstander means instead of bystander apathy,

Postati pravdoljubiv znači odbaciti apatiju posmatrača,

we can post a positive comment for someone or report a bullying situation.

možemo da postavimo pozitivan komentar o nekome i da prijavimo maltretiranje.

Trust me, compassionate comments help abate the negativity.

Verujte mi, saosećajni komentari pomažu umanjenju negativnosti.

We can also counteract the culture by supporting organizations

Možemo se takođe suprotstaviti kulturi, podržavajući organizacije

that deal with these kinds of issues,

koje se bave ovim pitanjima,

like the Tyler Clementi Foundation in the US;

poput fondacije Tajlera Klementija u SAD-u,

in the UK, there's Anti-Bullying Pro;

u Britaniji imamo organizaciju Anti-Bulling Pro,

and in Australia, there's PROJECT ROCKIT.

a u Australiji imamo projekat Rockit.

We talk a lot about our right to freedom of expression.

Govorimo mnogo o našem pravu na slobodu izražavanja,

But we need to talk more about our responsibility

ali moramo da govorimo više

o odgovornosti zbog slobode izražavanja.

to freedom of expression.

We all want to be heard,

Svi želimo da nas čuju,

but let's acknowledge the difference between speaking up with intention

ali hajde da prepoznamo razliku između isticanja s razlogom

and speaking up for attention.

i isticanja radi pažnje.

The internet is the superhighway for the id.

Internet je super auto-put ida,

But online, showing empathy to others benefits us all

ali pokazivanje empatije za druge na internetu

koristi svima nama i pomaže nam da stvorimo sigurniji i bolji svet.

and helps create a safer and better world.

We need to communicate online with compassion,

Moramo da komuniciramo na internetu sa saosećanjem,

consume news with compassion

da prihvatamo vesti sa saosećanjem

and click with compassion.

i da klikćemo saosećajno.

Just imagine walking a mile in someone else's headline.

Samo se zamislite na kratko u tuđem naslovu.

I'd like to end on a personal note.

Volela bih da završim u ličnom tonu.

In the past nine months,

U proteklih devet meseci,

the question I've been asked the most is "Why?"

pitanje koje mi često postavljaju je: zašto.

Why now?

Zašto sada? Zašto virim iza naslona?

Why was I sticking my head above the parapet?

You can read between the lines in those questions,

Možete da čitate između redova ova pitanja,

and the answer has nothing to do with politics.

a odgovor nema nikakve veze s politikom.

The top-note answer was and is "Because it's time."

Glavni odgovor je bio, i jeste, zato što je vreme:

Time to stop tiptoeing around my past,

vreme je da prestanem da se šunjam po prošlosti;

vreme da prestanem da živim u beščašću;

time to stop living a life of opprobrium

and time to take back my narrative.

i vreme je da preuzmem svoj narativ.

It's also not just about saving myself.

Takođe se ne radi samo o mom spasenju.

Anyone who is suffering from shame and public humiliation

Svi koji proživljavate sram i javno ponižavanje

needs to know one thing:

morate jedno da znate:

You can survive it.

možete preživeti.

Znam da je teško.

I know it's hard.

It may not be painless, quick or easy,

Možda nije bezbolno, brzo, ni lako,

but you can insist on a different ending to your story.

ali možete da zahtevate drugačiji kraj svoje priče.

Have compassion for yourself.

Imajte samilosti prema sebi.

We all deserve compassion

Svi zaslužujemo samilost,

and to live both online and off in a more compassionate world.

kao i da živimo, i na internetu i van njega, u saosećajnijem svetu.

Thank you for listening.

Hvala na pažnji.

(Applause and cheers)

(Aplauz)