The price of shame | Monica Lewinsky | TED

翻译人员: Glimmer Wang 校对人员: Pengpeng Wang

You're looking at a woman who was publicly silent for a decade.

站在你们面前的这个女人， 曾经在公众面前沉默了十年。

Obviously, that's changed,

当然，这已经改变了。

but only recently.

但是也只是最近才发生而已。

It was several months ago that I gave my very first major public talk,

几个月之前，

我在“30位30岁以下创业者”福布斯峰会上,

at the Forbes "30 Under 30 Summit" --

贡献了我第一个公众演讲。

1,500 brilliant people, all under the age of 30.

1500位杰出的人， 年龄全部都在30岁以下。

That meant that in 1998, the oldest among the group were only 14,

这意味着在1998年，

这些人中年龄最大的只有14岁，

and the youngest, just four.

而最小的，只有4岁。

I joked with them that some might only have heard of me from rap songs.

我开玩笑的跟他们说， 他们其中的一些人

可能只在说唱歌曲里听说过我。

Yes, I'm in rap songs.

是的，说唱歌曲里有我。

(Laughter)

Almost 40 rap songs.

近乎有40首。 （观众笑）

(Laughter)

But the night of my speech, a surprising thing happened.

但是就在我演讲的那一晚， 一件意外的事发生了。

At the age of 41, I was hit on by a 27-year-old guy.

41岁的我被一个27岁的男生搭讪了。

(Laughter)

I know, right?

我知道（我还算有些名气），对吧？

He was charming, and I was flattered,

他十分迷人并且不断地讨好我，

and I declined.

但是我拒绝了。

You know what his unsuccessful pickup line was?

你们知道他不成功的搭讪句是什么吗？

He could make me feel 22 again.

他说他可以让我重新体验22岁。

(Laughter)

（笑声）（掌声）

(Applause)

I realized, later that night,

我那晚才意识到我大概是唯一一个

I'm probably the only person over 40 who does not want to be 22 again.

不想重新体验22岁的中年人。

(Laughter)

（笑声）

(Applause)

（掌声）

At the age of 22, I fell in love with my boss.

在我22岁的时候，我爱上了我的上司，

And at the age of 24,

然后在24岁的时候，

I learned the devastating consequences.

我得到了毁灭性的教训。

Can I see a show of hands of anyone here

在场的人，有22岁时没做过错事

who didn't make a mistake or do something they regretted at 22?

或者没后悔过自己22岁经历的， 请举手示意好吗？

Yep. That's what I thought.

没错，我就是那样想的。

So like me, at 22, a few of you may have also taken wrong turns

所以你们中一些人，就像我一样， 在22岁时做了错误的选择，

and fallen in love with the wrong person,

爱上了错的人，

maybe even your boss.

这个人甚至可能是你的上司。

Unlike me, though,

虽然跟我的情况不同，

your boss probably wasn't the president of the United States of America.

你的上司可能不是美国总统。

(Laughter)

Of course, life is full of surprises.

当然了，生活充满着惊喜。

Not a day goes by that I'm not reminded of my mistake,

生活中的每一天， 都在提醒着我曾经犯下的错误，

and I regret that mistake deeply.

我也为此后悔不已。

In 1998, after having been swept up into an improbable romance,

1998年，在我陷入这段 不可能有结果的爱情之后，

I was then swept up into the eye of a political, legal and media maelstrom

我卷入了政治、法律和媒体漩涡的中心，

like we had never seen before.

这场漩涡我们都前所未见。

Remember, just a few years earlier,

要知道，仅仅在几年之前，

news was consumed from just three places:

我们只能从三个地方了解新闻：

读报刊杂志，

reading a newspaper or magazine,

listening to the radio

听广播，

or watching television.

或者看电视。

That was it.

就是这么简单。

But that wasn't my fate.

但到了我这里， 就没有那么好的命了。

Instead, this scandal was brought to you

与以往不同， 那次丑闻是通过数字革命

by the digital revolution.

被公之于众的。

That meant we could access all the information we wanted,

这次革命使得我们可以在 任何时间、地点

when we wanted it, anytime, anywhere.

获得我们想知道的任何信息

And when the story broke in January 1998,

在1998年的一月，事情曝光了，

网上的相关报道铺天盖地。

it broke online.

It was the first time the traditional news was usurped by the internet

那是网络第一次取代了传统媒体

来传播主流新闻，

for a major news story --

a click that reverberated around the world.

一个点击的声音响彻了全世界。

What that meant for me personally

对我个人来说，

was that overnight, I went from being a completely private figure

仅一个晚上过后， 我就从一个完全普通的无名人士，

to a publicly humiliated one, worldwide.

变成了一个全世界都在羞辱的人。

I was patient zero of losing a personal reputation on a global scale

几乎在一瞬间，我就成为了零号病人， 在全世界公众眼中

彻底丧失了个人名誉。

almost instantaneously.

This rush to judgment, enabled by technology,

科技使得人们草率的对我进行了评判，

也使得很多暴民开始攻击我。

led to mobs of virtual stone-throwers.

Granted, it was before social media,

诚然，那时并没有社交网络，

but people could still comment online,

但人们仍可以在线评论，

e-mail stories,

通过邮件转发故事， 当然还有不堪入耳的笑话。

and, of course, e-mail cruel jokes.

News sources plastered photos of me all over

新闻媒体将我的照片贴得到处都是，

借此提高报纸销量， 为网站吸引广告商，

to sell newspapers, banner ads online,

and to keep people tuned to the TV.

为电视节目吸引更多观众。

Do you recall a particular image of me, say, wearing a beret?

你们还记得当时我的那张图片吗，

就是戴着一顶贝雷帽的那一张？

Now, I admit I made mistakes --

现在，我承认我当时犯下了错误，

especially wearing that beret.

尤其是不应该戴那顶贝雷帽。

(Laughter)

But the attention and judgment that I received --

但在此事件之外，仅仅因我个人

not the story, but that I personally received --

所引起的轰动和道德评价， 是史无前例的。

was unprecedented.

I was branded as a tramp,

我被打上各种标签，母狗、

tart,

妓女、荡妇、婊子、贱人，

slut,

whore,

bimbo,

and, of course, "that woman."

当然还有，“那个女人”。

I was seen by many,

很多人知道我，

but actually known by few.

但很少有人了解我。

And I get it: it was easy to forget

并且我也明白：人们不会记得

that that woman was dimensional,

”那个女人“也是多维的、

had a soul

是有灵魂的、曾经也是完好无缺的。

and was once unbroken.

When this happened to me 17 years ago, there was no name for it.

17年前发生这件事的时候， 它还没有相应的专属名词。

Now we call it "cyberbullying" and "online harassment."

现在我们叫它”网络欺凌“或者”线上骚扰“。

Today, I want to share some of my experience with you,

今天，我想和大家分享一些我的经历，

talk about how that experience has helped shape my cultural observations,

谈谈这些经历是 如何塑造了我对文化的审视，

谈谈我是多么希望过去的经历 可以引起一场变革，帮助其他人

and how I hope my past experience can lead to a change

that results in less suffering for others.

少遭受一些痛苦。

In 1998, I lost my reputation and my dignity.

1998年，我失去了我的名誉和尊严。

I lost almost everything.

我几乎失去了所有，

甚至我的生命。

And I almost lost my life.

我来给大家描述这样一个画面。

Let me paint a picture for you.

It is September of 1998.

在1998年的9月，

I'm sitting in a windowless office room

我坐在一个没有窗户的办公室，

inside the Office of the Independent Counsel,

在独立检察官办公室里，

日光灯嗡嗡作响，

underneath humming fluorescent lights.

I'm listening to the sound of my voice,

我听着自己在一通电话里的声音，

my voice on surreptitiously taped phone calls

那个电话是一年前通过窃听录取的，

that a supposed friend had made the year before.

是一个我当时以为是朋友的人打来的。

我来到这里， 是因为我被法律要求亲自证明，

I'm here because I've been legally required

to personally authenticate all 20 hours of taped conversation.

这20小时的录音对话全部是真实的。

For the past eight months, the mysterious content of these tapes

在过去的八个月里，这些对话的内容，

has hung like the sword of Damocles over my head.

一直像达摩克利斯之剑（临头的危险） 一样悬在我的头上。

I mean, who can remember what they said a year ago?

想想，谁会记得一年前自己说的话呢？

Scared and mortified, I listen,

我带着害怕与窘迫的心情听着，

listen as I prattle on about the flotsam and jetsam of the day;

听着自己闲聊一些琐碎的事；

listen as I confess my love for the president,

听着自己坦白对总统的爱，

and, of course, my heartbreak;

以及感到多么的心碎；

listen to my sometimes catty, sometimes churlish, sometimes silly self

我听着有时狡猾、有时脾气暴躁、 有时愚蠢的自己，

变得残忍，不愿宽恕，变得陌生；

being cruel, unforgiving, uncouth;

listen, deeply, deeply ashamed, to the worst version of myself,

我听着，我对那最坏的自己

产生了极深、极深的羞耻感，

那是一个连我都不认识的自己。

a self I don't even recognize.

A few days later, the Starr Report is released to Congress,

几天之后，议会接到了斯塔尔报告，

and all of those tapes and transcripts, those stolen words, form a part of it.

那里面包括了所有被偷走的 录音和文字记录。

That people can read the transcripts is horrific enough.

人们能读到原文稿， 就已经十分可怕了，

但是几周之后，

But a few weeks later,

录音在电视上被播报了，

the audiotapes are aired on TV,

and significant portions made available online.

并且重要的部分都被传到了网上。

The public humiliation was excruciating.

公众的羞辱令我备受折磨。

Life was almost unbearable.

生命几乎变得不可承受。

这种事在1998年并不常见，

This was not something that happened with regularity back then in 1998,

and by "this," I mean the stealing of people's private words, actions,

通过这种事， 我是指偷窃私人的言语，行为，

conversations or photos,

谈话或者照片，

and then making them public --

然后将它们公之于众——

public without consent,

在未经允许的情况下、

public without context

在没有来龙去脉的情况下、

and public without compassion.

在没有怜悯心的情况下公之于众。

Fast-forward 12 years, to 2010,

12年很快过去了，到了2010年

and now social media has been born.

社交媒体诞生了。

The landscape has sadly become much more populated with instances like mine,

像我这样的例子更加层出不穷，

whether or not someone actually made a mistake,

不论当事人是否真的犯了错误，

and now, it's for both public and private people.

甚至不论公众人物还是普通人， 都不能幸免。

The consequences for some have become dire, very dire.

这个结果对一些人来说 变得可怕，非常可怕。

在2010年的9月，我和妈妈

I was on the phone with my mom in September of 2010,

打了一通电话，

and we were talking about the news of a young college freshman

讨论了关于泰勒·克莱门蒂的新闻，

他是罗格斯大学

from Rutgers University,

一年级的新生。

named Tyler Clementi.

Sweet, sensitive, creative Tyler was secretly webcammed by his roommate

亲切的、敏感的、充满创造力的泰勒

被他的室友在宿舍安装了网络摄像头，

while being intimate with another man.

录下了他与另一名男子的亲密行为。

When the online world learned of this incident,

当这件事传播到网络上，

the ridicule and cyberbullying ignited.

嘲笑和网络欺凌被点燃。

A few days later,

几天之后，

泰勒从乔治华盛顿大桥跳下。

Tyler jumped from the George Washington Bridge

to his death.

他自杀了。

He was 18.

他当时只有18岁。

My mom was beside herself about what happened to Tyler and his family,

我妈妈对于泰勒和他家庭 遭受的一切感到十分悲伤，

and she was gutted with pain

但当时我对于她的悲伤和痛苦

in a way that I just couldn't quite understand.

并不能感同身受，

And then eventually, I realized she was reliving 1998,

后来我终于明白了，

妈妈又重新经历了1998年的事，

重新经历了那段她每个晚上 都坐在我床头的时期，

reliving a time when she sat by my bed every night,

reliving -- (Chokes up)

重新经历了那段她要我 开着浴室门洗澡的时期，

sorry -- reliving a time when she made me shower with the bathroom door open,

重新经历了那段令我的 父母担惊受怕的时期，

and reliving a time when both of my parents feared

他们怕我因受不了流言蜚语的羞辱

that I would be humiliated to death,

literally.

而自杀。

Today, too many parents haven't had the chance

今天，太多父母

没有机会干预或拯救他们挚爱的人。

to step in and rescue their loved ones.

太多父母在得知他们孩子正遭受痛苦， 备受凌辱的时候，

Too many have learned of their child's suffering and humiliation

after it was too late.

一切都太晚了。

泰勒的悲剧，他的死亡， 对我来说是一个转折点。

Tyler's tragic, senseless death was a turning point for me.

It served to recontextualize my experiences,

它让我再次想起了我的经历，

and I then began to look at the world of humiliation and bullying around me

我开始审视身边存在的 羞辱和欺凌，

and see something different.

并且发现了一些不同的东西。

In 1998, we had no way of knowing

在1998年，我们根本没有意识到 这个叫做”互联网“的科技

where this brave new technology called the internet would take us.

会将我们带往何处。

Since then, it has connected people in unimaginable ways --

从那时起，它以我们始料未及的 方式将人们彼此联系起来，

joining lost siblings,

找到失散的兄弟姐妹，

saving lives,

拯救生命，发起革命，

launching revolutions ...

但是我经历过的黑暗、网络欺凌 和被骂做荡妇的状况，

But the darkness, cyberbullying, and slut-shaming that I experienced

had mushroomed.

也在迅速增加。

Every day online, people -- especially young people,

网上的人们，尤其是那些还没有成熟到

who are not developmentally equipped to handle this --

可以处理这些事的年轻人，

are so abused and humiliated

每天都被指责、羞辱，

that they can't imagine living to the next day.

以至于他们甚至不敢 想象如何面对新的一天，

很遗憾，一些年轻人也的确 因此失去了生命，

And some, tragically, don't.

And there's nothing virtual about that.

而他们的生命失去得没有任何意义。

Childline, a UK nonprofit that's focused on helping young people on various issues,

ChildLine，英国的一个旨在帮助年轻人 解决各种问题的公益组织，

released a staggering statistic late last year:

在去年年末给出了一个令人惊愕的数据：

from 2012 to 2013, there was an 87 percent increase

与2012年相比，2013年

有关网络凌辱的电话和邮件的数量

in calls and e-mails related to cyberbullying.

增长了87%。

A meta-analysis done out of the Netherlands

荷兰的一项综合分析

showed that for the first time,

首次指出，

cyberbullying was leading to suicidal ideations

网络欺凌比线下欺凌更容易导致

more significantly than offline bullying.

人们产生自杀的念头。

And you know, what shocked me -- although it shouldn't have --

而且，去年还有一项研究 更让我震惊，

was other research last year

尽管我本不该如此，那项研究发现

that determined humiliation was a more intensely felt emotion

相比快乐或是愤怒，羞辱是一种

更加强烈的一种情感。

than either happiness or even anger.

Cruelty to others is nothing new.

粗暴的对待他人 已经不是什么新鲜事了，

但是在网络上，技术的进步 导致羞辱被无限放大、

But online, technologically enhanced shaming is amplified,

uncontained

缺乏他人的包容，而且永久可见。

and permanently accessible.

The echo of embarrassment used to extend only as far as your family, village,

在过去，羞辱的传播 只会涉及到你的家人、村庄，

school or community.

学校或者社区，

But now, it's the online community too.

但是现在有了网上社区。

Millions of people, often anonymously, can stab you with their words,

成百万的人，通常是匿名的人

用他们的言语刺伤你， 那种伤痛难以言表，

and that's a lot of pain.

And there are no perimeters around how many people can publicly observe you

而且你不知道到底有多少人， 什么样的人

能够公开地

and put you in a public stockade.

看到这些言论。

There is a very personal price to public humiliation,

被公开羞辱

对个人的伤害很大，

and the growth of the internet has jacked up that price.

而且网络的发展加剧了这种伤害。

近二十年来，

For nearly two decades now,

we have slowly been sowing the seeds of shame and public humiliation

无论是网络还是生活中， 我们都在文化的土壤里慢慢地

in our cultural soil, both on- and offline.

种下了公开羞辱的种子。

Gossip websites, paparazzi, reality programming, politics,

八卦网站，狗仔队，真人节目，政治话题，

news outlets and sometimes hackers

新闻报道，甚至黑客， 这些都是羞辱的渠道。

all traffic in shame.

It's led to desensitization and a permissive environment online,

麻木不仁、放纵自由的网络环境，

which lends itself to trolling, invasion of privacy and cyberbullying.

让网络煽动、隐私侵犯和 网络欺凌越来越猖獗。

This shift has created what Professor Nicolaus Mills calls

这种转变创造了 尼古拉斯·米尔斯教授所说的

"a culture of humiliation."

羞辱文化。

Consider a few prominent examples just from the past six months alone.

来看一些典型的例子， 都是过去六个月内刚刚发生的。

Snapchat, the service which is used mainly by younger generations

Snapchat，这种服务主要是年轻人在用，

and claims that its messages only have the life span of a few seconds.

宣称它上面的信息

只会保留几秒种。

You can imagine the range of content that that gets.

你们可以想象一下这会涉及到哪些内容。

A third-party app which Snapchatters use to preserve the life span of the messages

一个Snapchat用来维持 信息寿命的第三方软件

被黑客攻击了，

was hacked,

这导致10万条私人对话、照片、视频 在网络上遭到泄露，

and 100,000 personal conversations, photos and videos were leaked online,

to now have a life span of forever.

并且变得随时随地唾手可得。

Jennifer Lawrence and several other actors had their iCloud accounts hacked,

詹妮弗·劳伦斯和其他几个演员的 iCloud账户被入侵，

and private, intimate, nude photos were plastered across the internet

私人的，亲密的，裸体的照片未经过允许

without their permission.

就被粘贴在了网上。

One gossip website had over five million hits

仅这一个丑闻就使得一个八卦网站获得了

for this one story.

超过五百万的点击量。

And what about the Sony Pictures cyberhacking?

想想索尼影业黑客攻击？

The documents which received the most attention

最受关注的文件就是那些私人邮件，

were private e-mails that had maximum public embarrassment value.

它们具备最大的公开羞辱的价值。

但是在羞辱文化中，

But in this culture of humiliation,

there is another kind of price tag attached to public shaming.

公开羞辱还被贴上了另外一种价格标签。

The price does not measure the cost to the victim,

这里不衡量受害者的损失，

which Tyler and too many others --

就像泰勒还有其他很多人，

notably, women, minorities and members of the LGBTQ community --

尤其是女人、少数群体，

以及多元性别社区， 这些受害者的损失，

have paid,

but the price measures the profit of those who prey on them.

而是衡量通过折磨他们所获得的利润。

侵入他人的私人领域是一种原材料，

This invasion of others is a raw material,

efficiently and ruthlessly mined, packaged and sold at a profit.

被有效地、无情地挖掘出来， 然后包装，销售，获取利润。

在一个新生的市场中， 公开羞辱成了一种商品，

A marketplace has emerged where public humiliation is a commodity,

而耻辱成为了一个产业。

and shame is an industry.

如何赚钱呢？

How is the money made?

Clicks.

点击。

The more shame, the more clicks.

越是见不得人的事，点击量就越多。

The more clicks, the more advertising dollars.

点击量越多，赚取的广告费用就越多。

We're in a dangerous cycle.

我们处在一个危险的循环当中。

The more we click on this kind of gossip,

我们越多地点击这种八卦，

the more numb we get to the human lives behind it.

我们对其背后当事人的 生活就越麻木不仁。

And the more numb we get, the more we click.

我们越麻木不仁，点击得就越多。

All the while,

自始至终，都是某些人在利用

someone is making money off of the back of someone else's suffering.

他人的痛苦来牟利。

With every click, we make a choice.

每一次点击，我们都是在作出选择。

The more we saturate our culture with public shaming,

文化中充斥的公开羞辱越多，

the more accepted it is,

我们越愿意接受它，

the more we will see behavior like cyberbullying, trolling,

我们就会看到更多的像网络欺凌、 网络煽动

黑客入侵、线上骚扰，

some forms of hacking

诸如此类的行为。

and online harassment.

Why? Because they all have humiliation at their cores.

为什么？因为它们的核心都是羞辱。

This behavior is a symptom of the culture we've created.

这些行为是我们创造的文化的一种病症。

Just think about it.

想一想吧。

Changing behavior begins with evolving beliefs.

从改变信仰开始，改变我们的行为。

We've seen that to be true with racism, homophobia

过去和如今的很多种族歧视、 同性歧视及其他歧视，

and plenty of other biases,

都可以通过这样的方式来消除。

today and in the past.

As we've changed beliefs about same-sex marriage,

随着我们对同性结婚看法的改变，

more people have been offered equal freedoms.

更多的人被赋予了平等的自由。

When we began valuing sustainability,

当我们意识到了可持续性的重要之处，

more people began to recycle.

更多的人开始已经 把目光转向了循环利用。

So as far as our culture of humiliation goes,

现在，随着羞辱文化的发展，

what we need is a cultural revolution.

我们需要的是文化的变革。

Public shaming as a blood sport has to stop,

公开羞辱这种流血的文化 是时候该停止了，

and it's time for an intervention on the internet and in our culture.

无论是互联网还是我们的文化， 都是时候对其进行干预了。

The shift begins with something simple,

转变可以从简单的事开始， 但是这又谈何容易。

but it's not easy.

We need to return to a long-held value of compassion,

我们需要拾回怜悯的价值观—— 同情心和同理心。

compassion and empathy.

在网络上，出现了同情心匮乏

Online, we've got a compassion deficit,

an empathy crisis.

和同理心危机。

Researcher Brené Brown said, and I quote,

引用研究人员布林·布朗的话，

"Shame can't survive empathy."

“耻辱在同理心下无法存活。”

Shame cannot survive empathy.

耻辱在同理心下无法存活。

I've seen some very dark days in my life.

我的生命中有过一段十分黑暗的日子，

It was the compassion and empathy from my family, friends, professionals

而来自家人、朋友、专家， 甚至一些陌生人的

同情心和同理心拯救了我，

and sometimes even strangers

that saved me.

Even empathy from one person can make a difference.

来自哪怕只有一个人的同理心， 都会是莫大的安慰。

The theory of minority influence,

社会学家谢尔盖·莫斯科维奇

proposed by social psychologist Serge Moscovici,

所提出的小众影响理论认为，

says that even in small numbers,

哪怕是很小的一部分群体的行为，

when there's consistency over time,

只要能坚持下去，

change can happen.

也会引起变化。

In the online world, we can foster minority influence

在网络世界，我们可以通过以身作则，

by becoming upstanders.

来培育小众影响力。

To become an upstander means instead of bystander apathy,

以身作则的意思是说， 并不只是同情的旁观，而是要

we can post a positive comment for someone or report a bullying situation.

发表积极的评论支持受害者， 或举报网络欺凌的现象。

Trust me, compassionate comments help abate the negativity.

相信我，富有同情心的评论 可以帮助减少消极影响。

We can also counteract the culture by supporting organizations

我们还可以通过支持 处理这类问题的组织机构

that deal with these kinds of issues,

来对抗这种羞辱文化，

like the Tyler Clementi Foundation in the US;

比如，美国有泰勒·克莱门蒂基金会，

in the UK, there's Anti-Bullying Pro;

英国有反欺凌项目，

and in Australia, there's PROJECT ROCKIT.

澳大利亚有Rockit项目。

We talk a lot about our right to freedom of expression.

我们一直在谈论言论自由的权利，

But we need to talk more about our responsibility

但是我们也需要更多地谈到

我们在言论自由方面的义务。

to freedom of expression.

我们都想被听到，

We all want to be heard,

but let's acknowledge the difference between speaking up with intention

但是我们要区别怀有意图的发声，

and speaking up for attention.

和想被关注的发声。

The internet is the superhighway for the id.

互联网是个人表达自我的高速公路，

But online, showing empathy to others benefits us all

不过在网上，对他人表现出同理心

会使我们每个人受益， 并且会帮助创造更安全、更美好的世界。

and helps create a safer and better world.

We need to communicate online with compassion,

我们需要怀着同情心在网上交流，

consume news with compassion

怀着同情心阅读新闻，

and click with compassion.

怀着同情心进行点击。

Just imagine walking a mile in someone else's headline.

想象一下自己活在别人 新闻头条里的情形吧。

I'd like to end on a personal note.

最后，我想以一些个人感想 结束今天的演讲。

In the past nine months,

在过去的九个月里，

the question I've been asked the most is "Why?"

我被问的最多的问题就是“为什么”。

Why now?

为什么是现在？ 为什么选择站出来面对大众？

Why was I sticking my head above the parapet?

You can read between the lines in those questions,

你们应该听出这些问题的言外之意，

and the answer has nothing to do with politics.

答案和政治无关。

The top-note answer was and is "Because it's time."

我的回答从来都是，因为是时候了：

Time to stop tiptoeing around my past,

是时候不在为曾经的过失 而小心翼翼的生活，

是时候停止那种充满羞辱的生活，

time to stop living a life of opprobrium

and time to take back my narrative.

是时候找回我的人生方向。

It's also not just about saving myself.

这不仅仅是自我救赎。

Anyone who is suffering from shame and public humiliation

任何遭受耻辱和公开羞辱的人都应该

needs to know one thing:

知道这点：

You can survive it.

你能撑过去。

I know it's hard.

我知道这很难。

It may not be painless, quick or easy,

可能会很痛苦，漫长和艰难，

but you can insist on a different ending to your story.

但是你可以坚持下去， 并为你的故事改写不同的结局。

Have compassion for yourself.

同情自己，

We all deserve compassion

我们都值得同情。

and to live both online and off in a more compassionate world.

无论网络上还是生活中， 我们都需要活在一个更富有同情心的世界。

Thank you for listening.

谢谢聆听。

(Applause and cheers)

（掌声）