The price of shame | Monica Lewinsky | TED

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譯者: Lidong Zhuo 審譯者: Marssi Draw
00:12
You're looking at a woman who was publicly silent for a decade.
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你看到的是一個 對公眾沉默了十年的女人。
00:18
Obviously, that's changed,
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顯然情況已經改變了,
00:20
but only recently.
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但那只是最近的事。
00:22
It was several months ago that I gave my very first major public talk,
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幾個月前,
我首次發表大型公開演說,
00:27
at the Forbes "30 Under 30 Summit" --
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那是在「富比世 30 青年」高峰會上:
00:30
1,500 brilliant people, all under the age of 30.
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1,500 位全是 30 歲以下的聰明人。
00:35
That meant that in 1998, the oldest among the group were only 14,
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這意謂著在 1998 年,
這群人之中最年長的只有 14 歲,
00:41
and the youngest, just four.
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而最年輕的只有 4 歲。
00:44
I joked with them that some might only have heard of me from rap songs.
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我和他們開玩笑說,
有些人應該只有在饒舌歌裡 聽過我的名字。
00:50
Yes, I'm in rap songs.
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是的,我在饒舌歌裡出現。
00:52
(Laughter)
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00:53
Almost 40 rap songs.
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將近 40 首饒舌歌。(笑聲)
00:56
(Laughter)
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00:58
But the night of my speech, a surprising thing happened.
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不過我演講的那晚, 發生了令人驚訝的事。
01:02
At the age of 41, I was hit on by a 27-year-old guy.
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41 歲的我 被 27 歲的小夥子搭訕了。
01:08
(Laughter)
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01:09
I know, right?
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我知道,很驚人吧?
01:12
He was charming, and I was flattered,
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他很迷人,我也很開心,
01:14
and I declined.
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但我婉拒了。
01:17
You know what his unsuccessful pickup line was?
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你知道他的失敗搭訕台詞 是什麼嗎?
01:20
He could make me feel 22 again.
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他可以讓我感覺回到 22 歲。
01:23
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)(掌聲)
01:27
(Applause)
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01:30
I realized, later that night,
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那個晚上我意識到 我可能是唯一年過 40,
01:32
I'm probably the only person over 40 who does not want to be 22 again.
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卻不想再回到 22 歲的人。
01:38
(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
01:41
(Applause)
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(掌聲)
01:47
At the age of 22, I fell in love with my boss.
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我 22 歲那年, 愛上了我的上司;
01:52
And at the age of 24,
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24 歲的時候,
01:55
I learned the devastating consequences.
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我嘗到了毀滅性的後果。
01:59
Can I see a show of hands of anyone here
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在座有以下情況請舉手:
02:02
who didn't make a mistake or do something they regretted at 22?
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有人 22 歲的時候從未犯錯, 或從未做過後悔的事嗎?
02:09
Yep. That's what I thought.
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沒錯,和我想的一樣。
02:12
So like me, at 22, a few of you may have also taken wrong turns
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就像我 22 歲的時候一樣,
你們之中有些人也做了錯誤的選擇,
02:18
and fallen in love with the wrong person,
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愛上錯的對象,
02:21
maybe even your boss.
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甚至可能是你的上司。
02:24
Unlike me, though,
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但是不像我,你的上司
02:26
your boss probably wasn't the president of the United States of America.
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大概不會是美國總統。
02:30
(Laughter)
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02:31
Of course, life is full of surprises.
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當然,生活中處處都有驚喜。
02:35
Not a day goes by that I'm not reminded of my mistake,
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不會因為時間流逝 就沒人提起我犯的錯,
02:40
and I regret that mistake deeply.
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我對那個錯誤深感後悔。
02:45
In 1998, after having been swept up into an improbable romance,
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1998 年,我被捲入一場 不太可能發生的愛情之後,
02:52
I was then swept up into the eye of a political, legal and media maelstrom
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我又被捲入政治、法律 和媒體漩渦的核心之中,
02:57
like we had never seen before.
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就像我們從未見過似的。
03:01
Remember, just a few years earlier,
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要記得,僅僅在那之前幾年,
03:03
news was consumed from just three places:
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你只會從三個地方看到新聞:
讀報章雜誌、
03:07
reading a newspaper or magazine,
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03:09
listening to the radio
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聽廣播,
03:11
or watching television.
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或是看電視。
03:12
That was it.
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這就是所有的方式了。
03:14
But that wasn't my fate.
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但我的命運不只是如此。
03:18
Instead, this scandal was brought to you
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相反地,這個醜聞透過數位革命
03:21
by the digital revolution.
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傳遞給各位。
03:24
That meant we could access all the information we wanted,
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這意謂著我們可以 獲取任何想要的訊息,
03:27
when we wanted it, anytime, anywhere.
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只要我們想要了解的時候, 任何時間、任何地點都能看到。
03:32
And when the story broke in January 1998,
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因此當那個故事 在 1998 年一月披露的時候,
就在網路上爆發了。
03:37
it broke online.
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03:39
It was the first time the traditional news was usurped by the internet
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那是第一次傳統新聞
因為一則重要新聞故事 被網路篡位,
03:44
for a major news story --
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03:47
a click that reverberated around the world.
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一個點擊就能在世界各地造成迴響。
03:52
What that meant for me personally
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而這件事對於我個人的意義在於:
03:54
was that overnight, I went from being a completely private figure
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一夜之間我從一個普通人
04:00
to a publicly humiliated one, worldwide.
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成為一個被全世界公開羞辱的人。
04:05
I was patient zero of losing a personal reputation on a global scale
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我幾乎是轉眼間就成為在全世界
失去個人名譽的頭號病人。
04:11
almost instantaneously.
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04:15
This rush to judgment, enabled by technology,
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這種透過科技的批判浪潮,
04:18
led to mobs of virtual stone-throwers.
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帶來了一大夥虛擬的批判暴民。
04:21
Granted, it was before social media,
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就算這件事是在社群媒體出現之前,
04:24
but people could still comment online,
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但是人人都可以在網路上評論,
04:28
e-mail stories,
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透過電子郵件寄送故事,當然還有,
04:29
and, of course, e-mail cruel jokes.
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透過電子郵件寄送殘忍笑話。
04:34
News sources plastered photos of me all over
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新聞消息來源到處張貼我的照片,
賣給報紙、網路上的小廣告,
04:38
to sell newspapers, banner ads online,
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04:41
and to keep people tuned to the TV.
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讓大家繼續看電視。
04:45
Do you recall a particular image of me, say, wearing a beret?
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你有沒有想起我的某一張照片,
比如說,戴著貝雷帽那張?
04:53
Now, I admit I made mistakes --
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現在,我承認我犯過的錯誤,
04:56
especially wearing that beret.
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尤其是戴著那頂貝雷帽。
04:58
(Laughter)
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05:00
But the attention and judgment that I received --
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但是那些針對我的關注和批評, 不是針對故事,
05:02
not the story, but that I personally received --
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而是針對於我個人的關注和批評 史無前例。
05:06
was unprecedented.
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05:08
I was branded as a tramp,
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我被貼上淫婦、
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tart,
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妓女、蕩婦、娼妓、笨女人的標籤,
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slut,
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05:15
whore,
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bimbo,
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05:18
and, of course, "that woman."
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當然還有「那個女人」。
05:22
I was seen by many,
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很多人見過我,
05:24
but actually known by few.
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但是只有少數人認識我。
05:28
And I get it: it was easy to forget
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然而我知道:大家很容易忘記
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that that woman was dimensional,
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那個女人曾有軀體、
05:34
had a soul
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有靈魂,而且曾完整無缺。
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and was once unbroken.
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05:41
When this happened to me 17 years ago, there was no name for it.
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這件事 17 年前發生在我身上的時候, 還沒有專有名詞形容它。
05:46
Now we call it "cyberbullying" and "online harassment."
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現在我們稱為 網路霸凌或者網路騷擾。
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Today, I want to share some of my experience with you,
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今天,我想和大家分享一些我的經歷,
05:55
talk about how that experience has helped shape my cultural observations,
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說說那個經歷如何幫我 塑造我的文化觀察,
還有我多麼希望 過去的經歷能帶來改變,
06:01
and how I hope my past experience can lead to a change
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06:04
that results in less suffering for others.
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讓更少人遭受苦難。
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In 1998, I lost my reputation and my dignity.
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1998 年,我失去了 我的名譽和尊嚴。
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I lost almost everything.
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我幾乎失去一切,
也幾乎失去了我的生活。
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And I almost lost my life.
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讓我為各位描繪一幅圖像。
06:25
Let me paint a picture for you.
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06:29
It is September of 1998.
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那是在 1998 年九月,
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I'm sitting in a windowless office room
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我坐在一間沒有窗戶的辦公室裡,
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inside the Office of the Independent Counsel,
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位在獨立檢察官的辦公室內,
頭頂上的日光燈嗡嗡作響。
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underneath humming fluorescent lights.
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06:42
I'm listening to the sound of my voice,
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我聽著自己的聲音,
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my voice on surreptitiously taped phone calls
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我在秘密錄音電話裡的聲音,
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that a supposed friend had made the year before.
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那是原以為是朋友的人 在前一年錄的音。
我在這裡是因為法令上要求
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I'm here because I've been legally required
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06:57
to personally authenticate all 20 hours of taped conversation.
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我要親自證明這 20 小時 錄音對話的真實性。
07:04
For the past eight months, the mysterious content of these tapes
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在那過去八個月,這些神秘的錄音內容
07:09
has hung like the sword of Damocles over my head.
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像一把達摩克利斯之劍 懸在我的頭上。
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I mean, who can remember what they said a year ago?
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我是說,誰記得他們一年前說了什麼?
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Scared and mortified, I listen,
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我窘迫且驚恐地聽著,
07:22
listen as I prattle on about the flotsam and jetsam of the day;
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聽著我聊一天中的雜事;
07:27
listen as I confess my love for the president,
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聽著我承認對總統的愛,
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and, of course, my heartbreak;
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當然還有,我的傷心事;
07:34
listen to my sometimes catty, sometimes churlish, sometimes silly self
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聽著我有時狡詐、有時無禮、 有時很愚蠢的自己,
變得冷酷、無情、粗魯;
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being cruel, unforgiving, uncouth;
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07:45
listen, deeply, deeply ashamed, to the worst version of myself,
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聽著,感到深深、深深地慚愧,
對於我最差的一面,
那個連我自己都認不出的自己。
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a self I don't even recognize.
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07:56
A few days later, the Starr Report is released to Congress,
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幾天之後,史塔報告送進國會,
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and all of those tapes and transcripts, those stolen words, form a part of it.
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還有所有的錄音帶和抄本, 那些偷來的文字成了其中一部分。
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That people can read the transcripts is horrific enough.
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那些人們可以閱讀的抄本 已經夠恐怖了,
但是幾週之後,
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But a few weeks later,
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錄音帶在電視上播出,
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the audiotapes are aired on TV,
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08:16
and significant portions made available online.
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而且重要的部分還被放在網路上。
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The public humiliation was excruciating.
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公開羞辱讓人非常痛苦,
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Life was almost unbearable.
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生活幾乎讓人難以承受。
這在 1998 年的時候 可不是一件尋常的事情,
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This was not something that happened with regularity back then in 1998,
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08:38
and by "this," I mean the stealing of people's private words, actions,
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透過這點,我是指 竊取人們的私人言論、行動、
08:43
conversations or photos,
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對話或圖片,
08:46
and then making them public --
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然後公開一切——
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public without consent,
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未經同意就公開,
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public without context
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沒有交代來龍去脈就公開,
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and public without compassion.
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而且毫不留情地公開。
08:57
Fast-forward 12 years, to 2010,
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時間快轉 12 年到 2010 年,
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and now social media has been born.
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現在社群媒體誕生了。
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The landscape has sadly become much more populated with instances like mine,
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到處都可悲地充斥著 和我一樣的例子,
09:09
whether or not someone actually made a mistake,
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不管這個人是不是真的犯了錯,
09:13
and now, it's for both public and private people.
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而且現在這是公眾人物 和一般平民都會有的遭遇。
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The consequences for some have become dire, very dire.
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結果對一些人來說 變得殘忍,非常殘忍。
有天我和母親通電話,
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I was on the phone with my mom in September of 2010,
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那是在 2010 年九月的時候,
09:30
and we were talking about the news of a young college freshman
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當時我們在討論
關於羅格斯大學一位新生的新聞,
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from Rutgers University,
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他的名叫泰勒.克里蒙提。
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named Tyler Clementi.
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09:38
Sweet, sensitive, creative Tyler was secretly webcammed by his roommate
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親切、感性、有創造力的泰勒
曾被室友用網路攝影機偷拍,
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while being intimate with another man.
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當時他和男生正在親密互動。
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When the online world learned of this incident,
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當網路世界知道了這個事件,
09:51
the ridicule and cyberbullying ignited.
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嘲笑與網路霸凌一觸即發。
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A few days later,
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幾天後,
泰勒從喬治華盛頓大橋跳下,
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Tyler jumped from the George Washington Bridge
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10:01
to his death.
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因此喪命。
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He was 18.
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他當時才 18 歲。
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My mom was beside herself about what happened to Tyler and his family,
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我的母親對泰勒 和他家人的經歷非常驚訝,
10:12
and she was gutted with pain
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她既傷痛又震驚,
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in a way that I just couldn't quite understand.
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用一種我無法理解的方式悲慟,
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And then eventually, I realized she was reliving 1998,
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最後我才終於意識到
她再次經歷了 1998 年,
再次經歷她每夜 坐在我床邊的那個時候,
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reliving a time when she sat by my bed every night,
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10:30
reliving -- (Chokes up)
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再次經歷她讓我 開著浴室門洗澡的那個時候,
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sorry -- reliving a time when she made me shower with the bathroom door open,
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再次經歷我的父母都很害怕
10:37
and reliving a time when both of my parents feared
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我可能因為羞辱而死的那個時候,
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that I would be humiliated to death,
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10:43
literally.
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真的是這樣。
10:48
Today, too many parents haven't had the chance
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如今,太多的家長
沒有機會介入或營救自己的摯愛。
10:52
to step in and rescue their loved ones.
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很多家長知道孩子 感到痛苦和羞辱的時候
10:55
Too many have learned of their child's suffering and humiliation
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after it was too late.
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都已經太遲了。
泰勒悲劇、沒有意義的死亡 對我來說是個轉折點。
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Tyler's tragic, senseless death was a turning point for me.
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11:06
It served to recontextualize my experiences,
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這件事讓我用新觀點 檢視我的經驗,
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and I then began to look at the world of humiliation and bullying around me
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然後我開始去看這個 在我身邊充斥羞辱和霸凌的世界,
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and see something different.
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去看不一樣的事物。
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In 1998, we had no way of knowing
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1998 年,我們沒有辦法了解 這個名為「網際網路」的美好新科技
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where this brave new technology called the internet would take us.
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會帶我們到什麼境界。
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Since then, it has connected people in unimaginable ways --
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那之後,它以難以想像的方式 聯繫著人們、
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joining lost siblings,
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找到失散的手足、
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saving lives,
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拯救生命、發動革命,
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launching revolutions ...
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但黑暗面是,我經歷的 網路霸凌和蕩婦羞辱
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But the darkness, cyberbullying, and slut-shaming that I experienced
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had mushroomed.
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也開始快速成長。
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Every day online, people -- especially young people,
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每天在網路上的人, 尤其是年輕人,
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who are not developmentally equipped to handle this --
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他們還沒發展健全到 能處理這樣的事件,
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are so abused and humiliated
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他們被虐待、羞辱
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that they can't imagine living to the next day.
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到無法想像明天的生活,
不幸的是還有些人沒能多活一天,
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And some, tragically, don't.
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And there's nothing virtual about that.
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而這些卻根本不是虛擬的事。
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Childline, a UK nonprofit that's focused on helping young people on various issues,
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英國非營利組織「兒童熱線」 致力於幫助年輕人各種問題,
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released a staggering statistic late last year:
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去年底發布了一項驚人數據:
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from 2012 to 2013, there was an 87 percent increase
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2012 年到 2013 年之間
增加了 87% 的
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in calls and e-mails related to cyberbullying.
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電話和電子郵件網路霸凌。
12:26
A meta-analysis done out of the Netherlands
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一份來自荷蘭的整合分析
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showed that for the first time,
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最早指出
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cyberbullying was leading to suicidal ideations
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網路霸凌引起的自殺念頭
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more significantly than offline bullying.
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遠比非網路霸凌來得更為嚴重。
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And you know, what shocked me -- although it shouldn't have --
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而讓我震驚的是 ──雖然這也是預料中的事──
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was other research last year
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去年的另一項研究認定羞辱
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that determined humiliation was a more intensely felt emotion
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是一種強烈的情緒感受,
比快樂甚至憤怒來得更強烈。
12:51
than either happiness or even anger.
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12:56
Cruelty to others is nothing new.
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殘酷對待他人不是什麼新鮮事,
但是在網路上, 羞辱透過科技會變本加厲、
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But online, technologically enhanced shaming is amplified,
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uncontained
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失去控制,而且會永久存在。
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and permanently accessible.
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13:11
The echo of embarrassment used to extend only as far as your family, village,
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原本尷尬的迴響 只會存在家庭、村里、
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school or community.
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學校或社區裡,
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But now, it's the online community too.
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但現在也會在網路社群迴響。
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Millions of people, often anonymously, can stab you with their words,
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幾百萬人,通常是匿名,
可以用他們的話刺傷你, 讓你非常痛苦,
13:27
and that's a lot of pain.
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13:29
And there are no perimeters around how many people can publicly observe you
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而且無數人不分遠近
可以公開觀察你、
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and put you in a public stockade.
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讓你置身在公開的牢籠裡。
13:39
There is a very personal price to public humiliation,
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公然羞辱的代價因人而異,
13:45
and the growth of the internet has jacked up that price.
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而網路的發展提高了這個代價。
將近二十年來,
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For nearly two decades now,
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we have slowly been sowing the seeds of shame and public humiliation
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我們慢慢播下羞恥與公然羞辱的種子,
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in our cultural soil, both on- and offline.
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在我們的文化土地上, 不論是網路上或下了線。
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Gossip websites, paparazzi, reality programming, politics,
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八卦網站、狗仔隊、 真人實境秀、政治、
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news outlets and sometimes hackers
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新聞報導和一些駭客 都在販賣羞恥。
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all traffic in shame.
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14:14
It's led to desensitization and a permissive environment online,
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這導致麻木不仁 以及放縱的網路環境,
14:19
which lends itself to trolling, invasion of privacy and cyberbullying.
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導致網路成為惹是生非、 侵犯隱私、網路霸凌的環境。
14:25
This shift has created what Professor Nicolaus Mills calls
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這個轉變形成了 尼古拉斯.米勒教授所說的
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"a culture of humiliation."
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羞辱文化。
14:32
Consider a few prominent examples just from the past six months alone.
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想想單是過去六個月發生的重大案件。
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Snapchat, the service which is used mainly by younger generations
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Snapchat(閱後即刪的應用程式) 主要用戶為年輕世代,
14:43
and claims that its messages only have the life span of a few seconds.
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這個程式聲稱裡面的訊息壽命
只有幾秒鐘。
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You can imagine the range of content that that gets.
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你能想像會收到什麼類型的內容。
14:51
A third-party app which Snapchatters use to preserve the life span of the messages
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使用者用來延長 訊息壽命的第三方軟體
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was hacked,
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被駭客攻擊了,
十萬人的私人對話、 照片、影片被洩漏在網路上,
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and 100,000 personal conversations, photos and videos were leaked online,
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to now have a life span of forever.
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而現在這些東西就會永存於世。
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Jennifer Lawrence and several other actors had their iCloud accounts hacked,
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珍妮佛.勞倫斯和幾位演員的 蘋果雲端帳號被駭客攻擊,
15:13
and private, intimate, nude photos were plastered across the internet
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私密照和裸體照 被放在網路上到處散布,
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without their permission.
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卻沒經過他們的允許。
15:18
One gossip website had over five million hits
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單是一個八卦網站 就有超過五百萬人次點閱
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for this one story.
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這個事件。
15:26
And what about the Sony Pictures cyberhacking?
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索尼影像被駭客攻擊的事呢?
15:30
The documents which received the most attention
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那些備受關注的文件 是私人電子郵件,
15:33
were private e-mails that had maximum public embarrassment value.
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這些信件將公開讓人難堪的代價 放到最大。
但是在這個羞辱的文化中,
15:40
But in this culture of humiliation,
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there is another kind of price tag attached to public shaming.
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有另外一種價格標籤 貼在公開羞辱上。
15:47
The price does not measure the cost to the victim,
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它的價格不在估計受害者的損失,
15:50
which Tyler and too many others --
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比如泰勒和許多人,
15:52
notably, women, minorities and members of the LGBTQ community --
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尤其是婦女、少數民族,
和非異性戀者所付出的,
15:57
have paid,
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but the price measures the profit of those who prey on them.
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而是計算那些掠奪者的利益。
侵犯他人的行為是原料,
16:05
This invasion of others is a raw material,
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efficiently and ruthlessly mined, packaged and sold at a profit.
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有效率、無情地挖掘, 然後包裝、販賣獲利。
當公開羞辱成為商品、 恥辱成為產業的時候,
16:15
A marketplace has emerged where public humiliation is a commodity,
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市場就此浮現。
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and shame is an industry.
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那錢是怎麼產生的呢?
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How is the money made?
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Clicks.
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點閱。
16:29
The more shame, the more clicks.
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越多羞辱,就有越多點閱。
16:31
The more clicks, the more advertising dollars.
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越多點閱,就有越多廣告費。
16:37
We're in a dangerous cycle.
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我們身在危險的循環之中。
16:39
The more we click on this kind of gossip,
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我們點閱越多這種八卦,
16:42
the more numb we get to the human lives behind it.
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我們對生活在背後的人們 越是感到麻木,
16:46
And the more numb we get, the more we click.
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我們越是麻木,就會點閱越多。
16:51
All the while,
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總是會有人在他人受苦受難之後
16:52
someone is making money off of the back of someone else's suffering.
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牟取利益。
16:58
With every click, we make a choice.
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每一次點閱,我們就做一次決定。
17:01
The more we saturate our culture with public shaming,
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我們越是讓公開羞辱 充斥在自己的文化中,
17:04
the more accepted it is,
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我們越能接受它,
17:06
the more we will see behavior like cyberbullying, trolling,
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我們就會看到越多像是網路霸凌、
惹是生非、一些駭客的攻擊方式,
17:11
some forms of hacking
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還有網路上的騷擾。
17:13
and online harassment.
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17:15
Why? Because they all have humiliation at their cores.
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為什麼? 因為這些行為的核心都是羞辱。
17:23
This behavior is a symptom of the culture we've created.
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這個行為就是 我們創造的文化的一種症狀。
17:27
Just think about it.
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想想這件事。
17:30
Changing behavior begins with evolving beliefs.
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行為的改變從發展信念開始。
17:34
We've seen that to be true with racism, homophobia
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我們從種族歧視、 同性戀恐懼症中看到改變成真,
17:37
and plenty of other biases,
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還有諸多當代或過去的偏見。
17:39
today and in the past.
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17:42
As we've changed beliefs about same-sex marriage,
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當我們對同性戀婚姻的想法改變,
17:45
more people have been offered equal freedoms.
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更多人就因此獲得平等的自由。
17:49
When we began valuing sustainability,
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當我們開始重視永續性,
17:52
more people began to recycle.
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就有更多人開始做資源回收。
17:55
So as far as our culture of humiliation goes,
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所以隨著羞辱文化的發展,
17:58
what we need is a cultural revolution.
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我們需要的是一場文化革命。
18:02
Public shaming as a blood sport has to stop,
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公開羞辱就像血腥運動必須停止,
18:06
and it's time for an intervention on the internet and in our culture.
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現在是時候介入處理 網路和我們的文化了。
18:11
The shift begins with something simple,
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這場轉變始於一種簡單, 但卻不容易的方式。
18:13
but it's not easy.
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18:15
We need to return to a long-held value of compassion,
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我們需要回到一直以來 都擁有的同情心
18:20
compassion and empathy.
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──同情以及同理,
在網路上,我們碰到同理匱乏,
18:23
Online, we've got a compassion deficit,
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18:25
an empathy crisis.
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同理的危機。
18:29
Researcher Brené Brown said, and I quote,
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我引用研究員布芮尼.布朗說過的話:
18:32
"Shame can't survive empathy."
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「有了同理心,羞辱感就不會存在。」
18:36
Shame cannot survive empathy.
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有了同理心,羞辱感就不會存在。
18:42
I've seen some very dark days in my life.
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我在生命中見過 一些非常黑暗的日子,
18:46
It was the compassion and empathy from my family, friends, professionals
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是那些來自家人、朋友、專家,
有時候甚至是陌生人的同情和同理, 拯救了我。
18:53
and sometimes even strangers
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18:54
that saved me.
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18:57
Even empathy from one person can make a difference.
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即使是一個人的同情也能帶來改變。
19:02
The theory of minority influence,
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少數人影響力理論
19:04
proposed by social psychologist Serge Moscovici,
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是由社會心理學家 塞奇.莫斯科維奇提出,
19:08
says that even in small numbers,
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理論指出即使是非常少數,
19:10
when there's consistency over time,
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只要一直持續不斷進行,
19:13
change can happen.
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就可以帶來改變。
19:15
In the online world, we can foster minority influence
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在網路世界,我們可以
透過成為榜樣,培養少數人影響力。
19:19
by becoming upstanders.
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19:21
To become an upstander means instead of bystander apathy,
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成為榜樣意謂著 與其像旁觀者一樣無情,
19:25
we can post a positive comment for someone or report a bullying situation.
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我們可以發表支持網友的正面評論, 或是檢舉霸凌的情況。
19:30
Trust me, compassionate comments help abate the negativity.
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相信我,富有同情的留言 可以幫助消除負面情緒。
19:35
We can also counteract the culture by supporting organizations
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我們也可以消除這種文化,
透過支持處理這類問題的組織,
19:39
that deal with these kinds of issues,
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19:41
like the Tyler Clementi Foundation in the US;
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就像在美國的泰勒.克里蒙提基金會 (Tyler Clementi Foundation),
19:44
in the UK, there's Anti-Bullying Pro;
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在英國有反霸凌組織 (Anti-Bullying Pro),
19:47
and in Australia, there's PROJECT ROCKIT.
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在澳洲則有搖滾計畫 (Project Rockit)。
19:52
We talk a lot about our right to freedom of expression.
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我們談論很多言論自由權的議題,
19:58
But we need to talk more about our responsibility
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但是我們需要討論更多針對
大家對言論自由的責任。
20:01
to freedom of expression.
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我們都希望自己的聲音被聽見,
20:04
We all want to be heard,
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20:06
but let's acknowledge the difference between speaking up with intention
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但是請分清楚 為了傳達意義而挺身呼籲,
20:11
and speaking up for attention.
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和為了吸引注意而發表言論 兩者間的不同。
20:15
The internet is the superhighway for the id.
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網際網路是傳達自我的高速公路,
20:19
But online, showing empathy to others benefits us all
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但是在網路上,
向他人展現同理心對大家都有利,
20:24
and helps create a safer and better world.
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而且也能創造更安全美好的世界。
20:27
We need to communicate online with compassion,
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我們需要富有同情心地 在網路上交流,
20:30
consume news with compassion
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富有同情心地閱讀新聞,
20:33
and click with compassion.
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並且富有同情心地點閱。
20:36
Just imagine walking a mile in someone else's headline.
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只要試想自己長期 成為別人頭條新聞的感受。
20:43
I'd like to end on a personal note.
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我想以個人心得做結語。
20:47
In the past nine months,
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在過去的九個月中,
20:49
the question I've been asked the most is "Why?"
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我最常被到的問題是:為什麼?
20:52
Why now?
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為什麼是現在?
20:53
Why was I sticking my head above the parapet?
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為什麼我敢發表 可能引發眾怒的言論?
20:57
You can read between the lines in those questions,
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你可以在那些問題的 字裡行間了解一些事,
20:59
and the answer has nothing to do with politics.
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而答案與政治毫無關係。
21:03
The top-note answer was and is "Because it's time."
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最主要的答案是 因為這是時候了:
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Time to stop tiptoeing around my past,
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是時候停止小心翼翼 活在我的過去中;
是時候停止過著 被批評羞辱的生活;
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time to stop living a life of opprobrium
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and time to take back my narrative.
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也是時候由我說自己的故事。
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It's also not just about saving myself.
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這不只是拯救我自己。
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Anyone who is suffering from shame and public humiliation
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任何一個感受過恥辱 與被公開羞辱的人
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needs to know one thing:
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都需要知道一件事:
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You can survive it.
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你能挺過來的。
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I know it's hard.
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我知道這很艱難,
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It may not be painless, quick or easy,
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也許會痛,也許漫長、困難,
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but you can insist on a different ending to your story.
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但是你可以堅持 讓自己的故事有不同的結尾。
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Have compassion for yourself.
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同情你自己。
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We all deserve compassion
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我們都值得同情,
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and to live both online and off in a more compassionate world.
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無論在網路上或下了線,
也都值得生活在 更富有同情心的世界裡。
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Thank you for listening.
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謝謝各位聆聽。
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(Applause and cheers)
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