The price of shame | Monica Lewinsky | TED

Prevoditelj: Maja Covic Recezent: Ivan Stamenković

You're looking at a woman who was publicly silent for a decade.

Gledate ženu koja cijelo desetljeće nije progovorila javnosti.

Obviously, that's changed,

To se, očigledno, promijenilo,

but only recently.

no tek nedavno.

It was several months ago that I gave my very first major public talk,

Prije nekoliko mjeseci

iznijela sam svoj prvi veliki javni govor

at the Forbes "30 Under 30 Summit" --

na summitu Forbesovih 30 mlađih od 30:

1,500 brilliant people, all under the age of 30.

1,500 genijalnih ljudi, svi mlađi od 30 godina.

That meant that in 1998, the oldest among the group were only 14,

To je značilo da su 1998. godine

najstariji u toj grupi imali 14 godina,

and the youngest, just four.

a najmlađi samo četiri godine.

I joked with them that some might only have heard of me from rap songs.

Šalila sam se s njima da su neki možda samo čuli za mene

u rap pjesmama.

Yes, I'm in rap songs.

Da, spominje me se u rap pjesmama.

(Laughter)

Almost 40 rap songs.

Skoro 40 rap pjesama. (Smijeh)

(Laughter)

But the night of my speech, a surprising thing happened.

No, dogodilo se nešto neobično one večeri kada sam iznijela svoj govor.

At the age of 41, I was hit on by a 27-year-old guy.

Meni koja imam 41 godinu, upucavao se 27-godišnjak.

(Laughter)

I know, right?

Znam.

He was charming, and I was flattered,

Bio je šarmantan, a ja polaskana,

and I declined.

i odbila sam ga.

You know what his unsuccessful pickup line was?

Znate li kako me pokušao osvojiti?

He could make me feel 22 again.

Mogao bi učiniti da se osjećam kao da su mi opet 22 godine.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh) (Pljesak)

(Applause)

I realized, later that night,

Kasnije te večeri shvatila sam da sam vjerojatno jedina osoba preko 40

I'm probably the only person over 40 who does not want to be 22 again.

koja ne želi opet imati 22.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

(Applause)

(Pljesak)

At the age of 22, I fell in love with my boss.

U dobi od 22 godine, zaljubila sam se u svog šefa,

And at the age of 24,

a s 24 godine,

I learned the devastating consequences.

upoznala sam katastrofalne posljedice.

Can I see a show of hands of anyone here

Mogu li podignuti ruku svi oni

who didn't make a mistake or do something they regretted at 22?

koji s 22 godine nisu pogriješili ili napravili nešto radi čega su požalili?

Yep. That's what I thought.

Da. Tako sam i mislila.

So like me, at 22, a few of you may have also taken wrong turns

Poput mene, s 22 godine dosta vas isto je možda pogriješilo

and fallen in love with the wrong person,

i zaljubilo se u pogrešnu osobu,

maybe even your boss.

možda čak i vašeg šefa.

Unlike me, though,

Međutim, za razliku od mene, vaš šef

your boss probably wasn't the president of the United States of America.

vjerojatno nije bio predsjednik SAD-a.

(Laughter)

Of course, life is full of surprises.

Život je prepun iznenađenja.

Not a day goes by that I'm not reminded of my mistake,

Ne prođe dan da me se ne podsjeti na moju pogrešku,

and I regret that mistake deeply.

i duboko žalim zbog te pogreške.

In 1998, after having been swept up into an improbable romance,

Godine 1998., nakon što sam bila uvučena u neperspektivnu romansu,

I was then swept up into the eye of a political, legal and media maelstrom

bila sam uvučena u središte političkog, pravnog i medijskog vrtloga

like we had never seen before.

kakvog dotad nismo vidjeli.

Remember, just a few years earlier,

Sjetite se da su samo nekoliko godina prije toga,

news was consumed from just three places:

vijesti bile dostupne na samo tri mjesta:

novine ili časopisi,

reading a newspaper or magazine,

listening to the radio

radio,

or watching television.

ili televizija.

That was it.

To je bilo to.

But that wasn't my fate.

No to nije bilo namijenjeno meni.

Instead, this scandal was brought to you

Umjesto toga, taj skandal vam je donijela

by the digital revolution.

digitalna revolucija.

That meant we could access all the information we wanted,

To je značilo da smo mogli pristupiti svim željenim informacijama,

when we wanted it, anytime, anywhere.

kada smo to htjeli, bilo kad, bilo gdje.

And when the story broke in January 1998,

Kad je priča izašla u siječnju 1998.

izašla je u javnost na Internetu.

it broke online.

It was the first time the traditional news was usurped by the internet

Po prvi puta tradicionalne vijesti

preoteo je internet kao ogromnu vijest,

for a major news story --

a click that reverberated around the world.

klikom koji je odjeknuo diljem svijeta.

What that meant for me personally

Za mene osobno to je značilo

was that overnight, I went from being a completely private figure

da sam preko noći od potpuno privatne osobe

to a publicly humiliated one, worldwide.

postala diljem svijeta javno osramoćena osoba.

I was patient zero of losing a personal reputation on a global scale

Bila sam prva osoba koja je izgubila osobnu reputaciju

gotovo trenutno na globalnoj razini.

almost instantaneously.

This rush to judgment, enabled by technology,

Ta žurba u osuđivanju, potpomognuta tehnologijom,

proizvela je gomilu virtulanih bacača kamenja.

led to mobs of virtual stone-throwers.

Granted, it was before social media,

Istina, to je bilo prije društvenih medija

but people could still comment online,

ali ljudi su ipak mogli ostavljati komentare na Internetu,

e-mail stories,

emailom slati priče i okrutne šale.

and, of course, e-mail cruel jokes.

News sources plastered photos of me all over

Razni izvori razbacivali su se mojim fotografijama

kako bi prodavali novine, postavljali online reklame,

to sell newspapers, banner ads online,

and to keep people tuned to the TV.

i kako bi ljudi i dalje pratili televiziju.

Do you recall a particular image of me, say, wearing a beret?

Sjećate li se točno jedne moje slike,

na kojoj, recimo, nosim beretku?

Now, I admit I made mistakes --

Priznajem da sam griješila,

especially wearing that beret.

posebno kada sam nosila tu beretku.

(Laughter)

But the attention and judgment that I received --

No, pozornost i osuda koju nije primala sama ta priča,

not the story, but that I personally received --

već ja osobno, bila je nečuvena.

was unprecedented.

I was branded as a tramp,

Žigosali su me kao drolju,

tart,

kurvu, bludnicu, fuficu,

slut,

whore,

bimbo,

and, of course, "that woman."

i, naravno, tu ženu.

I was seen by many,

Mnogi su me vidjeli

but actually known by few.

no samo rijetki uistinu poznavali.

And I get it: it was easy to forget

Jasno mi je: bilo je lako zaboraviti

that that woman was dimensional,

da ta žena ima više dimenzija,

had a soul

ima dušu i da nekoć nije bila slomljena.

and was once unbroken.

When this happened to me 17 years ago, there was no name for it.

Prije 17 godina nije bilo naziva za to što mi se dogodilo.

Now we call it "cyberbullying" and "online harassment."

Sada to zovemo virtualno zlostavljanje i nasilje preko Interneta.

Today, I want to share some of my experience with you,

Danas želim podijeliti s vama neka svoja iskustva,

talk about how that experience has helped shape my cultural observations,

govoriti o tome kako mi je to iskustvo pomoglo oblikovati moja kulturna opažanja,

i kako se nadam da moje iskustvo može dovesti do promjene tako da

and how I hope my past experience can lead to a change

that results in less suffering for others.

drugi ljudi ne moraju toliko patiti.

In 1998, I lost my reputation and my dignity.

Godine 1998. izgubila sam svoju reputaciju i dostojanstvo.

I lost almost everything.

Izgubila sam gotovo sve,

a skoro i svoj život.

And I almost lost my life.

Dopustite da vam opišem.

Let me paint a picture for you.

It is September of 1998.

Vrijeme radnje je rujan 1998.

I'm sitting in a windowless office room

Sjedim u uredu bez prozora

inside the Office of the Independent Counsel,

u Uredu nezavisnog vijeća

podno zujećih flourescentnih svjetilji.

underneath humming fluorescent lights.

I'm listening to the sound of my voice,

Slušam svoj vlastiti glas,

my voice on surreptitiously taped phone calls

svoj glas na potajno snimljenim telefonskim razgovorima

that a supposed friend had made the year before.

koji je moj navodni prijatelj snimio prethodne godine.

Tamo sam jer sam pravno primorana

I'm here because I've been legally required

to personally authenticate all 20 hours of taped conversation.

osobno dokazati autentičnost svih 20 sati snimljenog razgovora.

For the past eight months, the mysterious content of these tapes

Prethodnih osam mjeseci, tajnoviti sadržaj tih snimki

has hung like the sword of Damocles over my head.

visio je nad mojoj glavom poput Damoklova mača.

I mean, who can remember what they said a year ago?

Tko se može sjetiti što je rekao prije godinu dana?

Scared and mortified, I listen,

Uplašena i ponižena, slušam

listen as I prattle on about the flotsam and jetsam of the day;

slušam kako naklapam o nebitnim stvarima;

listen as I confess my love for the president,

slušam kako priznajem da volim predsjednika,

and, of course, my heartbreak;

i naravno, kako mi se slama srce;

listen to my sometimes catty, sometimes churlish, sometimes silly self

slušam kako sam katkad zlobna, katkad neotesana, katkad budalasta,

okrutna, nepopustljiva, surova;

being cruel, unforgiving, uncouth;

listen, deeply, deeply ashamed, to the worst version of myself,

slušam, duboko duboko posramljena,

najgoru verziju sebe,

koju uopće ne prepoznajem.

a self I don't even recognize.

A few days later, the Starr Report is released to Congress,

Nekoliko dana poslije, Starrov izvještaj iznesen je u Kongresu,

and all of those tapes and transcripts, those stolen words, form a part of it.

i sve one snimke, transkripti i ukradene riječi čine dio tog izvještaja.

That people can read the transcripts is horrific enough.

Užasno je već to što ljudi mogu čitati te transkripte,

no par tjedana kasnije,

But a few weeks later,

audio snimke pojavile su se na televiziji,

the audiotapes are aired on TV,

and significant portions made available online.

a značajan udio postao je dostupan i na Internetu.

The public humiliation was excruciating.

Javna sramota bila je užasna.

Life was almost unbearable.

Život je bio neizdrživ.

To nije bilo nešto što se u to vrijeme događalo opetovano,

This was not something that happened with regularity back then in 1998,

and by "this," I mean the stealing of people's private words, actions,

pritom mislim na krađu nečijih privatnih riječi, djela,

conversations or photos,

razgovora ili fotografija,

and then making them public --

i njihovo javno objavljivanje -

public without consent,

objavljivanje bez pristanka,

public without context

objavljivanje bez konteksta,

and public without compassion.

i objavljivanje bez suosjećanja.

Fast-forward 12 years, to 2010,

Brzo odvrtimo 12 godina do 2010.,

and now social media has been born.

kada su nastale društvene mreže.

The landscape has sadly become much more populated with instances like mine,

Nažalost, scena je puna slučajeva poput mog,

whether or not someone actually made a mistake,

bez obzira je li netko zaista pogriješio ili nije,

and now, it's for both public and private people.

i sada to vrijedi i za javne i za privatne osobe.

The consequences for some have become dire, very dire.

Za neke su posljedice postale strašne.

Razgovarala sam s mamom preko telefona

I was on the phone with my mom in September of 2010,

u rujnu 2010.

and we were talking about the news of a young college freshman

razgovarale smo o vijestima

o mladom brucošu Sveučilišta Rutgers

from Rutgers University,

koji se zvao Tyler Clementi.

named Tyler Clementi.

Sweet, sensitive, creative Tyler was secretly webcammed by his roommate

Milog, osjećajnog, kreativnog Tylera

tajno je snimio web kamerom njegov cimer

while being intimate with another man.

dok je bio intiman s drugim muškarcem.

When the online world learned of this incident,

Kada je online svijet saznao za to,

the ridicule and cyberbullying ignited.

rasplamsalo se ismijavanje i virtualno zlostavljanje.

A few days later,

Nekoliko dana nakon toga

Tyler je skočio s mosta George Washington

Tyler jumped from the George Washington Bridge

to his death.

u svoju smrt.

He was 18.

Imao je 18 godina.

My mom was beside herself about what happened to Tyler and his family,

Moja majka je bila izvan sebe zbog toga što se dogodilo Tyleru i njegovoj obitelji,

and she was gutted with pain

bila je duboko pogođena boli

in a way that I just couldn't quite understand.

na način koji nisam mogla posve razumjeti,

And then eventually, I realized she was reliving 1998,

i naposljetku sam shvatila

da proživljava 1998.,

ono vrijeme dok je sjedila uz moj krevet svake noći,

reliving a time when she sat by my bed every night,

reliving -- (Chokes up)

vrijeme kada me je tjerala da se tuširam s otvorenim vratima kupaonice,

sorry -- reliving a time when she made me shower with the bathroom door open,

vrijeme kada su oba moja roditelja strahovala

and reliving a time when both of my parents feared

da će me sramota otjerati u smrt,

that I would be humiliated to death,

literally.

doslovno.

Today, too many parents haven't had the chance

Danas je previše roditelja

koji nisu imali priliku intervenirati i spasiti svoje voljene.

to step in and rescue their loved ones.

Previše ih je otkrilo patnje i poniženje svoje djece

Too many have learned of their child's suffering and humiliation

after it was too late.

kada je već bilo prekasno.

Tylerova tragična, besmislena smrt za mene je bila prekretnica.

Tyler's tragic, senseless death was a turning point for me.

It served to recontextualize my experiences,

Pomogla mi je ponovo kontekstualizirati moja iskustva,

and I then began to look at the world of humiliation and bullying around me

i potom sam počela promatrati svijet ponižavanja i zlostavljanja oko sebe

and see something different.

i vidjela sam nešto drukčije.

In 1998, we had no way of knowing

Godine 1998. nismo mogli znati kamo će nas ta nova tehnologija

where this brave new technology called the internet would take us.

zvana Internet, odvesti.

Since then, it has connected people in unimaginable ways --

Od tada povezuje ljude na nezamislive načine,

joining lost siblings,

povezuje izgubljenu braću i sestre,

saving lives,

spašava živote, pokreće revolucije,

launching revolutions ...

no tamna strana, virtualno zlostavljanje i posramljivanje žena koje sam ja iskusila

But the darkness, cyberbullying, and slut-shaming that I experienced

had mushroomed.

brzo se razvilo.

Every day online, people -- especially young people,

Svaki dan na Internetu ljudi, posebice mladi

who are not developmentally equipped to handle this --

koji nisu dovoljno sazreli da se mogu nositi s time,

are so abused and humiliated

toliko su zlostavljani i ponižavani

that they can't imagine living to the next day.

da ne mogu zamisliti kako će preživjeti do idućeg dana,

a neki, tragično, ni ne prežive,

And some, tragically, don't.

And there's nothing virtual about that.

i u tome nema ničeg virtualnog.

Childline, a UK nonprofit that's focused on helping young people on various issues,

ChildLine, britanska neprofitna udruga koja pomaže mladima s raznim problemima,

released a staggering statistic late last year:

lani je iznijela šokantne podatke:

from 2012 to 2013, there was an 87 percent increase

od 2012. do 2013. godine,

zabilježen je rast od 87 posto

in calls and e-mails related to cyberbullying.

za pozive i emailove vezane za virtualno zlostavljanje.

A meta-analysis done out of the Netherlands

Meta analiza provedena u Nizozemskoj

showed that for the first time,

pokazala je da po prvi puta,

cyberbullying was leading to suicidal ideations

virtualno zlostavljanje dovodi do suicidalnih misli

more significantly than offline bullying.

mnogo značajnije nego zlostavljanje izvan Interneta.

And you know, what shocked me -- although it shouldn't have --

Iako nije trebalo, šokiralo me

was other research last year

drugo istraživanje provedeno lani koje je utvrdilo da je poniženje

that determined humiliation was a more intensely felt emotion

osjećaj koji je intenzivniji

od sreće, pa i ljutnje.

than either happiness or even anger.

Cruelty to others is nothing new.

Okrutnost prema drugima nije ništa novo,

no online, tehnološki potpomognuto sramoćenje je pojačano,

But online, technologically enhanced shaming is amplified,

uncontained

nekontrolirano i trajno dostupno.

and permanently accessible.

The echo of embarrassment used to extend only as far as your family, village,

Nekoć je za vašu sramotu znala samo vaša obitelj, selo,

school or community.

škola ili zajednica,

But now, it's the online community too.

no sada je ovdje i online zajednica.

Millions of people, often anonymously, can stab you with their words,

Milijuni ljudi, često anonimno,

mogu vas ranjavati svojim riječim, a to jako boli,

and that's a lot of pain.

And there are no perimeters around how many people can publicly observe you

a ne postoje ograničenje u broju ljudi

koji vas mogu javno promatrati

and put you in a public stockade.

i staviti u javnu arenu.

There is a very personal price to public humiliation,

Postoji vrlo osobna cijena

javnog poniženja,

and the growth of the internet has jacked up that price.

a rast Interneta podigla je tu cijenu.

U gotovo dva desetljeća,

For nearly two decades now,

we have slowly been sowing the seeds of shame and public humiliation

polako smo sijali sjeme sramote i javnog sramoćenja

in our cultural soil, both on- and offline.

u naše kulturno tlo, i na Internetu i izvan njega.

Gossip websites, paparazzi, reality programming, politics,

Tračerske stranice, paparazziji, reality programi, politika,

news outlets and sometimes hackers

mediji i ponekad hakeri, svi trguju sramotom.

all traffic in shame.

It's led to desensitization and a permissive environment online,

To je dovelo do smanjene osjećajnosti i pretjerano tolerantne klime na internetu

which lends itself to trolling, invasion of privacy and cyberbullying.

koje pridonose trollanju, kršenju privatnosti i virtualnom nasilju.

This shift has created what Professor Nicolaus Mills calls

Ova promjena je stvorila ono što profesor Nicolaus Mills naziva

"a culture of humiliation."

kultura poniženja.

Consider a few prominent examples just from the past six months alone.

Pomotrite nekoliko istaknutih primjera iz samo proteklih šest mjeseci.

Snapchat, the service which is used mainly by younger generations

Snapchat, usluga koju uglavnom koriste mlađe generacije

and claims that its messages only have the life span of a few seconds.

i koja tvrdi da poruke na njoj traju

samo nekoliko sekundi.

You can imagine the range of content that that gets.

Možete zamisliti količinu sadržaja koju prima.

A third-party app which Snapchatters use to preserve the life span of the messages

Jedna druga aplikacija koju korisnici Snapchata koriste kako bi sačuvali

svoje poruke, bila je hakirana,

was hacked,

i 100,000 osobnih razgovora, fotografija i videa procurilo je na internetu

and 100,000 personal conversations, photos and videos were leaked online,

to now have a life span of forever.

gdje trajno ostaju.

Jennifer Lawrence and several other actors had their iCloud accounts hacked,

Jennifer Lawrence i nekim drugim glumcima hakirali su njihove račune iClouda,

and private, intimate, nude photos were plastered across the internet

i privatne, intimne, gole fotografije bile su objavljene diljem interneta

without their permission.

bez njihove dozvole.

One gossip website had over five million hits

Jedna tračerska stranica imala je preko pet milijuna pregleda

for this one story.

ove jedne priče.

And what about the Sony Pictures cyberhacking?

A što je s hakiranjem kompanije Sony Pictures?

The documents which received the most attention

Dokumenti koji su privukli najviše pažnje

were private e-mails that had maximum public embarrassment value.

bili su privatni emailovi koji nisu mogli biti više izvrgnuti sramoti.

No, u ovoj kulturi sramoćenja,

But in this culture of humiliation,

there is another kind of price tag attached to public shaming.

postoji i druga cijena javnog sramoćenja.

The price does not measure the cost to the victim,

Ta cijena ne mjeri vrijednost žrtve,

which Tyler and too many others --

koju su Tyler i previše drugih,

notably, women, minorities and members of the LGBTQ community --

najviše žene, pripadnici manjina,

i članovi LGBTQ zajednice platili,

have paid,

but the price measures the profit of those who prey on them.

već ta cijena mjeri profit onih koji ih vrebaju.

Ovaj napad na druge je sirovi materijal,

This invasion of others is a raw material,

efficiently and ruthlessly mined, packaged and sold at a profit.

efikasno i nemilosrdno iskopan, pakiran i prodan za profit.

Nastalo je tržište na kojem je javna sramota roba,

A marketplace has emerged where public humiliation is a commodity,

a sram je industrija.

and shame is an industry.

Kako se novac zarađuje?

How is the money made?

Clicks.

Klikovima.

The more shame, the more clicks.

Što je veća sramota, više je klikova.

The more clicks, the more advertising dollars.

Što je više klikova, to je više novca za reklame.

We're in a dangerous cycle.

Nalazimo se u opasnom krugu.

The more we click on this kind of gossip,

Što više klikamo na takvu vrstu trača,

the more numb we get to the human lives behind it.

to više postajemo tupi spram ljudskih života na drugoj strani,

And the more numb we get, the more we click.

a što smo više tupi, to više klikamo.

All the while,

Svo to vrijeme netko zarađuje novac

someone is making money off of the back of someone else's suffering.

na račun tuđe patnje.

With every click, we make a choice.

Svakim klikom donosimo odluku.

The more we saturate our culture with public shaming,

Što više gušimo svoju kulturu javnom sramotom,

the more accepted it is,

to je ona prihvaćenija,

the more we will see behavior like cyberbullying, trolling,

to će više biti virtualnog zlostavljanja,

trollanja, nekih vrsta hakiranja

some forms of hacking

i nasilja na Internetu.

and online harassment.

Why? Because they all have humiliation at their cores.

Zašto? Zato što u srži svega toga leži ponižavanje.

This behavior is a symptom of the culture we've created.

Takvo ponašanje je simptom kulture koju smo stvorili.

Just think about it.

Razmislite malo o tome.

Changing behavior begins with evolving beliefs.

Mijenjanje ponašanja započinje s razvojem uvjerenja.

We've seen that to be true with racism, homophobia

Vidjeli smo da je to tako kod rasizma, homofobije,

and plenty of other biases,

i mnogih drugih pristranosti, i u današnje vrijeme i u prošlosti.

today and in the past.

As we've changed beliefs about same-sex marriage,

Kako smo mijenjali uvjerenja o istospolnim brakovima,

more people have been offered equal freedoms.

više je ljudi dobilo jednake slobode.

When we began valuing sustainability,

Kada smo počeli cijeniti održivost,

more people began to recycle.

više je ljudi počelo reciklirati.

So as far as our culture of humiliation goes,

Što ste tiče naše kulture poniženja,

what we need is a cultural revolution.

potrebna nam je kulturna revolucija.

Public shaming as a blood sport has to stop,

Javno sramoćenje kao krvavi sport mora prestati,

and it's time for an intervention on the internet and in our culture.

i vrijeme je za intervenciju na Internetu i u našoj kulturi.

The shift begins with something simple,

Pomak započinje nečim jednostavnim, ali to nije lako.

but it's not easy.

We need to return to a long-held value of compassion,

Moramo se vratiti dugo održanoj vrijednosti suosjećanja i empatije.

compassion and empathy.

Na Internetu postoji manjak suosjećanja,

Online, we've got a compassion deficit,

an empathy crisis.

kriza empatije.

Researcher Brené Brown said, and I quote,

Istraživačica Brené Brown izjavila je da

"Shame can't survive empathy."

sramota ne može nadživjeti empatiju.

Shame cannot survive empathy.

Sramota ne može nadživjeti empatiju.

I've seen some very dark days in my life.

Imala sam stvarno teške dane u životu,

It was the compassion and empathy from my family, friends, professionals

a suosjećanje i empatija moje obitelji, prijatelja, stručnjaka,

a ponekad i stranaca, bilo je to što me spasilo.

and sometimes even strangers

that saved me.

Even empathy from one person can make a difference.

Čak empatija jedne osobe može činiti razliku.

The theory of minority influence,

Teorija utjecaja manjine,

proposed by social psychologist Serge Moscovici,

koju je predložio psiholog Serge Moscovici,

says that even in small numbers,

kaže da čak i u malim brojkama,

when there's consistency over time,

kada postoji dosljednost tijekom vremena,

change can happen.

moguća je promjena.

In the online world, we can foster minority influence

U svijetu Interneta možemo poticati utjecaj manjine

by becoming upstanders.

tako što ćemo ustati protiv nasilja.

To become an upstander means instead of bystander apathy,

Kako bismo to mogli, umjesto da smo apatični promatrači,

we can post a positive comment for someone or report a bullying situation.

možemo napisati pozitivni komentar o nekome ili prijaviti nasilje.

Trust me, compassionate comments help abate the negativity.

Vjerujte mi, suosjećajni komentari pomažu ublažiti negativnost.

We can also counteract the culture by supporting organizations

Također se možemo suprotstaviti toj kulturi tako da podupiremo udruge

that deal with these kinds of issues,

koje se bave takvim problemima,

like the Tyler Clementi Foundation in the US;

poput Zaklade Tyler Clementi u SAD-u,

in the UK, there's Anti-Bullying Pro;

u Ujedinjenom Kraljevstvu postoji program Anti-Bullying Pro,

and in Australia, there's PROJECT ROCKIT.

a u Australiji Projekt Rockit.

We talk a lot about our right to freedom of expression.

Puno govorimo o našem pravu na slobodu izražavanja,

But we need to talk more about our responsibility

ali moramo više govoriti o

našoj odgovornosti za slobodu izražavanja.

to freedom of expression.

Svi želimo da nas se čuje,

We all want to be heard,

but let's acknowledge the difference between speaking up with intention

no moramo priznati razliku između govora s namjerom,

and speaking up for attention.

i govora za pozornost.

The internet is the superhighway for the id.

Internet je poput veleprometnice za id,

But online, showing empathy to others benefits us all

no online, iskazivanje empatije drugima

dobro utječe na sve nas i pomaže u izgradnji sigurnijeg i boljeg svijeta.

and helps create a safer and better world.

We need to communicate online with compassion,

Na Internetu moramo komunicirati sa suosjećanjem,

consume news with compassion

čitati vijesti sa suosjećanjem,

and click with compassion.

i klikati sa suosjećanjem.

Just imagine walking a mile in someone else's headline.

Zamislite da ste na mjestu osobe o kojoj čitate članak.

I'd like to end on a personal note.

Završit ću s osobnom opaskom.

In the past nine months,

U proteklih devet mjeseci,

the question I've been asked the most is "Why?"

najčešće pitanje koje mi je bilo upućeno je - zašto?

Why now?

Why was I sticking my head above the parapet?

Zašto sada? Zašto istupam sa svojim mišljenjem koje bi moglo nekoga uzrujati.

You can read between the lines in those questions,

Možete u tim pitanjima čitati između redaka,

and the answer has nothing to do with politics.

a odgovor nema veze s politikom.

The top-note answer was and is "Because it's time."

Najčešći odgovor jest da je napokon došlo vrijeme za to:

Time to stop tiptoeing around my past,

vrijeme da prestanem okolišati oko moje prošlosti;

vrijeme da prestanem živjeti život sramote;

time to stop living a life of opprobrium

and time to take back my narrative.

i vrijeme da vratim svoju priču.

It's also not just about saving myself.

Ne radi se samo o mojem spašavanju.

Anyone who is suffering from shame and public humiliation

Svatko tko pati zbog srama i javnog poniženja

needs to know one thing:

mora znati jednu stvar:

You can survive it.

Možete to preživjeti.

I know it's hard.

Znam da je teško.

It may not be painless, quick or easy,

Možda nije bezbolno, brzo niti lako,

but you can insist on a different ending to your story.

no možete inzistirati na drukčijem završetku vaše priče.

Have compassion for yourself.

Imajte suosjećanja za sebe same.

We all deserve compassion

Svi mi zaslužujemo suosjećanje,

and to live both online and off in a more compassionate world.

i život na i izvan Interneta u suosjećajnijem svijetu.

Thank you for listening.

Hvala vam na pozornosti.

(Applause and cheers)

(Pljesak)