The price of shame | Monica Lewinsky | TED

Translator: Nika Kotnik Reviewer: Klavdija Cernilogar

You're looking at a woman who was publicly silent for a decade.

Gledate žensko, ki desetletje ni spregovorila v javnosti.

Obviously, that's changed,

To se je očitno spremenilo,

but only recently.

a le pred kratkim.

It was several months ago that I gave my very first major public talk,

Pred nekaj meseci

sem imela svoj prvi veliki javni nastop

at the Forbes "30 Under 30 Summit" --

na Forbesovem srečanju 30 ljudi pod 30 let.

1,500 brilliant people, all under the age of 30.

1500 brilijantnih ljudi, vsi stari manj kot 30 let.

That meant that in 1998, the oldest among the group were only 14,

To pomeni, da so bili leta 1998

najstarejši v tej skupini stari le 14 let

and the youngest, just four.

in najmlajši le 4.

I joked with them that some might only have heard of me from rap songs.

Pohecala sem se, da so nekateri slišali zame

le v rap pesmih.

Yes, I'm in rap songs.

Tako je, v rap pesmih sem.

(Laughter)

Almost 40 rap songs.

V skoraj 40 rap pesmih.

(Laughter)

But the night of my speech, a surprising thing happened.

A na večer mojega govora se je zgodilo nekaj presenetljivega.

At the age of 41, I was hit on by a 27-year-old guy.

Pri mojih 41 letih me je osvajal 27-letnik.

(Laughter)

I know, right?

Vem.

He was charming, and I was flattered,

Bil je očarljiv in bila sem polaskana

and I declined.

in zavrnila sem ga.

You know what his unsuccessful pickup line was?

Veste, s čim me je neuspešno poskušal očarati?

He could make me feel 22 again.

Da se bom z njim počutila spet kot 22-letnica.

(Laughter)

(Smeh) (Aplavz)

(Applause)

I realized, later that night,

Kasneje sem spoznala, da sem najbrž edina oseba nad 40,

I'm probably the only person over 40 who does not want to be 22 again.

ki noče imeti spet 22 let.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

(Applause)

(Aplavz)

At the age of 22, I fell in love with my boss.

Pri 22 letih sem se zaljubila v svojega šefa,

And at the age of 24,

in pri 24-ih

I learned the devastating consequences.

sem spoznala uničujoče posledice.

Can I see a show of hands of anyone here

Lahko dvignete roke tisti,

who didn't make a mistake or do something they regretted at 22?

ki niste naredili napake ali nečesa, kar obžalujete, pri 22-ih?

Yep. That's what I thought.

Ja. Se mi je kar zdelo.

So like me, at 22, a few of you may have also taken wrong turns

Tako ste, kot jaz, naredili nekaj napačnih stvari,

and fallen in love with the wrong person,

se zaljubili v napačno osebo,

maybe even your boss.

morda celo v svojega šefa.

Unlike me, though,

A za razliko od mene vaš šef

your boss probably wasn't the president of the United States of America.

najbrž ni bil predsednik Združenih držav Amerike.

(Laughter)

Of course, life is full of surprises.

Seveda, življenje je polno presenečenj.

Not a day goes by that I'm not reminded of my mistake,

Ne mine dan, da me ne bi opomnili na to napako,

and I regret that mistake deeply.

in to napako globoko obžalujem.

In 1998, after having been swept up into an improbable romance,

Leta 1998, ko me je poneslo v neverjetno romanco,

I was then swept up into the eye of a political, legal and media maelstrom

me je poneslo tudi v politični, pravni in medijski vrtinec,

like we had never seen before.

kot ga še nismo videli.

Remember, just a few years earlier,

Spomnite se, samo nekaj let prej

news was consumed from just three places:

smo novice dobili iz treh virov:

z branjem časopisa ali revije,

reading a newspaper or magazine,

listening to the radio

poslušanjem radia

or watching television.

ali gledanjem televizije.

That was it.

To je bilo vse.

But that wasn't my fate.

A to ni bila moja usoda.

Instead, this scandal was brought to you

Namesto tega vam je ta škandal prinesla

by the digital revolution.

digitalna revolucija.

That meant we could access all the information we wanted,

To je pomenilo, da smo lahko dostopali do informacij, ki smo jih želeli,

when we wanted it, anytime, anywhere.

ko smo jih želeli, kadarkoli, kjerkoli

And when the story broke in January 1998,

in ko je zgodba januarja 1998 izbruhnila,

je izbruhnila na internetu.

it broke online.

It was the first time the traditional news was usurped by the internet

Prvič je tradicionalne novice

izpodrinil internet pri veliki novici,

for a major news story --

a click that reverberated around the world.

klik, ki je odmeval po vsem svetu.

What that meant for me personally

To je zame osebno pomenilo,

was that overnight, I went from being a completely private figure

da sem se čez noč prelevila iz popolnoma zasebne osebe

to a publicly humiliated one, worldwide.

v javno ponižano po vsem svetu.

I was patient zero of losing a personal reputation on a global scale

Bila sem pacient številka nič pri izgubi osebnega ugleda

na globalni ravni skoraj v trenutku.

almost instantaneously.

This rush to judgment, enabled by technology,

Ta poziv k obsojanju, ki ga je omogočala tehnologija,

je tolpam omogočil, da so me virtualno kamenjale.

led to mobs of virtual stone-throwers.

Granted, it was before social media,

Res je, to je bilo pred družabnimi omrežji,

but people could still comment online,

a ljudje so še vedno lahko komentirali na spletu,

e-mail stories,

si pošiljali zgodbe in seveda, pošiljali krute šale.

and, of course, e-mail cruel jokes.

News sources plastered photos of me all over

Moje fotografije so bile povsod v novicah,

za prodajo časopisov, spletne oglase

to sell newspapers, banner ads online,

and to keep people tuned to the TV.

in da so bili ljudje pred televizijo.

Do you recall a particular image of me, say, wearing a beret?

Se spominjate kakšne določene moje slike,

na primer z baretko?

Now, I admit I made mistakes --

Priznam, naredila sem veliko napak,

especially wearing that beret.

še posebej, da sem nosila tisto baretko.

(Laughter)

But the attention and judgment that I received --

A pozornost in obsojanje, ki sem ju prejela jaz, ne zgodba,

not the story, but that I personally received --

ki sem ju prejela jaz osebno, je bil brez primere.

was unprecedented.

I was branded as a tramp,

Označili so me za vlačugo,

tart,

cipo, kurbo, lovačo, trapo.

slut,

whore,

bimbo,

and, of course, "that woman."

In seveda, za "tisto žensko".

I was seen by many,

Videli so me mnogi,

but actually known by few.

a poznali le redki.

And I get it: it was easy to forget

Saj razumem, lahko je bilo pozabiti,

that that woman was dimensional,

da je bila ta oseba iz mesa in krvi,

had a soul

da ima dušo, in da nekoč ni bila zlomljena.

and was once unbroken.

When this happened to me 17 years ago, there was no name for it.

Ko se mi je to pred 17 leti zgodilo, ni imelo imena.

Now we call it "cyberbullying" and "online harassment."

Sedaj to imenujemo spletno nadlegovanje.

Today, I want to share some of my experience with you,

Danes želim z vami deliti nekaj svojih izkušenj,

talk about how that experience has helped shape my cultural observations,

govoriti o tem, kako so moje izkušnje izoblikovale moja kulturna opažanja,

in kako upam, da bodo moje izkušnje vodile v spremembo,

and how I hope my past experience can lead to a change

that results in less suffering for others.

ki bo povzročila manj trpljenja drugim.

In 1998, I lost my reputation and my dignity.

Leta 1998 sem izgubila svoj ugled in dostojanstvo.

I lost almost everything.

Izgubila sem skoraj vse

in skoraj izgubila življenje.

And I almost lost my life.

Naj vam naslikam sliko.

Let me paint a picture for you.

It is September of 1998.

September leta 1998 je.

I'm sitting in a windowless office room

Sedim v pisarni brez oken,

inside the Office of the Independent Counsel,

znotraj Urada posebnega tožilca,

pod brnečo fluorescentno lučjo.

underneath humming fluorescent lights.

I'm listening to the sound of my voice,

Poslušam svoj glas,

my voice on surreptitiously taped phone calls

moj glas na na skrivaj posnetih telefonskih klicih,

that a supposed friend had made the year before.

ki jih je moja "prijateljica" posnela leto prej.

Tu sem, ker sem morala po zakonu

I'm here because I've been legally required

to personally authenticate all 20 hours of taped conversation.

osebno identificirati vseh 20 ur posnetega pogovora.

For the past eight months, the mysterious content of these tapes

Preteklih osem mesecev je skrivnostna vsebina teh kaset

has hung like the sword of Damocles over my head.

kot Damoklejev meč visela nad mojo glavo.

I mean, who can remember what they said a year ago?

Mislim, kdo se lahko spominja, kaj je rekel pred letom dni?

Scared and mortified, I listen,

Prestrašena in osramočena sem poslušala,

listen as I prattle on about the flotsam and jetsam of the day;

poslušala, kako blebetam o vsakodnevnih stvareh;

listen as I confess my love for the president,

poslušala, kako priznam svojo ljubezen do predsednika

and, of course, my heartbreak;

in seveda, moje zlomljeno srce;

listen to my sometimes catty, sometimes churlish, sometimes silly self

poslušam se, kako sem včasih zajedljiva, včasih sitna, včasih trapasta,

kruta, neodpuščajoča, neotesana;

being cruel, unforgiving, uncouth;

listen, deeply, deeply ashamed, to the worst version of myself,

poslušam, globoko, globoko osramočena,

najslabšo verzijo sebe,

ki je sploh ne prepoznam.

a self I don't even recognize.

A few days later, the Starr Report is released to Congress,

Nekaj dni kasneje je Starr poročilo predal Kongresu

and all of those tapes and transcripts, those stolen words, form a part of it.

in vse te kasete in prepisi, te ukradene besede, so del tega.

That people can read the transcripts is horrific enough.

Da lahko ljudje preberejo prepise, je že dovolj grozno,

a nekaj tednov kasneje

But a few weeks later,

vrtijo avdio kasete po televiziji

the audiotapes are aired on TV,

and significant portions made available online.

in velik del je dosegljiv na spletu.

The public humiliation was excruciating.

Javno ponižanje je bilo neznosno.

Life was almost unbearable.

Življenje je bilo skoraj nevzdržno.

Leta 1998 se kaj takega ni redno dogajalo

This was not something that happened with regularity back then in 1998,

and by "this," I mean the stealing of people's private words, actions,

in s tem mislim na krajo zasebnih besed, dejanj,

conversations or photos,

pogovorov in fotografij,

and then making them public --

ki so nato postale javne --

public without consent,

javne brez privolitve,

public without context

javne brez konteksta

and public without compassion.

in javne brez sočutja.

Fast-forward 12 years, to 2010,

Zavrtimo 12 let naprej v 2010

and now social media has been born.

in rodila so se družabna omrežja.

The landscape has sadly become much more populated with instances like mine,

Ta pokrajina je bila veliko bolj poseljena s primeri, kot je bil moj,

whether or not someone actually made a mistake,

ne glede na to, ali je nekdo dejansko naredil napako,

and now, it's for both public and private people.

in je sedaj tako za javno kot za zasebno življenje.

The consequences for some have become dire, very dire.

Posledice so bile za nekatere hude, zelo hude.

Po telefonu sem govorila svojo mamo,

I was on the phone with my mom in September of 2010,

septembra leta 2010,

and we were talking about the news of a young college freshman

in pogovarjali sva se o novici

o študentu prvega letnika z Univerze Rutgers

from Rutgers University,

po imenu Tyler Clementi.

named Tyler Clementi.

Sweet, sensitive, creative Tyler was secretly webcammed by his roommate

Prijaznega, nežnega, ustvarjalnega Tylerja

je na skrivaj posnel njegov sostanovalec,

while being intimate with another man.

medtem ko je bil intimen z moškim.

When the online world learned of this incident,

Ko je splet izvedel za ta incident,

the ridicule and cyberbullying ignited.

se je začelo norčevanje in spletno nadlegovanje.

A few days later,

Čez nekaj dni

je Tyler skočil z mostu Georgea Washingtona

Tyler jumped from the George Washington Bridge

to his death.

v smrt.

He was 18.

Bil je star 18 let.

My mom was beside herself about what happened to Tyler and his family,

Mama je bila razburjena zaradi tega, kar se je zgodilo Tylerju in družini,

and she was gutted with pain

in bila je polna bolečine

in a way that I just couldn't quite understand.

na način, ki ga nisem čisto razumela,

And then eventually, I realized she was reliving 1998,

a sčasoma sem spoznala,

da je podoživljala leto 1998,

podoživljala čas, ko je vsako noč sedela ob moji postelji,

reliving a time when she sat by my bed every night,

reliving -- (Chokes up)

podoživljala čas, ko sem se morala tuširati z odprtimi vrati,

sorry -- reliving a time when she made me shower with the bathroom door open,

in podoživljala čas, ko so se moji starši bali,

and reliving a time when both of my parents feared

da bi bila ponižana do smrti,

that I would be humiliated to death,

literally.

dobesedno.

Today, too many parents haven't had the chance

Danes vse preveč staršev

nima možnosti ukrepati in rešiti svojih dragih.

to step in and rescue their loved ones.

Preveč jih je izvedelo za trpljenje in ponižanje svojega otroka,

Too many have learned of their child's suffering and humiliation

after it was too late.

ko je bilo že prepozno.

Tylerjeva tragična, nesmiselna smrt je bila zame prelomna točka.

Tyler's tragic, senseless death was a turning point for me.

It served to recontextualize my experiences,

Moje izkušnje je postavila v nov kontekst

and I then began to look at the world of humiliation and bullying around me

in nato sem začela gledati na svet poniževanja in nasilništva okrog sebe

and see something different.

in videla nekaj drugega.

In 1998, we had no way of knowing

Leta 1998 nismo mogli vedeti, kam nas bo ta krasna nova tehnologija,

where this brave new technology called the internet would take us.

imenovana internet, ponesla.

Since then, it has connected people in unimaginable ways --

Od takrat je povezala ljudi na nepredstavljive načine,

joining lost siblings,

združila izgubljene brate in sestre,

saving lives,

rešila življenja, sprožila revolucije,

launching revolutions ...

a tema, spletno nasilje in zmerjanje z vlačugo, ki sem jih izkusila jaz,

But the darkness, cyberbullying, and slut-shaming that I experienced

had mushroomed.

so se razbohotili.

Every day online, people -- especially young people,

Vsak dan so na spletu ljudje, še posebej mladi,

who are not developmentally equipped to handle this --

ki še niso tako razviti, da bi se spoprijeli s tem,

are so abused and humiliated

tako zlorabljeni in ponižani,

that they can't imagine living to the next day.

da si ne predstavljajo več življenja

in nekateri ga, tragično, tudi ne doživijo

And some, tragically, don't.

And there's nothing virtual about that.

in v tem ni prav nič virtualnega.

Childline, a UK nonprofit that's focused on helping young people on various issues,

ChildLine (Linija za otroke), neprofitna organizacija iz VB, ki pomaga mladim,

released a staggering statistic late last year:

je lani izdala neverjetno statistiko:

from 2012 to 2013, there was an 87 percent increase

med letoma 2012 in 2013

so opazili 87-odstotno rast

in calls and e-mails related to cyberbullying.

klicev in elektronske pošte glede spletnega nadlegovanja.

A meta-analysis done out of the Netherlands

Meta-analiza, narejena na Nizozemskem,

showed that for the first time,

je prvič pokazala,

cyberbullying was leading to suicidal ideations

da spletno nasilje vodi v samomorilne namene

more significantly than offline bullying.

veliko bolj kot nasilje izven spleta.

And you know, what shocked me -- although it shouldn't have --

In veste, kaj me je šokiralo, pa me ne bi smelo:

was other research last year

druga raziskava iz lanskega leta, ki je dokazala, da je ponižanje

that determined humiliation was a more intensely felt emotion

bolj intenzivno čustvo

kot sreča ali celo jeza.

than either happiness or even anger.

Cruelty to others is nothing new.

Krutost do drugih ni nič novega,

a spletno, tehnološko izboljšano sramočenje je okrepljeno,

But online, technologically enhanced shaming is amplified,

uncontained

neomejeno in trajno dosegljivo.

and permanently accessible.

The echo of embarrassment used to extend only as far as your family, village,

Odmev sramu je včasih segel samo do tvoje družine, vasi,

school or community.

šole ali skupnosti,

But now, it's the online community too.

a sedaj gre tudi za spletno skupnost.

Millions of people, often anonymously, can stab you with their words,

Milijoni ljudi, pogosto anonimno,

te lahko zabodejo s svojimi besedami in to je veliko bolečine

and that's a lot of pain.

And there are no perimeters around how many people can publicly observe you

in nobene meje ni, koliko ljudi

te lahko javno opazuje

and put you in a public stockade.

in te postavi v javni zapor.

There is a very personal price to public humiliation,

Cena javnega ponižanja

je zelo osebna

and the growth of the internet has jacked up that price.

in rast interneta je dvignila to ceno.

Že skoraj dve desetletji

For nearly two decades now,

we have slowly been sowing the seeds of shame and public humiliation

počasi sejemo semena sramote in javnega ponižanja

in our cultural soil, both on- and offline.

na na naši kulturni zemlji na spletu in izven njega.

Gossip websites, paparazzi, reality programming, politics,

Rumene strani, paparaci, resničnostni programi, politika,

news outlets and sometimes hackers

novičarske strani in včasih hekerji preprodajajo sramoto.

all traffic in shame.

It's led to desensitization and a permissive environment online,

To je vodilo v razosebljenje in permisivno spletno okolje,

which lends itself to trolling, invasion of privacy and cyberbullying.

kar vodi v "trolanje", poseganje v zasebnost in spletno nedlegovanje.

This shift has created what Professor Nicolaus Mills calls

Ta premik je ustvaril to, kar profesor Nicolaus Mills imenuje

"a culture of humiliation."

kultura ponižanja.

Consider a few prominent examples just from the past six months alone.

Pomislite samo na nekaj odmevnih primerov iz zadnjih šestih mesecev.

Snapchat, the service which is used mainly by younger generations

Snapchat, ki ga uporablja predvsem mlajša generacija,

and claims that its messages only have the life span of a few seconds.

in trdi, da imajo sporočila tam življenjsko dobo

le nekaj sekund.

You can imagine the range of content that that gets.

Lahko si predstavljate spekter vsebine, ki je tam.

A third-party app which Snapchatters use to preserve the life span of the messages

V zunanjo aplikacijo, ki jo Snapchaterji uporabljajo

da ohranijo sporočila, so vdrli

was hacked,

in sto tisoč osebnih pogovorov, fotografij in videov je bilo objavljenih na spletu,

and 100,000 personal conversations, photos and videos were leaked online,

to now have a life span of forever.

kjer imajo neomejeno življenjsko dobo.

Jennifer Lawrence and several other actors had their iCloud accounts hacked,

Jennifer Lawrence in še nekaj drugim igralcem so v vdrli v račun iCloud

and private, intimate, nude photos were plastered across the internet

in njihove zasebne, intimne, gole fotografije so prekrile internet

without their permission.

brez njihovega dovoljenja.

One gossip website had over five million hits

Neka rumena stran je imela več kot 5 milijonov zadetkov

for this one story.

za eno samo zgodbo.

And what about the Sony Pictures cyberhacking?

Kaj pa vdor v Sony Pictures?

The documents which received the most attention

Največ pozornosti je dobila

were private e-mails that had maximum public embarrassment value.

zasebna elektronska pošta, ki je povzročila največjo javno sramoto.

A v tej kulturi poniževanja

But in this culture of humiliation,

there is another kind of price tag attached to public shaming.

ima javno poniževanje še eno ceno.

The price does not measure the cost to the victim,

Ta cena ne meri škode pri žrtvi,

which Tyler and too many others --

ki so jo Tyler in premnogi drugi,

notably, women, minorities and members of the LGBTQ community --

še posebej ženske, manjšine

in člani LGBTQ plačali,

have paid,

but the price measures the profit of those who prey on them.

ampak meri dobiček tistih, ki prežijo na njih.

Vdor v življenje drugih je surovina,

This invasion of others is a raw material,

efficiently and ruthlessly mined, packaged and sold at a profit.

učinkovito in neusmiljeno pridobljena, zapakirana in prodana za dobiček.

Pojavil se je trg, kjer je javno ponižanje dobrina

A marketplace has emerged where public humiliation is a commodity,

in sramota je industrija.

and shame is an industry.

Kako se dela denar?

How is the money made?

Clicks.

S kliki.

The more shame, the more clicks.

Več je sramote, več je klikov.

The more clicks, the more advertising dollars.

Več je klikov, več je oglaševalskega denarja.

We're in a dangerous cycle.

V nevarnem krogu se vrtimo.

The more we click on this kind of gossip,

Več ko klikamo na take vrste tračev,

the more numb we get to the human lives behind it.

bolj otopeli postajamo glede življenj za njimi,

And the more numb we get, the more we click.

in bolj otopeli kot smo, več klikamo.

All the while,

In medtem nekdo služi denar

someone is making money off of the back of someone else's suffering.

na plečih trpljenja nekoga drugega.

With every click, we make a choice.

Z vsakim klikom se odločimo.

The more we saturate our culture with public shaming,

Bolj ko polnimo našo kulturo z javnim sramotenjem,

the more accepted it is,

bolje je sprejeto

the more we will see behavior like cyberbullying, trolling,

in več bo obnašanja, kot so spletno nadlegovanje,

trolanje, vdori v sisteme

some forms of hacking

in spletno nadlegovanje.

and online harassment.

Why? Because they all have humiliation at their cores.

Zakaj? Ker imajo v svojem jedru vsi ponižanje.

This behavior is a symptom of the culture we've created.

To obnašanje je simptom kulture, ki smo jo ustvarili.

Just think about it.

Samo pomislite.

Changing behavior begins with evolving beliefs.

Sprememba obnašanja se začne z razvojem prepričanj.

We've seen that to be true with racism, homophobia

To se je zgodilo z rasizmom, homofobijo

and plenty of other biases,

in drugimi predsodki danes in v preteklosti.

today and in the past.

As we've changed beliefs about same-sex marriage,

Ko smo spremenili mišljenje o istospolnih porokah,

more people have been offered equal freedoms.

je več ljudi dobilo enake pravice.

When we began valuing sustainability,

Ko smo začeli ceniti obnovljive vire,

more people began to recycle.

je več ljudi začelo reciklirati.

So as far as our culture of humiliation goes,

Kar se tiče naše kulture poniževanja,

what we need is a cultural revolution.

potrebujemo kulturno revolucijo.

Public shaming as a blood sport has to stop,

Javno poniževanje kot krvavi šport se mora nehati

and it's time for an intervention on the internet and in our culture.

in čas je za intervencijo na internetu in v naši kulturi.

The shift begins with something simple,

Premik se začne z nečim preprostim, a to ni lahko.

but it's not easy.

We need to return to a long-held value of compassion,

Vrniti se moramo k stari vrlini sočutja -- Sočutje in empatija.

compassion and empathy.

Na spletu primanjkuje sočutja

Online, we've got a compassion deficit,

an empathy crisis.

in vlada kriza empatije.

Researcher Brené Brown said, and I quote,

Raziskovalka Brené Brown je dejala, citiram:

"Shame can't survive empathy."

"Sramota ne more preživeti empatije."

Shame cannot survive empathy.

Sramota ne more preživeti empatije.

I've seen some very dark days in my life.

V svojem življenju sem imela nekaj zelo temnih dni

It was the compassion and empathy from my family, friends, professionals

in prav sočutje in empatija moje družine, prijateljev, strokovnjakov

in včasih celo neznancev, sta me rešila.

and sometimes even strangers

that saved me.

Even empathy from one person can make a difference.

Celo sočutje ene osebe lahko naredi razliko.

The theory of minority influence,

Teorija vpliva manjšine,

proposed by social psychologist Serge Moscovici,

ki jo je predlagal socialni psiholog Serge Moscovici,

says that even in small numbers,

pravi, da celo v majhnem številu,

when there's consistency over time,

kjer obstaja stabilnost skozi čas,

change can happen.

lahko pride do spremembe.

In the online world, we can foster minority influence

Na spletu lahko spodbujamo vpliv manjšine,

by becoming upstanders.

tako da postanemo aktivni očividci.

To become an upstander means instead of bystander apathy,

Postati aktivni očividec pomeni, da namesto apatije opazovalca

we can post a positive comment for someone or report a bullying situation.

napišemo pozitiven komentar nekomu ali pa prijavimo nasilje.

Trust me, compassionate comments help abate the negativity.

Verjemite mi, sočutni komentarji lahko pomagajo zmanjšati negativnost.

We can also counteract the culture by supporting organizations

Lahko nasprotujemo tej kulturi tako, da podpiramo organizacije,

that deal with these kinds of issues,

ki se ukvarjajo s takimi problemi,

like the Tyler Clementi Foundation in the US;

kot je Fundacija Tyler Clementija v ZDA,

in the UK, there's Anti-Bullying Pro;

v VB je to Anti-Bullying Pro

and in Australia, there's PROJECT ROCKIT.

in v Avstraliji je to Project Rockit.

We talk a lot about our right to freedom of expression.

Veliko govorimo o pravici do svobode izražanja,

But we need to talk more about our responsibility

a več bi morali govoriti

o odgovornosti pri svobodi izražanja.

to freedom of expression.

Vsi želimo biti slišani,

We all want to be heard,

but let's acknowledge the difference between speaking up with intention

a priznajmo razliko med govorjenjem z namenom

and speaking up for attention.

in govorjenjem za pozornost.

The internet is the superhighway for the id.

Internet je kot super avtocesta za id,

But online, showing empathy to others benefits us all

a na spletu izkazovanje sočutja drugim

pomaga vsem in pomaga ustvariti varnejši in boljši svet.

and helps create a safer and better world.

We need to communicate online with compassion,

Na spletu moramo komunicirati s sočutjem,

consume news with compassion

brati novice s sočutjem

and click with compassion.

in klikati s sočutjem.

Just imagine walking a mile in someone else's headline.

Predstavljate si hojo z naslovom nekoga drugega.

I'd like to end on a personal note.

Rada bi končala z osebnim sporočilom.

In the past nine months,

V zadnjih devetih mesecih

the question I've been asked the most is "Why?"

je bilo vprašanje, ki sem ga največkrat prejela, zakaj.

Why now?

Why was I sticking my head above the parapet?

Zakaj sedaj? Zakaj sem vznemirjala ljudi?

You can read between the lines in those questions,

Lahko berete med vrsticami pri teh vprašanjih

and the answer has nothing to do with politics.

in odgovor nima nič s politiko.

The top-note answer was and is "Because it's time."

Glavni odgovor je, da zato, ker je čas:

Time to stop tiptoeing around my past,

čas, da neham okolišiti okrog svoje preteklosti,

čas, da neham živeti življenje v sramoti,

time to stop living a life of opprobrium

and time to take back my narrative.

in čas, da vzamem svojo zgodbo v svoje roke.

It's also not just about saving myself.

Tu ne gre samo za reševanje same sebe.

Anyone who is suffering from shame and public humiliation

Vsakdo, ki trpi zaradi sramote in javnega ponižanja,

needs to know one thing:

mora vedeti eno stvar:

You can survive it.

to lahko preživiš.

I know it's hard.

Vem, da je težko.

It may not be painless, quick or easy,

Morda ne bo neboleče, hitro ali lahko,

but you can insist on a different ending to your story.

ampak lahko vztrajaš pri drugačnem koncu tvoje zgodbe.

Have compassion for yourself.

Bodi sočuten sam s sabo.

We all deserve compassion

Vsi si zaslužimo sočutje

and to live both online and off in a more compassionate world.

in živeti na spletu in izven njega v bolj sočutnem svetu.

Thank you for listening.

Hvala, da ste me poslušali.

(Applause and cheers)

(Aplavz)