The price of shame | Monica Lewinsky | TED

Translator: Nana Ginnerup Reviewer: Anders Finn Jørgensen

You're looking at a woman who was publicly silent for a decade.

I ser på en kvinde, der var offentligt tavs i et årti.

Obviously, that's changed,

Det har åbenlyst ændret sig,

but only recently.

men kun for nylig.

It was several months ago that I gave my very first major public talk,

Det er flere måneder siden,

jeg gav min første, større, offentlige tale

at the Forbes "30 Under 30 Summit" --

ved Forbes 30 Under 30 topmøde:

1,500 brilliant people, all under the age of 30.

1500 fantastiske mennesker, alle under en alder af 30.

That meant that in 1998, the oldest among the group were only 14,

Det betyder, at i 1998

var den ældste i gruppen kun 14,

and the youngest, just four.

og den yngste kun 4.

I joked with them that some might only have heard of me from rap songs.

Jeg jokede med, at nogle af dem muligvis kun har hørt om mig

fra rap-sange.

Yes, I'm in rap songs.

Ja, jeg er i rap-sange.

(Laughter)

Almost 40 rap songs.

Næsten 40 rap-sange.

(Laughter)

But the night of my speech, a surprising thing happened.

Men på aftenen til min tale skete der noget overraskende.

At the age of 41, I was hit on by a 27-year-old guy.

I en alder af 41 blev jeg lagt an på af en 27-årig fyr.

(Laughter)

I know, right?

Jeg ved det, virkeligt?

He was charming, and I was flattered,

Han var charmerende, og jeg var smigret,

and I declined.

og jeg afslog.

You know what his unsuccessful pickup line was?

Ved I, hvad hans mislykkede pickup line var?

He could make me feel 22 again.

Han kunne få mig til at føle mig 22 igen.

(Laughter)

(Latter)

(Applause)

I realized, later that night,

Senere den aften indså jeg, at jeg nok er den eneste person over 40,

I'm probably the only person over 40 who does not want to be 22 again.

der ikke vil være 22 igen.

(Laughter)

(Latter)

(Applause)

(Bifald)

At the age of 22, I fell in love with my boss.

I en alder af 22 blev jeg forelsket i min chef,

And at the age of 24,

og i en alder af 24

I learned the devastating consequences.

lærte jeg de altødelæggende konsekvenser.

Can I see a show of hands of anyone here

Kan jeg se hænderne på dem her,

who didn't make a mistake or do something they regretted at 22?

der ikke begik en fejl eller gjorde noget, de fortrød, i en alder af 22?

Yep. That's what I thought.

Jep, det var hvad, jeg regnede med.

So like me, at 22, a few of you may have also taken wrong turns

Så, ligesom mig, i alderen 22 tog nogle af jer måske nogle forkerte beslutninger

and fallen in love with the wrong person,

og blev forelskede i den forkerte person,

maybe even your boss.

måske endda jeres chef.

Unlike me, though,

I modsætning til mig, dog, var jeres chef

your boss probably wasn't the president of the United States of America.

højst sandsynligt ikke den amerikanske præsident.

(Laughter)

Of course, life is full of surprises.

Selvfølgelig, livet er fuld af overraskelser.

Not a day goes by that I'm not reminded of my mistake,

Der går ikke en dag, uden at jeg bliver mindet om min fejl,

and I regret that mistake deeply.

og jeg fortryder den fejl inderligt.

In 1998, after having been swept up into an improbable romance,

I 1998, efter at have blevet fejet op af en usandsynlig romance,

I was then swept up into the eye of a political, legal and media maelstrom

blev jeg fejet op i øjet af en politisk, juridisk, mediestorm,

like we had never seen before.

ulig noget vi havde set før.

Remember, just a few years earlier,

Husk på, at få år tidligere

news was consumed from just three places:

kom nyhederne kun fra tre steder:

aviser og magasiner,

reading a newspaper or magazine,

listening to the radio

radioen

or watching television.

eller tv.

That was it.

Det var det.

But that wasn't my fate.

Men det var ikke min skæbne.

Instead, this scandal was brought to you

I stedet blev skandalen bragt til jer

by the digital revolution.

i en digital revolution.

That meant we could access all the information we wanted,

Det betød at vi kunne tilgå al den information, vi ville,

when we wanted it, anytime, anywhere.

når vi ville have det, på alle tidspunkter, alle steder,

And when the story broke in January 1998,

og da historien slap ud i januar 1998,

slap den ud online.

it broke online.

It was the first time the traditional news was usurped by the internet

Det var første gang, de traditionelle nyheder

blev tilranet af internettet for en stor nyhedshistorie,

for a major news story --

a click that reverberated around the world.

et klik der genlød i hele verden.

What that meant for me personally

Hvad, det betød for mig personligt,

was that overnight, I went from being a completely private figure

var, at jeg natten over gik fra at være en helt privat person

to a publicly humiliated one, worldwide.

til at være en offentligt ydmyget person over hele verden.

I was patient zero of losing a personal reputation on a global scale

Jeg var patient zero for at miste mit personlige omdømme

på en global skala næsten øjeblikkeligt.

almost instantaneously.

This rush to judgment, enabled by technology,

Denne forhastede konklusion, muliggjort af teknologi,

ledte til horder af virtuelle stenkastere.

led to mobs of virtual stone-throwers.

Granted, it was before social media,

Givet, det var før det sociale medier,

but people could still comment online,

men folk kunne stadig kommentere online,

e-mail stories,

email-historier, og selvfølgelig grusomme email-jokes.

and, of course, e-mail cruel jokes.

News sources plastered photos of me all over

Nyhedskilder smed om sig med fotos af mig

for at sælge aviser, bannerreklamer online

to sell newspapers, banner ads online,

and to keep people tuned to the TV.

og for at få folk til at stille sig ind på tv.

Do you recall a particular image of me, say, wearing a beret?

Genkalder I er bestemt billede af mig,

lad os sige, hvor jeg har en baret på?

Now, I admit I made mistakes --

Jeg indrømmer, at jeg begik fejl,

especially wearing that beret.

især mens jeg havde den baret på.

(Laughter)

But the attention and judgment that I received --

Men opmærksomheden og dommene jeg modtog, ikke historien,

not the story, but that I personally received --

men som jeg personligt modtog, var et fortilfælde.

was unprecedented.

I was branded as a tramp,

Jeg blev stemplet som en vagabond,

tart,

dulle, tøjte, luder, sæk,

slut,

whore,

bimbo,

and, of course, "that woman."

og selvfølgelig; den kvinde.

I was seen by many,

Jeg blev set af mange,

but actually known by few.

men rigtigt kendt af få.

And I get it: it was easy to forget

Og jeg forstår det godt: Det var nemt at glemme,

that that woman was dimensional,

at den kvinde havde dimensioner,

had a soul

havde en sjæl. og på et tidspunkt var ubeskadiget.

and was once unbroken.

When this happened to me 17 years ago, there was no name for it.

Da det her skete for mig for 17 år siden, var der ikke noget navn for det.

Now we call it "cyberbullying" and "online harassment."

Nu kalder vi det cybermobning og online chikane.

Today, I want to share some of my experience with you,

I dag vil jeg gerne dele noget af min oplevelse med jer,

talk about how that experience has helped shape my cultural observations,

tale om hvordan den oplevelse har hjulpet med at forme mine kulturelle observationer

og hvordan jeg håber at min fortidige oplevelse kan føre til forandringer,

and how I hope my past experience can lead to a change

that results in less suffering for others.

der resulterer i mindre lidelse for andre.

In 1998, I lost my reputation and my dignity.

I 1998 mistede jeg mit omdømme og min værdighed.

I lost almost everything.

Jeg mistede næsten alt,

og jeg mistede næsten mit liv.

And I almost lost my life.

Lad mig give jer de store linjer.

Let me paint a picture for you.

It is September of 1998.

Der er september i 1998.

I'm sitting in a windowless office room

Jeg sidder i et kontorværelse uden vinduer

inside the Office of the Independent Counsel,

i Kontoret for det Uafhængige Råd

under brummende fluorescerende lys.

underneath humming fluorescent lights.

I'm listening to the sound of my voice,

Jeg lytter til lyden af min stemme,

my voice on surreptitiously taped phone calls

min stemme fra skjult optagne telefonsamtaler,

that a supposed friend had made the year before.

som en formodet ven havde foretaget et år tidligere.

Jeg er her, fordi jeg er juridisk forpligtet

I'm here because I've been legally required

to personally authenticate all 20 hours of taped conversation.

til personligt at godkende alle 20 timer optaget samtale.

For the past eight months, the mysterious content of these tapes

De sidste 8 måneder har det mystiske indhold af disse optagelser

has hung like the sword of Damocles over my head.

hængt som damoklessværdet over mit hoved.

I mean, who can remember what they said a year ago?

Jeg mener, hvem kan huske, hvad de sagde for et år siden?

Scared and mortified, I listen,

Bange og sønderknust lyttede jeg,

listen as I prattle on about the flotsam and jetsam of the day;

lyttede som jeg ævlede løs om alt tænkeligt;

listen as I confess my love for the president,

lyttede som jeg tilstod min kærlighed til præsidenten.

and, of course, my heartbreak;

og selvfølgelig mine hjertesorger;

listen to my sometimes catty, sometimes churlish, sometimes silly self

lyttede til mit nogen gange spydige, nogen gange ubehøvlede, fjollede selv

være grusom, utilgivende, ubehøvlet;

being cruel, unforgiving, uncouth;

listen, deeply, deeply ashamed, to the worst version of myself,

lyttede dybt, dybt skamfuldt

til den værste side af mig selv,

et selv jeg ikke engang genkender.

a self I don't even recognize.

A few days later, the Starr Report is released to Congress,

Nogle få dage senere blev Starr- raporten udgivet til kongressen,

and all of those tapes and transcripts, those stolen words, form a part of it.

og alle disse optagelser og afskrifter, disse stjålne ord, tog del i det.

That people can read the transcripts is horrific enough.

At folk kan læse afskrifterne er slemt nok.

men nogle få uger senere

But a few weeks later,

blev lydoptagelserne sendt på tv.

the audiotapes are aired on TV,

and significant portions made available online.

og en betydelig mængde blev gjort tilgængelige online.

The public humiliation was excruciating.

Den offentlige ydmygelse var ulidelig.

Life was almost unbearable.

Livet var næsten uudholdeligt.

Det her var ikke noget, der skete ofte tilbage i 1998,

This was not something that happened with regularity back then in 1998,

and by "this," I mean the stealing of people's private words, actions,

og med det her mener jeg at stjæle folks private ord, handlinger,

conversations or photos,

samtaler eller fotos,

and then making them public --

og gøre dem offentlige -

public without consent,

offentlige uden samtykke,

public without context

offentlige uden kontekst,

and public without compassion.

og offentlige uden medfølelse.

Fast-forward 12 years, to 2010,

Spol 12 år frem til år 2010,

and now social media has been born.

og sociale medier er blevet født.

The landscape has sadly become much more populated with instances like mine,

Desværre er landskabet blevet befolket med langt flere tilfælde som mit,

whether or not someone actually made a mistake,

lige meget om nogen begik en fejl eller ej,

and now, it's for both public and private people.

og nu gælder det både offentlige og private personer.

The consequences for some have become dire, very dire.

Konsekvenserne for nogle har været frygtelige, meget frygtelige

Jeg talte telefon med min mor

I was on the phone with my mom in September of 2010,

i september 2010,

and we were talking about the news of a young college freshman

og vi snakkede om nyheden om

en ung førsteårsstuderende fra Rutgers University

from Rutgers University,

kaldet Tyler Clementi.

named Tyler Clementi.

Sweet, sensitive, creative Tyler was secretly webcammed by his roommate

Søde, følsomme, kreative Tyler

var hemmeligt blevet filmet af sin værelseskammerat

while being intimate with another man.

mens han var intim med en anden mand.

When the online world learned of this incident,

Da den online verden hørte om den episode,

the ridicule and cyberbullying ignited.

eksploderede latterliggørelsen og cybermobningen.

A few days later,

Nogle få dage senere

sprang Tyler ud fra George Wasington-broen

Tyler jumped from the George Washington Bridge

to his death.

lige i døden.

He was 18.

Han var 18.

My mom was beside herself about what happened to Tyler and his family,

Min mor var ved siden af sig selv på grund af det der skete for Tyler og familien,

and she was gutted with pain

og hun var fyldt med smerte

in a way that I just couldn't quite understand.

på en måde, jeg bare ikke helt kunne forstå,

And then eventually, I realized she was reliving 1998,

og til sidst indså jeg,

at hun genlevede 1998 -

genlevede en tid, hvor hun sad hver aften ved min seng,

reliving a time when she sat by my bed every night,

reliving -- (Chokes up)

genlevede en tid, hvor hun tvang mig til at tage bad med badeværelsesdøren åben,

sorry -- reliving a time when she made me shower with the bathroom door open,

og genlevede en tid, hvor begge mine forældre frygtede,

and reliving a time when both of my parents feared

at jeg ville blive skammet til døde,

that I would be humiliated to death,

literally.

bogstaveligt talt.

Today, too many parents haven't had the chance

I dag har alt for mange forældre

ikke haft chancen for at træde til og redde deres elskede.

to step in and rescue their loved ones.

For mange har hørt om deres børns lidelser og ydmygelse,

Too many have learned of their child's suffering and humiliation

after it was too late.

efter det var for sent.

Tylers tragiske, meningsløse død var et vendepunkt for mig.

Tyler's tragic, senseless death was a turning point for me.

It served to recontextualize my experiences,

Det satte mine erfaringer i ny kontekst,

and I then began to look at the world of humiliation and bullying around me

og jeg begyndte at se på verden af ydmygelse og mobning omkring mig

and see something different.

og se noget anderledes.

In 1998, we had no way of knowing

I 1998 havde vi ingen idé om, hvor denne modige, nye teknologi

where this brave new technology called the internet would take us.

kaldet internettet, ville tage os.

Since then, it has connected people in unimaginable ways --

Siden da har det forbundet folk på utænkelige måder,

joining lost siblings,

sammenført søskende,

saving lives,

reddet liv, startet revolutioner,

launching revolutions ...

men det mørke af cyber-mobning og slut-shaming, jeg oplevede

But the darkness, cyberbullying, and slut-shaming that I experienced

had mushroomed.

har eksploderet.

Every day online, people -- especially young people,

Hver dag online bliver folk, især unge folk,

who are not developmentally equipped to handle this --

der ikke er udviklingsmæssigt i stand til at klare det,

are so abused and humiliated

så misbrugt og ydmygede,

that they can't imagine living to the next day.

at de ikke forestille sig at leve til den næste dag.

Og nogle gør på tragisk vis heller ikke,

And some, tragically, don't.

And there's nothing virtual about that.

og der er intet virtuelt ved det.

Childline, a UK nonprofit that's focused on helping young people on various issues,

ChildLine, en nonprofit-organisation, fokuseret på at hjælp unge,

released a staggering statistic late last year:

offentliggjorde en rystende statistik sidste år:

from 2012 to 2013, there was an 87 percent increase

Fra 2012 til 2013

var der en 87 procents stigning

in calls and e-mails related to cyberbullying.

i opkald og emails relateret til cyver-mobning.

A meta-analysis done out of the Netherlands

En metaanalyse fra Holland

showed that for the first time,

viste at, for første gang

cyberbullying was leading to suicidal ideations

var cyber-mobning den hyppigste årsag til selvmordstanker,

more significantly than offline bullying.

mere signifikant end offline-mobning.

And you know, what shocked me -- although it shouldn't have --

Og det, der chokerede mig, selvom det ikke burde,

was other research last year

var en anden undersøgelse sidste år, der fastlagde, at ydmygelse

that determined humiliation was a more intensely felt emotion

var en endnu mere intenst følt følelse

end både glæde og selv vrede.

than either happiness or even anger.

Cruelty to others is nothing new.

Grusomhed overfor andre er intet nyt,

men online, teknologisk forbedret beskæmmelse er forstærket,

But online, technologically enhanced shaming is amplified,

uncontained

ukontrollabelt og permanent tilgængeligt.

and permanently accessible.

The echo of embarrassment used to extend only as far as your family, village,

Ekkoet af forlegenhed plejede at stoppe ved din familie, landsby,

school or community.

skole eller samfund,

But now, it's the online community too.

men nu er det også det online samfund.

Millions of people, often anonymously, can stab you with their words,

Millioner af folk kan, ofte anonymt,

slå dig med deres ord, og det er meget smerte,

and that's a lot of pain.

And there are no perimeters around how many people can publicly observe you

og der er ingen grænse på hvor mange folk,

der offentligt kan observere dig

and put you in a public stockade.

og putte dig i en offentlig gabestok.

There is a very personal price to public humiliation,

Der er en meget personlig pris

på offentlig ydmygelse,

and the growth of the internet has jacked up that price.

og internettets vækst har sendt den pris i vejret.

I næsten to årtier nu

For nearly two decades now,

we have slowly been sowing the seeds of shame and public humiliation

har vi langsomt plantet frøene af skam og offentlig ydmygelse

in our cultural soil, both on- and offline.

i vores kulturelle jord, både on- og offline.

Gossip websites, paparazzi, reality programming, politics,

Sladder-sider, paparazzi, reality-serier, politik,

news outlets and sometimes hackers

nyhedskanaler og nogle gange hackere lever alle på skam.

all traffic in shame.

It's led to desensitization and a permissive environment online,

Det har ført til et ufølsomt og et uansvarligt miljø online,

which lends itself to trolling, invasion of privacy and cyberbullying.

som er velegnet til trolling, invadering af privatliv, og cyber-mobning.

This shift has created what Professor Nicolaus Mills calls

Dette skifte har skabt, hvad professer Nicolaus Mills kalder,

"a culture of humiliation."

en kultur af ydmygelse.

Consider a few prominent examples just from the past six months alone.

Overvej nogle få fremtrædende eksempler fra de sidste seks måneder alene.

Snapchat, the service which is used mainly by younger generations

Snapchat, servicen brugt primært af de yngre generationer,

and claims that its messages only have the life span of a few seconds.

der påstår dets beskeder kun eksisterer

i nogle få sekunder.

You can imagine the range of content that that gets.

Man kan forestille sig omfanget af indhold i det.

A third-party app which Snapchatters use to preserve the life span of the messages

En tredjepartsapp, som Snapchattere bruger til at opretholde levetiden

af beskederne, blev hacket,

was hacked,

og 100.000 personlige samtaler, fotos og videoer blev lækket online

and 100,000 personal conversations, photos and videos were leaked online,

to now have a life span of forever.

til nu at eksistere der for evigt.

Jennifer Lawrence and several other actors had their iCloud accounts hacked,

Jennifer Lawrence og flere andre skue- spillere fik deres iCloud-konti hackede,

and private, intimate, nude photos were plastered across the internet

og private, intime, nøgenfotos blev spredt over hele nettet

without their permission.

uden deres tilladelse.

One gossip website had over five million hits

Én sladerhjemmeside havde over fem millioner hits

for this one story.

for denne ene historie alene.

And what about the Sony Pictures cyberhacking?

Hvad med Sony Pictures-hackningen?

The documents which received the most attention

De dokumenter, der fik mest opmærksomhed,

were private e-mails that had maximum public embarrassment value.

var private emails, der havde den største offentlige pinligheds-værdi.

Men i denne kultur af ydmygelse

But in this culture of humiliation,

there is another kind of price tag attached to public shaming.

er der et anden slags prisskilt tilknyttet offentlig ydmygelse.

The price does not measure the cost to the victim,

Prisen måles ikke efter ofrenes omkostninger,

which Tyler and too many others --

som Tyler og alt for mange andre,

notably, women, minorities and members of the LGBTQ community --

navnligt kvinder, minoriteter,

og folk i LGBTQ-samfundet har betalt,

have paid,

but the price measures the profit of those who prey on them.

men den måles i profit hos dem, der er på rov efter dem.

Invasionen af andre er råmateriale,

This invasion of others is a raw material,

efficiently and ruthlessly mined, packaged and sold at a profit.

der effektivt og nådesløst er udvundet, pakket og solgt med fortjeneste.

Et marked er opstået, hvor offentlig ydmygelse er en råvare,

A marketplace has emerged where public humiliation is a commodity,

og skam er en industri.

and shame is an industry.

Hvordan bliver pengene tjent?

How is the money made?

Clicks.

Klik.

The more shame, the more clicks.

Jo mere skam, jo flere klik.

The more clicks, the more advertising dollars.

Jo flere klik, jo flere reklamepenge.

We're in a dangerous cycle.

Vi er i en farlig cyklus.

The more we click on this kind of gossip,

Jo mere vi klikker på den her slags sladder,

the more numb we get to the human lives behind it.

des mere følelsesløse bliver vi overfor menneskelivene bag det,

And the more numb we get, the more we click.

og jo mere følelsesløse vi bliver, des mere klikker vi.

All the while,

Samtidig er der nogen, der tjener penge

someone is making money off of the back of someone else's suffering.

baseret på en andens lidelser.

With every click, we make a choice.

Med hvert et klik tager vi et valg.

The more we saturate our culture with public shaming,

Jo mere vi gennemvæder vores kultur med offentlig ydmygelse,

the more accepted it is,

jo mere accepteret det bliver,

the more we will see behavior like cyberbullying, trolling,

des mere vil vi se en opførelse ligesom cyber-mobning,

trolling, nogle former for hacking

some forms of hacking

og online chikane.

and online harassment.

Why? Because they all have humiliation at their cores.

Hvorfor? Fordi de alle har ydmygelse i deres kerne.

This behavior is a symptom of the culture we've created.

Denne opførelse er et symptom på den kultur, vi har skabt.

Just think about it.

Tænk over det.

Changing behavior begins with evolving beliefs.

At ændre opførsel begynder med at udvikle tro.

We've seen that to be true with racism, homophobia

Det er bevist sandt ved racisme, homofobi,

and plenty of other biases,

og mange andre fordomme, i dag og i fortiden.

today and in the past.

As we've changed beliefs about same-sex marriage,

Som vi ændrede opfattelse af homoseksuelles ægteskab,

more people have been offered equal freedoms.

er flere personer blevet tilbudt ligelige friheder.

When we began valuing sustainability,

Da vi begyndte at værdsætte bæredygtighed,

more people began to recycle.

begyndte flere personer at genbruge.

So as far as our culture of humiliation goes,

Så når det kommer til vores kultur af ydmygelse,

what we need is a cultural revolution.

har vi brug for en kulturel revolution.

Public shaming as a blood sport has to stop,

Offentlig ydmygelse som en blodssport bliver nødt til at ophøre,

and it's time for an intervention on the internet and in our culture.

og det er tid til en indgriben i vores kultur og vores internet.

The shift begins with something simple,

Ændringen begynder med noget simpelt, men det er ikke nemt.

but it's not easy.

We need to return to a long-held value of compassion,

Vi bliver nødt til at vende tilbage til gamle værdier af medfølelse og empati.

compassion and empathy.

Online har vi et underskud af medfølelse,

Online, we've got a compassion deficit,

an empathy crisis.

en empati-krise.

Researcher Brené Brown said, and I quote,

Forsker, Brené Brown, sagde, og jeg citerer:

"Shame can't survive empathy."

"Skam kan ikke overleve empati."

Shame cannot survive empathy.

Skam kan ikke overleve empati.

I've seen some very dark days in my life.

Jeg har set nogle meget mørke dage i mit liv,

It was the compassion and empathy from my family, friends, professionals

og det var medfølelsen og empatien fra min familie, venner, branchefolk,

og nogle gange endda fremmede, der reddede mig.

and sometimes even strangers

that saved me.

Even empathy from one person can make a difference.

Selv empati fra en enkelt person kan gøre en forskel.

The theory of minority influence,

Teorien om minoritetsindflydelse,

proposed by social psychologist Serge Moscovici,

foreslået af social psykolog, Serge Moscovici,

says that even in small numbers,

foreskriver at selv i mindre tal,

when there's consistency over time,

når der er konsistens over tid,

change can happen.

sker der forandring.

In the online world, we can foster minority influence

I den online verden kan vi pleje minoritetsindflydelse

by becoming upstanders.

ved at blive en 'modståer'.

To become an upstander means instead of bystander apathy,

At blive en modståer betyder, at i stedet for tilskuerpassivitet,

we can post a positive comment for someone or report a bullying situation.

kan vi opslå positive opslag for nogen eller rapportere en mobningssituation.

Trust me, compassionate comments help abate the negativity.

Tro mig, medfølende kommentarer hjælper med at nedtone negativiteten.

We can also counteract the culture by supporting organizations

Vi kan også gå imod kulturen ved at støtte organisationer,

that deal with these kinds of issues,

der arbejder med disse problemer,

like the Tyler Clementi Foundation in the US;

som the Tyler Clementi Foundation i USA.

in the UK, there's Anti-Bullying Pro;

I Storbritannien er der Anti-Bullying Pro,

and in Australia, there's PROJECT ROCKIT.

og i Australien er der Project Rockit.

We talk a lot about our right to freedom of expression.

Vi taler meget om vores ret til ytringsfrihed,

But we need to talk more about our responsibility

men vi skal tale mere om

vores ansvar i forbindelse med ytringsfrihed.

to freedom of expression.

Vi har alle lyst til at blive hørt,

We all want to be heard,

but let's acknowledge the difference between speaking up with intention

men lad os anerkende forskellen mellem at råbe op med intention

and speaking up for attention.

og at råbe for opmærksomhed.

The internet is the superhighway for the id.

Internettet er supermotorvejen for id'et,

But online, showing empathy to others benefits us all

men online yder det, at vise empati for andre,

en fordel for os alle og hjælper med at skabe en sikrere og bedre verden.

and helps create a safer and better world.

We need to communicate online with compassion,

Vi bliver nødt til at kommunikere online med medfølsomhed,

consume news with compassion

tage nyheder til os med medfølsomhed,

and click with compassion.

og klikke med medfølsomhed.

Just imagine walking a mile in someone else's headline.

Bare forestil dig at gå 10 km i en andens overskrift.

I'd like to end on a personal note.

Jeg vil gerne slutte af med en personlig bemærkning.

In the past nine months,

I de sidste ni måneder

the question I've been asked the most is "Why?"

er det spørgsmål, jeg er blevet stillet mest, hvorfor.

Why now?

Why was I sticking my head above the parapet?

Hvorfor nu? Hvorfor har jeg stukket mit hoved over fæstningen?

You can read between the lines in those questions,

Man kan læse mellem linjerne i disse spørgsmål,

and the answer has nothing to do with politics.

og svaret har intet at gøre med politik.

The top-note answer was and is "Because it's time."

Topsvaret var og er, fordi det er tid:

Time to stop tiptoeing around my past,

Tid til at stoppe med at undgå min fortid;

tid til at stoppe med at leve et liv af ukvemsord;

time to stop living a life of opprobrium

and time to take back my narrative.

og tid til at tilbagetage min fortælling.

It's also not just about saving myself.

Det handler ikke bare om, at redde mig selv.

Anyone who is suffering from shame and public humiliation

Hvem som helst, der lider af skam og offentlig ydmygelse,

needs to know one thing:

har brug for at vide én ting:

You can survive it.

Du kan overleve det.

I know it's hard.

Jeg ved, det er svært.

It may not be painless, quick or easy,

Det er måske ikke smertefrit, hurtigt eller nemt,

but you can insist on a different ending to your story.

men du kan insistere på en anden slutning til din historie.

Have compassion for yourself.

Hav medfølelse med dig selv.

We all deserve compassion

Vi fortjener alle medfølelse,

and to live both online and off in a more compassionate world.

og til at leve både online og offline i en mere medfølende verden.

Thank you for listening.

Tak for at lytte.

(Applause and cheers)

(Bifald)