How to make work-life balance work | Nigel Marsh

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What I thought I would do

Mislio sam početi tako

is I would start with a simple request.

da od vas zatražim jednostavnu stvar.

I'd like all of you

Volio bih da svi

to pause for a moment,

za trenutak zastanete,

you wretched weaklings,

vi nesretni jadnici,

and take stock of your miserable existence.

i analizirate svoje bijedno postojanje.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

Now that was the advice

To je bio savjet koji je

that St. Benedict gave his rather startled followers

sv. Benedikt dao svojim prilično iznenađenim sljedbenicima

in the fifth century.

u petom stoljeću.

It was the advice that I decided to follow myself

Taj sam savjet odlučio i sam prihvatiti

when I turned 40.

kad sam napunio 40 godina.

Up until that moment, I had been that classic corporate warrior --

Do toga trenutka bio sam klasični korporativni ratnik --

I was eating too much, I was drinking too much,

jeo sam previše, pio sam previše,

I was working too hard

radio sam previše,

and I was neglecting the family.

i zanemarivao sam obitelj.

And I decided that I would try

Pa sam odlučio pokušati

and turn my life around.

preokrenuti svoj život.

In particular, I decided

Konkretno, odlučio sam

I would try to address the thorny issue

pokušati riješiti trnovit problem

of work-life balance.

ravnoteže između posla i života.

So I stepped back from the workforce,

Pa sam se povukao iz radne snage,

and I spent a year at home

i proveo godinu dana kod kuće

with my wife and four young children.

sa ženom i četvero male djece.

But all I learned about work-life balance

Ali sve što sam naučio o ravnoteži posao-život

from that year

u tih godinu dana

was that I found it quite easy

bilo je to da je prilično lako

to balance work and life

balansirati posao i život

when I didn't have any work.

kada nemate posla.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

Not a very useful skill,

I nije neka korisna vještina,

especially when the money runs out.

posebno kad vam ponestane novca.

So I went back to work,

Pa sam se vratio na posao,

and I've spent these seven years since

i od tada sam proveo sedam godina

struggling with, studying

u borbi, proučavanju

and writing about work-life balance.

i pisanju o ravnoteži između posla i života.

And I have four observations

I imam četiri otkrića

I'd like to share with you today.

koja bih volio danas podijeliti s vama.

The first is:

Prvo je,

if society's to make any progress on this issue,

ako će društvo postići ikakav napredak po tom pitanju,

we need an honest debate.

potrebna nam je iskrena debata.

But the trouble is

Ali nevolja je u tome

so many people talk so much rubbish

što mnogo ljudi priča toliko gluposti

about work-life balance.

o ravnoteži između posla i života.

All the discussions about flexi-time

Sve rasprave o fleksibilnom radnom vremenu

or dress-down Fridays

ili dopuštenoj ležernoj odjeći petkom

or paternity leave

ili porodiljnom dopustu za očeve

only serve to mask the core issue,

služe samo tome da prikriju središnji problem,

which is

a on je

that certain job and career choices

da su određeni odabrani poslovi i karijere

are fundamentally incompatible

fundamentalno nekompatibilni

with being meaningfully engaged

s posvećivanjem pune pažnje

on a day-to-day basis

na svakodnevnoj osnovi

with a young family.

vašoj mladoj obitelji.

Now the first step in solving any problem

Prvi korak u rješavanju bilo kojeg problema

is acknowledging the reality of the situation you're in.

je priznavanje realnosti situacije u kojoj se nalazite.

And the reality of the society that we're in

A realnost društva u kojem mi živimo

is there are thousands and thousands

je ta da postoje tisuće i tisuće

of people out there

ljudi oko nas

leading lives of quiet, screaming desperation,

koji žive živote tihog, vrištećeg očajanja,

where they work long, hard hours

u kojima rade duge, teške radne sate

at jobs they hate

na poslovima koje mrze

to enable them to buy things they don't need

koji im omogućavaju da kupe stvari koje ne trebaju

to impress people they don't like.

da bi impresionirali ljude koje ne vole.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

(Applause)

(Pljesak)

It's my contention that going to work on Friday in jeans and [a] T-shirt

Moje je mišljenje da odlazak na posao petkom u trapericama i majici kratkih rukava

isn't really getting to the nub of the issue.

ne dopire stvarno do srži problema.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

The second observation I'd like to make

Drugo otkriće koje želim reći

is we need to face the truth

je da se moramo suočiti s istinom

that governments and corporations

da vlade i korporacije

aren't going to solve this issue for us.

neće taj problem riješiti za nas.

We should stop looking outside.

Trebamo prestati gledati van;

It's up to us as individuals

na nama kao pojedincima je

to take control and responsibility

da preuzmemo kontrolu i odgovornost

for the type of lives that we want to lead.

za onakav život kakav želimo živjeti.

If you don't design your life,

Ako ne oblikujete svoj život,

someone else will design it for you,

netko drugi će ga oblikovati za vas,

and you may just not like

i možda vam se neće sviđati

their idea of balance.

njihov pogled na ravnotežu.

It's particularly important --

Posebno je važno --

this isn't on the World Wide Web, is it? I'm about to get fired --

ovo nije na Internetu, zar ne, dobit ću otkaz --

it's particularly important

posebno je važno

that you never put the quality of your life

da nikada ne prepustite kvalitetu svog života

in the hands of a commercial corporation.

u ruke komercijalne korporacije.

Now I'm not talking here just about the bad companies --

Ne govorim ovdje samo o lošim kompanijama --

the "abattoirs of the human soul," as I call them.

klaonicama ljudske duše, kako ih nazivam.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

I'm talking about all companies.

Govorim o svim kompanijama.

Because commercial companies

Jer su komercijalne kompanije

are inherently designed

inherentno oblikovane tako

to get as much out of you [as]

da uzmu od vas onoliko puno

they can get away with.

koliko to uspiju.

It's in their nature; it's in their DNA;

To im je u naravi, to je njihova DNK,

it's what they do --

to je ono što one rade --

even the good, well-intentioned companies.

čak i dobre kompanije s dobrim namjerama.

On the one hand,

U jednu ruku,

putting childcare facilities in the workplace

otvoriti vrtiće u sklopu tvrtke

is wonderful and enlightened.

je divno i prosvijetljeno.

On the other hand, it's a nightmare --

U drugu ruku, to je košmar;

it just means you spend more time at the bloody office.

znači samo to da ćete još više vremena provoditi u prokletom uredu.

We have to be responsible

Moramo biti odgovorni

for setting and enforcing

za postavljanje i branjenje

the boundaries that we want in our life.

granica koje želimo imati u životu.

The third observation is

Treće otriće je

we have to be careful

da moramo biti pažljivi

with the time frame that we choose

s vremenskim intervalom koji odabiremo

upon which to judge our balance.

a na temelju kojeg ocjenjujemo našu ravnotežu.

Before I went back to work

Prije nego što sam se vratio na posao

after my year at home,

nakon godine provedene kod kuće,

I sat down

sjeo sam

and I wrote out

i napisao

a detailed, step-by-step description

detaljan opis, korak po korak,

of the ideal balanced day

idealno uravnoteženog dana

that I aspired to.

kakvom sam težio.

And it went like this:

Izgledao je ovako:

wake up well rested

Ustati odmoran

after a good night's sleep.

nakon dobro prospavane noći.

Have sex.

Seksati se.

Walk the dog.

Prošetati psa.

Have breakfast with my wife and children.

Doručkovati sa ženom i djecom.

Have sex again.

Opet se seksati.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

Drive the kids to school on the way to the office.

Odvesti djecu u školu na putu za ured.

Do three hours' work.

Raditi tri sata.

Play a sport with a friend at lunchtime.

Baviti se sportom s prijateljem u vrijeme ručka.

Do another three hours' work.

Raditi još tri sata.

Meet some mates in the pub for an early evening drink.

Naći se s prijateljima u pubu na ranovečernjem piću.

Drive home for dinner

Odvesti se kući na večeru

with my wife and kids.

sa ženom i djecom.

Meditate for half an hour.

Meditirati pola sata.

Have sex.

Seksati se.

Walk the dog. Have sex again.

Prošetati psa. Opet se seksati.

Go to bed.

Otići u krevet.

(Applause)

(Pljesak)

How often do you think I have that day?

Što mislite, koliko često imam takav dan?

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

We need to be realistic.

Moramo biti realistični.

You can't do it all in one day.

Ne možemo sve učiniti u jednom danu.

We need to elongate the time frame

Morao produžiti naš vremenski okvir

upon which we judge the balance in our life,

unutar kojega ćemo ocjenjivati ravnotežu u našim životima,

but we need to elongate it

ali ga moramo produžiti

without falling into the trap

bez upadanja u zamku onoga:

of the "I'll have a life when I retire,

"Živjet ću život kad odem u mirovinu,

when my kids have left home,

kad mi djeca odsele,

when my wife has divorced me, my health is failing,

kad se žena razvede od mene, kad mi zdravlje popusti,

I've got no mates or interests left."

kad izgubim prijatelje ili zanimacije."

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

A day is too short; "after I retire" is too long.

Dan je prekratak, no u mirovini je predugačak.

There's got to be a middle way.

Mora postojati srednji put.

A fourth observation:

Četvrto otkriće:

We need to approach balance

Toj ravnoteži moramo pristupiti

in a balanced way.

na uravnotežen način.

A friend came to see me last year --

Prijateljica mi je došla u posjet lani --

and she doesn't mind me telling this story -- a friend came to see me last year

i ne smeta joj da ovo pričam – prijateljica me posjetila lani

and said, "Nigel, I've read your book.

i rekla, „Nigel, pročitala sam tvoju knjigu.

And I realize that my life is completely out of balance.

I shvatila sam da mi je život u potpunoj neravnoteži.

It's totally dominated by work.

Posao totalno dominira mojim životom.

I work 10 hours a day; I commute two hours a day.

Radim 10 sati dnevno, putujem dva sata dnevno.

All of my relationships have failed.

Sve moje veze su propale.

There's nothing in my life

U mojem životu nema ničega

apart from my work.

osim posla.

So I've decided to get a grip and sort it out.

Pa sam se odlučila srediti i posložiti stvari.

So I joined a gym."

I učlanila sam se u teretanu."

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

Now I don't mean to mock,

No, ne želim zadirkivati,

but being a fit 10-hour-a-day office rat

ali biti 10-satni uredski štakor u kondiciji

isn't more balanced; it's more fit.

ne znači biti uravnotežen, znači biti u boljoj kondiciji.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

Lovely though physical exercise may be,

Koliko god tjelovježba bila divna,

there are other parts to life --

u životu postoje i druge stvari.

there's the intellectual side; there's the emotional side;

Intelektualna strana, emocionalna strana,

there's the spiritual side.

a tu je i duhovna strana.

And to be balanced,

Da bismo postigli ravnotežu,

I believe we have to attend

vjerujem da se moramo posvetiti

to all of those areas --

svim tim područjima --

not just do 50 stomach crunches.

a ne samo raditi 50 trbušnjaka.

Now that can be daunting.

To može biti teško.

Because people say, "Bloody hell mate, I haven't got time to get fit.

Zato što ljudi vele, „Dovraga, kompa, nemam vremena za vježbanje;

You want me to go to church and call my mother."

ti bi htio da idem u crkvu i javim se majci."

And I understand.

Razumijem to.

I truly understand how that can be daunting.

Zaista razumijem koliko to može biti teško.

But an incident that happened a couple of years ago

Ali nešto što mi se dogodilo prije koju godinu

gave me a new perspective.

dalo mi je novu perspektivu.

My wife, who is somewhere in the audience today,

Moja supruga, koja je danas tu negdje u publici,

called me up at the office

nazvala me u ured

and said, "Nigel, you need to pick our youngest son" --

i rekla, „Nigele, moraš pokupiti našeg najmlađeg sina,"

Harry -- "up from school."

Harryja iz škole."

Because she had to be somewhere else with the other three children for that evening.

Jer je ona morala biti drugdje s drugo troje djece te večeri.

So I left work an hour early that afternoon

Pa sam tog popodneva otišao s posla sat ranije

and picked Harry up at the school gates.

i pokupio Harryja na školskoj kapiji.

We walked down to the local park,

Prošetali smo do lokalnog parka,

messed around on the swings, played some silly games.

zezali se na ljuljačkama, igrali šašave igrice.

I then walked him up the hill to the local cafe,

Zatim smo otišli uzbrdo do lokalnog kafića,

and we shared a pizza for two,

i podijelili pizzu i čaj,

then walked down the hill to our home,

zatim smo se spustili nizbrdo kući,

and I gave him his bath

pa sam ga okupao

and put him in his Batman pajamas.

i obukao mu njegovu Batman pidžamu.

I then read him a chapter

Zatim sam mu pročitao poglavlje iz

of Roald Dahl's "James and the Giant Peach."

knjige Roald Dahla "Ivo i divovska kruška."

I then put him to bed, tucked him in,

Zatim sam ga stavio u krevet, ušuškao ga,

gave him a kiss on his forehead and said, "Goodnight, mate,"

poljubio da u čelo i rekao, „Laku noć, kompa,"

and walked out of his bedroom.

i izišao iz njegove sobe.

As I was walking out of his bedroom,

Dok sam izlazio od njega,

he said, "Dad?" I went, "Yes, mate?"

rekao je, „Tata?“ i ja sam pitao, „Da, kompa?"

He went, "Dad, this has been the best day

Rekao je, „Tata, ovo je bio najbolji dan

of my life, ever."

u mom životu, ikad."

I hadn't done anything,

Nisam učinio ništa,

hadn't taken him to Disney World or bought him a Playstation.

nisam ga odveo u Disney World ili mu kupio Playstation.

Now my point is

Moja poanta je

the small things matter.

da su male stvari važne.

Being more balanced

Više ravnoteže

doesn't mean dramatic upheaval in your life.

ne znači dramatične preokrete u vašem životu.

With the smallest investment

S najmanjim ulaganjem

in the right places,

na pravo mjesto,

you can radically transform the quality of your relationships

možete radikalno promijeniti kvalitetu vaših odnosa

and the quality of your life.

i kvalitetu vašeg života.

Moreover, I think,

Još više, mislim,

it can transform society.

možemo promijeniti društvo.

Because if enough people do it,

Jer ako dovoljno ljudi bude postupalo tako,

we can change society's definition of success

možemo promijeniti društvenu definiciju uspjeha

away from the moronically simplistic notion

od ovoga kretenski pojednostavljenog poimanja

that the person with the most money when he dies wins,

da je pobjednik onaj tko u trenutku smrti ima najviše novca,

to a more thoughtful and balanced definition

u promišljeniju i uravnoteženiju definiciju

of what a life well lived looks like.

onoga kako izgleda dobro proživljen život.

And that, I think,

I to je, mislim,

is an idea worth spreading.

ideja koju vrijedi širiti.

(Applause)

(Pljesak)