Jane Fonda: Life's third act

Prevoditelj: Senzos Osijek Recezent: Mislav Ante Omazić - EFZG

Bilo je mnogo revolucija

There have been many revolutions over the last century,

tijekom posljednjeg stoljeća,

but perhaps none as significant as the longevity revolution.

ali niti jedna nije toliko značajna

kao revolucija dugovječnosti.

We are living on average today 34 years longer

Danas živimo u prosjeku

34 godine dulje od naših prabaka i pradjedova.

than our great-grandparents did -- think about that.

Razmislite malo o tome.

That's an entire second adult lifetime

Cijeli jedan novi odrasli životni vijek

that's been added to our lifespan.

je dodan na naš životni vijek.

And yet, for the most part,

Ali i dalje, barem što se većine tiče,

our culture has not come to terms with what this means.

naša kultura nije uspjela shvatiti što to znači.

We're still living with the old paradigm

I dalje živimo sa starom paradigmom

of age as an arch.

koja život vidi kao luk.

That's the metaphor, the old metaphor.

To je metafora, stara metafora.

You're born, you peak at midlife

Rodite se, dostignete vrhunac u srednjim godinama

and decline into decrepitude.

i zatim propadate.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

Age as pathology.

Godine kao patologija.

Mnogi ljudi danas --

But many people today -- philosophers, artists, doctors, scientists --

filozofi, umjetnici, liječnici, znanstvenici --

are taking a new look at what I call "the third act" --

imaju sasvim nov pogled na ono što ja zovem trećim činom -

zadnja tri desetljeća života.

the last three decades of life.

They realize that this is actually a developmental stage of life

Oni shvaćaju kako je ovo zapravo razvojni stadij života

with its own significance,

koji ima svoju važnost --

i razlikuje se od sredovječnosti,

as different from midlife as adolescence is from childhood.

kao što se i adolescencija razlikuje od djetinjstva.

And they are asking -- we should all be asking:

I pitaju se, a svi bismo se trebali pitati --

kako mi iskorištavamo to vrijeme?

How do we use this time?

How do we live it successfully?

Kako ga iskoristiti uspješno?

What is the appropriate new metaphor for aging?

Koja je nova prikladna metafora

za starenje?

I've spent the last year researching and writing about this subject.

Proteklu godinu provela sam istražujući i pišući o ovoj temi.

I pronašla sam

And I have come to find that a more appropriate metaphor for aging

kako je prikladnija metafora za starenje

is a staircase --

stubište --

uspon ljudskog duha

the upward ascension of the human spirit,

bringing us into wisdom, wholeness, and authenticity.

koji nam donosi mudrost, ispunjenost

i vjerodostojnost.

Age not at all as pathology.

Starenje ne trebamo promatrati samo kao patologiju,

već kao potencijal.

Age as potential.

And guess what?

I pogodite što?

This potential is not for the lucky few.

Taj potencijal nije samo za rijetke sretnike.

It turns out, most people over 50

Ispostavilo se

da se većina ljudi starijih od 50 godina

feel better, are less stressed, less hostile, less anxious.

osjeća bolje, manje pati od stresa,

manje je agresivna, manje napeta.

Uočavamo sličnosti

We tend to see commonalities more than differences.

više nego razlike.

Some of the studies even say we're happier.

Neka istraživanja čak kažu

da smo sretniji.

(Laughter)

This is not what I expected, trust me.

Ovo ni sama nisam očekivala, vjerujte mi.

Potječem iz duge linije depresivaca.

I come from a long line of depressives.

Dok sam se približavala kasnim četrdesetima,

As I was approaching my late 40s,

kada bih se probudila,

when I would wake up in the morning,

mojih prvih šest misli bilo bi negativno.

my first six thoughts would all be negative.

I to me je uplašilo.

And I got scared.

I thought, "Oh my gosh. I'm going to become a crotchety old lady."

Pomislila sam - o Bože,

postat ću hirovita stara gospođa.

But now that I am actually smack-dab in the middle of my own third act,

Ali sada, kada sam ustvari na sredini svog trećeg čina

vidim da nikada nisam bila sretnija.

I realize I've never been happier.

Imam moćan osjećaj blagostanja.

I have such a powerful feeling of well-being.

And I've discovered

I otkrila sam

that when you're inside oldness,

da kada konačno dosegneš starost,

as opposed to looking at it from the outside,

za razliku od onoga kada ju samo promatraš sa strane,

strah nestane.

fear subsides.

You realize you're still yourself --

Shvatiš, i dalje si to što jesi --

maybe even more so.

možda čak i više nego prije.

Picasso once said, "It takes a long time to become young."

Picasso je jednom rekao: “Mnogo je vremena potrebno da bi čovjek postao mlad."

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

I don't want to romanticize aging.

Ne želim romantizirati starenje.

Obviously, there's no guarantee

Očito, nema garancije

that it can be a time of fruition and growth.

da ono može biti doba uživanja i razvoja.

Dio je i pitanje sreće.

Some of it is a matter of luck.

Nešto je, očito, i u genetici.

Some of it, obviously, is genetic.

One third of it, in fact, is genetic.

Jedna trećina je u genetici.

I ne možemo puno učiniti u vezi s tim.

And there isn't much we can do about that.

But that means that two-thirds of how well we do in the third act,

Ali, to znači da dvije trećine

ovise o tome kako ćemo odigrati treći čin,

možemo utjecati na to.

we can do something about.

Raspravit ćemo što možemo napraviti

We're going to discuss what we can do

to make these added years really successful,

kako bismo ove dodatne godine učinili uspješnima

and use them to make a difference.

i pametno ih iskoristili.

Dopustite mi da kažem nešto o stubištu,

Now, let me say something about the staircase,

koje se može činiti kao čudna metafora,

which may seem like an odd metaphor for seniors,

pogotovo za starije kojima upravo ta stubišta prestavljaju izazov.

given the fact that many seniors are challenged by stairs.

(Smijeh)

(Laughter)

Myself included.

I ja sam uključena.

Kao što možda znate,

As you may know, the entire world operates on a universal law:

cijeli svijet funkcionira po jedinstvenom zakonu:

entropija, drugi zakon termodinamike.

entropy, the second law of thermodynamics.

Entropy means that everything in the world -- everything --

Entropija znači da je sve na svijetu, sve,

is in a state of decline and decay --

u stanju mijenjanja i raspadanja,

u luku.

the arch.

There's only one exception to this universal law,

Postoji samo jedna iznimka od ovog pravila,

a to je duh čovjeka,

and that is the human spirit,

koji se nastavlja razvijati --

which can continue to evolve upwards, the staircase,

kao što se penjemo po stubištu --

bringing us into wholeness, authenticity, and wisdom.

i omogućava nam ispunjenje,

vjerodostojnost i mudrost.

And here's an example of what I mean.

Postoji i primjer ovoga o čemu pričam.

Ovo 'penjanje'

This upward ascension

se može odvijati čak usprkos ekstremnim fizičkim izazovima.

can happen even in the face of extreme physical challenges.

About three years ago, I read an article in the New York Times.

Prije otprilike tri godine,

pročitala sam članak u New York Timesu.

Radilo se o Neilu Selingeru –

It was about a man named Neil Selinger --

57-godišnjaku, umirovljenom odvjetniku --

57 years old, a retired lawyer,

who had joined the writers' group at Sarah Lawrence,

koji se uključio u rad literarne grupe na Sarah Lawrence fakultetu

where he found his writer's voice.

gdje je pronašao svoj spisateljski dar.

Two years later,

Dvije godine kasnije,

he was diagnosed with ALS, commonly known as Lou Gehrig's disease.

dijagnosticirana mu je amiotrofična lateralna skleroza (ALS), znana kao Lou Gehrigova bolest.

To je strašna bolest. Fatalna je.

It's a terrible disease. It's fatal.

It wastes the body, but the mind remains intact.

Uništava tijelo, ali um ostaje nedirnut.

In this article, Mr. Selinger wrote the following

U ovom članku, gospodin Selinger

je opisujući što mu se događa zapisao sljedeće,

to describe what was happening to him.

citiram,

And I quote:

"As my muscles weakened,

"Moji mišići slabe,

ali moje pisanje jača.

my writing became stronger.

As I slowly lost my speech,

Polako gubeći sposobnost govora,

I gained my voice.

stekao sam svoj glas.

As I diminished, I grew.

Smanjujući se, rastem.

Izgubio sam puno,

As I lost so much,

ali sam konačno pronašao sebe."

I finally started to find myself."

Neil Selinger je za mene

Neil Selinger, to me,

is the embodiment of mounting the staircase

utjelovljenje svladavanja stubišta

u trećem činu.

in his third act.

Now we're all born with spirit, all of us,

Svi se rađamo s duhom,

ali je on ponekad zarobljen

but sometimes it gets tamped down beneath the challenges of life,

zbog životnih izazova,

violence, abuse, neglect.

nasilja, zlostavljanja, zapostavljanja.

Perhaps our parents suffered from depression.

Možda su naši roditelji patili od depresije.

Možda nas nisu bili sposobni voljeti

Perhaps they weren't able to love us beyond how we performed in the world.

više od onoga što smo ostvarili u životu.

Možda i dalje trpimo

Perhaps we still suffer from a psychic pain, a wound.

psihičku bol.

Možda osjećamo da mnogi naši odnosi nisu imali pravi završetak,

Perhaps we feel that many of our relationships

have not had closure.

tako da se osjećamo nedovršeno.

And so we can feel unfinished.

Perhaps the task of the third act

Možda je smisao trećeg čina

da dovršimo zadatak ostvarivanja samih sebe.

is to finish up the task of finishing ourselves.

For me, it began as I was approaching my third act, my 60th birthday.

U mom slučaju, sve je počelo kada sam se približila trećem činu,

svom 60. rođendanu.

How was I supposed to live it?

Kako bih trebala živjeti dalje?

What was I supposed to accomplish in this final act?

Što bih trebala postići u ovom završnom činu?

And I realized that, in order to know where I was going,

Shvatila sam da, kako bih mogla znati kamo idem,

I had to know where I'd been.

moram znati gdje sam do sada bila.

Vratila sam se unatrag

And so I went back and I studied my first two acts,

i proučila prva dva čina,

kako bih shvatila tko sam bila,

trying to see who I was then,

who I really was, not who my parents or other people told me I was,

tko sam zapravo bila --

ne ono što su mi roditelji i drugi ljudi govorili da jesam

ili kako su se prema meni ponašali.

or treated me like I was.

Ali, tko sam bila? Tko su bili moji roditelji --

But who was I?

Who were my parents -- not as parents, but as people?

ne kao roditelji, nego kao ljudi?

Moje bake i djedovi?

Who were my grandparents?

How did they treat my parents?

Kako su se oni ponašali prema mojim roditeljima?

These kinds of things.

Takve stvari.

Nekoliko godina kasnije saznala sam da

I discovered, a couple of years later,

proces kroz koji sam prolazila

that this process that I had gone through

psiholozi zovu

is called by psychologists "doing a life review."

'osvrt na život'.

And they say it can give new significance and clarity and meaning

Kažu da to može dati novu važnost

i smisao

to a person's life.

životu.

You may discover, as I did,

Možete poput mene otkriti

that a lot of things that you used to think were your fault,

da mnoge stvari za koje ste mislili da su vaša krivica

i sve što ste mislili o sebi,

a lot of things you used to think about yourself,

zapravo uopće nema veze s vama.

really had nothing to do with you.

To nije vaša krivnja; vi ste sasvim u redu.

It wasn't your fault; you're just fine.

U mogućnosti ste vratiti se unatrag

And you're able to go back and forgive them.

i oprostiti njima,

oprostiti sebi.

And forgive yourself.

U mogućnosti ste osloboditi se

You're able to free yourself

tereta prošlosti.

from your past.

Možete promijeniti

You can work to change your relationship to your past.

svoju vezu s vlastitom prošlošću.

Dok sam pisala o ovome,

Now while I was writing about this,

naišla sam na knjigu Viktora Frankla

I came upon a book called "Man's Search for Meaning"

"Život uvijek ima smisla".

by Viktor Frankl.

Viktor Frankl bio je njemački psihijatar

Viktor Frankl was a German psychiatrist

who'd spent five years in a Nazi concentration camp.

koji je proveo pet godina u nacističkom koncentracijskom logoru.

And he wrote that, while he was in the camp,

I dok je bio u logoru napisao je

he could tell, should they ever be released,

da može procijeniti

which of the people would be OK, and which would not.

koji bi ljudi bili u redu, a koji ne,

ako bi ikada bili pušteni iz logora.

I zapisao je ovo:

And he wrote this:

"Sve što posjeduješ može ti biti oduzeto

"Everything you have in life can be taken from you

osim jedne stvari,

except one thing:

tvoje slobode da izabereš

your freedom to choose how you will respond to the situation.

kako ćeš reagirati

na neku situaciju.

To je ono što određuje

This is what determines the quality of the life we've lived --

kvalitetu života kojeg smo živjeli --

not whether we've been rich or poor,

a ne to jesmo li bili bogati ili siromašni,

slavni ili nepoznati,

famous or unknown,

healthy or suffering.

zdravi ili bolesni.

What determines our quality of life is how we relate to these realities,

Ono što određuje kvalitetu života

je to kako se povezujemo sa stvarnošću,

what kind of meaning we assign them,

kakvu joj važnost pridajemo,

what kind of attitude we cling to about them,

kakav stav zauzimamo u odnosu na nju,

kakvo stanje uma ona u nama izaziva."

what state of mind we allow them to trigger."

Možda je glavna svrha trećeg čina

Perhaps the central purpose of the third act

is to go back and to try, if appropriate,

da se vratimo unatrag i pokušamo,

to change our relationship to the past.

ako je to prikladno,

promijeniti našu vezu s prošlosti.

It turns out that cognitive research shows

Kognitivna istraživanja su pokazala

da kada to činimo,

when we are able to do this,

it manifests neurologically --

može se uočiti neurološka manifestacija --

neural pathways are created in the brain.

živčani putevi se stvaraju u mozgu.

You see, if you have, over time,

Vidite, ako ste

reacted negatively to past events and people,

negativno reagirali na događaje i osobe iz prošlosti,

živčani putevi postaju određeni

neural pathways are laid down

by chemical and electrical signals that are sent through the brain.

kemijskim i električnim signalima koji se šalju kroz mozak.

Tijekom vremena, ovi putevi postaju čvrsto umreženi,

And over time, these neural pathways become hardwired.

postaju norma --

They become the norm -- even if it's bad for us,

iako je to za nas loše

because it causes us stress and anxiety.

jer uzrokuje stres i napetost.

Ako se pak

If, however,

we can go back and alter our relationship,

možemo vratiti unatrag i izmijeniti te veze,

re-vision our relationship to past people and events,

napraviti reviziju

ljudi i događaja iz prošlosti,

neural pathways can change.

živčani putevi mogu se mijenjati.

And if we can maintain the more positive feelings

Ako možemo održavati

više pozitivnih osjećaja vezanih uz prošlost,

about the past,

that becomes the new norm.

to postaje nova norma.

It's like resetting a thermostat.

To je poput resetiranja termostata.

Nova iskustva nisu ono

It's not having experiences

što nas čini mudrijima,

that makes us wise.

već je to razmišljanje o iskustvima koja smo već stekli

It's reflecting on the experiences that we've had that makes us wise

i koja su nas učinila mudrijima --

and that helps us become whole,

i to nam pomaže da postanemo cjeloviti,

brings wisdom and authenticity.

to nam daje mudrost i vjerodostojnost.

It helps us become what we might have been.

To nam pomaže da postanemo ono što bismo mogli biti.

Women start off whole, don't we?

Žene počinju cjelovito, zar ne?

I mean, as girls, we're feisty -- "Yeah? Who says?"

Mislim, kao djevojke, krećemo agresivno -- "Da, tko to kaže?"

(Laughter)

Posjedujemo snagu.

We have agency.

We are the subjects of our own lives.

Mi smo subjekti vlastitih života.

Ali vrlo često,

But very often,

many, if not most of us, when we hit puberty,

većina žena, ako ne i sve, kada uđu u pubertet,

we start worrying about fitting in and being popular.

počnu se brinuti o uklapanju i popularnosti.

And we become the subjects and objects of other people's lives.

I postajemo subjekti i objekti tuđih života.

Ali sada, u trećem činu,

But now, in our third acts,

u mogućnosti smo

it may be possible for us to circle back to where we started,

da se vratimo gdje smo počele

i da shvatimo.

and know it for the first time.

I ako uspijemo,

And if we can do that,

it will not just be for ourselves.

nećemo pomoći samo sebi.

Older women are the largest demographic in the world.

Starije žene

su najveća demografska skupina na svijetu.

Ako se uspijemo vratiti unatrag, ponovno definirati sebe

If we can go back and redefine ourselves

i postati ispunjene,

and become whole,

to će potaknuti kulturološke promjene u svijetu

this will create a cultural shift in the world,

and it will give an example to younger generations

i poslužiti kao primjer mlađim generacijama

kako bi oni mogli shvatiti svoj životni vijek.

so that they can reconceive their own lifespan.

Thank you very much.

Hvala puno.

(Applause)

(Pljesak)