Jane Fonda: Life's third act

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์•„๋ž˜ ์˜๋ฌธ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ”ํด๋ฆญํ•˜์‹œ๋ฉด ์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋ฒˆ์—ญ: Hye Bin Ko ๊ฒ€ํ† : Jungsoo Kim
์ง€๋‚œ ์„ธ๊ธฐ ๋™์•ˆ
00:16
There have been many revolutions over the last century,
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๋งŽ์€ ํ˜๋ช…์ด ์žˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:19
but perhaps none as significant as the longevity revolution.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์žฅ์ˆ˜ ํ˜๋ช…๋งŒํผ
์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์€ ์—†์ง€์š”.
00:24
We are living on average today 34 years longer
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์ฆ์กฐ๋ถ€๋“ค๋ณด๋‹ค
ํ‰๊ท ์ ์œผ๋กœ 34๋…„์„ ๋” ์˜ค๋ž˜์‚ด๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:28
than our great-grandparents did -- think about that.
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ํ•œ๋ฒˆ ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ด๋ณด์„ธ์š”.
00:31
That's an entire second adult lifetime
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์ˆ˜๋ช…์— ์ถ”๊ฐ€๋œ ๊ฒƒ์€
00:34
that's been added to our lifespan.
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๋‘๋ฒˆ์งธ ์–ด๋ฅธ์˜ ์ธ์ƒ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ณผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:36
And yet, for the most part,
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๋Œ€๊ฐœ๋Š”
00:38
our culture has not come to terms with what this means.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ฌด์—‡์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•˜๋Š”์ง€ ์•„์ง ์•Œ์•„๋‚ด์ง€ ๋ชปํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:41
We're still living with the old paradigm
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์•„์ง๋„ ๋‚˜์ด๊ฐ€ ์•„์น˜ํ˜•์ด๋ผ๋Š”
00:44
of age as an arch.
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์˜ค๋ž˜๋œ ํŒจ๋Ÿฌ๋‹ค์ž„์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์‚ด์•„๊ฐ€๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:46
That's the metaphor, the old metaphor.
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ์€์œ ์ธ๋ฐ ์•„์ฃผ ์˜ค๋ž˜๋œ ์€์œ ์ด์ฃ .
00:48
You're born, you peak at midlife
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์€ ํƒœ์–ด๋‚˜๊ณ , ์ค‘๋…„๊ธฐ์— ์ •์ ์„ ์ฐ๊ณ 
00:50
and decline into decrepitude.
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๋…ธ์‡ ํ•ด ๊ฐ€์ฃ .
00:52
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
00:54
Age as pathology.
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๋‚˜์ด๋ฅผ ๋ณ‘๋ฆฌํ•™์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋ณธ ๊ฒƒ์ด์ฃ .
ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์˜ค๋Š˜๋‚  ๋งŽ์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€--
00:57
But many people today -- philosophers, artists, doctors, scientists --
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์ฒ ํ•™์ž, ์˜ˆ์ˆ ๊ฐ€, ์˜์‚ฌ, ๊ณผํ•™์ž๋“ค์€--
01:01
are taking a new look at what I call "the third act" --
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์ œ๊ฐ€ 3๋ง‰์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋ฅด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ์‹œ๊ฐ์œผ๋กœ ๋ณด๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์ œ 3๋ง‰์ด๋ž€ ์ธ์ƒ์˜ ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰ 30๋…„์ด์ฃ .
01:05
the last three decades of life.
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01:07
They realize that this is actually a developmental stage of life
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๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ์ด๊ฒƒ์ด ์‚ฌ์‹ค ์ธ์ƒ์˜ ๋ฐœ์ „๊ธฐ๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์•Œ์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:12
with its own significance,
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์˜ ๊ณ ์œ ํ•œ ์ค‘์š”์„ฑ์„ ์ง€๋‹ˆ๊ณ  ๋ง์ด์ฃ --
์ค‘๋…„๊ธฐํ•˜๊ณ  ๋‹ค๋ฅด๊ฒŒ ๋ง์ด์—์š”.
01:15
as different from midlife as adolescence is from childhood.
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๋งˆ์น˜ ์ฒญ์†Œ๋…„๊ธฐ๊ฐ€ ์•„๋™๊ธฐํ•˜๊ณ  ๋‹ค๋ฅด๋“ฏ์ด์š”.
01:20
And they are asking -- we should all be asking:
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ๋ฌป์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค--์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๋ชจ๋‘๋„ ๋ฌผ์–ด์•ผํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค--
์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ด ์‹œ๊ฐ„์„ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ์จ์•ผํ•˜์ง€?
01:24
How do we use this time?
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01:26
How do we live it successfully?
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์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์ด๊ฒƒ์„ ์„ฑ๊ณต์ ์œผ๋กœ ์‚ด ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์„๊นŒ?
01:28
What is the appropriate new metaphor for aging?
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๋‚˜์ด ๋จน๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์˜
์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ์€์œ ๋Š” ๋ฌด์—‡์ผ๊นŒ์š”?
01:32
I've spent the last year researching and writing about this subject.
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์ €๋Š” ์ž‘๋…„๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ์ด ์ฃผ์ œ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์—ฐ๊ตฌํ•˜๊ณ  ๊ธ€์„ ์จ์™”์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ €๋Š”
01:36
And I have come to find that a more appropriate metaphor for aging
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๋‚˜์ด ๋จน๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์˜ ๋” ์ ๋‹นํ•œ ์€์œ ๋Š”
01:41
is a staircase --
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๊ณ„๋‹จ์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์•Œ์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค--
์šฐ๋ฆฌ์—๊ฒŒ ์ง€ํ˜œ์™€ ์ด์ฒด, ์ง„์‹ค์„ฑ์„
01:44
the upward ascension of the human spirit,
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01:47
bringing us into wisdom, wholeness, and authenticity.
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๊ฐ€์ ธ๋‹ค์ฃผ๋Š”
์ธ๊ฐ„ ์˜ํ˜ผ์˜ ์Šน์ฒœ์ด๋ผ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์ฃ .
01:51
Age not at all as pathology.
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๋‚˜์ด๋ฅผ ๋ณ‘๋ฆฌํ•™์  ๊ด€์ ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ
์ž ์žฌ๋ ฅ์œผ๋กœ ๋ณด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:54
Age as potential.
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01:55
And guess what?
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์•„์„ธ์š”?
01:57
This potential is not for the lucky few.
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์ด ์ž ์žฌ๋ ฅ์€ ์šด์ข‹์€ ์ผ๋ถ€์—๊ฒŒ๋งŒ ํ•ด๋‹น๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ์—์š”.
01:59
It turns out, most people over 50
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50์„ธ๊ฐ€ ๋„˜์€ ๋Œ€๋ถ€๋ถ„์˜ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์€
๊ธฐ๋ถ„์ด ๋” ์ข‹์•„์ง€๊ณ  ์ŠคํŠธ๋ ˆ์Šค๋ฅผ ๋œ ๋ฐ›๊ณ 
02:03
feel better, are less stressed, less hostile, less anxious.
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๋œ ๊ณต๊ฒฉ์ ์ด์–ด์ง€๊ณ  ๋œ ๋ถˆ์•ˆํ•ด์ง€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์œผ๋กœ
๋‚˜ํƒ€๋‚ฌ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๋‹ค๋ฆ„๋ณด๋‹ค๋Š”
02:08
We tend to see commonalities more than differences.
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๊ณตํ†ต์ ์„ ๋” ๋ณด๊ฒŒ ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:11
Some of the studies even say we're happier.
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๋ช‡๋ช‡ ์—ฐ๊ตฌ๋Š” ์‹ฌ์ง€์–ด
์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋” ํ–‰๋ณตํ•˜๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋งํ•˜๊ธฐ๋„ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:14
(Laughter)
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02:15
This is not what I expected, trust me.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์˜ˆ์ƒํ•œ๊ฒŒ ์•„๋‹ˆ์—ˆ์ฃ . ์ •๋ง๋กœ์š”.
์ €๋Š” ์˜ค๋žซ๋™์•ˆ ์šฐ์šธํ–ˆ์ฃ .
02:18
I come from a long line of depressives.
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์ œ๊ฐ€ 40๋Œ€ ํ›„๋ฐ˜์ด ๋˜๊ฐ€๋ฉด์„œ
02:21
As I was approaching my late 40s,
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์•„์นจ์— ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜
02:23
when I would wake up in the morning,
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋– ์˜ฌ๋ฆฐ ์ฒ˜์Œ 6๊ฐ€์ง€ ์ƒ๊ฐ๋“ค์€ ๋ชจ๋‘ ๋ถ€์ •์ ์ด์˜€์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:25
my first six thoughts would all be negative.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ €๋Š” ๋‘๋ ค์› ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:27
And I got scared.
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02:28
I thought, "Oh my gosh. I'm going to become a crotchety old lady."
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์ €๋Š” ์–ด๋–กํ•˜์ง€๋ผ๋Š” ์ƒ๊ฐ์ด ๋“ค์—ˆ์ฃ .
๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ดดํŒํ•œ ๋…ธ๋ถ€์ธ์ด ๋ ํ…๋ฐ.
02:32
But now that I am actually smack-dab in the middle of my own third act,
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ €๋Š” ์ด์ œ ์ธ์ƒ์˜ ์ œ 3๋ง‰ ์ค‘๊ฐ„์„ ์ •๋ฉด์œผ๋กœ ๋ฐ”๋ผ๋ณด๊ณ  ์žˆ๊ณ ,
์ €๋Š” ์ด๋ณด๋‹ค ๋” ํ–‰๋ณตํ•œ ์ ์€ ์—†์—ˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:37
I realize I've never been happier.
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์ €๋Š” ์ •๋ง ํ–‰๋ณตํ•˜๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋Š๋‚๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:40
I have such a powerful feeling of well-being.
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02:44
And I've discovered
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ €๋Š” ๋ฐœ๊ฒฌํ–ˆ์ฃ .
02:46
that when you're inside oldness,
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๋‹น์‹ ์ด ์‹ค์ œ๋กœ ๋Š™์Œ ์•ˆ์— ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด
02:48
as opposed to looking at it from the outside,
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๋Š™์Œ์„ ๋ฐ–์—์„œ ๋ณด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์— ๋ฐ˜ํ•ด
๋‘๋ ค์›€์„ ๊ฐ€๋ผ์•‰ํžŒ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„์š”.
02:51
fear subsides.
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02:52
You realize you're still yourself --
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๋‹น์‹ ์€ ๊นจ๋‹ซ๊ฒŒ ๋˜์ฃ . ๋‹น์‹ ์€ ์•„์ง๋„ ๋‹น์‹  ์ž์‹ ์ด๋ผ๊ณ ์š”.
02:54
maybe even more so.
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์•„๋งˆ ์‹ฌ์ง€์–ด๋Š” ๋”์šฑ์ด์š”.
02:56
Picasso once said, "It takes a long time to become young."
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ํ”ผ์นด์†Œ๋Š” ์–ธ์  ๊ฐ€ "์ Š์–ด์ง€๋Š”๋ฐ๋Š” ๋งค์šฐ ๊ธด ์‹œ๊ฐ„์ด ๊ฑธ๋ฆฐ๋‹ค."๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:00
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
03:02
I don't want to romanticize aging.
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์ €๋Š” ๋‚˜์ด ๋“œ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ฏธํ™”์‹œํ‚ค๋ ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:04
Obviously, there's no guarantee
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๋‹น์—ฐํžˆ ๋‚˜์ด ๋“œ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด
03:06
that it can be a time of fruition and growth.
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๊ฒฐ์‹ค์„ ๋งบ๊ณ  ์„ฑ์žฅํ•˜๋Š” ์‹œ๊ฐ„์ด ๋  ๊ฑฐ๋ผ๋Š” ๋ณด์žฅ์€ ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์ผ๋ถ€๋Š” ์šด์— ๋‹ฌ๋ ธ์ฃ .
03:09
Some of it is a matter of luck.
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์ผ๋ถ€๋Š” ๋‹น์—ฐํžˆ ์œ ์ „์ ์ด์ฃ .
03:11
Some of it, obviously, is genetic.
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03:13
One third of it, in fact, is genetic.
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์‚ผ๋ถ„์˜ ์ผ์€ ์‚ฌ์‹ค ์œ ์ „์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋งŽ์€ ๊ฒƒ์„ ํ•  ์ˆ˜๋Š” ์—†์ฃ .
03:16
And there isn't much we can do about that.
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03:18
But that means that two-thirds of how well we do in the third act,
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ์ธ์ƒ์˜ ์ œ 3๋ง‰์˜ 2/3๋Š”
์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ํ•˜๊ธฐ์— ๋‹ฌ๋ ธ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„
์˜๋ฏธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:23
we can do something about.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ด ์ถ”๊ฐ€๋œ ์ธ์ƒ์„
03:26
We're going to discuss what we can do
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03:28
to make these added years really successful,
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์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋ฉด ์„ฑ๊ณต์ ์œผ๋กœ ์‚ด๊นŒ
03:31
and use them to make a difference.
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์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋‹ค๋ฆ„์„ ๋งŒ๋“œ๋Š”๋ฐ ์“ธ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์„๊นŒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ ํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์ด์ œ ๋‹ค์‹œ ๊ณ„๋‹จ์œผ๋กœ ๋Œ์•„๊ฐ€ ์–˜๊ธฐํ•ด๋ด…์‹œ๋‹ค.
03:35
Now, let me say something about the staircase,
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์–ด๋ฅด์‹ ๋“ค๊ป˜๋Š” ์กฐ๊ธˆ ์ด์ƒํ•œ ์€์œ ๊ฐ€ ๋  ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:37
which may seem like an odd metaphor for seniors,
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๋งŽ์€ ์–ด๋ฅด์‹ ๋“ค์ด ๊ณ„๋‹จ ์˜ค๋ฅด๋Š”๋ฐ ํž˜์ด ๋“œ์‹ ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ด๋ดค์„๋•Œ์š”.
03:41
given the fact that many seniors are challenged by stairs.
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
03:44
(Laughter)
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03:45
Myself included.
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์ € ์ž์‹ ์„ ํฌํ•จํ•ด์„œ์š”.
์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„๋„ ์•Œ๋“ฏ์ด
03:49
As you may know, the entire world operates on a universal law:
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์ „์„ธ๊ณ„๋Š” ํ•˜๋‚˜์˜ ๋ณดํŽธ์  ๋ฒ•์น™์— ์˜ํ•ด ์ž‘๋™ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค:
์—”ํŠธ๋กœํ”ผ์ฃ . ์—ด์—ญํ•™์˜ ๋‘๋ฒˆ์งธ ๊ณต์‹์ด์ฃ .
03:54
entropy, the second law of thermodynamics.
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03:57
Entropy means that everything in the world -- everything --
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์—”ํŠธ๋กœํ”ผ๋Š” ์„ธ์ƒ์˜ ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ์ด
04:00
is in a state of decline and decay --
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๊ฐ์†Œํ•˜๊ณ  ์‡ ํ‡ดํ•˜๋Š” ์ƒํƒœ์— ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์˜๋ฏธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์•„์น˜์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๋ง์ด์—์š”.
04:03
the arch.
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04:04
There's only one exception to this universal law,
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์ด ๋ณดํŽธ์  ๋ฒ•์น™์—๋Š” ํ•œ๊ฐ€์ง€ ์˜ˆ์™ธ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ์ธ๊ฐ„ ์˜ํ˜ผ์ด์ฃ .
04:08
and that is the human spirit,
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๊ณ„๋‹จ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๊ณ„์†ํ•ด์„œ
04:10
which can continue to evolve upwards, the staircase,
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์œ„๋กœ ์˜ฌ๋ผ๊ฐ‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค--
04:14
bringing us into wholeness, authenticity, and wisdom.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ์—๊ฒŒ ์ด์ฒด, ์ง„์‹ค์„ฑ, ์ง€ํ˜œ๋ฅผ
๊ฐ€์ ธ๋‹ค ์ฃผ๋ฉด์„œ ๋ง์ด์—์š”.
04:19
And here's an example of what I mean.
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์—ฌ๊ธฐ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋ฌด์—‡์„ ๋œปํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฑด์ง€์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ํ•œ ์˜ˆ๊ฐ€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์ด ์Šน์ฒœ์€
04:22
This upward ascension
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์‹ฌ์ง€์–ด๋Š” ๊ทน์‹ฌํ•œ ์œก์ฒด์  ๊ณ ํ†ต ์•ž์—์„œ๋„ ์ƒ๊ธธ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:24
can happen even in the face of extreme physical challenges.
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04:27
About three years ago, I read an article in the New York Times.
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ํ•œ 3๋…„์ „์—
์ €๋Š” ๋‰ด์š•ํƒ€์ž„์ฆˆ์˜ ํ•œ ๊ธฐ์‚ฌ๋ฅผ ์ฝ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋„ค์ผ ์…€๋ฆฐ์ €(Neil Selinger)๋ผ๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค--
04:32
It was about a man named Neil Selinger --
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57์„ธ๊ณ  ์€ํ‡ดํ•œ ๋ณ€ํ˜ธ์‚ฌ์ด์‹œ์ฃ .
04:34
57 years old, a retired lawyer,
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04:36
who had joined the writers' group at Sarah Lawrence,
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๊ทธ ๋ถ„์€ ์‚ฌ๋ผ ๋กœ๋Ÿฐ์Šค(Sarah Lawrence) ๋Œ€ํ•™ ์ž‘๊ฐ€ ๊ทธ๋ฃน์— ๋“ค์–ด๊ฐ€์…จ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:39
where he found his writer's voice.
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๊ทธ๊ณณ์—์„œ ๊ทธ์˜ ์ž‘๊ฐ€๋กœ์„œ์˜ ์†Œ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ์ฐพ์•˜๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:42
Two years later,
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2๋…„ํ›„
04:44
he was diagnosed with ALS, commonly known as Lou Gehrig's disease.
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๊ทธ๋Š” ๊ทผ์œ„์ถ•์„ฑ ์ธก์ƒ‰ ๊ฒฝํ™”์ฆ(ALS), ํ”ํžˆ ๋ฃจ๊ฒŒ๋ฆญ ๋ณ‘์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ์•Œ๋ ค์ ธ ์žˆ๋Š” ๋ณ‘์„ ์ง„๋‹จ๋ฐ›์•˜์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋”์ฐํ•œ ๋ณ‘์ด์ฃ . ์น˜๋ช…์ ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:48
It's a terrible disease. It's fatal.
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04:50
It wastes the body, but the mind remains intact.
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ชธ์„ ์†Œ๋ชจ์‹œํ‚ค์ง€๋งŒ ์ •์‹ ์—๋Š” ์†์ƒ์ด ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:54
In this article, Mr. Selinger wrote the following
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์ด ๊ธฐ์‚ฌ์—์„œ ์…€๋ฆฐ์ € ์”จ๋Š” ๋‹ค์Œ๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์ด ์ผ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ์—๊ฒŒ ์–ด๋–ค ์ผ์ด ์ƒ๊ฒจ๋‚˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š”์ง€๋ฅผ ๋ฌ˜์‚ฌํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ์š”.
04:58
to describe what was happening to him.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ €๋Š” ์ธ์šฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:01
And I quote:
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05:03
"As my muscles weakened,
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"๋‚ด ๊ทผ์œก์ด ์•ฝํ•ด์งˆ์ˆ˜๋ก
๋‚ด ๊ธ€์€ ๋” ๊ฐ•ํ•ด์กŒ๋‹ค.
05:06
my writing became stronger.
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05:08
As I slowly lost my speech,
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๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ์ ์ฐจ ๋ง์„ ์žƒ์–ด๊ฐˆ์ˆ˜๋ก
05:11
I gained my voice.
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๋‚˜๋Š” ๋‚ด ๋ชฉ์†Œ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ์–ป์–ด๊ฐ”๋‹ค.
05:14
As I diminished, I grew.
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๋‚˜๋Š” ์ž‘์•„์งˆ์ˆ˜๋ก ๋” ์„ฑ์žฅํ–ˆ๋‹ค.
๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๋งŽ์€ ๊ฒƒ์„ ์žƒ์„์ˆ˜๋ก
05:17
As I lost so much,
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๋‚˜๋Š” ์ ์ฐจ ๋‚ด ์ž์‹ ์„ ์ฐพ์•„๊ฐ€๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ–ˆ๋‹ค."
05:19
I finally started to find myself."
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์ œ๊ฒŒ ๋„ค์ผ ์…€๋ฆฐ์ €์”จ๋Š”
05:23
Neil Selinger, to me,
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05:24
is the embodiment of mounting the staircase
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๊ทธ์˜ ์ œ3๋ง‰ ์ธ์ƒ์—์„œ ์ธต๊ณ„๋ฅผ ์˜ฌ๋ผ๊ฐ€๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์˜
์ „ํ˜•์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:28
in his third act.
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05:30
Now we're all born with spirit, all of us,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๋ชจ๋‘๋Š” ์ด ์˜ํ˜ผ๊ณผ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ํƒœ์–ด๋‚ฌ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‚˜ ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋•Œ๋กœ
05:33
but sometimes it gets tamped down beneath the challenges of life,
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ํญ๋ ฅ, ๋‚จ์šฉ, ๋ฌด์‹œ์™€ ๊ฐ™์€
05:37
violence, abuse, neglect.
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์‚ถ์˜ ๊ณ ๋‚œ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ๊ตฌ๊ฒจ์ง€๊ธฐ๋„ ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:40
Perhaps our parents suffered from depression.
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์•„๋งˆ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๋ถ€๋ชจ๋‹˜๋“ค๋„ ์šฐ์šธํ•˜์…จ์„ ์ง€๋„ ๋ชจ๋ฆ…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์•„๋งˆ ๊ทธ๋ถ„๋“ค์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์ด ์„ธ์ƒ์„ ์–ผ๋งˆ๋‚˜ ์ž˜ ์‚ด์•„๊ฐ€๋Š”์ง€์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ ์ด์ƒ์œผ๋กœ
05:43
Perhaps they weren't able to love us beyond how we performed in the world.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ๋ž‘ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š์œผ์…จ์„ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์•„๋งˆ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ •์‹ ์  ๊ณ ํ†ต๊ณผ ์ƒ์ฒ˜๋กœ
05:49
Perhaps we still suffer from a psychic pain, a wound.
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์•„์ง๋„ ๊ณ ํ†ต๋ฐ›๊ณ  ์žˆ์„์ง€๋„ ๋ชจ๋ฆ…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์•„๋งˆ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๋งŽ์€ ๊ด€๊ณ„๊ฐ€ ์ œ๋Œ€๋กœ ๋งค๋“ญ์ง€์–ด์ง€์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋Š๋‚„ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:53
Perhaps we feel that many of our relationships
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05:55
have not had closure.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋ฏธ์™„์„ฑ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๋Š๋‚„ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋„๋ก ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
05:57
And so we can feel unfinished.
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06:00
Perhaps the task of the third act
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์•„๋งˆ ์ธ์ƒ ์ œ3๋ง‰์˜ ๋ชฉํ‘œ๋Š”
์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ์™„์„ฑ์‹œํ‚ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ผ์ง€๋„ ๋ชจ๋ฆ…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:04
is to finish up the task of finishing ourselves.
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06:08
For me, it began as I was approaching my third act, my 60th birthday.
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์ œ๊ฒ ์ œ 60์„ธ ์ƒ์ผ์„ ๋งž์œผ๋ฉด์„œ,
์ œ3๋ง‰์— ๋‹ค๊ฐ€๊ฐ€๋ฉด์„œ ์‹œ์ž‘๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:14
How was I supposed to live it?
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๋‚ด๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ์‚ด์•„๊ฐ€์•ผ๋˜์ง€?
06:16
What was I supposed to accomplish in this final act?
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์ด ๋งˆ์ง€๋ง‰ ๋ง‰์„ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ์™„์„ฑํ•ด์•ผ๋˜์ง€?
06:19
And I realized that, in order to know where I was going,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ €๋Š” ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋””๋กœ ๊ฐ€๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š”์ง€ ์•Œ๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„ 
06:23
I had to know where I'd been.
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋””์— ์žˆ์—ˆ๋Š”์ง€๋ฅผ ์•Œ์•„์•ผํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ €๋Š” ๊ณผ๊ฑฐ๋กœ ๋Œ์•„๊ฐ€
06:26
And so I went back and I studied my first two acts,
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์ œ ์ฒ˜์Œ 2๋ง‰์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๊ณต๋ถ€ํ•ด๋ดค์ฃ .
์ œ๊ฐ€ ๊ทธ๋•Œ๋Š” ์–ด๋–ค ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด์—ˆ๋Š”์ง€
06:30
trying to see who I was then,
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06:32
who I really was, not who my parents or other people told me I was,
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์ •๋ง ๋ˆ„๊ตฌ์˜€๋Š”์ง€ ์•Œ๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ์š”--
์ œ ๋ถ€๋ชจ๋‹˜๊ณผ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ์ €์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋งํ•œ ๊ฒƒ ๋ง๊ณ ์š”.
๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ์ €๋ฅผ ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ ๋ง๊ณ ์š”.
06:38
or treated me like I was.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋ˆ„๊ตฌ์˜€์„๊นŒ์š”? ์ œ ๋ถ€๋ชจ๋‹˜์€ ๋ˆ„๊ตฌ์˜€์„๊นŒ์š”--
06:40
But who was I?
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06:41
Who were my parents -- not as parents, but as people?
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๋ถ€๋ชจ๋กœ์„œ๊ฐ€ ์•„๋‹Œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์œผ๋กœ์„œ ๋ง์ด์—์š”.
์ œ ์ฆ์กฐ๋ถ€๋Š” ๋ˆ„๊ตฌ์˜€์„๊นŒ์š”?
06:45
Who were my grandparents?
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06:46
How did they treat my parents?
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๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ์ œ ๋ถ€๋ชจ๋‹˜์„ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋Œ€ํ•˜์…จ์„๊นŒ์š”?
06:48
These kinds of things.
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์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์„ ๋ง์ด์—์š”.
์ €๋Š” ๋ช‡๋…„์ด ์ง€๋‚œ ๋’ค ๋ฐœ๊ฒฌํ–ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:52
I discovered, a couple of years later,
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ํ•œ ์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ๊ณผ์ •์€
06:55
that this process that I had gone through
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์‹ฌ๋ฆฌํ•™์ž๋“ค์ด
06:58
is called by psychologists "doing a life review."
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"์ธ์ƒ ๋ณต์Šต"์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋ฅธ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„์š”.
07:01
And they say it can give new significance and clarity and meaning
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ์ด๊ฒƒ์ด ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์˜ ์ธ์ƒ์—
์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ์ค‘์š”์„ฑ, ๋ช…ํ™•์„ฑ๊ณผ ์˜๋ฏธ๋ฅผ
07:05
to a person's life.
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๋ถ€์—ฌํ•ด์ค€๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:07
You may discover, as I did,
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„๋„ ์ €์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๋ฐœ๊ฒฌํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:10
that a lot of things that you used to think were your fault,
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์ž˜๋ชป์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ–ˆ๋˜ ๋งŽ์€ ๊ฒƒ์ด
์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„ ์ž์‹ ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ด์™”๋˜ ๊ฒƒ์ด
07:14
a lot of things you used to think about yourself,
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์‚ฌ์‹ค์€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„๊ณผ ์•„๋ฌด ๊ด€๊ณ„๋„ ์—†๋‹ค๋Š” ์‚ฌ์‹ค ๋ง์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:17
really had nothing to do with you.
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ์ž˜๋ชป์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:20
It wasn't your fault; you're just fine.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์€ ๊ณผ๊ฑฐ๋กœ ๋Œ์•„๊ฐ€
07:23
And you're able to go back and forgive them.
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๊ทธ๋“ค์„ ์šฉ์„œํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์„๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์ž์‹ ์„ ์šฉ์„œํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์„๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:27
And forgive yourself.
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ๊ณผ๊ฑฐ๋กœ ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ
07:29
You're able to free yourself
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์ž์œ ๋กœ์›Œ์งˆ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:32
from your past.
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ๊ณผ๊ฑฐ์™€์˜
07:34
You can work to change your relationship to your past.
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๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋ฐ”๊ฟ€ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์ œ๊ฐ€ ์ด๊ฒƒ์„ ์ ์„ ๋™์•ˆ
07:38
Now while I was writing about this,
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์ €๋Š” ๋น…ํ† ๋ฅด ํ”„๋žญํด(Viktor Frankl)์˜ "์ธ๊ฐ„์˜ ์˜๋ฏธ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ํƒ๊ตฌ"
07:40
I came upon a book called "Man's Search for Meaning"
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๋ผ๋Š” ์ฑ…์ด ๋– ์˜ฌ๋ž์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:43
by Viktor Frankl.
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๋น…ํ† ๋ฅด ํ”„๋žญํด์€ ๋‚˜์น˜ ์ˆ˜์šฉ์†Œ์—์„œ 5๋…„์„ ์‚ฐ
07:45
Viktor Frankl was a German psychiatrist
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07:47
who'd spent five years in a Nazi concentration camp.
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๋…์ผ ์ •์‹ ๊ณผ ์˜์‚ฌ์˜€์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:50
And he wrote that, while he was in the camp,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋Š” ๊ทธ๊ฐ€ ์ˆ˜์šฉ์†Œ์— ์žˆ์„ ๋™์•ˆ
07:53
he could tell, should they ever be released,
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๋งŒ์•ฝ ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ํ•ด๋ฐฉ๋œ๋‹ค๋ฉด, ์–ด๋–ค ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ๊ดœ์ฐฎ์„ ๊ฒƒ์ด๊ณ 
07:57
which of the people would be OK, and which would not.
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์–ด๋–ค ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์€ ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ง€ ๋ชปํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ธ์ง€์—
๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ผ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋Š” ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ์ ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค:
08:02
And he wrote this:
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"๋‹น์‹ ์ด ์‚ถ์—์„œ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ์€ ์—†์–ด์งˆ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค.
08:07
"Everything you have in life can be taken from you
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๋‹จ ํ•œ๊ฐ€์ง€๋ฅผ ์ œ์™ธํ•˜๊ณ ์„œ.
08:10
except one thing:
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋‹น์‹ ์ด
08:12
your freedom to choose how you will respond to the situation.
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์ƒํ™ฉ์— ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ˜์‘ํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ธ๊ฐ€์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ
์ž์œ ์ด๋‹ค.
์ด๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ฐ”๋กœ
08:18
This is what determines the quality of the life we've lived --
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์‚ด์•„์™”๋˜ ์‚ถ์˜ ์งˆ์„ ๊ฒฐ์ •ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด๋‹ค.
08:21
not whether we've been rich or poor,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋ถ€์ž๋“  ๊ฑฐ์ง€๋“ 
์œ ๋ช…ํ•˜๋“  ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ง€ ์•Š๋“ 
08:24
famous or unknown,
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08:25
healthy or suffering.
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๊ฑด๊ฐ•ํ•˜๋“  ๊ณ ํ†ต๋ฐ›๋“  ๋ง์ด๋‹ค.
08:27
What determines our quality of life is how we relate to these realities,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์ธ์ƒ์˜ ์งˆ์„ ๊ฒฐ์ •ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€
์ด๋Ÿฌํ•œ ํ˜„์‹ค์— ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ˜์‘ํ•˜๋Š๋ƒ์ด๋‹ค.
08:33
what kind of meaning we assign them,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋–ค ์˜๋ฏธ๋ฅผ ๋ถ€์—ฌํ•˜๊ณ 
08:35
what kind of attitude we cling to about them,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋–ค ํƒœ๋„๋ฅผ ์ทจํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๊ณ 
์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋–ค ์ •์‹ ์œผ๋กœ ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์„ ๋ฐœ์ƒํ•˜๊ฒŒ ํ–ˆ๋Š”์ง€ ๋ง์ด๋‹ค."
08:39
what state of mind we allow them to trigger."
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์ œ3๋ง‰์˜ ์ค‘์‹ฌ ๋ชฉ์ ์€ ์•„๋งˆ
08:43
Perhaps the central purpose of the third act
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08:45
is to go back and to try, if appropriate,
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๊ณผ๊ฑฐ๋กœ ๋Œ์•„๊ฐ€ ๋…ธ๋ ฅํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ผ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:49
to change our relationship to the past.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ๊ณผ๊ฑฐ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ
๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋ณ€ํ™”์‹œํ‚ค๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ ๋ง์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:53
It turns out that cognitive research shows
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ํ•œ ์ธ์ง€ ์—ฐ๊ตฌ๋Š” ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์‹ค์ œ๋กœ
์ด๊ฒƒ์„ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๋ณด์—ฌ์ค๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:57
when we are able to do this,
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08:58
it manifests neurologically --
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์‹ ๊ฒฝํ•™์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋‚˜ํƒ€๋‚ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค--
09:01
neural pathways are created in the brain.
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๋‡Œ ์•ˆ์—์„œ ์‹ ๊ฒฝ ๊ฒฝ๋กœ๊ฐ€ ์ƒ๊ฒจ๋‚˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:04
You see, if you have, over time,
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๋งŒ์•ฝ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ์ง€๋‚œ ์‹œ๊ฐ„๋™์•ˆ
09:06
reacted negatively to past events and people,
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๊ณผ๊ฑฐ ์ผ๊ณผ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๋ถ€์ •์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋ฐ˜์‘ํ–ˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด,
์‹ ๊ฒฝ ๊ฒฝ๋กœ๋Š” ๋‡Œ์— ์˜ํ•œ
09:10
neural pathways are laid down
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09:12
by chemical and electrical signals that are sent through the brain.
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ํ™”ํ•™์ , ์ „๊ธฐ์  ์‹ ํ˜ธ๋กœ ์ •ํ•ด์ง„๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์‹œ๊ฐ„์ด ์ง€๋‚˜๋ฉด์„œ ์ด ์‹ ๊ฒฝ ๊ฒฝ๋กœ๋“ค์€ ๊ณ ์ •ํ™”๋œ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:16
And over time, these neural pathways become hardwired.
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๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ํ‘œ์ค€์ด ๋œ ๊ฒƒ์ด์ฃ --
09:19
They become the norm -- even if it's bad for us,
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์‹ฌ์ง€์–ด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์—๊ฒŒ ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€
09:22
because it causes us stress and anxiety.
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์ŠคํŠธ๋ ˆ์Šค์™€ ๊ฑฑ์ •์„ ์ผ์œผ์ผœ ์•ˆ์ข‹์€๋ฐ๋„ ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋งŒ์•ฝ
09:26
If, however,
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09:27
we can go back and alter our relationship,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๊ณผ๊ฑฐ๋กœ ๋Œ์•„๊ฐ€ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ๋ณ€ํ™”์‹œํ‚ฌ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด
09:31
re-vision our relationship to past people and events,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๊ณผ ์ผ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ
์ˆ˜์ •ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด
09:35
neural pathways can change.
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์‹ ๊ฒฝ ๊ฒฝ๋กœ๋Š” ๋ฐ”๋€” ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:37
And if we can maintain the more positive feelings
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋งŒ์•ฝ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€
๊ณผ๊ฑฐ์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๊ธ์ •์  ๋Š๋‚Œ์„ ์ง€๋‹ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด
09:41
about the past,
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09:42
that becomes the new norm.
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์ด ์ƒˆ๋กœ์šด ํ‘œ์ค€์ด ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:44
It's like resetting a thermostat.
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋งˆ์น˜ ์˜จ๋„ ์กฐ์ ˆ ์žฅ์น˜๋ฅผ ๋ฆฌ์…‹ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๊ณผ ๊ฐ™์ง€์š”.
์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ํ˜„๋ช…ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋Š”
09:48
It's not having experiences
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๊ฒฝํ—˜๋“ค์„ ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ผ
09:51
that makes us wise.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์—ฌํƒœ๊นŒ์ง€ ํ–ˆ๋˜ ๊ฒฝํ—˜๋“ค์„ ๋Œ์ด์ผœ ๋ด์„œ
09:54
It's reflecting on the experiences that we've had that makes us wise
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ํ˜„๋ช…ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค--
09:59
and that helps us become whole,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์™„์ „ํ•ด์ง€๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์ฃผ๊ณ 
10:01
brings wisdom and authenticity.
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์ง€ํ˜œ์™€ ์ง„์‹ค์„ฑ์„ ๊ฐ€์ ธ๋‹ค์ค๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:03
It helps us become what we might have been.
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋˜์—ˆ์„ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์„ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ๋˜๊ฒŒ ํ•ด์ค๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:07
Women start off whole, don't we?
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์—ฌ์„ฑ๋“ค์€ ์™„์ „์ฒด์—์„œ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•˜์ž–์•„์š”, ์•ˆ๊ทธ๋ž˜์š”?
10:09
I mean, as girls, we're feisty -- "Yeah? Who says?"
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์ œ ๋ง์€, ์†Œ๋…€์˜€์„๋• ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ํ˜ˆ๊ธฐ ์™•์„ฑํ•˜๋‹ค๊ณ ์š”. "๋งž์•„, ๋ˆ„๊ฐ€ ๊ทธ๋žฌ์ฃ ?"
10:12
(Laughter)
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์—์ด์ „์‹œ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:13
We have agency.
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10:14
We are the subjects of our own lives.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์‚ถ์˜ ์ฃผ์ฒด์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๋Œ€๊ฐœ๋Š”
10:17
But very often,
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10:18
many, if not most of us, when we hit puberty,
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๋งŽ์€ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด, ๋Œ€๋ถ€๋ถ„์€ ์•„๋‹ˆ๋”๋ผ๋„, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์‚ฌ์ถ˜๊ธฐ๊ฐ€ ๋˜๋ฉด
10:21
we start worrying about fitting in and being popular.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์–ด๋””์— ์†ํ•˜๊ณ  ์œ ๋ช…ํ•ด์ง€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ๊ฑฑ์ •ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:24
And we become the subjects and objects of other people's lives.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์˜ ์‚ถ์˜ ์ฃผ์ฒด์™€ ๊ฐ์ฒด๊ฐ€ ๋˜์ง€์š”.
ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ œ 3๋ง‰์—์„œ๋Š”
10:29
But now, in our third acts,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์‹œ์ž‘ํ–ˆ๋˜ ๊ทธ๊ณณ์œผ๋กœ
10:32
it may be possible for us to circle back to where we started,
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๋Œ์•„๊ฐ€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๊ฐ€๋Šฅํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณค ์ฒ˜์Œ์œผ๋กœ ์•„๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์ง€์š”.
10:37
and know it for the first time.
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๋งŒ์•ฝ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์„ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด
10:40
And if we can do that,
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10:41
it will not just be for ourselves.
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๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋งŒ์„ ์œ„ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:44
Older women are the largest demographic in the world.
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๋” ๋Š™์€ ์—ฌ์„ฑ๋“ค์€
์„ธ๊ณ„ ์ธ๊ตฌ์˜ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋งŽ์€ ๋ถ€๋ถ„์„ ์ฐจ์ง€ํ•˜์ง€์š”.
์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ๋งŒ์•ฝ ๊ณผ๊ฑฐ๋กœ ๋Œ์•„๊ฐ€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ์ž์‹ ์„ ๋‹ค์‹œ ์ •์˜ํ•˜๊ณ 
10:49
If we can go back and redefine ourselves
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์™„์ „์ฒด๊ฐ€ ๋œ๋‹ค๋ฉด,
10:52
and become whole,
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์„ธ๊ณ„์— ๋ฌธํ™”์  ๋ณ€ํ™”๋ฅผ ๋งŒ๋“ค์–ด๋‚ผ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:54
this will create a cultural shift in the world,
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10:58
and it will give an example to younger generations
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ๋” ์ Š์€ ์„ธ๋Œ€์—๊ฒŒ ๋ชจ๋ฒ”์ด ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋“ค๋„ ๊ทธ๋“ค ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์ธ์ƒ์„ ๋Œ์•„๋ณผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๊ฒŒ ๋ง์ด์ฃ .
11:02
so that they can reconceive their own lifespan.
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11:04
Thank you very much.
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๊ฐ์‚ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
11:06
(Applause)
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์ด ์›น์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ ์ •๋ณด

์ด ์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ํ•™์Šต์— ์œ ์šฉํ•œ YouTube ๋™์˜์ƒ์„ ์†Œ๊ฐœํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ „ ์„ธ๊ณ„ ์ตœ๊ณ ์˜ ์„ ์ƒ๋‹˜๋“ค์ด ๊ฐ€๋ฅด์น˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ˆ˜์—…์„ ๋ณด๊ฒŒ ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ ๋™์˜์ƒ ํŽ˜์ด์ง€์— ํ‘œ์‹œ๋˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ” ํด๋ฆญํ•˜๋ฉด ๊ทธ๊ณณ์—์„œ ๋™์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋น„๋””์˜ค ์žฌ์ƒ์— ๋งž์ถฐ ์ž๋ง‰์ด ์Šคํฌ๋กค๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜๊ฒฌ์ด๋‚˜ ์š”์ฒญ์ด ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ์ด ๋ฌธ์˜ ์–‘์‹์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์—ฌ ๋ฌธ์˜ํ•˜์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค.

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