Let's try emotional correctness | Sally Kohn

Prevodilac: Mile Živković Lektor: Dejan Vicai

So when I do my job, people hate me.

Kada radim svoj posao, ljudi me mrze,

In fact, the better I do my job,

Zapravo, što bolje radim svoj posao,

the more people hate me.

to me ljudi više mrze.

Ne, ne naplaćujem parking

And no, I'm not a meter maid,

i nisam pogrebnik.

and I'm not an undertaker.

Ja sam progresivna lezbejka i voditelj sam

I am a progressive, lesbian talking head on Fox News.

na Foks vestima. (Aplauz)

(Applause)

So y'all heard that, right? Just to make sure, right?

Onda, čuli ste to? Samo da proverim.

I am a gay talking head on Fox News.

Ja sam gej vodtelj za Foks vesti.

I am going to tell you how I do it,

Reći ću vam kako to izvodim

and the most important thing I've learned.

i šta je najvažnija stvar koju sam naučila.

So I go on television.

Odlazim na televiziju.

I debate people who literally want to obliterate everything I believe in --

Raspravljam se s ljudima koji bukvalno žele da unište

sve u šta verujem, u nekim slučajevima

in some cases, who don't want me and people like me to even exist.

sa onima koji čak ne žele da ja i ljudi poput mene postojimo.

It's sort of like Thanksgiving with your conservative uncle

To je nešto poput Dana zahvalnosti sa vašim konzervativnim stricem

ali još gore,

on steroids,

with a live television audience of millions.

sa milionskom televizijskom publikom.

It's totally almost just like that.

Skroz je skoro poput toga.

And that's just on air.

A to je samo ono što se emituje.

The hate mail I get is unbelievable.

Poruke mržnje koje dobijam su neverovatne.

Last week alone, I got 238 pieces of nasty email

Samo prošle nedelje dobila sam 238 gadna mejla

and more hate tweets than I can even count.

i više tvitova mržnje nego što mogu da izbrojim.

I was called an idiot, a traitor, a scourge,

Zvali su me idiotom, izdajicom i pošasti,

a cunt and an ugly man,

pizdom, ružnim čovekom,

and that was just in one email.

a to je samo iz jednog mejla.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

So what have I realized,

Šta sam to shvatila,

being on the receiving end of all this ugliness?

kao primalac ove silne ružnoće?

Well, my biggest takeaway

Najveća pouka je to da smo se decenijama

is that for decades, we've been focused on political correctness,

fokusirali na političku korektnost

but what matters more is emotional correctness.

ali ono što je bitnije je emotivna korektnost.

Let me give you a small example.

Evo malog primera.

I don't care if you call me a dyke. I really don't.

Baš me je briga ako me nazovete lezbačom. Zaista.

I care about two things.

Stalo mi je do dve stvari.

Prvo, bitno mi je da znate to da napišete.

One, I care that you spell it right.

(Laughter) (Applause)

(Smeh) (Aplauz)

Just quick refresher, it's D-Y-K-E.

Samo da se podsetimo, to je D-Y-K-E.

You'd totally be surprised.

Skroz biste se iznenadili.

And second, I don't care about the word, I care about how you use it.

Drugo, baš me je briga za reč,

stalo mi je do toga kako je koristite.

Are you being friendly? Are you just being naive?

Da li ste prijateljski nastrojeni? Ili samo naivni?

Or do you really want to hurt me personally?

Ili zaista želite da me lično povredite?

Emotional correctness is the tone, the feeling,

Emotivna korektnost je ton, osećaj,

how we say what we say,

kako kažemo nešto,

the respect and compassion we show one another.

poštovanje i saosećanje koje ukazujemo jedni drugima.

And what I've realized is that political persuasion

I shvatila sam da političko ubeđivanje

doesn't begin with ideas or facts or data.

ne počinje idejama, činjenicama ili podacima.

Political persuasion begins with being emotionally correct.

Političko ubeđivanje počinje emotivnom korektnošću.

So when I first went to go work at Fox News,

Kada sam prvi put otišla na posao na Foks vestima,

true confession,

ovo je istinita ispovest,

I expected there to be marks in the carpet

očekivala sam da će na tepisima biti tragovi

from all the knuckle-dragging.

od zaostalog načina na koji tamo hodaju.

That, by the way, in case you're paying attention, is not emotionally correct.

Za slučaj da obraćate pažnju, to nije emotivno korektno.

But liberals on my side,

Ali kao liberali na mojoj strani,

we can be self-righteous, we can be condescending,

možemo biti licemerni, snishodljivi,

we can be dismissive of anyone who doesn't agree with us.

prezrivi prema svakome ko se ne slaže sa nama.

In other words, we can be politically right

Drugim rečima, politički možemo biti u pravu

but emotionally wrong.

ali emotivno grešiti.

Slučajno, to znači

And incidentally, that means that people don't like us. Right?

da nas ljudi ne vole. Zar ne?

A evo i fore.

Now here's the kicker.

Konzervativci su zaista fini.

Conservatives are really nice.

I mean, not all of them,

Mislim, ne baš svi

i ne oni koji mi šalju mejlove pune mržnje,

and not the ones who send me hate mail,

but you would be surprised.

ali iznenadili biste se.

Sean Hannity is one of the sweetest guys I've ever met.

Šon Heniti je jedan od najfinijih momaka

koje sam ikada upoznala.

He spends his free time trying to fix up his staff on blind dates,

Svoje slobodno vreme provodi

tako što svom osoblju pokušava da ugovori slepe sastanke

i znam da ako bi ikada imala problem,

and I know that if I ever had a problem,

on bi uradio sve da pomogne.

he would do anything he could to help.

Now, I think Sean Hannity is 99 percent politically wrong,

Mislim da Šon Heniti

99% politički greši,

ali je njegova emotivna korektnost izuzetno impresivna

but his emotional correctness is strikingly impressive.

And that's why people listen to him.

i ljudi ga zbog toga slušaju.

Because you can't get anyone to agree with you

Jer ne možete naterati nekoga da se slaže sa vama

ako vas prvo ne posluša.

if they don't even listen to you first.

We spend so much time talking past each other

Toliko vremena provodimo pričajući o naizgled istim temama,

and not enough time talking through our disagreements.

a nedovoljno vremena diskutujući svoje nesporazume

And if we can start to find compassion for one another,

a ako počnemo da nalazimo saosećanje jedni za druge

then we have a shot at building common ground.

onda imamo šanse za zajedničke osnove.

It actually sounds really hokey to say it standing up here,

Zvuči luckasto

kada to kažem odavde,

but when you try to put it in practice,

ali kada pokušate da to stavite u praksu,

it's really powerful.

zaista je moćno.

So someone who says they hate immigrants,

Za nekoga ko kaže da mrzi imigrante,

I try to imagine how scared they must be

pokušam da zamislim koliko mora da se plaše

that their community is changing from what they've always known.

zato što se njihova zajednica menja i postaje drugačija.

Or someone who says they don't like teachers' unions,

Ili neko ko kaže da ne voli sindikate prosvetnih radnika,

I bet they're really devastated to see their kid's school going into the gutter,

sigurno ih razara dok gledaju

da škola njihovog deteta srlja u propast

i potreban im je krivac.

and they're just looking for someone to blame.

Our challenge is to find the compassion for others

Naš izazov je da nađemo saosećanje prema drugima

koje želimo da osećaju prema nama.

that we want them to have for us.

That is emotional correctness.

To je emotivna korektnost.

I'm not saying it's easy.

Ne kažem da je lako.

An average of, like, 5.6 times per day

U proseku 5,6 puta dnevno

I have to stop myself from responding to all of my hate mail

moram da se zaustavim da ne odgovorim

na sve mejlove mržnje buljukom zlih psovki.

with a flurry of vile profanities.

This whole finding compassion and common ground with your enemies thing

Svo ovo pronalaženje saosećanja

i zajedničke osnove sa neprijateljima

is kind of like a political-spiritual practice for me,

je za mene neka vrsta političko-duhovne prakse

and I ain't the Dalai Lama.

a ja nisam Dalaj Lama.

I'm not perfect, but what I am is optimistic.

Nisam savršena ali sam optimistična

Because I don't just get hate mail.

jer ne dobijam samo mejlove mržnje.

I get a lot of really nice letters, lots of them.

Dobijam i dosta lepih pisama.

Jedno od mojih omiljenih počinje sa:

And one of my all-time favorites begins:

"I am not a big fan of your political leanings

"Nisam veliki obožavatelj tvojih političkih uverenja

or your sometimes tortured logic,

ili tvoje ponekad mučne logike,

(Laughter)

ali obožavam tebe kao osobu."

but I'm a big fan of you as a person."

Now this guy doesn't agree with me -- yet.

Ovaj tip se još uvek ne slaže sa mnom.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

But he's listening --

Ali sluša, ne zbog toga šta sam rekla,

not because of what I said, but because of how I said it.

već zbog načina na koji sam to rekla

i nekako, iako se nikada nismo upoznali,

And somehow, even though we've never met, we've managed to form a connection.

uspeli smo da se povežemo.

To je emotivna korektnost

That's emotional correctness,

and that's how we start the conversations

i tako započinjemo razgovore

koji zaista vode do promene.

that really lead to change.

Thank you.

Hvala vam.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)