Let's try emotional correctness | Sally Kohn

譯者: E Fan 審譯者: NAN-KUN WU

So when I do my job, people hate me.

工作上，大家討厭我

In fact, the better I do my job,

事實上，我把我的工作做得越好

the more people hate me.

越多的人討厭我

我也不是取締違規的女警

And no, I'm not a meter maid,

我也不是殯葬業者

and I'm not an undertaker.

我是一個積極進取的女同志

I am a progressive, lesbian talking head on Fox News.

常常在Fox News上發表評論(掌聲)

(Applause)

So y'all heard that, right? Just to make sure, right?

你們都聽到了吧? 我只是想確認一下 對吧?

I am a gay talking head on Fox News.

我是一個在Fox News 常常發表評論的女同志

I am going to tell you how I do it,

我會告訴大家我怎麼做到的

and the most important thing I've learned.

和我所學到最重要的事

So I go on television.

所以我上電視

I debate people who literally want to obliterate everything I believe in --

我和那些簡直要磨沒

我所有堅信的事物，有時，

in some cases, who don't want me and people like me to even exist.

甚至是不希望不喜歡我存在的人辯論

It's sort of like Thanksgiving with your conservative uncle

那就像是感恩節和你保守的叔叔

在爭論

on steroids,

with a live television audience of millions.

外加數十萬的現場電視觀眾

It's totally almost just like that.

就像那個樣子

And that's just on air.

在剛剛開播的時候

The hate mail I get is unbelievable.

我收到的仇視郵件已經讓人難以置信

Last week alone, I got 238 pieces of nasty email

僅僅上週，我收到了238封骯髒的郵件

and more hate tweets than I can even count.

更多的數不清的推特

I was called an idiot, a traitor, a scourge,

我被稱為傻瓜、叛徒、禍害、

a cunt and an ugly man,

騙子、醜惡的人

and that was just in one email.

僅僅在一封郵件裡

(Laughter)

（笑）

So what have I realized,

所以我意識到

being on the receiving end of all this ugliness?

作為這些醜惡的最終接受者

Well, my biggest takeaway

我最大的收穫在於，幾十年來

is that for decades, we've been focused on political correctness,

我們一直關注與政治正確

but what matters more is emotional correctness.

但是真正關鍵的是感情正確

Let me give you a small example.

讓我舉一個小例子

I don't care if you call me a dyke. I really don't.

我不介意你稱呼我女同性戀。我真的不在乎。

I care about two things.

我在乎兩個事情。

其一，我在乎你正確的拼寫了它。

One, I care that you spell it right.

(Laughter) (Applause)

（笑）（鼓掌）

Just quick refresher, it's D-Y-K-E.

快速複習，是D-Y-K-E。

You'd totally be surprised.

你會完全吃驚的。

And second, I don't care about the word, I care about how you use it.

其二，我不在乎這個詞，

我在乎你怎麼運用它。

Are you being friendly? Are you just being naive?

你是表現友善嗎？你只是天真嗎？

Or do you really want to hurt me personally?

亦或，你真的希望傷害我的個人感情？

Emotional correctness is the tone, the feeling,

情感正確是那種語氣，感覺，

how we say what we say,

我們如何表達我們的語言

the respect and compassion we show one another.

我們互相表現的尊敬和同情

And what I've realized is that political persuasion

我發現政治說服力

doesn't begin with ideas or facts or data.

並不起源於想法或事實或數據

Political persuasion begins with being emotionally correct.

政治說服力開始於正確的情感

So when I first went to go work at Fox News,

所以，當我第一次在Fox News工作，

true confession,

真心的懺悔

I expected there to be marks in the carpet

我期望地毯上會有暗號

from all the knuckle-dragging.

在總多環環相扣的圖案裏

That, by the way, in case you're paying attention, is not emotionally correct.

那，順便說，期望引起你的注意 不是感情正確的

But liberals on my side,

但是自由主義者是站在我這邊的

we can be self-righteous, we can be condescending,

我們可以自以為是，我們可以自滿

we can be dismissive of anyone who doesn't agree with us.

我們可以忽略其他不認可我們的人

In other words, we can be politically right

換言之，我們可以是政治正確的

but emotionally wrong.

但是感情錯誤的

順帶的，那意味著

And incidentally, that means that people don't like us. Right?

人們不喜歡我們。是不是？

現在，踢場者來了

Now here's the kicker.

保守主義者真的很友善

Conservatives are really nice.

I mean, not all of them,

我的意思是，不是他們的所有人

不是發送給我仇恨郵件的人

and not the ones who send me hate mail,

but you would be surprised.

你會驚訝的

Sean Hannity is one of the sweetest guys I've ever met.

Sean Hannity是我見過的

最貼心的人之一

He spends his free time trying to fix up his staff on blind dates,

他用他業餘時間

嘗試安排相親

而且我知道如果我有問題

and I know that if I ever had a problem,

他會盡其所能幫助我

he would do anything he could to help.

Now, I think Sean Hannity is 99 percent politically wrong,

現在，我認為Sean Hannity是

百分之九十九政治錯誤的

但是他的感情正確，讓人印象深刻

but his emotional correctness is strikingly impressive.

And that's why people listen to him.

這就是為甚麼人民聽從他

Because you can't get anyone to agree with you

因為你不會讓任何人認可你

如果他們事先沒有傾聽你的想法

if they don't even listen to you first.

We spend so much time talking past each other

我們花費了如此多的時間談論過去

and not enough time talking through our disagreements.

不足的時間談論我們的分歧

And if we can start to find compassion for one another,

如果我們開始尋找相互憐憫

then we have a shot at building common ground.

我們就能成功建立共識

It actually sounds really hokey to say it standing up here,

雖然聽起來很做作

我只是站在這裡布教

but when you try to put it in practice,

但是當你嘗試將它實踐

it's really powerful.

它充滿了力量

So someone who says they hate immigrants,

所以有人說他憎恨移民們

I try to imagine how scared they must be

我嘗試想像他們一定有多麼恐懼

that their community is changing from what they've always known.

他們的社區正在改變，早已不是曾經相識的樣子

Or someone who says they don't like teachers' unions,

或者，有人說他們不喜歡教師工會

I bet they're really devastated to see their kid's school going into the gutter,

我敢說，他們絕對會絕望的看到

他們孩子的學校逐漸變成貧民窟

他們只是尋找一個可以責怪的人

and they're just looking for someone to blame.

Our challenge is to find the compassion for others

我們的挑戰在於 找到對他人的同情心

我們同樣渴望從別人得到

that we want them to have for us.

That is emotional correctness.

那就是感情正確

I'm not saying it's easy.

我不是說那很簡單

An average of, like, 5.6 times per day

平均大概每天5.6次

I have to stop myself from responding to all of my hate mail

我不得不停下來回復

所有收到的充滿低劣語言的憎惡郵件。

with a flurry of vile profanities.

This whole finding compassion and common ground with your enemies thing

所有這些尋找同情

與敵人的共識的事情

is kind of like a political-spiritual practice for me,

對我像是一種政治精神練習

and I ain't the Dalai Lama.

而且我不是Dalai Lama

I'm not perfect, but what I am is optimistic.

我並不完美，但是我是樂觀的

Because I don't just get hate mail.

因為我不只收到憎惡郵件

I get a lot of really nice letters, lots of them.

我收到了很多極其美好的信，真的很多

我一直以來最愛的一封信，這樣說道

And one of my all-time favorites begins:

"I am not a big fan of your political leanings

“我不是你政治學的超級粉絲

or your sometimes tortured logic,

或者有時你的歪曲邏輯，

(Laughter)

但是我是你個人的超級粉絲。“

but I'm a big fan of you as a person."

Now this guy doesn't agree with me -- yet.

雖然這個人現在不贊成我

(Laughter)

（笑）

But he's listening --

但是他在傾聽，不是因為我說了什麼

not because of what I said, but because of how I said it.

而是因為我是如何表達的

而且，無論如何，儘管我們從沒相見

And somehow, even though we've never met, we've managed to form a connection.

我們成功的建立了一種聯繫

那就是感情正確

That's emotional correctness,

and that's how we start the conversations

那就是我們如何開始一種交流

引領著變革

that really lead to change.

Thank you.

謝謝

(Applause)

（鼓掌）