Let's try emotional correctness | Sally Kohn

Translator: Jone Aliri Lazcano Reviewer: Jon del Olmo

So when I do my job, people hate me.

Nire lana egiten dudanean, jendeak gorrotatu egiten nau.

In fact, the better I do my job,

Egia esan, nire lana gero eta hobe egin,

the more people hate me.

jendeak gero eta gehiago gorrotatzen nau.

Eta ez, ez naiz trafiko polizia

And no, I'm not a meter maid,

ez eta ehorztetxe bateko langilea ere.

and I'm not an undertaker.

Lesbiana eta aurrerakoia den aurkezle bat naiz.

I am a progressive, lesbian talking head on Fox News.

Fox News-eko aurkezlea. (Txaloak)

(Applause)

So y'all heard that, right? Just to make sure, right?

Beraz entzun duzue, ezta? Ziur egoteko, bai?

I am a gay talking head on Fox News.

Fox News-eko aurkezle gay bat naiz.

I am going to tell you how I do it,

Hau nola egiten dudan azalduko dizuet,

and the most important thing I've learned.

baita ikasi dudan garrantzitsuena zer den ere.

So I go on television.

Beraz telebistara joaten naiz.

I debate people who literally want to obliterate everything I believe in --

Sinisten dudan guztia literalki suntsitu nahi duten

pertsonekin eztabaidatzen dut, zenbait kasutan

in some cases, who don't want me and people like me to even exist.

ni bezalako pertsonak egotea ere nahi ez duten pertsonekin.

It's sort of like Thanksgiving with your conservative uncle

Osaba kontserbadorearekin "Acción de gracias" antzeko bat da

esteroideekin,

on steroids,

with a live television audience of millions.

milioietako audientzia batekin, zuzenean eta telebistaz.

It's totally almost just like that.

Ia-ia horixe da.

And that's just on air.

Eta hori zuzenean nagoenean besterik ez da.

The hate mail I get is unbelievable.

Jasotzen ditudan gorrotozko mezuak sinistezinak dira.

Last week alone, I got 238 pieces of nasty email

Oso hurrun joan gabe, pasa den astean 238 mezu elektroniko ezatsegin bidali zizkidaten,

and more hate tweets than I can even count.

eta kontatu ezin diren adina tweet.

I was called an idiot, a traitor, a scourge,

Tentela, traidorea,

a cunt and an ugly man,

zakurra eta gizon itsusia deitu didate.

and that was just in one email.

Eta guzti hori mezu bakar batean.

(Laughter)

(Barreak)

So what have I realized,

Gauza itsusi horiek guztiak

being on the receiving end of all this ugliness?

jasotzean zertaz ohartu naizen?

Well, my biggest takeaway

Beno, ondorio garrantzitsuena hau izan da, hamarkadetan zehar,

is that for decades, we've been focused on political correctness,

zuzentasun politikoan ipini dugu arreta,

but what matters more is emotional correctness.

baina garrantzitsuena zuzentasun emozionala da.

Let me give you a small example.

Utz iezadazue adibide bat ipintzen.

I don't care if you call me a dyke. I really don't.

Ez dit axola "tortillera" deitzen badidate.

I care about two things.

Baina badira bi gauza axola zaizkidanak.

Alde batetik hitz hori zuzen idaztea

One, I care that you spell it right.

(Laughter) (Applause)

(Barreak)(Txaloak)

Just quick refresher, it's D-Y-K-E.

"Tortillera" "ll"-rekin eta ez "y"-rekin.

You'd totally be surprised.

Hatrritu egingo zinatekete.

And second, I don't care about the word, I care about how you use it.

Eta bestetik, ez dit hitzak axola,

hitza erabiltzeko moduak axola dit.

Are you being friendly? Are you just being naive?

Atsegina izaten ari da? Besterik gabe inozoa da?

Or do you really want to hurt me personally?

Edo benetan min egin nahi dit?

Emotional correctness is the tone, the feeling,

Zuzentasun emozionala tonua da, sentimendua,

how we say what we say,

esaten duguna esaten dugun modua,

the respect and compassion we show one another.

elkarri erakusten diogun errespetua eta errukia.

And what I've realized is that political persuasion

Eta hontaz ohartu naiz: persuasio, konbentzitze politikoa

doesn't begin with ideas or facts or data.

ez da ideiekin, datuekin edo ekintzekin hasten.

Political persuasion begins with being emotionally correct.

Persuasio politikoa emozionalki zuzena izatearekin hasten da.

So when I first went to go work at Fox News,

Beraz lehendabizikoz Fox News-era lanera joan nintzenean,

true confession,

benetan diotsuet,

I expected there to be marks in the carpet

alfonbran kobazueloetako gizonen markak

from all the knuckle-dragging.

egongo zirela imajinatzen nuen.

That, by the way, in case you're paying attention, is not emotionally correct.

Bide batez esan behar dut, arretaz jarraitzen ari bazarete, hori ez da emozionalki zuzena.

But liberals on my side,

Baina nire aldeko liberalak,

we can be self-righteous, we can be condescending,

moralistak, amore-emaileak,

we can be dismissive of anyone who doesn't agree with us.

gurekin ados ez daudenekiko mespretxuzkoak izan gaitezke.

In other words, we can be politically right

Beste hitz batzuekin esanda, politikoki zuzenak

but emotionally wrong.

baina emozionalki okerrak izan gaitezke.

Eta horrek zera esan nahi du

And incidentally, that means that people don't like us. Right?

jendeari ez gatzaizkiola atsegin, ez?

Eta hau da benetan harrigarriena.

Now here's the kicker.

Kontserbadoreak benetan atseginak direla.

Conservatives are really nice.

I mean, not all of them,

Beno, guztiak ez,

eta ez gorrotoz betetako mezuak bidaltzen dituztenak,

and not the ones who send me hate mail,

but you would be surprised.

baina harritu egingo zinatekete.

Sean Hannity is one of the sweetest guys I've ever met.

Sean Hannity ezagutu dudan pertsonarik gozoenetako

bat da.

He spends his free time trying to fix up his staff on blind dates,

Bere denbora librea

bere lankideak "zita itsu" bidez elkartzen pasatzen du,

eta badakit noizbait arazoren bat izango banu,

and I know that if I ever had a problem,

berak ahal lukeen guztia egingo lukeela laguntzeko.

he would do anything he could to help.

Now, I think Sean Hannity is 99 percent politically wrong,

Hala ere, uste dut Sean Hannity

%99an politikoki oker dagoela.

Baina bere zuzentasun emozionala benetan harrigarria da,

but his emotional correctness is strikingly impressive.

And that's why people listen to him.

eta horregatik jendeak entzun egiten dio.

Because you can't get anyone to agree with you

Inork ez baitu lortutako besteak bere iritziekin bat etortzea

lehendabizi entzuten ez badiote.

if they don't even listen to you first.

We spend so much time talking past each other

Hitz egiten baina elkar ulertu gabe denbora asko pasatzen dugu

and not enough time talking through our disagreements.

eta ez dugu behar bezainbeste denbora pasatzen gure desadostasunei buruz hitz egiten,

And if we can start to find compassion for one another,

eta bestearekiko errukia izaten hasten bagara,

then we have a shot at building common ground.

orduan izango dugu elkarrekin oinarri bat eraikitzeko aukera.

It actually sounds really hokey to say it standing up here,

Egiaz benetan "kursi"-a dirudi

hemen hori esateak,

but when you try to put it in practice,

baina praktikan jartzen saiatzean,

it's really powerful.

indar handia du.

So someone who says they hate immigrants,

Honela, norbaitek kanpotarrak gorroto dituela badio,

I try to imagine how scared they must be

bere komunitatea beti izan denetik aldatzen ari dela konturatuta

that their community is changing from what they've always known.

zer nolako beldurra sentitzen duen imajinatzen saiatzen naiz.

Or someone who says they don't like teachers' unions,

Edo norbaitek irakasleen sindikatuak gogoko ez dituela dionean,

I bet they're really devastated to see their kid's school going into the gutter,

apustu beraien seme-alaben eskolak pikutara

doazela ikusteaz atsekabetuta daudela,

eta errudunak bilaka besterik ez direla ari.

and they're just looking for someone to blame.

Our challenge is to find the compassion for others

Gure erronka besteekiko errukia aurkitzea da,

guri ematea nahi dugun hori aurkitzea.

that we want them to have for us.

That is emotional correctness.

Hori da zuzentasun emozionala.

I'm not saying it's easy.

Ez diot erraza denik.

An average of, like, 5.6 times per day

Batazbeste egunean 5.6 aldiz

I have to stop myself from responding to all of my hate mail

irain itsusiz betetako nire mezuei

ez erantzuteko ahalegina egin behar dut.

with a flurry of vile profanities.

This whole finding compassion and common ground with your enemies thing

Nire aurkariekiko errukia eta

eurekin puntu amankomunak aurkitze hori

is kind of like a political-spiritual practice for me,

praktika politiko-espiritual bat da niretzat,

and I ain't the Dalai Lama.

eta ez naiz Dalai Lama.

I'm not perfect, but what I am is optimistic.

Ez naiz perfektua, baina optimista banaiz,

Because I don't just get hate mail.

gorrotoz betetako mezuak soilik jasotzen ez ditudalako.

I get a lot of really nice letters, lots of them.

Oso atseginak diren mezu mordoa ere jasotzen ditut.

Eta denbora luzez nire gustokoenetako bat izandako horrela hasten da:

And one of my all-time favorites begins:

"I am not a big fan of your political leanings

"Ez naiz zure ideia politikoen jarraitzaile handi bat,

or your sometimes tortured logic,

ez eta zure logika batzuetan maltzurraren jarraitzailea ere,

(Laughter)

baina zu pertsona bezala zarenaren jarraitzaile handi bat nahiz".

but I'm a big fan of you as a person."

Now this guy doesn't agree with me -- yet.

Hala ere gizon hau ez dago nirekin ados, oraindik.

(Laughter)

(Barreak)

But he's listening --

Baina nik esaten dudana entzuten du, ez diodanagatik,

not because of what I said, but because of how I said it.

esaten dudan moduagatik baizik,

eta nolabait, inoiz elkar ezagutu ez dugun arren,

And somehow, even though we've never met, we've managed to form a connection.

lotura bat eraiki dugu.

Hori da zuzentasun emozionala,

That's emotional correctness,

and that's how we start the conversations

eta horrela hasten dira benetako eraldaketa

lortuko duten elkarrizketak.

that really lead to change.

Thank you.

Mila esker.

(Applause)

(Txaloak)