Drew Dudley: Everyday leadership

Translator: Joseph Geni Reviewer: Morton Bast

Prevodilac: Mile Živković Lektor: Tatjana Jevdjic

I wanted to just start by asking everyone a question:

Hteo sam da počnem tako što ću vas sve upitati:

How many of you are completely comfortable

koliko vas može potpuno komotno

sebe nazvati vođom?

with calling yourselves a leader?

I've asked that question all across the country,

Vidite, postavljam ovo pitanje širom zemlje

and everywhere I ask it, no matter where,

i gde god da ga postavim,

there's a huge portion of the audience that won't put up their hand.

postoji jedan ogroman deo publike koji ne želi da podigne ruku.

Tako sam shvatio da smo od liderstva napravili

And I've come to realize that we have made leadership

nešto veće od nas samih.

into something bigger than us; something beyond us.

Pretvorili smo to u nešto što nas prevazilazi.

We've made it about changing the world.

Muslim da je to menjanje sveta.

We've taken this title of "leader"

Ovu titulu smatramo

and treat it as something that one day we're going to deserve.

kao nešto što ćemo jednog dana zaslužiti,

But to give it to ourselves right now

jer dati je samom sebi ovog trenutka

means a level of arrogance or cockiness that we're not comfortable with.

znači određeni nivo arogancije i šepurenja pri kom nam nije ugodno.

And I worry sometimes that we spend so much time

I ponekad brinem da provodimo toliko vremena

slaveći neverovatne stvari koje jedva da neko može da uradi,

celebrating amazing things that hardly anybody can do,

that we've convinced ourselves those are the only things worth celebrating.

da smo uverili sebe da su to jedine stvari vredne slavljenja.

We start to devalue the things we can do every day,

I počinjemo da obezvređujemo stvari koje možemo da uradimo svakog dana.

We take moments where we truly are a leader

I počinjemo da previđamo trenutke u kojima postupamo kao istinski vođa

and we don't let ourselves take credit for it, or feel good about it.

i ne odajemo sebi priznanje za to

I've been lucky enough over the last 10 years

i ne osećamo se dobro zbog toga.

Imao sam dovoljno sreće da u poslednjih 10 godina

to work with amazing people who've helped me redefine leadership

radim sa nekim neverovatnim ljudima

in a way that I think has made me happier.

koji su mi pomogli da redefinišem liderstvo na način

With my short time today,

I want to share with you the one story that is probably most responsible

koji me je učinio srećnijim.

Želim da sa vama podelim jednu priču

koja je verovatno najzaslužnija za ovo redefinisanje.

for that redefinition.

I went to a little school

Išao sam u jednu malu školu koja se zvala

called Mount Allison University in Sackville, New Brunswick.

Univerzitet Maunt Alison, u Sekvilu, u Nju Brunsviku,

And on my last day there, a girl came up to me and said,

i mog poslednjeg dana tamo, jedna devojka mi je prišla

"I remember the first time I met you."

i rekla: "Sećam se našeg prvog susreta.''

And she told me a story that had happened four years earlier.

A zatim mi je ispričala o događaju četiri godine pre toga.

She said, "On the day before I started university,

Rekla mi je: "Dan pre nego što sam upisala fakultet,

I was in the hotel room with my mom and dad,

bila sam u hotelskoj sobi sa majkom i ocem,

and I was so scared and so convinced that I couldn't do this,

i bila sam tako uplašena i ubeđena da to nije za mene,

that I wasn't ready for university, that I just burst into tears.

da nisam bila spremna za fakultet, da sam briznula u plač.

My mom and dad were amazing.

A moji roditelji su bili neverovatni. Rekli su mi:

They were like, "We know you're scared, but let's just go tomorrow,

"Znamo da si uplašena, ali hajde da samo odemo tamo sutra,

go to the first day, and if at any point you feel as if you can't do this,

da odemo na prvi dan, i ako u bilo kom trenutku

that's fine; tell us, and we'll take you home.

osetiš da ti to ne možeš, u redu je, samo nam reci i odvešćemo te kući.

We love you no matter what.'"

Volimo te bez obzira na sve."

She says, "So I went the next day.

I was in line for registration,

I rekla je: "Otišla sam sledećeg dana, i stajala u redu za upis,

and I looked around and just knew I couldn't do it; I wasn't ready.

pogledala sam oko sebe i shvatila da ja to ne mogu.

I knew I had to quit.

I made that decision and as soon as I made it,

Znala sam da nisam spremna i da treba da odustanem.

Donela sam tu odluku, i istog trena osetila neverovatan mir.

an incredible feeling of peace came over me.

I turned to my mom and dad to tell them we needed to go home,

Okrenula sam se prema mami i tati da im kažem da idemo kući

and at that moment, you came out of the student union building

i baš u tom trenutku,

ti si izašao iz zgrade Studentskog saveza

wearing the stupidest hat I've ever seen in my life."

noseći najsmešniji šešir koji sam ikad videla." (Smeh)

(Laughter)

"It was awesome.

"Bio je strava.

I nosio si veliki znak Šajnerame -

And you had a big sign promoting Shinerama," --

studentske organizacije za borbu protiv cistične fibroze" -

which is Students Fighting Cystic Fibrosis,

a charity I've worked with for years --

dobrotvorna organizacija sa kojom godinama radim -

"And you had a bucketful of lollipops.

"i imao si punu kofu lizalica.

You were handing the lollipops out to people in line,

Šetao si i deli lizalice ljudima u redu i pričao im o Šajnerami.

and talking about Shinerama.

All of the sudden, you got to me, and you just stopped.

I odjednom si stigao do mene, i samo si stao

i zagledao se. Bilo je jezivo." (Smeh)

And you stared. It was creepy."

(Laughter)

This girl knows what I'm talking about.

Ova devojka zna tačno o čemu pričam. (Smeh)

(Laughter)

"Then you looked at the guy next to me, smiled, reached into your bucket,

"I onda si pogledao tipa pored mene,

nasmejao si se i izvukao lizalicu iz kante pružio mu je, i rekao:

pulled out a lollipop, held it out to him and said,

'You need to give a lollipop to the beautiful woman next to you.'"

"Treba da daš lizalicu predivnoj ženi koja stoji pored tebe.""

I rekla je: "Nikada u životu nisam videla da se neko brže posrami."

She said, "I've never seen anyone get more embarrassed faster in my life.

He turned beet red, he wouldn't even look at me.

Pocrveneo je kao rak i nije hteo ni da me pogleda.

He just kind of held the lollipop out like this."

Samo je ovako ispružio lizalicu." (Smeh)

(Laughter)

"I felt so bad for this dude that I took the lollipop.

"I osetila sam se tako loše zbog dečka da sam uzela lizalicu

As soon as I did, you got this incredibly severe look on your face,

i čim sam to uradila ti si sa ozbiljnim izrazom lica

looked at my mom and dad and said, 'Look at that! Look at that!

pogledao moju mamu i tatu

i rekao: "Pogledajte to. Pogledajte.

First day away from home,

Prvi dan kako nije kod kuće i već uzima slatkiše od neznanca?!""

and already she's taking candy from a stranger?'"

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

I rekla je: "Svi su se pomamili. 6 metara u svakom pravcu

She said, "Everybody lost it.

Twenty feet in every direction, everyone started to howl.

svi su počeli da urliču.

I know this is cheesy, and I don't know why I'm telling you this,

I znam da je ovo glupavo i ne znam zašto ti ovo pričam,

ali tog trenutka kada su se svi smejali,

but in that moment when everyone was laughing, I knew I shouldn't quit.

znala sam da ne treba da odustanem.

I knew I was where I was supposed to be; I knew I was home.

Znala sam da sam tu gde treba da budem,

i znala sam da sam kod kuće.

And I haven't spoken to you once in the four years since that day.

I nisam pričala sa tobom nijednom za četiri godine od tog dana,

But I heard that you were leaving, and I had to come and tell you

ali čula sam da odlaziš

i morala sam da ti kažem da si bio

you've been an incredibly important person in my life.

neverovatno bitna osoba u mom životu i nedostajaćeš mi. Srećno."

I'm going to miss you. Good luck."

And she walks away, and I'm flattened.

I dok ona odlazi, ja sam očaran.

She gets six feet away, turns around, smiles and goes,

I odmakne se oko dva metra, okreće se, osmehne i kaže:

"You should probably know this, too:

"Takođe bi trebalo da znaš i ovo.

Još uvek se zabavljam sa tim likom nakon četiri godine." (Smeh)

I'm still dating that guy, four years later."

(Laughter)

A year and a half after I moved to Toronto,

Godinu i po nakon što sam se preselio u Toronto

I got an invitation to their wedding.

dobio sam pozivnicu za njihovo venčanje.

(Laughter)

Here's the kicker: I don't remember that.

Evo u čemu je stvar. Ja se toga ne sećam.

I have no recollection of that moment.

Ne sećam se tog trenutka,

I've searched my memory banks,

a prekopao sam po sećanju jer je to smešno

because that is funny and I should remember doing it and I don't.

i trebalo bi da se sećam toga, a ne sećam se.

To je bio takav transformišući trenutak koji mi je otvorio oči, pomislio sam –

That was such an eye-opening, transformative moment for me,

to think that maybe the biggest impact I'd ever had on anyone's life,

možda je najveći uticaj koji sam ikada imao na nečiji život

a moment that had a woman walk up to a stranger four years later and say,

bio trenutak kada je žena prišla strancu četiri godine kasnije i rekla:

"You've been an important person in my life,"

"Bio si neverovatno bitna osoba u mom životu"

was a moment that I didn't even remember.

i to je bio trenutak koga se ni ne sećam.

How many of you guys have a lollipop moment,

Koliko vas ima trenutak sa lizalicom –

a moment where someone said or did something

trenutak kada je neko rekao ili uradio nešto

that you feel fundamentally made your life better?

što je značajno poboljšalo vaš život?

U redu. A koliko vas je to reklo osobi koja je to uradila?

All right. How many of you have told that person they did it?

See, why not?

Vidite, zašto da ne? Slavimo rođendane,

We celebrate birthdays,

where all you have to do is not die for 365 days --

gde je jedino što treba da uradite da ne umrete 365 dana - (Smeh) -

(Laughter)

Yet we let people who have made our lives better

a ipak dopuštamo ljudima koji su nam poboljšali život

walk around without knowing it.

da šetaju okolo i da to ne znaju.

Every single one of you has been the catalyst

A svako od vas je bio katalizator trenutka sa lizalicom.

for a lollipop moment.

You've made someone's life better by something you said or did.

Poboljšali ste nečiji život nečim

što ste rekli ili uradili, a ako mislite da niste,

If you think you haven't,

think of all the hands that didn't go up when I asked.

pomislite na ruke koje se nisu podigle kada sam postavio to pitanje.

You're just one of the people who hasn't been told.

Vi ste samo jedna od osoba kojima nisu rekli.

It's scary to think of ourselves as that powerful,

Ali zastrašujuće je da o sebi mislimo kao tako moćnima.

frightening to think we can matter that much to other people.

Zastrašujuće je da pomislimo da možemo toliko da značimo drugima

As long as we make leadership something bigger than us,

jer dok god liderstvo činimo većim od nas,

as long as we keep leadership beyond us

dok god držimo liderstvo iznad sebe,

and make it about changing the world,

dok god tvrdimo da ono ima veze sa menjanjem sveta,

we give ourselves an excuse not to expect it every day,

sebi dajemo izgovor da ga ne očekujemo

from ourselves and from each other.

svakog dana od sebe i jedni od drugih.

Marianne Williamson said, "Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Merien Vilijamson je rekla da naš najveći strah nije da smo neadekvatni.

[It] is that we are powerful beyond measure.

"Naš najveći strah je da smo neizmerno moćni.

It is our light and not our darkness that frightens us."

Naše svetlo nas plaši, a ne naša tama."

I danas vas pozivam da to prevaziđemo.

My call to action today is that we need to get over our fear

Treba da prevaziđemo svoj strah od toga

of how extraordinarily powerful we can be in each other's lives.

koliko neverovatno moćni možemo biti u tuđim životima.

We need to get over it so we can move beyond it,

Moramo da prevaziđemo to kako bismo krenuli dalje

and our little brothers and sisters and one day our kids --

i naša mala braća i sestre i jednog dana i naša deca -

or our kids right now -- can watch and start to value

ili naša deca sada - mogu da posmatraju i počnu da cene

the impact we can have on each other's lives,

uticaj koji možemo imati na živote drugih,

more than money and power and titles and influence.

više od novca, moći, titula i uticaja.

We need to redefine leadership as being about lollipop moments --

Treba da redefinišemo liderstvo u trenutke sa lizalicom,

how many of them we create, how many we acknowledge,

koliko takvih trenutaka stvaramo, koliko ih priznajemo,

how many of them we pay forward and how many we say thank you for.

koliko njih činimo unapred i za koliko njih zahvaljujemo.

Because we've made leadership about changing the world,

Jer doveli smo do toga da je liderstvo menjanje sveta, a svet ne postoji.

and there is no world.

There's only six billion understandings of it.

Postoji samo šest milijardi shvatanja sveta

And if you change one person's understanding of it,

i ako promenite samo jedno od njih,

shvatanje jedne osobe o tome šta je sposobna da uradi,

understanding of what they're capable of,

shvatanje jedne osobe o tome koliko je ljudima stalo do nje,

understanding of how much people care about them,

understanding of how powerful an agent for change

koliko moćan pokretač promene može da bude na ovom svetu,

they can be in this world,

you've changed the whole thing.

promenili ste celu stvar.

Ako možemo liderstvo da shvatamo na taj način,

And if we can understand leadership like that,

I think if we can redefine leadership like that,

ako možemo tako da redefinišemo liderstvo,

mislim da možemo sve da promenimo.

I think we can change everything.

And it's a simple idea, but I don't think it's a small one.

To je jednostavna ideja, ali ne mislim da je mala.

I want to thank you so much for letting me share it with you today.

I hvala vam što ste mi dozvolili da je danas sa vama podelim.