Drew Dudley: Everyday leadership

Translator: Joseph Geni Reviewer: Morton Bast

Translator: Kadri Sikk Reviewer: Aari Lemmik

I wanted to just start by asking everyone a question:

I wanted to just start by asking everyone a question:

How many of you are completely comfortable

Kui paljud teist siin julgevad vabalt väita, et nad on juhid?

with calling yourselves a leader?

Olen seda küsimust esitanud paljudes erinevates kohtades

I've asked that question all across the country,

and everywhere I ask it, no matter where,

ja igal pool, kus ma seda küsin

ei tõsta väga suur osa publikust kätt.

there's a huge portion of the audience that won't put up their hand.

Olen aru saanud, et oleme juhtimise mõelnud endast suuremaks.

And I've come to realize that we have made leadership

into something bigger than us; something beyond us.

Millekski, mis on meist väljaspool.

Arvame, et juhtimine tähendab maailma muutmist.

We've made it about changing the world.

We've taken this title of "leader"

Sõna "juht" on kui aunimetus, mille ehk kunagi tulevikus välja teenime,

and treat it as something that one day we're going to deserve.

aga praegu endast nii rääkida

But to give it to ourselves right now

oleks ülbe ja üleolev, nagu midagi ebasobivat.

means a level of arrogance or cockiness that we're not comfortable with.

Mulle teeb muret, et pöörame liiga suurt tähelepanu selle imetlemiseks,

And I worry sometimes that we spend so much time

celebrating amazing things that hardly anybody can do,

mida suudavad korda saata vaid üksikud,

that we've convinced ourselves those are the only things worth celebrating.

kuna leiame, et vaid erakordsus on tunnustust väärt.

Oleme hakanud igapäevaseid asju pidama vähetähtsaks.

We start to devalue the things we can do every day,

Ja ka siis, kui oleme tõesti olnud juhid,

We take moments where we truly are a leader

ei luba me end selle eest tunnustada ega selle üle uhkust tunda.

and we don't let ourselves take credit for it, or feel good about it.

I've been lucky enough over the last 10 years

Mul on õnnestunud töötada koos imeliste inimestega,

to work with amazing people who've helped me redefine leadership

kes on aidanud mul juhiks olemist mõista ja end õnnelikumana tunda.

in a way that I think has made me happier.

Tahan teiega täna jagada üht lugu juhtimisest,

With my short time today,

I want to share with you the one story that is probably most responsible

mis on minu jaoks olnud kõige rohkem silmiavav.

for that redefinition.

Olin õppejõud väikeses Mount Allisoni ülikoolis Sackville'is New Brunswickis,

I went to a little school

called Mount Allison University in Sackville, New Brunswick.

ja minu viimasel päeval seal tuli üks tüdruk mu juurde

And on my last day there, a girl came up to me and said,

ja ütles: "Ma mäletan, kui sind esimest korda nägin."

"I remember the first time I met you."

Ja ta rääkis mulle ühest asjast, mis juhtus neli aastat tagasi.

And she told me a story that had happened four years earlier.

Ta ütles: "Päev enne õppeaasta algust olin ema ja isaga hotellis

She said, "On the day before I started university,

I was in the hotel room with my mom and dad,

ja kartsin kohutavalt, sest olin kindel,

and I was so scared and so convinced that I couldn't do this,

et ma ei saa hakkama ega pole ülikooliks valmis,

that I wasn't ready for university, that I just burst into tears.

et purskusin lihtsalt nutma.

Mu ema ja isa olid imelised.

My mom and dad were amazing.

They were like, "We know you're scared, but let's just go tomorrow,

Nad ütlesid:

"Me teame, et sa kardad, aga lähme homme kohale.

Lähme esimesel päeval ja millal iganes sa tunned,

go to the first day, and if at any point you feel as if you can't do this,

et ei sa ei suuda, lihtsalt ütle meile ja me viime sind koju.

that's fine; tell us, and we'll take you home.

Oled meile ikka kõige armsam."

We love you no matter what.'"

"Läksimegi järgmisel päeval kohale

She says, "So I went the next day.

ja kui ma registreerimisjärjekorras seistes ringi vaatasin,

I was in line for registration,

and I looked around and just knew I couldn't do it; I wasn't ready.

teadsin, et ma ei suuda.

Teadsin, et ma pole valmis, et pean asja pooleli jätma.

I knew I had to quit.

I made that decision and as soon as I made it,

Kohe, kui olin selle otsuse vastu võtnud, valdas mind uskumatu rahu.

an incredible feeling of peace came over me.

Pöörasin end ema ja isa poole, et öelda: "Lähme koju,"

I turned to my mom and dad to tell them we needed to go home,

ja just sel hetkel tulid sa üliõpilasseltsi majast välja,

and at that moment, you came out of the student union building

peas kõige tobedam müts, mida ma eales näinud olen.

wearing the stupidest hat I've ever seen in my life."

(Laughter)

(Naer)

See oli lahe.

"It was awesome.

Kandsid Shinerama plakatit,

And you had a big sign promoting Shinerama," --

mis on tsüstilise fibroosiga võitlev heategevusühing,

which is Students Fighting Cystic Fibrosis,

töötan seal ammu,

a charity I've worked with for years --

käes oli sul ämber pulgakommidega.

"And you had a bucketful of lollipops.

Käisid ringi ja jagasid pulgakomme

You were handing the lollipops out to people in line,

ja rääkisid inimestele Shineramast.

and talking about Shinerama.

Järsku jõudsid sa minuni, jäid seisma ning vahtisid mulle otsa

All of the sudden, you got to me, and you just stopped.

And you stared. It was creepy."

See oli väga veider."

(Laughter)

(Naer)

This girl knows what I'm talking about.

See tüdruk siin teab täpselt, millest ma räägin.

(Laughter)

(Naer)

"Siis vaatasid üht kutti mu kõrval, naeratasid, võtsid ämbrist pulgakommi

"Then you looked at the guy next to me, smiled, reached into your bucket,

ulatasid selle talle ja ütlesid:

pulled out a lollipop, held it out to him and said,

'You need to give a lollipop to the beautiful woman next to you.'"

"Sa pead andma selle kommi sellele kaunile naisele su kõrval."

Ta ütles: "Ma pole näinud kedagi nii kiirelt häbist maa alla vajumas.

She said, "I've never seen anyone get more embarrassed faster in my life.

Poiss läks näost tulipunaseks,

He turned beet red, he wouldn't even look at me.

ta ei vaadanud minu poolegi, lihtsalt ulatas mulle pulgakommi, nii.

He just kind of held the lollipop out like this."

(Laughter)

(Naer)

"I felt so bad for this dude that I took the lollipop.

Mul oli tast nii kahju, et võtsin kommi vastu,

As soon as I did, you got this incredibly severe look on your face,

ja kohe muutus su ilme äärmiselt tõsiseks,

sa vaatasid mu emale ja isale otsa ja ütlesid:

looked at my mom and dad and said, 'Look at that! Look at that!

"Vaadake nüüd! Alles esimene päev kodust eemal

First day away from home,

ja juba võtab ta võõrastelt kommi vastu!?"

and already she's taking candy from a stranger?'"

(Laughter)

(Naer)

Ta ütles: "Kõik inimesed ümberringi murdusid ja purskusid naerma.

She said, "Everybody lost it.

Twenty feet in every direction, everyone started to howl.

Jah ma tean, et see on nõme,

I know this is cheesy, and I don't know why I'm telling you this,

ja ma ei tea, miks ma seda üldse räägin,

aga sel hetkel, kui kõik naersid, teadsin, et ma ei tohi pooleli jätta.

but in that moment when everyone was laughing, I knew I shouldn't quit.

Ma teadsin, et olen õiges kohas, et see ongi mu kodu,

I knew I was where I was supposed to be; I knew I was home.

And I haven't spoken to you once in the four years since that day.

Ma ei ole sinuga kordagi nende nelja aasta jooksul rääkinud,

aga kui kuulsin, et sa lähed ära,

But I heard that you were leaving, and I had to come and tell you

pidin tulema ning ütlema, kui tähtis oled minu jaoks olnud,

you've been an incredibly important person in my life.

hakkan sinust puudust tundma.

I'm going to miss you. Good luck."

Mingu sul hästi."

And she walks away, and I'm flattened.

Ja ta läheb ära. Olen sõnatu.

She gets six feet away, turns around, smiles and goes,

Paari sammu pärast pöördub ta ümber, naeratab, ja ütleb:

"Ilmselt peaksid veel midagi teadma.

"You should probably know this, too:

Ma käin ikka veel selle sama tüübiga."

I'm still dating that guy, four years later."

(Naer)

(Laughter)

Poolteist aastat hiljem kolisin Torontosse

A year and a half after I moved to Toronto,

ja sain kutse nende pulma.

I got an invitation to their wedding.

(Laughter)

Here's the kicker: I don't remember that.

Nali on aga selles, et ma ei mäleta seda kohtumist.

I have no recollection of that moment.

Mul pole sellest hetkest mingit jälge, olen oma peas tuhninud,

I've searched my memory banks,

sest see naljaks seik oleks pidanud meelde jääma, aga ei jäänud.

because that is funny and I should remember doing it and I don't.

Mul oli nii silmiavav mõelda,

That was such an eye-opening, transformative moment for me,

et suurim jälg, mida olen kellegi ellu eales jätnud,

to think that maybe the biggest impact I'd ever had on anyone's life,

hetk, mille pärast neli aastat hiljem tullakse võhivõõra juurde ütlema:

a moment that had a woman walk up to a stranger four years later and say,

"Sa oled mu elus olnud väga oluline inimene,"

"You've been an important person in my life,"

on hetk, mida ma ise ei mäleta.

was a moment that I didn't even remember.

Kui paljudel siin on olnud pulgakommihetk,

How many of you guys have a lollipop moment,

kui keegi ütles või tegi midagi, mis muutis teie elu paremaks?

a moment where someone said or did something

that you feel fundamentally made your life better?

Hästi. Kui paljud teist sellele inimesele seda ka ütlesid?

All right. How many of you have told that person they did it?

Näete! Aga miks mitte?

See, why not?

We celebrate birthdays,

Peame ju meeles neid, kes on suutnud 365 päeva elus püsida?

where all you have to do is not die for 365 days --

(Laughter)

Ometi laseme neil, kes on meie elu paremaks teinud,

Yet we let people who have made our lives better

teadmatuses edasi elada.

walk around without knowing it.

Igaüks teist, iga viimne kui üks, on käivitanud pulgakommihetke.

Every single one of you has been the catalyst

for a lollipop moment.

Olete muutnud kellegi elu paremaks midagi öeldes või tehes

You've made someone's life better by something you said or did.

ja kui arvate, et pole, meenutage käsi, mis ei kerkinud, kui seda küsisin.

If you think you haven't,

think of all the hands that didn't go up when I asked.

Te olete lihtsalt üks nendest, kes on teadmatuses.

You're just one of the people who hasn't been told.

Hirmus on mõtelda, et meil on selline võim.

It's scary to think of ourselves as that powerful,

frightening to think we can matter that much to other people.

On hirmutav mõtelda, kui palju suudame mõjutada teisi inimesi,

As long as we make leadership something bigger than us,

sest kuniks arvame, et juhtimine on meist suurem,

kuniks juhtimine on midagi meist väljaspool,

as long as we keep leadership beyond us

kuniks see tähendab kogu maailma muutmist,

and make it about changing the world,

we give ourselves an excuse not to expect it every day,

on see vaid vabandus igapäevase märkamise vältimiseks.

from ourselves and from each other.

Marianne Williamson ütles: "Meie suurim hirm pole see, et me ei suuda.

Marianne Williamson said, "Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Meie suurim hirm on, et me oleme tohutult võimsad.

[It] is that we are powerful beyond measure.

Meid ei hirmuta mitte meie pimedus, vaid meie valgus."

It is our light and not our darkness that frightens us."

Kutsun kõiki sellest üle saama.

My call to action today is that we need to get over our fear

Peame üle saama hirmust,

of how extraordinarily powerful we can be in each other's lives.

kui kohutavalt suur mõju meil võib üksteisele olla.

We need to get over it so we can move beyond it,

Peame sellest üle saama, et edasi liikuda

and our little brothers and sisters and one day our kids --

ja meie väikesed vennad ja õed, ühel päeval meie lapsed,

or our kids right now -- can watch and start to value

või meie lapsed juba praegu, näevad ja õpivad hindama

the impact we can have on each other's lives,

seda mõju, mida me üksteisele avaldame,

rohkem kui raha ja vägevust, tiitleid ja mõjuvõimu.

more than money and power and titles and influence.

We need to redefine leadership as being about lollipop moments --

Juhtimist tulebki defineerida nende pulgakommihetkedena,

läbi selle, palju me neid tekitame, palju neid teadvustame,

how many of them we create, how many we acknowledge,

kui palju edasi anname ja kui paljude eest täname.

how many of them we pay forward and how many we say thank you for.

Kuni mõtleme juhtimisest kui maailma muutmisest,

Because we've made leadership about changing the world,

siis sellist maailma ei olegi.

and there is no world.

On kuus miljardit erinevat nägemust.

There's only six billion understandings of it.

ja kui muuta ühe inimese mõtlemist,

And if you change one person's understanding of it,

arusaama sellest, milleks ta võimeline on,

understanding of what they're capable of,

arusaama sellest, kui palju teised temast hoolivad,

understanding of how much people care about them,

kui palju on tema võimuses, et siin maailmas midagi muuta,

understanding of how powerful an agent for change

ongi kõik muutnud.

they can be in this world,

you've changed the whole thing.

Kui juhtimist mõista just sellisena,

And if we can understand leadership like that,

I think if we can redefine leadership like that,

ja usun, et juhtimist saabki just sellisena võtta,

siis usun, et suudame kõike muuta.

I think we can change everything.

And it's a simple idea, but I don't think it's a small one.

See idee on lihtne, aga kindlasti mitte tähtsusetu.

I want to thank you so much for letting me share it with you today.

Tahan teid kõiki tänada, et lubasite mul seda täna teiega jagada.