Drew Dudley: Everyday leadership

Translator: Joseph Geni Reviewer: Morton Bast

Translator: Dilnoza Nishanova Reviewer: Nazarbek Nazarov

Men shunchaki hammaga savol berishdan boshlamoqchiman:

Kimlar o’zlarini ishonch bilan

“sardor” deb ayta oladilar?

Men bu savolni butun mamlakat bo’ylab so’radim,

I wanted to just start by asking everyone a question:

va qayerda so’ramay

How many of you are completely comfortable

auditoriyaning ko’p qismi qo’llarni ko’tarmas edilar.

with calling yourselves a leader?

Men shuni anglab yetdimki, biz sardorlikni

I've asked that question all across the country,

and everywhere I ask it, no matter where,

kattaroq, yetib bo’lmaydigan narsaga aylantiribmiz.

there's a huge portion of the audience that won't put up their hand.

Dunyoni o’zgartirish deb qabul qildik

“Sardor” degan nomni oldik va

And I've come to realize that we have made leadership

kun kelib unga loyiq narsa bo’lishdek muomala qildik.

into something bigger than us; something beyond us.

Biroq buni o’zimizga hozir berish

biz uchun teng bo’lmagan kekkayish, dimog’dorlikni olish bilan barobar.

We've made it about changing the world.

We've taken this title of "leader"

and treat it as something that one day we're going to deserve.

Men ba’zida xavotirlanamanki, biz ko’pincha

ba’zilar zo’rg’a qiloladigan narsalarni nishonlaymiz,

But to give it to ourselves right now

means a level of arrogance or cockiness that we're not comfortable with.

faqatgina ular nishonlashga arzigulik deb o’ylaymiz.

And I worry sometimes that we spend so much time

Kunlik qiloladigan ishlarni qadrsizlaymiz,

celebrating amazing things that hardly anybody can do,

Biz haqiqiy sardor bo’lgan paytlarni olamiz

va ular haqida yaxshi his qilmaymiz.

that we've convinced ourselves those are the only things worth celebrating.

We start to devalue the things we can do every day,

Men so’nggi 10 yilda ajoyib insonlar bilan

ishlashga muvaffaq bo’ldim, ular meni xursand qiladigan yo’lda

We take moments where we truly are a leader

and we don't let ourselves take credit for it, or feel good about it.

“sardorlik”ni tushunishga yordam berdilar.

Bugun qisqa vaqt ichida

I've been lucky enough over the last 10 years

Sizlar bilan bu tushunchaga mos

to work with amazing people who've helped me redefine leadership

hikoya ulashmoqchiman.

Men Sackville, Yangi Brunsvikdagi

in a way that I think has made me happier.

Mount Allison nomli kichkina universitetga borganman.

With my short time today,

I want to share with you the one story that is probably most responsible

U yerdagi oxirgi kunimda bir qiz kelib, shunday degan:

for that redefinition.

“Seni birinchi marta ko’rganimni eslayman”.

I went to a little school

Keyin menga to’rt yil oldingi voqeani aytib bergan:

called Mount Allison University in Sackville, New Brunswick.

“O’qishni boshlashimdan oldin, men ota-onam bilan

And on my last day there, a girl came up to me and said,

"I remember the first time I met you."

mehmonxonada bir xona edim, qo’rqqan va

buni uddalay olmasligimga ishongan edim

And she told me a story that had happened four years earlier.

universitetda o’qishga tayyor emasdim va yig’lay boshladim

She said, "On the day before I started university,

I was in the hotel room with my mom and dad,

Ota-onam ajoyib edilar.

Ular: “Qo’rqayotganingni bilamiz, lekin ertaga borib ko’raylik,

and I was so scared and so convinced that I couldn't do this,

birinchi kun borgin va nobodo uddalay olmasligingni his qilsang,

that I wasn't ready for university, that I just burst into tears.

My mom and dad were amazing.

hammasi joyida, aytsang uyga olib kelamiz.

They were like, "We know you're scared, but let's just go tomorrow,

Seni doim yaxshi ko’ramiz”.

U aytdi: “Keyingi kun bordim.

go to the first day, and if at any point you feel as if you can't do this,

Ro’yxatdan o’tishga navbatda,

atrofga qarab, uddalay olamsligimni, tayyor emasligimni bildim.

that's fine; tell us, and we'll take you home.

We love you no matter what.'"

Tark etishga qaror qilib

shundan keyin qandaydir

She says, "So I went the next day.

I was in line for registration,

xavotirsizlik tuyg’usi keldi.

and I looked around and just knew I couldn't do it; I wasn't ready.

Ota-onamga uyga ketishni aytish uchun o’girildim

I knew I had to quit.

shu paytda, o’quvchilar uyushmasi binosidan sen

I made that decision and as soon as I made it,

hayotimda ko’rgan eng g’alati shapkani kiyib kelding”

an incredible feeling of peace came over me.

I turned to my mom and dad to tell them we needed to go home,

(Kulgi)

“Ajoyib edi.

Shinerama reklamasili katta belgi bor edi”,--

and at that moment, you came out of the student union building

ya’ni muko vistsidoz ga kurash birlashmasi

wearing the stupidest hat I've ever seen in my life."

Men yillar davomida ishlagan xayriya --

(Laughter)

“Senda savatda shirinliklar bor edi.

"It was awesome.

Navbatdagi odamlarga Shinerama haqida aytib,

And you had a big sign promoting Shinerama," --

which is Students Fighting Cystic Fibrosis,

shirinlik berayotgan eding.

Birdaniga, menga kelding, va to’xtading.

a charity I've worked with for years --

"And you had a bucketful of lollipops.

Qarab turding. Juda ham g’alati edi”.

You were handing the lollipops out to people in line,

(Kulgi)

and talking about Shinerama.

Bu qiz nima deyotganimni biladi.

All of the sudden, you got to me, and you just stopped.

(Kulgi)

“Keyin yonimdagi bolaga qarading, kulding, savatga qo’lingni uzatding

And you stared. It was creepy."

shirinlikni olib, bolaga uzatding va

(Laughter)

This girl knows what I'm talking about.

yonidagi chiroyli qizga shirinlik berishini aytding.

(Laughter)

"Then you looked at the guy next to me, smiled, reached into your bucket,

U aytdi: “Hayotimda bundan tez uyaladigan inson ko’rmaganman.

pulled out a lollipop, held it out to him and said,

U qizarib ketgan edi, u menga qaramas edi ham.

'You need to give a lollipop to the beautiful woman next to you.'"

U faqatgina shirinlikni uzatib turar edi”.

She said, "I've never seen anyone get more embarrassed faster in my life.

(Kulgi)

“Men bu boladan shirinlikni olganimga g’alati bo’ldim.

He turned beet red, he wouldn't even look at me.

Olgach, yuzingda jiddiy ko’rinish hosil bo’ldi,

He just kind of held the lollipop out like this."

ota-onamga qarab, dedim: ’Qarang! Qarang!

(Laughter)

"I felt so bad for this dude that I took the lollipop.

Birinchi kun uydan yiroqda,

As soon as I did, you got this incredibly severe look on your face,

va u notanishdan shirinlik olyapti?’”

(Kulgi)

looked at my mom and dad and said, 'Look at that! Look at that!

U aytdi: ”Hamma g’azabda edi.

Har 25 chaqirimda hamma ming’irlashni boshladi.

First day away from home,

and already she's taking candy from a stranger?'"

G’alati ekanini bilaman va buni nimaga aytayotganimni bilmayman,

(Laughter)

lekin o’sha onda hamma kulayotganda, tark etmaslik kerakligini bildim.

She said, "Everybody lost it.

Twenty feet in every direction, everyone started to howl.

Men kerakli joydaligimni bildim; uydaligimni bildim.

I know this is cheesy, and I don't know why I'm telling you this,

O’sha kundan keyin to’rt yil davomida sen bilan gaplashmadim.

but in that moment when everyone was laughing, I knew I shouldn't quit.

Lekin ketayotganingni bilib, kelib senga

I knew I was where I was supposed to be; I knew I was home.

hayotimdagi juda ham muhim inson ekanini aytdim.

And I haven't spoken to you once in the four years since that day.

Seni sog’inaman. Omad”.

Keyin u ketdi, men tushkunlikka tushdim.

But I heard that you were leaving, and I had to come and tell you

Olti chaqirim nariga ketib, o’girilib kuldi va ketdi,

you've been an incredibly important person in my life.

“Buni ham bilishing lozim: Haligacha

I'm going to miss you. Good luck."

to’rt yil oldingi yigit bilan uchrashyapman”

And she walks away, and I'm flattened.

(Kulgi)

She gets six feet away, turns around, smiles and goes,

Bir yarim yildan so’ng Torontoga ko’chib keldim,

ularning to’yiga taklifnoma oldim.

"You should probably know this, too:

(Kulgi)

I'm still dating that guy, four years later."

Mana qiziq nutasi: Men eslay olmayman.

(Laughter)

A year and a half after I moved to Toronto,

O’sha damdan hech qanday xotira yo’q.

Xotiralarni eslashga urindim,

I got an invitation to their wedding.

chunki ular kulgili va ularni eslolishim kerak va eslay olmayman.

(Laughter)

Here's the kicker: I don't remember that.

Bu men uchun ko’z ochadigan on edi,

I have no recollection of that moment.

balkim hayotimdagi ta’siri kuchli voqea,

I've searched my memory banks,

because that is funny and I should remember doing it and I don't.

to’rt yildan keyin notanishga bir ayol kelib, aytishi:

That was such an eye-opening, transformative moment for me,

“Hayotimdagi eng muhim inson bo’lgansan,”

to think that maybe the biggest impact I'd ever had on anyone's life,

bu hatto eslay olmaydigan payt edi.

Kimlarning hayotida, kimdir tufayli hayoti

a moment that had a woman walk up to a stranger four years later and say,

yaxshiroq bo’lgan shirinlik payti

"You've been an important person in my life,"

bo’lgan?

was a moment that I didn't even remember.

Yaxshi. Kimlar o’sha odamga borib aytgan?

How many of you guys have a lollipop moment,

a moment where someone said or did something

Xo’sha, nimaga yo’q?

365 kun o’lmaslik kerak

that you feel fundamentally made your life better?

bo’lgan tug’ilgan kunlarni nishonlaymiz.

All right. How many of you have told that person they did it?

(Kulgi)

Ammo hayotimizni yaxshiga o’zgartirgan insonlar

See, why not?

oldidan bilmay o’tib ketamiz.

We celebrate birthdays,

where all you have to do is not die for 365 days --

Har biringiz shirinlik voqea ishtirokchisi

bo’lgansiz.

(Laughter)

Nimadir qilib yo aytib kimdirning hayotini yaxshilashtirgansiz.

Yet we let people who have made our lives better

Agar yo’q desangiz,

walk around without knowing it.

Every single one of you has been the catalyst

so’ralganda ko’tarilmagan qo’llar haqida o’ylang.

Siz shunchaki aytilmagan insonlardan birisiz.

for a lollipop moment.

You've made someone's life better by something you said or did.

O’zimiz haqida kuchli deb o’ylash qo’rqinchli,

If you think you haven't,

boshqalar uchun muhimligimizni o’ylash qo’rqinchli.

think of all the hands that didn't go up when I asked.

Sardorlikni o’zimizdan katta narsa deb bilar ekanmiz,

You're just one of the people who hasn't been told.

sardorlikni yetib bo’lmaydigan, dunyoni

It's scary to think of ourselves as that powerful,

o’zgartiruvchi deb bilarkanmiz,

frightening to think we can matter that much to other people.

o’zimizga o’sha kunni kutmaslik uchun bahono beryapmiz,

As long as we make leadership something bigger than us,

o’zimizdan va bir-birimizdan.

as long as we keep leadership beyond us

Marianna Vilyamson aytgan: “Eng katta qo’rquvimiz nomuvofiqligimiz emas.

and make it about changing the world,

U haddan tashqari kuchli ekanimzdadir.

we give ourselves an excuse not to expect it every day,

Zulmat emas, bizning chirog’imiz bizni qo’rqitadi.”

from ourselves and from each other.

Marianne Williamson said, "Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Mening bugungi chaqirig’im shundayki, biz bir-birimiz hayotimizda

qanchalik qudratli bo’ladigan qo’rquvni yengib o’tishimiz kerak.

[It] is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light and not our darkness that frightens us."

Biz uni oldinga yurish uchun yengishimiz lozim,

My call to action today is that we need to get over our fear

opa-singil va aka-ukalarimiz, kun kelib farzandlarimiz--

yo hozirgi farzandlarimiz-- ko’rib, bir-birimizning

of how extraordinarily powerful we can be in each other's lives.

hayotimizga ta’sirini qadrlay boshlaydilar,

We need to get over it so we can move beyond it,

pul va kuch-qudat va nomdan burun.

and our little brothers and sisters and one day our kids --

Biz sardorlikni shirinlik singari qayta talqin qilishimiz kerak--

or our kids right now -- can watch and start to value

the impact we can have on each other's lives,

qanchasini yaratib, qanchasini tan olib,

qanchasini qaytarib va qanchasiga minnatdorchilik bildirishimiz.

more than money and power and titles and influence.

We need to redefine leadership as being about lollipop moments --

Chunki sardorlik dunyo o’zgartirishga tenglashtirdik,

how many of them we create, how many we acknowledge,

va dunyo yo’q.

Faqatgina 6 milliard tushunchalar bor.

how many of them we pay forward and how many we say thank you for.

Agar siz bir inson tushunchasini o’zgartirsangiz,

Because we've made leadership about changing the world,

nimaga qodirligi haqidagi tushunchasini,

qanchalik odamlar u haqida qayg’urishi haqida

and there is no world.

There's only six billion understandings of it.

tushunchasini, o’zgarishi qanchalik dunyoni o’zgar-

And if you change one person's understanding of it,

tirish tushunchasini, siz

understanding of what they're capable of,

hamma narsani o’zgartirdingiz.

Agar biz sardorlikni shunday tushunsak,

understanding of how much people care about them,

understanding of how powerful an agent for change

o’ylashimcha, shunday talqin qilsak,

biz hamma narsani o’zgartira olamiz.

they can be in this world,

you've changed the whole thing.

Bu sodda g’oya, lekin kichkina dev o’ylamayman.

And if we can understand leadership like that,

Kattakon rahmat, buni ulashish imkoniyatini berganingiz uchun.

I think if we can redefine leadership like that,

I think we can change everything.

And it's a simple idea, but I don't think it's a small one.

I want to thank you so much for letting me share it with you today.