Why good leaders make you feel safe | Simon Sinek | TED

There's a man by the name of Captain

William Swenson

who recently was awarded the congressional Medal of Honor

for his actions on September 8, 2009.

On that day, a column of American

and Afghan troops

were making their way

through a part of Afghanistan

to help protect

a group of government officials,

a group of Afghan government officials,

who would be meeting with some local

village elders.

The column came under ambush,

and was surrounded on three sides,

and amongst many other things,

Captain Swenson was recognized

for running into live fire

to rescue the wounded

and pull out the dead.

One of the people he rescued was a sergeant,

and he and a comrade were making their way

to a medevac helicopter.

And what was remarkable about this day

is, by sheer coincidence,

one of the medevac medics

happened to have a GoPro camera on his helmet

and captured the whole scene on camera.

It shows Captain Swenson and his comrade

bringing this wounded soldier

who had received a gunshot to the neck.

They put him in the helicopter,

and then you see Captain Swenson bend over

and give him a kiss

before he turns around to rescue more.

I saw this, and I thought to myself,

where do people like that come from?

What is that? That is some deep, deep emotion,

when you would want to do that.

There's a love there,

and I wanted to know why is it that

I don't have people that I work with like that?

You know, in the military, they give medals

to people who are willing to sacrifice themselves

so that others may gain.

In business, we give bonuses to people

who are willing to sacrifice others

so that we may gain.

We have it backwards. Right?

So I asked myself, where do people like this come from?

And my initial conclusion was that they're just better people.

That's why they're attracted to the military.

These better people are attracted

to this concept of service.

But that's completely wrong.

What I learned was that it's the environment,

and if you get the environment right,

every single one of us has the capacity

to do these remarkable things,

and more importantly, others have that capacity too.

I've had the great honor of getting to meet

some of these, who we would call heroes,

who have put themselves and put their lives

at risk to save others,

and I asked them, "Why would you do it?

Why did you do it?"

And they all say the same thing:

"Because they would have done it for me."

It's this deep sense of trust and cooperation.

So trust and cooperation are really important here.

The problem with concepts of trust and cooperation

is that they are feelings, they are not instructions.

I can't simply say to you, "Trust me," and you will.

I can't simply instruct two people to cooperate, and they will.

It's not how it works. It's a feeling.

So where does that feeling come from?

If you go back 50,000 years

to the Paleolithic era,

to the early days of Homo sapiens,

what we find is that the world

was filled with danger,

all of these forces working very, very hard to kill us.

Nothing personal.

Whether it was the weather,

lack of resources,

maybe a saber-toothed tiger,

all of these things working

to reduce our lifespan.

And so we evolved into social animals,

where we lived together and worked together

in what I call a circle of safety, inside the tribe,

where we felt like we belonged.

And when we felt safe amongst our own,

the natural reaction was trust and cooperation.

There are inherent benefits to this.

It means I can fall asleep at night

and trust that someone from within my tribe will watch for danger.

If we don't trust each other, if I don't trust you,

that means you won't watch for danger.

Bad system of survival.

The modern day is exactly the same thing.

The world is filled with danger,

things that are trying to frustrate our lives

or reduce our success,

reduce our opportunity for success.

It could be the ups and downs in the economy,

the uncertainty of the stock market.

It could be a new technology that renders

your business model obsolete overnight.

Or it could be your competition

that is sometimes trying to kill you.

It's sometimes trying to put you out of business,

but at the very minimum

is working hard to frustrate your growth

and steal your business from you.

We have no control over these forces.

These are a constant,

and they're not going away.

The only variable are the conditions

inside the organization,

and that's where leadership matters,

because it's the leader that sets the tone.

When a leader makes the choice

to put the safety and lives

of the people inside the organization first,

to sacrifice their comforts and sacrifice

the tangible results, so that the people remain

and feel safe and feel like they belong,

remarkable things happen.

I was flying on a trip,

and I was witness to an incident

where a passenger attempted to board

before their number was called,

and I watched the gate agent

treat this man like he had broken the law,

like a criminal.

He was yelled at for attempting to board

one group too soon.

So I said something.

I said, "Why do you have treat us like cattle?

Why can't you treat us like human beings?"

And this is exactly what she said to me.

She said, "Sir, if I don't follow the rules,

I could get in trouble or lose my job."

All she was telling me

is that she doesn't feel safe.

All she was telling me is that

she doesn't trust her leaders.

The reason we like flying Southwest Airlines

is not because they necessarily hire better people.

It's because they don't fear their leaders.

You see, if the conditions are wrong,

we are forced to expend our own time and energy

to protect ourselves from each other,

and that inherently weakens the organization.

When we feel safe inside the organization,

we will naturally combine our talents

and our strengths and work tirelessly

to face the dangers outside

and seize the opportunities.

The closest analogy I can give

to what a great leader is, is like being a parent.

If you think about what being a great parent is,

what do you want? What makes a great parent?

We want to give our child opportunities,

education, discipline them when necessary,

all so that they can grow up and achieve more

than we could for ourselves.

Great leaders want exactly the same thing.

They want to provide their people opportunity,

education, discipline when necessary,

build their self-confidence, give them the opportunity to try and fail,

all so that they could achieve more

than we could ever imagine for ourselves.

Charlie Kim, who's the CEO of a company called Next Jump

in New York City, a tech company,

he makes the point that

if you had hard times in your family,

would you ever consider laying off one of your children?

We would never do it.

Then why do we consider laying off people

inside our organization?

Charlie implemented a policy

of lifetime employment.

If you get a job at Next Jump,

you cannot get fired for performance issues.

In fact, if you have issues,

they will coach you and they will give you support,

just like we would with one of our children

who happens to come home with a C from school.

It's the complete opposite.

This is the reason so many people

have such a visceral hatred, anger,

at some of these banking CEOs

with their disproportionate salaries and bonus structures.

It's not the numbers.

It's that they have violated the very definition of leadership.

They have violated this deep-seated social contract.

We know that they allowed their people

to be sacrificed so they could protect their own interests,

or worse, they sacrificed their people

to protect their own interests.

This is what so offends us, not the numbers.

Would anybody be offended if we gave

a $150 million bonus to Gandhi?

How about a $250 million bonus to Mother Teresa?

Do we have an issue with that? None at all.

None at all.

Great leaders would never sacrifice

the people to save the numbers.

They would sooner sacrifice the numbers

to save the people.

Bob Chapman, who runs

a large manufacturing company in the Midwest

called Barry-Wehmiller,

in 2008 was hit very hard by the recession,

and they lost 30 percent of their orders overnight.

Now in a large manufacturing company,

this is a big deal,

and they could no longer afford their labor pool.

They needed to save 10 million dollars,

so, like so many companies today,

the board got together and discussed layoffs.

And Bob refused.

You see, Bob doesn't believe in head counts.

Bob believes in heart counts,

and it's much more difficult to simply reduce

the heart count.

And so they came up with a furlough program.

Every employee, from secretary to CEO,

was required to take four weeks of unpaid vacation.

They could take it any time they wanted,

and they did not have to take it consecutively.

But it was how Bob announced the program

that mattered so much.

He said, it's better that we should all suffer a little

than any of us should have to suffer a lot,

and morale went up.

They saved 20 million dollars,

and most importantly, as would be expected,

when the people feel safe and protected by the leadership in the organization,

the natural reaction is to trust and cooperate.

And quite spontaneously, nobody expected,

people started trading with each other.

Those who could afford it more

would trade with those who could afford it less.

People would take five weeks

so that somebody else only had to take three.

Leadership is a choice. It is not a rank.

I know many people at the seniormost

levels of organizations

who are absolutely not leaders.

They are authorities, and we do what they say

because they have authority over us,

but we would not follow them.

And I know many people

who are at the bottoms of organizations

who have no authority

and they are absolutely leaders,

and this is because they have chosen to look after

the person to the left of them,

and they have chosen to look after

the person to the right of them.

This is what a leader is.

I heard a story

of some Marines

who were out in theater,

and as is the Marine custom,

the officer ate last,

and he let his men eat first,

and when they were done,

there was no food left for him.

And when they went back out in the field,

his men brought him some of their food

so that he may eat,

because that's what happens.

We call them leaders because they go first.

We call them leaders because they take the risk

before anybody else does.

We call them leaders because they will choose

to sacrifice so that their people

may be safe and protected

and so their people may gain,

and when we do, the natural response

is that our people will sacrifice for us.

They will give us their blood and sweat and tears

to see that their leader's vision comes to life,

and when we ask them, "Why would you do that?

Why would you give your blood and sweat and tears

for that person?" they all say the same thing:

"Because they would have done it for me."

And isn't that the organization

we would all like to work in?

Thank you very much.

Thank you. (Applause)

Thank you. (Applause)