Memory Banda: A Warrior’s Cry Against Child Marriage | TED

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Prevodilac: Jasmina Francuski Lektor: Mile Živković
00:13
I'll begin today
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Počeću danas
00:14
by sharing a poem
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tako što ću vam pročitati pesmu
00:16
written by my friend from Malawi,
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koju je napisala moja prijateljica iz Malavija
00:20
Eileen Piri.
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Ajlin Piri.
00:22
Eileen is only 13 years old,
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Ajlin ima svega 13 godina,
00:25
but when we were going through the collection of poetry that we wrote,
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ali kada smo pregledale pesme koje smo napisale,
00:31
I found her poem so interesting,
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njena pesma mi se učinila veoma zanimljivom,
00:34
so motivating.
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tako podsticajnom,
00:36
So I'll read it to you.
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pa ću vam je pročitati.
00:38
She entitled her poem "I'll Marry When I Want."
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Svoju pesmu je naslovila: "Udaću se kad ja to budem želela".
00:42
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
00:45
"I'll marry when I want.
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"Udaću se kad ja to budem želela.
00:47
My mother can't force me to marry.
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Moja majka me ne može prisiliti da se udam.
00:52
My father cannot force me to marry.
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Moj otac me ne može prisiliti da se udam.
00:57
My uncle, my aunt,
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Moj stric, moja strina,
01:00
my brother or sister,
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moj brat ili sestra,
01:02
cannot force me to marry.
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ne mogu me prisiliti da se udam.
01:05
No one in the world
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Niko na svetu
01:08
can force me to marry.
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ne može me prisiliti da se udam.
01:11
I'll marry when I want.
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Udaću se kada ja to budem želela.
01:14
Even if you beat me,
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Čak i ako me biješ,
01:17
even if you chase me away,
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čak i ako me oteraš,
01:19
even if you do anything bad to me,
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čak i ako mi učiniš neko zlo,
01:22
I'll marry when I want.
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udaću se kad ja to budem želela.
01:26
I'll marry when I want,
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Udaću se kad ja to budem želela,
01:29
but not before I am well educated,
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ali ne pre nego što steknem dobro obrazovanje
01:33
and not before I am all grown up.
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i ne pre nego što sasvim odrastem.
01:37
I'll marry when I want."
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Udaću se kad ja to budem želela."
01:40
This poem might seem odd,
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Ova pesma možda zvuči neobično,
01:43
written by a 13-year-old girl,
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napisala ju je trinaestogodišnja devojčica,
01:47
but where I and Eileen come from,
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ali tamo odakle smo Ajlin i ja,
01:52
this poem, which I have just read to you,
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ova pesma koju sam vam upravo pročitala,
01:55
is a warrior's cry.
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predstavlja poklič ratnice.
01:59
I am from Malawi.
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Ja sam iz Malavija.
02:03
Malawi is one of the poorest countries,
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Malavi je jedna od najsiromašnijih zemalja,
02:07
very poor,
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veoma siromašna,
02:09
where gender equality is questionable.
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gde je jednakost polova pod znakom pitanja.
02:14
Growing up in that country,
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Odrastajući u toj zemlji,
02:16
I couldn't make my own choices in life.
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nisam imala pravo na sopstvene izbore u životu.
02:20
I couldn't even explore
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Nisam čak mogla istražiti
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personal opportunities in life.
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ni prilike koje su mi se ukazale u životu.
02:25
I will tell you a story
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Ispričaću vam priču
02:27
of two different girls,
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o dve različite devojčice,
02:30
two beautiful girls.
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dve prelepe devojčice.
02:34
These girls grew up
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Ove devojčice su odrasle
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under the same roof.
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pod istim krovom.
02:38
They were eating the same food.
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Jele su istu hranu.
02:41
Sometimes, they would share clothes,
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Ponekad bi delile odeću,
02:44
and even shoes.
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čak i cipele.
02:46
But their lives ended up differently,
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Ali životi su im se razišli
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in two different paths.
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u dva različita pravca.
02:55
The other girl is my little sister.
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Ta druga devojčica je moja sestra.
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My little sister was only 11 years old
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Moja mlađa sestra je imala svega 11 godina
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when she got pregnant.
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kada je zatrudnela.
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It's a hurtful thing.
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To je štetna stvar.
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Not only did it hurt her, even me.
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Ne samo da je štetilo njoj, već i meni.
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I was going through a hard time as well.
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Ja sam takođe prolazila kroz težak period.
03:20
As it is in my culture,
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U mojoj kulturi,
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once you reach puberty stage,
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kada uđete u pubertet,
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you are supposed to go to initiation camps.
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treba da idete u kampove inicijacije.
03:30
In these initiation camps,
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U ovim kampovima inicijacije
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you are taught how to sexually please a man.
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uče vas kako da seksualno zadovoljite muškarca.
03:36
There is this special day,
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Postoji jedan poseban dan,
03:38
which they call "Very Special Day"
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zovu ga "Veoma poseban dan",
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where a man who is hired by the community
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kada muškarac koga odredi zajednica
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comes to the camp
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dolazi u kamp
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and sleeps with the little girls.
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i spava sa ovim devojčicama.
03:51
Imagine the trauma that these young girls
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Zamislite traumu
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go through every day.
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koju one svakodnevno doživljavaju.
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Most girls end up pregnant.
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Većina devojčica zatrudni.
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They even contract HIV and AIDS
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Čak budu zaražene HIV-om i AIDS-om
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and other sexually transmitted diseases.
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i drugim seksualno prenosivim bolestima.
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For my little sister, she ended up being pregnant.
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Moja mlađa sestra je zatrudnela.
04:12
Today, she's only 16 years old
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Danas, ona ima svega 16 godina
04:16
and she has three children.
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i troje dece.
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Her first marriage did not survive,
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Njen prvi brak nije uspeo,
04:23
nor did her second marriage.
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nije ni drugi.
04:26
On the other side, there is this girl.
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S druge strane, tu je i ona druga devojčica.
04:31
She's amazing.
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Ona je čudesna.
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(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
04:35
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
04:39
I call her amazing because she is.
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Kažem čudesna, jer ona to zaista jeste.
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She's very fabulous.
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Ona je neverovatna.
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That girl is me. (Laughter)
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Ta devojčica sam ja. (Smeh)
04:48
When I was 13 years old,
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Kada sam imala 13 godina,
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I was told, you are grown up,
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rekli su mi: "Odrasla si,
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you have now reached of age,
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sad si postala punoletna,
04:58
you're supposed to go to the initiation camp.
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treba da ideš u kamp inicijacije".
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I was like, "What?
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Rekoh: "Šta?
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I'm not going to go to the initiation camps."
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Ne idem u kamp inicijacije."
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You know what the women said to me?
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Znate li šta su mi žene rekle?
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"You are a stupid girl. Stubborn.
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"Ti si glupa devojčica. Tvrdoglava.
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You do not respect the traditions of our society, of our community."
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Ne poštuješ tradiciju našeg društva, naše zajednice."
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I said no because I knew where I was going.
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Rekla sam ne, jer sam znala kojim putem treba da idem.
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I knew what I wanted in life.
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Znala sam šta želim u životu.
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I had a lot of dreams as a young girl.
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Kao devojčica, imala sam mnogo snova.
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I wanted to get well educated,
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Želela sam dobro obrazovanje,
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to find a decent job in the future.
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da u budućnosti nađem pristojan posao.
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I was imagining myself as a lawyer,
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Zamišljala sam sebe kao advokata
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seated on that big chair.
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koji sedi na onoj velikoj stolici.
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Those were the imaginations that
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To su bile slike
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were going through my mind every day.
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koje su mi se vrzmale po glavi svakog dana.
05:52
And I knew that one day,
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I znala sam da ću jednog dana
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I would contribute something, a little something to my community.
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dati svoj doprinos, mali doprinos, svojoj zajednici.
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But every day after refusing,
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Ali svakog dana nakon mog odbijanja,
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women would tell me,
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žene bi mi govorile:
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"Look at you, you're all grown up. Your little sister has a baby.
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"Pogledaj se, potpuno si odrasla, Tvoja mlađa sestra ima bebu.
06:06
What about you?"
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A ti?"
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That was the music that I was hearing every day,
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To je bila pesma koju sam slušala svakog dana.
06:13
and that is the music that girls hear every day
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To je pesma koju devojčice slušaju svakog dana
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when they don't do something that the community needs them to do.
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kada ne urade ono što njihova zajednica traži od njih.
06:23
When I compared the two stories between me and my sister,
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Kada sam uporedila ove dve priče, svoju i sestrinu,
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I said, "Why can't I do something?
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rekla sam: "Zašto ne bih preduzela nešto?
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Why can't I change something that has happened for a long time
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Zašto ne bih promenila nešto što se toliko dugo događa
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in our community?"
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u našoj zajednici?"
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That was when I called other girls
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Tada sam pozvala druge devojčice
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just like my sister, who have children,
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koje, kao i moja sestra, imaju decu,
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who have been in class but they have forgotten how to read and write.
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koje su išle u školu, ali su zaboravile da čitaju i pišu.
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I said, "Come on, we can remind each other
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Rekoh: "Hajde, možemo podsetiti jedna drugu
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how to read and write again,
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kako se čita i piše,
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how to hold the pen, how to read, to hold the book."
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kako se drži olovka, kako se čita, drži knjiga."
06:56
It was a great time I had with them.
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Divno sam se provodila s njima.
06:59
Nor did I just learn a little about them,
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Ne samo da sam saznala ponešto o njima,
07:04
but they were able to tell me their personal stories,
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već su bile u mogućnosti da mi ispričaju i svoje intimne priče
07:07
what they were facing every day
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koje svakodnevno proživljavaju
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as young mothers.
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kao mlade majke.
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That was when I was like,
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Tada sam pomislila:
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'Why can't we take all these things that are happening to us
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"Zašto ne bismo sve ovo što nam se događa
07:17
and present them and tell our mothers, our traditional leaders,
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saopštile svojim majkama, našim tradicionalnim vođama
07:21
that these are the wrong things?"
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i rekle im da su to pogrešne stvari?"
07:23
It was a scary thing to do,
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Bilo je zastrašujuće to učiniti
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because these traditional leaders,
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zato što su tradicionalne vođe
07:27
they are already accustomed to the things
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već naviknute na ove stvari
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that have been there for ages.
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koje se oduvek događaju.
07:32
A hard thing to change,
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To je teško promeniti.
07:34
but a good thing to try.
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ali je dobro pokušati.
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So we tried.
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Pa smo pokušale.
07:39
It was very hard, but we pushed.
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Bilo je veoma teško, ali smo vršile pritisak.
07:42
And I'm here to say that in my community,
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I ovde sam da vam kažem da u mojoj zajednici,
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it was the first community after girls
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prvi put nakon što su devojčice
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pushed so hard to our traditional leader,
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vršile jak pritisak na naše tradicionalne vođe,
07:51
and our leader stood up for us and said no girl has to be married
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naše vođe su nas podržale i rekle da ni jedna devojčica ne mora da se uda
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before the age of 18.
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pre svoje 18. godine.
07:57
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
08:05
In my community,
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U mojoj zajednici,
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that was the first time a community,
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prvi put je zajednica
08:09
they had to call the bylaws,
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morala da usvoji zakone,
08:12
the first bylaw that protected girls
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prvi zakon koji štiti devojčice
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in our community.
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u našoj zajednici.
08:18
We did not stop there.
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Nismo se ovde zaustavile.
08:19
We forged ahead.
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Nastavile smo dalje.
08:22
We were determined to fight for girls not just in my community,
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Bile smo odlučne da se borimo za devojčice ne samo u mojoj zajednici,
08:26
but even in other communities.
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već i u drugim zajednicama.
08:29
When the child marriage bill was being presented in February,
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Kada se u februaru raspravljalo o predlogu zakona o dečijem braku,
08:33
we were there at the Parliament house.
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bile smo tamo, ispred Skupštine.
08:37
Every day, when the members of Parliament were entering,
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Svakog dana, kada su poslanici ulazili u zgradu,
08:41
we were telling them, "Would you please support the bill?"
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mi smo im govorile: "Molimo vas podržite ovaj predlog zakona."
08:44
And we don't have much technology like here,
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Tamo nemamo mnogo tehnoloških naprava kao ovde,
08:49
but we have our small phones.
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ali imamo svoje male telefone.
08:51
So we said, "Why can't we get their numbers and text them?"
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Pa smo rekle: "Zašto ne bismo nabavile njihove brojeve i slale im SMS poruke?"
08:56
So we did that. It was a good thing.
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Tako smo i uradile. Dobra stvar.
08:59
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
09:01
So when the bill passed, we texted them back,
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I kada je zakon bio izglasan poslale smo im poruku:
09:04
"Thank you for supporting the bill."
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"Hvala vam što ste podržali predlog zakona."
09:06
(Laughter)
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(Smeh)
09:07
And when the bill was signed by the president,
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A kada je predsednik potpisao zakon
09:11
making it into law, it was a plus.
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i učinio ga pravosnažnim, to je bio plus.
09:14
Now, in Malawi, 18 is the legal marriage age, from 15 to 18.
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U Malaviju je sada zakonska granica za stupanje u brak 18 godina, od 15 do 18.
09:20
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
09:26
It's a good thing to know that the bill passed,
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Dobro je znati da je zakon usvojen,
09:30
but let me tell you this:
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ali reći ću vam ovo:
09:33
There are countries where 18 is the legal marriage age,
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Postoje zemlje gde je zakonska granica za stupanje u brak 18 godina,
09:37
but don't we hear cries of women and girls every day?
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ali zar ne čujemo svakodnevne vapaje žena i devojčica?
09:41
Every day, girls' lives are being wasted away.
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Svakog dana traće se životi devojčica.
09:47
This is high time for leaders to honor their commitment.
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Krajnje je vreme da vođe počnu da poštuju svoju obavezu.
09:53
In honoring this commitment,
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Poštovanje ove obaveze,
09:56
it means keeping girls' issues at heart every time.
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podrazumeva da stalno imaju na umu probleme devojčica.
10:01
We don't have to be subjected as second,
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Ne moramo biti podređene kao drugorazredna bića.
10:05
but they have to know that women, as we are in this room,
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Moraju znati da žene, poput nas u ovoj sali,
10:09
we are not just women, we are not just girls,
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mi nismo samo žene, mi nismo samo devojčice,
10:13
we are extraordinary.
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mi smo izvanredne.
10:14
We can do more.
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Mi možemo učiniti više.
10:16
And another thing for Malawi,
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I još jedna stvar u vezi sa Malavijem,
10:19
and not just Malawi but other countries:
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i ne samo Malavijem, već i drugim zemljama.
10:22
The laws which are there,
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Zakoni koji postoje,
10:26
you know how a law is not a law until it is enforced?
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znate da zakon nije zakon sve dok se ne primenjuje?
10:32
The law which has just recently passed
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Zakon koji je tek nedavno usvojen
10:35
and the laws that in other countries have been there,
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i zakoni koji postoje u drugim zemljama
10:38
they need to be publicized at the local level,
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moraju biti promovisani na lokalnom nivou,
10:42
at the community level,
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na nivou zajednice,
10:44
where girls' issues are very striking.
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gde su problemi devojčica veoma uočljivi.
10:49
Girls face issues, difficult issues, at the community level every day.
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Devojčice se svakodnevno susreću sa teškim problemima, na nivou zajednice.
10:55
So if these young girls know that there are laws that protect them,
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Ako ove devojčice budu znale da postoje zakoni koji ih štite
11:00
they will be able to stand up and defend themselves
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moći će da se pobune i odbrane
11:03
because they will know that there is a law that protects them.
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jer će znati da postoji zakon koji ih štiti.
11:09
And another thing I would say is that
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I rekla bih još da su
11:13
girls' voices and women's voices
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glasovi devojčica i glasovi žena
11:17
are beautiful, they are there,
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divni, oni su prisutni,
11:20
but we cannot do this alone.
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ali ovo ne možemo uraditi same.
11:23
Male advocates, they have to jump in,
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Muški zastupnici, moraju uskočiti,
11:26
to step in and work together.
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priključiti se, da radimo zajedno.
11:28
It's a collective work.
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To je zajednički posao.
11:31
What we need is what girls elsewhere need:
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Potrebno nam je ono što i drugim devojčicama:
11:33
good education, and above all, not to marry whilst 11.
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dobro obrazovanje, i iznad svega, da se ne udajemo sa 11 godina.
11:42
And furthermore,
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I još,
11:44
I know that together,
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znam da zajedno
11:48
we can transform the legal,
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možemo promeniti pravni,
11:51
the cultural and political framework
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kulturni i politički okvir
11:55
that denies girls of their rights.
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koji osporava prava devojčica.
11:59
I am standing here today
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Stojim danas ovde
12:04
and declaring that we can end child marriage in a generation.
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i tvrdim da možemo okončati dečije brakove u jednoj generaciji.
12:12
This is the moment
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Ovo je trenutak
12:14
where a girl and a girl, and millions of girls worldwide,
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kada će jedna devojčica i druga i milioni devojčica širom sveta
12:19
will be able to say,
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moći da kažu:
12:21
"I will marry when I want."
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"Udaću se kad ja to budem želela."
12:25
(Applause)
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(Aplauz)
12:35
Thank you. (Applause)
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Hvala. (Aplauz)
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