Memory Banda: A Warrior’s Cry Against Child Marriage | TED

Prevodilac: Jasmina Francuski Lektor: Mile Živković

I'll begin today

Počeću danas

by sharing a poem

tako što ću vam pročitati pesmu

written by my friend from Malawi,

koju je napisala moja prijateljica iz Malavija

Eileen Piri.

Ajlin Piri.

Eileen is only 13 years old,

Ajlin ima svega 13 godina,

but when we were going through the collection of poetry that we wrote,

ali kada smo pregledale pesme koje smo napisale,

I found her poem so interesting,

njena pesma mi se učinila veoma zanimljivom,

so motivating.

tako podsticajnom,

So I'll read it to you.

pa ću vam je pročitati.

She entitled her poem "I'll Marry When I Want."

Svoju pesmu je naslovila: "Udaću se kad ja to budem želela".

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

"I'll marry when I want.

"Udaću se kad ja to budem želela.

My mother can't force me to marry.

Moja majka me ne može prisiliti da se udam.

My father cannot force me to marry.

Moj otac me ne može prisiliti da se udam.

My uncle, my aunt,

Moj stric, moja strina,

my brother or sister,

moj brat ili sestra,

cannot force me to marry.

ne mogu me prisiliti da se udam.

No one in the world

Niko na svetu

can force me to marry.

ne može me prisiliti da se udam.

I'll marry when I want.

Udaću se kada ja to budem želela.

Even if you beat me,

Čak i ako me biješ,

even if you chase me away,

čak i ako me oteraš,

even if you do anything bad to me,

čak i ako mi učiniš neko zlo,

I'll marry when I want.

udaću se kad ja to budem želela.

I'll marry when I want,

Udaću se kad ja to budem želela,

but not before I am well educated,

ali ne pre nego što steknem dobro obrazovanje

and not before I am all grown up.

i ne pre nego što sasvim odrastem.

I'll marry when I want."

Udaću se kad ja to budem želela."

This poem might seem odd,

Ova pesma možda zvuči neobično,

written by a 13-year-old girl,

napisala ju je trinaestogodišnja devojčica,

but where I and Eileen come from,

ali tamo odakle smo Ajlin i ja,

this poem, which I have just read to you,

ova pesma koju sam vam upravo pročitala,

is a warrior's cry.

predstavlja poklič ratnice.

I am from Malawi.

Ja sam iz Malavija.

Malawi is one of the poorest countries,

Malavi je jedna od najsiromašnijih zemalja,

very poor,

veoma siromašna,

where gender equality is questionable.

gde je jednakost polova pod znakom pitanja.

Growing up in that country,

Odrastajući u toj zemlji,

I couldn't make my own choices in life.

nisam imala pravo na sopstvene izbore u životu.

I couldn't even explore

Nisam čak mogla istražiti

personal opportunities in life.

ni prilike koje su mi se ukazale u životu.

I will tell you a story

Ispričaću vam priču

of two different girls,

o dve različite devojčice,

two beautiful girls.

dve prelepe devojčice.

These girls grew up

Ove devojčice su odrasle

under the same roof.

pod istim krovom.

They were eating the same food.

Jele su istu hranu.

Sometimes, they would share clothes,

Ponekad bi delile odeću,

and even shoes.

čak i cipele.

But their lives ended up differently,

Ali životi su im se razišli

in two different paths.

u dva različita pravca.

The other girl is my little sister.

Ta druga devojčica je moja sestra.

My little sister was only 11 years old

Moja mlađa sestra je imala svega 11 godina

when she got pregnant.

kada je zatrudnela.

It's a hurtful thing.

To je štetna stvar.

Not only did it hurt her, even me.

Ne samo da je štetilo njoj, već i meni.

I was going through a hard time as well.

Ja sam takođe prolazila kroz težak period.

As it is in my culture,

U mojoj kulturi,

once you reach puberty stage,

kada uđete u pubertet,

you are supposed to go to initiation camps.

treba da idete u kampove inicijacije.

In these initiation camps,

U ovim kampovima inicijacije

you are taught how to sexually please a man.

uče vas kako da seksualno zadovoljite muškarca.

There is this special day,

Postoji jedan poseban dan,

which they call "Very Special Day"

zovu ga "Veoma poseban dan",

where a man who is hired by the community

kada muškarac koga odredi zajednica

comes to the camp

dolazi u kamp

and sleeps with the little girls.

i spava sa ovim devojčicama.

Imagine the trauma that these young girls

Zamislite traumu

go through every day.

koju one svakodnevno doživljavaju.

Most girls end up pregnant.

Većina devojčica zatrudni.

They even contract HIV and AIDS

Čak budu zaražene HIV-om i AIDS-om

and other sexually transmitted diseases.

i drugim seksualno prenosivim bolestima.

For my little sister, she ended up being pregnant.

Moja mlađa sestra je zatrudnela.

Today, she's only 16 years old

Danas, ona ima svega 16 godina

and she has three children.

i troje dece.

Her first marriage did not survive,

Njen prvi brak nije uspeo,

nor did her second marriage.

nije ni drugi.

On the other side, there is this girl.

S druge strane, tu je i ona druga devojčica.

She's amazing.

Ona je čudesna.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

I call her amazing because she is.

Kažem čudesna, jer ona to zaista jeste.

She's very fabulous.

Ona je neverovatna.

That girl is me. (Laughter)

Ta devojčica sam ja. (Smeh)

When I was 13 years old,

Kada sam imala 13 godina,

I was told, you are grown up,

rekli su mi: "Odrasla si,

you have now reached of age,

sad si postala punoletna,

you're supposed to go to the initiation camp.

treba da ideš u kamp inicijacije".

I was like, "What?

Rekoh: "Šta?

I'm not going to go to the initiation camps."

Ne idem u kamp inicijacije."

You know what the women said to me?

Znate li šta su mi žene rekle?

"You are a stupid girl. Stubborn.

"Ti si glupa devojčica. Tvrdoglava.

You do not respect the traditions of our society, of our community."

Ne poštuješ tradiciju našeg društva, naše zajednice."

I said no because I knew where I was going.

Rekla sam ne, jer sam znala kojim putem treba da idem.

I knew what I wanted in life.

Znala sam šta želim u životu.

I had a lot of dreams as a young girl.

Kao devojčica, imala sam mnogo snova.

I wanted to get well educated,

Želela sam dobro obrazovanje,

to find a decent job in the future.

da u budućnosti nađem pristojan posao.

I was imagining myself as a lawyer,

Zamišljala sam sebe kao advokata

seated on that big chair.

koji sedi na onoj velikoj stolici.

Those were the imaginations that

To su bile slike

were going through my mind every day.

koje su mi se vrzmale po glavi svakog dana.

And I knew that one day,

I znala sam da ću jednog dana

I would contribute something, a little something to my community.

dati svoj doprinos, mali doprinos, svojoj zajednici.

But every day after refusing,

Ali svakog dana nakon mog odbijanja,

women would tell me,

žene bi mi govorile:

"Look at you, you're all grown up. Your little sister has a baby.

"Pogledaj se, potpuno si odrasla, Tvoja mlađa sestra ima bebu.

What about you?"

A ti?"

That was the music that I was hearing every day,

To je bila pesma koju sam slušala svakog dana.

and that is the music that girls hear every day

To je pesma koju devojčice slušaju svakog dana

when they don't do something that the community needs them to do.

kada ne urade ono što njihova zajednica traži od njih.

When I compared the two stories between me and my sister,

Kada sam uporedila ove dve priče, svoju i sestrinu,

I said, "Why can't I do something?

rekla sam: "Zašto ne bih preduzela nešto?

Why can't I change something that has happened for a long time

Zašto ne bih promenila nešto što se toliko dugo događa

in our community?"

u našoj zajednici?"

That was when I called other girls

Tada sam pozvala druge devojčice

just like my sister, who have children,

koje, kao i moja sestra, imaju decu,

who have been in class but they have forgotten how to read and write.

koje su išle u školu, ali su zaboravile da čitaju i pišu.

I said, "Come on, we can remind each other

Rekoh: "Hajde, možemo podsetiti jedna drugu

how to read and write again,

kako se čita i piše,

how to hold the pen, how to read, to hold the book."

kako se drži olovka, kako se čita, drži knjiga."

It was a great time I had with them.

Divno sam se provodila s njima.

Nor did I just learn a little about them,

Ne samo da sam saznala ponešto o njima,

but they were able to tell me their personal stories,

već su bile u mogućnosti da mi ispričaju i svoje intimne priče

what they were facing every day

koje svakodnevno proživljavaju

as young mothers.

kao mlade majke.

That was when I was like,

Tada sam pomislila:

'Why can't we take all these things that are happening to us

"Zašto ne bismo sve ovo što nam se događa

and present them and tell our mothers, our traditional leaders,

saopštile svojim majkama, našim tradicionalnim vođama

that these are the wrong things?"

i rekle im da su to pogrešne stvari?"

It was a scary thing to do,

Bilo je zastrašujuće to učiniti

because these traditional leaders,

zato što su tradicionalne vođe

they are already accustomed to the things

već naviknute na ove stvari

that have been there for ages.

koje se oduvek događaju.

A hard thing to change,

To je teško promeniti.

but a good thing to try.

ali je dobro pokušati.

So we tried.

Pa smo pokušale.

It was very hard, but we pushed.

Bilo je veoma teško, ali smo vršile pritisak.

And I'm here to say that in my community,

I ovde sam da vam kažem da u mojoj zajednici,

it was the first community after girls

prvi put nakon što su devojčice

pushed so hard to our traditional leader,

vršile jak pritisak na naše tradicionalne vođe,

and our leader stood up for us and said no girl has to be married

naše vođe su nas podržale i rekle da ni jedna devojčica ne mora da se uda

before the age of 18.

pre svoje 18. godine.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

In my community,

U mojoj zajednici,

that was the first time a community,

prvi put je zajednica

they had to call the bylaws,

morala da usvoji zakone,

the first bylaw that protected girls

prvi zakon koji štiti devojčice

in our community.

u našoj zajednici.

We did not stop there.

Nismo se ovde zaustavile.

We forged ahead.

Nastavile smo dalje.

We were determined to fight for girls not just in my community,

Bile smo odlučne da se borimo za devojčice ne samo u mojoj zajednici,

but even in other communities.

već i u drugim zajednicama.

When the child marriage bill was being presented in February,

Kada se u februaru raspravljalo o predlogu zakona o dečijem braku,

we were there at the Parliament house.

bile smo tamo, ispred Skupštine.

Every day, when the members of Parliament were entering,

Svakog dana, kada su poslanici ulazili u zgradu,

we were telling them, "Would you please support the bill?"

mi smo im govorile: "Molimo vas podržite ovaj predlog zakona."

And we don't have much technology like here,

Tamo nemamo mnogo tehnoloških naprava kao ovde,

but we have our small phones.

ali imamo svoje male telefone.

So we said, "Why can't we get their numbers and text them?"

Pa smo rekle: "Zašto ne bismo nabavile njihove brojeve i slale im SMS poruke?"

So we did that. It was a good thing.

Tako smo i uradile. Dobra stvar.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

So when the bill passed, we texted them back,

I kada je zakon bio izglasan poslale smo im poruku:

"Thank you for supporting the bill."

"Hvala vam što ste podržali predlog zakona."

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

And when the bill was signed by the president,

A kada je predsednik potpisao zakon

making it into law, it was a plus.

i učinio ga pravosnažnim, to je bio plus.

Now, in Malawi, 18 is the legal marriage age, from 15 to 18.

U Malaviju je sada zakonska granica za stupanje u brak 18 godina, od 15 do 18.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

It's a good thing to know that the bill passed,

Dobro je znati da je zakon usvojen,

but let me tell you this:

ali reći ću vam ovo:

There are countries where 18 is the legal marriage age,

Postoje zemlje gde je zakonska granica za stupanje u brak 18 godina,

but don't we hear cries of women and girls every day?

ali zar ne čujemo svakodnevne vapaje žena i devojčica?

Every day, girls' lives are being wasted away.

Svakog dana traće se životi devojčica.

This is high time for leaders to honor their commitment.

Krajnje je vreme da vođe počnu da poštuju svoju obavezu.

In honoring this commitment,

Poštovanje ove obaveze,

it means keeping girls' issues at heart every time.

podrazumeva da stalno imaju na umu probleme devojčica.

We don't have to be subjected as second,

Ne moramo biti podređene kao drugorazredna bića.

but they have to know that women, as we are in this room,

Moraju znati da žene, poput nas u ovoj sali,

we are not just women, we are not just girls,

mi nismo samo žene, mi nismo samo devojčice,

we are extraordinary.

mi smo izvanredne.

We can do more.

Mi možemo učiniti više.

And another thing for Malawi,

I još jedna stvar u vezi sa Malavijem,

and not just Malawi but other countries:

i ne samo Malavijem, već i drugim zemljama.

The laws which are there,

Zakoni koji postoje,

you know how a law is not a law until it is enforced?

znate da zakon nije zakon sve dok se ne primenjuje?

The law which has just recently passed

Zakon koji je tek nedavno usvojen

and the laws that in other countries have been there,

i zakoni koji postoje u drugim zemljama

they need to be publicized at the local level,

moraju biti promovisani na lokalnom nivou,

at the community level,

na nivou zajednice,

where girls' issues are very striking.

gde su problemi devojčica veoma uočljivi.

Girls face issues, difficult issues, at the community level every day.

Devojčice se svakodnevno susreću sa teškim problemima, na nivou zajednice.

So if these young girls know that there are laws that protect them,

Ako ove devojčice budu znale da postoje zakoni koji ih štite

they will be able to stand up and defend themselves

moći će da se pobune i odbrane

because they will know that there is a law that protects them.

jer će znati da postoji zakon koji ih štiti.

And another thing I would say is that

I rekla bih još da su

girls' voices and women's voices

glasovi devojčica i glasovi žena

are beautiful, they are there,

divni, oni su prisutni,

but we cannot do this alone.

ali ovo ne možemo uraditi same.

Male advocates, they have to jump in,

Muški zastupnici, moraju uskočiti,

to step in and work together.

priključiti se, da radimo zajedno.

It's a collective work.

To je zajednički posao.

What we need is what girls elsewhere need:

Potrebno nam je ono što i drugim devojčicama:

good education, and above all, not to marry whilst 11.

dobro obrazovanje, i iznad svega, da se ne udajemo sa 11 godina.

And furthermore,

I još,

I know that together,

znam da zajedno

we can transform the legal,

možemo promeniti pravni,

the cultural and political framework

kulturni i politički okvir

that denies girls of their rights.

koji osporava prava devojčica.

I am standing here today

Stojim danas ovde

and declaring that we can end child marriage in a generation.

i tvrdim da možemo okončati dečije brakove u jednoj generaciji.

This is the moment

Ovo je trenutak

where a girl and a girl, and millions of girls worldwide,

kada će jedna devojčica i druga i milioni devojčica širom sveta

will be able to say,

moći da kažu:

"I will marry when I want."

"Udaću se kad ja to budem želela."

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

Thank you. (Applause)

Hvala. (Aplauz)