Memory Banda: A Warrior’s Cry Against Child Marriage | TED

Prevoditelj: Maja Covic Recezent: Ivan Stamenković

I'll begin today

Započet ću

by sharing a poem

tako što ću podijeliti s vama jednu pjesmu

written by my friend from Malawi,

koju je napisala moja prijateljica iz Malavija,

Eileen Piri.

Eileen Piri.

Eileen is only 13 years old,

Eileen ima tek 13 godina,

but when we were going through the collection of poetry that we wrote,

ali kada smo prolazili kroz zbirku poezije koju smo napisali,

I found her poem so interesting,

njena pjesma me toliko zaintrigirala,

so motivating.

i motivirala.

So I'll read it to you.

Pročitat ću je.

She entitled her poem "I'll Marry When I Want."

Naslovila ju je "Udat ću se kada ja to želim".

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

"I'll marry when I want.

"Udat ću se kada ja to želim.

My mother can't force me to marry.

Moja majka me ne može prisiliti na udaju.

My father cannot force me to marry.

Moj otac me ne može prisiliti na udaju.

My uncle, my aunt,

Moj ujak, moja ujna,

my brother or sister,

moj brat ili sestra,

cannot force me to marry.

ne mogu me prisiliti da se udam.

No one in the world

Nitko na ovom svijetu

can force me to marry.

ne može me prisiliti da se udam.

I'll marry when I want.

Udat ću se kada ja to želim.

Even if you beat me,

Čak i ako me tučete,

even if you chase me away,

čak i ako me naganjate,

even if you do anything bad to me,

čak i ako mi učinite išta loše,

I'll marry when I want.

udat ću se kada ja to želim.

I'll marry when I want,

Udat ću se kada ja to želim,

but not before I am well educated,

no ne prije nego što se dobro obrazujem,

and not before I am all grown up.

i ne prije nego što potpuno odrastem.

I'll marry when I want."

Udat ću se kada ja to želim."

This poem might seem odd,

Ova pjesma vam se može učiniti neobična,

written by a 13-year-old girl,

s obzirom da ju je napisala trinaestogodišnjakinja,

but where I and Eileen come from,

no tamo odakle ja i Eileen dolazimo,

this poem, which I have just read to you,

ova pjesma koju sam vam upravo pročitala,

is a warrior's cry.

je bojni poklik.

I am from Malawi.

Ja sam iz Malavija.

Malawi is one of the poorest countries,

Malavi je jedna od najsiromašnijih zemalja,

very poor,

jako siromašna,

where gender equality is questionable.

gdje je ravnopravnost spolova upitna.

Growing up in that country,

Odrastajući u toj zemlji,

I couldn't make my own choices in life.

nisam mogla sama donositi svoje životne odluke.

I couldn't even explore

Čak nisam mogla niti istraživati

personal opportunities in life.

osobne mogućnosti u životu.

I will tell you a story

Ispričat ću vam priču

of two different girls,

o dvije različite djevojčice,

two beautiful girls.

dvije predivne djevojčice.

These girls grew up

Te djevojčice odrasle su

under the same roof.

pod istim krovom.

They were eating the same food.

Jele su istu hranu.

Sometimes, they would share clothes,

Ponekad bi dijelile odjeću,

and even shoes.

čak i cipele.

But their lives ended up differently,

No njihovi životi su se na kraju razišli,

in two different paths.

krenuli u dva različita smjera.

The other girl is my little sister.

Druga djevojčica je moja mlađa sestra.

My little sister was only 11 years old

Imala je samo 11 godina

when she got pregnant.

kada je zatrudnjela.

It's a hurtful thing.

To je jako bolno.

Not only did it hurt her, even me.

Nije povrijedilo samo nju, već i mene.

I was going through a hard time as well.

I ja sam prolazila kroz težak period.

As it is in my culture,

U mojoj kulturi je normalno da

once you reach puberty stage,

kada djevojčica uđe u pubertet,

you are supposed to go to initiation camps.

mora krenuti u inicijacijski kamp.

In these initiation camps,

U tim kampovima,

you are taught how to sexually please a man.

uči vas se kako seksualno zadovoljiti muškarca.

There is this special day,

Postoji jedan poseban dan,

which they call "Very Special Day"

koji nazivaju "Jako poseban dan"

where a man who is hired by the community

kada muškarac kojeg je angažirala zajednica

comes to the camp

dođe u kamp

and sleeps with the little girls.

i spava s djevojčicama.

Imagine the trauma that these young girls

Zamislite traume koje te djevojčice

go through every day.

doživljavaju svaki dan.

Most girls end up pregnant.

Većina njih zatrudni.

They even contract HIV and AIDS

Čak obole od HIV-a i side

and other sexually transmitted diseases.

i drugih spolno prenosivih bolesti.

For my little sister, she ended up being pregnant.

Moja mlađa sestra je zatrudnjela.

Today, she's only 16 years old

Danas ima samo 16 godina

and she has three children.

i ima troje djece.

Her first marriage did not survive,

Njen prvi brak nije uspio,

nor did her second marriage.

kao ni njen drugi brak.

On the other side, there is this girl.

S druge strane, postoji jedna druga djevojka.

She's amazing.

Fenomenalna je.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

(Applause)

(Pljesak)

I call her amazing because she is.

Kažem da je fenomenalna jer je to istina.

She's very fabulous.

Sjajna je.

That girl is me. (Laughter)

Ta djevojka sam ja. (Smijeh)

When I was 13 years old,

Kada sam imala 13 godina,

I was told, you are grown up,

bilo mi je rečeno da sam odrasla,

you have now reached of age,

da sam postala punoljetna,

you're supposed to go to the initiation camp.

i da bih trebala otići u inicijacijski kamp.

I was like, "What?

Moj odgovor je bio, "Što?

I'm not going to go to the initiation camps."

Neću ići u inicijacijske kampove."

You know what the women said to me?

Znate li što su mi govorile žene?

"You are a stupid girl. Stubborn.

"Glupa si. Tvrdoglava.

You do not respect the traditions of our society, of our community."

Ne poštuješ tradicije našeg društva i zajednice."

I said no because I knew where I was going.

Odbila sam jer sam znala kamo idem.

I knew what I wanted in life.

Znala sam što želim u životu.

I had a lot of dreams as a young girl.

Kao djevojčica imala sam mnogo snova.

I wanted to get well educated,

Željela sam se dobro obrazovati,

to find a decent job in the future.

i pronaći neki dobar posao.

I was imagining myself as a lawyer,

Zamišljala sam se kao odvjetnicu,

seated on that big chair.

kako sjedim na ovoj velikoj stolici.

Those were the imaginations that

To su bile maštarije

were going through my mind every day.

koje su mi se vrtile po glavi svaki dan.

And I knew that one day,

I znala sam da ću jednoga dana

I would contribute something, a little something to my community.

pridonijeti nečemu, nekoj maloj stvari u mojoj zajednici.

But every day after refusing,

No svaki dan nakon mog odbijanja,

women would tell me,

žene bi mi govorile,

"Look at you, you're all grown up. Your little sister has a baby.

"Pogledaj se, sva si već odrasla. Tvoja mlađa sestra ima bebu.

What about you?"

Što je s tobom?"

That was the music that I was hearing every day,

To je bila glazba koju sam slušala svaki dan,

and that is the music that girls hear every day

i koju svaki dan slušaju djevojke

when they don't do something that the community needs them to do.

kada ne učine nešto što od njih zahtijeva zajednica.

When I compared the two stories between me and my sister,

Kada sam usporedila dvije priče moje sestre i mene,

I said, "Why can't I do something?

pitala sam se zašto ne mogu nešto učiniti.

Why can't I change something that has happened for a long time

Zašto ne mogu promijeniti nešto što se već dugo vremena događa

in our community?"

u našoj zajednici.

That was when I called other girls

Tada sam pozvala druge djevojke

just like my sister, who have children,

koje, poput moje sestre, imaju djecu,

who have been in class but they have forgotten how to read and write.

koje su išle u školu, ali su zaboravile čitati i pisati.

I said, "Come on, we can remind each other

Rekla sam im "Hajde, možemo se zajedno podsjetiti

how to read and write again,

kako čitati i pisati,

how to hold the pen, how to read, to hold the book."

kako držati olovku, kako držati knjigu."

It was a great time I had with them.

Naše zajedničko vrijeme je bilo sjajno.

Nor did I just learn a little about them,

Nisam ih samo površno upoznala,

but they were able to tell me their personal stories,

već su mi one ispričale svoje osobne priče,

what they were facing every day

kroz što su prolazile svaki dan

as young mothers.

kao mlade majke.

That was when I was like,

Tada sam se upitala

'Why can't we take all these things that are happening to us

"Zašto ne možemo sve ove stvari koje nam se događaju

and present them and tell our mothers, our traditional leaders,

podijeliti s našim majkama, s tradicionalnim vođama,

that these are the wrong things?"

da uvide koliko su to loše stvari."

It was a scary thing to do,

To nije bilo jednostavno,

because these traditional leaders,

jer su ti tradicionalni vođe,

they are already accustomed to the things

već bili naviknuti na sve te stvari

that have been there for ages.

koje su se događale od pamtivijeka.

A hard thing to change,

Bilo je teško to promijeniti,

but a good thing to try.

ali je dobra stvar barem pokušati.

So we tried.

Pa smo probale.

It was very hard, but we pushed.

Bilo je vrlo teško, ali smo bile uporne.

And I'm here to say that in my community,

Sada sam ovdje da vam kažem za svoju zajednicu,

it was the first community after girls

koja je bila prva zajednica u kojoj se,

pushed so hard to our traditional leader,

nakon što su djevojke uporno gurale,

and our leader stood up for us and said no girl has to be married

naš vođa zauzeo za nas i rekao da se nijedna djevojka ne mora udati

before the age of 18.

prije nego što navrši 18 godina.

(Applause)

(Pljesak)

In my community,

U mojoj zajednici,

that was the first time a community,

to je bilo prvi puta

they had to call the bylaws,

da su morali donijeti uredbu,

the first bylaw that protected girls

prvu uredbu koja štiti djevojke

in our community.

u našoj zajednici.

We did not stop there.

Nismo stale na tome.

We forged ahead.

Gurale smo dalje.

We were determined to fight for girls not just in my community,

Bile smo odlučne u borbi za djevojke ne samo u mojoj zajednici,

but even in other communities.

već i u drugim zajednicama.

When the child marriage bill was being presented in February,

Kada se u veljači predstavljao prijedlog zakon o dječjem braku,

we were there at the Parliament house.

bile smo ispred Parlamenta.

Every day, when the members of Parliament were entering,

Svaki dan, kada su članovi Parlamenta ulazili u zgradu,

we were telling them, "Would you please support the bill?"

molile smo ih da podrže taj prijedlog zakon.

And we don't have much technology like here,

Nemamo toliko tehnologije kao vi ovdje,

but we have our small phones.

ali imamo malene telefone.

So we said, "Why can't we get their numbers and text them?"

Pa nam je sinulo da bismo mogle saznati njihove brojeve i poslati im poruke.

So we did that. It was a good thing.

To smo i napravile. To je bilo dobro.

(Applause)

(Pljesak)

So when the bill passed, we texted them back,

Kada je prijedlog zakon prošao, ponovo smo im poslale poruke,

"Thank you for supporting the bill."

zahvaljujući im što su ga podržali.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

And when the bill was signed by the president,

Kada ga je potpisao predsjednik,

making it into law, it was a plus.

i učinio ga zakonom, to je bila velika stvar.

Now, in Malawi, 18 is the legal marriage age, from 15 to 18.

Sada je u Malaviju 18 legalna dob za brak, od 15 do 18 godina.

(Applause)

(Pljesak)

It's a good thing to know that the bill passed,

Dobro je znati da je zakon prošao,

but let me tell you this:

no reći ću vam ovo:

There are countries where 18 is the legal marriage age,

postoje zemlje u kojima je 18 legalna dob za brak,

but don't we hear cries of women and girls every day?

no ne čujemo li vapaj žena i djevojaka svaki dan?

Every day, girls' lives are being wasted away.

Svaki dan trate se životi djevojaka.

This is high time for leaders to honor their commitment.

Krajnje je vrijeme da vođe poštuju svoju obavezu.

In honoring this commitment,

Poštivanje te obaveze

it means keeping girls' issues at heart every time.

znači uvijek imati na umu probleme djevojaka.

We don't have to be subjected as second,

Ne treba nas se pokoravati kao drugorazredne osobe,

but they have to know that women, as we are in this room,

nego trebaju znati da žene, poput nas u ovoj dvorani,

we are not just women, we are not just girls,

nismo samo žene, samo djevojke,

we are extraordinary.

mi smo posebne.

We can do more.

Možemo više.

And another thing for Malawi,

A druga stvar koja se tiče Malavija,

and not just Malawi but other countries:

i ne samo Malavija već i drugih zemalja:

The laws which are there,

zakoni postoje,

you know how a law is not a law until it is enforced?

ali znate da zakon nije zakon dok se ne provodi.

The law which has just recently passed

Zakon koji je tek nedavno prošao

and the laws that in other countries have been there,

postojeći zakoni u drugim zemljama,

they need to be publicized at the local level,

moraju biti objavljeni na lokalnoj razini,

at the community level,

na razini zajednice,

where girls' issues are very striking.

gdje su problemi djevojaka frapantni.

Girls face issues, difficult issues, at the community level every day.

Djevojke se u svojim zajednicama suočavaju s teškim problemima svaki dan.

So if these young girls know that there are laws that protect them,

Ako te mlade djevojke znaju da postoje zakoni koji ih štite,

they will be able to stand up and defend themselves

moći će se zauzeti za sebe i braniti se

because they will know that there is a law that protects them.

jer će znati da ih zakon štiti.

And another thing I would say is that

Još bih nadodala da su

girls' voices and women's voices

glasovi djevojaka i žena

are beautiful, they are there,

predivni, da postoje,

but we cannot do this alone.

ali same ne možemo mnogo učiniti.

Male advocates, they have to jump in,

Muški pobornici moraju se angažirati,

to step in and work together.

uskočiti i surađivati s nama.

It's a collective work.

To je zajednički posao.

What we need is what girls elsewhere need:

Trebamo isto što i sve druge djevojke trebaju:

good education, and above all, not to marry whilst 11.

dobro obrazovanje, i iznad svega, da se ne udamo s 11 godina.

And furthermore,

Nadalje,

I know that together,

znam da zajedno

we can transform the legal,

možemo izmijeniti pravni,

the cultural and political framework

kulturni i politički okvir

that denies girls of their rights.

koji liši djevojke njihovih prava.

I am standing here today

Danas stojim ovdje

and declaring that we can end child marriage in a generation.

i izjavljujem da možemo zaustaviti dječje brakove u jednoj generaciji.

This is the moment

Ovo je trenutak

where a girl and a girl, and millions of girls worldwide,

kada će jedna, dvije i milijuni djevojaka diljem svijeta

will be able to say,

moći reći,

"I will marry when I want."

"Udat ću se kada ja to želim."

(Applause)

(Pljesak)

Thank you. (Applause)

Hvala. (Pljesak)