Isabel Allende: How to live passionately—no matter your age | TED

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Hi, kids.

Zdravo, djeco.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

I'm 71.

Imam 71 godinu.

(Applause)

(Pljesak)

My husband is 76.

Moj suprug ima 76 godina.

My parents are in their late 90s,

Moji roditelji su u kasnim 90-im,

and Olivia, the dog, is 16.

a Olivia, pas, ima 16 godina.

So let's talk about aging.

Pričajmo o starenju.

Let me tell you how I feel

Dajte da ispričam kako se osjećam

when I see my wrinkles in the mirror

kada vidim svoje bore u zrcalu

and I realize that some parts of me have dropped

i shvatim da su se neki moji dijelovi opustili

and I can't find them down there.

i ne mogu ih naći tamo dolje.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

Mary Oliver says in one of her poems,

Mary Oliver kaže u jednoj od svojih pjesama:

"Tell me, what is it that you plan to do

"Reci mi, što je to što planiraš napraviti

with your one wild and precious life?"

sa svojim jedinim, neukrotivim i dragocjenim životom?"

Me, I intend to live passionately.

Ja, ja namjeravam živjeti strastveno.

When do we start aging?

Kada počinjemo stariti?

Society decides when we are old,

Društvo određuje kada smo stari,

usually around 65, when we get Medicare,

obično oko 65, kada dobivamo staračku zdravstvenu zaštitu,

but we really start aging at birth.

ali mi zapravo počinjemo stariti od rođenja.

We are aging right now,

Mi starimo upravo sada,

and we all experience it differently.

i svi mi to doživljavamo drukčije.

We all feel younger than our real age,

Svi mi se osjećamo mlađim od naših stvarnih godina,

because the spirit never ages.

jer duh nikada ne stari.

I am still 17.

Ja još uvijek imam 17 godina.

Sophia Loren. Look at her.

Sophia Loren. Pogledajte je.

She says that everything you see

Ona kaže da sve što vidite

she owes to spaghetti.

duguje špagetima.

I tried it and gained 10 pounds

Pokušala sam i dobila 5 kila

in the wrong places.

na krivim mjestima.

But attitude, aging is also attitude and health.

Ali stav, starenje je također stav i zdravlje.

But my real mentor in this journey of aging

Ali moj pravi mentor na ovom putovanju starenja

is Olga Murray.

je Olga Murray.

This California girl at 60

Ova djevojka iz Kalifornije je u 60-oj

started working in Nepal to save young girls

počela raditi u Nepalu kako bi spasila mlade djevojke

from domestic bondage.

od kućnog ropstva.

At 88, she has saved 12,000 girls,

U 88-oj, spasila je 12 000 djevojaka,

and she has changed the culture in the country.

i promijenila je kulturu u toj zemlji.

(Applause)

(Pljesak)

Now it is illegal for fathers

Sada je protuzakonito da očevi

to sell their daughters into servitude.

prodaju svoje kćeri u ropstvo.

She has also founded orphanages

Također je osnovala sirotišta

and nutritional clinics.

i nutricionističke klinike.

She is always happy

Uvijek je sretna

and eternally young.

i vječno mlada.

What have I lost in the last decades?

Što sam izgubila proteklih desetljeća?

People, of course,

Ljude, naravno,

places, and the boundless energy of my youth,

mjesta, i beskrajnu energiju moje mladosti,

and I'm beginning to lose independence,

i počinjem gubiti neovisnost,

and that scares me.

i to me plaši.

Ram Dass says that dependency hurts,

Ram Dass kaže kako ovisnost boli,

but if you accept it, there is less suffering.

ali ako je prihvatite, onda ima manje patnje.

After a very bad stroke,

Nakon vrlo teškog infarkta,

his ageless soul watches the changes

njegova bezvremena duša promatra promjene

in the body with tenderness,

u tijelu s nježnošću,

and he is grateful to the people who help him.

i zahvalan je ljudima koji mu pomažu.

What have I gained?

Što sam dobila?

Freedom: I don't have to prove anything anymore.

Slobodu: ne moram više ništa dokazivati.

I'm not stuck in the idea of who I was,

Nisam zarobljena u ideji onoga što sam bila,

who I want to be,

onoga što želim biti,

or what other people expect me to be.

ili što drugi ljudi očekuju da budem.

I don't have to please men anymore,

Ne moram više udovoljavati muškarcima,

only animals.

samo životinjama.

I keep telling my superego to back off

Uporno govorim svom super-egu da se povuče

and let me enjoy what I still have.

i pusti me da uživam u onome što još uvijek imam.

My body may be falling apart,

Moje tijelo se možda raspada,

but my brain is not, yet.

ali moj mozak ne, još uvijek.

I love my brain.

Ja volim svoj ​​mozak.

I feel lighter.

Laknulo mi je.

I don't carry grudges, ambition, vanity,

Ne nosim sa sobom kivnost, ambiciju, sujetu,

none of the deadly sins that are not even

niti jedan od smrtnih grijeha koji čak

worth the trouble.

nisu ni vrijedni truda.

It's great to let go.

Divno je pustiti.

I should have started sooner.

Trebalo je početi ranije.

And I also feel softer

Također se osjećam mekanija

because I'm not scared of being vulnerable.

jer se ne bojim da budem ranjiva.

I don't see it as weakness anymore.

Ne vidim to više kao slabost.

And I've gained spirituality.

I stekla sam duhovnost.

I'm aware that before,

Svjesna sam da je ranije,

death was in the neighborhood.

smrt bila u četvrti.

Now, it's next door, or in my house.

Sada, ona je vrata do mene ili u mojoj kući.

I try to live mindfully

Trudim se živjeti svjesno

and be present in the moment.

i biti prisutna u sadašnjosti.

By the way, the Dalai Lama

Usput, Dalai Lama

is someone who has aged beautifully,

je netko tko je prelijepo ostario,

but who wants to be vegetarian and celibate?

ali tko želi biti vegetarijanac i u celibatu?

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

Meditation helps.

Meditacija pomaže.

(Video) Child: Ommm. Ommm. Ommm.

(Video) Dijete: Ommm. Ommm. Ommm.

Isabel Allende: Ommm. Ommm. There it is.

Isabel Allende: Ommm. Ommm. To je to.

And it's good to start early.

I dobro je početi rano.

You know, for a vain female like myself,

Znate, za sujetnu ženu poput mene,

it's very hard to age in this culture.

jako je teško stariti u ovoj kulturi.

Inside, I feel good, I feel charming, seductive, sexy.

Unutra, osjećam se dobro, osjećam se šarmantno, zavodljivo, seksi.

Nobody else sees that. (Laughter)

Nitko drugi to ne vidi. (Smijeh)

I'm invisible.

Nevidljiva sam.

I want to be the center of attention.

Želim biti u centru pažnje.

I hate to be invisible.

Mrzim biti nevidljiva.

(Laughter) (Applause)

(Smijeh) (Pljesak)

This is Grace Dammann.

Ovo je Grace Dammann.

She has been in a wheelchair for six years

Šest godina je u invalidskim kolicima

after a terrible car accident.

nakon strašne prometne nesreće.

She says that there is nothing more sensual

Ona kaže da ništa nije senzualnije

than a hot shower,

od vrelog tuša,

that every drop of water

te da je svaka kap vode

is a blessing to the senses.

blaženstvo za osjetila.

She doesn't see herself as disabled.

Ona sebe ne vidi kao invalida.

In her mind, she's still surfing in the ocean.

U njezinoj glavi, ona još uvijek surfa po oceanu.

Ethel Seiderman, a feisty, beloved activist

Ethel Seiderman, odvažna, voljena aktivistica,

in the place where I live in California.

u mjestu u kojemu živim u Kaliforniji.

She wears red patent shoes,

Ona nosi crvene lakirane cipele

and her mantra is that one scarf is nice

i njezina mantra je da je jedna marama dobra

but two is better.

ali dvije su bolje.

She has been a widow for nine years,

Udovica je devet godina,

but she's not looking for another mate.

ali ne traži drugog partnera.

She says that there is only a limited number

Kaže da postoji ograničen broj

of ways you can screw —

načina na koje se možeš kresati -

well, she says it in another way —

dobro, ona to kaže na drugi način -

and she has tried them all.

i probala ih je sve.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

I, on the other hand,

Ja, s druge strane,

I still have erotic fantasies with Antonio Banderas —

još uvijek imam erotske fantazije s Antoniom Banderasom —

(Laughter) —

(Smijeh) —

and my poor husband has to put up with it.

i moj siroti muž mora to trpjeti.

So how can I stay passionate?

Dakle, kako mogu ostati strastvena?

I cannot will myself to be passionate at 71.

Ne mogu natjerati sebe da budem strastvena u 71. godini.

I have been training for some time,

Vježbala sam neko vrijeme,

and when I feel flat and bored, I fake it.

a kad se osjećam bezvoljno i smoreno, pretvaram se.

Attitude, attitude.

Stav, stav.

How do I train? I train by saying yes

Kako vježbam? Vježbam govoreći DA

to whatever comes my way:

svemu što mi se nađe na putu:

drama, comedy, tragedy,

drami, komediji, tragediji,

love, death, losses.

ljubavi, smrti, gubicima.

Yes to life.

Da životu.

And I train by trying to stay in love.

I vježbam pokušavajući da ostanem zaljubljena.

It doesn't always work,

Ne funkcionira uvijek,

but you cannot blame me for trying.

ali ne možete me kriviti što pokušavam.

And, on a final note,

I, kao konačna napomena,

retirement in Spanish is jubilación.

umirovljenje je na španjolskom jubilación.

Jubilation. Celebration.

Likovanje. Slavlje.

We have paid our dues.

Otplatili smo svoje dugove.

We have contributed to society.

Dali smo svoj doprinos društvu.

Now it's our time, and it's a great time.

Sada je naše vrijeme, i to je sjajno vrijeme.

Unless you are ill or very poor,

Osim ukoliko ste bolesni ili vrlo siromašni,

you have choices.

imate izbora.

I have chosen to stay passionate,

Ja sam odabrala da ostanem strastvena,

engaged with an open heart.

angažirana s otvorenim srcem.

I am working on it every day.

Radim na tome svakoga dana.

Want to join me?

Želite li mi se pridružiti?

Thank you.

Hvala vam.

(Applause)

(Pljesak)

June Cohen: So Isabel — IA: Thank you.

June Cohen: Dakle Izabel — IA: Hvala vam.

JC: First of all,

JC: Prije svega,

I never like to presume to speak for the TED community,

Nikad ne volim tvrditi da govorim u ime TED zajednice,

but I would like to tell you that I have a feeling

ali bih Vam željela reći da imam osjećaj

we can all agree that you are still charming,

da se svi možemo složiti da ste još uvijek

seductive and sexy. Yes?

šarmantni, zavodljivi i seksi. Da?

IA: Aww, thank you. (Applause)

IA: Aaa, hvala vam. (Pljesak)

JC: Hands down. IA: No, it's makeup.

JC: Van svake sumnje. IA: Ne, to je do šminke.

Moderator: Now, would it be awkward

Voditeljica: Da li bi bilo nelagodno

if I asked you a follow-up question about your erotic fantasies?

da Vam postavim nadovezujuće pitanje o Vašim erotskim fantazijama?

IA: Oh, of course. About what?

IA: Oh, naravno. O čemu?

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

Moderator: About your erotic fantasies. IA: With Antonio Banderas.

Voditeljica: O Vašim erotskim fantazijama. IA: Sa Antoniom Banderasom.

Moderator: I was just wondering if you have anything more to share.

Voditeljica: Samo sam se pitala imate li još nešto za podijeliti,

IA: Well, one of them is that — (Laughter)

IA: Pa, jedna od njih je da — (Smijeh)

One of them is that I place a naked Antonio Banderas

Jedna je da stavljam golog Antonija Banderasa

on a Mexican tortilla,

na meksičku tortilju,

I slather him with guacamole and salsa,

posipam ga guacamolom i umakom,

I roll him up, and I eat him. (Laughter)

zamotam ga i pojedem. (Smijeh)

Thank you.

Hvala vam.

(Applause)

(Pljesak)