Roberto D'Angelo + Francesca Fedeli: In our baby's illness, a life lesson

Prevoditelj: Mladen Barešić Recezent: Senzos Osijek

Francesca Fedeli: Ciao.

Francesca Fedeli: Ciao!

So he's Mario. He's our son.

Ovo je Mario. Naš sin.

He was born two and a half years ago,

Rođen je prije dvije pol godine.

and I had a pretty tough pregnancy

Moja je trudnoća bila prilično teška,

because I had to stay still in a bed for, like, eight months.

jer sam morala mirovati oko osam mjeseci.

But in the end everything seemed to be under control.

Na koncu, činilo se da je sve pod kontrolom.

So he got the right weight at birth.

Pri rođenju, tjelesna težina je bila dobra.

He got the right Apgar index.

Apgar-indeks bio je dobar.

So we were pretty reassured by this.

Sve nas je to prilično ohrabrilo.

But at the end, 10 days later after he was born,

Međutim, nakon svega, deset dana nakon rođenja,

we discovered that he had a stroke.

otkrili smo da je imao moždani udar.

As you might know,

Kao što vjerojatno znate,

a stroke is a brain injury.

moždani udar znači ozljedu mozga.

A perinatal stroke could be something

Perinatalni moždani udar može se

that can happen during the nine months of pregnancy

dogoditi tijekom devet mjeseci trudnoće

or just suddenly after the birth,

ili neposredno nakon rođenja.

and in his case, as you can see,

A u njegovom slučaju, kao što možete vidjeti,

the right part of his brain has gone.

desni dio mozga je nestao.

So the effect that this stroke could have on Mario's body

Moguća posljedica ovakvog udara je

could be the fact that he couldn't be able to control

da Mario neće biti u stanju kontrolirati

the left side of his body.

lijevu stranu svoga tijela.

Just imagine, if you have a computer and a printer

Zamislite samo da imate računalo i pisač,

and you want to transmit, to input to print out a document,

i želite ispisati neki dokument,

but the printer doesn't have the right drives,

ali desna strana pisača ne funkcionira...

so the same is for Mario.

Mario je u takvom stanju.

It's just like, he would like to move his left side

Ako bi poželio pomaknuti lijevu stranu svoga tijela,

of his body, but he's not able to transmit the right input

ne bi bio u stanju odaslati pravu informaciju

to move his left arm and left leg.

svojoj lijevoj ruci ili lijevoj nozi.

So life had to change.

I tako se život morao promijeniti...

We needed to change our schedule.

Morali smo izmijeniti svoje planove...

We needed to change the impact that this birth had

Morali smo nekako preokrenuti utjecaj

on our life.

koji je ovo rođenje imalo na naš život.

Roberto D'Angelo: As you may imagine,

Roberto D'Angelo: Kao što možete zamisliti,

unfortunately, we were not ready.

mi, nažalost, nismo bili spremni...

Nobody taught us how to deal with such kinds of disabilities,

Nitko nas nije poučio suočavanju s ovakvim vrstama oštećenja,

and as many questions as possible started

i bezbroj nam je pitanja

to come to our minds.

započelo navirati u misli.

And that has been really a tough time.

Bilo je to zaista teško razdoblje.

Questions, some basics, like, you know,

Pitanja, neka temeljna poput, znate:

why did this happen to us?

Zašto se ovo dogodilo baš nama?

And what went wrong?

Što je pošlo po zlu?

Some more tough, like, really,

Kao i neka zahtjevnija pitanja poput:

what will be the impact on Mario's life?

Kako će ovo utjecati na Marijev život?

I mean, at the end, will he be able to work?

Na koncu, hoće li biti sposoban raditi?

Hoće li biti normalan?

Will he be able to be normal?

And, you know, as a parent, especially for the first time,

I, znate, kao roditelj, osobito kad ste tek postali roditelj:

why is he not going to be better than us?

Zašto on neće postati bolji od nas?

And this, indeed, really is tough to say,

I, zbilja je teško to reći,

but a few months later, we realized that

ali nekoliko mjeseci kasnije, shvatili smo

we were really feeling like a failure.

da smo se stvarno osjećali kao potpuni gubitnici.

I mean, the only real product of our life,

Hoću reći, jedini stvarni proizvod našega života,

at the end, was a failure.

ispao je, na kraju, potpuni neuspjeh.

And you know, it was not a failure for ourselves in itself,

Znate, nije to, sam po sebi, bio naš neuspjeh,

but it was a failure that will impact his full life.

već neuspjeh koji će utjecati na čitav njegov život.

Honestly, we went down.

Iskreno, skršilo nas je.

I mean we went really down, but at the end,

Mislim, stvarno nas je slomilo...

we started to look at him,

Međutim, počeli smo promatrati njega,

and we said, we have to react.

i rekli smo si: Moramo se pokrenuti!

So immediately, as Francesca said, we changed our life.

I odmah smo, kao što je Francesca rekla, izmijenili svoj život.

We started physiotherapy, we started the rehabilitation,

Započeli smo sa fizioterapijom, krenuli smo na rehabilitaciju,

and one of the paths that we were following

i jedan od smjerova koje smo u rehabilitaciji

in terms of rehabilitation is the mirror neurons pilot.

slijedili bili su nalazi istraživanja o zrcalnim neuronima.

Basically, we spent months doing this with Mario.

U osnovi, mjesecima smo to radili s Mariom.

You have an object, and we showed him

Uzeli bismo predmet i pokazali mu

how to grab the object.

kako da ga zgrabi.

Now, the theory of mirror neurons simply says

Teorija o zrcalnim neuronima jednostavno kaže

that in your brains, exactly now, as you watch me doing this,

da upravo sad, dok me promatrate kako ovo činim, u vašem mozgu se

you are activating exactly the same neurons

aktiviraju upravo oni neuroni

as if you do the actions.

kao i kad biste to stvarno činili.

It looks like this is the leading edge in terms of rehabilitation.

Ovo su, čini se, najnovije spoznaje u području rehabilitacije.

But one day we found that Mario

No, jednoga dana otkrili smo da Mario

was not looking at our hand.

ne gleda u naše ruke.

He was looking at us.

Gledao je u nas.

We were his mirror.

Mi smo bili njegovo zrcalo.

And the problem, as you might feel,

A problem je, kao što možda slutite,

is that we were down, we were depressed,

bio u tome što smo mi bili na dnu. Bili smo depresivni.

we were looking at him as a problem,

Njega smo doživljavali kao problem...

not as a son, not from a positive perspective.

Ne kao sina. Ne iz pozitivnog kuta.

And that day really changed our perspective.

Taj je dan potpuno izmijenio našu perspektivu.

We realized that we had to become

Uvidjeli smo da moramo postati

a better mirror for Mario.

bolje zrcalo našemu Mariju.

We restarted from our strengths,

Krenuli smo ponovno od naših snaga,

and at the same time we restarted from his strengths.

istodobno se vrativši i njegovim snagama.

We stopped looking at him as a problem,

Prestali smo u njemu vidjeti samo problem,

and we started to look at him as an opportunity to improve.

i započeli smo ga promatrati kao potencijal koji se može razviti.

And really, this was the change,

I doista, to je bila istinska promjena.

and from our side, we said,

Sa svoje smo se strane pitali:

"What are our strengths that we really can bring to Mario?"

"Koje su to naše jake strane kojima možemo pomoći Mariju?"

And we started from our passions.

I krenuli smo od svojih strasti...

I mean, at the end, my wife and myself

Mislim, moja supruga i ja smo

are quite different,

prilično različiti,

ali imamo i dosta zajedničkoga.

but we have many things in common.

We love to travel, we love music,

Volimo putovati, volimo glazbu,

we love to be in places like this,

volimo biti na mjestima poput ovoga,

and we started to bring Mario with us

i počeli smo Marija voditi sa sobom!

just to show to him the best things that we can show to him.

Samo da bismo mu pokazali ono najbolje što mu možemo pokazati.

This short video is from last week.

Ovaj je kratki video od prošloga tjedna...

I am not saying --

Ne kažem da...

(Applause) —

(Pljesak)

I am not saying it's a miracle. That's not the message,

Ne kažem da je ovo čudo. Nije to poruka,

because we are just at the beginning of the path.

jer tek smo na početku puta.

But we want to share what was the key learning,

Ali, ono što želimo podijeliti s vama ključna je pouka,

the key learning that Mario drove to us,

ključna pouka koju nam je Mario dao,

and it is to consider what you have as a gift

a to je da razmislite o svome daru,

and not only what you miss,

a ne samo o onome što vam nedostaje!

and to consider what you miss just as an opportunity.

I da u onome što vam nedostaje uočavate priliku!

And this is the message that we want to share with you.

To je poruka koju smo željeli podijeliti s vama.

This is why we are here.

Radi toga smo ovdje!

Mario!

Mario!

And this is why --

Radi ovoga...

(Applause) —

(Pljesak)

And this is why

Radi ovoga smo

we decided to share the best mirror in the world with him.

odlučili najbolje zrcalo na svijetu podijeliti - s njim!

And we thank you so much, all of you.

Silno smo vam zahvalni! Svima vama!

FF: Thank you. RD: Thank you. Bye.

FF: Hvala vam! RD: Hvala vam! Doviđenja!

(Applause)

(Pljesak)

FF: Thank you. (Applause)

FF: Hvala vam. (Pljesak)