How to practice emotional first aid | Guy Winch | TED

Prevoditelj: Anja Kolobarić Recezent: Ivan Stamenković

I grew up with my identical twin,

Odrastao sam s jednojajčanim bratom blizancem

who was an incredibly loving brother.

koji je bio iznimno brižan.

Now, one thing about being a twin is,

Kad ste blizanac, postanete stručnjak

it makes you an expert at spotting favoritism.

u prepoznavanju favoritizma.

If his cookie was even slightly bigger than my cookie,

Ako je njegov kolač bio barem malo veći od moga, imao sam pitanja.

I had questions.

Očito, nisam gladovao.

And clearly, I wasn't starving.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

When I became a psychologist, I began to notice favoritism

Kad sam postao psiholog, počeo sam primjećivati drugu vrstu favoritizma -

of a different kind;

and that is, how much more we value the body than we do the mind.

koliko više cijenimo tijelo od uma.

I spent nine years at university earning my doctorate in psychology,

Proveo sam devet godina na sveučilištu radeći na doktoratu iz psihologije

and I can't tell you how many people look at my business card and say,

i nemate pojma koliko ljudi pogleda moju posjetnicu i kaže:

"Oh -- a psychologist. So, not a real doctor,"

"Oh, psiholog. Dakle, niste pravi liječnik."

Kao da bi to na njoj trebalo pisati.

as if it should say that on my card.

[Dr. Guy Winch, Just a Psychologist (Not a Real Doctor)]

(Smijeh)

(Laughter)

This favoritism we show the body over the mind --

Ovaj favoritizam tijela nad umom vidim posvuda.

I see it everywhere.

I recently was at a friend's house,

Nedavno sam bio kod prijatelja

and their five-year-old was getting ready for bed.

i njihov se petogodišnjak spremao na počinak.

He was standing on a stool by the sink, brushing his teeth,

Stajao je na stolici pored sudopera i prao zube,

when he slipped and scratched his leg on the stool when he fell.

iznenada se poskliznuo i ogrebao nogu o stolicu kad je pao.

He cried for a minute, but then he got back up,

Malo je plakao, ali kad se ustao,

got back on the stool, and reached out for a box of Band-Aids

popeo natrag na stolicu, uzeo je flaster iz kutije i stavio ga na ogrebotinu.

to put one on his cut.

Now, this kid could barely tie his shoelaces,

Ovaj dječak koji jedva zna svezati pertle

but he knew you have to cover a cut so it doesn't become infected,

znao je da treba zaštititi ogrebotinu kako se ne bi inficirala

and you have to care for your teeth by brushing twice a day.

i da zube mora prati dvaput dnevno.

We all know how to maintain our physical health

Svi znamo održavati fizičko zdravlje

and how to practice dental hygiene, right?

i brinuti o zubnoj higijeni, zar ne?

We've known it since we were five years old.

Znali smo to već s pet godina.

But what do we know about maintaining our psychological health?

Ali što znamo o održavanju psihičkog zdravlja?

Ništa.

Well, nothing.

What do we teach our children about emotional hygiene?

Što učimo djecu o emocionalnoj higijeni?

Nothing.

Ništa.

How is it that we spend more time taking care of our teeth

Kako to da više vremena provedemo brinući se o zubima

than we do our minds?

nego o našim umovima?

Why is it that our physical health is so much more important to us

Zašto nam je fizičko zdravlje toliko važnije

od psihičkog?

than our psychological health?

We sustain psychological injuries even more often than we do physical ones,

Češće podliježemo psihičkim ozljedama nego fizičkim;

injuries like failure or rejection or loneliness.

ozljede poput neuspjeha, odbacivanja ili usamljenosti.

And they can also get worse if we ignore them,

I one se mogu pogoršati ukoliko ih ignoriramo

and they can impact our lives in dramatic ways.

i mogu dramatično utjecati na naše živote.

And yet, even though there are scientifically proven techniques

Iako postoje znanstveno dokazane tehnike

we could use to treat these kinds of psychological injuries,

kojima možemo tretirati ovakve vrste psihičkih ozljeda,

we don't.

mi to ne činimo.

It doesn't even occur to us that we should.

Čak nam ni ne pada na pamet da bismo trebali.

"Oh, you're feeling depressed? Just shake it off; it's all in your head."

"Oh, depresivan si?" "Nije to ništa, sve je to u tvojoj glavi!"

Možete li se zamisliti kako to govorite nekome sa slomljenom nogom:

Can you imagine saying that to somebody with a broken leg:

"Oh, just walk it off; it's all in your leg."

"Prošeći malo, sve je to u tvojoj nozi!"

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

It is time we closed the gap

Vrijeme je da prevladamo jaz između fizičkog i psihičkog zdravlja.

between our physical and our psychological health.

It's time we made them more equal,

Vrijeme je da ih više izjednačimo.

more like twins.

poput blizanaca.

Speaking of which, my brother is also a psychologist.

Kad smo već kod toga, brat mi je isto psiholog.

So he's not a real doctor, either.

Ni on nije pravi liječnik.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

We didn't study together, though.

Nismo zajedno studirali.

In fact, the hardest thing I've ever done in my life

Najteža stvar koju sam ikad napravio

bila je selidba preko Atlantika do New Yorka

is move across the Atlantic to New York City

to get my doctorate in psychology.

kako bih dobio doktorat iz psihologije.

We were apart then for the first time in our lives,

Tada smo bili razdvojeni po prvi puta

and the separation was brutal for both of us.

i bilo je to užasno teško za obojicu.

But while he remained among family and friends,

On je ostao među obitelji i prijateljima,

I was alone in a new country.

a ja sam bio sam u novoj zemlji.

We missed each other terribly,

Užasno smo si nedostajali,

but international phone calls were really expensive then,

ali međunarodni pozivi tada su bili užasno skupi

and we could only afford to speak for five minutes a week.

i mogli smo razgovarati samo pet minuta tjedno.

Kad nam je došao rođendan,

When our birthday rolled around,

it was the first we wouldn't be spending together.

bio je to prvi koji nismo provodili zajedno.

We decided to splurge,

Odlučili smo se razmetati i taj tjedan razgovarati 10 minuta.

and that week, we would talk for 10 minutes.

(Laughter)

I spent the morning pacing around my room, waiting for him to call --

Cijelo sam jutro šetkao po sobi čekajući njegov poziv --

čekao sam i čekao, ali telefon nije zazvonio.

and waiting ...

and waiting.

But the phone didn't ring.

S obzirom na vremensku razliku, pretpostavljao sam:

Given the time difference, I assumed,

"OK, he's out with friends, he'll call later."

"Dobro, vani je s prijateljima, nazvat će kasnije."

There were no cell phones then.

Tada nije bilo mobitela.

But he didn't.

Ali nije nazvao.

And I began to realize that after being away for over 10 months,

Počeo sam shvaćati da nakon 10 mjeseci odvojenosti

he no longer missed me the way I missed him.

ja njemu više nisam nedostajao koliko je on meni nedostajao.

Znao sam da će nazvati ujutro,

I knew he would call in the morning,

ali to mi je bila jedna od najtužnijih i najduljih noći u životu.

but that night was one of the saddest and longest nights of my life.

I woke up the next morning.

Sljedećeg sam se jutra probudio,

I glanced down at the phone,

pogledao telefon i shvatio da sam ga iskopčao

and I realized I had kicked it off the hook

when pacing the day before.

prešetavajući se po sobi dan prije.

I stumbled out of bed,

Isteturao sam se iz kreveta,

I put the phone back on the receiver, and it rang a second later.

uključio telefon i odmah je zazvonio.

And it was my brother,

Bio je to moj brat i bio je bijesan.

and boy, was he pissed.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

It was the saddest and longest night of his life as well.

I njemu je to bila najduža i najtužnija noć u životu.

Pokušao sam mu objasniti što se dogodilo, no rekao je:

Now, I tried to explain what happened, but he said,

"I don't understand.

"Ne razumijem. Ako si vidio da ja ne zovem tebe,

If you saw I wasn't calling you,

why didn't you just pick up the phone and call me?"

zašto ti nisi nazvao mene?"

He was right.

Bio je u pravu. Zašto ga nisam nazvao?

Why didn't I call him?

I didn't have an answer then.

Tada nisam imao odgovor, ali danas ga imam.

But I do today,

Krajnje je jednostavan: usamljenost.

and it's a simple one:

loneliness.

Loneliness creates a deep psychological wound,

Usamljenost stvara duboku psihičku ranu,

ranu koja nam iskrivljava percepciju i muti razum.

one that distorts our perceptions and scrambles our thinking.

Zahvaljujući njoj mislimo da našim bližnjima nije stalo do nas.

It makes us believe that those around us care much less than they actually do.

Zahvaljujući njoj bojimo se otvoriti ljudima

It make us really afraid to reach out,

because why set yourself up for rejection and heartache

jer zašto biti žrtvom odbacivanja ili patnje

kad već patite više no što možete podnijeti?

when your heart is already aching more than you can stand?

I was in the grips of real loneliness back then,

Tada me morila ozbiljna usamljenost,

but I was surrounded by people all day, so it never occurred to me.

no bio sam okružen ljudima po cijele dane, pa mi nije ni palo na pamet.

But loneliness is defined purely subjectively.

Usamljenost se definira isključivo subjektivno.

It depends solely on whether you feel emotionally or socially disconnected

Isključivo ovisi o tome osjećate li se

emocionalno ili društveno odvojeno od okoline.

from those around you.

And I did.

A ja jesam.

Usamljenost se uvelike istražuje i sve je to zastrašujuće.

There is a lot of research on loneliness, and all of it is horrifying.

Loneliness won't just make you miserable;

Usamljenost vas neće samo učiniti nesretnima - ubit će vas.

it will kill you.

I'm not kidding.

Ne šalim se.

Chronic loneliness increases your likelihood of an early death

Kronična usamljenost povećava izglede preuranjene smrti

by 14 percent.

za 14 posto.

Fourteen percent!

Loneliness causes high blood pressure,

Usamljenost uzrokuje povišen krvni tlak, povišen kolesterol.

high cholesterol.

It even suppress the functioning of your immune system,

Čak otežava funkcioniranje imunološkog sustava,

making you vulnerable to all kinds of illnesses and diseases.

zbog čega ste ranjivi na svakakve bolesti.

In fact, scientists have concluded that taken together,

Znanstvenici su zaključili

chronic loneliness poses as significant a risk

da kronična usamljenost nosi jednako značajan rizik

for your long-term health and longevity

dugoročnom zdravlju i dugovječnosti kao i pušenje.

as cigarette smoking.

Now, cigarette packs come with warnings saying, "This could kill you."

Sada se na cigarete stavljaju upozorenja: "Ovo vas može ubiti."

But loneliness doesn't.

Usamljenost ne dolazi s tim upozorenjem.

And that's why it's so important

Zato je važno dati prednost psihičkom zdravlju,

that we prioritize our psychological health,

prakticirati emocionalnu higijenu.

that we practice emotional hygiene.

Because you can't treat a psychological wound

Psihološku ranu ne možemo liječiti

if you don't even know you're injured.

ukoliko ne znamo da smo ozlijeđeni.

Loneliness isn't the only psychological wound

Usamljenost nije jedina psihološka rana

that distorts our perceptions and misleads us.

koja nam iskrivljava percepciju i obmanjuje nas.

Failure does that as well.

To čini i neuspjeh.

I once visited a day care center,

Jednom sam posjetio vrtić

where I saw three toddlers play with identical plastic toys.

i vidio troje male djece kako se igraju s identičnim plastičnim igračkama.

You had to slide the red button, and a cute doggie would pop out.

Trebalo je gurnuti crveni gumb kako bi slatki psić iskočio.

One little girl tried pulling the purple button, then pushing it,

Jedna je djevojčica pokušala vući i gurati ljubičasti gumb

and then she just sat back and looked at the box

i nakon toga samo je sjela i gledala kutiju dok joj je donja usnica drhtala.

with her lower lip trembling.

Dječak pored nje sve je to vidio,

The little boy next to her watched this happen,

then turned to his box and burst into tears without even touching it.

okrenuo se prema svojoj kutiji i rasplakao se bez da ju je uopće dodirnuo.

Meanwhile, another little girl tried everything she could think of

U međuvremenu je druga djevojčica isprobavala sve što je stigla

until she slid the red button,

sve dok nije gurnula crveni gumb,

the cute doggie popped out, and she squealed with delight.

slatki psić iskočio, a ona ciknula od sreće.

So: three toddlers with identical plastic toys,

Dakle, troje male djece s identičnim igračkama,

ali s iznimno drugačijim reakcijama na neuspjeh.

but with very different reactions to failure.

The first two toddlers were perfectly capable of sliding a red button.

Prva dva djeteta bila su sposobna gurnuti crveni gumb.

The only thing that prevented them from succeeding

U tome ih je spriječio jedino

was that their mind tricked them into believing they could not.

njihov um koji ih je prevario rekavši im da oni to ne mogu.

Now, adults get tricked this way as well, all the time.

Odrasli se također nerijetko daju ovako prevariti.

Svi mi imamo zadane postavke emocija i uvjerenja koje se aktiviraju

In fact, we all have a default set of feelings and beliefs

that gets triggered whenever we encounter frustrations and setbacks.

kadgod se susretnemo s frustracijama i preprekama.

Are you aware of how your mind reacts to failure?

Znate li kako vaš um reagira na neuspjeh?

You need to be.

Trebali biste.

Because if your mind tries to convince you you're incapable of something,

Ukoliko vas um pokušava uvjeriti da nešto ne možete napraviti,

and you believe it,

a vi mu povjerujete,

then like those two toddlers, you'll begin to feel helpless

poput ona dva djeteta, počet ćete se osjećati bespomoćno

and you'll stop trying too soon, or you won't even try at all.

i prebrzo prestati pokušavati ili više uopće nećete ni pokušavati.

And then you'll be even more convinced you can't succeed.

Tada ćete biti još uvjereniji da ne možete uspjeti.

You see, that's why so many people function below their actual potential.

Vidite, zato toliki ljudi ne koriste svoje prave potencijale.

Because somewhere along the way, sometimes a single failure

Negdje usput, nekada je čak samo jedan neuspjeh

convinced them that they couldn't succeed, and they believed it.

dovoljan da ih uvjeri da ne mogu uspjeti, a oni su u to povjerovali.

Jednom kada se uvjerimo u nešto, teško mijenjamo to mišljenje.

Once we become convinced of something, it's very difficult to change our mind.

I learned that lesson the hard way when I was a teenager with my brother.

To sam kao tinejdžer naučio na teži način, sa svojim bratom.

We were driving with friends down a dark road at night,

Po noći smo se vozili s prijateljima mračnom cestom

when a police car stopped us.

i zaustavila nas je policija.

U kvartu se dogodila pljačka i tražili su sumnjivce.

There had been a robbery in the area and they were looking for suspects.

The officer approached the car, and shined his flashlight on the driver,

Policajac je pristupio autu, bateriju uperio prema vozaču

then on my brother in the front seat,

pa prema mom bratu na mjestu suvozača, a onda i prema meni.

and then on me.

And his eyes opened wide and he said,

Razrogačio je oči i rekao:

"Gdje sam već vidio to lice?"

"Where have I seen your face before?"

(Smijeh)

(Laughter)

And I said,

Rekoh: "Na mjestu suvozača."

"In the front seat."

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

But that made no sense to him whatsoever,

Ali njemu to nije imalo nikakvog smisla.

so now he thought I was on drugs.

Pomislio je da sam na drogama.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

So he drags me out of the car, he searches me,

Izvukao me iz auta i počeo pretraživati,

he marches me over to the police car,

poslao me do policijskog vozila

and only when he verified I didn't have a police record,

i tek kad se uvjerio da nemam dosje,

mogao sam mu pokazati da imam brata blizanca na mjestu suvozača.

could I show him I had a twin in the front seat.

But even as we were driving away,

Ali dok smo odlazili od njega, na faci mu je pisalo

you could see by the look on his face he was convinced

da je bio uvjeren da sam se izvukao s nečim.

that I was getting away with something.

(Laughter)

Teško nas je razuvjeriti kad se jednom uvjerimo u nešto.

Our mind is hard to change once we become convinced.

So it might be very natural to feel demoralized

Stoga je prirodno osjećati se demoralizirano i poraženo nakon neuspjeha.

and defeated after you fail.

But you cannot allow yourself to become convinced you can't succeed.

Ali ne smijete si dozvoliti da se uvjerite u neuspjeh.

You have to fight feelings of helplessness.

Morate se boriti s osjećajem bespomoćnosti,

uspostaviti kontrolu nad situacijom i

You have to gain control over the situation.

And you have to break this kind of negative cycle

prekinuti ovaj začarani krug prije no što uopće počne.

before it begins.

[Stop Emotional Bleeding]

Our minds and our feelings --

Naši umovi i osjećaji

they're not the trustworthy friends we thought they were.

nisu pouzdani prijatelji kakvima ih smatramo.

They're more like a really moody friend,

Promjenjivog su raspoloženja:

who can be totally supportive one minute, and really unpleasant the next.

u jednom trenutku mogu biti puni podrške, a u drugom krajnje neugodni.

Nekoć sam radio s jednom ženom

I once worked with this woman who, after 20 years marriage

koja je nakon 20 godina braka i neugodnog razvoda

and an extremely ugly divorce,

konačno bila spremna na prvi spoj.

was finally ready for her first date.

She had met this guy online,

Online je upoznala muškarca koji se činio kao dobar i uspješan čovjek

and he seemed nice and he seemed successful,

i što je najvažnije, doimao se zainteresirano za nju.

and most importantly, he seemed really into her.

So she was very excited, she bought a new dress,

Bila je jako uzbuđena, kupila je novu haljinu

and they met at an upscale New York City bar for a drink.

i našli su se na piću u ekskluzivnom njujorkškom baru.

Ten minutes into the date, the man stands up and says,

Nakon 10 minuta čovjek se ustao i rekao:

"I'm not interested," and walks out.

"Nisam zainteresiran" i otišao.

Rejection is extremely painful.

Odbacivanje je užasno bolno.

The woman was so hurt she couldn't move.

Nije se mogla pomaknuti od boli. Samo je mogla nazvati prijateljicu.

All she could do was call a friend.

Here's what the friend said: "Well, what do you expect?

Ovo joj je ona rekla: "Pa što očekuješ?

You have big hips, you have nothing interesting to say.

Imaš široke bokove i dosadna si.

Why would a handsome, successful man like that

Zašto bi tako zgodan i uspješan čovjek

izlazio s gubitnicom poput tebe?"

ever go out with a loser like you?"

Šokantno je koliko prijatelji mogu biti okrutni, zar ne?

Shocking, right, that a friend could be so cruel?

But it would be much less shocking

Bilo bi puno manje šokantno

da vam kažem da joj to nije rekla prijateljica.

if I told you it wasn't the friend who said that.

It's what the woman said to herself.

To si je ona sama rekla.

And that's something we all do,

Svi mi to činimo, pogotovo nakon što doživimo odbacivanje.

especially after a rejection.

We all start thinking of all our faults and all our shortcomings,

Svi mi počnemo razmišljati o svim našim manama i nedostatcima,

what we wish we were, what we wish we weren't.

o onome što bismo željeli ili ne željeli biti.

We call ourselves names.

Vrijeđamo sami sebe.

Maybe not as harshly, but we all do it.

Možda ne tako grubo, ali svi to činimo.

And it's interesting that we do,

Čudno da to radimo kad nam je samopouzdanje već povrijeđeno.

because our self-esteem is already hurting.

Why would we want to go and damage it even further?

Zašto ga želimo još ozbiljnije oštetiti?

We wouldn't make a physical injury worse on purpose.

Ne bismo namjerno pogoršali fizičku ozljedu.

You wouldn't get a cut on your arm and decide, "Oh! I know --

Kada biste porezali ruku, ne biste si iznenada rekli:

I'm going to take a knife and see how much deeper I can make it."

"E, da! Uzet ću nož da vidim koliko se duboko mogu zarezati!"

But we do that with psychological injuries all the time.

A stalno to činimo sa psihičkim ozljedama.

Why? Because of poor emotional hygiene.

Zašto? Zbog loše emocionalne higijene.

Because we don't prioritize our psychological health.

Zato što ne dajemo prednost psihičkom zdravlju.

We know from dozens of studies that when your self-esteem is lower,

Iz brojnih smo studija naučili da kada nam je samopouzdanje niže,

you are more vulnerable to stress and to anxiety;

podložniji smo stresu i anksioznosti,

that failures and rejections hurt more,

neuspjesi i odbacivanja su bolniji i trebamo više vremena za oporavak.

and it takes longer to recover from them.

So when you get rejected, the first thing you should be doing

Kada vas netko odbije, prvo biste trebali

is to revive your self-esteem,

oživjeti svoje samopouzdanje, a ne ga iscijediti kao limun.

not join Fight Club and beat it into a pulp.

Kad emocionalno patite,

When you're in emotional pain,

treat yourself with the same compassion

pružite si suosjećanje koje očekujete od pravog prijatelja.

you would expect from a truly good friend.

[Protect Your Self-Esteem]

We have to catch our unhealthy psychological habits and change them.

Moramo prepoznati svoje nezdrave psihološke navike i promijeniti ih.

And one of unhealthiest and most common is called rumination.

Jedna od najnezdravijih i najučestalijih jest preživanje.

To ruminate means to chew over.

Preživati znači neprestano prežvakivati.

It's when your boss yells at you

Kad se šef izviče na vas ili profesor napravi budalu od vas pred svima,

or your professor makes you feel stupid in class,

or you have big fight with a friend

kad se ozbiljno posvađate s prijateljem

and you just can't stop replaying the scene in your head for days,

i danima ne možete prestati razmišljati o tome,

sometimes for weeks on end.

nekada čak i tjednima.

Mozganje o potresnim događajima lako može prerasti u naviku,

Now, ruminating about upsetting events in this way can easily become a habit,

and it's a very costly one,

i to skupu.

because by spending so much time focused on upsetting and negative thoughts,

Kada toliko vremena provodite usredotočeni na uznemirujuće i negativne misli,

podložniji ste riziku

you are actually putting yourself at significant risk

obolijevanja od kliničke depresije, alkoholizma, poremećaja hranjenja,

for developing clinical depression,

alcoholism,

eating disorders,

and even cardiovascular disease.

pa čak i kardiovaskularnih bolesti.

The problem is,

Nagon za mozganjem može se činiti iznimno snažnim i važnim,

the urge to ruminate can feel really strong and really important,

so it's a difficult habit to stop.

pa je teško prekinuti tu naviku.

I know this for a fact,

Znam to jer sam i sam prije malo više od godinu dana

because a little over a year ago, I developed the habit myself.

razvio tu naviku.

You see, my twin brother was diagnosed with stage 3 non-Hodgkin's lymphoma.

Naime, bratu blizancu dijagnosticiran je stadij III NHL-a.

His cancer was extremely aggressive.

Njegov je rak bio iznimno agresivan.

He had visible tumors all over his body.

Tumori su mu bili vidljivi na tijelu.

And he had to start a harsh course of chemotherapy.

Morao je započeti intenzivnu kemoterapiju.

And I couldn't stop thinking about what he was going through.

Nisam mogao prestati razmišljati o tome što on proživljava.

I couldn't stop thinking about how much he was suffering,

Niti o tome koliko pati,

iako se on nije baš nijednom požalio.

even though he never complained, not once.

He had this incredibly positive attitude.

Imao je nevjerojatno pozitivan stav.

Psihičko zdravlje mu je bilo fantastično.

His psychological health was amazing.

I was physically healthy, but psychologically, I was a mess.

Ja sam bio fizički zdrav, a psihički u kaosu.

Ali znao sam što mi je činiti.

But I knew what to do.

Studies tell us that even a two-minute distraction is sufficient

Studije nam govore da je čak i dvominutna distrakcija dovoljna

da u tom trenutku prekine nagon za mozganjem.

to break the urge to ruminate in that moment.

Svaki puta kad bih iskusio zabrinjavajuću, uznemirujuću, negativnu misao,

And so each time I had a worrying, upsetting, negative thought,

I forced myself to concentrate on something else until the urge passed.

natjerao sam se da razmišljam o nečemu drugom dok nagon ne prođe.

And within one week, my whole outlook changed

Tijekom tjedan dana perspektiva mi se potpuno promijenila

and became more positive and more hopeful.

i postala pozitivnija i bio sam pun nade.

[Battle Negative Thinking]

Nine weeks after he started chemotherapy, my brother had a CAT scan,

Nakon devet tjedana kemoterapije brat mi je išao na CT

i ja sam bio uz njega kad je dobio rezultate.

and I was by his side when he got the results.

All the tumors were gone.

Svi su tumori nestali.

He still had three more rounds of chemotherapy to go,

Čekale su ga još tri runde kemoterapije,

but we knew he would recover.

ali znali smo da će se oporaviti.

This picture was taken two weeks ago.

Ovo je uslikano prije dva tjedna.

By taking action when you're lonely,

Pokrenete li se kad ste usamljeni,

by changing your responses to failure,

promijenite li svoje reakcije na neuspjeh,

by protecting your self-esteem,

zaštite li svoje samopouzdanje,

by battling negative thinking,

borite li se s negativnim mislima,

you won't just heal your psychological wounds,

nećete samo zaliječiti psihičke rane,

već ćete izgraditi emocionalnu otpornost i napredovat ćete.

you will build emotional resilience,

you will thrive.

A hundred years ago, people began practicing personal hygiene,

Prije sto godina ljudi su počeli paziti na osobnu higijenu

i životni je vijek porastao za 50 posto

and life expectancy rates rose by over 50 percent

in just a matter of decades.

u tek nekoliko desetljeća.

I believe our quality of life could rise just as dramatically

Vjerujem da bi kvaliteta naših života mogla jednako drastično porasti

kada bismo počeli prakticirati emocionalnu higijenu.

if we all began practicing emotional hygiene.

Možete li zamisliti svijet

Can you imagine what the world would be like

u kojemu bi svi bili psihički zdraviji?

if everyone was psychologically healthier?

If there were less loneliness and less depression?

Svijet u kojemu bi bilo manje usamljenosti i depresije?

If people knew how to overcome failure?

Svijet u kojemu bi ljudi znali prevladati neuspjeh?

If they felt better about themselves and more empowered?

U kojemu bi bili zadovoljniji sobom i osjećali se osnaženije?

If they were happier and more fulfilled?

U kojemu bi bili sretniji i ispunjeniji?

I can, because that's the world I want to live in.

Ja mogu jer je to svijet u kakvom želim živjeti

i svijet u kojem i moj brat želi živjeti.

And that's the world my brother wants to live in as well.

And if you just become informed and change a few simple habits, well --

Ukoliko se samo informirate i promijenite nekoliko navika,

to je svijet u kojemu svi možemo živjeti.

that's the world we can all live in.

Puno vam hvala.

Thank you very much.

(Applause)

(Pljesak)