Why we need to talk about depression | Kevin Breel

Translator: Argantael Kerdudo Baxter Reviewer: Serv. de Norm. Lingüística U. de Santiago de Compostela

For a long time in my life,

Durante moito tempo,

sentía que estaba a vivir dúas vidas:

I felt like I'd been living two different lives.

There's the life that everyone sees,

a vida que a xente ve,

and then there's the life that only I see.

e logo a que só vexo eu.

And in the life that everyone sees,

Na primeira delas

who I am is a friend,

eu son un amigo.

a son, a brother,

un fillo, un irmán,

a stand-up comedian and a teenager.

un cómico e un adolescente.

That's the life everyone sees.

Esa é a vida que todo o mundo ve.

If you were to ask my friends and family to describe me,

De describirme amigos e familia

that's what they would tell you.

isto é o que dirían.

And that's a huge part of me. That is who I am.

E iso é gran parte do que son.

And if you were to ask me to describe myself,

E se me describise a min mesmo,

I'd probably say some of those same things.

de seguro que diría algo parecido.

And I wouldn't be lying,

E non estaría mentindo,

but I wouldn't totally be telling you the truth, either,

nin tampouco a dicir toda a verdade,

because the truth is,

porque a verdade é,

that's just the life everyone else sees.

que iso só é a vida que os demais ven.

In the life that only I see, who I am,

E na vida que só eu vexo,

na que realmente son eu,

who I really am,

is someone who struggles intensely with depression.

vexo alguén que lida coa depresión

I have for the last six years of my life,

desde hai xa seis anos.

and I continue to every day.

e así, todos os días.

Now, for someone who has never experienced depression

Para quen nunca a sufriu

or doesn't really know what that means,

ou non sabe ben o que é,

that might surprise them to hear,

isto pode sorprendelo,

because there's this pretty popular misconception

porque é habitual o mito

that depression is just being sad

de que a depresión é estar triste

when something in your life goes wrong,

cando algo na túa vida vai mal:

when you break up with your girlfriend,

cando cortas coa moza,

when you lose a loved one,

ou perdes un ser querido,

when you don't get the job you wanted.

ou non obtés o traballo que querías.

But that's sadness. That's a natural thing.

Pero iso é tristura: é algo normal.

That's a natural human emotion.

Son emocións humanas naturais.

Real depression isn't being sad

A depresión real non é estar triste

when something in your life goes wrong.

cando algo na túa vida vai mal.

Real depression is being sad

A depresión real é estar triste

when everything in your life is going right.

cando todo na túa vida vai ben.

That's real depression, and that's what I suffer from.

Iso é a depresión real, a que eu sufro.

And to be totally honest,

E para ser completamente sincero,

that's hard for me to stand up here and say.

resúltame duro estar aquí e dicilo.

It's hard for me to talk about,

Resúltame duro falar do tema,

and it seems to be hard for everyone to talk about,

e parece que ao resto da xente tamén:

so much so that no one's talking about it.

tanto que ninguén está a falalo.

And no one's talking about depression, but we need to be,

E ninguén está a falalo, pero é necesario,

because right now it's a massive problem.

porque está a ser un problema enorme.

It's a massive problem.

É un problema enorme.

But we don't see it on social media, right?

Pero non está nas redes sociais,

We don't see it on Facebook. We don't see it on Twitter.

nin en Facebook, nin en Twitter,

We don't see it on the news, because it's not happy,

nin nas noticias porque non é alegre,

it's not fun, it's not light.

non é divertido, non é fácil.

And so because we don't see it, we don't see the severity of it.

E como non o vemos, tampouco vemos o grave que é.

But the severity of it and the seriousness of it is this:

Pero a gravidade e seriedade é esta:

every 30 seconds,

cada 30 segundos,

every 30 seconds, somewhere,

cada 30 segundos, en algures,

someone in the world takes their own life

alguén acaba coa súa vida

because of depression,

por mor da depresión,

and it might be two blocks away, it might be two countries away,

e pode que a dúas rúas, a dous países

it might be two continents away, but it's happening,

ou a dous continentes de aquí.

and it's happening every single day.

Pero está a pasar todos os días.

And we have a tendency, as a society,

E adoitamos, como sociedade,

to look at that and go, "So what?"

velo e dicir: "E que?"

So what? We look at that, and we go, "That's your problem.

"E que?" Vémolo e pensamos:

"É problema teu."

That's their problem."

"É problema seu."

We say we're sad and we say we're sorry,

Dános mágoa e sentímolo,

but we also say, "So what?"

pero tamén dicimos, "E que?"

Well, two years ago it was my problem,

Pois hai dous anos era problema meu,

because I sat on the edge of my bed

porque sentei ao bordo da cama

where I'd sat a million times before

como un millón de veces antes

and I was suicidal.

e tiña pensamentos suicidas.

I was suicidal, and if you were to look at my life on the surface,

Era suicida, pero de mirar para min,

you wouldn't see a kid who was suicidal.

non verías un rapaz que era suicida:

You'd see a kid who was the captain of his basketball team,

verías o capitán do equipo de baloncesto,

the drama and theater student of the year,

o mellor estudante de teatro

the English student of the year,

o mellor en inglés,

someone who was consistently on the honor roll

sempre na lista de honores

and consistently at every party.

e en todas as festas.

So you would say I wasn't depressed, you would say

Non dirías que estaba deprimido,

I wasn't suicidal, but you would be wrong.

nin suicida, pero estarías errado.

You would be wrong. So I sat there that night

Moi errado. Sentei esa noite

beside a bottle of pills with a pen and paper in my hand

de lado dun bote de pílulas cun bolígrafo e papel na man

and I thought about taking my own life

e pensei en acabar coa vida

and I came this close to doing it.

e estiven así de preto de facelo.

I came this close to doing it.

Así de preto.

And I didn't, so that makes me one of the lucky ones,

Non o fixen, así que son dos afortunados,

one of the people who gets to step out on the ledge

deses que sentan na repisa,

and look down but not jump,

miran para abaixo pero non saltan,

one of the lucky ones who survives.

un dos afortunados que sobreviven.

Well, I survived, and that just leaves me with my story,

E iso déixame coa miña historia,

and my story is this:

e a miña historia é esta:

In four simple words, I suffer from depression.

en dúas palabras: sufro depresión.

I suffer from depression,

Sufro depresión,

and for a long time, I think,

e durante moito tempo, creo,

estaba a vivir dúas vidas diferentes

I was living two totally different lives,

where one person was always afraid of the other.

en que unha persoa sempre temía a outra.

I was afraid that people would see me for who I really was,

Temía que se vise quen era realmente,

that I wasn't the perfect, popular kid in high school everyone thought I was,

non o rapaz perfecto e popular de instituto que todos crían,

that beneath my smile, there was struggle,

que tras o meu sorriso había dor,

and beneath my light, there was dark,

e tras a miña luz había escuridade,

and beneath my big personality just hid even bigger pain.

tras a miña gran personalidade, unha meirande dor.

See, some people might fear girls not liking them back.

Algúns temerán non gustarlles ás mozas,

Some people might fear sharks. Some people might fear death.

algúns ás quenllas e outros á morte.

But for me, for a large part of my life, I feared myself.

Pero eu, por moito tempo, teminme a min mesmo:

I feared my truth, I feared my honesty, I feared my vulnerability,

á miña verdade, honestidade e vulnerabilidade,

and that fear made me feel

e ese temor facíame sentir

like I was forced into a corner,

como se estivese acantoado,

like I was forced into a corner and there was only one way out,

acantoado e cunha soa saída.

and so I thought about that way every single day.

Así que pensaba niso todos os días,

I thought about it every single day,

todos os días.

and if I'm being totally honest, standing here

E se vos digo a verdade,

I've thought about it again since, because that's the sickness,

volvín pensalo, porque así é a enfermidade,

that's the struggle, that's depression,

así é a loita, a depresión;

and depression isn't chicken pox.

non é como a varicela,

You don't beat it once and it's gone forever.

non se supera unha vez para sempre.

It's something you live with. It's something you live in.

É algo co que vives, en que vives.

It's the roommate you can't kick out. It's the voice you can't ignore.

É o compañeiro que non podes botar, a voz que non cala,

It's the feelings you can't seem to escape,

os sentimentos que te apresan.

the scariest part is that after a while,

E o máis aterrador é que, ao cabo,

you become numb to it. It becomes normal for you,

te volves insensible, vólvese normal,

and what you really fear the most

e o que máis temes

isn't the suffering inside of you.

non é o sufrimento dentro

It's the stigma inside of others,

senón o estigma dos demais,

it's the shame, it's the embarrassment,

a vergoña, o desacougo,

it's the disapproving look on a friend's face,

a mirada de desaprobación dun amigo,

it's the whispers in the hallway that you're weak,

os rumores no corredor de que es débil.

it's the comments that you're crazy.

os comentarios de que estás tolo.

That's what keeps you from getting help.

Iso é o que che impide pedir axuda.

That's what makes you hold it in and hide it.

e o que fai que o aguantes e o agoches.

It's the stigma. So you hold it in and you hide it,

É o estigma: aguántalo e agóchalo,

and you hold it in and you hide it,

aguántalo e agóchalo.

and even though it's keeping you in bed every day

Se ben te atrapa na cama a diario

and it's making your life feel empty no matter how much you try and fill it,

e baleira a túa vida, por moito que fagas por enchela,

you hide it, because the stigma in our society

escóndelo, porque o estigma social

around depression is very real.

en canto á depresión, é real.

It's very real, and if you think that it isn't, ask yourself this:

Moi real, e se pensas que non, pregúntate:

Would you rather make your next Facebook status

preferirías publicar no Facebook

say you're having a tough time getting out of bed

que che custa saír da cama

because you hurt your back

porque che doe o lombo,

or you're having a tough time getting out of bed every morning

ou que che custa erguerte polas mañás

because you're depressed?

por estares deprimido?

That's the stigma, because unfortunately,

Ese é o estigma, porque desafortunadamente

we live in a world where if you break your arm,

no noso mundo, se rompes o brazo,

everyone runs over to sign your cast,

todos corren asinarche a escaiola,

but if you tell people you're depressed, everyone runs the other way.

pero se dis que tes depresión, escapan correndo.

That's the stigma.

Ese é o estigma.

We are so, so, so accepting of any body part breaking down

Aceptamos que falle calquera parte do corpo

other than our brains. And that's ignorance.

menos o cerebro. E iso é ignorancia:

That's pure ignorance, and that ignorance has created

ignorancia pura que creou un mundo

a world that doesn't understand depression,

que non entende de depresión,

that doesn't understand mental health.

nin de saúde mental.

And that's ironic to me, because depression

E iso resúltame irónico, pois a depresión

is one of the best documented problems we have in the world,

é dos problemas máis documentados

yet it's one of the least discussed.

pero dos menos comentados.

We just push it aside and put it in a corner

Apartámolo e esquecémolo nunha esquina

and pretend it's not there and hope it'll fix itself.

coa esperanza que se arranxe só.

Well, it won't. It hasn't, and it's not going to,

Pero non, non o fixo nin o fará,

because that's wishful thinking,

porque isto é ilusorio,

and wishful thinking isn't a game plan, it's procrastination,

e non serve de nada: é procrastinar

and we can't procrastinate on something this important.

e non se pode procrastinar sobre algo tan importante.

The first step in solving any problem

Primeiro, para resolver un problema

is recognizing there is one.

hai que recoñecer que existe.

Well, we haven't done that, so we can't really expect

E como non o fixemos, non podemos pretender

to find an answer when we're still afraid of the question.

unha resposta se se teme a pregunta.

And I don't know what the solution is.

E eu non sei cal é a solución.

I wish I did, but I don't -- but I think,

Oxalá si, pero non a teño –-pero penso,

I think it has to start here.

penso que ten que comezar aquí.

It has to start with me, it has to start with you,

Ten que comezar comigo, contigo,

it has to start with the people who are suffering,

coa xente que está a sufrir,

the ones who are hidden in the shadows.

que está escondida na sombra.

We need to speak up and shatter the silence.

Debemos alzar a voz e rachar o silencio.

We need to be the ones who are brave for what we believe in,

Debemos defender con valentía o que cremos

because if there's one thing that I've come to realize,

porque se de algo me dei de conta,

if there's one thing that I see as the biggest problem,

se hai algo que para min é o problema máis grande

it's not in building a world

non é construír un mundo

where we eliminate the ignorance of others.

en que eliminemos a ignorancia dos outros,

It's in building a world where we teach the acceptance of ourselves,

senón un en que se ensine a aceptarse,

where we're okay with who we are,

a estar ben consigo,

because when we get honest,

porque cando nos abrimos,

we see that we all struggle and we all suffer.

vemos que todos loitamos e sufrimos.

Whether it's with this, whether it's with something else,

Ben sexa con isto ou con outra cousa,

we all know what it is to hurt.

todos sabemos o que é sufrir.

We all know what it is to have pain in our heart,

Porque a todos nos doe o corazón,

and we all know how important it is to heal.

e sabemos a importancia de recuperarse.

But right now, depression is society's deep cut

Pero neste momento a depresión é unha ferida social

that we're content to put a Band-Aid over and pretend it's not there.

que tapamos cun apósito, coma se nada.

Well, it is there. It is there, and you know what? It's okay.

Pero segue aí. E sabedes que? Non pasa nada.

Depression is okay. If you're going through it, know that you're okay.

A depresión é lícita. Se a tes, que saibas que o é.

And know that you're sick, you're not weak,

que estás enfermo, non débil,

and it's an issue, not an identity,

que é un problema, non unha identidade,

because when you get past the fear and the ridicule

porque cando superas o medo e a mofa

and the judgment and the stigma of others,

e o prexuízo e o estigma dos demais,

you can see depression for what it really is,

verás a depresión polo que realmente é:

and that's just a part of life,

só unha parte da vida,

just a part of life, and as much as I hate,

só unha parte da vida, e por moito que odie,

as much as I hate some of the places,

que odie algúns dos lugares,

some of the parts of my life depression has dragged me down to,

algunhas das partes da vida ás que me arrastrou,

in a lot of ways I'm grateful for it.

de moitos xeitos, agradézoo.

Because yeah, it's put me in the valleys,

Porque se me meteu nun val,

but only to show me there's peaks,

foi para mostrarme os cumios,

and yeah it's dragged me through the dark

e se me arrastrou polas tebras

but only to remind me there is light.

foi para lembrarme que había luz.

My pain, more than anything in 19 years on this planet,

A miña dor, máis que nada en 19 anos,

has given me perspective, and my hurt,

deume perspectiva. A miña dor

my hurt has forced me to have hope,

obrigoume a ter esperanza,

have hope and to have faith, faith in myself,

esperanza e confianza en min mesmo,

faith in others, faith that it can get better,

nos demais, en que pode mellorar,

that we can change this, that we can speak up

que podemos cambialo, denuncialo

and speak out and fight back against ignorance,

denuncialo e loitar contra a ignorancia,

fight back against intolerance,

loitar contra a intolerancia,

and more than anything,

e máis que nada

learn to love ourselves,

aprender a querernos a nós mesmos,

learn to accept ourselves for who we are,

a aceptarnos por quen somos:

the people we are, not the people the world wants us to be.

quen somos, non quen o mundo quere.

Because the world I believe in is one

Porque o mundo en que creo é onde

where embracing your light doesn't mean ignoring your dark.

abrazar a túa luz non implica ignorar a túa escuridade.

The world I believe in is one where we're measured

Un mundo en que se nos valore

by our ability to overcome adversities, not avoid them.

a capacidade de vencer a adversidade, non esquivala.

The world I believe in is one where I can look someone in the eye

Un mundo en que podo mirar alguén,

and say, "I'm going through hell,"

dicirlle: "Estou a vivir un inferno."

and they can look back at me and go, "Me too," and that's okay,

E que me miren e digan: "Eu tamén." E non pasa nada.

and it's okay because depression is okay. We're people.

Porque a depresión é lícita. Somos persoas.

We're people, and we struggle and we suffer

Somos persoas, e sufrimos e loitamos,

and we bleed and we cry, and if you think that true strength

sangramos e choramos. Se pensas que ser forte

means never showing any weakness, then I'm here

é nunca mostrar debilidades, estou aquí

to tell you you're wrong.

para dicirche que estás equivocado.

You're wrong, because it's the opposite.

Estás equivocado porque é o oposto.

We're people, and we have problems.

Somos persoas e temos problemas.

We're not perfect, and that's okay.

Non somos perfectos, non pasa nada.

So we need to stop the ignorance,

Así que debemos parar a ignorancia,

stop the intolerance, stop the stigma,

a intolerancia, o estigma,

and stop the silence, and we need to take away the taboos,

parar o silencio e eliminar os tabús,

take a look at the truth, and start talking,

mirar a verdade e comezar a falar:

because the only way we're going to beat a problem

o único xeito de vencer o problema,

that people are battling alone

que a xente está a combater soa,

is by standing strong together,

é sermos fortes xuntos,

by standing strong together.

sermos fortes xuntos.

And I believe that we can.

E eu creo que somos quen.

I believe that we can. Thank you guys so much.

Si que o creo. Moitísimas grazas a todos.

This is a dream come true. Thank you. (Applause)

Isto é un soño feito realidade. Grazas. (Aplausos)

Thank you. (Applause)

Grazas. (Aplausos)