Angela Patton: A father-daughter dance ... in prison | TED

Translator: Joseph Geni Reviewer: Morton Bast

Prevodilac: Andrea Jovanovic Lektor: Boško Eraković

I was sitting with my girls,

Sedela sam sa svojim devojčicama

and Joy said,

i Džoj je rekla:

"Dang, I wish he'd get off my back.

"Dođavola, volela bih da me ostavi na miru.

My daddy, he calls me all the time."

Moj tata, stalno me zove."

"Lucky for you he calls at all," said Jasmine.

"Srećna si što te uopšte zove," rekla je Jasmin.

"I haven't heard from my dad in years."

"Nisam čula svog oca već godinama."

At this moment, I knew the girls needed a way

U tom trenutku, znala sam da je devojkama potreban način

to connect with their fathers.

da se spoje sa svojim očevima.

At Camp Diva, my non-profit organization,

U "Camp Diva", mojoj neprofitnoj organizaciji,

we have these types of conversations all the time

imamo ovakve ragovore stalno,

as a way to help girls of African descent

kao način da pomognemo devojkama afričkog porekla

prepare for their passage into womanhood.

da se pripreme za put ka sazrevanju.

These girls just needed

Ovim devojkama je samo bio potreban

a way to invite their fathers into their lives

način da pozovu svoje očeve u živote

on their own terms.

po njihovim uslovima.

So I asked the girls,

I tako sam pitala devojke:

"How can we help other girls

"Kako možemo da pomognemo ostalim devojkama

develop healthy relationships with their fathers?"

da razviju jednu zdravu vezu sa svojim očevima?"

"Let's have a dance," one girl shouted,

"Da organizujemo igranku," viknula je jedna devojka

and all the girls quickly backed her up.

i ostale devojke su je brzo podržale.

They started dreaming about the decorations,

Počele su da sanjaju o dekoracijama,

invitations, the dresses they were going to wear,

pozivnicama, haljinama koje će nositi,

and what their fathers could and could not wear. (Laughter)

i šta bi mogli njihovi očevi mogli da nose, a šta ne. (Smeh)

It was off and running before I could even blink my eyes,

Priča je pokrenuta pre nego što sam i trepnula,

but even if I could have slowed down those girls,

a i da sam mogla te devojke da zaustavim,

I wouldn't have,

ne bih to učinila,

because one thing that I have learned

jer jedna stvar koju sam naučila

from over a decade of working with girls

za više od deset godina rada sa devojkama

is that they already know what they need.

je da one već znaju šta im je potrebno.

The wisdom lives inside of them.

Mudrost živi u njima.

As long as they have infrastructure,

Sve dok imaju infrastrukturu,

mentorship and resources,

mentorstvo i resurse,

they can build what they need,

mogu sagraditi šta im je potrebno,

not only to survive, but to thrive.

ne samo da prežive, već i da uspeju.

So we had a dance,

Znači imali smo igranku

and girls and their fathers came in multitudes.

i devojke i njihovi očevi došli su u velikom broju.

They were dressed to the nines.

Bili su prikladno odeveni.

They acted sweet.

Bili su slatki.

(Laughter)

(Smeh)

They acted silly.

Bili su luckasti.

They really enjoyed each other's company.

Zaista su uživali u međusobnom druženju.

It was a huge success.

Bio je to veliki uspeh.

And the girls decided to make it an annual event.

I devojke su odlučile da organizuju događaj svake godine.

So as the seasons changed,

Kako su se doba menjala

and it was time to plan the dance again,

i bližilo se vreme da se opet planira igranka

one girl named Brianna spoke up,

jedna devojka po imenu Briana je uzela je reč,

and she said,

i rekla pritom:

"My dad can't come to the dance,

"Moj tata ne može da dođe na igranku

and this whole thing is making me sad."

i sve ovo me čini tužnom."

"Why not?" the girls asked.

"Zašto ne može?", pitale su devojke.

"Because he's in jail," she bravely admitted.

"Jer je u zatvoru," priznala je hrabro.

"Well, can he just get out for a day?" one of the girls asked. (Laughter)

"Pa,može li izaći samo na jedan dan?", jedna od devojaka je pitala. (Smeh)

"And come in shackles?

"I da dođe u okovima?

That's worse than not having him here at all."

To je gore nego da uopšte ne dođe."

At this moment, I saw an opportunity

U tom trenutku, videla sam šansu

for the girls to rise to the occasion

za devojke da dorastu prilici

and to become their own heroes.

i da postanu svoji heroji.

So I asked, "What do you think we should do about this?

Pitala sam: "Šta mislite da treba da uradimo po tom pitanju?

We want every girl to experience the dance, right?"

Želimo da svaka devojka uživa u igranci, zar ne?"

So the girls thought for a moment,

Devojke su razmislile na trenutak

and one girl suggested,

i jedna devojčica je predložila:

"Why don't we just take the dance in the jail?"

"Zašto ne organizujemo igranku u zatvoru?"

Most of the girls doubted the possibility of that,

Većina devojaka je sumnjala da je to moguće,

and said, "Are you crazy?

i rekle su: "Jesi ti poludela?"

Who is going to allow a bunch of little girls,

Ko će dozvoliti gomili malih devojčica,

dressed up — " (Laughter)

skockanih - " (Smeh)

" — to come inside a jail and dance with their daddies in Spongebob suits?"

" - da uđu u zatvor i plešu sa svojim očevima u Sunđer Bob odelima?"

Because that's what they called them.

Jer tako su ih zvali.

I said, "Girls, well, well,

Rekla sam: "Devojke,

you never know unless you ask."

nikad nećete saznati ako ne pitate."

So a letter was written to the Richmond City Sheriff,

Napisali smo pismo šerifu grada Ričmonda,

signed collectively by each girl,

sve devojke su se potpisale

and I would have to say, he is a very special sheriff.

i moram reći, to je jedan veoma poseban šerif.

He contacted me immediately and said,

Odmah me je kontaktirao i rekao,

whenever there is an opportunity to bring families inside,

kad god postoji mogućnost da pustimo porodice unutra,

his doors are always open.

njihova vrata su uvek otvorena.

Because one thing he did know,

Jer jednu stvar je sigurno znao,

that when fathers are connected to their children,

kad su očevi povezani sa svojom decom,

it is less likely that they will return.

manje su šanse da će se vratiti.

So,

Dakle,

16 inmates and 18 girls were invited.

16 zatvorenika i 18 devojčica je bilo pozvano.

The girls were dressed in their Sunday best,

Devojke su obukle svoje najbolje haljine,

and the fathers traded in their yellow and blue jumpsuits

a očevi su zamenili svoje žuto-plave uniforme

for shirts and ties.

za košulje i kravate.

They hugged.

Zagrlili su se.

They shared a full catered meal of chicken and fish.

Podelili su ceo dostavljeni obrok piletine i ribe.

They laughed together.

Smejali su se zajedno.

It was beautiful.

Bilo je prelepo.

The fathers and daughters even experienced

Očevi i ćerke su čak iskusili

an opportunity to have a physical connection,

mogućnost da imaju fizičku povezanost,

something that a lot of them didn't even have

nešto što mnogi od njih nisu imali

for a while.

duže vreme.

Fathers were in a space where they were able to

Očevi su bili u prostoru gde su mogli

make their daughter's plate,

da se igraju sa svojim ćerkama

and pull out her chair and extend his hand for a dance.

i izvuku im stolicu i pruže im ruku za ples.

Even the guards cried.

Čak su i stražari plakali.

But after the dance,

Ali posle igranke,

we all realized that Dad still would be in jail.

svi smo shvatili da će tata ostati u zatvoru.

So we needed to create something

Trebalo je da stvorimo nešto

that they could take with them.

što mogu poneti kući.

So we brought in Flip cams,

Uneli smo Flip kamere

and we had them look at the Flip cams

i oni su stali pred njih

and just interview each other --

i intervjuisali jedni druge -

their messages, their thoughts.

njihove poruke, njihove misli.

This was going to be used as a touchstone

Ovo će biti upotrebljeno kao uspomena

so when they started to miss each other

kad budu nedostajali jedni drugima

and feel disconnected,

i osećali se razdvojeno,

they could reconnect through this image.

putem ove slike moći će opet da budu spojeni.

I'll never forget that one girl looked in her father's eyes

Nikad neću zaboraviti devojčicu koja je pogledala u oči svoga oca

with that camera and said,

kamerom i rekla:

"Daddy, when you look at me, what do you see?"

"Tata, kad me pogledaš, šta vidiš?"

Because our daddies are our mirrors

Jer očevi su naša ogledala

that we reflect back on

kojih se prisećamo

when we decide about what type of man we deserve,

kada odlučujemo o tome kakav tip muškaraca zaslužujemo

and how they see us for the rest of our lives.

i kako će nas oni videti do kraja života.

I know that very well,

Znam to vrlo dobro,

because I was one of the lucky girls.

jer ja sam bila jedna od onih srećnih devojčica.

I have had

Imala sam

my father in my life always.

svog oca uvek u svom životu.

He's even here today.

On je čak i danas tu.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)

And that is why it is extremely special

I zato je toliko posebno

for me to make sure that these girls

za mene da znam da su ove devojke

are connected to their fathers,

povezane sa svojim očevima,

especially those who are separated

naročito one koje su razdvojene

because of barbed wires and metal doors.

zbog bodljikavih žica i metalnih vrata.

We have just created a form

Mi smo samo stvorili način

for girls who have heavy questions on their heart

za devojke koje nose teška pitanja u srcu

to be in a position to ask their fathers those questions

da budu u poziciji da im postave ta pitanja

and given the fathers the freedom to answer.

i daju očevima slobodu da odgovore na njih.

Because we know that the fathers

Jer znamo da očevi

are even leaving with this one thought:

čak odlaze sa ovom mišlju:

What type of woman am I preparing to put in the world?

Kakvu ženu ću da pripremim za svet?

Because a father is locked in

Jer otac koji je zatvoren

does not mean he should be locked out

ne znači da mora biti isključen

of his daughter's life.

iz života svoje ćerke.

(Applause)

(Aplauz)