Angela Patton: A father-daughter dance ... in prison | TED

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Translator: Joseph Geni Reviewer: Morton Bast
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譯者: Bert Chen 審譯者: Jui-Hsin Chen
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I was sitting with my girls,
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當時我跟組織裡的小女孩們坐在一起
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and Joy said,
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喬伊說
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"Dang, I wish he'd get off my back.
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「我希望他不要再打來煩我」
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My daddy, he calls me all the time."
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「我爸爸每次都會打給我」
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"Lucky for you he calls at all," said Jasmine.
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潔絲米說「你還算幸運,他都會打給你」
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"I haven't heard from my dad in years."
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「我好久沒聽到我爸爸的聲音了」
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At this moment, I knew the girls needed a way
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此刻,我知道這些女孩需要有一個管道
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to connect with their fathers.
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聯絡她們的父親
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At Camp Diva, my non-profit organization,
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在Camp Diva,我們的非營利組織
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we have these types of conversations all the time
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我們有持續在做各式對談
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as a way to help girls of African descent
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當作是一種方法,幫助非裔美國女孩
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prepare for their passage into womanhood.
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為她們即將邁向成年做準備
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These girls just needed
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這些女孩只是需要
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a way to invite their fathers into their lives
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邀請她們的父親進入她們的生活
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on their own terms.
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用她們自己的方式
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So I asked the girls,
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所以我問這些女孩
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"How can we help other girls
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「我們能如何幫助其他女孩
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develop healthy relationships with their fathers?"
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跟她們的父親發展出健全的關係?」
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"Let's have a dance," one girl shouted,
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一位女孩大聲喊說「大家一起來跳舞」
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and all the girls quickly backed her up.
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所有女孩都支持她的想法
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They started dreaming about the decorations,
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她們開始幻想要如何佈置場地
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invitations, the dresses they were going to wear,
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邀請事宜,要穿什麼衣服
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and what their fathers could and could not wear. (Laughter)
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還有她們的父親可能或可能不會穿的(笑聲)
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It was off and running before I could even blink my eyes,
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彈指之間,她們就開始討論了
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but even if I could have slowed down those girls,
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即使我能夠讓那些女孩冷靜下來
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I wouldn't have,
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我也不會這麼做
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because one thing that I have learned
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因為我學到一件事
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from over a decade of working with girls
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我跟這群女孩在一起,已經超過十年
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is that they already know what they need.
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她們都已經知道自己需要什麼
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The wisdom lives inside of them.
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她們本身就擁有這種智慧
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As long as they have infrastructure,
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只要她們有基本概念
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mentorship and resources,
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有人引導,有資源
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they can build what they need,
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就能構築出她們需要的東西
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not only to survive, but to thrive.
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不僅能獨立自主,也能更成功
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So we had a dance,
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所以我們辦了一場舞會
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and girls and their fathers came in multitudes.
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很多對父女一起來參加活動
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They were dressed to the nines.
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他們都穿著正式服裝
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They acted sweet.
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她們的姿勢很可愛
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(Laughter)
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(笑聲)
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They acted silly.
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他們的動作很笨拙
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They really enjoyed each other's company.
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他們非常享受彼此的陪伴
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It was a huge success.
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活動非常成功
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And the girls decided to make it an annual event.
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這些女孩決定每年都要舉辦這種活動
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So as the seasons changed,
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隨著時間流逝
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and it was time to plan the dance again,
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又到該再次籌備舞會的時候了
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one girl named Brianna spoke up,
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有一名叫布莉安娜的女孩
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and she said,
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她說
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"My dad can't come to the dance,
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「我爸爸不能來參加舞會」
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and this whole thing is making me sad."
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「這件事讓我很難過」
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"Why not?" the girls asked.
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「為什麼?」女孩們問
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"Because he's in jail," she bravely admitted.
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「因為他在監獄服刑」,她勇敢承認
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"Well, can he just get out for a day?" one of the girls asked. (Laughter)
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「那他能夠出來一天嗎?」 其中一位女孩問道(笑聲)
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"And come in shackles?
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「戴著腳鐐來?」
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That's worse than not having him here at all."
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「他乾脆不要參加好了」
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At this moment, I saw an opportunity
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此刻,我看到一個機會
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for the girls to rise to the occasion
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能讓女孩們舉辦這場舞會
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and to become their own heroes.
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讓她們為自己作主
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So I asked, "What do you think we should do about this?
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所以我問說「你們認為我們應該要怎麼做才好?」
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We want every girl to experience the dance, right?"
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「我們想讓每個女孩都能參加舞會,對嗎?」
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So the girls thought for a moment,
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所以這群女孩又想了一下
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and one girl suggested,
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然後有一位女孩建議
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"Why don't we just take the dance in the jail?"
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「為什麼我們不在監獄裡辦舞會呢?」
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Most of the girls doubted the possibility of that,
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大多數女孩都質疑這種方法的可行性
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and said, "Are you crazy?
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說「你瘋了嗎?」
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Who is going to allow a bunch of little girls,
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「誰會讓一群小女孩
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dressed up — " (Laughter)
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盛裝打扮
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" — to come inside a jail and dance with their daddies in Spongebob suits?"
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進監獄和父親跳舞,父親還穿得像海綿寶寶」
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Because that's what they called them.
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因為她們就是這樣說的
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I said, "Girls, well, well,
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我說,「大家冷靜一下」
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you never know unless you ask."
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「除非你們去問,否則永遠也不會知道答案」
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So a letter was written to the Richmond City Sheriff,
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所以大家寫一封信,寄給里奇蒙市的警長
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signed collectively by each girl,
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每位女孩都在上面簽名連署
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and I would have to say, he is a very special sheriff.
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我必須說,他是一位很特別的警長
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He contacted me immediately and said,
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他馬上就與我連繫,表示
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whenever there is an opportunity to bring families inside,
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若有機會帶小朋友們進去探視
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his doors are always open.
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他的大門隨時都會為我們敞開
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Because one thing he did know,
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因為他確信一件事
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that when fathers are connected to their children,
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父親能與自己小孩建立關係時
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it is less likely that they will return.
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就表示他們不太可能再走回頭路
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So,
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所以
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16 inmates and 18 girls were invited.
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16名受刑人與18名女孩受到邀請
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The girls were dressed in their Sunday best,
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女孩們穿著正式服裝
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and the fathers traded in their yellow and blue jumpsuits
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父親們將黃藍相間的工作服
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for shirts and ties.
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換成襯衫和領帶
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They hugged.
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他們相互擁抱
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They shared a full catered meal of chicken and fish.
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他們一起享用有雞有魚的大餐
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They laughed together.
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他們一起歡笑
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It was beautiful.
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景象非常溫馨
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The fathers and daughters even experienced
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父親們和女兒們甚至能
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an opportunity to have a physical connection,
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有肢體接觸的機會
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something that a lot of them didn't even have
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他們多數人已經沒有過這種互動
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for a while.
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有一段時間了
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Fathers were in a space where they were able to
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父親們會到一個活動空間
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make their daughter's plate,
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他們能與女兒互動
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and pull out her chair and extend his hand for a dance.
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拉出她的椅子,伸出手邀請女兒跳舞
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Even the guards cried.
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甚至連守衛都哭了
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But after the dance,
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但是舞會結束之後
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we all realized that Dad still would be in jail.
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我們都意識到爸爸還在服刑
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So we needed to create something
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所以我們需要做些東西
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that they could take with them.
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讓他們能夠帶在身邊
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So we brought in Flip cams,
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所以我們將攝影機帶來
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and we had them look at the Flip cams
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讓女孩能拍攝父親
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and just interview each other --
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互相訪問
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their messages, their thoughts.
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錄下彼此想傳達的訊息、想法
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This was going to be used as a touchstone
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這能夠當作是一種新的嘗試
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so when they started to miss each other
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在他們開始思念彼此的時候
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and feel disconnected,
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心情落寞的時候
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they could reconnect through this image.
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他們就能藉由影像想起當時情景
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I'll never forget that one girl looked in her father's eyes
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我絕不會忘記,一名女孩看著她父親的眼睛
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with that camera and said,
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對著錄影機說
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"Daddy, when you look at me, what do you see?"
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「爸爸,你看著我眼睛時,你看到什麼?」
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Because our daddies are our mirrors
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因為我們的父親就是我們的榜樣
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that we reflect back on
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我們會受到他們影響
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when we decide about what type of man we deserve,
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我們在選自己未來另一半的時候
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and how they see us for the rest of our lives.
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還有他們會如何看待我們接下來的人生
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I know that very well,
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我非常清楚
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because I was one of the lucky girls.
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因為我就是其中一位幸運的女孩
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I have had
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在我的一生中
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my father in my life always.
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我的父親一直都陪伴著我
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He's even here today.
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甚至今天他也來到現場
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(Applause)
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(掌聲)
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And that is why it is extremely special
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這就是為什麼這件事對我來說會如此特別
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for me to make sure that these girls
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確保這些女孩
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are connected to their fathers,
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能夠連繫他們的父親
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especially those who are separated
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特別是那些父親遭到隔離的女孩
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because of barbed wires and metal doors.
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因為隔著一道刺鐵絲網和金屬門
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We have just created a form
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我們只是創造一種方法給女孩
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for girls who have heavy questions on their heart
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她們都有潛藏許久的問題
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to be in a position to ask their fathers those questions
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給她們機會問她們父親那些問題
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and given the fathers the freedom to answer.
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同時能讓父親們有自由空間能回答
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Because we know that the fathers
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因為我們都知道這些父親
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are even leaving with this one thought:
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甚至都只剩一個想法
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What type of woman am I preparing to put in the world?
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我的女兒長大會是什麼樣子?
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Because a father is locked in
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就因為一位父親在監獄服刑
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does not mean he should be locked out
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不表示他應該被排除
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of his daughter's life.
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在他的女兒生活之外
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(Applause)
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(掌聲)
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