Angela Patton: A father-daughter dance ... in prison | TED

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Translator: Joseph Geni Reviewer: Morton Bast
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Prevoditelj: Senzos Osijek Recezent: Suzana Baric
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I was sitting with my girls,
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Sjedila sam sa svojim djevojkama,
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and Joy said,
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a Joy je rekla:
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"Dang, I wish he'd get off my back.
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"K vragu, stvarno bih željela da me ostavi na miru.
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My daddy, he calls me all the time."
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Moj tata me stalno naziva."
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"Lucky for you he calls at all," said Jasmine.
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"Blago tebi što te uopće zove", rekla je Jasmine.
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"I haven't heard from my dad in years."
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"Meni se moj tata nije javio godinama."
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At this moment, I knew the girls needed a way
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U tom trenu znala sam da djevojke trebaju način
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to connect with their fathers.
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da se povežu sa svojim očevima.
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At Camp Diva, my non-profit organization,
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U kampu Diva, mojoj neprofitnoj organizaciji,
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we have these types of conversations all the time
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često vodimo takvu vrstu razgovora
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as a way to help girls of African descent
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te na taj način pomažemo djevojkama afričkog porijekla
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prepare for their passage into womanhood.
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u pripremi za prijelaz u život odrasle žene.
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These girls just needed
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Te su djevojke samo trebale
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a way to invite their fathers into their lives
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način na koji pozvati svoje očeve u svoj život
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on their own terms.
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prema vlastitim uvjetima.
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So I asked the girls,
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Stoga sam upitala djevojke:
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"How can we help other girls
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"Kako možemo pomoći drugim djevojkama
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develop healthy relationships with their fathers?"
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da razviju zdrav odnos sa svojim očevima?"
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"Let's have a dance," one girl shouted,
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"Održimo ples!", povikala je jedna djevojka,
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and all the girls quickly backed her up.
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a sve ostale djevojke su je podržale.
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They started dreaming about the decorations,
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Počele su sanjariti o ukrasima,
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invitations, the dresses they were going to wear,
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pozivnicama, haljinama koje će odjenuti
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and what their fathers could and could not wear. (Laughter)
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i onome što njihovi roditelji mogu i ne mogu odjenuti. (Smijeh)
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It was off and running before I could even blink my eyes,
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Sve je već započelo prije nego što sam trepnula,
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but even if I could have slowed down those girls,
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no čak i da sam mogla usporiti djevojke,
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I wouldn't have,
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ne bih to učinila
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because one thing that I have learned
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jer sam naučila jedno
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from over a decade of working with girls
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tijekom više od desetljeća rada s djevojkama,
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is that they already know what they need.
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a to je da one već znaju što trebaju.
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The wisdom lives inside of them.
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Mudrost živi u njima.
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As long as they have infrastructure,
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Sve dok imaju infrastrukturu,
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mentorship and resources,
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mentorstvo i sredstva,
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they can build what they need,
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mogu stvoriti ono što im treba;
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not only to survive, but to thrive.
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ne samo za preživljavanje, već i za napredovanje.
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So we had a dance,
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Dakle, imali smo ples
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and girls and their fathers came in multitudes.
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i došlo je mnogo djevojaka i njihovih očeva.
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They were dressed to the nines.
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Bili su svečano odjeveni.
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They acted sweet.
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Bili su dražesni.
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(Laughter)
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(Smijeh)
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They acted silly.
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Bili su luckasti.
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They really enjoyed each other's company.
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Zaista su uživali u međusobnom druženju.
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It was a huge success.
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Bio je to velik uspjeh.
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And the girls decided to make it an annual event.
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Djevojke su odlučile da to bude događaj koji će se održavati svake godine.
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So as the seasons changed,
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Godišnja su se doba izmjenjivala
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and it was time to plan the dance again,
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i došlo je vrijeme za planiranje novog plesa,
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one girl named Brianna spoke up,
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a djevojka Briana
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and she said,
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rekla je:
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"My dad can't come to the dance,
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"Moj tata ne može doći na ples
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and this whole thing is making me sad."
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i sve me to rastužuje."
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"Why not?" the girls asked.
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"Zašto ne može?", upitale su djevojke.
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"Because he's in jail," she bravely admitted.
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"Zato što je u zatvoru", hrabro je priznala.
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"Well, can he just get out for a day?" one of the girls asked. (Laughter)
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"Može li izaći samo na jedan dan?", upitala je jedna od djevojaka. (Smijeh)
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"And come in shackles?
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"I doći u lisicama?
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That's worse than not having him here at all."
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To je gore nego da uopće ne dođe."
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At this moment, I saw an opportunity
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Tad sam vidjela priliku
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for the girls to rise to the occasion
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da djevojke prihvate izazov
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and to become their own heroes.
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i postanu vlastiti junaci.
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So I asked, "What do you think we should do about this?
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Upitala sam: "Što mislite da bismo trebale napraviti u vezi toga?
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We want every girl to experience the dance, right?"
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Želimo da svaka djevojka iskusi ples, zar ne?"
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So the girls thought for a moment,
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Djevojke su kratko razmišljale,
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and one girl suggested,
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a jedna od njih je predložila:
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"Why don't we just take the dance in the jail?"
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"Zašto jednostavno ne održimo ples u zatvoru?"
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Most of the girls doubted the possibility of that,
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Većina djevojaka sumnjala je u tu mogućnost
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and said, "Are you crazy?
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pa su rekle: "Jesi li ti luda?
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Who is going to allow a bunch of little girls,
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Tko će dopustiti hrpi djevojčica
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dressed up — " (Laughter)
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odjevenim u haljine -- '' (Smijeh)
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" — to come inside a jail and dance with their daddies in Spongebob suits?"
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" -- da dođu u zatvor i plešu sa svojim očevima u spužva-bob odijelima?"
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Because that's what they called them.
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Tako su zvale zatvorska odijela.
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I said, "Girls, well, well,
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Ja sam rekla: "Djevojke, djevojke,
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you never know unless you ask."
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nikad nećete znati ako ne pitate."
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So a letter was written to the Richmond City Sheriff,
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Napisale smo pismo šerifu Richmonda,
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signed collectively by each girl,
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potpisale su ga sve djevojke,
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and I would have to say, he is a very special sheriff.
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a ja moram reći da je on vrlo poseban šerif.
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He contacted me immediately and said,
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Odmah me kontaktirao te rekao da,
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whenever there is an opportunity to bring families inside,
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kad god postoji mogućnost da se obitelji dovedu unutra,
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his doors are always open.
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njegova su vrata uvijek otvorena.
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Because one thing he did know,
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Jer znao je jednu stvar:
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that when fathers are connected to their children,
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kad su očevi povezani sa svojom djecom,
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it is less likely that they will return.
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manja je vjerojatnost da će se vratiti.
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So,
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Dakle,
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16 inmates and 18 girls were invited.
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pozvano je 16 zatvorenika i 18 djevojaka.
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The girls were dressed in their Sunday best,
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Djevojke su bile odjevene u svoju najbolju odjeću,
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and the fathers traded in their yellow and blue jumpsuits
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a očevi su zamijenili svoja žuta i plava zatvorska odijela
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for shirts and ties.
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košuljama i kravatama.
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They hugged.
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Zagrlili su se.
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They shared a full catered meal of chicken and fish.
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Podijelili su dostavljeni obrok, piletinu i ribu.
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They laughed together.
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Smijali su se zajedno.
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It was beautiful.
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Bilo je prekrasno.
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The fathers and daughters even experienced
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Očevi i kćeri čak su iskusili
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an opportunity to have a physical connection,
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priliku da budu i fizički povezani,
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something that a lot of them didn't even have
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nešto što mnogi od njih
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for a while.
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dugo uopće nisu imali.
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Fathers were in a space where they were able to
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Očevi su se nalazili u prostoru gdje su mogli
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make their daughter's plate,
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plesati sa svojim kćerima
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and pull out her chair and extend his hand for a dance.
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te im izvući stolicu i pružiti ruku za ples.
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Even the guards cried.
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Čak su i čuvari plakali.
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But after the dance,
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No nakon plesa,
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we all realized that Dad still would be in jail.
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shvatili smo da će očevi ipak morati ostati u zatvoru.
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So we needed to create something
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Trebali smo napraviti nešto
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that they could take with them.
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što bismo mogli ponijeti sa sobom.
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So we brought in Flip cams,
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Donijeli smo Flip kamere
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and we had them look at the Flip cams
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u koje su gledali
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and just interview each other --
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i intervjuirali jedni druge --
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their messages, their thoughts.
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svoje poruke, svoje misli.
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This was going to be used as a touchstone
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Ovo će koristiti kao podsjetnik
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so when they started to miss each other
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pa kad počnu nedostajati jedni drugima
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and feel disconnected,
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i osjećati se nepovezano,
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they could reconnect through this image.
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mogu se ponovno povezati kroz tu sliku.
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I'll never forget that one girl looked in her father's eyes
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Nikad neću zaboraviti kad je jedna djevojka pogledala svog oca u oči
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with that camera and said,
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s tom kamerom i rekla:
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"Daddy, when you look at me, what do you see?"
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"Tata, kad me pogledaš, što vidiš?"
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Because our daddies are our mirrors
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Jer naši su očevi naša zrcala
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that we reflect back on
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na koja se osvrćemo
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when we decide about what type of man we deserve,
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kad odlučujemo kakav tip muškarca zaslužujemo
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and how they see us for the rest of our lives.
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i kako nas oni vide do kraja našeg života.
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I know that very well,
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Ja to znam vrlo dobro
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because I was one of the lucky girls.
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jer sam bila jedna od sretnih djevojaka.
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I have had
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Moj je otac
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my father in my life always.
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uvijek bio u mom životu.
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He's even here today.
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Čak je i danas ovdje.
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(Applause)
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(Pljesak)
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And that is why it is extremely special
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I zato je za mene iznimno važno
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for me to make sure that these girls
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da su ove djevojke
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are connected to their fathers,
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povezane sa svojim očevima,
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especially those who are separated
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posebno one koje su odvojene
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because of barbed wires and metal doors.
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bodljikavim žicama i metalnim vratima.
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We have just created a form
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Upravo smo stvorili obrazac
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for girls who have heavy questions on their heart
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za djevojke koje imaju teška pitanja na srcu
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to be in a position to ask their fathers those questions
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da mogu pitati svoje očeve ta pitanja
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and given the fathers the freedom to answer.
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te da daju očevima slobodu odgovoriti.
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Because we know that the fathers
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Jer znamo da očevi
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are even leaving with this one thought:
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odlaze s jednom mišlju:
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What type of woman am I preparing to put in the world?
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"Kakav tip žene pripremam za ovaj svijet?"
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Because a father is locked in
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To što je otac zatvoren
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does not mean he should be locked out
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ne znači da bi trebao biti i isključen
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of his daughter's life.
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iz života svoje kćeri.
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(Applause)
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(Pljesak)
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