How to fix a broken heart | Guy Winch | TED

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翻译人员: Chien Yet Chong 校对人员: Eddy Chan
00:12
At some point in our lives,
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在我们一生中的某个时刻,
00:14
almost every one of us will have our heart broken.
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差不多每个人都经历过心碎。
00:18
My patient Kathy planned her wedding when she was in middle school.
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我的病人凯蒂中学时 就开始为她的婚礼做计划。
00:23
She would meet her future husband
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她想27岁时就遇见她的
00:25
by age 27,
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未来丈夫,
00:26
get engaged a year later
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一年后订婚,
00:28
and get married a year after that.
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最后在接下来的一年结婚。
00:31
But when Kathy turned 27, she didn't find a husband.
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但是当凯蒂27岁时, 她并没找到丈夫。
00:35
She found a lump in her breast.
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她发现她的乳房有肿块。
00:38
She went through many months of harsh chemotherapy
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她必须捱过多个月的严酷化疗
00:41
and painful surgeries,
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以及痛不欲生的手术,
00:43
and then just as she was ready to jump back into the dating world,
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当她准备好重新开始约会时,
00:47
she found a lump in her other breast
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她又发现另一个乳房有肿块,
00:50
and had to do it all over again.
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而又要再重新进行治疗。
00:53
Kathy recovered, though,
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凯蒂最终康复,
00:54
and she was eager to resume her search for a husband
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她迫不及待地重返 寻找丈夫这个任务,
00:57
as soon as her eyebrows grew back in.
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在她的眉毛长回后就立即开始。
01:00
When you're going on first dates in New York City,
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你在纽约第一次约会,
01:02
you need to be able to express a wide range of emotions.
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必须能表达多样化的感情。
01:05
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
01:07
Soon afterwards, she met Rich and fell in love.
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不久之后,她遇见了瑞奇, 两人堕入爱河。
01:10
The relationship was everything she hoped it would be.
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这段感情是她梦寐以求的。
01:14
Six months later,
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六个月后,
01:15
after a lovely weekend in New England,
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在新英格兰度过了 甜美的周末后,
01:18
Rich made reservations at their favorite romantic restaurant.
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瑞奇在他们最喜欢的 浪漫餐厅做了预订。
01:22
Kathy knew he was going to propose,
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凯蒂知道他将会向她求婚,
01:24
and she could barely contain her excitement.
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她几乎无法压抑她的兴奋感。
01:28
But Rich did not propose to Kathy that night.
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但是那天晚上瑞奇 并没向凯蒂求婚。
01:31
He broke up with her.
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他跟凯蒂分手了。
01:33
As deeply as he cared for Kathy -- and he did --
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尽管瑞奇非常关心凯蒂 ——确实如此——
01:36
he simply wasn't in love.
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但他就是没爱上凯蒂。
01:39
Kathy was shattered.
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凯蒂心碎万分。
01:41
Her heart was truly broken, and she now faced yet another recovery.
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她的心彻底碎了, 现在她又要进行另一个治疗。
01:46
But five months after the breakup,
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但是分手之后过了五个月,
01:49
Kathy still couldn't stop thinking about Rich.
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凯蒂还是无法停止 想起瑞奇。
01:52
Her heart was still very much broken.
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她的心仍然破碎不堪。
01:56
The question is:
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问题是:
01:57
Why?
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为什么?
01:59
Why was this incredibly strong and determined woman
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为什么这位异常坚强和 意志坚定的女人
02:03
unable to marshal the same emotional resources
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无法重拾四年前帮助她
02:06
that got her through four years of cancer treatments?
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挺过癌症治疗的心理状态?
02:10
Why do so many of us flounder
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为什么我们那么多人
02:12
when we're trying to recover from heartbreak?
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在尝试愈合心碎时挣扎不堪?
02:16
Why do the same coping mechanisms
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为什么帮助我们应付
02:18
that get us through all kinds of life challenges
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许多人生挑战的作用机理
02:21
fail us so miserably when our heart gets broken?
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却在我们心碎时完全无效?
02:25
In over 20 years of private practice,
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在超过20年的私人看诊经历中,
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I have seen people of every age and background
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我见过来自各个年龄 以及背景的人
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face every manner of heartbreak,
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面对每种类别的心碎,
02:33
and what I've learned is this:
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而我从中学习到的是:
02:36
when your heart is broken,
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当你心碎时,
02:39
the same instincts you ordinarily rely on
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你平常所依赖的那些直觉
02:42
will time and again lead you down the wrong path.
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将一次又一次地 误导你步上歧途。
02:46
You simply cannot trust what your mind is telling you.
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你不能相信自己的直觉。
02:51
For example, we know from studies of heartbroken people
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举个例子,我们知道有关 心碎的人的研究显示,
02:54
that having a clear understanding of why the relationship ended
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清楚了解关系终结的原因
02:57
is really important for our ability to move on.
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对继续向前,不被感情所困 的能力非常重要。
03:01
Yet time and again,
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但是,一次又一次地,
03:03
when we are offered a simple and honest explanation
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当别人告诉我们简单 以及真诚的解释时,
03:06
like the one Rich offered Kathy,
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如同瑞奇告诉凯蒂的,
03:08
we reject it.
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我们会全盘拒绝。
03:10
Heartbreak creates such dramatic emotional pain,
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心碎制造出如此 戏剧化的感情伤痛,
03:14
our mind tells us the cause must be equally dramatic.
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以致我们的头脑告诉我们 其原因也肯定同样戏剧化。
03:18
And that gut instinct is so powerful,
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而那直觉是如此强大,
03:21
it can make even the most reasonable and measured of us
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它可导致我们当中 最理性和最慎重的人
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come up with mysteries and conspiracy theories
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想出完全不存在的神秘论和
03:28
where none exist.
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阴谋论。
03:30
Kathy became convinced something must have happened
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凯蒂坚信她和瑞奇 一起度过的浪漫假期时
03:32
during her romantic getaway with Rich
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肯定发生了什么
03:34
that soured him on the relationship,
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破坏他们俩感情的事儿,
03:36
and she became obsessed with figuring out what that was.
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导致她无法自拔地 猜想到底是什么事儿。
03:40
And so she spent countless hours
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就那样,她花了无数时间
03:42
going through every minute of that weekend in her mind,
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在脑海里重新回顾 那个周末的每一分钟,
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searching her memory for clues that were not there.
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尝试在她的记忆里寻找 不存在的线索。
03:50
Kathy's mind tricked her into initiating this wild goose chase.
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凯蒂的思想哄骗她 开始这徒劳的搜索。
03:54
But what compelled her to commit to it for so many months?
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但是又是什么迫使她花 无数个月的时间这么做呢?
03:59
Heartbreak is far more insidious than we realize.
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心碎比我们意识到的 更阴险狡诈。
04:03
There is a reason we keep going down one rabbit hole after another,
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让我们不断地重返一个 又一个的迷幻世界,
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even when we know it's going to make us feel worse.
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就算我们知道这么做只会 让我们觉得更糟,是有原因的。
04:11
Brain studies have shown
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大脑研究显示,
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that the withdrawal of romantic love
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失去浪漫的爱情
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activates the same mechanisms in our brain that get activated
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在我们大脑所引发的作用机理
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when addicts are withdrawing from substances like cocaine or opioids.
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跟上瘾者停止吸食如可卡因和 鸦片类毒品时是一样的。
04:25
Kathy was going through withdrawal.
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凯蒂正经历着戒断期。
04:27
And since she could not have the heroin of actually being with Rich,
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既然她的生活中不能没有了 像海洛因一样的瑞奇,
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her unconscious mind chose the methadone of her memories with him.
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于是她的潜意识选择把他们在 在一起的回忆当做代替品。
04:37
Her instincts told her she was trying to solve a mystery,
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她的直觉告诉她在 解开一个谜题,
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but what she was actually doing
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但其实她正在做的
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was getting her fix.
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是满足她的“毒瘾”。
04:45
This is what makes heartbreak so difficult to heal.
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这也就是心碎那么难痊愈的原因。
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Addicts know they're addicted.
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吸毒者知道他们上了瘾。
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They know when they're shooting up.
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他们知道他们正在注射毒品。
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But heartbroken people do not.
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但心碎的人则完全不知情。
04:56
But you do now.
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不过现在你们知道了。
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And if your heart is broken, you cannot ignore that.
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如果你的心碎了, 你不能坐视不理。
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You have to recognize that, as compelling as the urge is,
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你必须承认, 无论冲动是多么强大,
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with every trip down memory lane, every text you send,
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每次重温记忆, 每发一条短信,
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every second you spend stalking your ex on social media,
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每秒你花在社交媒体上 跟踪你的旧爱,
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you are just feeding your addiction,
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你其实就在满足你的“毒瘾”,
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deepening your emotional pain
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加深你感情上的痛苦,
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and complicating your recovery.
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并使痊愈过程更复杂。
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Getting over heartbreak is not a journey.
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要愈合心碎并非一个旅程,
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It's a fight, and your reason is your strongest weapon.
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而是个斗争,而你的理智 是你最强大的武器。
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There is no breakup explanation that's going to feel satisfying.
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没有任何分手原因将 让你感到满足。
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No rationale can take away the pain you feel.
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没有任何理论可以 带走你所感受的痛楚。
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So don't search for one, don't wait for one,
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所以不要再找原因了, 不要再等另一个理论了,
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just accept the one you were offered or make up one yourself
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就接受你已知原因, 或自己捏造一个吧,
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and then put the question to rest,
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然后不再继续追究了,
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because you need that closure to resist the addiction.
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因为你需要的就是这个了结 来应付你的毒瘾。
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And you need something else as well:
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你也需要其它东西:
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you have to be willing to let go,
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你必须甘心放手,
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to accept that it's over.
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接受一切已经终结了的事实。
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Otherwise, your mind will feed on your hope
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不然的话,你的潜意识 会继续给你奢望,
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and set you back.
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使你无法前进。
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Hope can be incredibly destructive when your heart is broken.
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当你心碎时,奢望可以 有灾难性的破坏力。
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Heartbreak is a master manipulator.
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心碎是个灵巧的操纵者。
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The ease with which it gets our mind to do the absolute opposite
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对我们的头脑来说, 采取跟愈合心碎
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of what we need in order to recover
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完全相反的步骤
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is remarkable.
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是相当容易的。
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One of the most common tendencies we have when our heart is broken
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我们心碎时最常有的倾向之一
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is to idealize the person who broke it.
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是崇拜跟我们分手的人。
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We spend hours remembering their smile,
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我们花无数时间回想起他们的微笑、
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how great they made us feel,
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他们如何让我们感到愉快、
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that time we hiked up the mountain and made love under the stars.
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或者我们一起爬山时 在星光下亲吻的时候。
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All that does is make our loss feel more painful.
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这些都会让我们为 损失感到更痛苦。
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We know that.
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我们知道这一点。
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Yet we still allow our mind to cycle through one greatest hit after another,
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但我们仍不断地在脑袋里 重复那些难忘的经历,
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like we were being held hostage by our own passive-aggressive Spotify playlist.
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如同我们被自己被动攻击型的 音乐播放表所劫持。
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
06:54
Heartbreak will make those thoughts pop into your mind.
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心碎会让那些想法突然浮现在脑海中。
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And so to avoid idealizing, you have to balance them out
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所以为了避免理想化他们的形象, 你必须平衡你的记忆片段,
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by remembering their frown, not just their smile,
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想起他们的愁眉苦脸, 而不只是他们的笑容,
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how bad they made you feel,
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是他们让你感到糟糕,
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the fact that after the lovemaking, you got lost coming down the mountain,
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以及事实是,亲吻完后, 你们爬下山时迷路了,
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argued like crazy and didn't speak for two days.
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然后因此而大吵一架, 两天没跟对方说话。
07:14
What I tell my patients is to compile an exhaustive list
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我建议我的病人 写出一个详尽的列表,
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of all the ways the person was wrong for you,
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说明那个人所做过 对不起你的事,
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all the bad qualities, all the pet peeves,
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所有的缺点,所有的怪毛病,
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and then keep it on your phone.
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然后存入你的手机内。
07:25
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
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And once you have your list,
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一旦你有这个列表,
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you have to use it.
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就一定要使用它。
07:30
When I hear even a hint of idealizing
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当我在疗程进行时听到病人 依然崇拜他们的旧爱,
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or the faintest whiff of nostalgia in a session,
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或略微缅怀过去,
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I go, "Phone, please."
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我就说,“请拿出手机。”
07:38
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
07:41
Your mind will try to tell you they were perfect.
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你的头脑尝试告诉你 他们是完美的。
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But they were not, and neither was the relationship.
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然而他们并非如此, 那段感情也并非如此。
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And if you want to get over them, you have to remind yourself of that,
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如果你要忘却他们, 你就必须提醒你自己那个事实,
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frequently.
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并时刻照做。
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None of us is immune to heartbreak.
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所有人都会心碎。
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My patient Miguel was a 56-year-old senior executive in a software company.
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我的病人米格尔是个56岁 的软件公司高级行政人员。
08:01
Five years after his wife died,
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他的妻子去世五年后,
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he finally felt ready to start dating again.
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他终于准备好开始一段新恋情。
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He soon met Sharon,
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他很快遇上了莎伦,
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and a whirlwind romance ensued.
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风驰电掣般的爱情随后发生。
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They introduced each other to their adult children after one month,
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一个月后,他们向各自的 成年孩子介绍对方,
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and they moved in together after two.
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并在两个月后开始同居。
08:16
When middle-aged people date, they don't mess around.
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中年人谈恋爱,认真不随便。
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It's like "Love, Actually" meets "The Fast and the Furious."
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情况就如电影《真爱至上》 遇上了《速度与激情》一样。
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
08:26
Miguel was happier than he had been in years.
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米格尔好几年 都没那么幸福过了。
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But the night before their first anniversary,
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但是他们第一个周年纪念日 的前一个晚上,
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Sharon left him.
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莎伦离开了他。
08:34
She had decided to move to the West Coast to be closer to her children,
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莎伦决定搬去美国西海岸 跟她的孩子住得近一点儿,
08:38
and she didn't want a long-distance relationship.
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而她不想要谈异地恋爱。
08:41
Miguel was totally blindsided and utterly devastated.
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米格尔对这个消息防不胜防, 并且感到极其悲痛。
08:46
He barely functioned at work for many, many months,
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连续好几个月,他几乎 无法正常上班,
08:49
and he almost lost his job as a result.
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他也因此而差一点儿丢了工作。
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Another consequence of heartbreak is that feeling alone and in pain
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心碎的另一个后遗症是, 寂寞感和心痛
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can significantly impair our intellectual functioning,
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可以大大地削弱我们 的智力功能,
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especially when performing complex tasks involving logic and reasoning.
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尤其是当我们进行牵涉逻辑 和推论思考的复杂任务,
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It temporarily lowers our IQ.
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心痛会暂时性地降低我们的智商。
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But it wasn't just the intensity of Miguel's grief
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但是使米格尔的雇主纳闷的
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that confused his employers;
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并非只是他的悲痛程度;
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it was the duration.
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而是悲痛持续的时间。
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Miguel was confused by this as well
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米格尔也被无法释怀这件事困扰着,
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and really quite embarrassed by it.
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并且为此而感到相当尴尬。
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"What's wrong with me?" he asked me in our session.
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“我到底怎么了?治疗期间 他问我这个问题。
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"What adult spends almost a year getting over a one-year relationship?"
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“哪有成年人花将近一年时间 忘记一段一年长的感情呢?”
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Actually, many do.
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其实,很多成年人都这样。
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Heartbreak shares all the hallmarks of traditional loss and grief:
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心碎的特征跟传统的 痛失亲友以及悲痛是一样的:
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insomnia, intrusive thoughts,
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失眠、侵入性思想、
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immune system dysfunction.
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免疫系统缺陷。
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Forty percent of people experience clinically measurable depression.
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百分之四十的人会经历 临床可观察的抑郁症。
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Heartbreak is a complex psychological injury.
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心碎是个复杂的心理创伤。
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It impacts us in a multitude of ways.
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它在许多方面影响着我们。
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For example, Sharon was both very social
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举个例子,莎伦很爱好交际,
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and very active.
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也会经常出去参加社交活动。
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She had dinners at the house every week.
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她每个星期都在家里开设晚宴。
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She and Miguel went on camping trips with other couples.
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她和米格尔跟其他情侣 一起去露营。
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Although Miguel was not religious,
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虽然米格尔不信奉任何宗教,
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he accompanied Sharon to church every Sunday,
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他每个星期日还是会 陪伴莎伦去上教堂,
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where he was welcomed into the congregation.
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教堂会众也热情地接待他。
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Miguel didn't just lose his girlfriend;
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米格尔不单单失去了他的女朋友;
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he lost his entire social life,
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他失去了他整个社交生活,
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the supportive community of Sharon's church.
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莎伦的教堂这个支持他的团体,
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He lost his identity as a couple.
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还失去了身为情侣的身份。
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Now, Miguel recognized the breakup had left this huge void in his life,
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米格尔意识到分手在他的 生活中留下了一个很大的空缺,
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but what he failed to recognize
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但是他没有意识到的是
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is that it left far more than just one.
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分手留下的空缺不只是一个。
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And that is crucial,
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那是至关重要的,
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not just because it explains why heartbreak could be so devastating,
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因为那不只解释了为什么心碎 的伤害可以如此之大,
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but because it tells us how to heal.
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也告诉我们可以如何愈合。
10:40
To fix your broken heart,
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要从心碎中走出来,
10:43
you have to identify these voids in your life and fill them,
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你一定要辨识你生活中 这些空缺并填补它们,
10:46
and I mean all of them.
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我说的是所有空缺。
10:48
The voids in your identity:
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你身份上的空缺:
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you have to reestablish who you are and what your life is about.
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你一定要重新建立你的身份 和你的生活目标。
10:54
The voids in your social life,
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你的社交生活上的空缺,
10:55
the missing activities, even the empty spaces on the wall
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不再做的活动,就连墙壁上那个
10:58
where pictures used to hang.
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曾经挂着相片的空位。
11:01
But none of that will do any good
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但让这一切见效的前提是,
11:03
unless you prevent the mistakes that can set you back,
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你必须不再犯下让你 停滞不前的过错,
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the unnecessary searches for explanations,
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不再不必要地去寻找解释,
11:09
idealizing your ex instead of focusing on how they were wrong for you,
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不再崇拜你的前情侣, 而是要集中于他们怎么对不起你,
11:13
indulging thoughts and behaviors that still give them a starring role
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在这个新的生活篇章中 不再把他们捧为明星
11:17
in this next chapter of your life
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并沉迷于这种思想和行为,
11:19
when they shouldn't be an extra.
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事实是他们连路人甲都不配做。
11:22
Getting over heartbreak is hard,
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让破碎的心愈合是非常痛苦的事,
11:24
but if you refuse to be misled by your mind and you take steps to heal,
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但是如果你拒绝让你的头脑 误导你,并主动采取愈合的行动,
11:29
you can significantly minimize your suffering.
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你可以最大限度地降低痛苦。
11:32
And it won't just be you who benefit from that.
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你将不会是唯一一个获利的人。
11:34
You'll be more present with your friends,
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你将会花更多时间在你朋友身边,
11:36
more engaged with your family,
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花更多时间跟你的家人在一起,
11:39
not to mention the billions of dollars of compromised productivity
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更别谈上亿万美元可避免的
11:43
in the workplace that could be avoided.
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工作生产力上的损失。
11:46
So if you know someone who is heartbroken,
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如果你知道有谁心碎了,
11:49
have compassion,
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要心怀同情,
11:50
because social support has been found to be important for their recovery.
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因为社会的支持被证实 对他们的复原非常重要。
11:55
And have patience,
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要有耐心,
11:57
because it's going to take them longer to move on than you think it should.
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因为他们放下感情所需的时间 会比你想象中的更长。
12:01
And if you're hurting,
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还有如果是你的心在痛,
12:03
know this:
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要知道:
12:05
it's difficult, it is a battle within your own mind,
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要赢得这个在你脑海中的搏斗很难,
12:08
and you have to be diligent to win.
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你必须努力才可以赢得这场斗争。
12:10
But you do have weapons.
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但是你不是手无寸铁的。
12:12
You can fight.
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你可以战胜它。
12:14
And you will heal.
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你将会痊愈。
12:16
Thank you.
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谢谢。
12:17
(Applause)
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(掌声)
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