What I learned from 100 days of rejection | Jia Jiang | TED

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μ•„λž˜ μ˜λ¬Έμžλ§‰μ„ λ”λΈ”ν΄λ¦­ν•˜μ‹œλ©΄ μ˜μƒμ΄ μž¬μƒλ©λ‹ˆλ‹€.

λ²ˆμ—­: Sue Yoon κ²€ν† : Jihyeon J. Kim
00:12
When I was six years old,
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μ—¬μ„― μ‚΄ λ•Œ
00:14
I received my gifts.
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선물을 λ°›μ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:16
My first grade teacher had this brilliant idea.
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제 1ν•™λ…„ μ„ μƒλ‹˜μ€ 멋진 아이디어λ₯Ό μƒκ°ν•΄λƒˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:19
She wanted us to experience receiving gifts
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μ €ν¬μ—κ²Œ 선물을 λ°›λŠ” 기쁨을 λˆ„λ¦¬κ³ 
00:23
but also learning the virtue of complimenting each other.
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λ™μ‹œμ— μΉ­μ°¬ν•˜λŠ” 덕λͺ©μ„ κ°€λ₯΄μΉ˜κ³  μ‹Άμ–΄ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
00:27
So she had all of us come to the front of the classroom,
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반 전체λ₯Ό ꡐ싀 μ•žμœΌλ‘œ λ‚˜μ˜€κ²Œ ν•œ ν›„
00:30
and she bought all of us gifts and stacked them in the corner.
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저희 λͺ¨λ‘μ—κ²Œ 쀄 선물을 μ‚¬μ„œ ꡐ싀 ꡬ석에 μŒ“μ•„λ‘μ—ˆμ£ .
00:33
And she said,
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그리고 λ§μ”€ν•˜μ…¨μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:34
"Why don't we just stand here and compliment each other?
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"우리 μ—¬κΈ°μ„œ μ„œλ‘œμ—κ²Œ 칭찬을 해보면 μ–΄λ–¨κΉŒμš”?
00:37
If you hear your name called,
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칭찬을 받은 μΉœκ΅¬λŠ”
00:39
go and pick up your gift and sit down."
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선물을 λ“€κ³  자기 자리둜 λŒμ•„κ°€ μ•‰μœΌλ©΄ λΌμš”."
00:42
What a wonderful idea, right?
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λ„ˆλ¬΄ 쒋은 아이디어죠?
00:44
What could go wrong?
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잘λͺ»λ  일이 뭐가 μžˆκ² μ–΄μš”?
00:46
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
00:48
Well, there were 40 of us to start with,
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일단 학생이 40λͺ…μ΄μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:50
and every time I heard someone's name called,
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맀번 λˆ„κ΅°κ°€κ°€ 칭찬을 받을 λ•Œλ§ˆλ‹€
00:52
I would give out the heartiest cheer.
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μ €λŠ” μ§„μ‹¬μœΌλ‘œ μΆ•ν•˜ν•΄μ€¬μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
00:55
And then there were 20 people left,
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그리고 20λͺ…이 λ‚¨μ•„μžˆμ—ˆκ³ 
00:57
and 10 people left,
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10λͺ…
00:59
and five left ...
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λ‹€μ„― λͺ…
01:01
and three left.
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λ§ˆμ§€λ§‰μ—λŠ” μ„Έ λͺ…이 λ‚¨μ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:02
And I was one of them.
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μ œκ°€ κ±°κΈ° μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:04
And the compliments stopped.
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그리고 칭찬이 더 이상 λ‚˜μ˜€μ§€ μ•Šμ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:07
Well, at that moment, I was crying.
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κ·Έ μˆœκ°„ μ €λŠ” 울고 μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:10
And the teacher was freaking out.
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그리고 μ„ μƒλ‹˜λ„ κΈ°κ²ν•˜μ…¨μ£ .
01:12
She was like, "Hey, would anyone say anything nice about these people?"
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"아무라도 μ—¬κΈ° 이 μΉœκ΅¬λ“€ν•œν…Œ 쒋은 말 μ’€ 해쀄 수 μ—†μ„κΉŒ?"
01:16
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
01:17
"No one? OK, why don't you go get your gift and sit down.
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"아무도 μ—†μ–΄μš”? 그럼 κ·Έλƒ₯ 선물을 λ“€κ³  자리둜 λŒμ•„κ°€λ ΄.
01:20
So behave next year --
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그리고 λ‹€μŒλΆ€ν„΄ μΉœκ΅¬λ“€μ—κ²Œ μž˜ν•˜λ ΄.
01:21
someone might say something nice about you."
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그럼 λ‹€μŒμ—” λˆ„κ΅°κ°€κ°€ λ„ˆν¬λ₯Ό μΉ­μ°¬ν•΄ 쀄 수 μžˆμ„ κ±°μ•Ό."
01:23
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
01:26
Well, as I'm describing this you,
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이야기 ν•˜λŠ” κ±Έ λ³΄μ‹œλ©΄
01:28
you probably know I remember this really well.
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μ œκ°€ μ•„μ£Ό μƒμƒν•˜κ²Œ κ·Έ λ•Œλ₯Ό κΈ°μ–΅ν•˜κ³  μžˆμŒμ„ μ•„μ‹œκ² μ£ .
01:30
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
01:32
But I don't know who felt worse that day.
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ κ·Έλ‚  λˆ„κ°€ 더 기뢄이 λ‚˜λΉ΄λŠ”μ§€λŠ” λͺ¨λ₯΄κ² λ„€μš”.
01:34
Was it me or the teacher?
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μ €μ˜€μ„κΉŒμš” μ•„λ‹ˆλ©΄ μ„ μƒλ‹˜μ΄μ—ˆμ„κΉŒμš”?
01:37
She must have realized that she turned a team-building event
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κ·Έλ‚  μ„ μƒλ‹˜μ€ μ•„λ§ˆ 6μ‚΄ 짜리 μ•„μ΄λ“€μ˜ ν˜‘λ ₯ν™œλ™μ„
01:40
into a public roast for three six-year-olds.
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곡개 λΉ„νŒμ˜ 자리둜 λ§Œλ“€μ—ˆμŒμ„ κΉ¨λ‹¬μ•˜μ„ κ²λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:43
And without the humor.
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μœ λ¨Έμ—†λŠ” 곡개 λΉ„νŒμ΄μ—ˆκ³ μš”.
01:45
You know, when you see people get roasted on TV,
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TVμ—μ„œ λˆ„κ΅°κ°€κ°€ ν˜Ήν‰μ΄λ‚˜ λΉ„νŒμ„ λ°›λŠ” 것을 보면
01:47
it was funny.
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μž¬λ―ΈμžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:48
There was nothing funny about that day.
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ 그날은 μ ˆλŒ€ μž¬λ―Έμžˆμ§€ μ•Šμ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:51
So that was one version of me,
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이게 μ €μ˜ ν•œ λͺ¨μŠ΅μ΄μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:54
and I would die to avoid being in that situation again --
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그런 μƒν™©μ—λŠ” λ‹€μ‹œ 있고 싢지 μ•ŠμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
01:57
to get rejected in public again.
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곡개적으둜 κ±°μ ˆλ‹Ήν•˜λŠ” κ±° 말이죠.
02:00
That's one version.
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κ·Έ λ‹Ήμ‹œ μ €μ˜€κ³ μš”.
02:01
Then fast-forward eight years.
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μ‹œκ°„μ„ 당겨 8λ…„ ν›„μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:04
Bill Gates came to my hometown --
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제 κ³ ν–₯에 빌 κ²Œμ΄μΈ κ°€ μ™”μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:06
Beijing, China --
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쀑ꡭ λ² μ΄μ§•μ—μš”.
02:07
to speak,
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연섀을 ν•˜λŸ¬ μ™”μ—ˆλŠ”λ°
02:08
and I saw his message.
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κ·Έκ°€ ν•˜λŠ” 말을 λ“£κ³ 
02:10
I fell in love with that guy.
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ν•œ λˆˆμ— λ°˜ν•΄λ²„λ ΈμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:12
I thought, wow, I know what I want to do now.
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'λ‚΄κ°€ 이제 뭘 할지 μ•Œμ•˜μ–΄'라고 μƒκ°ν–ˆμ£ .
02:15
That night I wrote a letter to my family
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κ·Έλ‚  λ°€, μ €μ˜ κ°€μ‘±μ—κ²Œ νŽΈμ§€λ₯Ό μΌμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
νŽΈμ§€μ—λŠ” "μ €λŠ” 25살이 λ˜μ—ˆμ„ λ•Œ
02:18
telling them: "By age 25,
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02:20
I will build the biggest company in the world,
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μ„Έκ³„μ—μ„œ κ°€μž₯ 큰 νšŒμ‚¬λ₯Ό λ§Œλ“€ κ±°μ˜ˆμš”.
그리고 κ·Έ νšŒμ‚¬λ‘œ λ§ˆμ΄ν¬λ‘œμ†Œν”„νŠΈμ‚¬λ₯Ό μ‚΄ κ±°μ˜ˆμš”."
02:23
and that company will buy Microsoft."
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02:24
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
02:26
I totally embraced this idea of conquering the world --
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세계 μ •λ³΅μ˜ κ°œλ…μ„ κ·ΈλŒ€λ‘œ 받아듀인 κ±°μ£ .
02:29
domination, right?
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지배, 맞죠?
02:31
And I didn't make this up, I did write that letter.
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지어낸 이야기가 μ•„λ‹ˆκ³  μ§„μ§œλ‘œ κ·Έ νŽΈμ§€λ₯Ό μΌμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
λ°”λ‘œ μ—¬κΈ°μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:34
And here it is --
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02:35
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
02:37
You don't have to read this through --
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λ‹€ μ½μœΌμ‹€ ν•„μš”λŠ” μ—†μ–΄μš”.
02:39
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
글씨체도 μ—‰λ§μ΄μ§€λ§Œ ν•΅μ‹¬λ‹¨μ–΄λŠ” ν‘œμ‹œν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
02:41
This is also bad handwriting, but I did highlight some key words.
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02:45
You get the idea.
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λŒ€μΆ© μ΄ν•΄λŠ” κ°€μ‹œμ£ ?
02:46
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
02:48
So ...
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κ·Έλž˜μ„œ
02:51
that was another version of me:
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이 λͺ¨μŠ΅μ€ 또 λ‹€λ₯Έ μ €μ˜ λͺ¨μŠ΅μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:53
one who will conquer the world.
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세계λ₯Ό μ •λ³΅ν•˜κ³ μž ν–ˆλ˜ μ €μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
02:55
Well, then two years later,
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2λ…„ 후에
02:57
I was presented with the opportunity to come to the United States.
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미ꡭ에 갈 κΈ°νšŒκ°€ μƒκ²ΌμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:01
I jumped on it,
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λ°”λ‘œ κ·Έ 기회λ₯Ό μž‘μ•˜μ£ .
03:02
because that was where Bill Gates lived, right?
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μ™œλƒλ©΄ 빌 κ²Œμ΄μΈ κ°€ μ‚¬λŠ” λ‚˜λΌλ‹ˆκΉŒμš”.
(μ›ƒμŒ)
03:05
(Laughter)
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03:06
I thought that was the start of my entrepreneur journey.
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μ €λŠ” 그것이 제 사업 μ—¬μ •μ˜ μ‹œμž‘μ΄λΌκ³  μƒκ°ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:09
Then, fast-forward another 14 years.
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그리고 14년이 ν˜λŸ¬κ°”μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:11
I was 30.
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제 λ‚˜μ΄ μ„œλ₯Έμ΄ λ˜μ—ˆμ£ .
03:13
Nope, I didn't build that company.
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μ•„λ‹ˆμš”. μ œκ°€ λ°”λΌλ˜ νšŒμ‚¬λ₯Ό λ§Œλ“€μ§€ λͺ»ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:15
I didn't even start.
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μ‹œμž‘λ„ λͺ»ν–ˆμ£ .
03:17
I was actually a marketing manager for a Fortune 500 company.
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사싀 포좘500μ΄λΌλŠ” νšŒμ‚¬μ˜ λ§ˆμΌ€νŒ… λ§€λ‹ˆμ €μ˜€μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:21
And I felt I was stuck;
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막닀λ₯Έ 길에 λ„λ‹¬ν•œ κΈ°λΆ„μ΄μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:22
I was stagnant.
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침체 μƒνƒœμ— λΉ μ Έμžˆμ—ˆμ£ .
03:25
Why is that?
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μ–΄μ§Έμ„œ κ·ΈλŸ΄κΉŒμš”?
03:26
Where is that 14-year-old who wrote that letter?
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μ € νŽΈμ§€λ₯Ό μ“΄ 14μ‚΄ 짜리 μ†Œλ…„μ€ μ–΄λ””λ‘œ 가버린 κ±ΈκΉŒμš”?
03:29
It's not because he didn't try.
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λ…Έλ ₯ν•˜μ§€ μ•Šμ•„μ„œλŠ” μ•„λ‹ˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:31
It's because every time I had a new idea,
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μƒˆλ‘œμš΄ 아이디어가 μžˆμ„ λ•Œλ§ˆλ‹€
03:34
every time I wanted to try something new,
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λ­”κ°€ μƒˆλ‘œμš΄ 것을 μ‹œλ„ν•΄λ³΄κ³  싢을 λ•Œλ§ˆλ‹€
03:36
even at work --
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직μž₯μ—μ„œλ„ λ§ˆμ°¬κ°€μ§€λ‘œ
03:37
I wanted to make a proposal,
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μ œμ•ˆμ„ ν•˜λ‚˜ ν•˜κ³  싢어도
03:39
I wanted to speak up in front of people in a group --
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μ‚¬λžŒλ“€ μ•žμ—μ„œ 말을 ν•˜λ €κ³  ν•  λ•Œλ§ˆλ‹€
03:43
I felt there was this constant battle
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제 μ•ˆμ—λŠ” λŠμž„μ—†λŠ” λ‚΄λ©΄μ˜ κ°ˆλ“±μ΄ μžˆμ—ˆλ˜ κ²λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:44
between the 14-year-old and the six-year-old.
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14μ‚΄κ³Ό 6μ‚΄ 짜리의 κ°ˆλ“± λ§μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:47
One wanted to conquer the world --
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ν•œμͺ½μ€ 세계λ₯Ό μ •λ³΅ν•˜κ³  λ³€ν™”λ₯Ό λ§Œλ“€μ–΄λ‚΄κ³  μ‹Άμ–΄ν–ˆκ³ 
03:49
make a difference --
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03:51
another was afraid of rejection.
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λ‹€λ₯Έ ν•œλ©΄μ€ κ±°μ ˆμ— λŒ€ν•œ 두렀움이 μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
03:53
And every time that six-year-old won.
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그리고 맀번 6μ‚΄ μ§œλ¦¬κ°€ 이겼죠.
03:57
And this fear even persisted after I started my own company.
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이 두렀움은 μ œκ°€ νšŒμ‚¬λ₯Ό λ§Œλ“  후에도 계속 μ‘΄μž¬ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:01
I mean, I started my own company when I was 30 --
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μ„œλ₯Έ μ‚΄λ•Œ νšŒμ‚¬λ₯Ό μ„€λ¦½ν–ˆκ±°λ“ μš”.
04:04
if you want to be Bill Gates,
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빌 게이츠처럼 되고 μ‹Άλ‹€λ©΄ 곧 μ‹œμž‘ν•΄μ•Όν•˜λŠ” κ±°μž–μ•„μš”?
04:06
you've got to start sooner or later, right?
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사업가가 된 후에
04:09
When I was an entrepreneur,
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04:11
I was presented with an investment opportunity,
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투자λ₯Ό 받을 수 μžˆλŠ” κΈ°νšŒκ°€ μžˆμ—ˆλŠ”λ°
04:14
and then I was turned down.
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κ±°μ ˆλ‹Ήν•˜κ³  λ§μ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:17
And that rejection hurt me.
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λ„ˆλ¬΄ κ³ ν†΅μŠ€λŸ¬μ› μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:18
It hurt me so bad that I wanted to quit right there.
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λ„ˆλ¬΄ νž˜λ“€μ–΄ κ·Έ μžλ¦¬μ—μ„œ λ‹€ ν¬κΈ°ν•˜κ³  μ‹Άμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:23
But then I thought,
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ μƒκ°ν–ˆμ£ .
04:24
hey, would Bill Gates quit after a simple investment rejection?
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빌 게이츠라면 투자λ₯Ό κ±°μ ˆλ‹Ήν–ˆλ‹€κ³  ν¬κΈ°ν• κΉŒ?
04:28
Would any successful entrepreneur quit like that?
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μ„±κ³΅ν•œ κΈ°μ—…κ°€ 쀑에 이런 μ‹μœΌλ‘œ ν¬κΈ°ν•˜λŠ” μ‚¬λžŒμ΄ μžˆμ„κΉŒ?
04:31
No way.
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μ ˆλŒ€ μ•„λ‹ˆμ§€.
04:33
And this is where it clicked for me.
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κ·Έ λ•Œ κΉ¨λ‹¬μ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:35
OK, I can build a better company.
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더 쒋은 νšŒμ‚¬λ₯Ό λ§Œλ“€ 수 있고
04:37
I can build a better team or better product,
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더 쒋은 νŒ€ ν˜Ήμ€ 더 λ‚˜μ€ μ œν’ˆμ„ λ§Œλ“€ 수 μžˆμ–΄.
04:39
but one thing for sure:
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ ν•œ 가지 λΆ„λͺ…ν•œ 것은
04:40
I've got to be a better leader.
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λ‚΄κ°€ 더 쒋은 리더가 λ˜μ–΄μ•Ό ν•œλ‹€λŠ” κ±°μ•Ό.
04:42
I've got to be a better person.
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λ‚΄κ°€ 더 λ‚˜μ€ μ‚¬λžŒμ΄ λ˜μ–΄μ•Ό ν•΄.
04:44
I cannot let that six-year-old keep dictating my life anymore.
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더 이상 κ·Έ μ—¬μ„―μ‚΄ μ§œλ¦¬μ—κ²Œ λ‚΄ 인생을 맑길 μˆ˜λŠ” μ—†μ–΄.
04:48
I have to put him back in his place.
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κ·Έ κΌ¬λ§ˆλŠ” μžμ‹ μ˜ 자리둜 λŒλ €λ³΄λ‚΄μ•Ό ν•΄.
04:51
So this is where I went online and looked for help.
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그리고 인터넷을 뒀지기 μ‹œμž‘ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:53
Google was my friend.
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ꡬ글이 제 μΉœκ΅¬κ°€ λ˜μ—ˆμ£ .
04:54
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
04:55
I searched, "How do I overcome the fear of rejection?"
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"거절의 두렀움을 κ·Ήλ³΅ν•˜λŠ” 법"을 μ°Ύμ•„ λ΄€μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
04:58
I came up with a bunch of psychology articles
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μ‹¬λ¦¬ν•™μœΌλ‘œ μ„€λͺ…ν•˜λ €λŠ” 글도 μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
05:01
about where the fear and pain are coming from.
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두렀움과 고톡이 μ–΄λ””μ„œ μ˜€λŠ”μ§€ μ„€λͺ…ν•˜κ³ 
05:04
Then I came up with a bunch of "rah-rah" inspirational articles
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"이러쿡 μ €λŸ¬μΏ΅" μ˜κ°μ„ μ£ΌλŠ” 글듀도 μžˆμ—ˆμ£ .
05:08
about "Don't take it personally, just overcome it."
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"개인적으둜 받아듀이지 말고 κ·Ήλ³΅ν•˜μ„Έμš”"라고 ν•˜λ”κ΅°μš”.
05:11
Who doesn't know that?
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λˆ„κ°€ κ·Έκ±Έ λͺ¨λ₯΄λ‚˜μš”?
05:12
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
05:14
But why was I still so scared?
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μ•Œκ³  μžˆμœΌλ©΄μ„œ μ™œ μ €λŠ” 계속 λ‘λ €μ›Œν•˜λŠ” κ±ΈκΉŒμš”?
05:16
Then I found this website by luck.
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κ·Έ λ•Œ, μš΄μ’‹κ²Œ 이 μ›Ήμ‚¬μ΄νŠΈλ₯Ό λ°œκ²¬ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
05:18
It's called rejectiontherapy.com.
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κ±°λΆ€μΉ˜λ£Œλ‹·μ»΄ (rejectiontheraphy.com)μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
05:21
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
05:23
"Rejection Therapy" was this game invented by this Canadian entrepreneur.
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"κ±°λΆ€μΉ˜λ£Œ"λž€ μΊλ‚˜λ‹€ κΈ°μ—…κ°€κ°€ 발λͺ…ν•œ κ²Œμž„μΈλ°μš”.
05:27
His name is Jason Comely.
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κΈ°μ—…κ°€λŠ” 제이슨 μ½€λ¦¬μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
05:29
And basically the idea is for 30 days you go out and look for rejection,
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기본적으둜 30일 λ™μ•ˆ 밖에 λ‚˜κ°€ κ±°λΆ€λ₯Ό λ‹Ήν•΄λ³΄λŠ” κ²λ‹ˆλ‹€.
05:34
and every day get rejected at something,
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맀일 무언가에 λŒ€ν•΄ κ±°μ ˆμ„ λ‹Ήν•΄λ³΄λΌλŠ” κ±°μ£ .
05:36
and then by the end, you desensitize yourself from the pain.
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그리고 끝날 λ•Œ 쯀이면, 고톡에 λŒ€ν•΄ λ‘”κ°ν•΄μ§„λ‹€λŠ” κ²λ‹ˆλ‹€.
05:41
And I loved that idea.
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λ„ˆλ¬΄ λ§ˆμŒμ— λ“€μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
05:42
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
05:44
I said, "You know what? I'm going to do this.
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"μ’‹μ•„, λ‚˜λ„ 해봐야겠어" 라고 μƒκ°ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
05:46
And I'll feel myself getting rejected 100 days."
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" 100일 λ™μ•ˆ 거절 λ‹Ήν•˜λŠ” λ‚΄ μžμ‹ μ„ λŠκ»΄λ³΄κ² μ–΄."
05:49
And I came up with my own rejection ideas,
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그리고 μ €λ§Œμ˜ κ±°μ ˆλ‹Ήν•  ν•­λͺ©μ„ 생각해 λƒˆμ£ .
05:52
and I made a video blog out of it.
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그리고 λΉ„λ””μ˜€ λΈ”λ‘œκ·Έλ„ λ§Œλ“€μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
05:55
And so here's what I did.
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λ°”λ‘œ μ΄λ ‡κ²Œ ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
05:57
This is what the blog looked like.
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λΈ”λ‘œκ·ΈλŠ” μ΄λ ‡κ²Œ μƒκ²ΌμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:00
Day One ...
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첫째 날은
(μ›ƒμŒ)
06:02
(Laughter)
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06:03
Borrow 100 dollars from a stranger.
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λ‚―μ„  μ‚¬λžŒμœΌλ‘œλΆ€ν„° 100λ‹¬λŸ¬ 빌리기.
06:07
So this is where I went to where I was working.
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μ œκ°€ μΌν•˜λŠ” μžˆλŠ” κ³³μ—μ„œ
06:10
I came downstairs
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μ•„λž˜μΈ΅μœΌλ‘œ λ‚΄λ €κ°”μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:12
and I saw this big guy sitting behind a desk.
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κ±°κΈ°μ—λŠ” 큰 책상 뒀에 μ•‰μ•„μžˆλŠ” 덩치 큰 λ‚¨μžκ°€ μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:14
He looked like a security guard.
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λ³΄μ•ˆ 경비원 κ°™μ•„ λ³΄μ˜€μ–΄μš”.
06:16
So I just approached him.
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κ·Έμ—κ²Œ λ‹€κ°€κ°”μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:17
And I was just walking
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κ·Έμ € 걷고만 μžˆμ—ˆμ§€λ§Œ
06:19
and that was the longest walk of my life --
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제 μΈμƒμ—μ„œ κ°€μž₯ κΈ΄ μ‹œκ°„μ΄μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:21
hair on the back of my neck standing up,
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뒷머리가 일어섰고
식은땀이 λ‚˜κ³  심μž₯이 쿡쾅거리고 μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
06:24
I was sweating and my heart was pounding.
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06:26
And I got there and said,
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κ·Έ μ•žμ— λ„μ°©ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
06:27
"Hey, sir, can I borrow 100 dollars from you?"
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"μ‹€λ‘€μ§€λ§Œ 100λ‹¬λŸ¬λ§Œ 빌릴 수 μžˆμ„κΉŒμš”?"
06:30
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
06:31
And he looked up, he's like, "No."
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μ €λ₯Ό μ³λ‹€λ³΄λ”λ‹ˆ "μ•ˆλΌμš”.
06:34
"Why?"
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무슨 μΌμ΄μ‹ λ°μš”?" 라고 λ¬»λ”κ΅°μš”
06:36
And I just said, "No? I'm sorry."
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μ „ " λ„€. μ£„μ†‘ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€"라고 ν•˜κ³ 
06:38
Then I turned around, and I just ran.
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λ’€λŒμ•„μ„œμ„œ λ‹¬λ ΈμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:40
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
06:42
I felt so embarrassed.
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λ„ˆλ¬΄ μ°½ν”Όν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
06:44
But because I filmed myself --
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ μ˜μƒμ„ 찍고 μžˆμ—ˆκΈ° λ•Œλ¬Έμ—
06:46
so that night I was watching myself getting rejected,
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κ·Έλ‚  λ°€ μ €λŠ” κ±°μ ˆλ‹Ήν•˜λŠ” 제 λͺ¨μŠ΅μ„ λ³Ό 수 μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:49
I just saw how scared I was.
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μ œκ°€ μ–Όλ§ˆλ‚˜ λ‘λ €μ›Œν•˜κ³  μžˆλŠ”μ§€ λ΄€μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:51
I looked like this kid in "The Sixth Sense."
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μ‹μŠ€μ„ΌμŠ€μ— λ‚˜μ˜€λŠ” 주인곡 μ†Œλ…„ κ°™μ•„λ³΄μ˜€μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
06:53
I saw dead people.
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귀신을 λ³Έ 것 κ°™μ•˜μ–΄μš”.
06:55
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
06:57
But then I saw this guy.
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κ·Έλ•Œ κ·Έ λ‚¨μžλ₯Ό λ΄€μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
06:58
You know, he wasn't that menacing.
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κ·ΈλŠ” κ·Έλ ‡κ²Œ μœ„ν˜‘μ μ΄μ§„ μ•Šμ•˜μ–΄μš”.
07:00
He was a chubby, loveable guy,
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ν†΅ν†΅ν•˜κ³  κ·€μ—¬μš΄ μ‚¬λžŒμ΄μ—ˆμ£ .
07:02
and he even asked me, "Why?"
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μ €μ—κ²Œ 무슨 μΌμ΄λƒκ³ κΉŒμ§€ λ¬Όμ–΄λ΄€μ£ .
07:06
In fact, he invited me to explain myself.
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제 사정을 λ“£κ³  μ‹Άμ–΄ν–ˆμ–΄μš”.
07:08
And I could've said many things.
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μ €λŠ” λ§Žμ€ 이야기할 수 μžˆμ—ˆμ–΄μš”.
07:10
I could've explained, I could've negotiated.
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상황을 μ„€λͺ…을 ν• μˆ˜λ„ μžˆμ—ˆκ³ , ν˜‘μƒμ„ ν•  μˆ˜λ„ μžˆμ—ˆμ§€λ§Œ
07:12
I didn't do any of that.
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μ „ 아무것도 ν•˜μ§€ μ•Šμ•˜μ£ 
07:14
All I did was run.
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κ·Έμ € λ„λ§λ§Œ μ³€μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€
07:17
I felt, wow, this is like a microcosm of my life.
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λ„ˆλ¬΄ μ‹ κΈ°ν•œκ²Œ 제 인생 μΆ•μ†ŒνŒμ„ λ³΄λŠ” 것 κ°™μ•˜μ–΄μš”.
07:20
Every time I felt the slightest rejection,
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맀번 거절의 κ°€λŠ₯성이 μ‘°κΈˆμ΄λΌλ„ 보이면
07:23
I would just run as fast as I could.
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μ €λŠ” λ„λ§μΉ˜κΈ°μ— λ°”λΉ΄μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:25
And you know what?
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그리고 μ•„μ„Έμš”?
07:26
The next day, no matter what happens,
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λ‹€μŒ λ‚ μ—λŠ” 무슨 일이 μžˆμ–΄λ„
07:28
I'm not going to run.
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λ„λ§μΉ˜μ§€ μ•ŠκΈ°λ‘œ ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:30
I'll stay engaged.
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계속 남아 λ²„ν‹°κΈ°λ‘œ ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:32
Day Two: Request a "burger refill."
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λ‘˜μ§Έλ‚ : "햄버거 λ¦¬ν•„ν•˜κΈ°"
07:34
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
07:36
It's when I went to a burger joint,
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햄버거 체인점에 λ“€μ–΄κ°”μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:38
I finished lunch, and I went to the cashier and said,
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λ‹€ λ¨Ήκ³ λ‚˜μ„œ μ£Όλ¬ΈλŒ€μ— κ°€μ„œ λ¬Όμ–΄λ΄€μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
"μ—¬κΈ°, 햄버거 리필 λ κΉŒμš”?"
07:41
"Hi, can I get a burger refill?"
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07:42
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
07:44
He was all confused, like, "What's a burger refill?"
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점원은 μ’€ ν˜Όλž€μŠ€λŸ¬μš΄λ“―μ΄ 햄버거 리필이 뭐냐고 λ¬Όμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
07:47
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
07:48
I said, "Well, it's just like a drink refill but with a burger."
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"음료 리필 같은 건데 ν–„λ²„κ±°λ‘œ ν•΄μ£ΌλŠ” κ±°μ£ "라고 ν•˜λ‹ˆκΉŒ
07:52
And he said, "Sorry, we don't do burger refill, man."
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"μ£„μ†‘ν•œλ° 햄버거 리필은 μ•ˆλ©λ‹ˆλ‹€"
07:54
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
07:56
So this is where rejection happened and I could have run, but I stayed.
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이 μ―€μ—μ„œ μ €λŠ” μ „μ²˜λŸΌ 도망칠 수 μžˆμ—ˆμœΌλ‚˜ λ„λ§μΉ˜μ§€ μ•Šμ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:00
I said, "Well, I love your burgers,
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λŒ€μ‹  μ €λŠ” "λ‚œ μ—¬κΈ° 햄버거도 μ’‹μ•„ν•˜κ³ 
08:02
I love your joint,
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이 체인도 μ’‹μ•„ν•˜λŠ”λ°
08:03
and if you guys do a burger refill,
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리필을 ν•΄μ€€λ‹€λ©΄
08:05
I will love you guys more."
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μ™„μ „ 팬이 될수 μžˆλŠ”λ°" 라고 ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:07
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
08:08
And he said, "Well, OK, I'll tell my manager about it,
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"그럼 λ§€λ‹ˆμ €μ—κ²Œ 말해 λ³Όκ²Œμš”.
08:11
and maybe we'll do it, but sorry, we can't do this today."
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μ–΄μ©Œλ©΄ ν•  μˆ˜λ„ μžˆμ§€λ§Œ μ˜€λŠ˜μ€ μ•ˆλΌμš”"
08:14
Then I left.
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그리고 λ‚˜μ™”μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:15
And by the way,
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참고둜
08:17
I don't think they've ever done burger refill.
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κ·Έ μ‚¬λžŒλ“€ 버거리필 ν•œ 적이 없을 κ²λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:19
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
08:21
I think they're still there.
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κ·Έ 체인점은 아직 거기에 μžˆμ§€λ§Œμš”.
08:23
But the life and death feeling I was feeling the first time
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ μ œκ°€ 첫날 느꼈던 죽을 것 같은 λŠλ‚Œμ€
08:26
was no longer there,
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더 이상 μ—†μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:27
just because I stayed engaged --
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μ œκ°€ λ‚¨μ•„μ„œ λ…Έλ ₯ν–ˆκΈ°μ—
08:29
because I didn't run.
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μ €κ°€ 도망가지 μ•Šμ•˜κΈ° λ•Œλ¬Έμ΄μ—ˆμ£ .
08:31
I said, "Wow, great, I'm already learning things.
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"와 벌써 λ§Žμ€ κ±Έ 배우고 μžˆλ„€.
08:34
Great."
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λŒ€λ‹¨ν•΄."
08:35
And then Day Three: Getting Olympic Doughnuts.
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그리고 μ…‹μ§Έλ‚ : μ˜¬λ¦Όν”½ 도넛 μ–»κΈ°
08:38
This is where my life was turned upside down.
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이날 제 인생이 바뀐 λ‚ μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:42
I went to a Krispy Kreme.
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ν¬λ¦¬μŠ€ν”Ό 크림 도넛 κ°€κ²Œμ— κ°”μ£ .
08:43
It's a doughnut shop
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도넛 κ°€κ²ŒμΈλ°
λ―Έκ΅­ 남동뢀에 많이 μžˆμ–΄μš”.
08:45
in mainly the Southeastern part of the United States.
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08:47
I'm sure they have some here, too.
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μ—¬κΈ°μ—μ„œ μ•„λ§ˆ μžˆμ„ κ±°μ˜ˆμš”.
08:49
And I went in,
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κ°€κ²Œ μ•ˆμœΌλ‘œ λ“€μ–΄κ°”μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
08:50
I said, "Can you make me doughnuts that look like Olympic symbols?
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"μ˜¬λ¦Όν”½ 였λ₯œλ§ˆν¬μ²˜λŸΌ 생긴 λ„λ„ˆμΈ λ₯Ό λ§Œλ“€μ–΄ μ£Όμ‹€ 수 μžˆλ‚˜μš”?
08:53
Basically, you interlink five doughnuts together ... "
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도넛 λ‹€μ„― 개λ₯Ό μ„œλ‘œ μ—°κ²°μ‹œν‚€λ©΄ λ˜λŠ” κ±΄λ°μš”.."
08:56
I mean there's no way they could say yes, right?
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해쀄 리가 없을 것 κ°™μ£ ?
08:59
The doughnut maker took me so seriously.
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ κ·Έ μ‚¬λžŒμ€ 제 말을 ꡉμž₯히 μ§„μ§€ν•˜κ²Œ μƒκ°ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:02
(Laughter)
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09:03
So she put out paper,
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쒅이λ₯Ό κΊΌλ‚΄μ„œ
09:04
started jotting down the colors and the rings,
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색깔과 원을 그리기 μ‹œμž‘ν•˜λ”λΌκ³ μš”.
09:06
and is like, "How can I make this?"
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"이걸 μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ λ§Œλ“€μ§€?" ν•˜λ©΄μ„œ κ³ λ―Όν•˜λ”λ‹ˆ
09:08
And then 15 minutes later,
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15λΆ„ 후에
09:10
she came out with a box that looked like Olympic rings.
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μ˜¬λ¦Όν”½ λ§ˆν¬κ°€ λ“€μ–΄μžˆλŠ” μ»€λ‹€λž€ μƒμžλ₯Ό λ“€κ³  λ‚˜μ™”μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:14
And I was so touched.
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κ°λ™μ μ΄μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:15
I just couldn't believe it.
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믿을 μˆ˜κ°€ μ—†μ—ˆμ£ .
09:17
And that video got over five million views on Youtube.
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κ·Έ μ˜μƒμ€ 유튜브 μ‘°νšŒμˆ˜κ°€ 500λ§Œμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:22
The world couldn't believe that either.
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세계인듀도 λ―ΏκΈ° νž˜λ“€μ—ˆλ‚˜ λ΄…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:24
(Laughter)
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09:27
You know, because of that I was in newspapers,
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이 μ‚¬κ±΄μœΌλ‘œ 신문에도 λ‚˜μ˜€κ³ 
09:30
in talk shows, in everything.
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토크쇼 λ“± μ—¬λŸ¬ 맀체에도 λ‚˜μ™”μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:32
And I became famous.
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유λͺ…인이 λ˜μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:33
A lot of people started writing emails to me
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λ§Žμ€ μ‚¬λžŒλ“€μ΄ 제게 이메일을 μ“°κΈ° μ‹œμž‘ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:35
and saying, "What you're doing is awesome."
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"당신이 ν•˜κ³  μžˆλŠ” 일은 λ„ˆλ¬΄ λ©‹μ Έμš”"λΌλ©΄μ„œμš”.
09:38
But you know, fame and notoriety did not do anything to me.
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ 유λͺ…μ„ΈλŠ” 제게 μ•„λ¬΄λŸ° μ˜λ―Έκ°€ μ—†μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:41
What I really wanted to do was learn,
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μ œκ°€ μ •λ§λ‘œ μ›ν•œ 것은 배움과
09:43
and to change myself.
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제 μžμ‹ μ˜ λ³€ν™”μ˜€κ±°λ“ μš”.
09:45
So I turned the rest of my 100 days of rejection
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κ·Έλž˜μ„œ 남은 100일의 κ±°μ ˆμ„
09:47
into this playground --
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κ±°λŒ€ν•œ 연ꡬ ν”„λ‘œμ νŠΈ κ³΅κ°„μœΌλ‘œ λ§Œλ“€μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:49
into this research project.
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09:51
I wanted to see what I could learn.
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λ‚΄κ°€ 무엇을 배울 수 μžˆλŠ”μ§€ μ•Œκ³  μ‹Άμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:54
And then I learned a lot of things.
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λ§Žμ€ 것을 λ°°μ› μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
09:56
I discovered so many secrets.
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수 λ§Žμ€ 비밀도 λ°œκ²¬ν–ˆκ³ μš”.
09:57
For example, I found if I just don't run,
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예λ₯Ό λ“€μ–΄, μ œκ°€ λ¬ΌλŸ¬μ„œμ§€ μ•ŠλŠ”λ‹€λ©΄
10:00
if I got rejected,
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거절 당해도
10:01
I could actually turn a "no" into a "yes,"
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"μ•„λ‹ˆμ˜€"λ₯Ό "λ„€"둜 λ°”κΏ€ 수 μžˆλ‹€λŠ” κ²λ‹ˆλ‹€.
10:03
and the magic word is, "why."
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비결은 "μ™œ"λΌλŠ” 단어에 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
10:05
So one day I went to a stranger's house, I had this flower in my hand,
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μ–΄λŠλ‚  손에 κ½ƒλ‚˜λ¬΄λ₯Ό λ“€κ³  λ‚―μ„  집에 κ°€μ„œ 문을 λ‘λ“œλ¦¬κ³  λ¬Όμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
10:09
knocked on the door and said,
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"μ €κΈ°μš”. 이 꽃을 댁의 λ’·λœ°μ— 심어도 λ κΉŒμš”? "
10:11
"Hey, can I plant this flower in your backyard?"
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10:13
(Laughter)
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10:14
And he said, "No."
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λŒ€λ‹΅μ€ "μ•„λ‹ˆμ˜€" μ˜€μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
10:17
But before he could leave I said,
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ κ·Έκ°€ λ’€λŒμ•„μ„œκΈ° 전에 λ¬Όμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
10:19
"Hey, can I know why?"
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"그런데 μ™œ μ•ˆλ˜λŠ”μ§€ μ•Œ 수 μžˆμ„κΉŒμš”?"
10:21
And he said, "Well, I have this dog
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κ·ΈλŠ” μ„€λͺ…ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. "λ‚΄κ°€ 개 ν•œ 마리 ν‚€μš°λŠ”λ°
10:24
that would dig up anything I put in the backyard.
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이 κ°œκ°€ λ’·λœ°μ— λ­”κ°€λ₯Ό μ‹¬κΈ°λ§Œ ν•˜λ©΄ λ‹€ νŒŒν—€μ³λ²„λ €μš”.
10:26
I don't want to waste your flower.
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λ‹Ήμ‹ μ˜ κ½ƒλ§Œ λ‚­λΉ„ λ κ±°μš”.
10:28
If you want to do this, go across the street and talk to Connie.
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꽃을 심고 μ‹Άλ‹€λ©΄ κΈΈ κ±΄λ„ˆ μ½”λ‹ˆμ—κ²Œ κ°€λ΄μš”.
10:31
She loves flowers."
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μ½”λ‹ˆλŠ” 꽃을 μ’‹μ•„ν•΄μš”."
10:32
So that's what I did.
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μ•Œλ €μ£ΌλŠ” λŒ€λ‘œ ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
10:34
I went across and knocked on Connie's door.
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길을 κ±΄λ„ˆ μ½”λ‹ˆλ„€ 집 문을 λ‘λ“œλ Έμ£ .
10:36
And she was so happy to see me.
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μ €λ₯Ό 보고 λ„ˆλ¬΄ λ°˜κ°€μ›Œν•˜λ”λΌκ³ μš”.
10:38
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
10:39
And then half an hour later,
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그리고 30λΆ„ ν›„
10:41
there was this flower in Connie's backyard.
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κ½ƒλ‚˜λ¬΄λŠ” μ½”λ‹ˆμ˜ 집 λ’·λœ°μ— μ‹¬κ²¨μ‘ŒμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
10:43
I'm sure it looks better now.
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μ§€κΈˆμ€ 이것보닀 훨씬 더 μ’‹μ•„ 보일 κ²λ‹ˆλ‹€.
10:44
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
10:46
But had I left after the initial rejection,
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λ§Œμ•½μ— μ œκ°€ 처음 κ±°μ ˆμ„ λ‹Ήν–ˆμ„ λ•Œ 떠났더라면
10:49
I would've thought,
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μ˜¨κ°– 좔츑을 λ‹€ ν–ˆμ„κ²λ‹ˆλ‹€.
10:50
well, it's because the guy didn't trust me,
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κ·Έ λ‚¨μžκ°€ λ‚  믿지 λͺ»ν•΄μ„œ 그랬던 κ±°μ•Ό.
10:52
it's because I was crazy,
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λ‚΄κ°€ 미쳀던 거지.
10:53
because I didn't dress up well, I didn't look good.
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μ˜·μ„ μ œλŒ€λ‘œ μž…μ§€ μ•Šκ±°λ‚˜ λ„ˆλ¬΄ λͺ» μƒκ²¨μ„œ 그런 κ±°μ•Ό.
이런 μ΄μœ λ“€ λ•Œλ¬Έμ— κ±°μ ˆν•œκ²Œ μ•„λ‹ˆμ˜€μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
10:56
It was none of those.
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10:57
It was because what I offered did not fit what he wanted.
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μ œκ°€ μ œκ³΅ν•˜λŠ” 것이 κ·Έ μ‚¬λžŒμ—κ²Œ λ§žμ§€ μ•Šμ•˜κΈ° λ•Œλ¬Έμ΄μ—ˆμ£ .
11:00
And he trusted me enough to offer me a referral,
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싀은 그뢄은 μ €μ—κ²Œ μ•žμ§‘μ„ μΆ”μ²œν•΄ 쀄 만큼 절 λ―Ώμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
11:02
using a sales term.
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νŒλ§€μš©μ–΄λ₯Ό μ‚¬μš©ν•˜μžλ©΄ 그런 κ±°μ£ .
11:03
I converted a referral.
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κ±°μ ˆμ„ μΆ”μ²œμœΌλ‘œ λ°”κΎΌ κ²λ‹ˆλ‹€.
11:06
Then one day --
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그리고 μ–΄λŠ 날은
11:07
and I also learned that I can actually say certain things
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μ œκ°€ μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ λ§ν•˜λŠλƒμ— 따라
11:10
and maximize my chance to get a yes.
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긍정적 닡변을 받을 κ°€λŠ₯성을 높일 수 μžˆλ‹€λŠ” 것도 λ°°μ› μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
11:12
So for example, one day I went to a Starbucks,
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예λ₯Ό λ“€μ–΄, ν•˜λ£¨λŠ” μŠ€νƒ€λ²…μŠ€μ— κ°€μ„œ
11:14
and asked the manager, "Hey, can I be a Starbucks greeter?"
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λ§€λ‹ˆμ €μ—κ²Œ λ¬Όμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€. "μŠ€νƒ€λ²…μŠ€ μ ‘λŒ€μ›μ„ 해도 λ κΉŒμš”?"
11:18
He was like, "What's a Starbucks greeter?"
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λ§€λ‹ˆμ €λŠ” "μŠ€νƒ€λ²…μŠ€ μ ‘λŒ€μ›μ΄ λŒ€μ²΄ λ­”κ°€μš”?" λ˜λ¬Όμ—ˆμ£ .
11:20
I said, "Do you know those Walmart greeters?
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"μ›”λ§ˆνŠΈ 같은 곳에 μ†λ‹˜μ—κ²Œ μΈμ‚¬ν•˜λŠ” μ ‘λŒ€μ› μ•„μ‹œμ£ ?
11:23
You know, those people who say 'hi' to you before you walk in the store,
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점포에 λ“€μ–΄κ°€κΈ° 전에 'μ–΄μ„œμ˜€μ„Έμš”'라고 μΈμ‚¬ν•˜λŠ” μ‚¬λžŒλ“€ μžˆμž–μ•„μš”.
11:26
and make sure you don't steal stuff, basically?
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그리고 물건을 ν›”μ§€λŠ”μ§€ 보기도 ν•˜λŠ” μ‚¬λžŒλ“€ λ§μ΄μ—μš”.
11:28
I want to give a Walmart experience to Starbucks customers."
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μŠ€νƒ€λ²…μŠ€ μ†λ‹˜λ“€μ—κ²Œ μ›”λ§ˆνŠΈ κ²½ν—˜μ„ μ£Όκ³  μ‹Άμ–΄μ„œμš”."
11:31
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
11:33
Well, I'm not sure that's a good thing, actually --
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그게 쒋은 κ±΄μ§€λŠ” 잘 λͺ¨λ₯΄κ² μ–΄μš”.
11:37
Actually, I'm pretty sure it's a bad thing.
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사싀 μ•ˆ 쒋은 거라고 μƒκ°ν•΄μš”.
11:40
And he was like, "Oh" --
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λ§€λ‹ˆμ €λŠ” λ¨Έλ­‡κ±°λ ΈμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
11:42
yeah, this is how he looked, his name is Eric --
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μ΄λ ‡κ²Œ 생긴 뢄인데 이름이 μ—λ¦­μ΄μ—μš”.
11:44
and he was like, "I'm not sure."
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"잘 λͺ¨λ₯΄κ² λ„€μš”," 라고 λ§ν–ˆμ£ .
"잘 λͺ¨λ₯΄κ² λ‹€."λŠ” λ°˜μ‘μ„ 보인 κ±°μ£ .
11:46
This is how he was hearing me. "Not sure."
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11:48
Then I ask him, "Is that weird?"
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κ·Έλž˜μ„œ μ œκ°€ λ¬Όμ—ˆμ£ . "μ’€ μ΄μƒν•œκ°€μš”?"
11:49
He's like, "Yeah, it's really weird, man."
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κ·ΈλŠ” "λ„€, 정말 μ΄μƒν•˜λ„€μš”." 라고 λ§ν–ˆμ–΄μš”.
11:52
But as soon as he said that, his whole demeanor changed.
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ κ·Έκ°€ κ·Έ 말을 ν•˜λŠ” μˆœκ°„
11:55
It's as if he's putting all the doubt on the floor.
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λͺ¨λ“  μ˜μ‹¬μ΄ λ‹€ 없어진 κ²ƒμ²˜λŸΌ μŠΉλ½μ„ ν•΄μ€¬μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€,
11:58
And he said, "Yeah, you can do this,
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"해보도둝 ν•˜μ„Έμš”.
12:00
just don't get too weird."
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ λ„ˆλ¬΄ μ΄μƒν•˜κ²Œ ν•˜λ©΄ μ•ˆλ©λ‹ˆλ‹€."
12:01
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
12:03
So for the next hour I was the Starbucks greeter.
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κ·Έ ν›„ λͺ‡ μ‹œκ°„ λ™μ•ˆ μ €λŠ” μŠ€νƒ€λ²…μŠ€ μ ‘λŒ€μ›μ΄μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
12:05
I said "hi" to every customer that walked in,
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λ“€μ–΄μ˜€λŠ” λͺ¨λ“  μ†λ‹˜λ“€μ—κ²Œ 인사λ₯Ό ν•˜κ³ 
12:07
and gave them holiday cheers.
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휴일 인사도 ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
12:10
By the way, I don't know what your career trajectory is,
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μ—¬λŸ¬λΆ„μ˜ 직업 κ³„νšμ΄ μ–΄λ–»κ²Œ λ˜λŠ”μ§€ λͺ¨λ₯΄μ§€λ§Œ
12:12
don't be a greeter.
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μ ‘λŒ€μ›μ€ ν•˜μ§€ λ§ˆμ„Έμš”.
12:14
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
λ„ˆλ¬΄ μ§€λ£¨ν–ˆκ±°λ“ μš”.
12:15
It was really boring.
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12:17
But then I found I could do this because I mentioned, "Is that weird?"
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ "그게 μ’€ μ΄μƒν•œκ°€μš”?"라고 μ œκ°€ λ¬Όμ—ˆκΈ° λ•Œλ¬Έμ— ν•  수 μžˆμ—ˆλ˜ κ²λ‹ˆλ‹€.
12:22
I mentioned the doubt that he was having.
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κ·Έκ°€ λΆˆν™•μ‹€ν•΄ ν•˜λŠ” κ±Έ μ œκ°€ μ–˜κΈ°ν–ˆμ£ .
12:24
And because I mentioned, "Is that weird?", that means I wasn't weird.
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"그게 μ΄μƒν•œκ°€μš”?"λΌλŠ” ν–ˆκΈ° λ•Œλ¬Έμ— μ œκ°€ μ΄μƒν•œ μ‚¬λžŒμ€ μ•„λ‹Œ κ²λ‹ˆλ‹€.
12:27
That means I was actually thinking just like him,
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이것은 κ²°κ΅­ 저도 그와 λ§ˆμ°¬κ°€μ§€λ‘œ 같은 생각을 ν•˜κ³ 
12:30
seeing this as a weird thing.
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이 일을 μ΄μƒν•˜κ²Œ λ³Έ κ±°μ£ .
12:32
And again, and again,
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그리고 κ³„μ†ν•΄μ„œ
12:34
I learned that if I mention some doubt people might have
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μƒλŒ€λ°©μ΄ 가진 μ˜λ¬Έμ μ„ μ œκ°€ 언급을 ν•œ 후에
12:37
before I ask the question,
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μ§ˆλ¬Έμ΄λ‚˜ μš”μ²­μ„ ν•˜λ©΄
12:39
I gained their trust.
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κ·Έ μƒλŒ€λ°©μ˜ μ‹ λ’°λ₯Ό μ–»κ²Œ 됨을 μ•Œκ²Œλ˜μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
12:40
People were more likely to say yes to me.
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μ €μ—κ²Œ κΈμ •μ μœΌλ‘œ λŒ€λ‹΅ν•  κ°€λŠ₯성이 λ†’μ•„μ§€λŠ” κ²λ‹ˆλ‹€.
12:42
And then I learned I could fulfill my life dream ...
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그리고 κΏˆμ„ 이룰 수 μžˆλ‹€λŠ” 것을 κΉ¨λ‹¬μ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
12:46
by asking.
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묻기만 ν•˜λ©΄ λ˜λŠ” κ±°μ˜€μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
12:47
You know, I came from four generations of teachers,
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저희 집은 4λŒ€κ°€ ꡐ윑자 μ§‘μ•ˆμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
12:50
and my grandma has always told me,
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제 ν• λ¨Έλ‹ˆλŠ” 항상 μ €μ—κ²Œ
12:53
"Hey Jia, you can do anything you want,
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"지아. λ„Œ λ„€κ°€ μ›ν•˜λŠ” 것은 뭐든 될 수 μžˆλ‹¨λ‹€.
12:55
but it'd be great if you became a teacher."
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그런데 λ„€κ°€ μ„ μƒλ‹˜μ΄ 되면 λ„ˆλ¬΄ 쒋을 것 κ°™κ΅¬λ‚˜."
12:57
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
12:59
But I wanted to be an entrepreneur, so I didn't.
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ μ „ 사업가가 되고 μ‹Άμ–΄ κ΅μ‚¬λŠ” ν•˜μ§€ μ•Šμ•˜μ£ .
13:01
But it has always been my dream to actually teach something.
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ 무언가λ₯Ό κ°€λ₯΄μΉ˜κ³  싢은 κΏˆμ€ 항상 가지고 μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:05
So I said, "What if I just ask
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"λŒ€ν•™ κ°•μ˜λ₯Ό ν•˜λ„λ‘ λ¬Όμ–΄ 보면 μ–΄λ–¨κΉŒ?" 라고 μƒκ°ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:06
and teach a college class?"
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13:09
I lived in Austin at the time,
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κ·Έ λ‹Ήμ‹œ ν…μ‚¬μŠ€ μ˜€μŠ€ν‹΄μ— μ‚΄κ³  μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:11
so I went to University of Texas at Austin
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κ·Έλž˜μ„œ μ˜€μŠ€ν‹΄μ— μžˆλŠ” ν…μ‚¬μŠ€λŒ€λ₯Ό μ°Ύμ•„ κ°€μ„œ
13:13
and knocked on professors' doors and said, "Can I teach your class?"
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κ΅μˆ˜λ‹˜λ“€μ„ μ°Ύμ•„κ°€ "μ œκ°€ μˆ˜μ—…μ„ κ°€λ₯΄μ³λ΄λ„ λ κΉŒμš”?" λ¬Όμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:16
I didn't get anywhere the first couple of times.
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μ²˜μŒμ— μ•„λ¬΄λŸ° λ°˜μ‘μ΄ μ—†μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:18
But because I didn't run -- I kept doing it --
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ μ œκ°€ λ„λ§μΉ˜μ§€ μ•Šκ³  계속 μ‹œλ„ν–ˆκΈ°μ—
13:21
and on the third try the professor was very impressed.
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μ„Έ 번째쯀 λ˜μ—ˆμ„λ•Œ κ΅μˆ˜λ‹˜μ΄ μ €λ₯Ό μΈμƒκΉŠκ²Œ 보기 μ‹œμž‘ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:24
He was like, "No one has done this before."
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"이런 κ±Έ μ‹œλ„ν•΄ λ³Έ μ‚¬λžŒμ΄ 아무도 μ—†μ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€."
13:26
And I came in prepared with powerpoints and my lesson.
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νŒŒμ›Œν¬μΈνŠΈμ™€ μˆ˜μ—…λ‚΄μš©μ„ λ‹€ μ€€λΉ„ν•΄μ„œ κ°”μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:30
He said, "Wow, I can use this.
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κ΅μˆ˜λ‹˜μ€ "λŒ€λ‹¨ν•΄μš”. λ‚΄ μˆ˜μ—…μ— 써도 λ˜κ² μ–΄μš”.
13:32
Why don't you come back in two months? I'll fit you in my curriculum."
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두 달 후에 λ‹€μ‹œ μ˜€μ„Έμš”. μ»€λ¦¬ν˜λŸΌμ— μ‹œκ°„μ„ λ„£μ–΄ λ“œλ¦΄κ²Œμš”.
13:36
And two months later I was teaching a class.
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그리고 두 달 ν›„ μ €λŠ” μˆ˜μ—…μ„ ν•˜κ³  μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:38
This is me -- you probably can't see, this is a bad picture.
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이게 μ ‘λ‹ˆλ‹€. μ•„λ§ˆ μ œκ°€ 잘 μ•ˆλ³΄μΌ κ±°μ˜ˆμš”. 사진이 잘 μ•ˆλ‚˜μ™”κ±°λ“ μš”.
13:41
You know, sometimes you get rejected by lighting, you know?
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μ•„μ‹œμ£ ? 살닀보면 μ‘°λͺ…μ—κ²Œ κ±°μ ˆλ‹Ήν•  μˆ˜λ„ μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:44
(Laughter)
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(μ›ƒμŒ)
13:46
But wow --
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ
13:47
when I finished teaching that class, I walked out crying,
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μˆ˜μ—…μ„ 마치고 λ‚˜μ˜¬ λ•Œ, μ €λŠ” μšΈλ©΄μ„œ λ‚˜μ™”μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:50
because I thought
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μ™œλƒλ©΄ μ €λŠ”
13:52
I could fulfill my life dream just by simply asking.
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κ·Έμ € μš”μ²­ν•˜λŠ” κ²ƒλ§ŒμœΌλ‘œλ„ 제 κΏˆμ„ 이룰 수 μžˆκ΅¬λ‚˜ μƒκ°ν–ˆμœΌλ‹ˆκΉŒμš”.
13:55
I used to think I have to accomplish all these things --
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μ„±κ³΅ν•˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄μ„œλŠ” λ§Žμ€ 것을 ν•΄μ•Όν•œλ‹€κ³  μƒκ°ν•˜κ³€ ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
13:58
have to be a great entrepreneur, or get a PhD to teach --
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μ„±κ³΅ν•œ 사업가가 λ˜μ–΄μ•Όν•˜κ³ , κ°€λ₯΄μΉ˜κΈ° μœ„ν•΄ 박사 ν•™μœ„λ₯Ό λ°›μ•„μ•Όν•˜κ³ 
14:02
but no, I just asked,
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ν•˜μ§€λ§Œ μ•„λ‹ˆμ—ˆμ–΄μš”. κ·Έμ € λΆ€νƒν–ˆμ„ 뿐인데
14:03
and I could teach.
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κ°€λ₯΄μΉ  수 μžˆμ—ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
14:05
And in that picture, which you can't see,
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그리고 μš°λ¦¬κ°€ λ³Ό 수 μ—†λŠ” 큰 κ·Έλ¦Όμ—λŠ”
14:07
I quoted Martin Luther King, Jr.
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λ§ˆν‹΄ λ£¨ν„°μ˜ 말을 μΈμš©ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
14:11
Why? Because in my research I found that people who really change the world,
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μ™œλƒκ³ μš”? μ œκ°€ μ‘°μ‚¬ν•œ 바에 μ˜ν•˜λ©΄ 세상을 λ³€ν™”μ‹œν‚€λŠ” μ‚¬λžŒλ“€
14:15
who change the way we live and the way we think,
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우리 μ‚Άμ˜ 방식을 λ°”κΎΈκ³  우리의 생각을 λ°”κΎΈλŠ” μ‚¬λžŒλ“€μ€
14:18
are the people who were met with initial and often violent rejections.
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μ΄ˆλ°˜μ— κ²©ν•œ κ±°λΆ€λ₯Ό κ²ͺμ–΄λ³Έ μ‚¬λžŒλ“€μ΄μ—ˆκΈ° λ•Œλ¬Έμž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
14:22
People like Martin Luther King, Jr.,
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λ§ˆν‹΄ 루터 킹이 κ·Έ κ²½μš°μž…λ‹ˆλ‹€.
14:24
like Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela,
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λ§ˆν•˜νŠΈλ§ˆ 간디와 λ„¬μŠ¨ λ§ŒλΈλΌλ„ 있고
14:26
or even Jesus Christ.
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예수 κ·Έλ¦¬μŠ€λ„λ„ ν¬ν•¨λ©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
14:28
These people did not let rejection define them.
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이 μ‚¬λžŒλ“€μ€ κ±°μ ˆμ— μ˜ν•΄ κ·œμ •λ˜μ§€ μ•Šμ•˜μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
14:31
They let their own reaction after rejection define themselves.
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거절 이후에 λ‚˜νƒ€λ‚Έ λ°˜μ‘μ΄ 그듀을 κ·œμ •ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
14:36
And they embraced rejection.
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이듀은 κ±°μ ˆμ„ λ°›μ•„λ“€μ˜€μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
14:39
And we don't have to be those people to learn about rejection,
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κ±°μ ˆμ„ μ•Œμžκ³  이 μ‚¬λžŒλ“€μ΄ 될 ν•„μš”λŠ” μ—†μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
14:42
and in my case,
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μ €μ˜ κ²½μš°μ—λŠ”
14:43
rejection was my curse,
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거절이 μ €μ˜ μ €μ£Όμ΄μž
14:45
was my boogeyman.
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λ‘λ €μ›€μ˜ λŒ€μƒμ΄μ—ˆκ³ 
14:47
It has bothered me my whole life because I was running away from it.
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μ΄κ²ƒμ—μ„œ λ„λ§μΉ˜κ³  μžˆμ—ˆκΈ° λ•Œλ¬Έμ— 제 평생 λ™μ•ˆ μ €λ₯Ό κ΄΄λ‘­ν˜”μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
14:51
Then I started embracing it.
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κ·Έ λ‹€μŒλΆ€ν„° μ €λŠ” κ±°μ ˆμ„ 받아듀이기 μ‹œμž‘ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
14:53
I turned that into the biggest gift in my life.
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κ±°μ ˆμ„ 제 인생 졜고의 μ„ λ¬Όλ‘œ λ³€ν™”μ‹œμΌ°μŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
14:57
I started teaching people how to turn rejections into opportunities.
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μ‚¬λžŒλ“€μ—κ²Œ κ±°μ ˆμ„ 기회둜 λ§Œλ“œλŠ” 법을 μ•Œλ €μ£ΌκΈ° μ‹œμž‘ν–ˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
15:01
I use my blog, I use my talk,
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제 λΈ”λ‘œκ·Έ ν˜Ήμ€ 강연을 톡해
15:03
I use the book I just published,
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ν˜Ήμ€ μ œκ°€ μ“΄ 책을 ν†΅ν•΄μ„œ
15:05
and I'm even building technology to help people overcome their fear of rejection.
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거절의 두렀움을 극볡할 수 μžˆλ„λ‘ λ•λŠ” κΈ°μˆ λ„ λ§Œλ“€κ³  μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
15:12
When you get rejected in life,
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μ‚΄λ©΄μ„œ κ±°μ ˆμ„ λ‹Ήν•˜κ±°λ‚˜
15:13
when you are facing the next obstacle
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μΈμƒμ˜ μž₯μ• λ¬Ό
15:16
or next failure,
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ν˜Ήμ€ μ‹€νŒ¨λ₯Ό κ²ͺμ—ˆμ„ λ•Œ
15:18
consider the possibilities.
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λ‹€μ–‘ν•œ κ°€λŠ₯성듀을 κ³ λ €ν•΄λ³΄μ„Έμš”.
15:20
Don't run.
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λ„λ§μΉ˜μ§€ λ§ˆμ„Έμš”.
15:21
If you just embrace them,
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κ·Έ 어렀움듀을 받아듀이면
15:22
they might become your gifts as well.
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μ—¬λŸ¬λΆ„λ“€μ—κ²Œλ„ μ„ λ¬Όλ‘œ 변화될 수 μžˆμŠ΅λ‹ˆλ‹€.
15:25
Thank you.
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κ°μ‚¬ν•©λ‹ˆλ‹€.
15:26
(Applause)
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(λ°•μˆ˜)
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