What you don't know about marriage | Jenna McCarthy

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์•„๋ž˜ ์˜๋ฌธ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ”ํด๋ฆญํ•˜์‹œ๋ฉด ์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.

๋ฒˆ์—ญ: Ann Yoon ๊ฒ€ํ† : InHyuk Song
00:15
Every year in the United States alone,
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๋ฏธ๊ตญ์—์„œ๋งŒ ๋งค๋…„
00:18
2,077,000 couples make a legal and spiritual decision
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2,077,000 ์ปคํ”Œ๋“ค์ด
๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ์‚ถ์„ ๊ฐ™์ด ํ•˜๊ธฐ๋กœ
ํ•ฉ๋ฒ•์ ์ด๊ณ  ์˜์ ์ธ ๊ฒฐ์‹ฌ์„ ํ•˜๋Š”๋ฐ...
00:25
to spend the rest of their lives together --
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
00:29
(Laughter)
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00:30
And not to have sex with anyone else.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ ˆ๋Œ€, ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๊ณผ๋Š” ์„น์Šค๋ฅผ
ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๊ฒ ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๊ฒฐ์‹ฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:34
Ever.
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00:36
He buys a ring, she buys a dress.
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๊ทธ๋Š” ๋ฐ˜์ง€๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ๊ณ , ๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ๋“œ๋ ˆ์Šค๋ฅผ ์‚ฝ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ์˜จ๊ฐ– ๋‹ค์–‘ํ•œ ๋ฌผ๊ฑด๋“ค์„
00:40
They go shopping for all sorts of things.
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์‚ฌ๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ์‡ผํ•‘์„ ํ•˜๋Ÿฌ ๊ฐ‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:43
She takes him to Arthur Murray for ballroom-dancing lessons.
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๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ๋‚จ์ž๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ๊ต ๋Œ„์Šค ๋ ˆ์Šจ์„
๋ฐ›๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ์•„์„œ ๋จธ๋ฆฌ์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฐ๋ ค๊ฐ‘๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:48
And the big day comes.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ค‘์š”ํ•œ ๋‚ ์ด ์˜ต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
00:50
And they'll stand before God and family
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ์‹ ๊ณผ ๊ฐ€์กฑ๋“ค, ๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ 
00:53
and some guy her dad once did business with,
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๊ทธ๋…€์˜ ์•„๋ฒ„์ง€๋„ ํ•œ ๋•Œ ๊ฑฐ๋ž˜ํ–ˆ๋˜ ํ•œ ๋‚จ์ž ์•ž์—์„œ
00:56
and they'll vow that nothing --
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์–ด๋–ค ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ๋„, ๋น„์ฐธํ•œ ๊ฐ€๋‚œ๋„,
์ƒ๋ช…์„ ์œ„ํ˜‘ํ•˜๋Š” ์งˆ๋ณ‘๋„,
00:59
not abject poverty,
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์ฒ ์ €ํ•œ ๋น„์ฐธํ•จ๋„,
01:01
not life-threatening illness,
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01:03
not complete and utter misery --
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์–ด๋– ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ๋„ ๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ์˜์›ํ•œ
01:06
will ever put the tiniest damper on their eternal love and devotion.
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์‚ฌ๋ž‘๊ณผ ํ—Œ์‹ ์— ์กฐ๊ทธ๋งˆํ•œ ์–ผ๋ฃฉ ํ•˜๋‚˜
๋‚จ๊ธฐ์ง€ ์•Š์„ ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๋งน์„ธํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
(์›ƒ์Œ)
01:12
(Laughter)
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์ € ๋‚™๊ด€์ ์ธ ์ Š์€ ๋†ˆ๋“ค์ด
01:14
These optimistic young bastards promise to honor and cherish each other
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์‚ฌ์ถ˜๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๊ฑฐ์น˜๊ณ , ์ค‘๋…„์˜ ์œ„๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๊ฑฐ์ณ,
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋ˆ„์ ๋œ
01:18
through hot flashes and midlife crises
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50-Ib.(์•ฝ 22kg) ์ฒด์ค‘ ์ฆ๊ฐ€๋ฅผ ๊ฑฐ์ณ,
01:22
and a cumulative 50-pound weight gain,
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๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋จผ ๋‚ ๊นŒ์ง€
01:25
until that far-off day, when one of them is finally able to rest in peace.
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๊ทธ ๋‘˜ ์ค‘ ํ•˜๋‚˜๊ฐ€
๊ณ ์ด ์ž ๋“ค ๋•Œ๊นŒ์ง€
์„œ๋กœ๋ฅผ ์•„๋ผ๊ณ  ์กด๊ฒฝํ•˜๊ธฐ๋กœ ์•ฝ์†ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:32
(Laughter)
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01:33
You know, because they can't hear the snoring anymore.
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์•„์‹œ๋‹ค์‹œํ”ผ, ๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ๋” ์ด์ƒ ์ฝ”๊ณ ๋Š” ์†Œ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ๋“ฃ์ง€ ๋ชปํ•˜๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ด์ง€์š”.
01:36
And then they'll get stupid drunk
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ๋ฐ”๋ณด ๊ฐ™์ด ์ทจํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜ ์„œ๋กœ์˜
01:38
and smash cake in each other's faces and do the Macarena.
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์–ผ๊ตด์— ์ผ€์ดํฌ๋ฅผ ๋•Œ๋ ค ๋ถ€์ˆ˜๊ณ  '๋งˆ์นด๋ ˆ๋‚˜(์งˆ ๋‚ฎ์€ ์˜ค๋ฝ๋ฌผ ์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ)'๋ฅผ ํ•˜๊ณ ,
01:41
And we'll be there,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ทธ ๊ณณ์—์„œ
01:43
showering them with towels and toasters and drinking their free booze
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์ˆ˜๊ฑด๊ณผ ํ† ์Šคํ„ฐ๋“ค์„ ์ฃผ๊ณ ,
๊ณต์งœ ์ˆ ์„ ๋งˆ์‹œ๊ณ ,
01:47
and throwing birdseed at them every single time ...
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๊ทธ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ์ƒˆ ๋ชจ์ด๋ฅผ ๋˜์ ธ์ฃผ๋ฉฐ
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋งค๋ฒˆ--
01:51
even though we know, statistically,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์ด๋ฏธ ์•Œ๊ณ  ์žˆ์ง€๋งŒ,
ํ†ต๊ณ„์ ์œผ๋กœ,
01:55
half of them will be divorced within a decade.
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๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ์ ˆ๋ฐ˜์€ 10๋…„ ๋‚ด์— ์ดํ˜ผํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
01:58
(Laughter)
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
02:01
Of course, the other half won't, right?
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๋ฌผ๋ก , ๋‚˜๋จธ์ง€ ๋ฐ˜์€ ๊ทธ๋ ‡์ง€ ์•Š๊ฒ ์ง€์š”, ๊ทธ์น˜์š”?
๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ๊ธฐ๋…์ผ๋“ค์„ ๊ณ„์† ๊นœ๋นกํ•ด๊ฐ€๋ฉด์„œ
02:04
They'll keep forgetting anniversaries
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์–ด๋””์—์„œ ํœด์ผ์„ ๋ณด๋‚ด์•ผ ํ•˜๋Š”์ง€์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์‹ธ์šฐ๊ณ 
02:07
and arguing about where to spend holidays
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02:09
and debating --
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ํ™”์žฅ์‹ค์šฉ ํ™”์žฅ์ง€๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋–ค ๋ฐฉํ–ฅ์œผ๋กœ
02:10
(Laughter)
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02:11
Which way the toilet paper should come off of the roll.
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๋‚˜์™€์•ผ ํ•˜๋Š”์ง€์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด
ํ† ๋ก ํ•˜๊ฒ ์ง€์š”.
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋“ค ์ค‘ ๋ช‡๋ช‡์€
02:16
And some of them will even still be enjoying each other's company
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๋‘ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ ๋‹ค ๋”ฑ๋”ฑํ•œ ์Œ์‹์„ ์”น์ง€ ๋ชปํ•  ๋•Œ์—๋„
02:21
when neither of them can chew solid food anymore.
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์•„์ง๋„ ์„œ๋กœ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ฆ๊ธธ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์—ฐ๊ตฌ์›๋“ค์€ ์™œ ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ์ง€ ์•Œ๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ดํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:25
And researchers want to know why.
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02:27
I mean, look -- it doesn't take a double-blind, placebo-controlled study
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‹ˆ๊นŒ, ๋ณด์„ธ์š”, ์™œ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ์ด ์ž˜ ๋˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š” ์ง€์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด
์ด์ค‘ ๋ธ”๋ผ์ธ๋“œ ๋˜๊ณ  ์œ„์•ฝ์œผ๋กœ ์กฐ์ ˆ๋œ ์—ฐ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ์—†๋ƒํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์ฃ 
02:31
to figure out what makes a marriage not work:
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02:34
disrespect, boredom,
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๋ฌด๋ก€ํ•จ, ์ง€๋ฃจํ•จ,
ํŽ˜์ด์Šค๋ถ์— ๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๋งŽ์€ ์‹œ๊ฐ„ ๋ณด๋‚ด๊ธฐ,
02:37
too much time on Facebook,
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02:39
having sex with other people.
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๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค ์„น์Šคํ•˜๊ธฐ.
02:41
But you can have the exact opposite of all of those things --
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ๊ทธ ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์˜ ๋ฐ˜๋Œ€๋ฅผ ์–ป์„ ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค--
02:44
respect, excitement,
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์กด์ค‘, ํฅ๋ถ„,
02:47
a broken Internet connection,
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๊นจ์ง„ ์ธํ„ฐ๋„ท ์—ฐ๊ฒฐ,
02:49
mind-numbing monogamy --
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์ •์‹ ์„ ๋ชป ๋Š๋‚„ ์ •๋„์˜ ์ผ๋ถ€์ผ์ฒ˜์ œ--
02:53
and the thing still can go to hell in a handbasket.
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๊ณ ๋„ ๊ฒฝ์ œ ์•…ํ™” ๋“ฑ์œผ๋กœ ์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ ์•…ํ™”๋  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
02:56
So, what's going on when it doesn't?
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๊ทธ๋ ‡์ง€ ์•Š๋‹ค๋ฉด ๋ฌด์Šจ ์ผ์ด ๋ฒŒ์–ด์ง€๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?
๋‚˜๋ž€ํžˆ ์žฅ์ง€(่‘ฌๅœฐ)์—์„œ๊นŒ์ง€ ํ•จ๊ป˜ ๋ฌปํžˆ๋Š”
03:00
What do the folks who make it all the way to side-by-side burial plots
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์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ๋Š” ๋ฌด์Šจ ๊ณตํ†ต์ ์ด
์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ผ๊นŒ์š”?
03:04
have in common?
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๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ์ž˜ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ธ๊ฐ€์š”?
03:06
What are they doing right?
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03:07
What can we learn from them?
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ทธ๋“ค์—๊ฒŒ ๋ฌด์—‡์„ ๋ฐฐ์šธ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ๋‚˜์š”?
03:10
And if you're still happily sleeping solo,
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๋งŒ์•ฝ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ์ง€๊ธˆ ์•„์ง ์†”๋กœ๋กœ์„œ ํ–‰๋ณตํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์ž ์ž๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๋ฉด
03:14
why should you stop what you're doing and make it your life's work
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์™œ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์€ ํ•˜๋˜ ์ผ์„ ๋ฉˆ์ถ”๊ณ 
์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ์ธ์ƒ์˜ ๋‚˜๋จธ์ง€๋ฅผ
03:18
to find that one special person
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์งœ์ฆ๋‚˜๊ฒŒ ํ•  ํŠน๋ณ„ํ•œ ํ•œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„ ์ฐพ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„
03:21
that you can annoy for the rest of your life?
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์ธ์ƒ์˜ ํฐ ๋ชฉํ‘œ๋กœ ๋‘์–ด์•ผ๊ฒ ์Šต๋‹ˆ๊นŒ?
03:24
Well, researchers spend billions of your tax dollars
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๊ธ€์Ž„, ์—ฐ๊ตฌ์›๋“ค์€ ๊ทธ ๋ฌธ์ œ๋ฅผ ํ•ด๊ฒฐํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด
์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ์„ธ๊ธˆ ์ˆ˜์–ต ๋‹ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ฅผ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:28
trying to figure that out.
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03:29
They stalk blissful couples
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๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ํ–‰๋ณตํ•œ ์ปคํ”Œ๋“ค์„ ์Šคํ† ํ‚นํ•˜๊ณ 
03:31
and study their every move and mannerism.
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๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ํ–‰๋™๊ณผ ํ•˜๋‚˜ํ•˜๋‚˜์™€ ๋ฒ„๋ฆ‡ ํ•˜๋‚˜ํ•˜๋‚˜๋ฅผ ์—ฐ๊ตฌํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด
03:35
And they try to pinpoint what it is that sets them apart
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๋ถˆํ–‰ํ•œ ์ด์›ƒ๋“ค๊ณผ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋“ค๊ณผ
03:38
from their miserable neighbors and friends.
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๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์ ์ด ๋ฌด์—‡์ธ์ง€ ์ •ํ™•ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๋ ค๊ณ  ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ด ์„ฑ๊ณต ์ด์•ผ๊ธฐ๋“ค์—๋Š”
03:41
And it turns out, the success stories share a few similarities,
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๋ช‡ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ๊ณตํ†ต์ ์ด ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด
์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ฐํ˜€์กŒ๊ณ , ์‚ฌ์‹ค ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€
๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๊ณผ ์„น์Šค๋ฅผ ํ•˜์ง€ ์•Š๋Š”๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ ์ด์ƒ์˜ ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:47
beyond that they don't have sex with other people.
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์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค๋ฉด, ์ •๋ง ํ–‰๋ณตํ•œ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ ์ƒํ™œ์˜ ๊ฒฝ์šฐ
03:50
For instance, in the happiest marriages,
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๋ถ€์ธ์ด ๋‚จํŽธ๋ณด๋‹ค ๋” ๋‚ ์”ฌํ•˜๊ณ  ์•„๋ฆ„๋‹ต์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
03:53
the wife is thinner and better-looking
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03:55
than the husband.
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(์›ƒ์Œ)
03:56
(Laughter)
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03:57
Obvious. Right?
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๋„ˆ๋ฌด ๋ป”ํ•˜์ง€์š”, ๊ทธ์น˜์š”.
03:59
It's obvious that this leads to marital bliss,
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์—ฌ์ž๋Š” ๋‚ ์”ฌํ•˜๊ณ  ์•„๋ฆ„๋‹ค์›Œ ๋ณด์ด๋Š”๋ฐ์—
์—„์ฒญ๋‚œ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์„ ์Ÿ๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์— ์ด๊ฒƒ์ด
04:02
because women -- we care a great deal about being thin and good-looking,
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๋ถ€๋ถ€์˜ ํ–‰๋ณต์œผ๋กœ ์ด์–ด์ง„๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๋ถ„๋ช…ํ•˜๊ณ ,
04:05
whereas men mostly care about sex,
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๋ฐ˜๋ฉด์— ๋‚จ์ž๋Š” ์ฃผ๋กœ ์„น์Šค์— ๋Œ€ํ•œ ๊ด€์‹ฌ์ด ๋†’๊ณ ...
ํŠนํžˆ ์ž์‹ ๋ณด๋‹ค ๋‚ ์”ฌํ•˜๊ณ  ์•„๋ฆ„๋‹ค์šด
04:09
ideally, with women who are thinner and better looking than they are.
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์—ฌ์„ฑ๊ณผ์˜ ์ด์ƒ์ ์ธ ๊ฒƒ์„ ์ข‹์•„ํ•˜์ง€์š”.
ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ด ์—ฐ๊ตฌ์˜ ์•„๋ฆ„๋‹ค์›€์€ ์•„๋ฌด๋„
04:13
The beauty of this research, though,
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์—ฌ์„ฑ์ด ํ–‰๋ณตํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด์„œ๋Š” ๋‚ ์”ฌํ•ด์•ผ ํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ 
04:15
is that no one is suggesting that women have to be thin to be happy.
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์ œ์‹œํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์ง€ ์•Š๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์ง€์š”;
์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๊ทธ์ € ๋‚จํŽธ๋ณด๋‹ค ๋‚ ์”ฌํ•˜๊ธฐ๋งŒ ํ•˜๋ฉด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:19
We just have to be thinner than our partners.
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04:21
So instead of all that laborious dieting and exercising,
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‹ˆ ์ด ๋ชจ๋“  ํž˜๋“ 
๋‹ค์ด์–ดํŠธ์™€ ์šด๋™ ๋Œ€์‹ ์—,
์–ด์ฉŒ๋ฉด ํŒŒ์ด ๋ช‡ ๊ฐœ๋ฅผ ๊ตฌ์›Œ ๊ฐ€๋ฉฐ, ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ์‚ด์ฐ” ๋•Œ๊นŒ์ง€
04:26
we just need to wait for them to get fat --
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04:28
(Laughter)
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๊ธฐ๋‹ค๋ฆฌ๊ธฐ๋งŒ ํ•˜๋ฉด ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:30
Maybe bake a few pies.
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04:31
This is good information to have, and it's not that complicated.
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์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์•Œ๊ณ  ์žˆ๊ธฐ์— ์ข‹์€ ์ •๋ณด์ด๊ณ ,
๊ทธ๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ๋ณต์žกํ•˜์ง€๋„ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:35
(Laughter)
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04:36
Research also suggests
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๋˜ํ•œ ์—ฐ๊ตฌ๋Š” ๊ฐ€์žฅ ํ–‰๋ณตํ•œ ๋ถ€๋ถ€๋“ค์€
04:38
that the happiest couples are the ones that focus on the positives.
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๊ธ์ •์ ์ธ ๊ฒƒ์— ์ดˆ์ ์„ ๋งž์ถ”๋Š”
์ด๋“ค์ผ ๊ฒƒ์ž„์„ ์ œ์‹œํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, ํ–‰๋ณตํ•œ ๋ถ€์ธ๋“ค์€
04:43
For example: the happy wife.
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๊ฐ€๋ฉด ๊ฐˆ ์ˆ˜๋ก ์ปค์ ธ๊ฐ€๋Š” ๋‚จํŽธ์˜ ๋ฐฐ๋ฅผ ์ง€์ ํ•˜๊ฑฐ๋‚˜
04:45
Instead of pointing out her husband's growing gut
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04:47
or suggesting he go for a run,
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๋‚˜๊ฐ€์„œ ๋‹ฌ๋ฆฌ๋ผ๊ณ  ์ œ์•ˆํ•˜๋Š” ๋Œ€์‹ ์—,
๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ์•„๋งˆ๋„,
04:50
she might say,
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04:51
"Wow, honey, thank you for going out of your way
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"์™€, ์—ฌ๋ณด, ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋น„๊ต์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋‚ ์”ฌํ•ด ๋ณด์ด๊ฒŒ ๋งŒ๋“œ๋Š”๋ฐ
04:54
to make me relatively thinner."
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๋…ธ๋ ฅํ•ด ์ฃผ์–ด์„œ ๊ณ ๋งˆ์›Œ์š”,"๋ผ๊ณ  ํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
04:56
(Laughter)
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04:57
These are couples who can find good in any situation.
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์–ด๋–ค ์ƒํ™ฉ์—์„œ๋“ ์ง€ ๊ธ์ •์„ ๋ฐœ๊ฒฌํ•˜๋Š” ๋ถ€๋ถ€๋“ค์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
"๊ทธ๋ž˜, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ํ™”์žฌ๋กœ ๋ชจ๋“  ๊ฒƒ์„ ์žƒ์—ˆ์„ ๋•Œ
05:01
"Yeah, it was devastating when we lost everything in that fire.
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์ ˆ๋ง์ ์ด๊ณ  ์ถฉ๊ฒฉ์ ์ด์—ˆ์ง€๋งŒ,
๋ณ„๋“ค ์•„๋ž˜์„œ ์ž๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€ ๊ฝค ๋ฉ‹์žˆ๊ณ ,
05:06
But it's kind of nice sleeping out here under the stars.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ๋”ฐ๋œปํ•˜๊ฒŒ ํ•ด ์ค„ ์ฒด์ง€๋ฐฉ์ด ์žˆ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด
05:09
And it's a good thing you've got all that body fat to keep us warm."
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์ •๋ง ๋‹คํ–‰์ธ๊ฑธ."
05:12
(Laughter)
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ์ œ์ผ ์ข‹์•„ํ•˜๋Š” ์—ฐ๊ตฌ๋“ค ์ค‘ ํ•˜๋‚˜์—์„œ๋Š”
05:13
One of my favorite studies found
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05:15
that the more willing a husband is to do housework,
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๋‚จํŽธ์ด ์ง‘์•ˆ์ผ์„ ๋” ๊ธฐ๊บผ์ด ํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์–ดํ•  ๋•Œ, ๋ถ€์ธ์ด
05:18
the more attractive his wife will find him.
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๊ทธ๋ฅผ ๋” ๋งค๋ ฅ์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋ฐ›์•„๋“ค์ผ ๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ํ•˜์˜€์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์™œ๋ƒํ•˜๋ฉด ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์ด๊ฒƒ์„ ์•Œ๋ ค์ค„ ์—ฐ๊ตฌ๋ฅผ ํ•„์š”๋กœ ํ–ˆ๊ฑฐ๋“ ์š”.
05:22
Because we needed a study to tell us this.
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05:24
(Laughter)
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05:25
But here's what's going on here.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์ด๊ฒŒ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฑด์ง€ ๋‚˜์™€ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:27
The more attractive she finds him, the more sex they have;
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๊ทธ๋…€๊ฐ€ ๊ทธ๋ฅผ ๋” ๋งค๋ ฅ์ ์œผ๋กœ ๋ณธ๋‹ค๋ฉด, ๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ๋” ๋งŽ์€ ์„น์Šค๋ฅผ ํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ด๊ณ ;
05:30
the more sex they have, the nicer he is to her;
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์„น์Šค๋ฅผ ๋” ํ•˜๋ฉด, ๊ทธ๊ฐ€ ๊ทธ๋…€์—๊ฒŒ ๋” ์ž˜ ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ค„ ๊ฒƒ์ด๊ณ ;
๊ทธ๊ฐ€ ๊ทธ๋…€์—๊ฒŒ ๋” ์ž˜ ๋Œ€ํ•ด์ฃผ๋ฉด, ๊ทธ๋…€๋Š” ๊ทธ๊ฐ€
05:33
the nicer he is to her,
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05:34
the less she nags him about leaving wet towels on the bed,
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์ –์€ ์ˆ˜๊ฑด๋“ค์„ ์นจ๋Œ€์— ๋†“๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด ์ž”์†Œ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ๋œ ํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ด๊ณ --
05:37
and ultimately, they live happily ever after.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ๊ฒฐ๊ตญ, ์˜์›ํžˆ ํ–‰๋ณตํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์ž˜ ์‚ด ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:40
In other words, men, you might want to pick it up a notch
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์ฆ‰, ๋‚จ์ž๋“ค์€ ์ง‘์•ˆ์—์„œ ์ž์‹ ์˜ ๊ธ‰์„ ์˜ฌ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์‹ถ๋‹ค๋ฉด,
์ด ๋ฐฉ๋ฒ•์„ ์‹œ๋„ํ•ด ๋ณผ ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
05:44
in the domestic department.
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05:46
Here's an interesting one.
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์—ฌ๊ธฐ ์žฌ๋ฏธ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒŒ ์žˆ๋„ค์š”.
05:48
One study found that people who smile in childhood photographs
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์–ด๋–ค ์—ฐ๊ตฌ์—์„œ๋Š”
์–ด๋ฆฐ ์‹œ์ ˆ ์‚ฌ์ง„๋“ค์—์„œ ์›ƒ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด
05:53
are less likely to get a divorce.
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์ดํ˜ผ์„ ๋‹นํ•  ํ™•๋ฅ ์ด ๋” ์ ๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ์‹ค์ œ ์—ฐ๊ตฌ์˜€๊ณ ,
05:56
This is an actual study, and let me clarify:
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋ถ„๋ช…ํžˆ ํ•ด ๋“œ๋ฆฌ์ง€์š”.
05:59
the researchers were not looking at documented self-reports
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์—ฐ๊ตฌ์›๋“ค์€ ์–ด๋ฆฐ ์‹œ์ ˆ ํ–‰๋ณต์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด
๋ฌธ์„œํ™”๋œ ์ž๊ธฐ ํ‰๊ฐ€๋ฅผ ๋ณด๋ ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๋„ ์•„๋‹ˆ์—ˆ๊ณ ,
06:03
of childhood happiness,
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์‹ฌ์ง€์–ด ์˜ค๋ž˜๋œ ์ผ๊ธฐ๋“ค์„ ์—ฐ๊ตฌํ•˜๋ ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๋„ ์•„๋‹ˆ์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:04
or even studying old journals.
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์ž๋ฃŒ๋Š” ์–ด๋ฆฐ ์‹œ์ ˆ ์‚ฌ์ง„๋“ค์—์„œ
06:06
The data were based entirely on whether people looked happy
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์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ํ–‰๋ณตํ•ด ๋ณด์˜€๋Š”์ง€์—๋งŒ
06:10
in these early pictures.
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์ „์ ์œผ๋กœ ๊ธฐ๋ฐ˜์„ ๋‘์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ๋‚˜์ด๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋˜๋Š” ์ง€๋Š”
06:13
Now, I don't know how old all of you are, but when I was a kid,
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์ž˜ ๋ชจ๋ฅด๊ฒ ์ง€๋งŒ, ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋ ธ์„ ๋•Œ,
06:17
your parents took pictures with a special kind of camera
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๋ถ€๋ชจ๋‹˜๋“ค์€ ํŠน๋ณ„ํ•œ ์ข…๋ฅ˜์˜ ์นด๋ฉ”๋ผ๋กœ ์‚ฌ์ง„์„ ์ฐ์–ด์„œ
ํ•„๋ฆ„์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ถˆ๋ฆฌ๋˜ ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์„ ๋“ค๊ณ ,
06:20
that held something called "film."
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ , ์„ธ์ƒ์—, ํ•„๋ฆ„์€ ์ •๋ง ๋น„์ŒŒ๊ณ ์š”.
06:23
And, by God, film was expensive.
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06:26
They didn't take 300 shots of you in that rapid-fire digital video mode
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๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ์†์‚ฌ์˜ ๋””์ง€ํ„ธ ๋น„๋””์˜ค ๋ชจ๋“œ๋กœ
์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ์‚ฌ์ง„๋งŒ 300๋ฒˆ์”ฉ ์ฐ์ง€๋Š” ์•Š์•˜์ง€๋งŒ
06:31
and then pick out the nicest, smiliest one for the Christmas card.
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ํฌ๋ฆฌ์Šค๋งˆ์Šค ์นด๋“œ์— ์“ธ ๋งŒํ•œ ๊ฐ€์žฅ ๋ฉ‹์žˆ๊ณ ,
ํ–‰๋ณตํ•ด ๋ณด์ด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์„ ๊ณจ๋ผ๋‚ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
๋”์ฐํ•˜์ง€์š”
06:36
Oh, no.
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๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์—๊ฒŒ ์˜ท์„ ์ž…ํžˆ๊ณ , ์ค„์„ ์„ธ์›Œ ๋†“๊ณ ,
06:38
They dressed you up, they lined you up,
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์€ ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ๋งํ•˜๋˜ ๋Œ€๋กœ ๋นŒ์–ด๋จน์„ ์นด๋ฉ”๋ผ ์•ž์—์„œ ์›ƒ์—ˆ๊ณ 
06:40
and you smiled for the fucking camera like they told you to
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์•„๋‹ˆ๋ฉด ์ƒ์ผ ํŒŒํ‹ฐ๋‚ ์— ์ž‘๋ณ„ ํ‚ค์Šค๋ฅผ ํ–ˆ์ง€์š”.
06:43
or you could kiss your birthday party goodbye.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์—ฌ์ „ํžˆ, ์ €๋Š” ๊ฐ€์‹์ ์œผ๋กœ ํ–‰๋ณตํ•œ
06:45
But still, I have a huge pile of fake happy childhood pictures
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์–ด๋ฆฐ ์‹œ์ ˆ ์‚ฌ์ง„๋“ค ํ•œ ๋”๋ฏธ๋ฅผ ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š”๋ฐ,
06:48
and I'm glad they make me less likely than some people to get a divorce.
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์ €๋Š” ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์ด ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋‹ค๋ฅธ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค๋ณด๋‹ค ์ดํ˜ผ ๋‹นํ•  ํ™•๋ฅ ์ด
๋‚ฎ๊ฒŒ ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์„ ๊ฐ์‚ฌํžˆ ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
06:53
So, what else can you do to safeguard your marriage?
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‹ˆ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ์„ ๋ณดํ˜ธํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด
๋˜ ๋ฌด์—‡์„ ํ•  ์ˆ˜ ์žˆ์„๊นŒ์š”?
06:57
Do not win an Oscar for best actress.
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์˜ค์Šค์นด ์—ฌ์šฐ ์ฃผ์—ฐ์ƒ์„ ํƒ€์ง€ ๋ง™์‹œ๋‹ค.
(์›ƒ์Œ)
07:01
(Laughter)
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07:02
I'm serious.
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์ „ ์ง„์ง€ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:04
Bettie Davis, Joan Crawford, Halle Berry, Hilary Swank,
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๋ฒ ํ‹ฐ ๋ฐ์ด๋น„์Šค, ์กฐ์•ˆ ํฌ๋กœํฌ๋“œ, ํ• ๋ฆฌ ๋ฒ ๋ฆฌ, ํž๋Ÿฌ๋ฆฌ ์Šค์›ฝํฌ,
์ƒŒ๋“œ๋ผ ๋ถˆ๋Ÿญ, ๋ฆฌ์ฆˆ ์œ„๋”์Šคํ‘ผ,
07:07
Sandra Bullock, Reese Witherspoon --
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์ง‘์œผ๋กœ ๊ทธ ์ƒ์„ ๋“ค๊ณ  ๊ฐ„ ํ›„
07:09
all of them single, soon after taking home that statue.
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๊ทธ๋“ค ๋ชจ๋‘ ๊ณง ์‹ฑ๊ธ€์ด ๋˜์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:12
They actually call it the Oscar curse.
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์‚ฌ์‹ค ๊ทธ๋“ค์€ ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์„ ์˜ค์Šค์นด ์ €์ฃผ๋ผ๊ณ  ๋ถ€๋ฆ…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์€ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ์˜ ์ข…๋ง์— ๋‹ฟ๋Š”,
07:15
It is the marriage kiss of death and something that should be avoided.
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ํ”ผํ•ด์•ผ ํ•  ๋งŒํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์ด์—ˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:19
And it's not just successfully starring in films that's dangerous.
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์˜ํ™”์— ์„ฑ๊ณต์ ์œผ๋กœ ์ถœ์—ฐํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด
์œ„ํ—˜ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์ด ์•„๋‹™๋‹ˆ๋‹ค
๋‹จ์ˆœํžˆ ๋กœ๋ฉ˜ํ‹ฑ ์ฝ”๋ฏธ๋”” ์˜ํ™”๋ฅผ ๋ณด๋Š” ๊ฒƒ๋งŒ์œผ๋กœ๋„ ๋งŒ์กฑ์Šค๋Ÿฌ์šด ๊ด€๊ณ„๊ฐ€
07:24
It turns out, merely watching a romantic comedy
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07:27
causes relationship satisfaction to plummet.
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์ˆ˜์ง ๋‚™ํ•˜ํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋œ๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด ๋ฐํ˜€์กŒ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
(์›ƒ์Œ)
07:31
(Laughter)
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07:32
Apparently, the bitter realization that maybe it could happen to us,
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์ด ์“ฐ๋ผ๋ฆฐ ๊นจ๋‹ฌ์Œ์€ ๋ถ„๋ช…ํžˆ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์—๊ฒŒ๋„
์ผ์–ด๋‚  ์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด์ง€๋งŒ, ๋ถ„๋ช…ํžˆ ์˜ํ™”์—์„œ์˜ ์žฅ๋ฉด์€
07:38
but it obviously hasn't and it probably never will,
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ์—๊ฒŒ ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜์ง€ ์•Š์•˜๊ณ  ์ผ์–ด๋‚˜๊ฒŒ ๋˜์ง€๋„ ์•Š์„ ๊ฒƒ์ธ๋ฐ,
๊ทธ๋Ÿผ์—๋„ ์ด๊ฒƒ์€ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ์˜ ์‚ถ์„ ๊ทธ์— ๋น„๊ตํ•ด์„œ ํ›จ์”ฌ
07:41
makes our lives seem unbearably grim in comparison.
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์Šฌํ”„๊ฒŒ ๋ณด์ด๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ด๋ก ์ ์œผ๋กœ,
07:45
And theoretically,
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07:46
I suppose if we opt for a film where someone gets brutally murdered
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์ €๋Š” ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๊ฐ€ ์–ด๋–ค ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์ด ์ž”์ธํ•˜๊ฒŒ ์‚ด์ธ๋˜๊ณ  ๋ถˆํƒ€๋Š” ์ž๋™์ฐจ ์‚ฌ๊ณ ๋กœ
07:49
or dies in a fiery car crash,
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์ฃฝ๊ฒŒ ๋˜๋Š” ์˜ํ™”๋ฅผ ์„ ํƒํ•˜๊ฒŒ ๋œ๋‹ค๋ฉด,
์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์‹ค์ œ๋กœ ๊ทธ๋Ÿฐ ์ผ์ด ์žˆ์—ˆ๋˜ ๊ฒƒ ๋งˆ๋ƒฅ
07:52
we are more likely to walk out of that theater
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07:54
feeling like we've got it pretty good.
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์˜ํ™”๊ด€์„ ๊ฑธ์–ด ๋‚˜์˜ฌ ๊ฐ€๋Šฅ์„ฑ์ด ๋†’์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
07:56
(Laughter)
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์•Œ์ฝ”์˜ฌ์„ ๋งˆ์‹œ๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์€, ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ์—
07:58
Drinking alcohol, it seems, is bad for your marriage.
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๋‚˜์  ๊ฒƒ ๊ฐ™์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๋„ค.
08:03
Yeah.
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์ œ๊ฐ€ ์ œ๋ชฉ๋งŒ ๋ณด๊ณ  ์ฝ๊ธฐ๋ฅผ ๋ฉˆ์ถ”์—ˆ๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์—
08:05
I can't tell you anymore about that one
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๊ทธ์— ๋Œ€ํ•ด์„œ๋Š” ๋” ์•Œ๋ ค๋“œ๋ฆด ๊ฒƒ์ด ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:07
because I stopped reading it at the headline.
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์—ฌ๊ธฐ ๋ฌด์„œ์šด ๊ฒŒ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค:
08:09
But here's a scary one: divorce is contagious.
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์ดํ˜ผ์€ ์ „์—ผ์„ฑ์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:13
That's right, when you have a close couple friend split up,
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๋งž์•„์š”--์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„๊ณผ ๊ฐ€๊น๊ฒŒ ์ง€๋‚ด๋˜ ์ปคํ”Œ ์นœ๊ตฌ๊ฐ€ ํ—ค์–ด์ง€๋ฉด,
08:16
it increases your chances of getting a divorce by 75 percent.
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ์ดํ˜ผํ•  ํ™•๋ฅ ์ด 75%๋กœ
์ฆ๊ฐ€ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์‚ฌ์‹ค ์ €๋Š” ์ด๊ฒŒ ์ „ํ˜€ ์ดํ•ด๊ฐ€ ๊ฐ€์ง€ ์•Š์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:22
Now, I have to say, I don't get this one at all.
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์ œ ๋‚จํŽธ๊ณผ ์ €๋Š”
08:25
My husband and I have watched quite a few friends divide their assets
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๊ทธ๋“ค์˜ ์ž์‚ฐ์„ ๋‚˜๋ˆ„์–ด ๊ฐ€์ง€๊ณ  ์šฐ๋ฆฌ ๋‚˜์ด ๋•Œ,
์„น์ŠคํŒ…๊ณผ ๋น„์•„๊ทธ๋ผ(๋‚จ์„ฑ ๋ฐœ๊ธฐ๋ถ€์ „ ์น˜๋ฃŒ์ œ),
08:30
and then struggle with being our age and single
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  eHarmony(์›น์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ)์˜ ์‹œ๋Œ€์—
08:34
in an age of sexting and Viagra and eHarmony.
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์‹ฑ๊ธ€์ด ๋˜์–ด ๋ชธ๋ถ€๋ฆผ์น˜๋Š” ์นœ๊ตฌ๋“ค
๋ช‡๋ช‡์„ ๋ณด์•˜๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๊ทธ๋“ค์ด ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋ฐ›์„ ์ผ์ƒ ์ „์ฒด์˜ ์–ด๋–ค ์น˜๋ฃŒ๋“ค๋ณด๋‹ค๋„
08:39
And I'm thinking they've done more for my marriage
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์ œ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ์— ๋” ํฐ ๋„์›€์„ ์ฃผ์—ˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ์ƒ๊ฐํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:42
than a lifetime of therapy ever could.
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์€, ์™œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์€ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ์„
08:45
So now you may be wondering: Why does anyone get married ever?
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ํ•˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ธ์ง€ ๊ถ๊ธˆํ•ด ํ•˜์‹ค์ˆ˜๋„ ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
08:50
Well, the US federal government counts more than a thousand legal benefits
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๋ฏธ๊ตญ ์—ฐ๋ฐฉ ์ •๋ถ€๋Š” ๋‚จ์˜ ๋ฐฐ์šฐ์ž๊ฐ€ ๋˜๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ด
์ฒœ ๊ฐ€์ง€๋„ ๋„˜๋Š” ๋ฒ•์  ํ˜œํƒ๋“ค์„ ์–ป๊ฒŒ ๋˜๋Š”
08:55
to being someone's spouse.
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๊ฒƒ์ด๋ผ๊ณ  ํ•˜๋Š”๋ฐ--๊ทธ ๋ชฉ๋ก์—๋Š”
08:57
A list that includes visitation rights in jail,
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๊ฐ์˜ฅ์—์„œ์˜ ๋ฉดํšŒ๋„ ํฌํ•จ๋˜์–ด ์žˆ๋Š”๋ฐ,
09:00
but hopefully, you'll never need that one.
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๋‹คํ–‰ํžˆ๋„ ๊ทธ๊ฑธ ํ•„์š”๋กœ ํ•˜์ง€๋Š” ์•Š๊ฒ ์ง€์š”.
09:02
But beyond the profound federal perks,
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ํ•˜์ง€๋งŒ ์—„์ฒญ๋‚œ ์—ฐ๋ฐฉ ํŠน๊ถŒ๋“ค ์ด์™ธ์—๋„,
๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•œ ์‚ฌ๋žŒ๋“ค์ด ๋ˆ์„ ๋” ๋งŽ์ด ๋ฒ•๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:07
married people make more money.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์œก์ฒด์ ์œผ๋กœ๋“ 
09:09
We're healthier, physically and emotionally.
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๊ฐ์ •์ ์œผ๋กœ๋“  ๊ฑด๊ฐ•ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:13
We produce happier, more stable and more successful kids.
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์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๋” ํ–‰๋ณตํ•˜๊ณ , ์•ˆ์ •๋˜๊ณ ,
๋” ์„ฑ๊ณต์ ์ธ ์•„์ด๋“ค์„ ๋‚ณ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์•„๋งˆ๋„ ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ํ™œ๊ธฐ์ฐจ๊ณ  ๋ฉ‹์ง„
09:19
We have more sex than our supposedly swinging single friends,
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์‹ฑ๊ธ€ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋“ค๋ณด๋‹ค ๋” ๋งŽ์€ ์„น์Šค๋ฅผ ํ•  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค--
๋ฏฟ๊ธฐ ํž˜๋“ค๊ฒ ์ง€๋งŒ์š”.
09:23
believe it or not.
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ๋งŽ์ด ์ข‹์•„ํ•˜๋Š” ์‚ฌ๋žŒ์„
09:25
We even live longer,
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09:26
which is a pretty compelling argument for marrying someone you like a lot
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๊ฒฐํ˜ผํ•œ๋‹ค๋Š” ์ ์—์„œ๋ถ€ํ„ฐ ๊ฝค ๋งค๋ ฅ์ ์ธ
์ฃผ์žฅ์ธ๋ฐ, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์‹ฌ์ง€์–ด ๋” ์˜ค๋ž˜
์‚ด๊ธฐ๋„ ํ•œ๋‹ค๊ณ  ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:31
in the first place.
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09:32
(Laughter)
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09:33
Now, if you're not currently experiencing the joy of the joint tax return,
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์ง€๊ธˆ ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ๊ณต๋™์„ธ ์‹ ๊ณ ์„œ์˜ ์ฆ๊ฑฐ์›€์„
์ง€๊ธˆ ํ˜„์žฌ ๋ง›๋ณด๊ณ  ๊ณ„์‹œ์ง€ ์•Š๋‹ค๋ฉด,
09:39
I can't tell you how to find a chore-loving person
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์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ์–ด๋–ป๊ฒŒ ๋Œ€๋žต์ ์œผ๋กœ
์ด์ƒ์ ์ธ ํฌ๊ธฐ์™€ ๋งค๋ ฅ์„ ๊ฐ€์ง€๋Š” ๋ฐฐ์šฐ์ž๋ฅผ ์ฐพ์•„์•ผ ํ•˜๋Š”์ง€
09:43
of the approximately ideal size and attractiveness,
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09:45
who prefers horror movies
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๋ˆ„๊ฐ€ ๊ณตํฌ ์˜ํ™”๋ฅผ ์„ ํ˜ธํ•˜๊ณ  ์ดํ˜ผ์˜ ๊ฒฝ๊ณ„์—์„œ ๋งด๋„๋Š” ์นœ๊ตฌ๋“ค์ด
09:46
and doesn't have a lot of friends hovering on the brink of divorce,
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๋งŽ์ด ์—†๋Š”์ง€ ๊ฐ€๋ฅด์ณ ์ค„ ์ˆ˜ ์—†์ง€๋งŒ,
์ œ๊ฐ€ ์–ธ๊ธ‰ํ•œ ๊ฒƒ์ฒ˜๋Ÿผ ๊ทธ ์ด์ต์€
09:50
but I can only encourage you to try,
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09:52
because the benefits, as I've pointed out,
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๋Œ€๋‹จํ•˜๊ธฐ ๋•Œ๋ฌธ์—, ์ €๋Š” ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ์„ ์‹œ๋„ํ•ด
๋ณด์‹œ๋ผ๊ณ  ๊ถŒ์žฅํ•  ์ˆ˜ ๋ฐ–์— ์—†์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
09:55
are significant.
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์ œ ์š”์ ์€, ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ๊ทธ๊ฒƒ์— ์†ํ•ด ์žˆ๋˜, ์•„๋‹ˆ๋ฉด ์ฐพ๊ณ  ์žˆ๋Š” ์ค‘์ด๋˜,
09:57
The bottom line is: whether you're in it or you're searching for it,
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๊ฒฐํ˜ผ์€ ์ถ”๊ตฌํ•˜๊ณ  ๋ณดํ˜ธํ•  ๋งŒํ•œ ๊ฐ€์น˜๊ฐ€ ์žˆ๋Š”
10:00
I believe marriage is an institution worth pursuing and protecting.
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๊ธฐ๊ด€๊ณผ ๊ฐ™๋‹ค๋Š” ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:05
So I hope you'll use the information I've given you today
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๊ทธ๋ž˜์„œ ์ €๋Š” ์ œ๊ฐ€ ์˜ค๋Š˜ ๋“œ๋ฆฐ ์ •๋ณด๋ฅผ ์ด์šฉํ•˜์—ฌ
์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์ด ์ž์‹ ์˜ ์œ„ํ—˜ ์š”์ธ์— ๋ฐ˜๋Œ€๋˜๋Š”
10:08
to weigh your personal strengths against your own risk factors.
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์ž์‹ ์˜ ๊ฐœ์ธ์  ์žฅ์ ์„ ๋”ฐ์ ธ ๋ณด์•˜์œผ๋ฉด ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:11
For instance, in my marriage, I'd say I'm doing OK.
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์˜ˆ๋ฅผ ๋“ค์–ด, ์ œ ๊ฒฐํ˜ผ์—์„œ, ์ €๋Š” ์ œ๊ฐ€
๊ดœ์ฐฎ๊ฒŒ ํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ๋‹ค๊ณ  ๋งํ•˜๊ณ  ์‹ถ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
ํ•œํŽธ์œผ๋กœ, ์ €๋Š”
10:16
One the one hand,
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์„ฑ๊ฐ€์‹ค ์ •๋„๋กœ ๋งˆ๋ฅด๊ณ ๋„ ๋งค์šฐ ์ž˜์ƒ๊ธด
10:18
I have a husband who's annoyingly lean and incredibly handsome.
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๋‚จํŽธ์„ ๋‘๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:22
So I'm obviously going to need fatten him up.
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‹ˆ ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋ถ„๋ช…ํžˆ ๊ทธ๋ฅผ ์‚ด์ฐŒ์›Œ์•ผ ๊ฒ ์ง€์š”.
10:25
And like I said, we have those divorced friends
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์ œ๊ฐ€ ๋งํ–ˆ๋“ฏ์ด, ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ๋ชฐ๋ž˜ ๋˜๋Š” ๋ฌด์˜์‹์ ์œผ๋กœ
์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋ฅผ ๊ฐˆ๋ผ ๋†“์œผ๋ ค๊ณ  ํ•  ์ง€ ๋ชจ๋ฅด๋Š”
10:28
who may secretly or subconsciously be trying to break us up.
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์ดํ˜ผํ•œ ์นœ๊ตฌ๋“ค์„ ๋‘๊ณ  ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:31
So we have to keep an eye on that.
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‹ˆ ๊ทธ๊ฑด ๊ณ„์† ์ฃผ์‹œํ•ด์•ผ ๊ฒ ์ง€์š”.
๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์šฐ๋ฆฌ๋Š” ์นตํ…Œ์ผ ํ•œ ๋‘์ž” ์ •๋„๋Š” ์ข‹์•„ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:35
And we do like a cocktail or two.
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ํ•œํŽธ์œผ๋กœ,
10:38
On the other hand,
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10:39
I have the fake happy picture thing.
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์ €๋Š” ๊ฐ€์งœ๋กœ ํ–‰๋ณตํ•œ ์‚ฌ์ง„์ด ์žˆ์Šต๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:41
And also, my husband does a lot around the house,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ๋˜ํ•œ, ๋‚จํŽธ์€ ์ง‘์•ˆ์—์„œ ์ด๋Ÿฐ ์ €๋Ÿฐ ๊ฒƒ๋“ค์„ ํ•˜๊ณ 
๋‹คํ–‰ํžˆ๋„ ๊ทธ๊ฐ€ ์‚ด์•„์žˆ๋Š” ๋™์•ˆ์—๋Š”
10:45
and would happily never see another romantic comedy
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๋กœ๋ฉ˜ํ‹ฑ ์ฝ”๋ฉ”๋””๋ฅผ ํ•˜๋‚˜ ๋” ๋ณด์ง„ ์•Š์„ ๊ฒ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
10:49
as long as he lives.
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๊ทธ๋Ÿฌ๋‹ˆ ์ €๋Š” ์ด๋ ‡๊ฒŒ ์‚ด๊ณ  ์žˆ์–ด์š”.
10:50
So I've got all those things going for me.
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10:52
But just in case,
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๊ทธ๋ž˜๋„ ํ˜น์‹œ ๋ชจ๋ฅด๋‹ˆ๊นŒ,
10:54
I plan to work extra hard to not win an Oscar anytime soon.
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์ €๋Š” ์˜ค์Šค์นด์ƒ์„ ํƒ€์ง€
์•Š๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด ๋…ธ๋ ฅํ•˜๊ณ  ์žˆ์–ด์š”.
10:59
And for the good of your relationships,
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๊ทธ๋ฆฌ๊ณ  ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„์˜ ๊ด€๊ณ„๋ฅผ ์ž˜ ํ•˜๊ธฐ ์œ„ํ•ด,
11:01
I would encourage you to do the same.
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์ €๋Š” ์—ฌ๋Ÿฌ๋ถ„๋„ ๋˜‘๊ฐ™์ด ํ•ด ์ฃผ์—ˆ์œผ๋ฉด ํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค.
์ˆ ์ง‘์—์„œ ๋ณด๊ธฐ๋กœ ํ•ฉ์‹œ๋‹ค.
11:04
I'll see you at the bar.
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(๋ฐ•์ˆ˜)
11:06
(Laughter)
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11:07
(Applause)
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์ด ์›น์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ ์ •๋ณด

์ด ์‚ฌ์ดํŠธ๋Š” ์˜์–ด ํ•™์Šต์— ์œ ์šฉํ•œ YouTube ๋™์˜์ƒ์„ ์†Œ๊ฐœํ•ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์ „ ์„ธ๊ณ„ ์ตœ๊ณ ์˜ ์„ ์ƒ๋‹˜๋“ค์ด ๊ฐ€๋ฅด์น˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ˆ˜์—…์„ ๋ณด๊ฒŒ ๋  ๊ฒƒ์ž…๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๊ฐ ๋™์˜์ƒ ํŽ˜์ด์ง€์— ํ‘œ์‹œ๋˜๋Š” ์˜์–ด ์ž๋ง‰์„ ๋”๋ธ” ํด๋ฆญํ•˜๋ฉด ๊ทธ๊ณณ์—์„œ ๋™์˜์ƒ์ด ์žฌ์ƒ๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ๋น„๋””์˜ค ์žฌ์ƒ์— ๋งž์ถฐ ์ž๋ง‰์ด ์Šคํฌ๋กค๋ฉ๋‹ˆ๋‹ค. ์˜๊ฒฌ์ด๋‚˜ ์š”์ฒญ์ด ์žˆ๋Š” ๊ฒฝ์šฐ ์ด ๋ฌธ์˜ ์–‘์‹์„ ์‚ฌ์šฉํ•˜์—ฌ ๋ฌธ์˜ํ•˜์‹ญ์‹œ์˜ค.

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