David Brooks: Should you live for your résumé ... or your eulogy?

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So I've been thinking about the difference between

Razmišljao sam o razlici između

the résumé virtues and the eulogy virtues.

vrlina u radnoj biografiji i na opelu.

The résumé virtues are the ones you put on your résumé,

Vrline u radnoj biografiji su one koje navodiš u radnoj biografiji,

which are the skills you bring to the marketplace.

to su veštine koje su bitne na tržištu.

The eulogy virtues are the ones

Hvalospevi su one vrline

that get mentioned in the eulogy,

koje se pominju na opelu

which are deeper: who are you, in your depth,

i one su dublje: ko ste, u suštini,

what is the nature of your relationships,

kakvi su vaši odnosi sa ljudima,

are you bold, loving, dependable, consistency?

da li ste hrabri, nežni, pouzdani i dosledni.

And most of us, including me, would say

Većina nas, uključujući i mene

that the eulogy virtues are the more important of the virtues.

rekli bi da su osobine u govoru na opelu najvažnije osobine.

But at least in my case, are they the ones that

Ali po mom mišljenju, da li su te osobine

I think about the most? And the answer is no.

one o kojima najviše razmišljam? Odgovor je ne.

So I've been thinking about that problem,

Tako da sam razmišljao o tom problemu,

and a thinker who has helped me think about it

i u tome mi je pomogao

is a guy named Joseph Soloveitchik, who was a rabbi

rabin, Džozef Solovečik.

who wrote a book called "The Lonely Man Of Faith" in 1965.

On je napisao knjigu "Usamljeni ljudi vere" 1965.

Soloveitchik said there are two sides of our natures,

Solovečik je rekao da postoje dve strane naše prirode,

which he called Adam I and Adam II.

koje je on nazvao Adam I i Adam II.

Adam I is the worldly, ambitious,

Adam I je svetovan čovek, ambiciozan

external side of our nature.

spoljašnja strana naše prirode.

He wants to build, create, create companies,

Želi da gradi, stvara, da pravi kompanije,

create innovation.

da stvara inovacije.

Adam II is the humble side of our nature.

Adam II je skromna strana naše prirode.

Adam II wants not only to do good but to be good,

Adam II ne želi samo da čini dobro, već i da bude dobar,

to live in a way internally

da duhovno živi

that honors God, creation and our possibilities.

poštuje boga, stvaranje i naše mogućnosti.

Adam I wants to conquer the world.

Adam I želi da osvoji svet.

Adam II wants to hear a calling and obey the world.

Adam II želi da se odazove pozivu i povinuje svetu.

Adam I savors accomplishment.

Adam I uživa u uspehu.

Adam II savors inner consistency and strength.

Adam II uživa u unutrašnjoj doslednosti i snazi.

Adam I asks how things work.

Adam I pita kako stvari funkcionišu,

Adam II asks why we're here.

Adam II se pita zašto smo ovde.

Adam I's motto is "success."

Moto Adama I je "uspeh".

Adam II's motto is "love, redemption and return."

Moto Adama II je "ljubav, iskupljenje i povratak".

And Soloveitchik argued that these two sides

Solevičik je smatrao da ove dve strane

of our nature are at war with each other.

naše prirode ratuju.

We live in perpetual self-confrontation

Živimo u neprestanom samosuprotstavljanju,

between the external success and the internal value.

između spoljašnjeg uspeha i unutrašnjih vrednosti.

And the tricky thing, I'd say, about these

A zanimljivo je, rekao bih, kod ove dve strane

two sides of our nature is they work

naše prirode, što one rade

by different logics.

različitom logikom.

The external logic is an economic logic:

Spoljašnja logika je ekonomska logika:

input leads to output, risk leads to reward.

uloženo dovodi do uspeha, rizik vodi ka profitu.

The internal side of our nature

Unutrašnja strana naše prirode

is a moral logic and often an inverse logic.

je moralna logika i često obrnuta logika.

You have to give to receive.

Moraš da daš da bi primio.

You have to surrender to something outside yourself

Moraš da se predaš nečemu izvan sebe

to gain strength within yourself.

da bi imao snagu u sebi. Treba da savladaš želju

You have to conquer the desire to get what you want.

da bi dobio ono što hoćeš.

In order to fulfill yourself, you have to forget yourself.

Da bi bili ispunjeni, morate da zaboravite na sebe.

In order to find yourself, you have to lose yourself.

Da bi sebe našli, morate da se izgubite.

We happen to live in a society that favors Adam I,

Živimo u društvu gde se više voli Adam I,

and often neglects Adam II.

i često zapostavlja Adam II.

And the problem is, that turns you into a shrewd animal

Problem je, što te pretvaraju u lukavu životinju koja na život

who treats life as a game,

gleda kao na borbu,

and you become a cold, calculating creature

i postanete hladna, proračunata osoba

who slips into a sort of mediocrity

koja postane neka vrsta mediokriteta,

where you realize there's a difference

gde shvatite da ima razlike,

between your desired self and your actual self.

između onoga što želite da budete i onoga što jeste.

You're not earning the sort of eulogy you want,

Ne zaslužujete onakav posmrtni govor kakav želite, za koji se nadate

you hope someone will give to you.

da će neko da ga ispriča.

You don't have the depth of conviction.

Nemate dubinu ubeđenja.

You don't have an emotional sonorousness.

Nemate emotivni tonalitet.

You don't have commitment to tasks

Nemate posvećenost ciljevima

that would take more than a lifetime to commit.

za koje je potrebno više od života da se ostvari.

I was reminded of a common response through history

Podsetio sam se uobičajenog odgovora tokom istorije

of how you build a solid Adam II,

kako izgraditi čvrstog Adama II,

how you build a depth of character.

kako produbiti karakter.

Through history, people have gone back

Tokom istorije, ljudi su se vraćali

into their own pasts,

svojim prošlostima,

sometimes to a precious time in their life,

ponekad posebnim trenucima iz njihovog života,

to their childhood,

njihovim detinjstvima

and often, the mind gravitates in the past

i često um gravitira ka prošlosti,

to a moment of shame,

ka trenutku sramote,

some sin committed, some act of selfishness,

počinjenom grehu, nekom sebičnom činu,

an act of omission, of shallowness,

propustima i površnostima,

the sin of anger, the sin of self-pity,

grehu besa, grehu samosažaljenja,

trying to be a people-pleaser, a lack of courage.

pokušavajući da ugode drugima i nedostatku hrabrosti.

Adam I is built by building on your strengths.

Adama I čini vaša snaga.

Adam II is built by fighting your weaknesses.

Adama II čini vaša borba sa slabostima.

You go into yourself, you find the sin

Pogledajte sebe iznutra, pronaći ćete greh koji ste stalno

which you've committed over and again through your life,

ponavljali tokom svog života,

your signature sin

vaš lični greh

out of which the others emerge,

iz koga se javljaju ostali

and you fight that sin and you wrestle with that sin,

i borite se sa tim grehom i rvite se sa tim grehom,

and out of that wrestling, that suffering,

i iz te borbe, te patnje

then a depth of character is constructed.

izgrađena je dubina vašeg karaktera.

And we're often not taught to recognize

I često nismo naučeni da prepoznajemo

the sin in ourselves,

greh u sebi

in that we're not taught in this culture

pa nismo naučeni u ovoj kulturi

how to wrestle with it,

ni kako da se borimo sa njim, kako da se

how to confront it, and how to combat it.

suprotstavimo i kako da se izborimo sa njim.

We live in a culture with an Adam I mentality

Živimo u svetu gde je Adam I mentalitet

where we're inarticulate about Adam II.

i u kome ne razumemo Adama II.

Finally, Reinhold Niebuhr

Konačno, Rajnhold Nibur

summed up the confrontation, the fully lived

sažeo je tu suprotnost, prisutnost

Adam I and Adam II life, this way:

Adama I i Adama II u životu, sledećim rečima:

"Nothing that is worth doing can be achieved in our lifetime;

"Ništa što je vredno činjenja ne može se postići u jednom životu,

therefore we must be saved by hope.

zato nas nada mora spasiti.

Nothing which is true or beautiful or good makes

Ništa što je istina ili lepo ili dobro

complete sense in any immediate context of history;

nema smisao u bilo kom neposrednom kontekstu istorije,

therefore we must be saved by faith.

zato nas mora spasiti vera.

Nothing we do, however virtuous, can be accomplished alone;

Ništa što činimo, koliko god dobro bilo, ne može biti ostvareno za sebe;

therefore we must be saved by love.

zato nas mora spasiti ljubav.

No virtuous act is quite as virtuous

Nijedno dobro delo nije dobro iz ugla našeg

from the standpoint of our friend or foe as from our own standpoint.

prijatelja ili neprijatelja, kao iz našeg ličnog ugla.

Zato nas mora spasiti konačni oblik ljubavi

Therefore we must be saved by that final form of love,

a to je oproštaj."

which is forgiveness.”

Hvala.

Thanks.

(Applause)

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