David Brooks: Should you live for your résumé ... or your eulogy?

Translator: Samra Cebiric Reviewer: Adisa Ejubovic

So I've been thinking about the difference between

Razmišljao sam o razlikama između

the résumé virtues and the eulogy virtues.

vrlina biografije i vrlina hvalospjeva.

The résumé virtues are the ones you put on your résumé,

Vrlinet biografije su one koje savljamo u našu biografiju,

which are the skills you bring to the marketplace.

a to su vještine koje donosimo na tržište rada.

The eulogy virtues are the ones

Vrline hvalospjeva su one

that get mentioned in the eulogy,

koje su spomenute u hvalospjevu,

which are deeper: who are you, in your depth,

a one su dublje: ko ste vi u dubini,

what is the nature of your relationships,

koja je priroda vaših odnosa,

are you bold, loving, dependable, consistency?

da li ste ćelavi, nježni, pouzdani, dosljedni?

Većina, uključujući i mene, bi rekla

And most of us, including me, would say

that the eulogy virtues are the more important of the virtues.

da su vrline hvalospjeva najvažnije od svih vrlina.

But at least in my case, are they the ones that

Ali barem u mom slučaju,

da li o njima najviše razmišljam? Odgovor je ne.

I think about the most? And the answer is no.

So I've been thinking about that problem,

Razmišljao sam o tom problemu,

and a thinker who has helped me think about it

a mislioc koji mi je pomogao da razmišljam o tome

is a guy named Joseph Soloveitchik, who was a rabbi

je Joseph Soloveitchik, rabin

who wrote a book called "The Lonely Man Of Faith" in 1965.

koji je napisao knjigu "Usamljeni čovjek od vjere" 1965. godine.

Soloveitchik said there are two sides of our natures,

Soloveitchik je rekao da postoje dvije strane naše prirode,

which he called Adam I and Adam II.

koje je on nazvao Adam I i Adam II.

Adam I is the worldly, ambitious,

Adam I je svjetovna, ambiciozna,

external side of our nature.

spoljašna strana naše prirode.

On želi graditi, stvarati, stvarati kompanije,

He wants to build, create, create companies,

create innovation.

stvarati inovacije.

Adam II is the humble side of our nature.

Adam II je ponizna strana naše prirode.

Adam II wants not only to do good but to be good,

Adam II ne samo da želi činiti dobro, već i biti dobar,

to live in a way internally

živjeti na način koji

that honors God, creation and our possibilities.

poštuje Boga, stvaranje, i naše mogućnosti.

Adam I wants to conquer the world.

Adam I želi osvojiti svijet.

Adam II wants to hear a calling and obey the world.

Adam II želi čuti poziv i poštivati svijet.

Adam I savors accomplishment.

Adam I cijeni postignuće.

Adam II savors inner consistency and strength.

Adam II cijeni unutrašnju dosljednost i snagu.

Adam I asks how things work.

Adam I pita kako stvari funkcionišu.

Adam II asks why we're here.

Adam II pita zašto smo ovdje.

Adam I's motto is "success."

"Uspjeh" je moto Adama I.

Adam II's motto is "love, redemption and return."

"Ljubav, iskupljenje, i povratak" je moto Adama II.

Soloveitchik je tvrdio da su ove dvije strane

And Soloveitchik argued that these two sides

of our nature are at war with each other.

naše prirode u suprotnosti jedna s drugom.

We live in perpetual self-confrontation

Mi živimo u vječnom samo-sučeljavanju

between the external success and the internal value.

između vanjskog uspjeha i unutrašnje vrijednosti.

And the tricky thing, I'd say, about these

Mislim da je problem u tome što

two sides of our nature is they work

ove dvije strane funkcionišu

by different logics.

po različitim logikama.

The external logic is an economic logic:

Spoljašnja logika je ekonomična logika:

input leads to output, risk leads to reward.

ulaz vodi ka izlazu, rizik vodi nagradi.

The internal side of our nature

Unutrašnja strana naše prirode

is a moral logic and often an inverse logic.

je moralna logika i često je inverzna logika.

You have to give to receive.

Morate dati da biste dobili nazad.

You have to surrender to something outside yourself

Morate se predati nečemu van sebe

to gain strength within yourself.

da biste ojačali iznutra.

Morate pobijediti želju da dobijete ono što želite.

You have to conquer the desire to get what you want.

In order to fulfill yourself, you have to forget yourself.

Da biste se zadovoljili morate zaboraviti na sebe.

In order to find yourself, you have to lose yourself.

Da biste se pronašli, morate izgubiti sebe.

We happen to live in a society that favors Adam I,

Živimo u društvu koji preferira Adama I,

and often neglects Adam II.

i često zapostavlja Adama II.

And the problem is, that turns you into a shrewd animal

Problem je u tome što vas to pretvara u prepredenu životinju

who treats life as a game,

koja život vidi kao igru,

and you become a cold, calculating creature

i onda postajete hladno, proračunato biće

who slips into a sort of mediocrity

koje upada u mediokritet

where you realize there's a difference

gdje shvatate razliku

between your desired self and your actual self.

između onoga što želite da budete i ono što stvarno jeste.

You're not earning the sort of eulogy you want,

Ne ostvarujete onaj hvalospjev koji biste željeli,

you hope someone will give to you.

kojem se nadate.

You don't have the depth of conviction.

Ne posjedujete dubinu uvjerenja.

You don't have an emotional sonorousness.

Ne posjedujete emocionalnu zvučnost.

You don't have commitment to tasks

Niste posvećeni zadacima

that would take more than a lifetime to commit.

kojima treba čitav život da se ispune.

I was reminded of a common response through history

Podsjetio sam se čestog odgovora kroz historiju

of how you build a solid Adam II,

o tome kako se stvara Adam II,

how you build a depth of character.

kako se gradi dubina karaktera.

Through history, people have gone back

Kroz historiju, ljudi su se vratili

into their own pasts,

u svoje prošlosti,

sometimes to a precious time in their life,

nekada u lijepe trenutke u svojim životima,

to their childhood,

svoja djetinjstva,

and often, the mind gravitates in the past

i često, um naginje ka prošlosti

to a moment of shame,

u momentu stida,

some sin committed, some act of selfishness,

nekog počinjenog grijeha, čina sebičnosti,

an act of omission, of shallowness,

čina propusta, plitkosti,

the sin of anger, the sin of self-pity,

grijeha ljutnje, grijeha samožaljenja,

trying to be a people-pleaser, a lack of courage.

trudeći se ugoditi ljudima, manjak hrabrosti.

Adam I is built by building on your strengths.

Adam I je stvoren gradeći na vašim snagama.

Adam II is built by fighting your weaknesses.

Adam II je stvoren boreći se sa vašim slabostima.

You go into yourself, you find the sin

Kada zavirite u sebe, naći ćete grijeh

koji ste počinili iznova tokom života,

which you've committed over and again through your life,

your signature sin

vaš karakteristični grijeh

out of which the others emerge,

iz kojeg proizilaze drugi,

and you fight that sin and you wrestle with that sin,

pa se borite s tim grijehom i hrvate se s tim grijehom,

and out of that wrestling, that suffering,

i iz tog hrvanja i patnje

then a depth of character is constructed.

stvara se dubina karaktera.

And we're often not taught to recognize

Mi često ne znamo prepoznati

the sin in ourselves,

grijeh u nama,

in that we're not taught in this culture

u ovoj kulturi nismo podučeni

how to wrestle with it,

kako da se hrvemo s njim,

how to confront it, and how to combat it.

kako da mu se suprostavimo.

We live in a culture with an Adam I mentality

Živimo u kulturi sa mentalitetom Adama I

where we're inarticulate about Adam II.

gdje šutimo o Adamu II.

Finally, Reinhold Niebuhr

Na kraju, Reinhold Niebuhr

summed up the confrontation, the fully lived

je sumirao sučeljavanje Adama I kojim se živi

Adam I and Adam II life, this way:

i život Adama II na sljedeći način:

"Nothing that is worth doing can be achieved in our lifetime;

"Ništa što je vrijedno se ne može postići tokom našeg života;

therefore we must be saved by hope.

stoga nada nas mora spasiti.

Nothing which is true or beautiful or good makes

Ništa što je istinito ili lijepo ili dobro nema smisao

complete sense in any immediate context of history;

u bilo kojem neposrednom kontekstu u historiji;

therefore we must be saved by faith.

stoga vjera nas treba spasiti. Ništa od onoga

Nothing we do, however virtuous, can be accomplished alone;

što uradimo, ma koliko moralno, se ne može ostvariti samo;

therefore we must be saved by love.

stoga ljubav nas mora spasiti.

No virtuous act is quite as virtuous

Nijedan moralan čin nije toliko moralan sa stajališta

from the standpoint of our friend or foe as from our own standpoint.

našeg prijatelja ili neprijatelja kao sa našeg vlastitog stajališta.

Therefore we must be saved by that final form of love,

Stoga taj konačni oblik ljubavi nas mora spasiti,

which is forgiveness.”

a to je oprost."

Thanks.

Hvala

(Applause)

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