How to talk (and listen) to transgender people | Jackson Bird

Prevoditelj: Ivana Varga Recezent: Sanda L

Hi, I'm Jack,

Bok svima, ja sam Jack

and I'm transgender.

i ja sam transrodna osoba.

Let me take a guess at some of thoughts

Pokušat ću pogoditi što bi vam moglo

that might be running through your head right now.

prolaziti kroz glavu čim ste to čuli.

"Transgender?

"Transrodna?

Wait, does that mean that they're actually a man or actually a woman?"

Čekaj, znači li to da je zapravo muškarac ili žena?"

"I wonder if he's had the surgery yet ...

"Hmm, pitam se je li već imao operaciju...

Oh, now I'm looking at his crotch.

Ups, sad mu zurim u međunožje.

Look to the right, that's a safe place to look."

Gledaj udesno, sigurnije je.

"Ha! Znao sam! Muškarci ne mogu imati takve bokove!"

"Yes, I knew it! No real man has hips like those."

"My friend's daughter is transgender --

"Kćerka moje prijateljice je transrodna,

I wonder if they know each other."

možda se poznaju."

"Oh my gosh, he is so brave.

"O moj Bože, pa on je tako hrabar.

I would totally support his right to use the men's bathroom.

Potpuno podupirem njegovo pravo da koristi muški WC.

Wait, but how does he use the bathroom?

Čekaj, ali kako on obavlja nuždu?

How does he have sex?"

Kako se seksa?"

OK, OK, let's stop those hypothetical questions

Dobro, prestanimo s ovim hipotetskim pitanjima

prije nego što postanu previše intimna za mene.

before we get too close for my comfort.

I mean, don't get me wrong,

Nemojte me krivo shvatiti.

I did come here today to share my personal experiences being transgender,

Namjera mi je ovdje govoriti o svojim transrodnim iskustvima,

but I did not wake up this morning wanting to tell an entire audience

ali to ne znači da sam se probudio ujutro s namjerom da cijeloj publici

about my sex life.

pričam o svom ljubavnom životu.

Of course, that's the problem with being trans, right?

Naravno, to i jest problem s transrodnim osobama, zar ne?

People are pretty much always wondering how we have sex

Ljude pogotovo uvijek zanima kako se seksamo

and what kind of equipment we're working with below the belt.

i čime raspolažemo u gaćama.

Being trans is awkward.

Biti transrodan je čudno.

And not just because the gender I was assigned at birth

Ne samo zato što rod koji mi je određen pri rođenju

mismatches the one I really am.

ne odgovara onom koji jesam.

Being trans is awkward

Biti transrodan je čudno

because everyone else gets awkward when they're around me.

jer svi ostali postanu čudni kad sam s njima.

People who support me and all other trans people wholeheartedly

Ljudi koji podupiru mene i transrodne osobe općenito,

are often so scared to say to wrong thing,

prečesto su preplašeni da će reći nešto krivo,

so embarrassed to not know what they think they should,

ili ih je sram što ne znaju ono što misle da bi morali,

that they never ask.

da nikad ni ne pitaju.

Part of what was so nerve-racking about coming out as transgender

Ono što toliko kida živce kad se izjasnite kao transrodna osoba

was knowing that people wouldn't know what I meant.

jest kad znate da ljudi neće shvatiti što to podrazumijeva.

And when someone comes out as gay,

Kad se netko izjasni kao gay,

people know what that means,

ljudi znaju što pod tim misli,

but when you come out as trans,

ali kad se netko izjasni transrodnim,

you have to face the misconceptions

suočen je s krivim shvaćanjima

that will color other people's impressions of you

koja će odrediti dojmove drugih ljudi o vama.

even after you've educated them ...

Čak i nakon što ih malo educirate o tome,

And you will have to educate them.

a morat ćete svakako.

When I came out,

Kad sam se izjasnio,

I wrote at 10-page encyclopedic document

napisao sam enciklopedijski dokument od 10 stranica

with a zip-file attachment of music and videos

s datotekom u privitku, punom pjesmama i videa

that I sent to every single person I came out to.

i zatim to poslao svima kojima sam se izjasnio.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

And I kept it in my email signature for months afterwards,

Držao sam to u potpisu svoje e-pošte mjesecima nakon toga,

because you also don't ever stop coming out.

jer izjašnjavanju, zapravo, nema kraja.

I came out to the accountant helping me with my taxes

Izjasnio sam se računovođi koji mi je pomagao s porezima

and the TSA agents who didn't know which one of them should pat me down,

i djelatnicima sigurnosti u zračnoj luci koji nisu znali tko će me pretresti,

the man or the woman.

muškarac ili žena.

I mean, I just came out to everyone watching this.

Eto, sad sam se izjasnio i svima vama ovdje.

When I came out to my dad,

Kad sam se izjasnio ocu,

to my great relief, he was totally cool with me being trans,

odahnuo sam što me prihvatio kao transrodnu osobu,

but as soon as I started talking about physically transitioning,

ali čim sam počeo govoriti o fizičkoj preobrazbi,

he freaked.

uplašio se.

And I quickly realized it was because he, like so many other people,

Ubrzo sam shvatio da je to zbog toga što on, kao i mnogo drugih ljudi,

think that physical transition means just one thing:

misli da fizička preobrazba može značiti samo jednu stvar:

the surgery.

operaciju.

Now, listen,

Dakle,

if there were one magical surgery

kad bi postojao magični zahvat

that could turn me into a tall, muscular,

koji bi me pretvorio u sliku visokog, mišićavog,

societally perfect image of a man overnight,

društveno prihvatljivog, savršenog muškarca preko noći,

I'd sign up in a heartbeat.

smjesta bih pristao na to.

Unfortunately, it isn't that simple.

Nažalost, nije to tako jednostavno.

There are dozens of different gender-affirming surgeries

Postoji niz operacija za promjenu spola,

from chest surgeries to bottom surgeries

od operacija poprsja do promjene spola,

to facial feminization and man-sculpting.

pa sve do konstrukcije ženstvenosti ili muškosti u licu.

Many trans people will only ever undergo one procedure in their lifetime, if that.

Mnoge transrodne osobe podvrgnut će se jednoj operaciji u svom životu, ako i to.

Maybe because they don't personally feel the need

Možda zato što ne osjećaju potrebu,

but also because they're expensive,

a u isto vrijeme su i poprilično skupe.

and health insurance is only beginning to cover them.

Zdravstveno osiguranje ih tek od nedavno počinje pokrivati.

Instead, the first step for a trans person seeking physical transition

Umjesto toga, prvi korak u fizičkoj preobrazbi transrodne osobe

is usually hormone replacement therapy.

obično je hormonska nadomjesna terapija.

Hormones are why I have a deeper voice and some sparse whiskers on my neck

Hormoni su razlog mom dubljem glasu, nekoliko dlačica na vratu

and a giant pimple on my chin.

i prištu na bradi.

Basically, they put you through a second puberty ...

U biti, prolazite kroz drugi pubertet.

it's a blast.

Baš je divno.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

Now, because our transitions are slower and steadier

Budući su naše preobrazbe sporije i postojanije

than historic misconceptions can lead people to believe,

nego na što vas navode povijesno kriva shvaćanja,

there can be some confusion

može doći do zbunjenosti

about when to call someone by their new name and pronouns.

kod obraćanja transrodnim osobama njihovim novim imenom i rodom.

There's no distinct point in physical transition

Ne postoji neka prekretnica u preobrazbi

at which a trans person becomes their true gender.

kada transrodna osoba postane svoj rod.

As soon as they tell you their new name and pronouns,

Čim vam kažu svoje novo ime i rod,

that's when you start using them.

tada ih počnete upotrebljavati.

It can be difficult to make the change.

Znam da je teško priviknuti se.

You might slip up here and there;

Možete tu i tamo pogriješiti,

I've slipped up myself with other trans people.

i meni se desilo s drugim trasrodnim osobama.

But I always think to myself,

Ali uvijek si mislim,

if we can change from calling Puff Daddy to P. Diddy,

ako možemo prijeći od zvanja Puff Daddyja na P. Diddyja

and if we apologize profusely when we've used the wrong gender pronoun

te ako se previše ispričavamo što smo upotrijebili krivi rod

for someone's pet cat --

za nečiju mačku,

I mean, I think we can make the same effort

onda se možemo potruditi isto učiniti

for the real humans in our lives.

i za osobe u našim životima.

Now, there is no topic that makes other people more awkward about trans people

E sad, tema koja kod ljudi izaziva najviše neugode u vezi s transrodnim osobama

than public bathrooms.

su javni WC-i.

Ah, the bathrooms --

Ajme, ti WC-i...

the latest political flash point for LGBT opponents.

najnovija točka erupcije za protivnike LGBT zajednice.

Here's a fun fact about bathrooms:

Jedna zanimljiva činjenica o tim WC-ima:

more US congressmen have been convicted of assaulting someone in a public bathroom

više je kongresnika SAD-a osuđeno za zlostavljanje nekog u javnom WC-u

than trans people have been.

nego transrodnih osoba.

(Laughter)

(Smijeh)

The truth is we trans people are so much more scared of you than you are of us.

Stvarnost je da se mi transrodni više bojimo vas nego vi nas.

It's a huge point of discussion in trans communities

Velika točka rasprave u transrodnim zajednicama

about which bathroom to start using and when,

je upravo koji WC početi koristiti i od kada,

so we don't attract attention that could lead to violence against us.

tako da ne privlačimo pozornost koja bi mogla navući nasilje protiv nas.

I personally started using the men's room

Osobno sam počeo koristiti muški WC

when I started getting confused and frightened looks in the women's room,

kada sam počeo dobivati poglede straha i zbunjenosti od žena u ženskom WC-u.

even though I was petrified to start going into the men's room.

Iako sam bio prestravljen odlaskom u muški WC.

Često se jednostavno odlučimo strpiti i ne ići na WC uopće.

And often we opt to just not go to the bathroom at all.

A 2015 national survey of trans people

Državna anketa iz 2015. među transrodnim osobama

found that eight percent of us had had a urinary tract infection

otkrila je da je 8% nas imalo infekciju urinarnog trakta

in the past year

tijekom godine,

as a result of avoiding restrooms.

zbog izbjegavanja javnih WC-a.

These bathroom bills aren't protecting anyone.

Ovi zakoni o javnim WC-ima ne štite nikog.

All they're doing

Sve što oni čine

is ensuring that when trans people are assaulted in bathrooms,

je da osiguraju da, kad transrodne osobe budu napadnute u WC-ima,

the law will no longer be on our side when we report it.

zakon više ne bude na našoj strani kada prijavimo napad.

Being trans means a daily onslaught of these misconceptions.

Biti transrodna osoba znači svakodnevno suočavanje s navalom krivih shvaćanja.

And I have it pretty easy.

A meni je još i dobro.

I am a white, able-bodied guy

Bijel sam i sposoban momak

sitting nearly at the peak of privilege mountain.

pa sjedim na samom vrhu planine privilegiranih.

For non-binary people,

Za nebinarne osobe,

for trans women,

za transrodne žene,

for trans people of color,

za transrodne ljude drugih rasa,

it is so much harder.

mnogo je teže.

So I've given you a starter pack of trans knowledge

Dakle, dao sam vam osnovni paket znanja o transrodnim osobama,

that I hope will lead to more learning on your own.

za koji se nadam da će vas potaknuti da dalje istražujete sami.

Talk to trans people.

Razgovarajte s transrodnim osobama.

Listen to us.

Slušajte nas.

Amplify our voices.

Pojačajte naše glasove.

Take the heat off of us and educate those around you

Smanjite paljbu protiv nas i educirajte one oko vas,

so we don't have to every time.

tako da to ne moramo mi svaki put.

Maybe someday, when I say,

Možda će jednog dana, kad kažem:

"Hi, I'm Jack, and I'm transgender,"

"Bok, ja sam Jack, i ja sam transrodan",

the only response I'll get is,

jedini odgovor biti:

"Hi, nice to meet you."

"Bok, drago mi je".

Thank you.

Hvala vam na pozornosti.

(Applause)

(Pljesak)