3 lessons on success from an Arab businesswoman | Leila Hoteit

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翻译人员: Chen Zou 校对人员: He Huang
00:12
"Mom, who are these people?"
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“妈妈,这些人是谁?",
00:15
It was an innocent question from my young daughter Alia
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这个天真的问题来自 我年幼的女儿艾莉娅,
大概在她三岁的时候。
00:18
around the time when she was three.
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00:20
We were walking along with my husband
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我们当时跟我的丈夫一起,
00:22
in one of Abu Dhabi's big fancy malls.
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走在阿布扎比的 某个高端商场里,
00:25
Alia was peering at a huge poster standing tall in the middle of the mall.
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艾莉娅当时正在看一张 立在商场中心的大海报。
00:29
It featured the three rulers of the United Arab Emirates.
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海报上是三位 阿联酋的领导人。
00:33
As she tucked in my side,
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由于她站在我身旁,
00:35
I bent down and explained that these were the rulers of the UAE
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我弯下腰向她解释道, 他们是阿联酋的领导人,
00:38
who had worked hard to develop their nation
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是他们的辛勤努力,
国家得以发展昌盛,和平完整。
00:40
and preserve its unity.
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她问道:“妈妈, 为什么在我们住的地方
00:43
She asked, "Mom, why is it that here where we live,
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00:46
and back in Lebanon, where grandma and grandpa live,
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以及外公外婆住的黎巴嫩,
00:49
we never see the pictures of powerful women on the walls?
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墙上从来没有强大的女性的照片啊?
00:52
Is it because women are not important?"
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是因为女性不重要吗?"
这恐怕是我为人父母这么多年, 以及在我16年多职业生涯里,
00:56
This is probably the hardest question I've had to answer in my years as a parent
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00:59
and in my 16-plus years of professional life, for that matter.
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遇到过最难回答的问题了。
01:04
I had grown up in my hometown in Lebanon,
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我在我的家乡黎巴嫩长大
我是家里两个女儿中较小的那一个, 母亲是一位辛勤工作的飞行员,
01:07
the younger of two daughters to a very hard-working pilot
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01:10
and director of operations for the Lebanese Airlines
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同时还担任黎巴嫩 航空公司的运营总监,
01:14
and a super-supportive stay-at-home mom and grandma.
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而她同时也是一位非常 顾家的母亲和祖母。
01:17
My father had encouraged my sister and I to pursue our education
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我的父亲常常鼓励 姐姐和我坚持接受教育,
即便那时我们的 风俗仍然强调
01:22
even though our culture emphasized at the time
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01:25
that it was sons and not daughters who should be professionally motivated.
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只有儿子应该走上职业道路, 而不是女儿。
01:30
I was one of very few girls of my generation
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我是我那一代人里极少数
在18岁的年纪去外国读书的女孩。
01:33
who left home at 18 to study abroad.
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01:36
My father didn't have a son,
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我父亲没有儿子,
01:38
and so I, in a sense, became his.
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所以,从某种意义上来说, 我成为了他的的儿子。
01:42
Fast-forward a couple of decades, and I hope I didn't do too badly
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回溯过去几十年, 作为我父亲望子成龙的对象,
01:46
in making my father proud of his would-be son.
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我希望我没有让父亲失望。
01:50
As I got my Bachelor's and PhD in electrical engineering,
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我拿到了电子工程学 的学士和博士学位,
01:53
did R and D in the UK, then consulting in the Middle East,
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在英国从事过研发工作, 然后在中东做咨询顾问,
01:57
I have always been in male-dominated environments.
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我总是在一个 男性主导的环境里。
02:00
Truth be told, I have never found a role model I could truly identify with.
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坦白地说,我从来没有遇到 一个我所能认同的榜样。
02:06
My mother's generation wasn't into professional leadership.
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在我母亲那一代, 没有女性能身居要职。
02:09
There were some encouraging men along the way,
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一路上也有不少人鼓励我,
但没有人是了解 我所面对的需求和压力,
02:12
but none knew the demands and pressures I was facing,
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特别是当我有了我两个可爱的孩子的后, 压力变得尤为难以承受。
02:16
pressures that got particularly acute when I had my own two beautiful children.
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02:21
And although Western women love to give us poor, oppressed Arab women advice,
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而且尽管西方女性乐于给我们这些 可怜的,被压抑的阿拉伯女性一些忠告,
但她们跟我们过着的 是完全不同的生活,不同的挑战。
02:27
they live different lives with different constraints.
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所以,我那一代的阿拉伯女性 被迫成为自己的楷模。
02:31
So Arab women of my generation have had to become our own role models.
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02:35
We have had to juggle more than Arab men,
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我们不得不比阿拉伯男性更 颠沛流离,
02:37
and we have had to face more cultural rigidity than Western women.
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而且我们比西方女性 面对着更多的文化束缚。
02:41
As a result, I would like to think that we poor, oppressed women
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所以现在,我想起我们 那些可怜,被压抑的女性,
02:45
actually have some useful, certainly hard-earned lessons to share,
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实际上是有一些实用的 深刻的经历来分享,
这些经验也许就会给在如今
02:50
lessons that might turn out useful
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02:52
for anyone wishing to thrive in the modern world.
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现代社会希望出人头地的一些人, 一些实用的帮助。
02:55
Here are three of mine.
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接下来是我的三点经验。
02:56
["Convert their sh*t into your fuel."]
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[“把他们的垃圾变成你的动力燃料”]
02:58
(Laughter)
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(笑声)
02:59
(Applause)
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(掌声)
03:06
There is this word that everybody is touting as the key to success:
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有一个词语被每一个人 都用来售卖作为成功的关键:
03:10
resilience.
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坚韧。
03:12
Well, what exactly is resilience, and how do you develop it?
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那么,到底什么是坚韧, 你又如何培养这个能力呢?
03:16
I believe resilience is simply the ability to transform shit into fuel.
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我相信坚韧是一种 将失意转化成动力的能力。
03:23
In my previous job, well before my current firm,
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在我之前的工作 那是现在的很久之前,
03:26
I was working with a man we will call John.
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我和一个叫作约翰 的男人一同工作。
03:29
I had teamed up with John and was working hard,
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我和约翰是一个小组, 我工作极其努力,
03:31
hoping he would notice how great I was
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期望约翰能注意到我很优秀,
03:33
and that he would come to support my case to make partner at the firm.
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寄希望于他的认可能够 让我在日后工作中更加顺利。
我除了完成我份内的 顾问项目之外,
03:38
I was, in addition to delivering on my consulting projects,
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还充满热情地写 关于女性经济赋权的课题。
03:41
writing passionately on the topic of women economic empowerment.
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03:45
One day, I got to present my research to a roomful of MBA students.
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一天,我要给一房间的工商管理研究生 对于我的研究作报告,
03:50
John was part of the audience
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约翰也坐在下面听,
03:52
listening for the first time to the details of my study.
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这是他第一次了解 我研究的细节。
就在我报告演讲进行中时,
03:56
As I proceeded with my presentation,
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03:58
I could see John in the corner of my eye.
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我可以用余光看到约翰,
他的脸涨成了深红色,
04:01
He had turned a dark shade of pink
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04:03
and had slid under his chair in apparent shame.
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而且尴尬地从椅子上渐渐滑下。
04:07
I finished my presentation to an applauding audience
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我报告演讲结束后, 观众给予了我掌声,
04:10
and we rushed out and jumped into the car.
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我们迅速离开后钻进车里,
04:13
There he exploded.
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在那里,他爆发了,
04:16
"What you did up there was unacceptable!
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“你刚才在那里所做的,是不可以接受的!
04:18
You are a consultant, not an activist!"
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你仅是一名顾问,不是一个激进行动者!”
04:21
I said, "John, I don't understand.
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我说,“约翰,我不明白,
04:24
I presented a couple of gender parity indices,
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我只是陈述了一些 关于性别平等的指数,
04:27
and some conclusions about the Arab world.
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总结了一下当今 阿拉伯世界面临的事实。
04:29
Yes, we do happen to be today at the bottom of the index,
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是的,我们今天 的确处在指数的底层,
04:32
but what is it that I said or presented that was not factual?"
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但是,我所说的或者是我所 呈现的有任何不符合事实吗?”
他回答说, “你整个研究的前提就是错误的,
04:37
To which he replied, "The whole premise of your study is wrong.
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04:41
What you are doing is dangerous and will break the social fabric of our society."
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你想做的是极其危险的, 将破坏我们社会的结构。”
04:45
He paused, then added,
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他顿了一下,继续说,
“当女人有了孩子, 她们归属就是家庭。”
04:48
"When women have children, their place is in the home."
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04:53
Time stood still for a long while,
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时间在我们之间 凝固了很长一段时间,
04:55
and all I could think and repeat in the chaos of my brain was:
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在我一时混乱的脑海中, 我唯一清楚并反复的是,
04:59
"You can forget about that partnership, Leila.
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“我们之间的合作关系 到此为止了,力里亚,
05:01
It's just never going to happen."
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以后再也不可能继续了。"
05:04
It took me a couple of days to fully absorb this incident and its implications,
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我花费了好几天的时间来完全 吸收这件事以及它给我带来的影响,
05:08
but once I did, I reached three conclusions.
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当我彻底想通此事时, 我有了三个结论。
05:12
One, that these were his issues,
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第一,这些是他的问题,
05:14
his complexes.
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应是令他棘手问题,
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There may be many like him in our society,
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社会上也许会有 很多像他一样的人。
05:18
but I would never let their issues become mine.
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但是我绝不会让 他们的问题变成我的。
05:21
Two, that I needed another sponsor, and fast.
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第二,我需要另找合作方了, 而且要快,
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(Laughter)
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(笑声)
05:25
I got one, by the way, and boy, was he great.
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顺便一提,之后我很快有了一个 合作者,一个年轻人,他很棒。
05:27
And three, that I would get to show John what women with children can do.
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第三点,我要展现给约翰看 为人父母的女性所能成就的。
05:32
I apply this lesson equally well to my personal life.
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我将这次教训也运用 在了我的个人生活中。
05:35
As I have progressed in my career,
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随着我事业继续发展,
05:37
I have received many words of encouragement,
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我收到了很多鼓励的话语,
但是我也常常遇到 很明显对于我和我老公
05:40
but I have also often been met by women, men and couples
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05:44
who have clearly had an issue with my husband and I
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双事业家庭这样的的选择
05:47
having chosen the path of a dual-career couple.
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存在异议的男女以及夫妇。
05:50
So you get this well-meaning couple
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所以,你会遇到善意的夫妇
05:52
who tells you straight out at a family gathering
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在家庭聚会或是朋友聚会上,
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or at a friends gathering,
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直接告诉你,
05:56
that, come on, you must know you're not a great mom,
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“你肯定知道你不是一个 很称职的母亲对吧?
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given how much you're investing in your career, right?
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因为你对于事业 投入了太多”
06:02
I would lie if I said these words didn't hurt.
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如果我说这些言论对我 没有伤害,那是不可能的。
06:05
My children are the most precious thing to me,
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对我来说,我的孩子 是我最宝贵的东西,
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and the thought that I could be failing them in any way is intolerable.
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想想我若对不起我的孩子, 对我来说都是无法忍受的。
06:12
But just like I did with John,
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但就像我对待约翰一样,
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I quickly reminded myself that these were their issues,
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我很快提醒我自己, 这些是他们的问题,
06:17
their complexes.
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他们棘手的事情。
06:19
So instead of replying,
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所以我没有做回复,
06:20
I gave back one of my largest smiles
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只以一个大大的微笑作为回应。
因为我在脑海中看到
06:23
as I saw, in flashing light,
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如图的一个闪光。
06:25
the following sign in my mind's eye.
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[快乐,使人力量无穷]
06:27
[Be happy, it drives people crazy.]
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06:29
(Applause)
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(掌声)
06:34
You see, as a young woman in these situations, you have two options.
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你看,作为一个年轻女性 在这些情况下,你有两个选择。
你要么选择吸收这些
06:38
You can either decide to internalize these negative messages
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扔向你的负面信息
06:41
that are being thrown at you,
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06:42
to let them make you feel like a failure,
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让它们使你觉得 你是一个失败者,
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like success is way too hard to ever achieve,
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就好像成功 对你而言遥不可及,
06:47
or you can choose to see that others' negativity is their own issue,
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或者你可以选择认为别人 消极的东西是他们自己的问题,
06:50
and instead transform it into your own personal fuel.
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然后将它们转换成 你自己的动力。
06:54
I have learned to always go for option two,
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我总是选择后者,
而且我发现它一次又一次的 让我获得力量。
06:58
and I have found that it has taken me from strength to strength.
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07:01
And it's true what they say:
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有一句话说的是真的:
07:03
success is the best revenge.
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成功是最好的报复。
07:06
Some women in the Middle East
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一些在中东的女性
07:08
are lucky enough to be married to someone supportive of their career.
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足够幸运地和 支持她们事业的人结了婚。
07:11
Correction: I should say "smart enough,"
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不对,我应该说:“足够聪明地”,
07:14
because who you marry is your own choice,
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因为和谁结婚 是你自己的选择,
07:16
and you'd better marry someone supportive if you plan to have a long career.
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如果你计划一个长期的事业, 你最好和一个支持你的人结婚。
[“解决生活中的问题, 去适时将工作从生活中拿掉”]
07:21
Still today, the Arab man is not an equal contributor in the home.
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直到如今,阿拉伯男人 在家庭里仍不是一个平等贡献者
07:25
It's simply not expected by our society,
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家庭的两性平等是 不被我们社会所期待的,
07:27
and even frowned upon as not very manly.
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否则男性甚至会 被嘲笑不是很男人。
07:31
As for the Arab woman, our society still assumes
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对于一个阿拉伯女人 我们的社会仍然认为
她快乐的主要来源 应该建立在孩子和丈夫
07:34
that her primary source of happiness should be the happiness and prosperity
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的快乐和发展上。
07:37
of her children and husband.
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07:39
She mostly exists for her family.
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她的存在主要就是为了家庭。
07:43
Things are changing, but it will take time.
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事情在有所改变, 但是这需要一些时间。
07:45
For now, it means that the professional Arab woman
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所以现在,这意味着 一个阿拉伯职业女性
07:48
has to somehow maintain the perfect home,
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莫名地就需要, 维持一个完美的家庭,
07:51
make sure that her children's every need is being taken care of
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确保她孩子的每个需要 都能得到满足的同时,
07:54
and manage her demanding career.
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还要经营她繁忙的事业。
07:57
To achieve this, I have found the hard way
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为了实现这个, 我发现了一个有力的方法,
你必须将你辛苦学到的职业技能, 运用到你的个人生活中去。
08:01
that you need to apply your hard-earned professional skills to your personal life.
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08:05
You need to work your life.
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你需要去解决生活中的问题。
这是我在我个人生活中所做的。
08:08
Here is how I do this in my personal life.
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08:12
One thing to know about the Middle East
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关于中东必须知道的一件事,
08:14
is that nearly every family has access to affordable domestic help.
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是几乎每个家庭都会有一个 承担得起的家庭保姆。
08:19
The challenge therefore becomes how to recruit effectively.
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因此,挑战变成了: 如何有效地雇佣?
08:23
Just like I would in my business life, I have based the selection
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就像我在我的事业生活中所做的, 我在一个可靠的推荐中,
选择了一名, 在我工作时间
08:26
of who would support me with my children while I'm at work
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08:29
on a strong referral.
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能够帮忙照顾我孩子的人选。
08:31
Cristina had worked for four years with my sister
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克里斯蒂娜为我的妹妹 工作了四年。
她的工作能力 是很高的。
08:34
and the quality of her work was well-established.
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08:37
She is now an integral member of our family,
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她现在融入到我们 家庭成员中的一员,
自从艾莉娅6个月大的时候 就和我们在一起,
08:40
having been with us since Alia was six months old.
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08:43
She makes sure that the house is running smoothly while I'm at work,
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她确保我在工作的时候 家里一切事务井井有条,
08:46
and I make sure to empower her
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我确保给予她一定的自由度
在对她和我孩子 合适的范围内,
08:49
in the most optimal conditions for her and my children,
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08:52
just like I would my best talent at work.
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就像我对待在工作中 最好的员工一样。
08:55
This lesson applies whatever your childcare situation,
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这个经验可以运用到你任何一个 照顾孩子的情况里,
08:59
whether an au pair, nursery,
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无论是一个互惠生,一个护士,
09:01
part-time nanny that you share with someone else.
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还是你和人共用的 兼职保姆。
09:03
Choose very carefully, and empower.
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都需要谨慎地选择, 然后授权给她们。
如果你看我的日程安排,
09:08
If you look at my calendar,
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09:09
you will see every working day
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你将会看到每个工作日
09:11
one and a half hours from 7pm to 8:30pm UAE time
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从阿联酋时间晚上7点 到8点半的那一个半小时
09:15
blocked and called "family time."
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被留出来,称作“家庭时间”。
09:17
This is sacred time.
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这是宝贵的的时间。
09:19
I have done this ever since Alia was a baby.
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自从艾莉娅还是婴儿时, 我就坚持做这个。
我会尽一切努力 去保护留有这段时间。
09:23
I do everything in my power to protect this time
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09:25
so that I can be home by then to spend quality time with my children,
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那么我可以在这段时间里 回到家里陪孩子们充实地度过,
09:28
asking them about their day,
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询问她们他们的一天过得怎么样,
09:31
checking up on homework, reading them a bedtime story
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检查他们的功课, 给他们阅读床上故事,
09:34
and giving them lots of kisses and cuddles.
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然后给他们很多 亲吻和拥抱。
09:36
If I'm traveling, in whatever the time zone,
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如果我在出差, 不论在哪个时区,
09:39
I use Skype to connect with my children even if I am miles away.
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我都会用Skype和我的孩子通话, 即使我在千里之外。
09:44
Our son Burhan is five years old,
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我们的儿子布尔汗今年五岁,
09:46
and he's learning to read and do basic maths.
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他正在学习阅读和 做一些基本的算数,
09:49
Here's another confession:
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我在这里要坦白一下:
09:51
I have found that our daughter is actually more successful
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我发现我们的女儿在 教授他这些技能上
09:54
at teaching him these skills than I am.
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比我更成功。
(观众笑声)
09:56
(Laughter)
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09:58
It started as a game, but Alia loves playing teacher to her little brother,
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开始是一个游戏,但是艾丽娅爱上了 给她的小弟弟扮演老师,
10:02
and I have found that these sessions actually improve Burhan's literacy,
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我发现在这过程中实际上 提高了布尔汗的读写能力,
增加了艾丽娅的责任感,
10:08
increase Alia's sense of responsibility,
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10:10
and strengthen the bonding between them,
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而且加强了他们之间的纽带,
10:12
a win-win all around.
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一个双赢的局面。
10:15
The successful Arab women I know
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我知道的成功的阿拉伯女性,
10:17
have each found their unique approach to working their life
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每个人都发现了她们独特的方式 去经营她们的生活,
10:20
as they continue to shoulder
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随着她们继续
去分享家庭的责任。
10:22
the lion's share of responsibility in the home.
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但这不仅仅是关于 生存在你的双重角色中,
10:25
But this is not just about surviving in your dual role
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10:27
as a career woman and mother.
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作为一个职业女性和母亲。
10:29
This is also about being in the present.
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这也是关于如何活在当下。
当我和孩子相处的时候,
10:33
When I am with my children,
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10:34
I try to leave work out of our lives.
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我试着将工作从生活中拿掉。
10:37
Instead of worrying about how many minutes I can spend with them every day,
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不去担心我每天能 和他们在一起多少分钟,
10:41
I focus on turning these minutes into memorable moments,
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我将这些时间专注在 值得记忆的瞬间上,
在那些瞬间里 我看见了我的孩子,
10:45
moments where I'm seeing my kids,
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10:47
hearing them, connecting with them.
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听见他们,和他们产生连接。
10:49
["Join forces, don't compete."]
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[“凝聚力量,不要竞争”]
我那一代的阿拉伯女人 在她们长大的过程中,
10:51
Arab women of my generation have not been very visible
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没有在公众眼里受重视。
10:53
in the public eye as they grew up.
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10:55
This explains, I think, to some extent,
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这在某种程度上,我认为,解释了
10:57
why you find so few women in politics in the Arab world.
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为什么你发现在阿拉伯 政界里的女人很少。
然而,这个现象积极的一面
11:01
The upside of this, however,
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11:02
is that we have spent a lot of time
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是我们花费了很多时间
11:04
developing a social skill behind the scenes,
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默默地培养出社交能力,
在咖啡厅里,在客厅里,
11:09
in coffee shops, in living rooms,
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11:10
on the phone,
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在电话里,
11:12
a social skill that is very important to success:
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一个对成功很重要的 社交技能就是:
11:14
networking.
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人脉。
11:16
I would say the average Arab woman
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我会说,一般的阿拉伯女性
有一个很大的由朋友和 熟人组成的人脉网络,
11:18
has a large network of friends and acquaintances.
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11:20
The majority of those are also women.
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他们中的大部分也是女性。
11:24
In the West, it seems like ambitious women often compare themselves to other women
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在西方,似乎雄心勃勃的女性 常常拿她们自己和其她女人比较,
11:28
hoping to be noticed as the most successful woman in the room.
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希望作为房间里最 成功的女性而被注意到。
这就形成了“职业女性”
11:32
This leads to the much-spoken-about competitive behavior
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都是争强好胜的印象。
11:35
between professional women.
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11:37
If there's only room for one woman at the top,
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假如一山不容二虎,
11:39
then you can't make room for others, much less lift them up.
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没人会让出她们的地盘, 更不会提拔她们的下属。
11:43
Arab women, generally speaking,
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阿拉伯女人,很大程度上说,
没有陷入这样的 心理陷阱中。
11:45
have not fallen for this psychological trap.
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面对着一个由男性主导的社会,
11:48
Faced with a patriarchal society,
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11:50
they have found that by helping each other out,
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她们发现通过帮助对方,
11:52
all benefit.
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大家都受益。
在我之前的工作中, 我是最资深的中东女性,
11:55
In my previous job, I was the most senior woman in the Middle East,
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11:58
so one could think that investing in my network of female colleagues
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所以人们会想,在我的 女性社交网络里投入
不会带来太大益处。
12:02
couldn't bring many benefits
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12:03
and that I should instead invest my time
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所以应该投入时间在
发展我和年长有资历的男性 以及同龄男性的关系上。
12:06
developing my relationships with male seniors and peers.
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12:09
Yet two of my biggest breaks came through the support of other women.
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至此,我事业上两个最大的突破来自于 其她女性的支持上。
一位是营销部的领导, 最先提议
12:14
It was the head of marketing who initially suggested
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12:16
I be considered as a young global leader to the World Economic Forum.
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我应该作为一个年轻的全球领导者 去参加全球经济会谈。
她对我的媒体参与和 发表很熟悉,
12:20
She was familiar with my media engagements and my publications,
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然后当她被要求 推荐人选的时候,
12:23
and when she was asked to voice her opinion,
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她强调了我的名字。
12:25
she highlighted my name.
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12:27
It was a young consultant, a Saudi lady and friend,
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另一位是年轻的咨询顾问家 一位来自沙特的女性朋友,
12:29
who helped me sell my first project in Saudi Arabia,
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她帮助了我销售 在沙特阿拉伯的第一个项目,
12:32
a market I was finding hard to gain traction in as a woman.
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一个我发现女人 很难打入的市场。
12:36
She introduced me to a client,
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她介绍我给一位客户,
12:38
and that introduction led to the first of very many projects for me in Saudi.
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然后那次的介绍成为了之后我 在沙特很多项目的开端。
12:42
Today, I have two senior women on my team,
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现在我的团队里有 两位资深的女性雇员,
我看到,使她们成功 也是我成功的关键。
12:45
and I see making them successful as key to my own success.
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12:50
Women continue to advance in the world,
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女性会继续开拓世界,
12:52
not fast enough, but we're moving.
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不够快速,但是我们在前进,
12:54
The Arab world, too, is making progress, despite many recent setbacks.
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阿拉伯世界也是在取得进展, 尽管最近遇到不少障碍。
12:58
Just this year, the UAE appointed five new female ministers to its cabinet,
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就在今年,阿联酋新指派了 五位女性内阁部长。
13:03
for a total of eight female ministers.
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现在总共有八位女性内阁部长。
13:06
That's nearly 28 percent of the cabinet,
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那是将近28%的内阁成员的数量,
而且比很多发达国家 声称的数量多。
13:09
and more than many developed countries can claim.
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13:11
This is today my daughter Alia's favorite picture.
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这如今是我女儿艾丽娅 最喜欢的一张图片。
13:15
This is the result, no doubt, of great leadership,
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这毫无疑问是 强大领导力的结果,
13:17
but it is also the result of strong Arab women
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但这也是一个个 不屈不挠的阿拉伯女性
13:20
not giving up and continuously pushing the boundaries.
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不放弃地坚持 开拓挑战边界的结果。
13:23
It is the result of Arab women deciding every day like me
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这是像我一样的 阿拉伯女性决定每天
13:27
to convert shit into fuel,
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去将消极转化为动力,
13:29
to work their life to keep work out of their life,
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去解决生活中的问题, 去适时将工作从生活中拿掉,
去凝聚力量,而不是去攀比竞争。
13:32
and to join forces and not compete.
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13:34
As I look to the future,
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随着我向未来展望,
13:36
my hopes for my daughter when she stands on this stage
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我对我女儿的希望是 二三十年后,
13:38
some 20, 30 years from now
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她若站上这个舞台,
13:40
are that she be as proud to call herself her mother's daughter
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她作为她父亲的女儿, 也会很自豪地自称为,
13:43
as her father's daughter.
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她母亲的女儿。
我对我儿子的希望
13:46
My hopes for my son
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13:47
are that by then, the expression "her mother's son" or "mama's boy"
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是到了那个时候,“她母亲的儿子” 或者“妈妈的男孩”
会有一个完全不一样的意义。
13:51
would have taken on a completely different meaning.
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感谢大家。
13:54
Thank you.
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13:55
(Applause)
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(掌声)
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